Reddit Stories - Allow my UNHOUSED SIBLING to stay at my place, only to DISCOVER her

Episode Date: July 14, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #familydrama #unexpectedguest #homelessrelative #personalboundaries #ethicaldilemmaSummary: I allowed my UNHOUSED SIBLING to stay at my place, only to DISCOVER her unsettling behavior. Struggling with conflicting emotions, I must navigate the delicate balance between compassion and self-preservation in this challenging situation.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, family, drama, homeless, relative, personal, boundaries, ethical, dilemma, compassion, self-preservation, challenging, situation, emotions, conflicting, unsettling, behaviorBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. Allow my unhoused sibling to stay at my place, only to discover her pilfering $2,500 from me on video, funds I had set aside for my children's holiday celebrations. Upon notifying law enforcement, she promptly fled. 34F, single mother of three girls, 13.8.2. Let my sister, 31F, move in with me two months ago and she stole from me. I am shaking as I type this up. Let call my sister Sarah. Sarah lost her job about four months got kicked out of her apartment about

two months ago, and didn't have anywhere to go. Being her big sister, I offered her a place to stay while she figured things out. Being a single mother with no one to turn to sometimes I felt sorry for her, so I figured I could help her out in this rough patch. I even started helping with daycare fees for her son, who's three, because I know how tough it can be to make ends meet. Things started out okay, but I started noticing small red flags. First, Sarah's boyfriend, who I'd only met three times, began coming over almost every day while I was at work I didn't love it, but I thought they both needed support, so I let it slide.

I did let Sarah know that I didn't want him coming to my house every day and he stopped coming for a while. Then one day he just pops back up. It wasn't long before I noticed other strange things happening. At first I thought I was tripping. like little stuff would be moved in my bedroom or my bathroom would have stuff missing. At first I thought it was my daughters, but the stuff that was touched or missing they either don't use or have their own. So without telling anyone I put a camera in my room.

I saw Sarah going into my room when I was at work. I confronted her and told her, without letting her know about the camera in my room. I told her I knew she was going in my room and if she does it again she was out. She half-assed apologized and we moved on. Well, yesterday when I get home, I noticed my closet door slightly opened. I knew something was off because I never leave my closet door open. As I was looking through my closet I noticed one of my handbags was missing. I had been saving up about $2,500 for Christmas gifts for my kids in the handbag. It wasn't in an obvious spot either. You would literally have to dig under about seven other handbags. You would literally have to to get to that one. My heart was in my ass because one. My money is missing and two. That is the money for

my kids' Christmas and three. My sister was nowhere to be found. I knew right then and there Sarah took it. I immediately called Sarah, but she wouldn't answer. I checked security cameras in my room and saw Sarah thieving ass in my room going through my closet. About five minutes later her boyfriend let's call him Ryan came in my room too. They had to have picked the lock because I made sure my room was locked before I went to work this morning. They spent 45 minutes in my room going through all my stuff trying to put it back like it was. I was devastated. I let her move in with my rent-free and bill-free and the is how she repays me.

About two hours after I got home Sarah and Ryan chose back up. I confronted her immediately. At first, she flat out lied and denied it, claiming I was mistaken or that I had to be misplaced the money. But I didn't back down. I told her I had the entire thing on camera everything, including her and her boyfriend going through my things. She was caught red-handed. I told her she had until the end of the day to return the money, or I'd be pressing charges. She started freaking out, saying I was being unreasonable. I really wanted to put my hands on her, but I have too much to lose. She even tried to drag our dad and her mom into the situation.

calling them to intervene on her behalf. But I wasn't having it. I told them both to stay out of it, that I was handling it my way, and they had no right to defend her when she was clearly in the wrong. And if they want to defend her, they can give me the $2,500 back. That shut them right on up. I also told they didn't have the right to say anything to me about this because they were willing to tell her in their grandchild's sleep outside

because they're not ready to have a toddler around there right now. By 8 p.m., she still hadn't given me the money back, and I had no choice but to call the police. I filed a report and gave them the footage. By the time the police got there Sarah and her Ryan had jumped in his car and left. They're both on the run now, and no one knows where they are. I'm sure she's trying to hide, but I have no idea if they'll even come back or if I'll get my money back. I'm still in shock. I've always tried to help her, and this is how we're.

she repays me. I can never trust her again, and right now, I don't even know if I want her in my life anymore. It's one thing to make mistakes, but to steal from family when I've been helping you? It feels like a betrayal on a whole new level. So here I am, dealing with the aftermath, and I'm wondering should I have handled this differently? I really wanted to hurt her and the only reason I didn't was because of my daughters. Even though they are not with me, I still don't want to miss up there in my future. I got a call from one of my cousins and she was telling me that she was on me side. But she also told me that my dad and his wife called her mom trying to talk junk about me and my auntie shut us down. She apparently told my dad that him and his wife created the

Mr. My Sister is because they never said no and gave her any and everything she wanted. I love my aunt for sticking up for me. I'm just trying to process everything and honestly, I'm struggling to figure out what comes next. So Reddit IDA for calling the police on my sister? Update, hey everyone. First off, I would like to thank everyone for the kind words and support. It really means a lot to me. So, again, thank you. To the people saying it is my fault you can go to hell. That just shows me that you will steal from anyone at any time if given the opportunity. So, for the update, Bear with me. I worked my overnight last night and barely got any rest today because of this situation.

So when I got off work this morning, I really didn't feel like going upstairs to my room so I laid on the couch. Around 10 to 30 I heard someone at my front door. When I opened the door, it was sister looking stupid. When I realized who it was I punch her right in the face. She tired to run, but I grabbed her and pulled her inside of my house. She was alone. I asked her where was my nephew and she tells me that he is with her childhood best friend I will call her Alex. I didn't believe her so I made her call Alex so I could see and he was. Thank God he is with Alex because Alex is an angel. I asked my sister where my money

was and she said gone. I said I know that, but where did it go? This idiot looked me in my eyes and told me that she and Ryan spend the money door dash, going out to eat, and marry Jane. I just stood there and looked at her. She didn't say anything and I know she thought I was going to punch her again because every time I moved she would flinch. After what felt like hours of me staring at her I called her a dumb bitch. I told her she needed to explain herself. What pisses me off is she wasn't even looking for the money.

She was looking for my handgun. She told me that Ryan had convinced her. to go to her old job and get revenge for firing her. I told her she was a dummy for going along with that play. I then asked her why did she get fired because she told us her job had to lay off people due to the drop in business. It is a small business and a local family-owned grocery store. Well, come to find out her and four other employees decided that they didn't want the 15% employee discount they were getting and the $19.50 they were getting paid. They wanted free merchandise and free money for the registers.

My jaw hit the floor. Her old employer told her if she paid back the money she took he would press charges. I asked her how much she took and it was about $690, but I think it was way more. Ryan didn't like the idea of her getting ripped off and came up with his plan. She knew I had a handgun. She didn't know that I take it with me everywhere I go because I have my concealed carry license. While she is taking to me, I'm required. according the whole time. She then tells me the reason she got kicked out was because she told

her landlord that if he didn't let Ryan stay with her and not be on the lease, she was going to get a bunch of people to bet him up. The landlord filed a police report and had her evicted ten days after. But what really pissed me off is she told me the whole time she was on the run she never once check up on her son. She said Ryan doesn't want him around, so that is why she took him to Alex. At that point I snapped. Everything from her stealing from me to her abandoning her son just came out. I have never yelled and cursed at no one like that before. I really let her have it. She started crying, but I couldn't care less. She tried to talk, but I told her to shut the fuck up because I was done with her shit.

I told her she was a piss poor excuse for a human being and a mother. I told her that she should be ashamed of herself for what she did to me and how she is treating her son. I told her that I was going to help Alex get custody of her son because she didn't deserve him. She tried to talk, but I wasn't done. I also told her that she is going to jail and Ryan is too. She really started crying but again I couldn't care less. I was yelling so loud I think the neighbors heard me and called the police which I was going to do anyway. So, thank you to my neighbors. When I opened the door and seen it was the police they asked me was everybody and everything okay because they could hear me from the street and my neighbors were concerned. I told them no and explained

everything that was going on. Sarah was just sitting there like a deer in headlights and trying to play victim. She told the police that I gave her the money. I wanted to jump on her right then and there. I told the police that the previous officers had the footage of her and Ryan going through my stuff. One of the officers ran her name and seen she had a warrant for her arrest and put her in handcuffs. They took Sarah outside and was searching her. The police pulled some money out her pocket and she told them to give it to me. This stupid bitch wanted them to give me $24.76. Yes, I counted it. I told them to keep it because she is going to need it. The police asked her how did she get there and Sarah said Ryan dropped her off. They asked her where was Ryan and she

said around the corner waiting on her. When one of the officers went to check the dummy was still there sleeping. So he went to jail also. I called my dad and told him what was going on and to my surprise he must have had a change of heart. He told me after my aunt read him the riot act he took everything in and realized we were right. He told me that she is going to have to pay for what she did. I also told him about my nephew, but he knew that he was with Alex and glad he was with her. I told him about helping Alex get custody of my nephew and he told me to do what I had to do. The reason I want Alex to get custody is because she is great with my nephew. She loves him and he loves her.

He also is happier when he is with Alex. Even when she would visit Sarah my nephew wouldn't leave Alex's side. She also, if anything ever happened to my sister, she would take my nephew with no problems. Sarah's mom is pissed at me because I will not drop the charges and I gave the police the recording of her telling me the plan she really had because it added more charges. I told her if she was good mother and raised Sarah right we would be going through this. She called me a bitch and hung up. I blocked her.

She can deal with Sarah and pay for lawyers. I will make sure I'm at every court date for Sarah and Ryan if possible. I don't want neither one of them getting out any time soon. Well, this is my update so far and if anything else happens I will let y'all know. Thank y'all again for the support and kind words. Next story, moved out while my boyfriend was at work after he cheated with his best friend who lived with us. Then found out they'd been planning it all along. Sorry, this may be long. I, 42F, have been with my boyfriend, 33M, for four years, and we've lived together for two years.

Our lease is up in a week and a half, and I've made the decision to move out after I found out that he cheated on me with his best friend. For context, his His best friend, Tina, 34F, and him were roommates before him and I got together and before we all decided to move in together. He and I were just friends for eight years prior to committing. During our friendship phase any time she would call and needed him he would drop whatever and make sure she was all right. I will admit Tina is not the brightest and at 34 doesn't really know how to be an adult.

She fixes everything with two to three different guys a week and it's made easy because of her profession. not shaming her just stating facts. Over the years, I had some doubts about their relationship. But he always reassured me that they were just friends, and I trusted him. Two months ago, I found out the truth. His behavior had been changing, he was distant, secretive, and I could just feel something was off.

Yes, I went through his phone and saw the exchanges. I confronted him, and after some hesitation, he admitted that he slept with Tina. He said it was a one-time mistake, he regretted it, and begged for my forgiveness, claiming it didn't mean anything. The texts say different especially since there were a few texts from the previous day. I went through his phone at like 3 a.m. He really wants me to stay and work things out. But I can't.

I feel betrayed, stops, and humiliated. I'm also angry because he didn't just cheat. He cheated with someone who lived in our home, shared meals with me, had heart to hearts with me, and acted like a friend. They would reassure me about my insecurities about the closeness of their friendship. It's always the ones they tell you not to worry about. I've already decided I'm done. I've signed a lease for a new apartment, arranged movers, and planned to leave next week. I haven't told him yet and I don't plan to until I'm gone. Since he goes to work before me, my plan is to pack and move all my things while he's at work.

I'll leave a letter explaining my decision. This is where I may be the asshole. I know he can't afford this place or a new place without me. He's financially struggling, and without me, he's going to have a hard time finding somewhere else to live. But I'm not responsible for fixing his situation, especially after the betrayal. Some friends think I'm justified in not telling him,

saying that he made his choices and now he has to face the consequences. My sister, however, thinks I'm being cruel. by not at least giving him a heads up so he can make arrangements. I don't feel like he deserves my sympathy. He can have my middle finger though, oh, yeah. Heena doesn't live here anymore either. So, Reddit, Ida for moving out without telling my cheating boyfriend, knowing he can't afford this place or a new place on his own.

Update, sorry for the long wait, but a lot has come to light and a lot has happened. I will try not to make this super long, but if it is, I apologize in advance. Hey Reddit, I wanted to give you all an update on my situation with my cheating X. First, thank you for all the support and advice. It really helped me navigate and continue to stand on business. As planned, I moved out. It was incredibly hard, but I knew it was the right decision for me because jail is not something I want to do again. The leasing office did contact him so he found out that I was moving. He then decided that he was moving. He then decided

that he wanted to talk. I did sit down and talk to him. I wanted to see his reaction, specifically his shocked expression. I needed to see that he understood the gravity of what he had done. I said, you want to talk now? Where was this want when you were balls deep in that bitch? When you guys were smiling in my face like shit didn't happen.

When I voiced my concerns and you both reassured me that there was nothing when you would talk shit about all the different sides she would bring home when you would text her late at night in the living trying to get some more, he had texted her the night I found out. I said don't act like you're sorry and don't try any guilt-tripping because all this is on you. I also told him that he was a posse for undermining me and our relationship by telling her that he doesn't mind things that she does that make me uncomfortable.

Like wearing only a t-shirt and panties, coming out to talk in only a towel, or having you critique the nudes she would sell to men. Then I hit him with a couple of things he didn't know I knew. I said why the fuck would you lie and say it's cool and that we had an agreement that we just had to let the other person know and that you were going to tell me, also you said she just rode your fingers. We both know that's a lie. I also said not only did you fuck her but you continue to pursue her and now I know sometimes you would do it while I was in the room. Now I know why you would always comment on men not being able to make her come after she made that statement it was because that might she told you, you were the only man that made her come that far and that heart. and to think you kissed me the next day and told me you loved me, what a lying asshole.

I said, tell me why and make it good because no matter what you say I'm done. And shocked he was. He was quiet, almost stunned, and finally said, I don't know what to say. I messed up big time. He said I take full responsibility for what I did and there's no excuse. He said we weren't really talking and that he was searching for something to ease his mind and some bullshit I don't remember and that she provided that something. I said, so you're telling me that instead of being the grown man you pretend to be and telling me how you feel, you decide

to let your dick do the talking. The look on his face was priceless and confirmed that he finally understood the consequences of his actions. I was honest about my feelings of betrayal, disgust, and anger. I made it clear that I wouldn't be contacting him and that he needed to figure out his living situation on his own. I said Tina might have room for you. Maybe you should call her. He said I cut her off after she moved out because I thought we could work things out. I laughed and said while you thought wrong buddy and got up to finish packing my things. One crucial detail I forgot to mention in my original post was that I spoke with my landlord before moving. I explained the situation, including the cheating and the reasons for my sudden

departure. Because we were so close to the end of the lease, and she understood the circumstances, she agreed to release me from any further obligations. This was a huge relief, and it allowed me to leave without the added stress of financial repercussions from the apartment. I did leave a copy of the new agreement with the X. Now I'm in my new place. I'm out walking my dog, when the universe decided to throw me a curveball. Shockingly, I ran into Tina at my new apartment. building. Turns out, she lives there as well. I guess karma has a twisted sense of humor. I just smiled and started to walk away. Then curiosity got the best of me and I turned around and asked her to talk. Boy, did she talk. I started with now that the situation is over. Tell me what really happened.

She says that she was crying to him on the couch and that he started to rub her leg and move his fingers up slowly. She said he shouldn't because of me, but that's when he told her the lie about us just having to tell each other. She did that it happened so fast, but she just knows that she was writing his dick and not his fingers. She threw me for a loop and pissed me off by saying, and I quote, I used to purposely walk around half-clothed to get his attention and entice him. She said especially after you stated that you didn't like when I walked around like that, and then he came to me and said he doesn't mind and he likes it. I, she, figured that if he didn't care, why should I? She said he would set up movie nights for them to cuddle on the couch while

I was at work. I saw red and it took everything in me not to punch her in the face for the blatant disregard and disrespect. I gathered my composure and said if you wanted his dick so bad why didn't you do all this shit before I was in the picture. She said she didn't see him like that until she started to see me changing him. By that, she means I stopped him from dropping everything and running to her aid. I mean, she has so many men to choose from, and I didn't think he needed to be Captain Savajo. I said it wasn't enough for you to have community pussy you had to ruin, now I know, am already dying relationship. I asked her when was the last time they spoke, and she said we talk every day, and he's been over here a few times. She says nothing sexual happens,

and he talks about how he tucked up and how he wishes this could have been different. Sounds like bullshit to me. I then said I didn't care and that I was done talking and to act like she didn't know me if she saw me. He tried calling and texting incessantly because Tina told him that I lived in the same complex, but I blocked his number and muted all notifications. I haven't looked back. He also tried to contact my friend, who told him, in no uncertain terms, to leave me the fuck alone. Tina has also been trying to reach out through mutual friends. I have told them all, that I want nothing to do with either of them. I'm done with the drama and the lies. Apparently, he's scrambling to find a new place and is kicking himself for his predicament.

Honestly, I don't care. He made his choices, and now he has to deal with the consequences. I've been going to therapy, and it's been incredibly helpful in processing my emotions and building my self-esteem. I'm focusing on myself now, and I'm determined to move forward and create a happy, fulfilling life. I know some of you thought I was being harsh, but I stand by my decision. I needed to protect myself, and I refused to let him manipulate me or guilt me into feeling responsible for his problems. Thank you again for all your support. It meant the world to me.