REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Your Situation Is Not Unique, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO80

Episode Date: July 28, 2016

"Hey, Andy!  Can you give me some special advice for accomplishing my goals and dreams? My situation is unique."  No.  Stop right there.  According to The MFCEO, nobody's situation is unique. Everybody has disadvantages.  Everybody faces adversity. Success is hard for everybody. So stop making excuses and get sh*t done now.

Hey guys, you're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy, I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO. Guys, today is Thursday Thunder. You know what that means. We're going to bring the heat, we're going to burn your little pussy up, and then we're going to let you go do some work, alright? Guys, here's the thing. We're going to burn your little pussy up. And then we're going to let you go do some work, all right? Guys, here's the thing. I touched on this topic the other day in one of our longer episodes. But I wanted to dedicate a whole Thursday Thunder to it because it's so common and so wrong. I get this literally all the time. Hey, Andy, can you give me some special advices for accomplishing my goals and dreams?

Because you see, my situation is really unique. No, stop right there. You're not fucking unique. Okay, here's the reality of that situation. You don't really think your situation is unique. You think you are unique. You think you are a one of a kind special little delicate flower that's unlike the rest of the world that doesn't need to do the work required. You're looking to cut the corner. You're looking to the fastest, easiest way. You think that somebody like me or somebody

else who's an influencer is going to have this secret little recipe for you that you could just skip out on all the hard shit and become successful. Or you're thinking the opposite, that your situation is so unique that no matter what you do, doesn't work. And you think I'm going to have the fucking answer for you. Okay. You think you are unique and that's the fucking problem. You think you've won some cosmic lottery that grants you the right to do nothing and get everything. Okay. You think you've won some cosmic lottery that grants you the right to do nothing and get everything. Okay. You think you've been blessed by the fairy godmother of half asses with an unlimited supply of sweet smelling excuses and it's fucking bullshit. You guys are not unique and I don't give a fuck who you are. I don't care where you're from. I don't care what color you are.

I don't care what your socioeconomic situation is, you can be damn sure that there's been people that have come before you and will come after you with situations that are the same as yours and more difficult that will succeed past where you're going. So let me drop some facts on you when it comes to this. Everybody has to follow the rules of success. Everybody who wants to be successful has to develop a vision. Everybody who has been successful has set and kept goals. Everybody who has been successful has done the things they don't feel like doing over and over and over again, okay?

Everybody has to work hard. Everybody has certain disadvantages. Your disadvantages may not be the same as someone else. And that might be where you're like trying to tell yourself you're the special flower, but I'm going to tell you right now, whatever it is that is holding you back mentally or holding you back physically, or making you think that your situation is different could actually probably be your strength if you learn how to flip that and play that the right way. A couple weeks ago, I talked about my friends, Casey Mitchell and Derek Wida, who both have lost legs serving this country. They've used those disadvantages that most people will cry, whine, and bitch about to become social media celebrities and people who inspire through their

struggle. That's what you have to understand, guys. Your strength will always come from your struggle, no matter what. I don't care what it is. I don't care what you perceive it to be. There is a way to take your struggle and parlay that into a strength. Okay. Everybody has negative people in their lives. Everybody has quote unquote haters. Most of the time, if you follow me, you know that I will tell you that the biggest hater resides in your own brain because most of us are so conditioned to think negatively of ourselves that we don't recognize that people aren't actually saying these things that we're imagining in our fucking brains, which makes you the biggest hater of you. And how much fucking sense does that make?

But let's talk about real haters, okay? Do we have people that criticize us? Yeah, we do. All of us do. Do we have people that don't like our fucking haircut or our clothes or the car we drive or the lifestyle we live? Yeah, we do. But you know what? The minute that you bow to all these people's expectations to try to appease everybody, you become irrelevant. You become vanilla, you become invisible, and you end up living a life

that is of no significance to appease these people that aren't going to fucking matter to you in five years from now. How much sense does that make? Okay. We all have this in our lives. This is not exclusive to you. And this is where, you know, feeling special or feeling like your situation is unique or feeling like you're this delicate little flower or a special case. It's ridiculous, guys. Look, the rules of success apply to everybody. You know, everybody has to learn how to power through setbacks and learn from failures. Everybody has to face adversity. All right. It's hard for all of us. All of us have struggles. All of us have, you know, things that are hard, but you have to understand that those things are the things where our strengths come from. The struggles develop our strengths,

the failures create the lessons and knowledge. That's what allows us to ultimately succeed. And when you guys cry and whine and pout about all this shit, you're missing the fucking point of what success is all about. It's a fucking journey that you are on and everything that's coming into your life, everything that's coming into your vision, everything that's affecting you negatively, positively is all creating what's ultimately going to become this fucking force that allows you to be successful in life. All right. So quit thinking you're some special secret that needs a customized plan from somebody to be successful to overcome your unique little one of a kind pussified situation because you don't. You need to realize that there's just

plenty of other people out there who have a situation that's as difficult or more difficult than yours that are getting shit done on a daily fucking basis. Okay. If you really think you're some kind of special little case, the only thing that's truly unique about you is how uniquely fucked up you are and you're thinking. What does that say about your fucking ego that you think you're the only one that has to endure all this shit? It ain't as fucking easy for any of us. It's not been easy for me. It's not been easy for fucking Bill Gates. It's not been easy for fucking Warren Buffett. It's not been easy for every mother, drive down the fucking street and look at the number of businesses out there. You think

it's been fucking easy for any of them? If you think that you're some special case that you can't go out and execute and do the same things that need to be done for that these people have done, or that you get to skip the process or skip, you know, the hardships or get around all this shit with some secret. How big is your fucking ego? You need to humble yourself. You're no different. You're no special. You're no more or less than anybody else.

Okay? Stop making excuses. Get the fuck out there and get shit done. Shut up. Uh-huh. Okay. What's up? Shut up.

Uh-huh. Okay. What's up? Okay. Shut up. Uh-huh. Okay. done.