Real Girls Radio - EP 6: PART 2 - Milly's love island audition, Micro-cheating and mortifying dating stories

Episode Date: April 18, 2022

grab some snacks and chillax whilst we chat ABOUT...contacting an ex on social media, checking your partners phone, having a dating app, having an only fans account, fancying someone else whilst being in a relationship and having sex dreams...We also uncover some funny ICKS, dating stories and dilemmas!Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/e-1-the-unheard-truth-of-millys-journey. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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We have another question. Your question. This I find interesting. Would love to hear your opinion on micro-cheating and what to do if you're the one it was done to. I'm going to...

Can we get up a definition of it? Yeah, I'm just going to Google now micro-cheating because I haven't actually heard this term before but what I think this person means is certain behaviours that aren't purely cheating, but it can be classed as cheating. Yeah.

It could piss off your partner. Let's see. Oh, my God, there's a little flow chart. Are you a micro-cheat? Are you ever attached to anyone other than your partner? Yes or no? I'm not going to attach. Does that mean attracted to?

Oh, okay. Here we go. Here we go here we go harmless fun or cheating so we've got contacting an ex on social media do you think that's cheating or not do you think that's micro cheating contacting an ex on social media it depends what the purpose is for for example i've i have had to contact my ex regarding bills that we know let's take that out okay i mean if it's you know putting a fire emoji to your ex on the story then inappropriate see what if your partner had messaged their ex to meet up no that's wrong

don't do that it is wrong isn't it they're an expert i know a few people fine if you want to do that when you're single if you want to meet if you're single and you want to revisit that previous relationship fine but if you're now moved on from that ex-partner and you're in a new relationship i think it's wrong that's there should be no reason for you to meet up with your ex even like i what do you think about being friends with your ex i i personally don't think it's possible because there's always going to be history there's always going to be some sort of like emotions and feelings involved and then when you yourself get into another relationship or when your ex gets into another relationship

those two individuals is not gonna like it yeah so it's just drama and it's upset and it's just causing unnecessary stress yeah and i think when you're still in each other's lives there's still definitely going to be some sort of chemistry there's going to be like yeah you're still attracted to them so well i don't know about that oh really i think you can still be civil and have a conversation you know if you bump into your ex in the street yeah have a chat ask how they are how their family is and stuff but it doesn't have to be like oh let's meet up for a coffee no i know there should be no reason for that okay oh liking their social media posts i think that's fine you know my good genie my good i feel like i mean i don't know how i would act because i haven't been in a relationship if i know

that my partner is liking either girls pictures whether it's an ex or not i would just be like what it what is it about that picture that you are liking if it's a picture i don't think that i didn't like i didn. I think context dependent. It depends what the picture is. Because my ex posted up a picture with his new girlfriend and I liked it out of respect. Oh, okay. Yeah. That's very fair enough.

I like that. But I wouldn't like a topless picture of him. What about if he was just, you know, in, let's say, Lisbon and in the streets? No. No. I don't think I would. It's just unnecessary, isn't it? Yeah.

Yeah. I agree. I think that's a bit of micro cheating micro cheating there oh having an active dating app or dating profile oh wrong yeah that's wrong okay you're in a relationship why would you do that but also i know a few stories where people who are in a relationship they've got the dating app on their phone still they just haven't deleted it but just because they forget that was me so i wouldn't say that is microtreating but some people would cast that as microtreating okay so warning guys if you're currently in a relationship and you're yet to delete your hinge tinder bumble whatever go do it thank us later yeah it's not worth it sexting someone else obviously sending nude photos

obviously well actually do you know what a lot of girls who are in relationships i'm seeing are on only fans okay interesting yeah this is a whole nother thing to go into a whole nother thing to go into because i don't know i just feel like if you're on OnlyFans and you have like a serious relationship, I'm just confused how a guy is so okay with that. Yeah. That is really tricky. Like fair enough if you're, you know, comfortable with your other half doing that. But I don't know.

I'm just not sure. I mean, I just, I obviously can't comment because I don't know. I have been in a relationship. I thought you were about to tell me. Oh my God. No, no, no, no. Sorry. I may have just really hurt your ears then when i she did it again guys i should know by now after

six episodes god i'm really sorry if i've just ripped your drum oh so what was the actual question it was so that's what micro cheating is the actual question was i would love to hear your opinion on micro cheating and what to do if you were the one it was done to if you were the one that it was done to i mean it depends it obviously depends what facet of micro cheating you were you just love your words subject to i used to use that in my like psychology essays on a level anyway what's your opinion if it was done to you let's say you're in a relationship okay i'm gonna give you let's say you're in a relationship okay i'm gonna give you a story yeah you're in a relationship your boyfriend likes his ex-girlfriend's bikini picture and he's still got hinge on his phone but he's not actively using it he says what do you do

how do you feel it would hurt i would have to go through theinge profile and see if there's any recent conversations just to double check. Yeah. Would you do the same? Um, hang on. Let me think. Yeah. Are we doing the same scenario? Yeah, same scenario.

If he likes someone's picture, his ex's picture. Oh, if he liked his ex... Is that what you asked me? I said if he liked his ex's picture and also had a picture. Oh, Christ. Okay.

If he liked... I would class it as cheating well oh god it would cause an argument if it was me i'd have a word and leave it at that yeah it'd cause an argument i'd want to hear that explanation yeah i'd have a word make it known that i was not okay with that and then it shan't happen again and they delete the app would you ask for them to unfollow the ex no so then it makes you look insecure i know yeah just respect the boundaries of this relationship don't make me question myself i don't need to be insecure but just be a decent boyfriend what are your thoughts about knowing your partner's passwords and stuff and like them going in your phone it's happened

before rolling her eyes it's happened before it happened again that's what i'm yeah i think everyone's allowed their own privacy absolutely and you shouldn't have to go through someone's phone no i think in my eyes if someone wants to look through my phone tell me oh and i'll show you myself don't because you know yourself that there's nothing wrong i'd rather something needs to be looked into blah blah blah do it together have that conversation there and then be mature about it what about you i wouldn't want to look through their phone no because again i would like to trust them it's like snoopy and it is snoopy isn't it don't be a snoop dog and like there could even be stuff that i don't actually want to see like maybe like his group chat full of like just random shit like poos or something you know oh my you know yeah no i just think you know focus on your own life and just don't have double

standards don't expect that you can go through their phone but they can't go through yours and vice versa 100 so yeah micro cheating i mean i i don't think i've done anything along those lines it's such a you know what i do sometimes which might be a bit wrong sometimes if i'm just like going through instagram i'll just like like random pictures and sometimes i don't really think about what i'm liking so it could be an accident so you also have to be aware of that sorry another question can you be attracted to someone else while still being in a relationship like can you fancy another person while still being in a relationship oh okay i think there's a very fine line because you of course you can appreciate someone's attractiveness and look at another individual and think, oh, yeah, they're nice to look at or she's pretty or he's, you know, got a nice...

Bum. Bum. But as soon as you feel like there's some sort of sexual attraction or like... Eye contact? Or like it's getting a little bit frisky or like you know you're wanting to talk to them and get to know them more then that's maybe a sign yeah either you you're potentially about to be a little bit unpaid for or maybe the person you're with is not right because yeah i think if you're with someone you really really really love and want to be with your mind isn't

elsewhere elsewhere wondering what about like would you class this as micro cheating if someone had a sex dream with someone else no you can't help what you dream about well i don't know some people some people can't some people like what i feel like what you dream about definitely your subconscious right so let's say you're in a relationship and you have a dream you have sex with justin b Oh my God, no. That's such an exception. I think if it's like, not a celebrity, just some random, say like another guy that I know. Just don't say anything.

No, I know. I wouldn't say anything. But like in my head, is that... Oh, are you thinking, oh my God, my mind is elsewhere. Oh my God, am I microtuting? Yeah. I'm not speaking off experience. I don't know.

We're going to have to get a dream analysis to come in. Oh my God. That'd be fun. A dream. A dream catcher. Yeah. No, it's get a dream analysis to come in. Oh my God. That'd be fun. A dream. A dream catcher. Yeah. Someone who analyzes your dreams. You know what a dream catcher is?

Oh yeah, I used to have them. Oh okay, yeah, me too. I go around my bed. Oh yeah, so cute. Yeah, it's so interesting. It is actually so interesting. Okay. Let's look at some of these responses.

So I put on the Instagram, what is the worst date you've ever been on? So I'm just going to read out some of your responses wow oh my god we got responses oh my god i'm so excited to hear this okay i'm just going to read out a few yeah okay there's this a long one here we go we met on tinder and he looked taller than me when we met i saw him coming from afar and immediately wanted to leave he had a really long beard that was kind of covered but not really with the mask he was tall but so thin that i think i would have been able to carry him on my pinky finger and he walked like a t-rex with his elbows bended and hands hanging in front also he was yawning during the whole date

luckily i escaped to meet some friends and later he told me that he thought there was a lot of chemistry and that he wanted to kiss me but he was. Oh, that's when it really hurts to have to like say no. What else? Oh my God, I love how... He got a nosebleed twice. Oh my God. And he what? A guy from Tinder was picking his cheesy toes on my bed and farting.

And farting, but refused to go to the loo. Oh my God. No. Ew. I don't like that uh icky disgusting what's an ick for you

many there's too many many things you when a guy crosses his legs is it what does he do why is your voice

so sorry that is not directed to your boyfriend I love how that's the first thing that came into your head. What is an ick for me? Checkered sheets. I can't think of anything right now.

Really? Oh my God, there's so many. Oh my God, if he's like, if he's pushing a trolley. Pushing a trolley. Oh my God, my sister has one. She's like, if I ever see a man running for the bus. Oh my God, yeah, yeah, yeah. Running for public transport.

No, that is such an ick. No, I actually, I really find it icky when people are eating with no manners like stuff yeah also i find someone icky when like they're too interested yeah too keen i had to explain to my boyfriend what the ick is oh yeah a lot of people don't know actually like a lot of guys don't know how would you describe the ick what's the ick turn off a turn like it's kind of like a it happens they do the action the ick? What's the ick? Turn off. It's kind of like a, it happens. They do the action, automatic ick, goodbye. No, there's no going back.

No go back from the ick. Okay, right, I'm just going to read out a few more. A boy started fully snogging me in the middle of revs and I was so embarrassed he wouldn't leave me alone. Oh no. Can I tell you a story? Yeah, tell me a story. That just reminded me.

So at uni, my friends and I when we went out one night we had this bet we were like oh my god I actually can't remember what the bet was but oh I think it was really lame so we had pre's at uni all my uni friends we had pre's and we all gave each other like a little rule that they had to do on the night out so mine was to get with a guy just any guy I think this was it or unless we all had to get with a guy and it was the first person to get with a guy or something anyway the what do you call it when you don't do something the repercussion no the subsequent action the following thing anyway you know i mean if you don't do it the forfeit the forfeit so the forfeit was to have to go in the

shower with all your clothes on when you're coming back so i was like mate i'm not doing that so i as soon as we got into the club i got with a guy i think he was 18 maybe 17 i was 22 so it was a big gap he was young yeah he was a young first year i was like past third year right and it's a bit gross and i was like so i need to just kiss your face right now sorry oh my god i'll explain after and i didn't explain oh my god i've just read this what so worst day a so-called top chef invited me for a meal at his and secretly he had just cooked a ready meal from tesco oh no oh my god a guy telling someone how she'll be attractive when she loses weight oh get out get rid automatic ick sorry goodbye right can i tell you about my worst date i mean yeah tell me actually quite dangerous do i know this i don't know maybe potentially you may have heard of the story so

sorry as you can tell guys emma is full of stories here yeah exciting wealth of stuff okay right no this is actually really funny quite dangerous but i've learned my lesson as we always do so i got asked on a date and i just thought you know what i'm just gonna go like he came up to me in person i said are you free tonight and i was like oh he said that okay yeah so i was just like okay i'll meet him for a day we just went for a drink it was lovely okay so he asked me out on a day and then i was just like do you know what i'm not doing anything tonight so i'll go met him for a drink it was fine nice whatever lovely guy to talk to and then he was like uh are you hungry and i was hungry and he was like do you want to go get dessert so i was like yeah sure why not let's go get dessert he was like i know a great dessert

place like quite near to here i think you're gonna love it because he knows that i love biscoff and he was like have a really good biscoff pancakes i know this story you're gonna love it so i was like okay cool great and i'm wearing heels and it was you know they were quite high heels and i didn't really want to walk and i think he could tell that i was just not in the mood to like walk in these big heels so he was like do you want to just get an uber and he was like it's not that far and i was like yeah yeah sure okay if we can get an uber we're sat in the uber and i was thinking like we'd been in the uber quite a long time about 15 minutes and so i was kind of thinking like how far away is this dessert place like thank god we didn't actually

walk it and then he's on his phone and then he looks at me and he was like right so i've just ordered the uber eats so by the time we get back to mine it will be there and i literally look at the window and think mate no what what he just had it planned all along. What a sneaky peeky. Little shit bag. Sneaky peeky. So then me being me, I'm not confident enough to be like, no, I'm definitely not going back to your house. I was just being all awkward. So I sent my friends my location.

I'll explain what's happened later. Go into his house and the guy had pictures of himself and like naked. Oh. On the wall. I didn't know that. Yeah. What? Because he used to be like a wrestler or something and i was just like all these big pictures well no no but like he had like little

boxes on yeah and then conveniently when we get there he looks at his phone and he's like oh they've they've cancelled the order so i'll have to order it again but it's gonna take an hour and i was just like he just knows what he's doing doesn't he and i just felt so uncomfortable and i was just like trying to think of an exit strategy that is uncomfortable and in the end i just i called my friend and i was like right i'm gonna book an uber i'm coming home say thank god thank god but like do you know what i think back and i'm like emma you're so stupid because he could have been he could have been a murderer a murderer a god knows what oh so he could have been could have taken you to a brothel yeah i mean

he obviously knew that i have a thing i have a sweet tooth and i've got a thing for desserts but like don't try to entice me back to your house with a biscoff pancake oh yeah it's like it's like one of those like scary disney movies where it's like the evil person you know takes back cinderella and like draws her in come with me i've got an apple to give you yeah god trust those things happen but the thing is that's got an apple to give you yeah it's no way god trust these things happen but the thing is that's what's scary about going on dates it's like you actually don't know what the guy is but you don't know what their intentions are like i went back to a guy's house on a first date but it wasn't my intention at all like basically the pub was shutting really

quickly and he was like oh george have drinks back at mine and i did think like i'm not like going back to yours would you go back to a guy's house on the first date yes or no if i liked them oh it's really tricky because i have done it before and i don't want to like i didn't like the fact that i did that but if i liked them enough maybe if i know them enough i just think you always have to think safety first yeah if it's the guy you've met on a dating app you don't know much about oh my god no no no no no absolutely not absolutely not thing is it's so different than me because i have to know the guy enough to go on a date with him anyway shall we read out that bit what's the

most romantic thing someone's done for you oh my god what have you not read this no i've not read them i read out the last one, so I thought you could read these. This is honestly actually makes me want to cry. He shaved his hair with me when I had cancer at the age of 19. He didn't want me to feel ashamed. Oh my God. I've got goosebumps.

Yeah. No, I don't think anyone can top that. I really hope you're still with him. Go give that boy a big kiss. But also, I hope you're okay. Yeah. Wow. Wow, that is...

Wow. Another person has said, drove one hour for me, planned the picnic, brought all the food. Nothing extravagant, but very special. Yeah, that's lovely.

Sometimes it is just the little... It is, like a drive-in movie. Like the little cute things where they're just being thoughtful. I would say one of my favourite attributes in a guy is thoughtfulness and kindness yeah there's one person who's actually a few people have said a scrapbook so they've made a scrapbook of their memory so far i did that for my boyfriend for

christmas i made him a scrapbook really cute i love that and i kept like loads of like tickets and like hotel cards and pictures and stuff i think if you are ever struggling to think of a present to give someone a scrapbook memory book is like the best thing you can do yeah oh someone said again really small gesture turned up to my flat after i finished work unexpectedly just to give me a card it's just really cute like like you don't have to do that have to do that but you're just trying to be a good a good gen yeah what would you say your love language is because i think if a guy got me flowers obviously that their love language is gifts and i would be like that's really really cute but also i do love it like when they just plan a day or something and it's like a surprise and you know they just take

me through it i think that's even yeah so it's like time together or something my boyfriend's love language is definitely definitely yes yeah yeah what what's the most romantic thing someone's done for you like i mean i know you've not been in a relationship but have you ever had like a guy who you've been dating do something romantic hold the door open for me maybe just plan a date literally it gets that far like that's it no i haven't i'd love to receive flowers or something i'm gonna send you some flowers oh honey no you don't need to do that like a picnic honestly like if they planned a picnic that would just win me over oh i love reading these this is so cute lots of proposals in there as well yeah or like surprise trips or weekend getaways yeah that's so

cute oh adorable okay what's the most important attribute you look for in a partner so i'm just going to read out what some of you guys have said lots of you are saying funny supportive drive ambition that's definitely a key thing for me drive and ambition and hard work ethic manners love for family respect for their mother yeah trust patience intelligence basically everything no one's saying looks oh oh that is true no one is saying looks but then again does it make you a little bit what's the word superficial is that the right word if you say looks like even if the looks were the most important attribute for you would you ever admit that well it's so tricky because if i was speaking on my experience their fashion sense is part of their look but also their humor is part of their look like generally if they

are really like not funny or like they're really boring they are not attracted like i'm not attracted to them yeah i'm a sapiosexual what's that a sapiosexual is when you find another bloody term it's when you find intelligence really attractive like it's the oh okay so i went on this date my most recent date he was very very intelligent but he was trying to outsmart me oh and i didn't like that that's almost borderline cocky it is narcissistic yeah i didn't like it at all i was like stop asking me if i know a fact because yeah see i once dated a doctor and at first it was so interesting because he was teaching me so much about the human body and i was like wow i'm

learning so much information from this guy but then it got to the point where he was like overexerting his intelligence and like belittling me and he started getting to the point where he was like over exerting his intelligence and like belittling me and he started getting to the point where he was teaching me about like what protein is oh and i was like uh duh when they get to that it's like fitness and nutrition coach yeah i know what protein don't tell me what i already know yeah and trying to help me with my diet i was like get away get away right so that's interesting i think most of you are saying humor yeah i think humor i really do right biggest turn off oh yeah cockiness cockiness lol lots of you are saying too eager for sex too eager for sex i can relate to that yeah yeah i think if they literally just see you as like an object to put their willy and i i don't like that at all guys with short fingernails yeah i'm getting a lot of cockiness arrogance being rude to service or oh that is definitely yeah i didn't think about that if they're constantly

sending their food back or something yeah i wouldn't like that yeah snobby that's snobby isn't it yeah i would say my biggest turnoff is laziness god there's actually quite a few turnoffs for me yeah i think they're all definitely on par. Okay, next one. What is something you wish you could ask a guy? So, yeah, if there's any questions that you think you want to know, but you don't know because you're too afraid to ask them. So, let's have a little read through.

What do you actually look for in a girl? That's why we were meant to ask a guy these, weren't we? So then we'd have the answers. Whoopsie. Do you think girls are pretty without makeup or prettiest without makeup that's actually interesting i think that's what's something i want to know that is something yeah yeah i feel like oh my god i could talk about this a lot yeah because you i know you don't feel comfortable when you don't have your makeup on we talked about this in the last episode i mean i think a guy needs to love you and appreciate you and think you're beautiful

when you have makeup on or off because that is you you are the same individual whether you've got a face full of makeup on or not but what if they prefer you without makeup on but you prefer yourself with makeup on well tough shit yeah tough shit but then i don't know if i'd feel like they're not as attracted to me if i had makeup on so then i'd feel pressured to not wear makeup even though i don't want to wear makeup even though i want to wear makeup in my hair i personally i think makeup enhances your beauty so why would they not want you to enhance your beauty is it because they're insecure that you're gonna attract other people other people i don't know that's how my mind was um yeah that is interesting okay so how do we tell if you like us i mean for me i get mixed signals from guys all the

fucking time it drives me up the wall all the time and you know what's even worse is i love a chase but the chase is driving me insane because i don't know if they like me or not are you a chaser would you kind of chase after a guy if you liked it would increase my like for the guy but i would try and play it cool but But at the same time, I don't want to be playing games. No. So I would just rather be straightforward, but then that could then also turn them away.

I personally think if they think a girl's too forward, then it's like off-putting. Yeah, definitely. But then like, I don't want to play games. Tell me if you like me or not. I don't want to waste my time. Yeah, why do people, why are people so into playing games?

Oh, it's driving me up the wall. Like, that's literally my whole life. i don't think i play the game right maybe you just need to be more forward and to the point with guys no because when i am then they get scared oh yeah but then when i'm not it seems like i'm not interested so no ghost i don't always get i have never like been a chaser ever like people chase you honey no i'm not saying that at all but i'm just saying like i like if a guy showed a glimpse of uninterest is that the right word oh okay i'd be like okay bye right i i need that full attention yeah because then there are guys out there who are the same there are guys out there who will treat you

like you're a princess. So why would you expect anything else? Someone said, what the fuck is wrong with you? As in? As in? To a guy. To a guy. What the fuck is wrong with you?

That's good. Do they ever cry over a girl? Do you know what? What's your opinion? Do you think men are needier than women? Or are women needier than men? In relationships. Yeah.

Like, I think men are needier. A hundred percent. Yeah, I think men are needier. Men are needier than women or are women needier than men in relationships yeah like i think men are needier a hundred percent yeah i think men are needier hands down females why do females have this like connotation of being like weak and like they can't be on their own yeah actually it's the other way around but also obviously it depends on what person you are because i think both of us love our own time but then i think other other girls I know as well who need that guy constantly messaging them. Oh, okay. I think it's 50-50. The most embarrassing thing you've ever done on a date.

Okay, read some out. Farted. Oh, my God. That is a bit embarrassing, isn't it? That is actually very embarrassing. What would you do? Right, let's say you're on a date and you let one loose. Yeah.

Would you acknowledge it or would you just say ignore it i would have to ignore it i would have to pretend like it was someone else oh i think it's more embarrassing if you act like nothing happened isn't it because you both know if it's really loud yeah but then what if it's silent but deadly oh no then you can definitely get away with pretending yeah but then would you be like not me you always try to make it look like you think it's him yeah you could be like, oh God, is that you? Silly. It's not a funny tummy. That pizza, yeah. Oh, that's another thing with going on dates, like dinner dates,

is that some foods really upset my tummy and it can be quite unpredictable. So I'd rather just avoid. Oh my God. I could just go read out some of these. One time I blocked his toilet and then I had to use a hanger to unblock it because that's the only thing that was available oh my god there are some stories that i have which i will not be sharing over my life go on you can tell us no no no it's not my place to say oh but that is yeah

quite common you'd be surprised how common that is just imagine so one of you has said i once tried to take a sneaky picture of the guy i was dating to show my friend and the flash went off in his face no oh my god can i tell you a story so i fun fact i went to an interview for love island in 2019 like they asked me i didn't volunteer don't worry right can we just imagine how different your life would be if you'd have gone on love island different i always think this like that's actually scary. Thank God you didn't. Because the Love Island that I was going to be on was going to be the lockdown one, which obviously didn't go ahead anyway.

Anyway, so when I went to this interview, it was, oh, such a scary interview. But they asked what's the worst thing that's happened to me on a date. And I had to make up the story on the spot. And I basically said, I went to the toilet. I didn't like this guy that I was dating. I sent a voice note to the group chat, but I sent it to him and then he listened to it and then i came back out and then he was like really blunt and i was like oh my god imagine if that actually happens though i feel like that that is possible okay a lot of you guys are saying you had to pay for the meal blah blah blah

the full meal what's your opinion on that the bit right if you go on a first date or even like a second or third date with someone how do you split the bill do you think the guy should pay do you think the girl should pay do you think whoever invited who on the date should pay do you think it should be split or do you take it in turn i've split the bill on the first day but also the guy has insisted to pay so and both times i'm like fine with it obviously um obviously it's nice if they like no i'll take the bill or even if they just do it silently like say if you go to the toilet and they just pay for it like that's actually quite fit my boyfriend does that a lot but I don't mind I definitely don't mind spitting

the bill if I were to pay the whole bill I don't know but then also at the same time why should the guy pay for the whole bill but the girl shouldn't I don't know is that just society tricky one yeah society expectations have you done anything embarrassing on a date um like for real not just made up on love island i can't actually think of anything really that embarrassing maybe just the fact that like i had a foot my foot was bleeding loads like when we're out for drinks but it was with a guy that i didn't really like anyways i wasn't really that bothered but my foot was just bleeding lots which is a bit gross it's a bit you know grossing lots of blood on your ankle yeah not nice not really nice for them like it's not very fit is it no that's not but it's not really embarrassing i

don't really care i don't know what about you i'm trying to think of something like embarrassing i've done i mean i guess the only thing i can think of which wasn't embarrassing but it's just highly awkward kind of like at the beginning of the episode when I was talking about like when I was dating a couple of people in one week and I had met up. Sorry, that's not me weeing. That is just pouring some water in my mouth. Gotta stay hydrated. Yeah, I was, I'd met up with one of the guys.

It was actually an accident that we'd met up. Like we were just on the same street and he was there and I was there and he wanted to meet my friend and my friend wanted to meet him. And then we actually walked into one of my other dates who I was meant to be seeing. And they were both right there. I just felt so awkward.

Oh, no, that is awkward. Because they were literally stood like either side of me. Oh, shit. And I just had to pretend like I was just looking down. It's just a friend or something. Oh, God, yeah. I think I remember you telling me that, actually. Highly.

Was it in Selfridges or something? It was near Harrods. Near Har um right so let's just finish up with do you want to get married so most of you are actually saying yes yes yes yes yes yes yes so everyone wants to get married a few of you are saying not sure there's no no's which is interesting couple of no's but majority of you are saying a hundred percent yeah so do you want to get married and if so what would your like ideal wedding be i'd love to get married marriage is scary though isn't it like committing to someone for that long that is scary and did you know this is a fact one in two people get a divorce

wow really one or two people so that is obviously a big scare for a lot of people well for me anyway one and two people so i'd oh god i'd hate to get a divorce being optimistic i'd love to be married i'd love to have a wedding i would have a wedding abroad i think same yeah yeah not too many people just like your favorite people because also i think with weddings it's so political in the family it's like political in the family. It's like, everyone gets involved. You know, you have to invite them, you have to invite them. Family members who you haven't seen in years and years and years,

who are like cousins of cousins or something, but they still expect to be invited. Yeah. My sister kind of went through some of that. So I don't want to go through that. So having a wedding abroad kind of just takes it all away, doesn't it? You just have your close, close close people your close circle yeah and then you don't have to worry so much about the weather because who wants to get my

training well yeah um would you be a bridezilla knowing me and my personality what are you gonna say no yeah you would i think i would but i would make sure i avoid that by getting a wedding i was gonna say this yeah to take that stress away from me so i don't become some evil oh absolutely yeah yeah okay best relationship advice you've ever been given so i'm just gonna read out what some of you guys have said well this is interesting be honest and trust yourself and your partner it's okay to have doubts in your relationship it doesn't mean you don't love them all of you are saying no communication oh yeah a communication absolutely communication is key doubts are normal lots of you are saying that always trust your gut never go to bed on an

argument yeah i agree with that so agree know your worth before you date. Yeah. One of you has said, never trust men. They will weigh you down like a ton of bricks. You have to train them. Boys need guiding. True that. Wow. I feel like females, we have this innate desire to fix men. Yeah. And I don't think...

It must be like a motherly instinct. Yeah, that's actually true. Yeah, we feel like we could fix people. Don't settle for less. Know your worth. Don't rush things. Once a cheat, always a cheat. What do you think of that?

I don't agree with that. Tricky. I don't agree with that. Tricky. No comment. What's the best relationship advice you've ever heard? No, I would say, yeah, don't go to bed on an argument. Yeah.

Definitely. I think that's such an important one. Have you always been someone who is into relationships, into guys? Yeah. Yeah. I have. When was your first relationship? I was 13.

Oh my God. That was a year. I've always been the opposite. Like, I've always been, I've always just been scared. I'm just like, no, ew, ah, panic. And I feel like there's no one who i've heard who have said the same so if anyone is listening and is the same can you just like tell me she's not alone tell me i'm not alone do you know i have a feeling you're gonna

find the one soon i have i just have this strong feeling i manifest it for you oh yeah it will happen it will happen we could double date oh that'd be so cute oh my god when you get a boyfriend we can invite our boyfriends in and interview them and all the questions that you guys want to ask a guy yeah we can bring in our boyfriends and ask them we can get a male perspective yeah yeah okay hurry up and get a boyfriend i will i'm jaykin by summer by summer any justin bieber lookalikes please apply please. Please apply. Please put your CVs forward. My idea. Right, let's finish this up with a quote.

A quote. My quote of the week is highly applicable to what I'm going through right now. When you can't control what's happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond. That is where your power is. Absolutely. Your perception is everything. You are fully in control of how you respond and how you perceive the situations going on in your life and just to reinforce what

i said earlier try to tell yourself no matter what you're going through everything in life is happening for you not to you yeah emotion is energy in motion say it again emotion is energy in motion emotion is energy so basically how you respond to things is gonna become the motion of what you're going through do you know what i mean yeah but if you respond in better ways then you're putting that out and you're being like okay this is actually fine happy emotions yeah if that makes sense i've got which one do i choose okay i like this one self-confidence is a superpower once you start to believe in yourself magic starts happening and i definitely think that's so true so true

you need to tell yourself you are a confident person and step into that because genuinely like magic things does start happening as soon as you realize that people's opinions on you don't actually matter yeah and like the confidence in yourself is from within it's not based around other people like from other people then oh honey you can go far yeah my clients always ask me how to become more confident like what can you do to increase your confidence levels and for i know for a fact without a doubt if you want to improve your confidence one key thing you need to do is set yourself some goals they don't have to be big but set yourself some promises some goals some target and make them happen and then watch your

confidence skyrocket because you need to keep the promises that you set yourself and when you do that and when you can trust in yourself that you will do what you set out to do your confidence will grow that can you know go into any aspect in life but relationships like for me i was so not confident dating after gaining weight obviously my confidence had grown a lot but from having such like a dry spell during uni and stuff like with my whole because my weight was just affecting everything in my life i had no confidence to go on dates i was like god i must be such bad data like i was so scared i just was horrified but i set myself a goal to go on more dates and I did and it's grown my confidence so much I can go on dates every day of the week if I want to

obviously I'm not going to because I got other things to do in my life but it just is so true yeah it really is set yourself those goals and make them happen so that's your challenge for the week guys yeah I hope you enjoyed this yeah i mean i enjoyed this this is a good little topic yeah anyway guys i hope you love this episode thank you so much i didn't say video video yeah thanks so much for listening and we really really do appreciate all of your support you know sharing it on your stories sharing with a friend a family member leaving us a review it honestly means the world to us and we are enjoying this so much and we're just like we are just baffled that so many of you are also enjoying it and listening

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