Reddit Stories - Betrayed Abroad_ Unveiling the Secret CELEBRATION in Spain During His MYSTERIOUS DISAPPEARANCE Before Our Wedding_

Episode Date: October 15, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #celebration #spain #mysteriousdisappearance #wedding #betrayedabroad  Summary: A thrilling tale unfolds in Spain as secrets are revealed during a celebration, amidst a mysterious disappearance before a wedding. Betrayal abroad shakes the core of relationships, leaving everyone questioning loyalties and trust.  Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, celebration, spain, mysteriousdisappearance, wedding, betrayedabroadBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. Discovered my partner celebrating in Spain with companions after he vanished two weeks prior to our wedding. However, he declined to return and expressed a desire for more life encounters, so I had to accept his decision. Called to the wedding. I, 24F, was supposed to get married three days back, but I had to cancel everything because Marcus, my fiancé, 24M,

did something super messed up. He and I have been together for the power of, five years since we were in college, and earlier this year, we got engaged. We were very happy together and I had been super pumped about the wedding up until two weeks back. Things changed all of a sudden because one morning after I woke up, I just found him gone. No note, no text, no explanation. So of course I started panicking and I tried to call him, I tried to text him, but he didn't respond and what's worse was that his phone was switched off for one entire day. I asked his family about it, but even they had no clue and when I reached out to his friends,

they did not respond to me. Initially, I thought that he had gotten cold feet and had made a run for it, but as time passed, I started to think that maybe something bad had happened, and I was almost going to report him missing but really late at night. I think around four in the morning, I finally found out what had actually happened and why he was missing. He did not even feel the need to inform me about it himself. I found out about it when one of his friends posted a bunch of pictures on Instagram and they were partying at some bar. Lucky for me, they had tagged the bar in their stories and posts, and when I looked up the place online, I realized that it was in Spain.

I was furious because he was getting sloshed with his friends while I was worrying like crazy back here, so I instantly texted him and I told him that I had figured out where he was. And I also told him that if he did not come back on the next flight, the wedding would be off. I also sent him a really long message about how disappointed I was in his behavior because he had literally just ghosted me for one full day and hadn't even had the common courtesy to inform his fiancé before taking off on some vacation with his friends. I was mad and I did not bother to hide it in the messages that I sent him after I saw the post that his friend had made but even then, he did not respond immediately.

I had to wait until the next evening for him to finally call me back and I think that was one of the most disappointing phone calls that I've ever had. Because when he finally did call me back, instead of apologizing profusely and trying to fix the situation, he made everything much worse and that's why I ended up canceling the wedding. When I picked up the call, I was very cold towards him and he had picked up on that tone. But instead of acknowledging what he had done, he instantly started getting defensive and he told me that his college friends had been planning this for him for a really long time and they had only informed him about it after they had paid for everything.

He knew that the two of us had discussed the idea of Bachelor and Bachelorette parties before, and he knew that I did not like it, so we hadn't bothered to have these sorts of parties. But a few days before the trip, when his friends contacted him and told him about it, he knew that he had to go because it would be really rude and inconsiderate of him to refuse after they had made all the arrangements and even paid for it. He had known about it for almost three days before the trip and yet, he hadn't told me about it and that made me even more upset so, of course, I started yelling, at him on the phone about his behavior. Even then, he did not seem to feel sorry and just

kept getting more defensive. He told me that he knew for a fact that if he had discussed it with me, I wouldn't have agreed to it and that's why he absolutely had to hide it from me and leave. And apparently, I don't know if it's true or not. He had tried to contact me later on in the day after he had landed in Spain but his phone had been acting up and after that, he forgot because he had been hanging out with his friends. It was crazy how something as important as informing me about his whereabouts could just slip his mind like that, especially when he was doing something so wrong. For some reason, though, he just couldn't understand that what he had done was not cool and kept defending himself, saying that he had only been with me ever since he turned

18 and he deserved to have some sort of life experiences, whatever that means before he finally settled down with me. I had no idea what he was blabbering about and after a point, I started getting really annoyed, and I told him that I still stand by whatever I had said. I told him that I wanted him back on the next flight and if he did not come back, we would be done and there would be no wedding. And he told me that he was not coming back on the next flight because he and his friends had paid for a two-week vacation and would only be coming back home a few days before the wedding, and he told me that I had to deal with it. Before I could even respond to that, he just disconnected the phone call, and when I tried to call him back, he did not answer. I was a very much. I was

very upset with him, so I kept trying to text him for the next two days until I finally just gave up. Because obviously, partying with his friends was more important to him than his fiancé and even his wedding that we had been planning for the past God knows how many months. I even told his family everything and from what I know, they tried to contact him and convince him to come back as well, but he did not respond to them either. So eventually, I did what I had to do, and I called off the wedding. I did not make any formal announcements. I just reached out to everybody who had been invited and sent them a message saying that the wedding had been called off and I also made sure to tell them not to speak to Marcus about this and explained why exactly the wedding was being.

Canceled. I spoke to the vendors, took care of the cancellation charges and stuff and I figured that I was going to get the money back from him later but what was more important was teaching him a lesson and I think that's where I might have messed up. Our parents were not happy about what I was doing and they wanted me to at least speak to him, wait for him to come back, and then have a discussion with him, but I was not willing to do that because I was so angry and upset. Just for the record, we have never had problems like this in our relationship before. Of course, like any other couple, we do fight over petty stuff sometimes, but most of the time, they are just insignificant arguments that are easily solvable and we do solve them. That's why we had been together

for almost six years and I had never felt that I'm too young to be getting married, or that I'm sure about him. I thought that he felt the same way, but when he said that he wanted to have some life experiences before he settled down with me, I felt really betrayed and I felt like I might have overreacted. A couple of days back, he finally returned from his trip and he came straight back home but I refused to let him in. He came back home around the evening and I didn't even open the door to him. I told him to go away from inside the house. We argued about it for a bit and he he told me that I couldn't do this to him because we were supposed to be getting married in a few days. All the arrangements had already been made, so I needed to speak to him and sort this out

instead of acting so immature. And that's when I broke the news to him, I actually opened the door because I wanted to see his face and I told him that the wedding had been called off and he had no right to act shocked about it either because I had told him that that was exactly what I was going to do if he did not come back home soon. So all I had done was live up to my words. He was shocked I could see him getting upset and within a few seconds, he started crying and telling me that after being together for six years, I couldn't just dump him over something like this. He started apologizing over and over again, telling me that he was ready to whatever it took to forgive him, but I just had to marry him. And it really took me a lot of effort, but I knew that I couldn't forgive him so I just shut the door

and he kept crying and begging for me to talk to him outside for a good 20 minutes or so before he finally left. I know that he's staying with his parents right now and he is completely shattered because of what has happened. Which is why I feel really guilty because his parents have kept in touch with me and have told me that he has been refusing to eat or even come out of his room and all he asks is whether I have agreed to meet him yet or not. They don't say it, but I know from their tone that his parents and even my parents think that I have been too hasty and maybe a little too harsh in dealing with the situation. And after yesterday, I've been wondering about it myself. because apart from the group of college friends that had gone on the trip with him,

everybody who had been on the guest list had received a message from me informing them about the wedding being called off and why. Most of them did not respond to me apart from just consoling me, but I know that a few of them who were kind of close with Marcus, in spite of my note telling them not to bring this up with him, had actually gone out of their way to forward him my message when he, but he hadn't taken it seriously because he thought that they were bluffing and trying to scare him into coming back.

Now, of course, he regrets everything that he has done, and he has been sending everybody messages of his own, telling them that he's really sorry about everything because he knows that he has let everybody in his life down, especially me. And since I've blocked him, he can't get to me directly so he has been telling everybody else on the guest list to pass on the messages to me, and all of those texts have been of him just apologizing, telling me how much I mean to him and how he would hate to lose me forever. He has said that he still wants to get married to me and he doesn't even care if we don't celebrate it in the grand way that we had planned, he just wants to be with me and he knows that he has made a huge mistake, but he's never going to repeat it again.

All he needs is a second chance. I'm just paraphrasing right now because it will be too much work to copy and paste those messages, but people have been forwarding those texts to me and I don't know why, I just feel really guilty about it, particularly after yesterday. Like I said in the beginning, I was supposed to get married yesterday and when I woke up, it just hit me so hard that I was supposed to be getting married today, but it's all ruined now. A relationship of almost six years, it's just gone, just like that. Of course, something like that, it's very difficult to come to terms with, and on top of that, I had people flooding my phone with consolation. Some people were still forwarding apologies from Marcus and most of them just had nothing worthwhile to add to the

conversation, so they were just randomly texting me to say hi and stuff. But I just felt so empty, I felt like my entire world had been turned upside down in just a couple of days, which it in fact had. So I was already finding everything very hard to deal with emotionally and I decided that I was going to try and talk to my parents to clear my head. But when I went to them, I could see that they were very upset as well because they were also quite emotionally invested in all of this. Naturally, Marcus and I have been together for six years and we have pretty much grown up together since we were 19 so it's a massive deal for everyone involved. And I thought that my parents were going to comfort me, that they were going to tell me that

I did the right thing, but instead, when I tried to speak to them about what I was going through, at first, they just didn't say anything and eventually they told me that they didn't think I had done the right thing. When they said that, my world just came crashing down around me because I had already been having a lot of doubts about what I had done and my parents, of all people, saying that they did not agree with what had happened was just the last thing that I needed. Since then, I've been in a very weird state mentally and I keep second-guessing myself. I haven't even found the energy or the mental capacity to talk to any of my friends about this and eventually, I just found myself here.

I don't know who else to turn to at this point, and I really need completely unbiased opinions because I'm just lost right now. So Ida for canceling my wedding after my fiancé went on an impromptive bachelor trip two weeks before our wedding and refused to come back when I asked him to? Update 1, hi, thank you to everybody who commented on my post. It has been four days since I posted and I've been doing a lot of thinking about whatever has happened. I spoke to my parents about whatever they said, and I told them that it really hurt me.

I didn't think that it was fair of them not to stand by my side and comfort me and in Instead, they made me feel like I was the bad guy here and I had overreacted. I mean, after I shared my story here, pretty much everybody in the comments was outraged on my behalf so I really don't think that I did anything that wrong. And as my parents, they should understand that best of all, they heard me out when I spoke to them, but even then, they did not seem to understand and they told me that they had only said what they felt. Which was the problem, because I couldn't understand how they felt that I was in the wrong

here. My fiancé had literally taken off on a holiday with his friends without even informing me and then refused to come back when I told him to. I think that's a pretty big deal. And it's not like I hadn't warned him of the consequences, he knew that I was going to call after the wedding if he did not do as I asked him. I don't even think that my demands were that unreasonable, especially considering the fact that we were supposed to be getting married. So even after all this, how am I in the wrong. And it's baffling to me that my parents don't seem to understand it. They keep telling me that they get that I'm upset, but it was still a really petty reason to cancel a wedding and break up our relationship of almost six years. It wasn't easy for me to do it either and the least they can do

for me is just be supportive, but it seems to me like they're not even willing to do that. I've tried to speak to them about this a couple of times and every time, we just ended up fighting. So now, I don't think that I'm going to keep trying to talk to them and make them see my side of things. If they don't get it, I don't think I can help it anymore. They can keep believing that I'm the bad guy here, but I know what I did and I know why I had to do it. Life has already become very difficult for me in the past couple of weeks, so I don't need them to add to it. Apart from them, I've also had to speak to a couple of other people, mostly friends, who had been forwarding me all the messages that Marcus had been telling them to

send to me. As politely as I could, I explained to them that I was all. I was all the way to me, I was already going through a very difficult time and I did not need them to keep sending me the messages that Marcus wanted to pass onto me because it was only making things hard for me emotionally. So I requested them to stop sending me these messages because I did not want to read them and I don't even care if I came off as heartless or whatever. I just wanted this whole situation to stop because all the messages had started to make me feel as if I was obliged to talk to or meet Marcus. And I'm not ready for that, I'll do things at my own pace, not just because people are sending

me messages from him and are pestering me. After that, most people stopped and told me that they were really sorry that they had been forwarding the messages, but they felt bad for Marcus. However, if I didn't want them doing that, they would respect what I wanted and stay out of this. That was the majority of people, but a couple of our common friends started attacking me after I sent them that message, telling them not to pass on messages from Marcus anymore. They started calling me, self-centered and told me that I was destroying a relationship purely on ego trip. These people have known me for quite some time, so if that's what they really think about me, I don't have anything to say to them. If my own parents can misunderstand me, I don't

think I have the right to expect anything from my so-called friends, of all people. When they started attacking me and trying to guilt-trip me, I didn't even bother to argue with them or try to get them to see my side. I had already learned my lesson with my parents, so I just blocked them and decided to move on with my life. I know that right now, everybody thinks that Marcus is the victim in the situation and that I am the heartless control freak who dumped him just because he refused to come back from a trip on my terms. It's just very shocking that even after knowing the entire story, people still had any sympathy for him because as far as I remember, I had mentioned all the details in the message, which I sent out to people, telling everyone that the wedding was called

off. I guess I'll never understand these things, but anyway, it doesn't matter anymore. The bottom line is that the relationship is over and that I'm not getting married to this guy anymore. I have started to try and make my peace with that fact, and it's better that everybody else around me tries to do the same. Hi, so it's been two weeks since I last spoke to my parents and since our last fight, they haven't tried to contact me. I don't mind it, if they don't see my point even now, I can't help it. Most other people who have been passing on the messages from Marcus have also either given up or been blocked, so that's that. But a couple of days back, very shockingly,

the friends that he had gone on that trip with contacted me out of the blue. Of course, I had blocked all of them at the same time that I had blocked Marcus because I wanted nothing to do with them, and after that, they hadn't tried to contact me because, of course, they didn't have the guts to do it. Until now, I guess. Anyway, they reached out to me by writing an email, telling me that they were really sorry about everything that had happened and they had realized

that they shouldn't have made such a hasty plan and roped Marcosin. Instead, they probably should have given him good advice instead of egging him on to ignore whatever I had said and just keep on enjoying the vacation with them. I don't know if they were actually apologizing or digging an even deeper grave for him because when I realized that they had actually encouraged him not to come back when I asked him to and told him not to reach back out to me, I felt even worse about the situation. I don't care what they had said and done, I just found it very pathetic that Marcus, a grown man, had allowed himself to be misled into a situation like that and that's how he ended up ruining

everything that we had for the past six years over one stupid little trip. He was not a teenager who had to give into peer pressure, he knew what he was doing and it just made me so mad that I didn't even bother reading the rest of the email, I just deleted it immediately. I didn't care for their apology and that the rest of it would just be the same old crap, telling me to forgive him or at least talk to him or whatever. I didn't need to hear that from them, of all people, because if these had been his real friends,

they would have cared about his relationship and advised him to do the right thing. And they didn't do that, so now, I don't need to see or read anything that they have to say. Besides, it's too late now, I've already started trying to move on, and I've accepted the fact that the relationship is over. So now, there is no way that I'm going to be going back to Marcus. The last thing that I had to do, I had to inform him when he could come by to collect everything that he had left and that would be the final closure that I needed. I had been waiting for a while because I hadn't felt ready for it yet, but last night,

I finally contacted his parents and I told them that he could come by any time this week in the evening and collect everything of his. They tried to get me to speak to him while I was on the phone, but I hung up before that could happen. Like I said, the last step that I needed to complete, so I could finally start trying to move on was to tell him to come over and take his things and now that I have done that, I don't think I need to talk to him anymore. I'm done. Update 3. So today, Marcus finally came over to collect his things, and I knew that it was going to be difficult so I had already mentally prepared myself for the worst. But in actuality, thankfully, it wasn't really that bad. I had contacted his parents

almost 10 days ago so that he could come over any time in the evening to collect his things that week, but obviously, more than one week passed before he finally showed up. In the meantime, his friends from college probably realized that I hadn't even read that email and started trying to text me from a burner phone. They skipped all the rubbish that they had spoken about in the beginning and cut straight to the chase in their texts, telling me that Marcus really missed me and that he was willing to do whatever it took to fix our relationship, but all I had to do was just speak to him. They were literally begging me on his behalf, but I just blocked them again and after trying to call me from various numbers for a couple of days, they finally stopped trying.

After that, for the past five days, I haven't heard anything from anyone. And then, last evening, Marcus's parents called me and told me that he would be coming over today to collect his things and surprisingly, they even apologized for everything that had gone wrong and told me that they wished that things would have worked out another way, but this is how it is and we all have to deal with it. That was shocking to hear and I guess that maybe Marcus had finally changed his mind about trying to win me back and had accepted what was going on. I felt a little bad about it because this meant that things were really coming to an end, but this is exactly what I had wanted from the beginning, so I dealt with it.

Anyway, he came over a couple of hours ago with his dad, and I restricted myself to the guest room instead of the living room, so that I wouldn't have to see too much of them while they packed their things. It took about an hour and a half for them to be completely done with everything because, of course, we had been staying together for the past four years and that meant that we had a lot of stuff together. Anyway, after they were finally done, his dad left the two of us to speak in private because I had asked for it. I didn't exactly have anything in mind to say to him specifically, I just wanted to say goodbye and get that closure, I guess. So that's what I did, it was really awkward and he started to cry but then, he told me that he was really sorry that

things had to end this way and he wished that he had been a better partner, but this is how it was and of course, it was too late to change things now. Seeing him cry, eventually, I started tearing up as well and I didn't want that, so we quickly hugged, wished each other the best for the future and then he left. After he was finally gone, I ended up crying for about an hour before I could finally pull myself together. But I needed that, I needed to see him one last time and end on not such a bitter note as we had the last time. Of course, it's still not a good note to be ending on, but it's not as terrible as I had expected. I wouldn't say that I'm happy now, but at least I'm content that I got some closure. Everything hurts right now, but I know

it's not the end of the world. I'm still pretty young and I have a lot to look forward to in life. So I guess I'm going to throw myself into my work, try to keep myself distracted from everything that has gone wrong and just try to move on in general. Update 4. Hey, guys. It feels really weird posting an update after almost a year since I was supposed to get married but didn't. Looking back, I think it was a good decision because I'm doing a lot better now. In the beginning, it was very difficult for me because I was not on speaking terms with my parents and of course, the person that I had pretty much decided to spend the rest longer with me anymore, so my mental health really took a hit. But then, with the help of a few good friends, I started getting back on my feet.

I started going to the gym, I started working and partying equally hard, and I also started therapy a couple of months after my breakup. Since then, I've come a long way, and even though I wouldn't say that I've completely healed, I am definitely dealing with everything better. My parents and I have still not spoken to each other, and they have even blocked me everywhere. I guess they're too egoistic to admit that I had made the right choice for myself, but it's fine, I don't expect any better from anyone. And neither do I care, if I'm being very honest. Marcus and I had also not spoken and I had kept him blocked, but funnily enough, we ran into each other at a restaurant a couple of weeks ago. We hadn't seen each other for a long time

and it was very awkward because he was out with his co-workers and I had shown up with my friends. I was honestly considering leaving when he walked up to my table and said hi. He made an effort to be nice to me and so did I and it was pretty good. And that's exactly why I'm writing this update right now since I remembered how badly I'd been doing around this time last year. But right now, I'm pretty content with the life that I have.