REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Why Your Wins Are Actually Destroying Your Success, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO295

Episode Date: April 2, 2019

Every now and then, average people do win. But they don't keep winning...they don't make a lifestyle out of winning...because they make a huge mistake. In their moments of victory, they do something that causes them to lose focus & actually ends up being counter-productive to their long-term success. True winners don't do this. That's why all they do is win. What is it? Take a listen & find out.

I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon. Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me, gotta lose. What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO. Guys, the goal of this podcast, which happens to be the number one business podcast in the world. Thank you guys very much for that, by the way. That is not due to me. It's due to you. Thank you. The goal is to help you guys listening become the MFCEO of your own life. And you might be wondering what separates a CEO from an MF CEO. Well, basically you're just a badass. That's what it comes down to. Someone who takes control, someone who exercises discipline, someone who is committed, someone who is dedicated,

someone who is diligent, and someone who realizes that everything that is in their life is a result of their actions and everything that will be in their life from the future will be a result of the decisions made now. Guys, that's the fact. You are in control. And what we try to do here is bring you some entrepreneurship, bring you some personal development, bring you some good things to think about and good things to do, practical, conceptual, mental, to be successful, guys, in whatever it is that you do. The important thing to remember is that your success is defined by you, all right? It is, the way I define it, and the way we define it here at the MFCEO Project,

is the pursuit of one's full potential, all right? You're never gonna reach your full potential if you keep pursuing it, that's just a fact. But what will happen is you will get better and better and better and better. You will set an example for all the people around you. And I hope you think about how important that really is, because at the end of the day, guys, we're all going to be dead. We're all going to be dust. All right. That's the reality. And what you leave behind, and I'm not talking about just money, and that does matter, but what you leave behind in the way that you live is what's going to matter most to other

people around you. And I don't think there's anything more honorable than doing the best that you absolutely can. Not the whiny bitch voice best that most people do where they say, oh, I'm doing the best that I can. Not that shit. I'm talking about your real best. Okay. And when you do your real best, you inspire other people to understand that they are not only just like you, but they can be just like you. And that's an obligation that we take very seriously

here. So to those of you pursuing that and giving that hell, kudos to you and respect. Now, today's show is a short podcast. We've got some really good full-length podcasts coming up with myself and the whole team here. But before I get into this short podcast, I would like to mention that we do have a really cool opportunity right now. M.I.L.E.T. and I's society that we have started, the R.A.T. syndicate, which is a very exclusive private group. We do have a public event this Saturday, April 6th, that we do have a live stream for. All right. We've got limited opportunity for the live stream because the bandwidth of the hotel is only X amount. There are a few spots on the live stream left, probably enough for you to jump in and get on. If you want to get on, you can go to

www.artesyndicate.com. The live stream live stream I believe is like 200 bucks and I can guarantee you, you're going to get $200 worth of value in the first 10 minutes of the, of the live stream. I can promise you that this is the kind of stuff that you will learn and you can give you a peek at what RTA syndicate is all about. Um, and potentially, uh, might make you want to apply, uh, cause it's really, really cool what we're doing. It's not open to the public. You have to apply, and it's pretty hard to get in, but it's a really rewarding group, and I think if you speak to anybody who's in it, they will agree with you. Now, with that being said, what I want to talk about,

a lot of you guys have been following me and you know that I'm doing 75 hard. And I'm seeing people getting to day 20 and day 25. And they've got some progress. They're doing good. And then they start celebrating, right? They start thinking like, dude, I got this. I got it. I'm going to finish all 75 days. I've done 20 days and it was no problem. So now I got 75 easy. And then the very next day, oh shit, I got to start over because I missed my water. Oh shit, I got to start over because I forgot my progress pick. Okay. This is what happens when you take your eye off the ball. And this is why average people don't win consistently. The reality of average people winning is, yes, average people do win.

It happens. It happens sometimes. It happens a few times. Not many times. But one thing is for sure is they don't win all the time. They don't keep winning. They secure a victory and then they let it slip away. But real winners, they win all the time.

They keep winning. And it's because they don't make the huge mistake that average people make, which is this. They don't over-celebrate their wins. Now, I've talked about this a lot in the past, and there's a lot of misunderstanding. I like to recognize my progress, but I don't celebrate, and I remain humble in that progress, all right?

That means that I'm conscious of the progress I'm making, I'm aware of the progress I'm making, I'm conscious of the progress I'm making I'm aware of the progress I'm making I'm happy about the progress I'm making but I also realize how far I have to go all right average people don't think like that and winners think completely different if we're being honest you know winners don't clap and cheer in a way that is disproportionate to the level of success that they've achieved. Average people do this. Average people go three days on a diet and they say, holy shit, dude, I went three days. I deserve a day off, man. Go three months and you deserve a day off. All right. People do this financially. You know,

they say, oh, I've been doing really good at work. I deserve that new pair of Jordans when you're only making 400 bucks a week. That is not proportionate celebration. All right. So average people celebrate at a disproportionate level to their actual achievement. Successful people do not. Now that doesn't mean that they don't enjoy the wins. That doesn't mean that they don't enjoy the wins. That doesn't mean that they don't take some satisfaction in them. That doesn't mean they don't smile when they win or get happy or get excited. But what it does mean is that they enjoy winning kind of like you and I would enjoy sunsets. All right. Or we enjoy a great college football game

or chilling on the couch with their dogs. If it's for me, you know, we think that these things are great, but we also know that these things happen all the time and they are supposed to happen all the time. And if you get to the right level mentally, which is the whole purpose of 75 hard, which is if you haven't done it, you need to go back and listen to the 75 Hard podcast just a few episodes ago. The thing that's different about people like myself and people who win consistently across the course of their life is that we expect the wins to happen all the time. All right. They don't come as a surprise to myself or very successful people. Wins don't shock winners. They aren't amazed when they got a win any more than Michael Jordan was amazed when he

hit a game-winning shot. That's what he expected. That's what we focused on. That's what we acted to do. That's what we acted to do. That's what we worked to do. And because of all those things, we expect to win every time. Zero exceptions. And when you go crazy celebrating your win, it shows the whole world that, yeah, maybe you did get lucky. It shows the whole world that, hey, since you're so surprised by your success, maybe you weren't focused or

disciplined or hardworking. And just this once, the universe decided to say, what the hell? I'll let you taste this little bit of success. And by the way, guys, that happens all the time. But I can tell you this, it doesn't happen very often. You're not going to build a lifetime of success. You're not going to build a lifetime of legacy. You're not going to build a lifetime of success. You're not going to build a lifetime of legacy. You're not going to build a lifetime of fulfillment on that kind of bullshit. It's just not going to happen. No sub off the bench who hits a total trash three-point shot at the buzzer out of sheer dumb luck is ever going to the Hall of Fame. When you over-celebrate, you lose focus. And actually, what it probably means is that you never had the focus in the first place. True winners,

lifetime winners, they never lose focus. They always focus on the goal. They always focus on the process. And they always focus on being the absolute best that they can. And they don't let one single win disrupt their focus on a lifetime and a lifestyle of winning. Now, I know some asshole out there is going to be listening to this and say, well, what about the guys who win the Super Bowl? Don't those guys go crazy after the game? Let me ask you this. Do they go crazy after one play the first game of the fucking season? Because that's what you do. Their celebration is in proportion to what they just accomplished. They just won the epitome,

the pinnacle, the best thing that you can win in their area. When you do that in even one area of your life, I'll be okay with you celebrating like that. But until then, shut the fuck up, put your head down and do the fucking work because this is what's short circuiting 99% of you. Okay. Of course, there's a place to really let yourself celebrate. And that's usually the pinnacle goal of what you're trying to reach. And in the context of the NFL, guess what? The Super Bowl is the fucking's, the Michael Jordan's, the Kobe Bryant's of the world. They might celebrate hard, but they don't celebrate long. Come Monday, come the next morning, they're back at it. They're focused. They're undistracted.

They're driven. They're enjoying their progress. They're enjoying their wins, but they're not over celebrating them. And that's what makes people great. And that's the attitude you have to have toward a single victory. If you want to make it a lifestyle and a lifetime of winning. Outro Music