REAL AF with Andy Frisella - You Are In Control, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO86

Episode Date: August 18, 2016

The difference between people who fail and people who succeed is that the latter are brutally honest with themselves. They don't make excuses for themselves. They don't blame any external factors or circumstances. They execute. They push through. And above all else, the believe they are in control of their lives. And they use that control to accomplish incredible feats that others only dream about.

I want to be a motherfucking hustler. You better ask somebody. What's up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO. Guys, if you're listening to this podcast, I want you to be an MFCEO as well. That's the point here. The point here is to use the lessons that we talk about in a way that will help mold you, help guide you, help you find confidence, help you find belief, and ultimately help progress your life. You don't have to be a business owner to benefit from this podcast, even though a lot of the principles that we talk about are entrepreneurial. Okay. But at the end of the day, guys,

you are the entrepreneur of you. You should be the CEO of you. And I want you to be the motherfucking CEO of you because life is way too fucking short guys to go through it like a fucking pussy. Okay. You want to go through it with swagger. You, to go through it like a fucking pussy, okay? You want to go through it with swagger. You want to go through it wrecking shit. You want to go through it being King motherfucking Kong, all right? So don't listen to this and think, oh, this is just about business. It's not. It's about your life. And today, on Thursdays, as you guys know, we have Thursday Thunder. And today's Thursday Thunder, I just want to talk a little bit about some of the things I went through and what it's been like for me and just bring some points home for you guys that I don't think you might realize. All right, guys, I've been in

business for 17 years now. And yes, most people call me successful. I don't feel that way because I feel like we're just beginning. But most people, by their definition, we've been successful. You know, I've got a couple of toys. And the truth is, is if I never wanted to work another day again, I could do that, okay? There was no social media when I started. And when it finally did come around,

I had already made it in most people's eyes, okay? The really difficult years, they were behind me. All right. So I understand where you look at where I'm at and you look at where you're at and you can't understand how I got from where you are to where I am. I get that. That's normal thinking guys. Everybody thinks that, but you have, it's just like, you know, the mystery of faith when it comes to religion. You have to have faith that the plan will fucking work, okay? Besides my friends and my family, no one saw our humble beginnings, okay?

You weren't there to witness the struggle that was endured, all right? The sacrifices that were made, the extra jobs I had to work just to keep the lights on at our business, the piss stained mattress I slept on in the back of my store, the maxed out credit cards, the banks, every single one of them denying us for loans. Okay. The girlfriends that dumped me for being a fucking loser and a dreamer. Okay. The mistakes I made every single day. You weren't there to see that. All you guys

see is the shiny toys and this, the quote unquote success, the jets, the Rolls Royce, the Lamborghini, my awesome fucking Snapchat, right? That's what you see. You didn't see this shit that I'm talking about. I could have given up at any time and worked a normal job and nobody would have blamed me. The truth is I could have worked at McDonald's the first 10 years we were in business and made more fucking money, but I didn't. Instead, I stuck with it. And because I stuck with it, I built a group of extremely successful companies that lead their respective industries in quality and service. We employ and help take care of over 120 people internally and over 2,000 sales reps globally and their families.

And you know what, guys? That feels pretty fucking good. So yeah, I'm damn proud of where I am so far, but it could have easily never happened. And you know what? Just like your dreams could easily never happen. Okay, I could have come up with a million and one reasons to quit. And the world would have said, Andy, that's okay.

This wasn't meant to be. Absolutely nothing is meant to be. You have to make it fucking be. And you know what separates the winners from the losers in this world? The difference is that winners are honest with themselves about the effort that they put in, about the execution that they execute on. They don't lie to themselves about the effort they are putting in. They don't blame anything but themselves when they don't get the result they're after. They don't complete one measly task and expect success. They don't do something for six months or a year and quit and try something

else and then do the same thing over and over and over again their whole lives. They don't say things like, oh, I'm trying my best or it's not my fault. Instead, they recognize their own lack of effort. They take responsibility for it and they fix the fucking issue. That's what winners do. And I want you guys to do something tonight, a little homework assignment. And I want you to make this a habit. If you have the courage to stand in front of your mirror before you go to bed tonight, and I want you to think about your day and I want you to look yourself in the eyes and ask yourself, did I execute on every single opportunity, every single second of today? And I want you to be honest. And if you said yes, you execute on every single opportunity

and you got the most out of every single second of this day, then bro, you are fucking delusional because nobody is perfect every day. Only you can hold yourself back from getting what you want. And the way you hold yourself back is by lying to yourself and convincing yourself that you're putting in this great amount of work and great amount of effort and contributing this great amount of value when in reality, you aren't. That's why most people never make it. Success is mental. It's a mindset.

It's something that you control. Okay, let me repeat that. You are in control. Not your parents, not your teachers, not your boss, not your circumstances. You are in control. And I know it's hard to admit when there are a million and one things you could point at in life and say, I didn't want that. But that's what I got anyway. But the truth of the matter is, is that somehow your decisions that you've made in the past have ultimately led you to the result you are experiencing now.

But guys, you are still not a result of your circumstances. You are the result of the choices that you have made. You are the result of the old you and the choices that person made. And that's who you are today. That doesn't have to be who you are from here on out. The biggest lie society sells us is that we aren't in control. I get emails every single day from people asking for advice and the most common thing that they all believe is that when it comes to success, someone or something else, some power is in control of

their life. They look at it like a lottery. They look at it like luck. They look at it like circumstance, but they sure as fuck don't look at it like I'm in control of it. And guys, unless you believe you're in control, you ain't ever going to get it. Okay. Unsuccessful people believe there's some sort of magical success fairy that flies around and taps people on the head and chooses who gets to make it and who doesn't. Okay. I myself used to believe that when I was in the beginning stages of business, I used to think, man, I wonder if I'll ever make it. And I used to think, man, that'd be nice if I'm lucky enough to be the ones to make it. But looking back, and if you find anybody who's been able to build something great,

they will tell you that their success is a result of the actions that they've taken. And it's very, very clear to see once you've gone through the process. Okay. The reality of this belief that it's lottery and success fairy stuff that we're talking about is that it's a defense mechanism that allows you to defer the personal responsibility to that something or someone else as to why you aren't one of the chosen few. So you don't have to man the fuck up and admit the truth to yourself. And that truth obviously being you are in control. I see so many people give up before they get started because of this belief. And that truth obviously being you are in control. I see so many people give up before they get started because of this belief.

They look at the size of the job, the dream, the goal, the task, and they think there's no way I could ever do that. That wasn't meant for people like me. And that's the difference between successful people and unsuccessful people. Successful people look at a huge project, a huge dream, a huge goal, and instead of cowering down and making excuses to why it can't be done, they make a plan. And they execute on that plan weekly, daily, hourly, 24-7, 365, until they get what the fuck they're after. They understand three key points. One, they are in control.

Two, if they don't make it, it's their own fault. And three, it's all about execution, day in, day out, over long periods of time. The only way to eat an elephant, guys, is one bite at a time. Every single day is a win or a loss. Did you do what you needed to do today? Because that's all that matters. And when you string enough wins in a row, you create a habit of winning. When you create a habit of winning,

it's no longer a struggle to win. It becomes effortless. Winning becomes who you are. This is how success is forged, guys. You are in control. There is no magic. There is no luck. It's one day at a time, one win at a time,

until you make winning who the fuck you are.