Reddit Stories - BETRAYAL Unveiled_ UNFAITHFUL Spouse's Social REVELATIONS Exposed_

Episode Date: October 6, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #betrayal #unveiled #unfaithful #revelations  Summary: A spouse's unfaithfulness is exposed on social media, leading to a whirlwind of betrayal and revelations. Reddit users share stories of uncovering deceit in their relationships, sparking debates on morality and trust.  Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, betrayal, unfaithful, spouse, social, revelations, deceit, relationships, morality, trust, infidelity, honesty, secrets, heartbreak, forgiveness, communicationBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. Employed a detective and discovered that my spouse was being unfaithful, participating in enjoyable gatherings, and sharing it on social media. Now he is pleading for me to return or he will tie the knot. To his mistress. My husband, M-47, and I, F-44, I have been married for just over a decade and it has been, for the most part, a loving marriage centered around our two beautiful children. Of course, I've had grievances.

He travels a lot for work, is constantly glued to his phone, and sometimes would abruptly pop out for errands that he has always been incredibly vague about. Initially these didn't concern me too much. He has a very demanding job that has allowed us to have a lifestyle I never thought possible, meant that I could leave work to be with the children, take us on wonderful holidays, send the children to a great school. I always felt that complaining to him about his work, phone, computer, and random emergencies would be so selfish considering everything he does for us. However, two weeks ago, I started getting really suspicious after I'd found a condom in the inside pocket of his blazer. There was no reason for him to have it there as we only ever have sex at home

and, frankly, it isn't something we do as often as we use too. This prompted me to do something I never thought I would do, but I found an opportunity to get into his phone when he wasn't looking. I'm not sure what I was looking for. I first looked at his photos but couldn't find anything. Then I thought I would check his messaging apps, WhatsApp, Telegram, both were password locked which I found very odd. Only I message could be accessed, but there was barely anything there. At this point, I had a sinking feeling something was up.

Last year, a friend was in a similar situation and used a digital investigator to learn more about her absent and secretive fiancé. The investigator found out that this man had been living a complete double life, with a long-term girlfriend in Edinburgh, and, unbelievably, a whole business he had set up and was earning money from. She had no idea about the business or all the money he was earning from it, and no doubt spending on his girlfriend. I asked for the investigator's details and requested that they pull together anything

and everything they could find about my husband. The investigator spent about a week digging online and, and came back to me with a report that changed my life forever. I got a call from the investigator, warning me that my husband's report would be a very difficult read, and that I should open it in private at a time when I would be able to process it fully. Since I received it, I have barely been able to eat, sleep, properly take care of the kids, or speak to him, and yet he is so absent-minded he doesn't even realize something is wrong.

It turns out that my husband of over 10 years has been one. having an affair with a woman 15 years is junior two. Financing this woman's lifestyle and her failed business venture three. Attending sex parties with her, where they have sex with other partners four. Hosting in a revolting online sex forum, including pictures of his genitals, and details his addiction to porn and escorts to his creepy online friends five. Based on this posts online, has clearly been spending thousands on escorts as far back as seven years ago. I have no idea where to go from here. I don't know what to do.

I have no idea how to confront him about this, or if I should see a lawyer first. I know the obvious decision is to simply divorce, but our children are nine and seven. I have loved him since we first met 14 years ago, and I know that I have a place in his heart too, in spite of these actions. If he is truly an addict, then maybe there is a way to get through this if he agrees to treatment. I am a complete mess and I can't talk about this to anyone in person just yet. Any advice you have for me would be really appreciated. Update 1, February 3, 2025.

Firstly, I'd just like to thank, almost, every single one of you who has commented to leave me advice or message me privately. I took a lot of advice on board, especially legally speaking, and this has proven to be of great benefit. I apologize for my long absence and lack of a very much. I hope the update below can explain it. I chose to wait until after New Year's as I did not want to rob the children of one last Christmas and New Year's holiday as a family. In the meantime, I researched solicitors and sought recommendations from trusted friends. Rather humiliatingly, I did, after much urging on this website, also schedule and go through with an STI test. It was horrifically embarrassing, but I am relieved to say that it came negative.

I don't know how I could have coped if he had gotten me sick because of his revolting actions. He made my job incredibly easy by flying out for a work trip, not that anything he says could ever be trusted, on the second and I immediately got the ball rolling, met with the solicitor, packed up all of his belongings into six suitcases. Had the locks changed and spoke to a child psychologist to work out the best way to explain things to the kids, who are far too young to understand the full picture of course. Fast forward to a week later and upon his return I, having made sure the children were picked up by my mother after school, greeted him to a hallway full of suitcases and divorce papers.

I had printed out the report in full and started walking him through it before he started breaking down in tears. It was a compulsion, he was unbelievably stressed, and that if I left him he would have not choice but to marry the other woman, whereas he would end it immediately if I were to take him back. This last part was truly the nail and the coffin, I don't think he even realized just how manipulative a comment that was to make. After hours of a back and forth and of his groveling, he gave up. He was left at the bottom of the stairs in the entrance to our home with his suitcases, waiting for a cab to take him to God knows where.

There is still a lengthy legal process ahead and unfortunately, it turns out that him being unfaithful, etc. Doesn't really impact how assets might be divided following the legal battle. However, I'm confident that my solicitor will get the outcome I need to keep the house and live independently. In terms of the children, I would rather not discuss them so as to keep it private but it has been an incredibly difficult adjustment and sometimes I do feel guilty. As for myself, I am still completely heartbroken and frankly I don't ever hope to find love again. I just don't think I can quite trust like that again. I did get a number of comments and private messages blaming me for my soon-to-be ex-husband's

behavior, claiming I did not give him sufficient sexual attention and that I shouldn't complain because he provided me with a certain lifestyle. Firstly, these comments are awful and betray a repulsive worldview with regards to sex, intimacy, and marriage. Secondly, our ailing sex life was not my doing and was, at times, and criticism I myself had of our relationship, not the other way around. Thirdly, just because someone provides you with a lifestyle, doesn't entitle them to treat you as if you're nothing, with no respect and no honestly. I would have hoped all would be aware of that. Update 2, February 20, 2025. I never imagined that a single Reddit post would change my life in such a profound way. To everyone who commented, messaged, and supported me, thank you.

Your advice, encouragement, and even tough love gave me the clarity and strength I desperately needed. I am really sorry if I appear to have ignored some of your comments and DM. I just wanted to thank you all and leave this final update. I will check and try to respond to messages and comments as much as I can. In the weeks following my last update, I have been navigating a completely new reality. The legal process is still ongoing, and while my solicitor has warned me that things could get complicated, I am standing my ground. I want a clean break, financial security for my children, and a future where I am no longer

tethered to a man who deceived me in every way imaginable. The fact that his infidelity does not significantly impact the division of assets is a bitter pill to swallow, but I will not let it deter me from seeking what is fair. Thankfully, some aspects of his actions that the investigator uncovered will impact his case negatively. Emotionally, this has been one of the hardest things I've ever endured. The betrayal still cuts deep, and some nights, I find myself questioning everything, I repeatedly keep on going back over our years together, trying to pinpoint where I missed the signs, where I ignored my instincts. The truth is, I may never fully understand why he did what he did, but I have finally come to

accept that his actions were never a reflection of my worth. I was not lacking. I was not failing. He was. Since our separation, my soon-to-be ex-husband has fluctuated between remorseful and completely delusional. One day, he is begging for another chance, promising to change, telling me he will attend therapy and fight for our family. The next, he is enraged that I have ruined his life and taken away the

stability he had with our children. He has tried to paint himself as the victim, conveniently glossing over his years of deceit and betrayal. At one point, he even suggested that we could remain partners but live separate lives, his way of trying to have his cake and eat it too. The most frustrating part has been when he makes an argument that this was a mental health issue, or an addition issue. Actually, it is 100% an entitlement issue. I have a lot of supportive people on here to thank for making that very clear to me at a time when I was doubting this. The manipulation has been exhausting. He has reached out to mutual friends, attempting to garner sympathy and twist the narrative. I have had to set firm boundaries and remind myself that I owe him nothing.

The man I thought I knew is gone, if he ever truly existed at all. His behavior in the past few weeks has only reinforced my decision to walk away for good. For those wondering about co-parenting, it is a work in progress. I won't share too much for privacy reasons, but he is currently on supervised visits while we establish a longer-term arrangement. The children are adjusting as best they can, and I am doing everything in my power to keep their lives as stable as possible. They are my focus now, and their well-being is my only priority. As for myself, I am healing, slowly but surely. I have reconnected with old friends, thrown myself

into activities that bring me joy, and even started to look toward the future with something resembling hope. I won't lie, trusting again feels impossible right now. Love, at least the kind I believed in, feels like a distant and naive concept. But I have to be a very much. But I have a very much. But I I also know that I am stronger than I ever thought I was, and that gives me faith that I will rebuild, in time, in my own way. I could have never imagined getting through this when I had made my first post. Here I am, sort of, on the other end of it. Still, just about, standing.

To those who may find themselves in a similar situation, please, trust your instincts. Do not gaslight yourself into ignoring the signs. If you don't have 100% certainty, find a way of getting it like I did. Either try and gather evidence yourself that you can use in court, or hire a pie-slash-investigator like I did. And most importantly, remember that betrayal does not define you, how you rise from it does. This is my final update. I am closing this chapter of my life for good.

Thank you all, truly, for being part of my journey. Next story. Husbands family kicked me out at Christmas because they hated me so I divorced him, later I found out they were stealing our rent money and now I'm suing them. I, 31F, married my soon-to-be ex-husband, M-33, in 2018. My in-laws never liked me and made it clear. STBX insisted that they're just putting up a tough exterior and they'll grow to love me. To show how evil they are, one time I joined them for dinner and brought a cake I'd made,

because I was always raised to be a gracious guest. When I stepped into the kitchen and offered the cake to his mother as a thank you for inviting me, she took the plate over to the garbage bin, dumped it in, and handed me the plate back. When I told my husband what she did, he confronted her and all of a sudden the crocodile tears started and she claimed she grabbed the plate but didn't get a good grip, I let go too quickly, and it fell to the floor, so of course it had to be thrown away. My sale confirmed that was what happened. My STBX owned his own business and they called me a gold digger behind his back.

Of course they insisted on a pre-nup, which I didn't care about because I never thought my marriage would end and it would appease them and may allow them to finally treat me kindly. Nope. His business failed once COVID hit. We went through his savings and my own trying to keep it afloat. I refused to go into debt to keep it going, so he closed it down. In 2022, he was suffering from really bad depression because he lost his business and couldn't find new work. He suggested we moved to his hometown, closer to his family, so he had a larger support network. Against my best judgment we did. He wanted to only work part-time while he

tried to restart his business, so I became the main breadwinner. And as with most wives, I became the person in charge of buying gifts. Stupid old me thought buying them thoughtful, expensive gifts would finally make them see I wanted to be accepted by them. Gifts to us were a couple's gift but clearly for my STBX only. Every holiday was spent with them. Monthly dinners with the whole family. After a year, I realized that if I ever tried to talk or join a conversation, everyone would go quiet, so I just stopped talking when I visited.

In early December they finalized plans for Christmas. A few days later my STBX said his family decided they didn't want to. want me to join them for Christmas Eve dinner and Christmas lunch because I ruined the family vibe. I replied, fine, we'll do our own thing instead. My STBX sheepishly looked away and said he was still going to go. I was livid and so disappointed in him. That was the moment I knew my marriage was over. So I returned the presents I had bought for his family. In their place, I got one pair of novelty business socks for Phil, a supermarket brand bottle of shampoo for Mill, the nastiest perfume I could find at the dollar store for Sill.

The most expensive gift was a large rawhide bone for Bill and his wife's Chihuahua, too big for it to get its jaw around, rendering it useless. I saved about $600 to put on a deposit for a new apartment. My husband come home from Christmas lunch telling me I humiliated him and embarrassed him in front of his family. I asked him why would he think I'd buy nice gifts for people who clearly don't like me and don't want me around? Serve divorce papers last week. Remember how he was supposed to be a millionaire by now so we had that pre-nup? STBX is not eligible for any of my savings. It was required to keep separate accounts or alimony. He doesn't have money for rent and auto insurance.

Not my problem anymore. Some of my friends and family and and on my side and proud that I went out in a blaze of glory. Others are telling me I was being way too petty, which isn't really like me. So, Ida? Comments where Op has replied. Commenter, I would say be glad you did not have children with him. Be glad you can escape and be free with no strings. P.S. This relationship should be a learning lesson on the love that you want for yourself

and the life you want. Not as a loss. Boop First thing I did after I moved into my new apartment was adopt an older car from the shelter. He was allergic and I couldn't never adopt one since we first started living together. We're just two old hags living our best lives after being rejected. Commenter, you're not old, silly.

So glad you're enjoying the company of an older cat, car is interesting but not as cuddly, who appreciates you and will show that far more than STBX ever did. Oop, do. Just notice the typo. Greater than less than. Keeping it in because it's actually hilarious. Beep, beep. Commenter, NTA. He chose his family over you and still expected you to buy all the presents. This was perfectly planned and well-deserved for every one of them, including him. Oop, he only worked 12 hours a week at Walmart till he could do non-existent work restarting his business. I make just over six figures and I can't believe I didn't realize years ago I was the family ATM, commenter, and he is so thoughtful of them to insist on a pre-nup. I hope you send them a sincere thank-you note after the divorce is finalized, L.O.O. My lawyer even laughed that the pre-nup that was set up for him is going to be what we use for me. It required both spouses to maintain separate bank accounts and each spouse could keep 100% of their savings.

No spouse eligible for alimony. Update 1, February 6th, 2025. Many thanks to everyone for their support in my last post. I thought I'd send a small update. First, for those who asked how the deposit on my new apartment was only the $600 I saved on the gifts, it certainly wasn't. I had to dip into savings, but that $600 helped. My STBX didn't bother reaching out to me after I left until he was served the divorce papers and my lawyer made it clear we're exercising the pre-nup.

Then it was loving voicemails and texts, I never picked up, from him and his family for a few days trying to convince me to come back, which eventually turned to threatening and cruel voicemails and texts when it was clear I wasn't budging. My lawyer suggested I don't block them so we have evidence of harassment, if needed. Basically, give them the rope to hang themselves with. But then last night I got call after call from my STBX stupidly, I picked it up thinking there was some kind of emergency or something. I barely got hello out when he said,

The rent is a week late. I told him that's strange because I paid my landlord six days ago. He paused and sighed dramatically and replied, No, the rent for here. I reminded him I don't live there and he shouldn't expect rent. Q. His parents both texting me that they're going to sue me to pay the remainder of the lease entirely. I'm not worried about having an eviction on my record, since the apartment is in his parents' names. When we first announced we were moving to his hometown, they rented an apartment for us right away so we could move right in.

They've been renewing the lease each year. We had to pay his parents and then they write a check to the landlord, who has no idea who STBX and I are, let alone that we live there. Red flag, I know. I'm glad I had a few weeks to prep my leaving since they'd probably use the fact that it's their apartment to kick me out immediately. Divorce is probably going to be a bumpy ride with this man-child and his psycho parents. Any advice from anyone who's been through it is welcome. Update 2, February 19, 2025. Super sorry if I'm annoying members who aren't interested, but a few requested an update.

So the people who commented that my soon-to-be former in-laws were probably charging my STBX and me more than the amount on the lease, you called it. And we wouldn't have found out if they weren't so entitled and determined to hurt me. They got a cousin who happens to be a lawyer to send me a letter demanding I pay the entirety of the remainder of the lease or they will file suit and force me to pay it. Clearly a scare tactic. So my lawyer sent a formal request to their lawyer for a copy of the lease, which I've never seen, and a copy of the lease. of their written agreement with us as sub-leases, which doesn't exist. They sent the lease and insisted the sub-lease agreement was a verbal contract. Not only is sub-leasing explicitly prohibited, but my mother-in-law and father-in-law had been charging us an extra $200 each month.

So we've notified the landlord that I've been living there with my STBX and the leases were living in their own house throughout the duration of the lease, and sent copies of my driver's license, with the address, and over two years of bank and credit card statements with the address listed. They were served with a 30-day eviction yesterday, which I know about because Mill left a voicemail about me kicking my STBX out of his home and that she now drives with a baseball bat in her car and she'll be keeping an eye out for me, L.O.L. Obviously, my lawyer's expertise is family law and this was out of her purview, so she referred me to a colleague who focuses on real estate law. We met today to devise a battle plan and I am now suing my Mill and Phil for all

the money I can prove I transferred for rent for the entirety of the residency there, since the apartment was technically not a legal apartment to rent since they couldn't sub-lease. No clean hands to rent to us and then sue me. He's not sure how a judge will buy it and its way beyond my state's civil compensation limit, but he's confident that it will scare them and leave them open to settling for just returning the additional $200 from each payment, which I think is fair, because I did live there with my STBX, so I don't think it's right to get all the rent money back. I'm an additional adult and adults pay rent. And I don't want them to have the satisfaction of saying I'm using the divorce as a windfall. On the STBX front, there's no news there. We will likely need to go to

family court for a separation order since he won't agree to the financial details of the separation agreement my lawyer has drafted. My state requires a one-year separation period before a divorce can be finalized, so this is going to be a long process. A few people asked why he did what he did and if he's offered any kind of explanation or justification. We haven't really talked since he was served. I don't know if he just fell out of love but I was still financially convenient, or if the mask finally lifted, or if it was being so close to his family and them having opportunities to manipulate him. I don't know and I don't care. I don't need closure, I need

them all gone. Looking back, making promises during couples counseling and slowly regressing back is enough closure. Knowing he allowed his family to treat me like crap for so long is closure. That final betrayal at Christmas is closure. My focus isn't on figuring it out, it's making sure I'm happy.