Reddit Stories - AFFLUENT partner gifted me a $4,000 ELECTRONIC device I never REQUESTED, then shouted

Episode Date: November 24, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #relationships #gifts #communication #conflict #technologySummary: My affluent partner surprised me with a $4,000 electronic device I never requested, then yelled at me. Feeling conflicted about the gesture, I turned to Reddit for advice on how to handle the situation.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, relationships, gifts, communication, conflict, technology, affluent, partner, electronic, device, surprise, gesture, advice, handle, situation, redditadviceBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. Affluent partner gifted me a $4,000 electronic device I never requested, then shouted at me when I didn't utilize it, phoned me a dozen times when I departed to the gym at midnight, and wouldn't stop touching my thigh in public even when I said stop. I'll refer to my BF as X. To put things into context, he comes from a powerful and wealthy family in my city, relevant later. Things started off peachy, he was always affable, pleasant, and accommodated. However, I'm starting to realize certain issues which have me questioning everything. Incident number one, he got mad at me because he felt I wasn't appreciating an expensive present.

He got me a specialized tech gadget which cost about 4K. I was a bit surprised by it as I'd never mentioned any inclination towards this gadget. I'm really not very tech-why at all, and he'd never asked me about it. Also, this gadget is something which requires a lot of time and practice to use. To be honest, I was also very concerned that it had cost so much, if I had known I would have just told him to get me something less expensive. Anyway, I still thanked him and said that I appreciated it very much. A week or so later, he asks me if I had used it yet to which I answered no but would

eventually get round to it. He got upset and repeatedly asked me if he had just wasted his time and effort and money and told me that if that was the case, I should just dump the thing. incident number two he blew up at me when I was at the gym at midnight fitness is very important to me so I always make sure to go to the gym consistently I usually go right after work which ends at 6 p.m., however sometimes life happens, friends want to meet up, overtime, dinner, I get distracted reading, watching videos, etc., and I go later. One day I went at 10.30 p.m. Before I left I told him I was heading to the gym

and he said okay then silence so I assumed he was doing his own thing and off I went and had a good workout. I was done around 12 a.m., checked my phone and there was 12 missed calls from him. I immediately called him back and was met by him yelling at me demanding to know why I hadn't been answering my phone, didn't I know what time it was, didn't I know what sort of impression it was giving for me to be around other half-naked sweaty guys this late. He was too old to be chasing his girl around in the middle of the night, etc. I was honestly shocked at this because even when we started dating I would tell him when I went to the gym, even late, and he didn't seem to have any issues. Incident number three, he told me he didn't feel attractive nor desirable

when I asked if we could reschedule to one hour later. We planned to meet up on Saturday afternoon. On Friday night, he called me and we ended up talking on the phone till pretty late around 3 a.m. Because of that, I overslept on Saturday and woke up late. I texted him telling him I overslept and I would probably be taking an hour or so more to come over. He told me that he felt I didn't seem interested in him or our relationship anymore and that he was the only enthusiastic one. I tried to tell him that it wasn't the case, I just needed some more me time, it's the weekend and my only time to sleep in, but he still told me he didn't feel loved in this relationship and that we didn't see each other enough. Context, we usually see each other one day during the work

week and I spend the weekend at his. Incident number four, he told me I was going to get us into a fight. We were getting ice creams, we were laughing, and everything was going great. We were sitting in the ice cream parlor and he playfully put his hand on my knee, which I don't mind, I actually find that pretty cheeky and cute. Then he started to move his hand higher up my thigh to which I told him to stop. I was still smiling and laughing. He didn't though and I said again I said stop, cut it out.

But he still kept going and I told him I was going to yell and I said stop, loudly. Immediately the whole mood dropped and he told me that I could have gotten us into a fight, what if someone had reacted badly and attacked him, and he retaliated, and everyone could have gotten into trouble. Incident number five, he got mad when I talked to another guy. We went on a holiday recently and signed up for a tour which was eight to nine hours, pretty long time to be spending with the same bunch of people all going to the same places and doing the same things together.

On the same tour was another guy, I'll call him A, around our age who was traveling alone and X and him got talking about guy stuff, work, sports, current issues, idk, and they seemed to like each other really well. I was happy that X had made a friend and they were getting along and I just chilled and let them be. At the end of the tour when we were heading back,

I also got into conversation with A about what he thought of the tour, what else he was going to do on this trip, etc., etc., all along my conversation, X kept budding into the conversation asking me abrupt or relevant questions completely unrelated to the context of my conversation with us so I wasn't very responsive as I was engaged in my conversation. When we got back, X told me that he had felt I had ignored him and was more interested in A than I was spending time with him. He also said that if we had been back home, he would have told A to get lost so that the two of us could just spend time together, but because we were here, in a foreign country, if A had reacted badly

and they had gotten into a fight and all of us ended up in a police station we would be screwed because nobody knew of him nor his family in this place. Incident number six, he was getting me to apply sunblock on him because he didn't want to get his hands dirty. It started off as him asking me to put sunblock on his back. I'm okay helping him with that because he can't reach it himself, and then he just told me that I should go on and do the rest, which I found kind of funny and princessy of him, so I did. But by the third day of our trip I was getting tired of it and told him that he'd just sunblock I would help him with his back if he couldn't reach, but he could damn well do the rest on his

own. He said, but my hands will get dirty and I responded, oh, so it's okay for me to get my hands dirty but not okay for you? He made a face and said, well, this is new, I've never dated a girl like this, still stuck to my guns though and did not apply sunblock on the rest of him. Incident number seven, he told me that my past bothered him. When I was younger, I was very sheltered and very religious. A few years ago I realized that I had no clue about dating, being physically intimate, etc. As a result, I ended up hooking up casually for a while before realizing that casual isn't for me and I focused on purely dating to know someone better, without sleeping with them, and focusing on looking for lasting relationships. I was honest with

X about this, that I went through this phase of casual hookups, before I met him. At the time when I shared this with him, he seemed okay and told me that he had also done similarly when in the college phase. However, we were talking about it again recently and he told me that it's different for guys than it is for girls and that he felt that what I had done was bothersome to him. I countered that I had been honest, it was a while ago, and I am happy and comfortable with the person I am today regardless of anything in the past and if this was an issue for him he should not have gotten into a relationship with me. In fact, I told him that if this was something he couldn't get past then he could go ahead and move on right away. Incident number eight,

he, sort of, broke up with me but ended up not going through with it. When I told him that he could go ahead and move on if he couldn't get past my sexual history, he paused for a while, then said, well, I did try. To which I wasn't sure if this was him asking for a breakup so I asked, does this mean we're done? And he said, I guess. He started to leave and I told him take care and all the best. As he was going about gathering his stuff, he kept saying things like, I'm sorry we couldn't make it work I did really have a good time, et cetera, et cetera, and I said you don't have to apologize or try to make me feel better. It's fine, really. He hesitated and said, are we both sure that this is what we both want? I said to him, well, it seems like it's what

you want. To which he said no, it's not what I want. I thought it was what you wanted which I said I meant that if he couldn't get past my history, he could go ahead and move on, but otherwise I was willing to continue our relationship. We eventually ended up not breaking up LOL. After that he told me that it bothered him that I could have let things go so easily. So, I don't know, am I just being irrational or is this legit? Are we still getting used to each other and can we make this work? Comments where Op has replied, comment one. You've been dating three months and have eight examples of him acting the fool, being jealous, getting mad for no reason, and one of them is a breakup.

Yes, honey. Yes. These flags are so red. Dump. Dump. Comment too. Yeah, this is a collection of red flags. I'd say there's a bit of love bombing too, with expensive gifts to create a sense of indebtedness.

Not to mention the pushing of boundaries. This guy is all kinds of nope. Oop, up here, I'm on mobile now and for some reason Reddit won't let me log into my other account. You're right, I'm fact being with him has me questioning now everything which I used to do so regularly and openly, i.e. sleep in, go to the gym, grabbing lunch with a platonic single guy friends, sleeping in, etc. I find myself asking if he would be okay with this, or would he get upset if I did that? I also find myself constantly checking my phone because I worry if he texts me and I take too long before replying, if I was occupied at work, I was having a conversation with someone else, I was working out, etc. Or if he happens to call and I don't pick up in case he gets worked

up and flies into a rage. Oop adds in the comments more on the relationship. He's never been physically violent, but when he's mad he gets really outraged and shouts to express himself. It really disturbs and upsets me as I believe that things can always be resolved by calmly discussing and talking through issues to come up with a resolution, not yelling and losing one's temper. I'm supposed to go on a hike and lunch with a platonic guy friend next weekend and even this has got me anxious as to whether X would take intention with it when I tell him that I would also like to spend my weekend with another person, a guy more so. And you're right, once when we were

out I bumped into a guy friend of mine whom I hadn't seen in a long time, so I smiled and waved. As soon as we had passed, X turned to me and started making all sorts of comments like I'm better looking than him anyway. I drive a nicer car. I probably have a better background and family than him. He also said that it was inconsiderate of me to be excited over another guy when I was on a date with my boyfriend. Update, after making the post, I re-evaluated the relationship and had a talk with X against my better judgment. I decided to give him another chance. Anyway, I'll get to the incident which was the straw which broke the camel's back. Last Sunday, I inquired whether we could spend the coming Friday night together so we could get

an early start to the weekend. He replied that he would let me know how his schedule worked with that. The following day, Monday, I received a dinner invite for Friday from a bunch of good friends. Since X hadn't confirmed with me on his schedule yet, I assumed things were still up in the air with him so I accepted the invitation. I informed X that I would be doing dinner with my friends, so I would be meeting him a couple of hours later than I had initially suggested. He flipped out on me. He yelled and screamed at me on the phone, cursing me out and demanding to know who was so fucking important I was going to meet. He asked me if a frivolous dinner with mere friends meant more to me than spending time

with my so. I responded that, of course, I valued my soes, however, there were other people I also liked to have in my life. He told me I could go and date those people then. He went on at how I was incredibly disrespectful towards his time and that I was jerking him around. I told him that I didn't see how that counted as being disrespectful of his time since it was only Monday and the invite was for Friday. I was keeping him updated of the dinner way in advance so that he could plan his time for those couple of hours. It wasn't as though I was pushing plans back at the very last minute or even canceling on him. I told him that in my perspective, since he had yet to get back to me on his schedule I had the impression that we weren't confirmed

hence accepted the invite. I also told him that from my point of view, when I make plans with someone for the whole weekend and they pushed things back a couple of hours, for whatever reason, it wouldn't be a big deal to me so I didn't see why he was being so drastic. He then said to enjoy myself with my friends and that he hoped that dinner would be worth the cost of our relationship. I responded okay. There's still some stuff that both of us have at each other's places, though, so we're meeting up later this week to return things. Next story, fiancé got a huge tattoo of my deedy brother without asking, and when I said it made me uncomfortable she accused me of burning her with hot food and destroyed our kitchen in a rage,

so I finally left. For context, my older brother, 30M, while I'm 29M, passed away three years ago in a motorcycle accident. This fucked me up severely, still does. He was my best friend and we had that whole inseparable since we knew each other type shit. Even if he was older, he was never the stereotypical older brother bully sort and I loved him for that. Anyway, my fiancé who I'll call Bella is, 28F, and met him only a few times but always said she admired our bond as she has no real siblings of her own. Only step but they aren't close. A few weeks ago, Bella surprised me with a fucking tattoo she got in memory of my brother. It's this pretty fucking big, realistic grayscale tattoo of his face with a little Snoopy icon beside it on her upper arm, with his nickname we use, and his

birth and death dates underneath. When I saw this, I was fucking stunned. She said she did it as a tribute to him and to support me BC she knows how much I still struggle with grief. I honestly didn't know what to say at first, but the more I sat with it, the more it bothered me. I told her, gently, as much as I could TBH, that I appreciated the gesture but found the tattoo really uncomfortable. Like it's unsettling to see his face on my fiancé's body. Like it's too much, especially since they barely knew each other? She got upset and said I was being weird about a nice gesture and making her regret doing something beautiful, her words. Now she's distant, and my mom thinks I should just be thankful someone loved my brother enough to memorialize him.

But first off, I didn't ask her to do this. Now I'm stuck with a fiancé that won't even talk to be properly, and my brother's perfectly black and gray eyes staring at me when I'm laying beside her. And honestly, I don't even want to think of how horrifying having segs would be with that on her arm. Am I being unreasonable? Asshole-ish? Is it in my right to ask her to get it covered up or like zunked off? Additional information from Op IG I'm adding some additional details because I don't know how to respond individually. My fiancé and I both have tattoos and many of them, I have smaller ones, she has bigger ones. To my knowledge, neither of us are mentally ill in any capacity and we aren't on medication.

I can't believe I have to write this, and ever since my reaction she has been wearing longer sleeved shirts in the daytime, at work she has to anyway, but that's for home too. It's only during bedtime that I really see it with her wearing tanks and it physically hurts LOL Update 1. Hi guys. I don't know if anyone cares enough for this but for the few that do, here's an update to the situation, L.O.L. after breakfast this morning, at around half seven, it's 1034 as I write this BTW, I sat down, already was sitting down after eating, but yes, whatever, with my fiancee and

spoke about the fucking tattoo again. I basically echoed all the comments I received, which by the way I'm so grateful for, for the most part because some of them were crazy. Anyway, I told her again that the tattoo made me very uncomfortable and wasn't the leap she needed to take to comfort or support me on my journey with grief, as I still had a firm belief that she didn't do this in a malicious manner. She was quiet initially and then asked if she could explain herself and I said I was willing to listen. To summarize, she said she simply got the tattoo because she thought it would symbolize the extent she would go to love me and support me, and said in that way, I had both people I loved so much in the same place. Her words not mine. She did say she was sorry and that

she wouldn't have done it if she knew that I wouldn't have liked it. I asked her why she hadn't spoken to me about it prior and she said it wouldn't have been a surprise then, which is what she wanted it to be. She also said, and I'm remembering this fresh and internally cringing as I write this LOL, that the tattoo was meant to be a symbol of a new beginning because we're going to get married in a couple of months, and she wanted to turn over old leaves. I'm still stuck on what she meant so I'd appreciate any word sleuths helping me in this. To wrap it up, I said I didn't to end our relationship over this and I really wanted to move on from it, but that she needed to either cover it up or laser it off and she was, to say the least,

not very happy about it. Said a cover up would be complicated and would take too long, said laser might be painful and look scary from the videos, also said she likes how the tattoo looks along with her other ones and asked if I'd be okay with her just covering it up either with clothes or foundation. I was as firm as I could be, mind you this is the woman I've loved for five years straight so admittedly I'm soft, but I reiterated that I wanted it gone either by a cover-up or laser. She was quiet then and that's honestly where the conversation ended. She already left for work at 10 and I'm going to start my own work now, as I work remotely from home, after I finish this. Anyways, I hope this works out and I would appreciate any advice.

I did read a comment that shamed me for taking this to Reddit instead of speaking with her first, so I will priorities our communication first but will hopefully keep this updated. Thanks for all the help for now update 2, it's final, I've broken up with her. I don't even know why I'm writing this other than to get some closure on this situation and maybe some support. I've read so many comments this morning and while it didn't go the way I or anyone anticipated, I've taken my decision though I'm struggling to accept it myself. Last night when Bella came home from work, I made sure to make dinner and asked if we could talk after dinner in the back garden. She said that was okay but that she needed time to shower

and unwind before dinner so she'd be a bit late, but that I could start eating. I agreed and she went upstairs while I ate the dinner I'd made with the TV on in the back. She came down about an hour later, while I was winding things up and washing the dishes from earlier and I offered to get her a hot plate and she agreed saying she'd eat it on the couch in our living room rather than the kitchen where we have a dining table, also where I ate. I said that was fine and I brought it over to her and as I gave it to her while she was sitting, her hand out to take it, I somehow managed to drop it and the hot Spog bowl went all over her. I immediately apologized profusely and went to grab her some water and tissues slash towels, but she just started screaming

at me. I do not want to make myself sound like a victim in this, so I want to be careful with how I write this. But yes, she started saying that I did that on purpose and that I was punishing her for our conversation that morning and for the tattoo in general. I immediately defended myself as I brought over a damp towel and some tissues and said I knew I had a steady grip on the plate so there was no way I had done that on purpose, also saying that I always spoke respectfully and calmly to her about the tattoo situation and that I'd never escalate things like this. Things beyond are a blur, but we had a big fight and she broke many and I mean many of our glasses and plates, even trying to pull off a cabinet door in our kitchen

that was already not in good condition and threw anything around her at me. By the end of it, I said I couldn't be with her anymore and that this was the last straw and left from my parents' house. I haven't returned and I haven't picked up any of her calls or messages. And I'm honestly afraid of what she'll do to my belongings if she's so easily broke so much of the shit we bought together. I'm still at my parents' house and I haven't told them either, but I think this is it. This may be the last update because I don't know if I can focus on this when I have everything else I need to resolve. Thank you for all your comments I really appreciated them and I never expected this outcome. Peace and love to all that helped additional

info, have spoken to family about it and they asked me to try to have a final conversation to remedy this and I rejected it. We'll be bringing my things back either tonight or tomorrow depending on when she gets back from work and will bring a friend with me. I'm more at peace with my decision now so thank you for all the help.