Real Girls Radio - EP 30: Nearly getting kidnapped by a hinge date!? GUEST: Jasmine Otterwell

Episode Date: February 1, 2023

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Welcome back. How are we doing? Happy Wednesday. Happy Wednesday. So before we get into the episode, we just want to remind you guys that it'd be really helpful for you to share, like, you know, do all of that with the podcast because it really just helps us get out there in the world

and spread the message and, you know, like this is how we're running the podcast just from you guys sharing. So we really appreciate those. And also we love it. Nothing more than seeing you guys like post your like daily walks, going on your steps and you know, listening to the radio.

Like just enjoying us chat away. Talking shit probably half the time. Yeah. But hopefully not on this one. I think this episode is going to be very well received by a lot of you. This is basically going to be a single girl's chat vibe.

Can I just say, when I mention it, whenever I mention being single, people are always like, I love it when you say that. So I honestly think this is actually going to be really good. People are going to love it. The amount of people who are like, oh my god, cannot wait for this. Cannot wait, yeah.

So it's gonna be a hangout, chill, girly chat with us three, three, three people girls, because today we have Jasmine on the podi. I'm back again. She's back again. And there's three of us this time, because last time,

many of us weren't here. I wasn't here. No. Yeah. First time interviewing Jasmine. Oh. So for the peeps who don't know who you are, Jotter. Oh no, everyone thinks that's my name. Yeah. Yeah.

So when that guy, you know when that guy spoke to me about you. Yeah. He said your last name and I was like, what? How does he know that? It's because when you click onto my Instagram, it says my name. So what is your last name? Otterwell. Right, yeah, that's what he said. I was like, I'm click onto my Instagram it says my name so what is your last name otter well right yes we said I was like not sure like

who's that you didn't pin the J in the author yeah she's always been Jota no I changed it but anyway for the peeps who don't know who you are do you want to give a little background in fair as to who Jasmine is? So, well, I'm your best friend. Best friend. You don't wanna say it. You don't wanna assume. Yeah. Yeah, and I work for Empower as a coach.

And yeah, that's about it really. And how did you guys meet? I was a client. That's funny, yeah. And I was a client too. Yeah. And we were each other's clients. Jasmine did my nails and I coached her. Yes. Oh my God, you did? You did nails? I'm a client too. And we go to the same gym. So we've got each other as clients. Jasmine did my nails and I coached her.

Oh my god, I didn't know you did that. You did nails? I'm a beauty therapist for 10 years. Stop. So like wax, massage, everything? Wax, yeah, yeah. Oh, I need to come too. I know, I know.

I'm actually gonna get back into my lashes actually on the weekend. That'd be a really good side hustle. As a side hustle, yes. I think we're all about side hustles. LVL? No, lash extensions side hustles. LVL? No, lash extensions. Do you do LVL?

I don't do LVL, but I want to. And we also bonded because we both went for a breakup at the same time. At the same time, long-term relationship breakup. Interesting. Yeah. Very topical. We went on a date of speed dates. Yeah, that was one week. Do you remember?

I remember Emma telling me. Everyone talks about it, and I think we were just so naive. Bastering it all over Instagram. Oh, guys, you're so obvious. We were so confident with it. No, we were fully, I remember, I was fully talking on my stories like,

yeah, going on another date tonight. Yeah. So open-minded. And I was like filming, I was going, proud mom sending her off with her date. She was like videoing me walking down the street. Oh my God, I remember this. I remember, I know what he looks like.

God, that was an iconic story. Were you filling in the blanks with my stories or not? Because basically what happened was Emma would put hers on a little bit kind of like more subtle and then I'd fill in the blanks with like less subtlety. So, okay, should we just go straight into it then? Let's go straight into it.

Okay, what's the first question? Wait, do we do a flop of lies? Wait, no, yeah, come on, because otherwise we'll never get around to our flop and plies. Okay, okay. So let's start off our flop and plies. Jasmine, take it away with a flop.

A flop, okay, my flop is I had a laser appointment. Do you have laser on? No, I really just get laser. Okay, so I wedi cael laser? Na, rwy'n fawr yn cael laser. Iawn, felly roedd gen i gyfarfod laser. O, i bawb. Ie, wel, mae gen i laser i bawb, ond roedd gen i laser yn enwedig yn y rhan hon. Yn y rhan genedlaethol.

A dwi ddim yn meddwl y gwnaethom i sgrwbio fy tan o'r ffateu yn iawn oherwydd roedd hi wedi llwyddo fy fagina. O, o, do. Do. Mae'n ddiddorol iawn. Dyna fy flop. Roedd hi'n rhyfeddol. Roedd hi'n rhyfeddol. Oof. Roedd hi'n rhyfeddol. vagina oh my god don't so that's my flop it's a bit annoying it was a bit hot oh it was a bit hot and you know there's a bit of a mark there which would go i've got some like you know they gave me some sort of crumb yeah but that's my flop i'm gonna bounce off of you on that one yeah and say

my flop it wasn't gonna be, but a very embarrassing moment for me in my laser appointment also on the vagina area. Oh no. So there's two people doing it because one of them was training. Oh no, that's a bit too much. And then the other guy, they didn't really ask me.

They just were both there. Oh God, I feel like they might listen. No, they won't. No, no, it's fine. Well, they probably do actually when i tell you the story and then i'm there just like lying down like whatever she's like right in there like lasering away and she goes by the way the recipe you posted last night was amazing she was like the mac and cheese oh no no yeah and she was fully like yeah i follow you on instagram and i'm there like butt naked

and i was so embarrassed it's embarrassing that is not the right time to say that no no when she's up in your badge no no it's so mortifying i didn't know what to say she will be listening to us won't she well shut up because you've done a good job you didn't burn your vagina you didn't burn my vagina so that's something that's's a lot, isn't it? That is a lot. What's your fly then? Give us your flop first. Are we all doing our flops?

Are we all doing our flops? My flop. Oh, mine's quite an embarrassing moment as well. Yesterday. So I've just come off my period. It was like, yeah, I just came off my period like maybe Wednesday. It's Saturday today.

God, all of our flops are about vaginas. Yeah, we did this. And then I was in the gym yesterday, didn't have anything there. I was leaked everywhere. What kind of leggings were you wearing? I was in my green camo gym shorts. Oh, okay. It wasn't too obvious,

because they were camo, so it was like patterned. But I went to the toilet when I got home, because I didn't even notice when I was at the gym. So I went to the toilet when I got home, and I was like, oh my God, I leaked everywhere. And I don't know how it was there for. Yeah, it was a little bit embarrassing. I was doing leg day as well, so you're bending down a lot.

Imagine if you were wearing like white. White. Or white. Yeah, or like pale blue. Oh no. And like that hasn't happened to me a lot really at all. So that was a bit annoying. I always wear a panty liner to avoid, you know.

Even when you're like off for two days, you think. I always wear one because. Always, always. Always because I call it, I don't know if I should call it, talk about this in the book. I call it a fur protector because if you wear a panty liner,

it stops you having a camel toe. Oh, you told me this ages ago. And then it stops them staring in that area. Gosh, that's a very good idea. I remember you told me. A a spin. And then stop going. And then staring in that area. Gosh, that's a very good idea. I remember you told me. A purr protector. That's so interesting. And I wear them always just to avoid any potential camel toe.

Not that I... I guess because you're always in tight leggings. Because I always wear super tight leggings, it's just protection from the purr. Do you know, I'm going to... I'm actually going to try that. I'm going to try that. Handicap is really thin as well. Yeah, that's so thin.

Wow. You just put one in your bag. Little trick. Okay. Great. Top trick for them. Yeah. Right, fly. rydw i'n mynd i geisio hynny yn dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n dda iawn mae'n d So you'll wait for your birthday? Yeah. Yeah. We fly on your birthday day. We fly on my birthday. Oh, that'll be so fun. Are you flying? You're not getting the O star? No, we're flying. I can't wait. I'm so excited. Is it just you two?

No, I'm Matt and Molly. Yes. Oh, yeah. Our friends. Oh, that's going to be really lovely. You have to tell me all about it. I can't wait for all the stories. Yeah.

Yeah, we're going to go on a few nights out. Yep. Going to be crazy. We're going to try out the red light district yeah yeah have you been yeah yeah it was very interesting oh wow very interesting it's like a it's just a weird place weird place interesting okay well i'm very excited yeah it's fun though lots of memories made lots of stories to tell for sure um what's your fly um i guess that's also my fly and we've got a fun night tonight we're going to amazonica oh love that play going out the drinks also i would say that i'm really

loving my job at the moment i catch myself just like smiling like a cheshire cat at my computer when i'm doing check-ins i just feel like so excited for their journeys right now and I'm just like feeling really passionate about it I feel like everyone's in a really good mood for 2023 I love it I love the vibes yeah I do feel good vibes from it yeah they do my fly is it's a flop that I'm trying to turn into a fly so my ractane is making me purge again and my skin so I'm getting lots of spots. It's really getting to me. Your skin doesn't look bad though. No, I hate how I'm drawing attention to it right now. Sorry.

No, it's fine. But I'm just trying to embrace it. Like my doctor was like, I could put you back on steroids to reduce it, but I'm like, you know what? I'm just gonna stick to it. I'm just gonna ride it out. Ride it out, ride it out.

And that's what I'm gonna do. So I'm glad, I'm proud of myself that I'm doing that, that was a fly. Well, I think you look great. Thanks, you look great right let's get into the episode i'm excited for this one we don't really have too much direction but i put some questions on my instagram about things you guys struggle with being single dating not being in a relationship so we're gonna go through some of those and answer some of your struggles and problems we are also going to um as it's valentine's day around the corner we are going to give you some ideas for things that you can do on valentine's day if you are single and also talk

about some of the reasons why it's better to be single than in a relationship yes but before we do i think we just need to kick this off with a bit of juicy gossip i'm really excited what are we looking at me here what for we're looking at you here we're looking oh guess because you okay you have the juice i'm referring people love when i share a bad date story i don't know what is. I don't know why people love it so much. I also don't know why you have so many. I know. No, is it me? No, is it me? It's you.

It happens to you. Oh, stop. I think I'm too naive. Okay, so I'm going to, I had two dates this week. Wow. Two different men. All, like,

one was spontaneous in a coffee shop. Literally, like, on the day planned, or? On the day he came up to me in the coffee shop. Oh! But the first one, I met this guy through Instagram. yn y siop coffi. Yn llythyr, ar y dydd, o'r bwriad? Ar y dydd, roedd yn dod i mi yn y siop coffi. Ond y peth cyntaf, cyfarwyd gyda'r dyn hon trwy Instagram.

Dyn gwych, fel yn ffysig, dim ond dyn gwych. Ac fe ddywedais, dwi ddim yn gallu ddim mynd ar ddwyf â'r dyn hon. Felly, fe wnaethon nhw... Oedd hi'n ymwneud â'r DM? Ie, ie. Felly, ac roedd yn hoffi fy nghyfrofiadau am amser. Yn gwirionedd, na, dyna'n anghywir. Fe dweudais i'r DM, roedd yn hoffi fy nghyfrodiadau am bryd. Yn gwirionedd, nid yw hynny'n ddewis. Roeddwn i'n ysgrifennu'r DMs ei hun. Roedd yn hoffi fy nghyfrodiadau am ddwy blynedd. Ac roeddwn i'n meddwl, yw'r ffaith y byddai'n hoffi DM mi neu ddim? Felly, fe wnes i ffurfio atno'n dweud, beth mwy o ffrodiadau fyddwch chi'n hoffi cyn i chi ddweud yn fy DMs? Ac wedyn, fe wnes i siarad â nhw.

Felly, fe wnaethon nhw fy nghyfarwyddo i'w tŷ. Ffwrdd golyg. Oherwydd rwyf wedi dysgu o brofiad gyntaf nad ydw i'n mynd i'r mans. Yn ffwrdd, yn ffwrdd. red flag right because I've learned from previous experience not to go to a man's birthday stranger stranger yeah and what did I tell you what did you tell I told you do not go and I told you exactly what was gonna happen which did happen so I got to his house and he went okay so I got to his house and he was just talking about himself very narcissistic didn't ask me one question about myself. And it was freezing cold and he didn't even like meet me

at the train station. He has a car as well, could have put me up. Didn't meet me at the train station, got to his house. Wait, also can I just say, didn't he invite you around for half eight and then push it back to nine because apparently half eight was too early? Too early.

And I was like, too early for what? Too early for what, yeah. Did he invite you around for dinner? No. What? Just too early for what? Oh, my bedtime's in an hour and a half. Like, what?

As far as you went, I would not have gone. So he only lived two stops from where I live though, so I was like, I can just pop over. Because he's just, remember, he's beautiful. Okay, so I got there and I thought, wow'n wych. Felly, fe wnes i ddod yno a meddwl, Waw, mae'n wych. Waw, mae'n wych. Ie, fe ddim yn meddwl, mae'n wych.

Nid oedd gwasanaeth i'w siarad. Roedd yn mor narsisistig. Os ydy'n gwrando ar hyn, byddaf yn mynd i gael fyny. Mae'n dda. Felly, mi wnes i siarad am arian, sy'n fy mwyaf icht. Pwy sy'n ei ddangos? Pwy sy'n ei ddangos o gwneud ymddiriedaeth i fywyd TV. So just talking about money, which is my biggest ick. How much he earns from making a TV show appearance. And I was like, Oh, is that what he does? Yeah.

What does he do? I can't tell you right now. Well, I'll block it out. Well, oh, I'll show you him afterwards. You're gonna think he's beautiful. He's just been on TV. You need to stop calling him beautiful. Like, we get it.

Sorry, sorry. You get it. This is why I get it. He's a beautiful man. This is why I went to the house, okay? So I didn't, I'm not that kind of girl to do like a one night stand kind of thing. He said, come over my house because I'm casual.

And then I was like, what does that mean? I thought, does he mean casual clothes? Yeah, that's what I, yeah, yeah, no, it doesn't mean that. Because he got to the house and he was like, so like I said, I'm casual. And he started trying to unbutton my trousers. In fact, I was wearing these trousers. oherwydd fe wnaethon nhw fynd i'r tŷ a'i dweud, felly, fel y dywedais, rwy'n casual. Ac fe ddechreuodd ei ddechrau ddifo'r trws i mi. Yn ffaith, roeddwn i'n eu codi'r trws hyn. Roeddwn i'n...

Ie. Roedd yn ddifo'r trws yma am lawer o amser pan roeddwn i'n dweud, nid, nid, nid. O, fy ngheir. Ac, dwi'n gobeithio, fe wnaethon i ei gosod, oherwydd roeddwn i eisiau, oherwydd roedd yn hyfryd. Ie. A...

A... Ac fe wnaeth yna'i ddysgu i'r pwynt lle roedd yn ceisio ddifo'r trws i mi am lawer o amser. O, nid! Felly, yna roedd rhaid i mi wneud ychydig o ysgafn, A dyna sut y dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny.

A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny.

A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. A dywedodd hynny. this is a spontaneous date again captivated by a beauty of a man he was pretty and he came up to me and bought me a coffee and was like do you wanna

come for a walk with me and I was like okay the confidence in these men I know so I went for a walk with him and then he was like let's go around and have a comment so we went around and I didn't realize we were gonna walk past his house got to his house he opened the door and was like come on in but my body ac nid oeddwn i'n sylweddoli ein bod ni'n mynd i fynd i'w tŷ. Fe wnaethon ni fynd i'w tŷ, fe wnaethon ni agor y drws ac roedd yn dweud, dynwch yn. Ond fe wnaeth fy ngadw i at y drws oherwydd roeddwn i'n teimlo amrywiaeth o ofn. Nid, mae hyn yn anodd.

Mae'n debyg ei fod wedi ei ddynnu aroch chi. Nid, yn wir. Dwi wedi teimlo, dwi ddim wedi teimlo mor ofn ymlaen i mi. Ie. Felly fe wnaethon i agor y drws, sy'n dda i mi oherwydd rwy'n dda iawn. O ie, fe wnaethon i ddweud

bod hynny'n fy ngadw i, oherwydd yn amlwg byddai hi'n mynd i mewn. Byddwn i'n mynd i mewn. Roedd peth oedd yn ddifrifol, fel, cerddoriaeth pianw, yn chwarae fel yr oedd hi'n mynd i'r drws. Nid. Nid? that shocked me because normally she would have gone in. I would have just gone in. There was really creepy piano music playing as he was before. No.

No? Does he live by himself? Yeah, and the kitchen was filthy messy. But you went in. No, I stopped at the door. Oh, but you saw the kitchen. And then he was like, yeah, the kitchen was at the door. And then he was like, come on in.

And I just was like, danger, danger. And then I actually said to him, no offense, but I just feel like danger danger and then I was I actually said to him no offense but I just feel like that's really dangerous for me to come into your house because you're a stranger and that's confrontational of me which I'm not and then he just said come in here now and just look at my penis no no she could be up crying after yeah come in in here now look at my penis and I'll finish give me 30 minutes. Oh!

And he said you don't even need to touch it. He said some more pretty vulgar things. Yeah, he said you don't even need to touch it, just looking at it will make me finish. No! And I cried. And he was a beautiful man. He was a beautiful man.

It's like a Ted Bundy. No, seriously, I just don't think I'm gonna go for beautiful men anymore. Why? How does this happen? Like, within two days? You have two weird encounters. No, do you see why I then went into like a deep depression

because I experienced two horrible situations. So then what happened after that? Did you just run? Yeah, I went home and then I cried. Did he get your name? Did he like get your Instagram? He got my number and he tried to call me multiple times. He doesn't have Instagram. But like like how dangerous can i just say like jasmine wasn't doing anything wrong like he

said you want to go on a walk in broad daylight that is daylight like you know but what you weren't doing anything naive and then he conveniently walks past his house and tries to lure you in puts pressure on you like a lot of girls would fall for that and probably be in a position. In fact, at the doorway I said, I'm not gonna come in your house because you could be a murderer. And he said, why would a murderer murder someone in the daytime?

And I was like, that's prime time to murder someone. Yeah. And he could have raped you. I could have, that could have ended very badly. No, that actually could have ended really badly. That's very good. But my sense in my body was like danger, danger. And it was right. Always sugar. Do you have a picture of him uh what's that picture can you i i actually think we should um

round that little story up with some tips because if any of you guys are going to be going on a date i think it's so important to tell your friends find my friends find my friends on oh gosh um share your location not a bit of me that that's not a bit of me sorry helpful tips position find my friends that is crucial yeah and also i i just don't i think you need to get to know someone a bit better before you meet them for a date for sure find out a bit more context about them who they are. My experience on Hinge, a lot of guys just go straight into like, when am I seeing you for drinks?

Like without even any sort of conversation. It's because this day and age, people don't invest time into people. They just don't have time to spend. Hinge is just shocking. It is, I'm going on three different Hinge dates this week. Oh, exciting. Oh, wow.

Are you going to any of their houses? Cause that's the lesson. No, that's rule number one in my books. I don't do that. Well, I'm an idiot. No, I don't know why I did that. Although, having said that, I did go back to one guy's house on the first date,

which I wouldn't do again. Because you just never know what's going to happen. I wouldn't do that again. No. But even for a date, I wouldn't go to their house. That's so silly. Have you had any recent bad date stories? Or like, even just talking to a guy um i don't think

i have i mean the only recent ones of the two 20 year old guys i met in bloody oh yeah skiing like 20 year olds i why am i attracted to 20 year old wow they don't look they don't look 20 but like why is it the fact that they were both 20 i was like that's that's not good like that was probably that's the worst it got for me recently would you say most of the dates you go on you go away thinking that was a great date no i think we're quite hard to please oh okay yeah see i just go on dates where they're terrible because the man is just vulgar and disgusting well there was this one date specifically which i had to run away from he was so beautiful so attractive he's a model he's so he's this beautiful man but he was so narcissistic yeah he had no chat he was all by himself and it was just awkward

and I was just like I need to go after the first date this is just awkward how did you how so I text my friend when he went to the toilet I was like you need to like you need to save me from this date so he called me he was like oh my god Millie like I need I need you like blah blah and I was like panicking oh gosh like where are you wow the acting my God, Millie, I need you, blah, blah, blah. And I was panicking, oh gosh, where are you? Wow, the acting. Yeah, yeah. The acting.

And then I left. You did that at the Jeffrey Dahmer date. What? Jeffrey Dahmer date? I had a date where I thought I was going to get eaten. No. Yeah. Have you already said this on the podcast?

No. Okay, I need to. This is why I deleted Hinge because of this date. This is the Hinge one. But then I rejoined in January. So I went to his house again. Yeah, dwi wedi gael hynny. Dwi wedi gael hynny. Dwi wedi gael hynny. Dwi wedi gael hynny. Dwi wedi gael hynny. Dwi wedi gael hynny. Dwi wedi gael hynny.

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Dwi wedi gael hynny. Dwi wedi gael hynny. Dwi wedi gael hynny. Dwi wedi gael hynny. Dwi wedi gael hynny. Felly, fe wnes i fynd yno, ac roedd y tŷy fe bai'n bwyso lletis, ychydig fel lletis. Fe wnaethon i bwyso hwn am y lletis, ac fe ddim wedi bwysig hynny. Yn unrhyw fath, wedyn... O ble oedd hi? O Lidl? Dwi ddim yn gwybod. Roeddwn i'n teimlo'n rhywbeth drwm o wybod lle oedd hi'n siopio. Yna fe wnaethon i fynd i'r ystafell fyw,

a oedd yn sgwyl yn ddiddorol. Nid oedd yn dweud unrhyw beth, ond fe wnaethon nhw adrodd y sgwyl. Ac fe wnes i ddiweddarwch y series Jeffrey Dahmer. Felly roeddwn i'n dweud, fwyn. O, mabod, rwy'n ym mharfa Jeffrey Dahmer. Efallai y gallai fod yn dynion ddwy. Felly roedden ni'n gorfod bod yn ystod ystod y fwyn i bwysau'r ffahetas.

Ond nid oedd hi ar y tawel. Nid oedd. Dyma beth sy'n digwydd. Nid oedd ganddo'r tawel. Felly fe wnaeth o'r tawel o'r stân TV. Ac nid oedd hi fel stân o'r gardain? Ie, stân o'r gardain. O, peidiwch.

Mae hynny'n orffol iawn. Ar ôl'r stân TV. Nid oedd. Gyda'r ffaheta. Nid oedd e fel siarad yn y garden? ie, siarad yn y garden rostig ar ôl y stand TV gyda'r ffahita ac yna dau siarad rostig o'i gwmpas felly roedden ni fel siarad rostig yn y gwobl yn gwneud ein ffahitas ac roedd gen i fod yn ei ddiddorol

ac roedd yn ei ddiddorol mor anodd ac yna ar y pwynt hwn roeddwn i wedi bod yn ei ffas am 25 munud ac roeddwn i'n gwybod y byddwn i eisiau gadael. Felly, fe wnes i ffynu i fy ffrind, fy fflatmate, ac roedd yn dweud, SOS, cwm i mewn 20 munudau, o leiaf. Ac fe wnaeth hi ddysgu, ond fe wnaeth hi ddysgu i mi mewn 40 munudau, sy'n rhy ddwy. Yn rhy ddwy. Yn rhy ddwy. Ac yna roedd yn dweud, ddod i fy ystafell.

Ac roeddwn i'n dweud, iawn. O, mae'n rhy ddwy. Rwy'n rhy ddwy. Roeddwn i eisiau gael fwydd i fy ystafell. Ac roeddwn i'n dweud, Iawn. O, mae'n rhyfedd! Dwi'n rhyfedd! Roeddwn i eisiau mynd allan o'r ystafell. Dwi'n ddim yn gwybod beth ydych yn ei olygu. Dwi'n dweud, roedd y ystafell yn mor anodd. Felly, fe ddodod i fyny. Yna, o, myddi.

Hefyd, gallaf i ddweud, roedd yn codi'r jogwyr gwelys gyda llythyr. Ac roeddwn i'n cofio'n dweud, a ydych wedi'u llythro? Roeddwch wedi dweud hynny i mi. Ie, fe wnaethon ni. Roeddwn i'n dweud, o, diolch. Roeddwn i wedi'u llwyddo. Roedd hynny'n hyfryd iawn. Ac yna, fe wnaethwch chi ddweud hynny i mi? Ie, fe wnaeth. Fe wnaeth. Fe dweud, o, sori, fe wnaeth i ddweud, oedd hynny'n hyfryd iawn. Ac yna fe wnaeth hi geisio, fe wnaeth hi geisio, mewn i mi, i fynd i gael

ymddygiad, ac roedd yn y peth mwyaf, pan fyddwch chi ddim yn ffansi rhywbeth. Ac yna, fe wnaeth fy ffrindiau i'r blaen, ac fe wnaeth i fynd i fyny gyda stori hwyl am ffrid, yn llwyddo. O, mae hynny'n ddewis. Yn y bryd rydych, pan fyddwch chi'n oer, mae stori'n dod allan. Ond rydych chi'n meddwl, wow, rwy'n gwybod fy mod i'n ddiddorol gyda hynny. Roedd yn ddiddorol.

Ac wedyn roeddwn i'n meddwl, mae'n rhaid i mi fynd, mae'n rhaid i mi fynd. Ac nid oedd yn gadael i mi fynd. Roedd yn llwyddo'r holl drws. Ac wedyn, roedd yn llwyddo'i llybrau i fyny. Yn fwy na gofio. Felly, roedd yn cwblhau i mi, yn fwy na gofio. A roedd yn un o'r profiadau gorau o fy mhrofiad. Roeddech chi'n ei gyflawni? Roeddwn i'n mynd i fynd i fyny. Nid. Er mwyn gofyn. Nid. Felly, fe wnaethon nhw gweddill i mi er mwyn gofyn ac roedd yn un o'r profiadau gorau o fy bywyd. A wnaethoch chi ddynnu'r rhain i ffwrdd?

Roeddwn i'n meddwl am fy bywyd. Roeddwn i wedi mynd allan o'r tŷ. O, o, o, Jasmine. Ie. Dwi wedi ddweud i Emma a'i bod hi'n ddisgyblhau. A ydych chi erioed wedi cael dydd llwyddiannus? Nid. Nid.

Mae llawer mwy. Dwi'n meddwl y gallwn ni wneud podcast cyfan ar eich dyddiau. Nid. Dwi'n teimlo'n ddiddorol. Yn y diwrnod y gwaith, mi wnaethon ni ddynnu ar dydd gyflym. Beth? Wnaethoch chi ddynnu ar dydd gyflym? Ie, wnaethoch chi? Nid, rwyf bob amser am dynnu ar dydd gyflym. O, efallai y gallwn ni fynd i mewn ac nid wyf yn cael dynnu ar y dydd gyflym hwn. Nid wyf yn siŵr, ond mae'n fwy fawr i chi ddyn di, mi wnaethon i'n cael fy ngwylio ar ddiwedd ar gyfer cyfnod. Beth? Fe wnaethon ti fy ngwylio ar gyfer cyfnod? Ie, wyt ti?

Na, rwyf bob am ddweud i fy ngwylio ar gyfer cyfnod. Efallai y gallwn ni fynd ac nid ydw i'n cael fy ngwylio ar gyfer cyfnod hwn. Dwi ddim yn siŵr, ond mae'n debyg i chi ddod â llwyddo. Ie. Dwi ddim yn hoffi mynd, dwi ddim yn hoffi mynd yn llwyddo. Dwi'n gwybod, dwi ddim yn gwybod beth i'w wneud amdano. Dwi'n meddwl mai'r peth gorau i mi yw nid ymwneud â gyfnod ar gyfer cyfnod. Na, mae angen i chi ddal at hyn. Mae angen i chi gael diwrnod da.

Na, na, rwy'n gwybod beth yw eich problem. Rwy'n gwybod eich bod yn mynd ar gyfer y bobl anghywir. Rwy'n gwneud hynny. Rwyf wedi penderfynu bod angen i mi ddim... Ddim yn fwy attractif, ddim yn fwy gwych, efallai. You need to have good dates. No, no, I know what your problem is. You go for the wrong man. I do. I've decided that I need to not maybe go... Not be too attractive, not too pretty boy, maybe. No men that I think are just jaw-droppingly gorgeous. Yeah, no men that are like that. Do they have... Is there a running theme in their jobs? TV.

Okay, so no TV. Anyone in like on the influencer or TV? Okay, no, okay. To do you feel I think I don't want to date an influencer no I think it's a bit of an it having to take all their pictures all the time I mean yeah they would be good at the angles but I just think yeah no but you'd have to take their pictures yeah true yeah and no one in in the TV industry for me anymore I'm afraid any actors need to stay away I guess

that is just you have to be narcissistic too they do have extreme narcissistic traits talking about narcissists and X I just want to talk about a new ick that I Oh established the other day which is strong social oh is it gonna affect my life like is it gonna no no no no no no no so I was talking to this guy and he invited me on a date and I was going to go however he then and I cancelled the date and I declined because he was being so sexual and like like complimenting me but it was so sexualized and forward and always about my body or like some sexual innuendo about like something so innocent like a workout video okay yeah and it was so constant and all the time too much i almost felt it i felt quite

dehumanized and i felt like an object and I felt like he only wanted one thing. Which you know, it's fine if a guy only wants that one thing but it will not be from me. No, I agree. No, I agree. What's your biggest ick? Fashion really takes like, it plays a big part.

Yeah, like a guy who can't dress himself. Or fragrance, so they don't smell nice. Uh, links. Links. Links. Yeah, I'm not sure smell nice. Uh, links. Links. Yeah, I'm not sure. Oh, I'm massively into fragrance. Oh, yeah.

Oh, massive fragrance. But, like, I think... More clothes. More clothes, yeah. Or, like, if they're just, like, yeah, too complimentary. Like, I want a guy to just, like, kind of insult me.

Really? Yeah. Like, on my hinge, on one of my hinge prompts, it's like, um, I like a guy who insults me or something. And then I get all these guys who insult me.

Oh my god, but there's this running insult, like a common insult that all these guys say, and it's how hairy my arms are. And I'm like, okay, now it's getting too much. So you've basically opened up your hinge for insults. Why would you do that to yourself? Just because I kind of like an insult. That's like a fetish of yours yeah

interesting i can imagine you like would like rough sex in the bedroom yeah yeah yeah wow yeah wow what's your biggest ick okay my i have two icks so i have when men talk about money and how much they earn if they bring bring in figures, it makes me feel sick. I went on a date with this one guy who's very famous. Yeah. And he, that was all it was about. It's so gross. And I was like feeling like I was interviewing him.

Yeah. Oh, I knew. Blonde. Yeah, blonde is my type. Oh, not my type. Really? No. Well, that's good, we'll get along.

From what you saw. Another ick hynny'n dda. Rydym yn ymlaen. O'r hyn rydych chi'n ei weld. Yn arall, mae men sy'n cael cerddau â chordiau. Rwy'n credu bod hynny'n dda iawn. Cewch un airpod. Cewch un airpod. Mae hynny'n dda iawn. Rwy'n credu bod hynny'n dda iawn.

Rwy'n credu bod hynny'n dda iawn. Ydw. Cewch un wireless. Beth arall? Efallai un gynharach. O, mae'r sôr pasta o'r maw. O, nid wyf wedi profi hynny. Un gynharach sydd ganddo sôr pasta.

Na, nid wyf. O, na. O, na. Neu. Ne mouth. Oh, I've never experienced that. No, not me. Oh, no. Or a guy who just can't eat properly. No. That's reminding me of the Jeffrey Dahmer guy.

Yeah. Guy who's got food stuck in his teeth. Like, anything with the mouth, oof, gross. Yeah, ew. Okay, shall we move on to the next topic, which is questions that people have asked. like struggles and things people like find hard. Calgary, also known as the blue sky city. We get more sunny days than anywhere in the country.

But more importantly, we are the Canadian capital of blue sky thinking. This is where bold ideas meet big opportunity where dreams become reality whether you're building your career or scaling your business calgary is where what if turns into what's next it's possible here in calgary the blue sky city learn more at calgary economic when being single one thing that popped up a lot was people finding it hard to like go on solo trips or like who's gone holiday with when you're not in a relationship like you still obviously want to travel and go on holiday but like if all your friends are in relationships and you don't have someone it can be quite a barrier. So I'll start by saying, I've definitely been thinking about this a lot as well,

as obviously I'm now single. And I've actually been thinking about going on a solo trip. Just by myself. I think you should, that'd be really good. Like more as well for like an independence, confidence boosting thing. Cause I feel like it'd be really empowering to just go away on your own.

Also just to even just get a flight on your own it's quite like wow well done me yeah I agree I need to do that a night yeah I think yeah I mean I've got that out my sister when I need to do that again I mean I can do it again what have you gone traveling alone before oh six months wow by myself wow yeah so that I really got that oh yeah you've done that been there done that I think it made me so independent it's a joke so I need to do that in my life yeah but the thing is with that question or that problem I don't know any different so like I've never had that problem yeah so I think but like then how I guess you deal with it by just going with your friends even though even

when they are in relation yeah a lot of people like if you've got good friends they still want to segregate time for their friends as well as their partners hopefully yeah I've never struggled with that yeah if you've got friends who are like just spending all their time with a boyfriend oh that's the worst that's not good that's the worst you did that for a while with me

oh shut up she did she did no I didn't know it's because we went from literally being joined at the head yeah yeah to not to not hundred to zero it's easy to get lost a bit yeah yeah I still I still made time for you come on yeah I did and that was hard okay I was yeah because me and your partner didn't go at all yeah that doesn't make it easy that doesn't make it easy it was it was real hard for me real hard well thank you real hard okay um oh this one this one came up a lot missing sex and not wanting to just hook up that's yeah i don't want to just hook up the two they don't work if you miss sex

you may just have to just hook up yeah but then if you're going to hook up i personally would want to utilize that person more than once so like a friends of benefits situation yeah yeah i think i've had a few too many one night stands i think, they would make me cry. I would physically, I've never had a one night stand, ever. I would cry. No, I haven't. What's that? No. You clearly have, though.

No, I don't. Go on, it's not a big thing. I haven't had a one night stand. No. No, no, I haven't. Guys, stop. No, one thing, because we were going through my questions yesterday,

last night, and we were like, just get a vibrator. Yeah. I actually don't know. I don't own one. What? Do you own one?

Yeah. You don't own a vibrator? Emma said she's going to get me one for my birthday. I got one for my birthday. Upgraded one. Who got you one? My best friend. That is such a good gift from a friend.

Do you think most girls have one? Yeah. Yeah. I don't have one. I think it's not normal that you don't have one. Not not normal, but like. I don't have one. I think it's uncommon that you don't have one.

Is it? Well, I need to. Gosh, do not. God, I'm in my 30s as well and I haven't got one. I need to live a little more. So do you not? No. No?

No. Because I, not that it makes me sound, I'm not like this, but I've always, I always have a friends with benefits for a second of time. Okay, okay.

Yeah. But I've actually just lost contact with my current friends with benefits. Maybe that's a good thing. So maybe this is my time. Thank God, by the way. Yeah. He was a waste of time.

Emma, really? Yeah, so maybe it's time to get a vibrator. Yeah, in my life. Love, honey. Maybe I should buy one for Valentine's Day for myself. Oh, so maybe it's time to get a vibrator. Yeah, in my life. Love, honey. Maybe I should buy one for Valentine's Day for myself. Oh, yeah. Great idea.

You know what, they're quite expensive. Yeah. Really expensive. I have a whole collection now. Right. You know what? Do you have a drawer dedicated to them? I do.

Can I just say, there's a whole world out there. Oh my God, this is making me look so bad. Really, like, it is a whole world, isn't it? There's so many different varieties that you can go. Yeah, there's one, right? This is so cool. This is kind of one which you would get if you're in a relationship,

but it's where your partner can sync the vibrator to their phone and they can control it from their phone when they're not with you. Right. Wow. Isn't this like that movie where she wears the pants? Yeah. And the guy's got the controller. I love that film.

That's really funny. What's that movie? That's funny. But that is a very good way to get around that problem. I agree. If you're missing sex, you can... There was a story that I heard of a flatmate using her flatmate's vibrator.

Ew. And she didn't tell her. Oh her that's so weird that's not more that's more than disgusting it's like incest oh that's so weird yeah that's really gross if my flatmate or friend did that i'd be like you're never stepping foot in my house again yeah you do you have to put a lock on your door yeah lock on everything yeah oh that's so gross what's the next question okay another question feeling like every date is just meh oh i feel that yeah wow i just think so feel that i just think for me i need to take a step back from dating this is like my my belief about it okay like if you're

single you don't need to feel the pressure to be going on all of these dates especially if in your experience the dates you're going on are a waste of time and you're not getting much enjoyment out of it like if you're not enjoying these dates like there is no pressure to be going on that but that time into doing a new hobby seeing your friends self-development going to the gym cooking like whatever like there is so many more things you can do that is more worthwhile your time than going on a date i so agree i very much i never feel pressured to go on a date like i have you ever asked a guy out on a day never i've i've done it once i'm doing it again oh how did oh, did you actually?

Yeah. Who was it? I'm kind of seeing someone at the moment. I was like, oh, okay. Well, do you know what? Talk to me then. Well done for you for trying. I know, I was really proud of myself.

No, that's a- Took a lot of encouragement. That's a good thing. How did you respond well at the time? Did you go, oh, no worries? Yeah, I was like, okay, no worries. Where was the setting, in the gym or? No, no, it was on Instagram.

Okay, at least you weren't face-to-face. No, gosh. Oh, God, I don't think I would ever do it face-to-face. Oh, see, I would more rather do it face-to-face. Really? Being stood up like almost a girl? Oh, my God, I slid into someone's DMs recently and it was horrific. What happened?

I did. I had a few drinks with my housemate and she told me to do something, so I did it. I... No, this is so embarrassing. I'm just going to say his name on the podcast. fy nghymddiad i a dywedodd i mi wneud rhywbeth felly fe wnes i'r cwbl. Dwi... Na, mae hyn yn ddiddorol iawn. Dwi'n mynd i ddweud ei enw ar y podcast. Dwi wedi dod i ddm'r DM'r Bradley Simmons. Na!

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Nid, nid, nid. Dweud y peth. Allaf i ddarllen y peth? Nid, dwi wedi llwyddo'r holl beth oherwydd roedd yn anodd. Nid yw'n darllen y peth, roeddwn i'n gallu bod yn y cymryd y cymrydion, gobeithio nad oeddwch chi ddim wedi gweld. Felly, fe wnes i ddweud rhywbeth fel, hei,

fel, rwy'n meddwl bod chi'n, fel, mor hir. Ydych chi eisiau mynd i fynd i mewn i ffwrdd? Roeddwn i'n drwg. Roedd hynny'n wirioneddol dda. Nid, roeddwn i'n drwg iawn. Iawn. I think you're like really hot. Do you want to go out and drink sometime? I was drunk. That's actually really good. No, I was really drunk. Okay. Then a week later,

I went into the leanest office and I didn't realize he was coach on the app and I bumped into him. Oh God. I don't think he realized who I was or he wouldn't have pinpointed me to that message. But I was like stroking his dog, not realizing it was his

and I was like, oh my God, that's Bradley. Oh my God. That's fate. No, it's not. It's embarrassment for me. y neges honno. Ond roeddwn i'n troi'r dog i'w droi, heb ei gwybod ei fod yn ei neges, ac yna roeddwn i'n meddwl, Oh no. I think you would have seen it. But I don't think you may have put the two and two together. Yeah, maybe not. Let's hope and pray. Did he message you? Did he follow you at all? Did he know your name?

Maybe this is my form of rejection too. But yeah, I can see that happening. I can see you guys going on a date. Really? No, no. No, if with my luck, the date would just go badly, obviously. No, obviously something would happen. But I have, like, yeah, every date I on it's always i've always walked away from it being

like it was the best yeah if you don't walk away from dates in general feeling like optimistic and energized and good about yourself like don't do it literally but why why do we have so much pressure because technically if we're here for like 100 years. Yeah, we've got a lot of time. We've got ages. And like it's your time. You only have one life, so why are you wasting it on strangers? Literally.

But also like, I always feel like it's really good to get that dating experience. Like even though you may not, like I go on dates, not because I like them, I'm like, oh, this is gonna go well. But sometimes I go on dates because I'm just like, it's just for experience, I need to get the experience. It's also nice just to meet people and be social.

And you learn a lot about yourself when you're on a date. Yeah. You really do, you learn about what you want, what you like in a guy, you learn about yourself. You just learn a lot. And you gain confidence after every date, I feel like. No. No?

For me it goes down. It does. But I feel like you're such a confident For me, it goes down. It does. But I feel like you're such a confident person that even you going on all these dates makes you really confident. It takes a lot of courage to go on a date. It drains you, though, with all the speaking you have to do. Yeah.

Do you look forward to dates when you go on them? No, I sometimes dread them. Yeah, I dread them because I know what my history of dating is. Like these dates I'm going to go on next week, I'm like, oh, I'm dreading them. Are you? Yeah. On dates, do you talk to go on next week, I'm dreading them. Are you? Yeah.

On dates, do you talk to your dates about other dates you have lined up? No. Oh, that's what I've been doing. Maybe that's where I'm going wrong. Not sure about that. You idiot. No, I wouldn't do that. Oh.

No, I wouldn't do that. Well, because we're both on, like, if I meet them on Hinge, I'm like, so, have you got any more dates lined up? No, I wouldn't do that. Oh, okay. Let's not do that anymore. I wouldn't do that. Okay, okay. But you do you anymore okay okay yeah yeah just be yourself

yeah that's what you're being that's absolutely fine exactly it's fine any guy will will fall for you who is the right guy well this is true that's this is what i said this is what i said to her last night she was like emma no one's ever gonna like me and i was like well i like you yeah yeah as long as you have friends and you like yourself i like myself yeah so it's proof that someone's good. So that's proof that someone's good. As long as you have friends, you're all good. And you like yourself. I like myself, yeah, so it's fine. It's fine. Do you ever struggle though? Are you ever like, you feel left out? Sometimes.

No, do you know what? That was when I put my questions on my story, a lot of people asked like, how do you deal with feeling lonely in the evenings? Yeah, that's a good question. Which is a good question. I feel so lonely. Yeah, but what is your way to combat that?

Because I don't, yeah yeah I don't think I just think you need to learn to love your own company yeah and it's like hobbies like what's your hobbies like I'll just do artwork that's quite time fulfilling right one thing I think people need to um understand is that being in a relationship doesn't actually mean it's going to be better or you're going to feel happier or more comfort or more at ease like a lot of the time being single can be a lot more liberating freeing less anxious yeah and you'll feel better being alone and single than in a relationship if it's a toxic unhealthy relationship there's so many of my friends who have like come up relationships and they're like oh my god i'm so much happier yeah because three others you'll look at people in relationships and assume that it's so perfect they're so happy and going to

bed all cuddly every night but like no they could just be fighting and arguing every night and going to sleep on an argument so think about what you'd rather like have that kind of relationship or be alone but be content and at peace. I agree. What would you rather be lonely and free or feel lonely and trapped? Like you just would rather be single. Cause you can still feel lonely in a relationship. For sure.

You can feel insecure in a relationship. Yeah. I definitely felt lonely towards the end of my long-term relationship. And it's yes the worst he just wasn't there for you yeah just no attention yeah how do you think it's like you know when you're in a long-term relationship you just get really comfortable you just become like complacent right you just co um codependent no you what's I can't think

of the word where you're just literally coasting along living with each other like flatmates oh gosh right that's what it became but then i do think when you are in a relationship for that long of a time you have to put the work in like with the dating yeah making sure you have time for each other otherwise it's never gonna last keeping it spicy yeah keeping it exciting yeah yeah i think that like leads on well to us talking about why being single can often be a lot better than being in a relationship and it's not something you need to feel like ashamed or bad or like you're missing out on or behind in life because there's so many benefits being single like it's actually one of the best things you can do to, like, find who you are.

Oh, for sure. Yeah, like, find yourself. You have so much more autonomy and freedom and choice and independence when you're single. You have no one to answer to. You can go and do whatever the fuck you want. And you are literally the author of your own life. And you don't have to tell anyone you don't have to answer to anyone you don't have to like consider someone else one thing

i found eye-opening when i broke up with my ex from a long time i am a different person to this day yeah i'm independent confidence and then it just almost made me resent him for making me feel not that when i was in that relationship. And then I noticed all these benefits when I was single and now I'm like, wow, that shows what happens to you when you're in a place where you're not happy. I always say to myself. That is a huge benefit.

Like becoming more independent because then it makes you more mature and it makes you more confident. And it makes you know what you wanna do in your life as well. Do you have that time to focus on what you like doing? And like to see if you're going down the right path in your life. You know, and when you're down the right path,

then the right person will come along in the right time. I always say like, I don't need a guy to add anything to my life. It will just be an extra cherry on top. Like I'm already happy. You should never rely on another person to make your quality of life higher ever oh my god that reminds me i might

butcher this but hamish our friend told me a really good analogy about cake and relationships he'll definitely be listening to this yeah hey hamish um he was saying that a cake is like the base for the relationship no no you no i you, no, I butchered that. You as an individual are the cake. You're the cake. The icing is like all of the extra things in your life, like your career, your friends, all of this. And then the cherry on the top is the relationship or the partner.

So they're just there to like enhance it a little bit, but they aren't like formulating the cake or the icing. They not the base no like you are an independent person and that cake is still going to be a cake whether it's got cherry on top or not yeah it's not gonna fall that's a really good analogy well done yeah i think i think that was right yeah i don't like cherries though so i have to replace it with no we can say sprinkles a A bit of chocolate. Mine would be Biscoff. Oh yeah. Oh my god, so that actually, from the dates, you know when I had the mental breakdown after the awful date instance I had?

Which one? You know the two dates I started? Sorry, yeah, okay. So I obviously have a binge eating disorder from the past. I realised that I'm emotionally triggered and I went to the shop on purpose because I knew, I was like, right, I'm really emotional right now. And I devoured a jar of briskbust bread.

A whole jar. Well, half one day, half the next. So you turn to food when you're emotional. Yeah, but I think the way you're learning to overcome that is because you are fully acknowledging you have that issue. That's the key, that's the key. And you were aware that it was that emotional trigger that forced you into that. I knew full well what I was doing.

After therapy, I realised that my first few sessions, I always went to the fridge. I was like, I need food. Because I was like, I'm exhausted. I was like, I need food. Just turning to food straight away without even clocking into my body. And I said this to her in my third session.

And she was like, like what you said, it's great that you even acknowledge that that is a trigger, that you are connecting your emotions with food. Like that is the first step. That is. It is. Yeah, so I know next time like,

Jasmine, no, don't eat into that behavior. You need to find other ways to make yourself happy. But also, if having a bit of Biscoff is gonna help you. Yeah. It tasted amazing. I didn't regret it yeah i enjoyed it there's no guilt or negativity attached no then there you go yeah it's just so good i don't i don't crave this what i'm a pb girl oh no i'm not really pb and do it not what neat peanut butter in the mouth oh that's too much for me i really love it i never used to be that person. I love it.

Okay, let's get back to benefits of being single. Benefits of being single. You have more time to spend with your friends and you make more friends, you meet a lot more people. Oh, your friendship will be thriving when you're single. Like, I feel like when I'm single, since my relationship, I have spent so much more time with my friends and that has made me maybe feel so fulfilled and happy i think you're more adventurous

as well you want to do new things travel more yeah yeah and the thing is like like it kind of links the the girl who asked about um how her friends are all in a relationship she's finding it hard to go on holiday and stuff you need to find friends who are willing to spend more time with you as well, not just with their partner. Because it's really hard to be single and all your friends and relationships, like I've literally my whole life is that. But my friends, I love my friends so much

that they put time into their friendships as well. And you just need to make sure that you communicate with your friends and if you're feeling like they're leaving you out or they're neglecting you or spending all their time with their boyfriend, you just need to communicate a bit Ac mae'n rhaid i chi wneud yn siŵr y byddwch yn cyfathrebu gyda'ch ffrindiau. Ac os ydych yn teimlo eu bod yn eu gadael i chi allan, neu maen nhw'n eithaf yn eithaf yn eich anodd, neu'n gwthio'u holl amser gyda'u ffrindiau, mae'n rhaid i chi gydweithio ychydig a dweud, byddaf am fynd allan i ddod i ddod i ddod â chi.

Ie. Mae hynny'n bwysig iawn. Mae'n bwysig iawn. Ac rwy'n credu bod popeth rwyf wedi dysgu ers bod yn unig, gyda'r hyder, a'r amser i gael ffrindiau, os byddaf i'n cwrdd â rhywun sy'n fy partner bywyd, byddaf yn sicrhau bod y ffyrdd hynny yn y cysylltiad hwnnw.

Ac yn sicrhau bod gen i amser i gael ffrindiau. Ac byddaf yn gobeithio, os byddaf i'n... Wel, dwi ddim yn gobeithio fy mod i'n mynd i lawr y rôd os byddaf yn gwneud hynny i fy ffrindiau. Ond os byddaf yn gwneud hynny, byddaf yn gobeithio bod fy ffrindiau yn mynd i'r blaen. A dyna'r rôd y byddech yn ei wneud i mi. O, ie, roeddwn i'n eithaf anodd gyda hwn. Ie, mae angen ffrindiau.

Beth wnaethon i ddweud? Cynnydd anodd. Cynnydd anodd. Cynnydd anodd. Beth wnaethon i ddweud i chi? O, roed friends. What did I say? Hard love. Tough love. Tough love. What did I say to you? Oh, we had an argument in the gym once. We had an actual fight. Yeah.

Not a physical fight. What happened? We had a verbal, loud fight. Right by the dumbbell. And then our accountant brought us mid-fight in the street as well. Oh, that was another time. Oh, my God. We had two arguments.

Yeah. Who initiated it? It was We had two arguments. Yeah. Who initiated it? It was about the same thing. Yeah. But the lesson here is that you should always listen to your best friend. Because friends always know. They've got the feeling. And, yeah.

I had that sense of danger on the date. I had that sense of danger when he came into your life. Danger. Danger. Danger, danger. Okay, right. the danger when he came into your life danger danger okay right another benefit is this one i love and i feel this you have so much more structure and routine in your life yeah single and you just wake up you can you've got all the time to go smash your workout get straight to work be productive do hobbies like you can just like design, like you're saying like,

your own routine without having to account for anyone. You know what, that's one thing that really puts off relationships. Like I think that's why I'm scared of relationships because of that, because I don't like being uncertain with where I'm like sleeping and like, I wanna, you know, like know where I am, know what I'm doing.

I don't wanna just be like spontaneous every single day or like really put me off, throw me off. One of a pro and a con to being in love, I suppose, is there's a moment, like honeymoon phase, where you are obsessed with each other and you can't leave each other's side, but you're doing nothing. Right.

So there's no routine happening, but you're also enjoying it because you love them so much. So it's just unproductive, but great at the same time. Interesting. So then when that honeymoon phase ends, then you've got to get into that routine again. Yeah. You need to still stay focused on you and your goals.

Always, forever. Yeah. That's why I need a guy who has some sort of direction in their life. They know what they're doing. They know what they want to do. They have a goal. They can focus on themselves.

Well, I focus on myself, and we come together, and we just make each other. That is the most attractive thing in a man ever in the whole entire world. Yeah. It really is. When they are so independent, driven, hardworking. Have their own passion.

They have their own friends, their own life. Like they aren't gonna be pestering you all day. That is too much. But also I don't want them to make, like that be their priority and not. It's the balance. I want them to find the balance. It's the balance. Yeah, I'd rather they just kept busy. make like that be their priority and not it's the balance it's a balance yeah i think so my

love language is like i i would love to receive words of affirmation and like quality time yeah what's your love language my love language is oh that's a tricky one i think it's that too i like Fy iaith cwbl oedd... O, mae hynny'n anodd. Dwi'n meddwl mai dyna hefyd. Dwi'n hoffi... Na, dwi'n eithaf ymgysylltiedig. Dwi'n eich ymgysylltiedig. Ydych chi'n effeithlon? Ydych chi'n effeithlon iawn. Ond nid at fy ffrindiau, mewn gwirionedd.

Ond dim ond at partneriaid. Dwi'n gweld hynny'n ddewis. Dwi'n effeithlon at rhai pobl, mewn gwirionedd. Dwi'n effeithlon at rhai bobl. Ydych chi'n gwybod bod rhai ffrindiau nad ydych chi'n eu hwg? Ie. Ie, mae hynny'n ddewis. Ond mae rhai ffrindiau nad ydw i'n gallu...

Dwi'n gallu... Dwi'n gallu... Dwi'n rhaid i chi ddweud... Allwch chi ddweud, Emma. Dwi ddim yn am ddweud, ti'n gwneud hy? Yeah. Yeah, it's weird, isn't it? But there's some friends that I just can't, I can't, I just need to always. Can you touch Emma? I don't usually touch you, do I? Oh, look. But then I do, I do like, I can easily hold your hand. Yeah. And hug you, but with the other friends I can't.

It's weird, isn't it? That I didn't like, why? I don't know. You're not a very huggy person. I'm not a very huggy person. I don't think I even hugged you when you came in. Oh, no, you didn't. No, I'm just so rude. I'm such a huggy person. I'm so sorry. I love the hug. But then when I'm in a very huggy person. I don't think I even hugged you when you came in. Oh, no you didn't. I'm such a huggy person.

I'm so sorry. But then when I'm in a relationship, I'm extremely tactile. It's so weird. To be fair actually, I'd like to receive touch. I see I don't. No, you're not a touch. No, I'm like, hmm.

Yeah, get off my- I'm a acts of service kind of person. Like little acts of service, something that's gonna, like a little thing that's gonna really help me. Or like, bring me some water. Yeah. Or like, you just like,

the key to Emma's heart is just buying her a favourite fruit pot from Sainsbury's. Yeah, the melon and grape pot. If you buy me that, you can be my husband. Yeah. Yeah, true. Little things like that.

But then I think that's gifts. That's, yeah, gifts. No, because it's not, because I didn't care. Well, that is a gift. Because's yeah gifts no because it's not because i didn't care well that is because i don't care no no we didn't love myself love bomb yourself honey yeah okay right let's give the listeners some ideas for things they can do on valentine's day if they're single because right we are not going into Valentine's Day this year feeling all mopey. Oh god I remember last year. Yeah it was on a weekend last year. Yeah it was on a weekend. And my fat mate was with her boyfriend and they were very cuddly and I was just like. Yeah you were with your boyfriend. I had a hundred red roses. Wow. This year's gonna be very different. What did I do onentine's day i think i just ordered loads of pasta you do that a lot when i when i'm feeling down with their boyfriend you order the pasta

in what is it from coco de mami yeah i always order two pots of large pasta because i'm feeling sad and i'll eat them i'll eat them oh it's a good pasta so i don't really care yeah it's great okay so first of all obviously galentine's yeah get your girls who are single do a galentine's day we did that two years ago we did oh and then we did like um take like take out and then we did like a photo shoot oh that's really we've really actually got all dressed up and made ourselves oh it was actually really fun and it was so much fun we put music on had amazing food i'm like just taking cute like friend pictures. I love that.

It was a vibe. And then another thing last night, which I'm not going to repeat that you didn't have me. Absolutely. And I thought we tell each other everything. No. Can you tell me? No.

Oh, I think Millie would judge me. No, Millie wouldn't judge you. No, Millie wouldn't. Millie's not a judgementist. No. Millie. What? No.

No. I can't say it. No, I can't say it. Go go on we'll tell you afterwards wow okay another thing you can do instead of just the galentines this is such a cute idea do like a secret santa kind of vibe that's cute with your friends so like you'll put your name like if you've got like a group of single girls yeah put your name into a hat and then you all get each other like a little secret um you can go treat yourself to flowers oh my god i'm buying myself flowers this year yeah and as well if you're buying your own flowers and chocolate at least then you know you can get your actual favorite one yeah so true that matched your interior yeah um one thing that i think everyone should do if you're feeling a little bit negative and down

about valentine's day take the day to unplug and get off of social media just don't like comparing yourself to people who are in all like these happy loved up at the same time i also think embrace it wear pink and red yeah literally get involved spend the day like i never ever get involved in valentine's day so i just treat it as any other day maybe this year you should get involved yeah maybe maybe this year is yeah because like sometimes that could work with for me but sometimes it doesn't and sometimes i feel really sad so maybe i'll just get really involved and really like yeah i'm gonna wear red underwear that day. I know it.

Yeah, I'm gonna embrace it that day. I always do like a pink underwear post on Valentine's Day. You do, yeah. It's just like become. I think I have to do that for a few years because of the lounge. Yeah. Yeah, we took Emma's this morning.

What, for lounge? I did good, right? She did do good. Yeah, in the hotel. Yeah, it was lovely. It was a lovely picture. Oh, thank you. It's your photograph. I'm yeah it's lovely it's lovely thank you also just remember it's a day like you were saying like you don't have to celebrate it you can literally treat it like any other day yeah which I think I might do I'm thinking about you going away actually find it madness that people have made

this day big thing and also kind of freaks me out how everyone's going back home to have sex. I just don't like that. Do you think everyone has sex on Valentine's Day? Do you, really? I think I was conceived on Valentine's Day. Oh. It works out in the calendar year, yeah.

Oh my God. I know. Mom and dad getting up to no good. Wow. I feel like we need to round up the podcast. Yeah, we do. We do. Okay, so I hope this single girls to round up the podcast. Yeah, we do. We do. Okay.

So I hope this single girls chat has been somewhat helpful. Entertaining. I really enjoyed that chat. Funny. Funny. I feel like you have a lot more stories in you. She's got a lot more stories. I've got more stories.

She could write a bloody book on it. I hope everyone enjoys my terrible dating love life. I definitely do. No, I don't. I'd read the don't I'd actually read the book on it would you? I put it on my stories people love it so much it's like when we did

the dating that week but maybe me talking about it is literally cock blocking myself I do think that sometimes as well when I think about yeah yeah fuck it the right guy will love it exactly you know it's fine um maybe it scares people away yeah because they're like yeah she's hard to impress you literally said you're hard to impress it's not good i'm cock blocking myself we're cock blocking around anyway quote a relationship won't heal you

and being single won't kill you that's a great quote a relationship won't heal you and being single won't kill you yeah and also I'm just loving the Miley Cyrus song right now oh my god that song is a vibe it's a fucking vibe

that is a valentines day song that is a vibe. It's a fucking vibe. It is. I'm a single. I'm a single. That is a Valentine's Day song. That is a, yeah. Say that loud, go get your nails done, dress up in pink and red, buy your own flowers. That's what everyone needs to do. You do not need a mat. Single on Valentine's Day.

I will be. I will be. What's your quote? Well, I'm just now looking up a new quote, a relationship quote to make it. Okay, should I go over mine? To thrive being single, you need to get over the illusion that there is someone out there

who is supposedly going to complete your life and take charge of your own life. Boom. No one, only you, like I said, as the author of your own life. You're the cake. Yes. You just need a cherry you don't you

don't know you don't you don't need a cherry you're a great cake without you don't need the cherry you don't need one it's just as yummy without it it is tastes the same well thank you so much for listening guys thank you jasmine for coming on the party yeah thanks for having me we'll have to go back for a three. Round three. More dating stories. Oh, more dating stories. That means you need to go on more to create more. But imagine if I come back with a really good dating story. Hopefully.

Fingers crossed. We'll proof you. Yeah. Okay. All right. Love you guys. See you next week. Bye.

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