REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Why Millennials Are Failing, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO209

Episode Date: January 26, 2018

What's wrong with Millennials? I have built a strong, multi-million dollar brand, working almost exclusively with Millennials. Millennials are doing some badass sh*t. That said, they do have one downfall. They have an issue with patience. In this episode, I talk about how they - and you - can overcome that issue by developing "aggressive patience," while is a key to dominating everything in life.

What is up guys you're listening to the MFCEO project I'm Andy I'm your host and I am the motherfucking CEO guys I decided to throw a little something extra at you this week because I see something that needs to be addressed all right you. You got a Tuesday, you got a Thursday. Now you're getting a Friday. Send me a cookie. Don't really actually, cause I'm on a diet, but I just got back from Gary V's agent 2021 yesterday and it was awesome. Uh, there was a lot of people that came out, a lot of people that came out specifically for me from all over the country, as far away as Peru, Panama, all these different places. I thought I was totally humbled and blown away. Thank you guys for doing that. A lot of millennials, man, a lot of millennials. It was a real estate insurance conference, salesperson conference, basically a lot of independent agents.

And we were talking about branding and I had a conversation actually more than a few times yesterday because it was a mix of a lot of millennials and a few older people. And the older people all had the same thing to say, man. They said like this, they would make some sort of snarky remark towards millennials, which really irritates me. Okay. I have built a very, very strong brand and strong company with almost exclusively millennials. And most people don't realize that. Um, and they say these things to me, like, you know, the typical shit that people say to millennials, oh, they're lazy. Oh, they're not focused. Oh, they're this. Oh, they're that. And they act like they're better

than, than the millennial generation. And dude, you know, if you look at the millennial generation, they've built some pretty bad-ass shit. Okay. Look at all the technology, look at all the apps, look at all the social media that's being developed by people who are in that generation. It's amazing. Okay. And not just that, there's a trillion other things too. They have huge benefits. And I always take this time to stop people in their tracks. And I say, look, man, I think you're fucking wrong. I think millennials are amazing. I think millennials have done some pretty cool shit and have some pretty awesome skills. I do agree that they have one downfall and I'm going to talk about that in this podcast because I mentioned it in my IG story and I got so many DMs. People

didn't know what the fuck I was talking about. But if you listen to the podcast, you know I talk about this concept, all right? Millennials have an issue with patience. You can't blame them for it. The world is a world of convenience. We could click a button now and get shit delivered the next day, and soon we will be clicking a button and having shit delivered within 30 minutes, just like it used to be for pizza only. All right. We have instant messenger, text message, email, social media. You could talk to your friends all over the world at any time of the day. Okay. We have all these conveniences that are geared towards instant gratification that these people grew up with. They are the first generation in the history of the world to grow up with these conveniences and we're surprised that they don't have patience. That's not their fault. The society that they're brought up in doesn't require a lot of patience to get the things you want.

I would argue that it's the parents' generation, our generation, for not taking the time to teach them that patience is a requirement. Okay? So I do believe millennials lack patience, but they are not fucking lazy. They are not dumb. They are not unproductive. They don't value different things. You know, people like to paint them as these hippies. They value life bullshit. They want to make fucking money just like we do, just like we did. Okay. But they don't understand patience. And for that reason, we have a lot of millennials who think that if they pour their lives and their effort and all the things that they can, their resources

into something for a very short amount of time, it doesn't work. They think it's not working. All right. This is the concept that you have to understand, especially if you're a young person that is listening to this podcast, you've got to understand aggressive patience. And if you're a young person that is listening to this podcast, you've got to understand aggressive patience. And if you listen to every episode, you'll hear me talk about this from time to time. But I wanted to dedicate a short little episode on this Friday for you so that you didn't have to go listen to a hundred episodes or whatever we're at, 200 something episodes to listen and understand what aggressive patience is and what it means when I talk about it. Aggressive patience is this. You have to understand that no matter what you do, time is going to be a factor. You've got to understand that. Now that doesn't mean

sit back with your feet up and chill. Okay. And shit's just going to come to you. That's not how it works. Aggressive patience works like this. I understand that it is going to come to you that's not how it works aggressive patience works like this i understand that it is going to take me another eight to ten years to build my company into a billion dollar brand that's just reality maybe it'll take five but it's at least going to take five okay now during that five years i am going to literally do every single thing I can do to expedite that process with urgency. I understand it's going to take time, but I also am going to be aggressive about everything that I do to make that point happen. Okay? You guys are one of two ways. You either understand patience and you kick your fucking

feet up and you don't do shit or you do everything you can for two months time. And then you say, it's not working. And both of those are wrong. Time is going to be a factor in anything. I use the analogy of baking a cake a lot. You've got the famous recipe for the world's greatest cake and you mix up all the ingredients in the bowl, okay, and you pour the cake into the pan. But since you are impatient, you think, well, if I turn the heat up twice as high, I only have to bake the cake twice as long or half as long. So I put the cake in the oven. What happens? It's supposed to be for 20 minutes. You put it in there for seven minutes. What happens? Cake's burnt. It's no fucking good, right? So the time is going to be a factor. You cannot get around it. Okay.

The other thing that you can do is you could take the cake and you could pour it in and you know you could forget to turn the oven on and you could just say hey it's going to take time and what happens the cake never bakes because you never turn the oven on the oven represents your efforts the time represents fucking time and you can't get around it. You can't outwork time. You can't change it. You can't do anything about it. It's just going to take time. And if you could understand aggressive patience and you could put it into play in your life, you can not only achieve everything you want to achieve, but you can do so with a sense of calm, with a sense of confidence, with a sense of certainty that your life is going to turn out the way that you want it to. Aggressive patience is the biggest point

that you need to utilize to have success. Most people, and you've heard this analogy before too, they want to run a 26.2 mile marathon. And in business, what do they do? They get to mile 17 and they say, fuck, this is hard because they're working hard and they're putting in the time. But sometimes it just takes more time with the same amount of effort. Sometimes it just takes more time with more effort. But if you get to mile 17 and you say, fuck, this isn't working,

you're more than halfway there and you're turning around and going back to the starting line and starting all over again. Guys, this is a simple concept to understand, but it's very, very difficult for the millennial generation to put it into play. I get emails all day long. And today I got one from a young man who follows me and it said the exact same thing that I'm communicating. It said, Andy, how do you maintain belief? How do you maintain confidence when you're doing everything you can and you don't see any results? Guys, it takes faith. You have to trust that things are going to happen. At the end of the day, if you've given it your all and you know you've given it your all and you're the only one that can know you gave it your all, by the way, no one could tell you did. You know you did.

If you go to bed at night and sleep good knowing you gave every fucking day your all, you could feel good that things are going to happen. Even if you don't have the right plan, because that's what people will say. How do I know if I have the right plan? Well, you are going to discover along the way things that work and things that don't work on a small level, on a micro level. When those things are happening all the time and things aren't working all the time you're making adjustments you're making micro adjustments right you're not letting all those things build up to to derail your plan and make you you know become homeless you're changing things as time is happening you're making adjustments in real time and those small adjustments in real time equal a big adjustment over the course of time.

So if you are willing to keep seeing how things are, aren't working on a small scale and you're giving them the attention that they need, you're giving them the resources they need and you're finding out what works on a small scale, all those little small scale decisions add up to you being on the right track on the big scale. But on the big scale, you have to be understanding that that big scale is going to take time. Doing things that matter, take time. Doing things that are great, take time. Doing things that are going to get you fucking paid, take time. And so many people fail in life. I would say the vast majority of people that never achieve what they desire in their heart to achieve. It's not because they didn't try.

It's not because they weren't smart enough. It's not because they were told they were dumb or laughed at. It's none of those things. It's because they didn't understand the concept of aggressive patience. If you can understand that it is going to take a long time and during that time, you are going to have to do absolutely everything you can. You cannot be anything else but successful. All right. Understand if you're a millennial, you're not fucking lazy. You're not dumb. You're not something less than everybody else. You probably just don't have a

great concept of patience. And if you can fix that, you can accomplish far more than any of the other generations have accomplished because of the technology that's available to you. So don't let people talk shit and say you're fucking lazy. Don't let people, you know, say that you're unqualified or stupid or whatever. Prove them fucking wrong by sticking with shit and making shit come true. Because that's the only way you're going to silence all these motherfuckers that don't understand what they're talking about. You've got to show them. And the way you're going to show them is by putting aggressive patience into your life.

Whether that be with your business, whether it be with your fitness. Fitness is the same thing. If you have 150 fucking pounds to lose and you put in one or two or three or seven days, you're not going to see much. You just aren't. But if you put in seven months, you're going to be a completely different person. That's the exact thing that happens in business. It just takes longer than it does for fitness. So guys, aggressive patience, understand time is always a factor. Okay. But also understand that every single thing needs to be done on a day by day by

day basis needs to be done along the way. Do that and you're going to fucking win. Do less than that. You'll be one of these people who jumps from thing to thing to thing every two to three years saying, oh, that didn't work out well, or, oh, that didn't, you know, that just didn't play out the way I thought it would, or blah, blah, blah, every fucking excuse, which we all know those are excuses. You're going to be that person and you're going to end up in a situation you don't want to be in for the rest of your life. It's not your job to see if things play out. It's not your job to see if things quote unquote work out for you. It is your job to make them fucking work. Aggressive patience. Put it in play right now. Couple it with win the day episode 107 and you have the exact recipe that you need. Don't fuck with it.