Reddit Stories - BETRAYAL, TEMPTATION, and UNEXPECTED Choices_ The Shocking Tale of Love, Lies, and Second Thoughts_

Episode Date: October 8, 2025

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I hope you enjoy this story. Spouse had an affair with her supervisor, proposed the idea of having an open relationship, but reconsidered when I developed feelings for a different woman. Greetings everyone, I never imagined this would happen. This point, to the point of reaching out to strangers on the Internet for guidance, but here we are. My wife and I have been together for ten years but married for eight, we met in college and were each other's firsts and only. I honestly thought we had a unique and beautiful relationship because of that, but it appears that was just me.

Some time ago my wife began working at new company, at first she found it difficult to fit in because she's always been reserved, but after encouragement for me she made friends with a group of girls, some of whom were single, divorced, or dating but non-married. At first I was happy she made friends, but then she started going out for drinks, partying or something other thing her friends had planned. I became concerned by her change in behavior and tried to talk to her about it, but at the same time didn't want to restrict her in any way, it started to affect our relationship in the bedroom. My wife wasn't one to initiate intimacy, but with her continued going out she was either too tired or wasn't in the mood. At some point her company got a new manager whom my wife and her friends had taken a shining two. She began mentioning him in passing, but it got a point where pointing how he handled certain problems that didn't seem to be work-related. I questioned her on her fascination with this man and she brushed off my concerns. She even started asking if I regretted not having more experience with woman to which I said

no because she is all I ever needed. I swore I thought for a moment I saw a flash of sadness in her eyes but she quickly changed the subject. She started mentioning open marriages as a way to spice up our marriage, I was taken back because my wife was never this kind of person and not that liberal seagulley to be honest. I at first refused and questioned if this had anything to do with the new manager to which she denied, but said she felt like missed out, but at the same time didn't want to lose me, so this was a safer option. I warned her that she was playing with fire then reluctantly and naively agreed.

So we set some rules mainly not to sleep with another person in our home, so for a year and my wife goes on dates, as one night stands then as if I didn't see it coming somehow is in some kind of relationship with that manager. I, on the other hand, had a few dates but no one nightstands because freaky it felt wrong to me, my wife would ask if I was fine but really wouldn't change her behavior. At some point I felt the love I had for her, that pure special innocence of marriage was gone and it was destroying me inside. I ended going on a date with an amazing woman who migrated over from South Korea, conversation was effortless, she had wit of a lighting fast-wiped crack and a smile that had one forget himself. This, of course, led to more dates until we were intimate, I honestly never had segs like I had with this woman, I never knew a woman could be so giving and make one feel so desirable.

At first my wife thought it was cute, but as the months went by she began questioning my relationship with my lover, I promptly pointed out that this was her idea and even she was in a relationship with the manager I was concerned about. She was silent, look she wanted to say something but held her tongue. She began coming home early to surprise me with dinner and get the house extra clean, she so started coming to my workplace to drop off lunch and began to initiate intimacy in the bedroom. Honestly, if it wasn't for her opening up our marriage, which I'm also to blame for agreeing, all this would have had me jumping for joy. I barely gave into her attempts at intimacy and when I did it was simply to get it over with. Something in me towards my wife died and I could see she felt it too.

I asked what brought on this change in her what was different. The response I got was that she wants to show me that she loves me and is happy with me. I never intended to, but I burst out laughing, I asked about her little group of friends, her manager lover or her one-night stands. She didn't respond that day and simply went to bed in tears. The next day I get home to find her waiting for me. She told me she wants to close the marriage, that this whole experience was a horrible mistake, that regrets everything and wants us to be the focus of our relationship again.

I told her to be honest with me and tell me what inspired all this in the first place and wouldn't you know it. It was her group of friends that planted the idea because of their numerous seguile exploits and when her manager came around he surprisingly supported that lifestyle and encouraged my wife to live free. Apparently it developed into an emotional affair but only got physical once the marriage opened. While like that makes it better, she described it as being drunk behind the wheel of a speeding car, it was thrilling and intoxicating but the price of this decision has become too much for her to bear. She sees now that she never needed a comparison, that what we had was truly unique and special but now she feels like she destroyed

our marriage and any chance of a life together. I told her I might not to ever be able to see her as my wife again and this made her break down in front of me, I simply held her in silence as she cried until she fell asleep in my arms on the couch. She has since left her job and cut off contact with all her friends and her manager and even told me she's willing to spend the rest of her life making it up to me and work her fingers to the bone to been seen as a wife by me. But I haven't cut contact with my lover. My lover quite frankly makes me feel like a man, like I can challenge the world and my wife hasn't in a while. Truth is I don't know what to do in this situation. I would love to get the special feeling back if possible, but my lover basically

saved me when I was at my lowest. Please help me. Forgot to add we have our first marriage counseling session in a couple of hours, not sure how that will go. Edit, why didn't expect such a response? Thank you also very much for your support and advice. I will post an update on our therapy session because quite frankly that in itself needs it on trade but I will answer some questions. 1. My lover is not married but she does of the open marriage. Two, my intention for this marriage is still unclear mainly because I feel as much as I love my wife I cannot trust her yet. At the same time I find myself unable to truly let go because of our years together, and the reason I agreed to counseling sessions was to figure out if I can come to a solution

of sound mind and get off the indecisive train. Three, I didn't demand her phone at first because I didn't want to see an actual image of my wife with another man, the mental images and movies were bad enough but to see the actual picture or whatever would have shattered me more than I already am. Forget to mention this morning as I got out of the shower, I saw my wife holding my phone and silently shaking as she read a message I had received, I just took it from her and didn't say anything. The message was from my lover it said, Good morning, handsome, I slept in your t-shirt last

night because I miss going to bed and waking up in your arms, I miss greeting the new day with a kiss from you. I think this messed up my wife quite a bit because she has basically been shadowing me for the past two hours even when I went for a jog, she never once jog with me, not a single time during our entire relationship. I met her on an evening when my wife was on one of her dates. I was coming from out of a bookstore, where I spent most of my evenings when this whole fiasco started, she, my lover, was being followed by a short, beefy man yelling at her, and when I saw him grab her arm and violently turn her around I unconsciously step in. I practiced judo, but it's nothing spectacular, with that I was able to restrain him an accidentally dislocated wrist.

It turns out she got him fired for Seguel harassment and he didn't take it too well. Afterwards she insisted on buying me coffee as a thank you to which I agreed. As for her reaction to the open marriage was at first hesitation, she was adamant about not being a homewrecker, but after she learned the full scope of my wife's actions for me she basically threw caution to the wind. I saw him grab her arm and violently turn her around, I unconsciously step in. You have two options of stories you can tell your grandchildren. Either I saved your grandmother from a blackguard and she fell into my arms or your grandmother once took a year off to try out a bunch of crap and I, wiped here. was totally okay with that. Shoes

Update 1, the therapist seemed nice and experienced, she appeared unbiased and actually eager to help. Even though it was our very first session my wife took it as an opportunity to lay it all out, it seems. She confessed that this group of friends made her wonder if she had missed her chance because she was committed to her first boyfriend and had no other experiences, that she never had the same adventure some of these supposedly amazing women had. Remember some of whom are divorced but none are married.

The therapist pointed out that this can be and often is detrimental to a marriage due to the difference in mindset. My wife seemed to agree then added that after the new manager started approaching her, some of these friends encouraged her to see where it goes, that this was a chance for her to explore or discover herself. She obviously felt guilty, so she says, so she never did anything physical until one of the divorced one suggested an open marriage as a loophole and told her, her that some couples come out stronger because of it. So after regrettably, again so she says, convincing me to open up the marriage her so-called adventure began. It was intoxicating and blinding but lacked real substance, not like the kind we built over the years and she started to question her reasons for doing this. She said she could see the hurt in my eyes but told

herself this was an adventure, she said she'll never forgive herself for this. She chanced to have an amazing experience so the gravity of it all never it until she noticed a change in me. At first she assumed because I went on dates I would gradually accept her situation but that all changed when my lover became a constant appearance in my adventure. Apparently I started to smile again for no reason and my eyes would light up when I would get a text message or when I cheerfully left the room to answer a call. She said she suddenly felt a pit in her stomach and started to get many panic attacks for no reason. She went to her friends for advice again, but they said it was a normal reaction for me to have during the adventure,

but when the same divorced one who suggested this in the first place said it looks like his lover makes him happy, is when the reality of it all finally dawned on her and the very real possibility that another woman and not his wife gave him joy almost made her pass out. She realized how ridiculous this all was and begged them to help her win me back, but they just told her if she couldn't deal with it why did she open her marriage in the first place? She knew then and there that these people were toxic in a threat to our marriage and the life we built, hence she's been on a mission to win me back by any means necessary. I on the other hand didn't share much, but I did let the counsellor know about the situation on my side with my lover still in the picture to which the counselor said no resolution could ever be reached with my lover still in the picture. And suggested we book another appointment after tomorrow. The counsellor did say it was unusual for someone to stay with their first this long and gave the impression that any storm can be weathered.

I highly suspect she wants us to be one of her success stories. Sorry that it's long but I figured I might as well give a full update. Edit. Well, like I said my lover makes me feel like a man, what mean is. When I've had a hard day I am not greeted by cold indifference but by a warm hug and a listening year, when my insecurities play out. she encourages me that nothing is beyond my reach, more than anything. This may sound sexist so apologizes, she gives me the space to be the man in the relationship. What I mean is my lover is of the belief that women were meant to do the things men can't do,

again I think this has something to do with her culture. She believes men aren't as nurturing or compassionate as women thus in her view gentle heart can calm a raging volcano. A Korean proverb or saying or something she believes that she should rule the bedroom and make it exciting but never belittle me or encroach in my space in other areas. She believes men have far fewer needs than women so once these are met would basically slay the dragon for the woman. Now I must add she does believe in equal pay and mutual respect but not the extremes that people seem to go to these days. Like I said it may come off as sexist

but I think that's largely to do with her culture. Edit. Two, like I said my lover makes me feel like a man. I assume you are in the West. In the West, there is a very, very small percentage of women who will happily do this for you. I managed to find one after years of dealing with the other kind, so I know what I'm talking about. You're talking about like 1% of highly in-demand women, and you've managed to land one. Now, let's talk about your wife for a second she was a woman who had everything she wanted in life. But ultimately, she let an outsider tell her, Here's all the reasons you should put the person who is passionate about you, your one and only on the shelf,

and open all your holes for a guy who couldn't give a crap about you. But definitely wants to F sounds like what you're doing with your wife and lover right now or you determined to be like your wife. Will you take a girl who has eyes only for you and let her hang out to drive because you've got some idea in your imagination, who your wife used to be in your history, and will dump loving girl for someone who is married to you to check the got married box between affairs.

If you are determined to be like your wife, then by all means, stay with her. Here's the warning, your wife only wants you now because you look like a catch because another girl wants to steal you. That won't last after you drop Korea Girl, you'll be back to square one. And when that happens, you'll have lost both your wife and Korea Girl, because a woman who makes a man feel like a man is in high demand, and then you'll be back on here. Update 2. Thank you to everyone who has reached out. apologize for not being able to reply to each and every one of you, be it inbox or on the post.

Anyway, here's the update so far again. Thank you all for your support. It's quite literally been an episode of Jerry Springer. I have since moved into an apartment owned by my brother for a ridiculously cheap price. He owns properties and would have let me stay for free but I refuse that. Just a little of what I have uncovered about my wife's behaviors and some unsettling things about her manager. During our second session of counseling, I asked some of the questions that some Redditors asked one. If she was sure nothing physical happened before the opening of the marriage. She looked towards the ground and begged me not to make her say it. She said if she said it then it would destroy us, but after some pushing she shared that it wasn't physical but

they touched themselves in front of each other. This dishebag convinced her that since it wasn't physical, sort of, it wasn't technically cheating and that they were simply enjoying each other's full beauty. I was absolutely floored by this and she started shaking and hyperventilating, snot even began flowing from her nostrils as she cried and apologized to me. At this point even the counselor was taken aback and had a look disbelief, my wife got on her knees and hugged my legs saying how sorry she was. Two, I then asked her what really changed her view of him. She said after she started pulling back from the group as a whole, his behavior towards her changed, then one evening as she was leaving a meeting she passed his office and

heard him speaking about her to another male colleague. He said he was surprised at how easy it was to get her and how she is living proof that you can't trust the quiet ones, when the colleague asked if he actually fancied her, his response was that she was a pleasant distraction and that he had absolutely no intention of breaking up with his fiancé. He even added that this was simply to get it out of his system because the only woman who has ever understood him was his fiancé and he didn't want to break up with her. He also mentioned how he felt bad for me, but you snooze, you lose.

My wife upon realizing that she was nothing more than a piece of meat to this man added by the fact that she betrayed me for a cheap thrill actually made herself slaughtering in that moment. She said she left her workplace and vomited in the park. lot. She also added that her first thoughts were what have I done, and my name, please forgive me, I'm so sorry three. I then asked her if she loved him and when it was that stopped loving me. She looked me dead in the eye through tears and said she never stopped loving me, which honestly makes it worse, and that he was just something different. She thought it was love but now realizes

how foolish that was. She squeezed my arm with surprising strength and said she knows she messed up but she misses us and the connection we had before all this, she even suggested we move away and start afresh just the two of us just as it was meant to be. I then told her it wouldn't be fair to my lover and that I need time away from her to process all of this. It was like she had a meltdown at those words, she started sobbing harder and saying incoherent things. She held on to me as if I was going to disappear, took some time for both me and the counselor to calm her down.

The counselor managed to convince her that made me, Maybe time apart could help us heal. Now I wish I could end the update with just this, but as we got home I began to pack, my wife got a video call from her laptop, it was one of her former friends in tears. It turns out that after my wife resigned this friend and the manager began a fling of their own but apparently she had a pregnancy scare which caused him to basically turn into Dr. Jekyll. To make matters worse she had a boyfriend whom she apparently could see a future with him and the only reason why she even had a fling was because she was curious of the experience.

Funny how that seems to be a trend. Her boyfriend found out because he discovered an email between the two discussing the potential pregnancy but the manager basically accused her of baby trapping him. Of course he left her and the reason why she made contact is because she was under impression that my wife managed to save our marriage and was desperately seeking advice. I just turned and left and have been staying in the apartment ever since. Once again, thank you all for your thoughts and helpful advice. Update 3, first and foremost, thank you to everyone who took the time to reach out and share

either helpful advice, your own similar life story or just offered an ear for me to rant. It truly means a lot well quite a bit as happened the former friend who had the pregnancy scare was indeed pregnant but the stress of losing her boyfriend and being humiliated by the affair caused her to lose the baby. She basically turned ballistic, went full scorched earth on the manager. She exposed him to all upper management and his fiancé. I happened to find his fiancé on Facebook, was curious, and this woman is basically the poster child of pretty small town girl. Based on her profile, she's a special needs teacher who is a homebody and is very family-oriented. My very first thought was what the hell is he doing messing around with other women

when his got her at home. Honestly, why men like him end up with women like her is one of the greatest mysteries of life. The former friend actually got in contact with me she wanted my side of the version of events because she was collecting evidence against him but she wanted to do it in person. She already had her COVID test and so did I, and I agreed. From the moment I saw her face I knew she was broken. The dark circles under her eyes and her red-colored iris clearly showed she didn't get any sleep and was haunted by her own thoughts. She thanked me for agreeing to meet her and immediately apologized for her role in my wife's adventure. Turns out her and my wife spoke again and that's when she learned I had moved out. She didn't blame shift and wanted to take responsibility,

hence why she wanted me in person. I thanked her for her efforts but asked her why would she go this far. She said losing both a child and the love of her life changed who she was at the core. She said she can hardly look in the mirror without feeling disgust and she can hardly sleep because at all she sees is her exes face the day he found out. This woman clearly hated herself and this meeting might have been a form of punishment for her. She tells me since fraternizing among co-workers is a breach of conduct and more so because he was in a position of influence, he will most likely be fired and possibly blacklisted from that field as a whole, but the same may be true for her as well and she has accepted it. She left after getting my side of the story and

apologized again. I needed to get a few things from the old place, so I picked a time when I thought my wife wasn't home. Unfortunately she was there, but what surprised me is that she had most of our wedding photos out on the coffee table as well as others, and she was staring at them. When she noticed me I could see she was crying, she tried to hug me, but I gently pushed her aside. She tried to offer me lunch, but I told her I wasn't hungry and that I wouldn't be long, just needed a few things. Before I could proceed, she said she had something to show me, she pulled out her phone and showed me a message she received two days ago from her former manager who berated her.

It was from a new number since she blocked his old one, apparently my wife helped her former friend expose him to all relevant parties and he was fuming. She said she got the idea from chump lady and marriage builders, she thought by exposing the secret she was removing its power as well as giving us a fighting chance. I told her I was glad that she had the courage to do that but it doesn't change anything between us. I also informed her that I will be stopping marriage counseling but will do individual counseling instead. This made her sobbed softly and she said she understood. I know I am supposed to feel either elation of the actions taken or rage because it took this long but I feel numb towards her.

This isn't normal hence why I want to address it in individual counseling and not marriage counseling. I have also seen a divorce lawyer at my brother's recommendation just to be safe, as of now I am not really willing to fight for this marriage and it seems my wife consents it. Before I left she tried to initiate intimacy but when I refused she yelled and asked what does my lover do for me that she can't, what does my lover give me that she can't? She in a voice so loud I am sure the neighbors heard it, said that whatever it was I wanted she, wife, would do it. I shook my head and told if she still couldn't tell her. after all that's happened, then it's clear where our marriage is headed and left.

This is where I am at, at least for now anyway, and once again thank you all for your help.