Real Girls Radio - EP 6: PART 1 - Dating stories, Rejection and Catfishing

Episode Date: April 18, 2022

grab some snacks and chillax whilst we chat ABOUT...(PART 1) an update on Emma's frantic life and near death experience, Milly's dating stories, single life and dating dilemmas! We reveal the polls we put on our stories and hear your opinions on what's classified as ok and what's not ok whilst you're in a relationship.SUCH a good ep! Make sure you listen to ep 2 for some more juiciness! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/e-1-the-unheard-truth-of-millys-journey. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Love this podcast? Support this show through the Acast Supporter feature. It's up to you how much you give and there's no regular commitment. Just hit the link in the show description to support now. Hello and welcome to Braille Girls Radio. I'm Millie. And I'm Emma. And we are both very normal bro girls just like you. Here to talk about all things health, fitness and navigating your way through this crazy life.

We're your new besties. We want you to feel part of our weekly chats and we're excited to invite you in to our exclusive girl gang. Grab some snacks and chillax whilst we chat. Woo! Yeah. Okay, I think we got it. I think we got it. I'm getting frisky.

You're getting frisky. Hey, guys. Hello, hello, hello. Welcome back to episode... Number six. Five. Six. Six.

I'm not very well right now, so take what you say. No, that's not very well. Also, guys, okay, I'm going to try and rein it in a bit be a bit more chill not too she says you just get so excited but like i'm gonna try and not cut you off because i feel like i do do that so i'm gonna like sit it's just how we chat though we get so excited and passionate about what we're talking about no i know we do we are so cute oh my god i'm so excited

for today's episode i am too so today's episode is going to be all about dating and relationships we put up quite a few polls and question boxes and stuff on the instagram last night and so many of you have got involved that we are actually thinking of doing a part one and part two of relationships and dating yeah just because so many of you had so much to say and so many questions and we also cover yeah we also feel like there's so much to talk about on this topic yeah oh my god yeah i'm very excited i'm so excited but anyway before we get into that how are you oh i'm good i'm back from lisbon yeah so it's really nice to get away and chill and you know i might have wedding my cousin's wedding was really nice and it was really nice to get away and chill and you know i might have wedding my cousin's wedding

was really nice and it was really hot but it's also good feedback i feel like when i go away and then i come back i'm like oh shit there's so much to do like oh i feel like i've only just started to get back into routine and like everything's kind of like you know all done now and i'm like back on the road yeah and you're kind of like me aren't you like creature of habit yeah structure of routine we do so as much as it's fun and nice to go away and travel and go on holiday like i actually love yeah being in a good routine just normal boring sleep work gym so when i go away i'd rather go away for two weeks plus so then i find the routine as well yeah i mean yeah but then again you still come back and you're like when I went travelling for six months

obviously that's a very long time I was still craving home routine it's kind of weird because I did I was in like certain places where like

I was there for long enough to experience what it is like living there did you go to a gym out there? a few when I was in you know my ed phase

that was so I was just kind of walking everywhere yeah more like consumer calories and activity yeah yeah yeah yeah because then after that so it was in australia when i was introduced to weight training by my best friend and australia was like one of the last places i went traveling and i went to la oh my god so la i don't know have you been before no but i really want to go to LA. Oh my God. We should. No, we should go together. We'll go on tour.

Woo. Okay, we actually have to plan that. Like Emma's eyes are like darting. Get me to LA. So in LA, you don't walk anywhere. Like everyone drives because it's so vast. And vast, is that the right word? I don't know.

What's the word you're looking for? Like it's... Spread out. Spread out. Ah, okay. So, but me, I walked everywhere. But also on the map, it looks like it's closed, but it's not. It's like an hour and a half walk. Oh, right.

So, yeah, anyway, that's what I'll be doing. Oh, my God. Well, we should definitely go there. Yeah, we should. Coachella's coming up soon. I know. So many of my clients are going there. Really?

Yeah, so we're on, like... Your clients. You know get get in shape i love that i really want to go but then also at the same time i think that it is just like a place that you go and take pictures and like are people actually interested in anything else is it kind of like a camping thing like do you come i don't think people come i think people oh okay right yeah because nice villas and stuff i've never been camping you've never been camping no i don't you only get glamping no i've never been glamping oh my god what no i just i've never slept in a tent well to be fair it's not the best thing have you have you gone camping yeah oh my god a lot i go to i used to go to sony festivals oh see i've never

been to a festival in my life oh my god emma fit at a festival i can't imagine no i can't either but i can imagine at coachella i can maybe maybe next year we should um right so we'll go to la and then we'll go to coachella and we'll literally bring real girls rodeo oh my god road trip around america guys this is us manifesting it right anyway let's do a flop and fly yeah give me your should we start flop or fly i think we start the flop let's start with the flop end on a fly go on what's your i was in lisbon and i feel like a lot of people saw us on instagram but i was at a wedding and i got really drunk but i didn't realize i was so drunk like there was no point in the night where i was like oh i'm drunk like it was just very like very gradual and i was so

drunk at the end but again not even realizing i woke up the next day oh my god the worst like i mean the worst hangover i've ever had in my life and i'm not even exaggerising, I woke up the next day, oh my god, the worst, like, I mean the worst hangover I've ever had in my life, and I'm not even exaggerating, I genuinely couldn't get out of bed. What did you drink? I couldn't even eat, I just drank a mixture of everything, tequila shots, wine, I drank, um, I think I drank a bit of vodka, gin and tonic. And you don't drink that much, do you? No, it's like, when you drink it hits you hard. Yeah, well actually, to be fair, I'm actually quite of like a, what do you call it, um, like... When you drink, it hits you hard. Yeah. Well, actually, to be fair, I'm actually quite of like a... What do you call it? A hard weight.

Like, it takes a lot for me to drink when you're drunk. Okay, I am the opposite. But you're lightweight, aren't you? Guys, I will literally have one shot and I'll be drunk. You're a cheap girl to take out. Very. On New Year's Eve, I had a single vodka Diet Coke and I was off. Oh, no, you weren't.

So embarrassing. Oh, my God. You would have died then if you were me. You actually would have died. I mean I thought I was dying. So how did you recover from this hangover? Time. There was no other way. Honestly it was just waiting for me to just feel somewhat better.

And when I can't eat like that is a big sign. Yeah. Like that's a big sign. So that was a really big flop. I guess my fly is just that i went away and it was i already mentioned this in the other podcast we did i think it was on body image but it was my first time going away after gaining weight first time with free freedom and it just was the best time away it made all the difference was there anything on your trip that you noticed was was like significantly different to previous trips i didn't have the urge to work out

i would always be so guilty of not doing a workout that day i feel like because the gym wasn't even available for me like maybe if a gym was available for me it could have been different because i think if once it's there but you still don't do it that's you know another barrier but the fact that it wasn't even option for me it wasn't even in my head. Yeah. You just kind of accept, like, I'm on holiday. I'm having a good time. I don't need to drink. And also, pastel de nata there. Pastel de nata?

I don't know how you say that. They're like custard tarts, like pastries. Lots of pastry. Yum. I would always avoid it. I really would. But I had it and I was just like, wow, this is, I've missed out on so much good food. So it was really good.

And do you know what? Sometimes it is so good to just go away and not worry about your training or the gym and i think so many people think they're gonna regress lose all their progress like gain all this weight from taking a week off but i promise you sometimes the best thing you can do for your performance and your body and your training and your mindset is to take a week off have a deload i actually program deloads into a lot of my clients programs where like every sort of like 10 to 12 weeks would take a week off so going on holiday and having a week off is like actually you know beneficial beneficial sometimes i loved it anyway what was yours okay we'll start with my flop so right now i'm actually really not very

well i'm drugged up on um cocodamol cocodamol which is codeine for everyone who doesn't know that yeah she's codeined up okay right let's reverse on sunday it was um jasmine my friend's birthday went out for dinner and then right after we finished i had such like severe pain in my side i was like cramped over on the floor like i don't know what's happening to me but i need to go to hospital so she drove me to hospital and no one could see me for like three hours so they gave me like a lot of painkillers and it did start to like make the pain go away so i was like oh i'm fine i can just go so i just left like thinking i'll be fine like that's just how i am like if i don't have to be at hospital i will get the

hell out of that you know so i went back home and then woke up in the night like again like severe pain i was just in tears so called 111 and then they told me to go back to a&e and i was at a&e all day monday about 13 hours having all these tests done like at first they thought it was appendicitis and they were like make sure you don't eat anything because we might have to rush you into theater the next thing they were telling me that they think i've got a cyst in my womb so i've never had a scan you know where they put the thingy oh oh god have you had that before yeah yeah yeah it's like a very lubricated like long stick yeah it goes right up extremely uncomfortable imagine that also being in severe pain and having the doctors like press your stomach in the area whilst that thing is inside

you not nice anyway this is where i thought i was going to die because the nurse literally looked at me and said i cannot see your left ovary which is really quite worrying and then i was like all right what does that mean she was like well if i can't find your ovary then it means it's flipped and i was like and what does that mean she was like well if your ovary flips then you die it's literally how she said it to me i was like huh and then for about five ten minutes after that she was still searching around for my left ovary like no can't find it and i'm there thinking I'm gonna die because she's just said that to me were you crying yeah I was so nervous I'm just thinking oh no like what's happened but anyway turns out I have both my ovaries and I'm not gonna die I have kidney stones though

which is far more painful than I ever imagined it just it feels like there is actually something stuck in you and it's so painful and it stings and it's horrible and there's actually nothing you can do apart from drink lots of water take paracetamol and painkillers and just wait and like let it pass does it feel like a really painful stitch it's weird it's like a constant sort of pain and stinging and and then you've also got like a stabbing pain so now can you feel it not right now i don't have any stabbing pain but it is extremely painful like can you like hunch over and move around a bit yeah yeah it's just extremely are you still working out no no

rest everyone rest yeah you need to rest for your ill yeah so i'm just hoping that it passes in the next few days so i can get back into routine because i i know i just i'm really not feeling good right now i'm actually really upset because i was so motivated i just want to like be able to be in a good routine with my workouts and no distractions and sleep well and just like you know tick all the boxes and feel good and i can't i keep getting like knocked back and it's so demotivating yeah I can imagine you've just gone through some such shit every week I feel like every podcast episode you've always come with like a new story I hope people aren't gonna think I'm negative I'm actually

oh my god Emma is like generally the most positive person ever and you're always smiling I like you're actually always smiling during all of this because the thing is if you don't smile you'll cry it's your perception of everything and i always try and tell myself everything happens for you not to you yeah you always learn yeah from something you know what i've got quite a watch oh go on now should i say now yeah i've got so many quotes okay so it kind of does relate to what emma is being through and what she just said if you focus on the hurt you will continue to. If you focus on the hurt, you will continue to suffer. If you focus on the lesson, you will continue to grow. So I guess you could see these as lessons.

Yeah. In whatever way. Not entirely sure what the lesson is yet. But maybe I'll figure that out. Maybe you will figure that out, you know. I mean, I might be able to help and advise other people on what to do when they have kidney stones. Exactly.

Another quote, your mess becomes your message. Oh oh my god i've never heard that before i feel like you and i from our past experiences our mess in the past is now our message i need to write this down that is wow so i don't really know what's inspirational about kidney stones but you know hopefully some lesson well she said the cause could be stress oh yeah my doctor did say it can be brought on from being like stressed um and also i do have weak kidneys anyway which doesn't help obviously but anyway i'm just trying to get better fly my fly i did i went to budapest to wait for my boyfriend for his birthday oh my god yes you did we were both away at the same time wait Wait, so, okay, I'm getting confused with Barcelona and Budapest.

Yeah, so you went to Barcelona and then Budapest. Yeah, I went to Budapest like three weeks after Barcelona. Yeah.

And it was so nice. It was just like a really lovely trip. We didn't like plan loads of things. It was just kind of being tourists. Yeah,

casual, going with the flow. It was lovely. Oh, I love, Budapest is really nice. I would recommend. Have you been? Yeah, I went, where did i go 2018 2019 i feel like not that many people go there but it's such a beautiful place it's so beautiful like the castle yeah the castle and

like what was it because i went to budapest and i went to prague and i feel like both of those trips are molding into one for me my memory they look quite similar quite similar, don't they? Yeah, they are quite similar. I'm trying to remember Budapest, actually. Oh, yeah. It's actually quite big, isn't it? Yeah. Oh, my God. I do remember Budapest.

Yeah, it's really cute. Yeah, I highly recommend going. There's Old Town and New Town, isn't there? Yeah. Yeah. And, like, the old section, there's somewhere called, like, a fisherman's bastion. And it looks like a fairy tale princess world. Yes.

And you go up. You walk up. Yeah. But, anyway, that's my flop and fly well that's great yeah i'm hoping next week things are going to be all positive yeah cross my fingers oh and also guys no update yet on the um hotel oh yeah yeah yeah but things are looking relatively promising yeah i do emma's face i'm like i can see the light.

I can. I just feel like if nothing good comes from that, I'm just going to wrap myself in bubble wrap and not leave my house. Wrap yourself in bubble wrap. Why have I not heard of that before? You come up with the most weirdest phrases. I swear you do. Like you've actually said quite a few. Like in the time that I've known you.

You know what I was thinking? I was on the toilet earlier. And I was thinking. What was the toilet thinking of me? No, it was... I was thinking, when we first met, it was when I stayed at yours, wasn't it? What's that?

Yeah, that was the first time we met. But then I don't think we met... God, that's forward, isn't it? Yeah. But then I don't think we met much after that until we made the podcast, did we? I just felt like we knew each other from day one. Yeah, I felt like our connection was strong.

Yeah. But even, but like... When I first met you, I was nervous. Were you nervous? No, I wasn't nervous. I was nervous to come and stay with you, yeah. I was so excited. I was excited but nervous.

Like, it was like... We had such a good time that first. Yeah, we did. What do we... We have like... We got our ears pierced together. Was that... Oh my God, that was the first time.

Oh my God, yeah. Do you still have that i do wait which one was it yeah oh my god i love it so much me too i love it what did we do we went to the ivy was it the ivy no we went to the ivy for breakfast we went somewhere for breakfast no we went somewhere i don't think it's the ivy browns browns yeah that was very nice i went to the gym and we we had a wagon yeah we had a wagon mamas went for a walk yeah i went for a walk i was really cute anyway sorry guys anyway let's get into the topic of today which is relationships and dating boom

so to you disrespect how you feel but baby i'll never so we um on our um stories we yeah we put some polls in and we are gonna share the results with you guys it's so interesting i love doing these so the first poll that we put up would you kiss someone on a first date 78 yes absolutely 22 not a chance see this shocked me I would say yeah I would kiss a guy on a first date if I liked him enough would you? really would you not? I wouldn't kiss on a first date

I don't know I just think that's quite intimate like for the mouth no it is true the thing is I only say I would because usually when I go on first dates I would only really go on them if I know them well enough before like i don't like going on first dates where i really don't know the guy at all so for me and my experience i would because it's like i kind of you know i've exchanged a lot of conversation with them already like on text

and i'm a bit more comfortable with them and also if i like them have you ever had someone try to kiss you and you turn away yeah yeah that was, yeah. That was my most recent date. Oh, really? What happened? Yeah, yeah, yeah. So, oh, God, I really hope he's not listening to this. No, he won't be. Oh, actually, he could be.

No, he won't. So we walked back. Tell us the gossip. We walked back to mine. Because basically, I was like, oh, yeah, I need to go. It was like that awkward end of the date where you just don't know how to end it because I just wasn't really feeling it.

And I was like, oh, yeah, I need to go. And then he ended up walking me back. I just kind of want to get away with this get away from this guy you know and then he went in for the kiss when i was at my door and then i just went in for a hug yeah yeah yeah yeah it was really bad but i don't think it was as obvious i think i got away with it obviously on his side it's like shit staggering the heart yeah you know staggering the heart but yeah millie g fit rejected i know and i'm so bad with rejection as well so it's like i hate rejecting other people but then but then i thought if i if i kissed him that's just leading him on yeah and he would have got the

wrong message i had to give a follow-up message after i was like sorry so awkward yeah it's really awkward yeah it happened to me i once went on a date and it was in lockdown where like there was nothing open. So went to his house and he like cooked dinner and it was really nice. We were just like having a chat. And then I was like, right, I'm going to go. I'm going to book an Uber because obviously I'm not staying. And he was like, oh, no, no, no, don't book an Uber. And like tried to take my phone.

Oh, my God. He was like, I can take you home in the morning. I was like, absolutely not. I'm going home. Such a dick move. And then I think because he cooked me dinner, he felt like he had the right to kiss me. Wow.

Fully went in for it. And I had to, you know, step back a bit and say, you know, come on. Steady on. God's standards. It's almost various. But yeah, no, very, very awkward. But yeah, that is very interesting. Next one, do you don't read it what kind

of date vibe would you prefer so the options were picnic in the park or a dinner date and drinks and this is quite an even split so 54 of you said you'd prefer a picnic in the park and then 46 dinner date what about you oh maybe dinner maybe drinks not dinner i don't like eating in front of guys, especially on the first date. Well, it's actually not a first date, is it? It's just what kind of date? Actually, no, picnic in the park. Picnic in the park. Have you ever had that?

Have you ever had a picnic in the park? No, I wish. With a guy? No. How cute. It's so cute. It will happen. Guys, anyone who's listening, please just take me to a picnic.

Someone take Millie on a picnic. I think it's so cute. Feeding each other strawberries. I've actually got a really funny me on a picnic i think it's so cute feeding each other strawberries i've actually got a really funny story about a picnic date i've had i mean it's actually not funny it's quite did you take a meal prep no okay so my current boyfriend is quite sweet and he once planned this bouquet picnic um platter yeah spread spread and he used to have this office where there was like a rooftop with like really cute seating areas and he'd got someone to come and like decorate it and there were like all these like cushions and like cute throws and like flowers

and like picnic and we were sat up there on like an evening it was a lovely evening the sun was setting wow great food and then like trust me for this to happen some guy it's quite sad but it's actually it ends on a happy note so it's fine it's this rooftop this guy comes up he's called rupert and gotta just add his name in there we're just sat there like having our strawberries and shit and then he comes over and he like looks at us and he's like oh i didn't think anyone was gonna be up here and then like walks over to the edge and like starts looking and i wait yeah and i was just like oh my god does this guy like come up here to potentially you know jump or something and so i walked up to him i was like are you okay like do you want some food you want to sit down

with us and he looked really confused and sad and he just didn't know what to say so i invited him to sit down with us and gave him a drink and like gave him some food and he started telling me his life story and how he's so depressed and upset oh my god emma and i was like having a full-on counseling session i mean gabe was a bit like what is going on here but yeah i genuinely think i saved his life oh my god that sent shivers through me. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. I never knew that story. So yeah. God that is a picnic to remember. Picnic to remember. Wow. Well I hope. Not quite the date that Gabriel had envisioned. I hope I didn't. Yeah interesting. It was yeah anyway quite an eventful picnic date anyway. Next poll. Have you ever been catfished this made me laugh 83 said no thank god seven no 13 said yeah and then four percent said that they're the actual catfish

have you been catfished i haven't no i don't think i have i mean not that i'm aware of no i haven't but people have catfished me as in like as in like people have used me to catfish other people oh yeah i mean yeah people use my pictures all the time it's so weird and then like there's been guys who have messaged me i'm like hi not sure if this is actually you that i'm talking to but just want to check like they're messing with instagram i'm like oh my god no i don't i don't go on so sorry to bust your bubble your your go-to dating app so the options were hinge tinder bumble and grinder so 49% of you are using tinder which shocked me that did shock me I thought hinge yeah I definitely thought hinge like I'm like I'm all I'm on hinge only I don't go on tinder you're not on raya oh yeah I'm on raya

as well see I know don't lie to me Millieik. But, yeah, I would have thought Hinge. But, wow, Tinder does surprise me. So, I've never had Tinder. I've never had Bumble. I've never had Grindr. Okay, all right. I had Hinge for a short period of time. And I don't know about dating apps.

I mean, oh, God, dating apps are so, like, meh. I just can't go there. I just don't enjoy conversations that aren't going anywhere. It's so forced, isn't it? Like, hi, how are you? Yeah, constant. Good, how are you yeah good how are you oh boring but when a guy slides in and he he says something like banter so i'm like oh yeah yeah like you know you need to add some substance to that message don't be boring entice

me in would you date multiple people at the same time 75 said no 25 said yes so i i would say yeah oh yeah because like dating okay fair enough right dating it depends what kind of dating you mean like i am dating and i have dated multiple people and in my mind when you're dating yeah that means you are you know seeing what's out there you're searching for the love of your life you You're trying to find that special individual. Yeah. So you need to try. It's like when you're searching for the right pair of jeans, you don't just keep trying on one.

You've got to try multiple ones to know which one's the right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So, I mean, so you are... I would say yeah. Yeah. But then it makes me feel bad. I'm not 75% as a no. So it doesn't interest me the only kind

of like negative to dating multiple people at the same time is that you can get yourself into a bit of a sticky situation which has definitely happened to me I mean I went on multiple dates right one time me and my friend came to like like, London. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I remember this. I mean, we put it all over Instagram. We were, like, sharing what we thought about our dates and if we were going to go on another date with them. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Like, meeting up with a guy for a drink and having a chat and then meeting someone else a few days later.

It does get a bit sticky when you start sleeping with them all. Oh, yeah, no. That's a bit different. We were trying to like block the guys that we were dating on our stories oh my god yeah i'm seeing us then going on a date with another guy i mean there wasn't loads i feel like no it wasn't like that at all but one guy caught her out and yeah really oh god yeah okay but i don't think there is anything wrong at all with dating multiple people

like you say it's different if you're sleeping with them then again if you want to do that that's fine yeah just use protection guys yeah you know what what does get to me though it's like if i am into a guy so say i'm dating a few guys whatever but there probably is one particular guy that i am interested in the most if i find out that he's dating other girls I would be like hurt oh my god yeah you know so it's like hmm maybe I shouldn't be dating more people like multiple people if I would get hurt if I knew that he was dating multiple people do you think it's kind of like a conversation you just have to you'd be like where are we yeah are you but then is that too forward yeah exactly exactly no I think that is too forward but then again are you gonna really like someone after a first date?

Probably not. Maybe like five dates in would be the right time. Wow, five? God, I can't. I don't have the patience for that. Oh, really? Maybe three. No, I'm actually on about the one, like the first date.

Like if I don't like them on the first date, I don't want to go for a second one. Oh, yeah. But then you're saying like, you know, if you like them on the fifth date. Is it right to ask them? Are you dating other people? Oh, right to ask them are you dating other people oh right okay yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah i don't know we're not i'm not a date expert no neither right next poll oh that's it that's it for the polls right so now we have a few questions yeah that we were going to answer and then we were also just going to discuss some other interesting dating topics there's so many questions guys you've put you've oh my god pulled out the bag

so first i'm gonna ask you okay a question that's come in directed to you millie do you ever feel left out or judged because you have never been in a relationship because i definitely do i do definitely almost 99% of the time oh my god do you yeah like there's times where i cry i don't know why i'm welling up right now don't well up hold my hand no i'm not crying so yeah i feel really left out all the time and i try not let it get to me but there's times where it does oh god all the time i'm like pushing it aside but like now when i'm like bringing it up I'm like oh god it's really like affecting me but yeah like I've always been the girl in the friendship group which was always single with like friends all in

relationships and you'd see them in relationships and like it's just it hurts sometimes it really does hurt and I try to like I don't know I I'm really comfortable being by myself but then I think that obviously I want to be in a relationship obviously I want a guy who loves me yeah but also at the same time I because I like my own time am I going to feel comfortable having another guy in my life who takes up a lot of my time do you know what I mean yeah so it's like I don't know I'm still questioning it I't know. But I do feel left out for sure. You don't need to feel that pressure though to be in a relationship. Because I know you just said like,

you always used to be the girl in the friendship group who didn't have a boyfriend. But there is nothing wrong with that. And there's no pressure. So don't feel upset if you are seeing it from the perspective of like, feeling peer pressure to be in a relationship. No, not at all.

No, I don't feel peer pressure at all i think there is pressure from my family not direct pressure but all my siblings are in relationships and you know they've always been relationships and i've always been the child who is always single like to weddings like you know who's your plus one oh don't have one and like my outer family would ask like you know when you're gonna like have you got another guy have you got a guy you have you got a relationship? They always ask me every time, like even at the wedding that I've just been at.

And even at Christmas, just all the time I'm like, it's just constant reminders that I'm not in a relationship and I want to be in a relationship. And I'm 24, like I know that it's still young, but at the same time, like that's not actually,

I wanna be married at least when I'm 30. Do you? Yeah. Okay, right right i know this is kind of like another question that we've asked on the stories but what is your type of guy or girl yeah so i'm into guys okay my type of guy is well my celebrity crush is justin muber so just think that just think that and also oh my god matthew i need to find this guy he is a dream by the way are we still going to see justin bieber oh my god yeah yeah we are have you got the tickets uh yeah i mean my friend was selling them to me yeah i can't believe this yeah i'm also going to see him with my other friend

in like london oh my god yeah for your birthday you said said Matthew? Matthew something. Anyway, he's a model. Matthew Nos, N-O-S-Z-K-A. Can I see a picture? Oh, yeah. I can see you as someone like that. So how would, what would you, like, kind of dirty blonde? Dirty blonde, bit of a beard going on. No, I don't really like beard. Let's ignore that.

So Michael without the beard. Is that his name, Michael? Matthew. Matthew. With, oh my God, they've got to have good fashion sense okay so she likes a blonde tan australian looking guy yeah slash jb lookalike yeah but like i don't want him too muscly no i don't actually like too muscly no as long as they you know look after themselves i'm happy with that okay but yeah fashion is a big one height eye color um just as long as they're a little bit taller than me i

don't really care eye color not really don't really mind what else do you care about like do you i want them to not take themselves too seriously and not be so vain obviously being that pretty like matthew you it's understandable that you are vain but it does kind of put me off what about obviously you're big on social media how would you prefer to date someone who is also into that and on social media and kind of doing the whole like picture life sharing thing or would you prefer to be with someone who doesn't really have any involvement in that whatsoever there's pros oh my god there are so many pros and cons to both because if they're doing the as me, I don't want them to see it as competition. Do you know what I mean? Like, they could be like,

oh, she's got more flaws than me. Or like, I don't know. But at the same time, it would be so much easier if they understand what I do. Yeah. But then also, I think, if they are doing that,

I don't know if I like that type of person in a guy because is that them being really vain? Oh my God. Okay, so say if they're into, like, the fashion side of Instagram. I'd be like, yeah. Okay. But not fitness. But I don't think fitness oh so she couldn't write all fitness influencers i mean i'm not rolling them out like you can still come into my dms if you want yeah that would help that would help but then also yeah if they aren't a fitness influencer

i think i don't know would they find it hard to understand what you're doing that's the question i think they would because a lot of people don't get it yeah they don't like i would they would have to take pictures you know yeah we're out that's something that i will approach when the time comes so is there any potentials on the scene at the moment obviously the guy who went on a date with the other day is a no-go that's a no-go there is i would say for potentials probably one but i don't know if he's listening to this right now no he won't be listening to this no i wonder i know i wonder yeah i do wonder i actually forget that other people are listening i just so i was in the meeting this morning and like they asked if it is just like chatting and i'm like yeah literally it's like i actually forget that

people are listening to this and it's no script at all yeah no we are literally just we've actually got our snacks here so we're we're snacking we've grabbed a snack we've chillaxed and we're chatting that is about relationships i'm just gonna crunch on this one walnut. Let's get some ASMR in here. I don't know if you heard that. Oh, do you want some of those? They're really good. They're quite hot. You have them.

I don't think they're hot. I think I've got a really good spice tolerance. I love walnuts. Oh, that was a good one. Crunchy. That was a good one. What about you? Do you find it hard because your current boyfriend isn't in that industry, is he?

Oh, he is so supportive and into it. He sends me, like, ideas and he's always like, oh, this would be a great, like, content. Let me film your workout. See, that's perfect. He will get, like, when we went to Paris, for example, he was, like, on the floor in the middle of the road getting the picture of me at midnight when the oh my god yeah i saw those like he is great for a picture he's really good oh i think he like gets excited about it that's the perfect balance because he understands what you do but he's not he doesn't have in that place like he has it for his business but he doesn't really use it that much and he doesn't have a personal account but yeah he is so like great and supportive about it he the only thing he is not so

into is how i guess open it is and like how potentially be dangerous like people know where you are where you're living yeah that is definitely a factor to consider so i've got a question for you emma what about your bf now is different from past bfs um uh i mean one like key difference i guess is the fact that he's got children i've only really had one proper boyfriend previously but he definitely did not have children so do people not know this about uh i mean not really no i've never actually told anyone apart from like obviously my friends my family you know that like do you feel pressure I've only met one of his children who is so sweet he's so lovely and we actually got on so well he's only like four or five um and he's so lovely I'm like I'm very like glad that we do kind of yeah well and that he likes me and yeah he's not like all shy and weird with me but

I mean yeah it's definitely different I never anticipated myself being with someone who had children but it doesn't faze me life just comes with surprises yeah and i feel like everyone's so obsessed with like settling down with like the perfect person who's got no quote-unquote baggage because i don't personally see that as baggage like it's just he comes as he comes yeah that's so true i think a lot of people would see that as a red flag or like something just to just be like scare them away yeah but why but why yeah they're like it i don't see it as a negative at all and actually seeing him being such a good dad like i really like that about him true yeah yeah knowing that he can actually be a dad yeah good

one is a really good sign and it kind of just adds a whole bigger level of maturity which i need like in a relationship like and i guess you know i'm not saying that we would but like say if we do have children he already knows how to change yeah oh my god it's like in that movie I can't what it's cool but it's like when all the dads are pushing the prize yeah the proper dad dad what you call baby dad dad baby like that's obviously a baby difference just in general he's a lot more mature driven a lot more like gold yeah determined ambition ambition yeah yeah which I like i think it's really attractive seeing a guy hold a kid or baby or just deal with well yeah i think it's so attractive i'm

like oh yeah so i don't think there should be stigma about settling down or not necessarily settling down but getting into a relationship or dating someone who has kids or you know yeah i don't think it's just as long as like you just have to accept them and actually i i do think i am probably in a better place than potentially other girls to accept his children because i've had a stepmom myself and like my dad remarried when i was very young and i mean i really hope she's not listening to this because that's extremely awkward if she is but i mean my stepmom and I were not the best of friends when I was a kid and I didn't like that so I don't want to treat his children like how I was treated by my stepmom you can learn I can learn and like it's a cute little amazing little child like you know it's a cute little amazing like

little child oh my god anyway all right moving on how do i know if i actually like a guy or if i just like the idea of a guy interesting i think a lot of people when they come at relationships they like the idea of having a guy in their lives because it's the the attention it's you know what a female craves I guess isn't it you get comfortable yeah the acknowledgement it's actually hard how do you know if you actually like them or if it's just the idea god that's really isn't it that's so difficult I think I think you have to really look at that guy and really try to identify what it is that you like about them. And whether it's the attention they're giving you and the communication and the constant kind of reassurance knowing that someone's there. If that wasn't there, would you still really like them and want that person in your life?

Like, what can they bring to your life? Yeah, what can they add to your life? Absolutely. I mean, I guess you have to kind of consider that now because you've admitted that you want a relationship and you kind of, you know, are looking for that. So you need to make sure that you don't just jump into anything to have that instead of actually jumping into a relationship with a guy for the right reasons because he's great and right for you and makes you happy and, you know, all of those things.

I think for me, I actually push people away. If I don't get that spark, it's a spark for me. You've got to have that chemistry. Like, I could, I like the idea of having a guy, obviously. And, like, there have been times where, like, yeah, it could have been a relationship, but I knew that it just wasn't fully right. I just knew, like, I'm not fully into it.

So I actually push it away. But I could have just gone on with it. Yeah. I think especially early days, you should really have that spark. Yeah, you should. And you should really be, like, excited to see them. And you should really have that yeah you should and you should really be like excited and you know what spark is like you know so maybe just think about that we've said this before in podcasts but never settle no there is the right person out there and there's no rush no rush don't chase it don't jump and also use the time alone as time to learn about yourself and how you can grow yourself.

Try not to constantly fill in the time that you have alone with another guy. So true. Don't feel like you're lost without a guy because you're actually finding yourself. Yeah. Inspirational.