Reddit Stories - BETRAYED and BELITTLED_ Our DECISION to Cut Off Mill's Supply_

Episode Date: October 8, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #betrayed #belittled #cutoffsupply #familydrama #moralquandarySummary:A family is torn apart when a decision is made to cut off a mill's supply, leading to feelings of betrayal and belittlement. Reddit users seek advice on navigating this complex family drama.Tags:redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, betrayed, belittled, cutoffsupply, familydrama, moralquandaryBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. Mill despised me and embarrassed me at her celebration, so my spouse and I decided to stop providing her with financial support. However, she reciprocated the gesture. My husband's mother Sharon has always harbored negative feelings towards me. I have no idea why, I guess nobody is really good enough for her darling son. And she did not like the fact that in spite of her clear disapproval of me, my husband still chose to be with me. We have been together for three years and one year ago, we got married.

Initially, my husband and I really tried to get her to like me, but she was always too high and mighty to care. She treated me like dirt and most of the time when I would visit, she would pretend like it was not even there, or else she would act like I was completely unwanted. The only reason my husband and I would even visit her before we got married was because my father-in-law was very sick, but he was a good man. So, in order to spend time with him before he passed away, we would try to visit as frequently as we could. Unfortunately, my husband lost his father three months after we got married, but he had been sick

for a long time, so we were just glad that he was able to watch his son get married before he went away. After his demise, we also reduced our visits to Sharon significantly. It had been made very clear to us that she did not approve of our relationship and even on the day of our marriage, all she did was sulk about it. So if she didn't like me, we were going to make sure that we stayed away from her. My husband still stayed in touch with his mother but did not visit her as much as he used to. The reason he stayed in contact with her was because his father had left everything to him and

only the house to his mother, so it was his responsibility to fund his mom. He would send her money monthly since she had been a stay-at-home mother for the majority of her life, and only her husband had worked. She didn't have any money of her own. She was completely reliant on my father-in-law. And after his passing, she would have to rely on my husband to maintain her lifestyle. However, my husband did not want her to know that his father had left no money for her, so in order to spare her feelings, he told her that his father had left instructions that all the

money was to be directed to his son, but on the condition that he would have to take care of his mother, even though there was no such condition. And before you guys ask, we don't really know why my father-in-law did not leave any money to his wife. From what we knew, they tolerated each other when they were together. I wouldn't call it a happy marriage, especially at the point when I got to know them, but they were together, and I guess there was no reason for him not to leave anything to her apart from the house. Anyway, after my father-in-law passed away, it was my husband who had been taking care of his mother because even though we did not share a good relationship, I did not feel comfortable,

and neither did he feel good about cutting her off entirely, and leaving her on her own. So while we reduced our visits to her house significantly, he still continued to take care of her, and I feel like that in itself should have made her feel a bit grateful towards her son. Unfortunately, I don't think it had that effect. Last week, my husband was out on a business trip, and out of the blue, I received an invitation to Sharon's birthday party. That was really surprising because so far, I have never received any invitations to any of her events, and it's always been an invitation to my husband saying that he is a very surprising.

allowed to bring A-plus, just to make it clear that she doesn't even acknowledge my status as his wife. But this time, the invitation was addressed to me in particular. I was very confused, so I spoke to my husband about it first, and he told me that he had received an invitation as well, but he had received that much earlier, and it was clear that my mother-in-law was inviting me as a second thought. He told me that he had made it very clear to Sharon that he would not be able to make it to the party because he had a work trip that was more important, but if I wanted to go, I would would be free to attend. Before that, he suggested that I should speak to Sharon on the phone and ask what this is all about because it's really confusing. So I took his advice and I called

Sharon and I asked her about the invitation, and she told me that she was inviting me to make amends. She said that she was well aware of the fact that she hadn't exactly treated me well in the past, but she wanted to fix that because I knew that we were together for the long run, and if my husband really loved me, then she wanted to be respectful of that and wanted to give me a real chance. I was very skeptical about attending because so far, the kind of relationship that we had, it hadn't exactly been pleasant to deal with her. But on the phone, she told me that she was really sorry about the way she had behaved with me, but she had spoken to a couple of her friends and had come to the conclusion that she really needed to step up as a mother and as a mother-in-law

and do better. So this was her way of trying to make it up to me by extending an invitation to her birthday party and asking me to attend, so we could bond. And I know. I know that I know. I'm a I really shouldn't have gone or fallen for her act, but I felt like she was being genuine, so I decided to attend. It was a terrible decision that I really regret now, but anyway, the next evening, I got dressed and I went to the party. I expected to be created personally by Sharon, but to my surprise, she had hired a doorman for her party, and right in front of me, he went through the guest list and told me that

my name was not on the list. I was really confused, so I even opened the invitation to the party on my phone. and showed it to him but to my surprise, he told me that what I had received was not even the actual invitation and he told me that somebody must have tricked me. That should have been my sign to go home, but I was genuinely willing to give Sharon a chance. So I just stood there, and I called her up and told her what was going on. She then came out a couple of minutes later with a bunch of her friends, and I thought that she was going to tell the doorman that I was a last-minute edition and invite me in. But instead of doing that, she started yelling at the security staff to throw me out and said

that she didn't even know who I was. Her group of friends who were standing behind her were struggling to control their giggles, so I knew that this was pre-planned. But Sharon took her role very seriously and she started shouting about how she did not want any gatecrashers at her exclusive party, and it was only meant for her close family and friends. And since I was literally nobody, she made a couple of really hurtful comments about how she can't just allow any sort of filth to enter her house and I walked back to my car in tears before the security staff had to intervene. I didn't even say anything that day, mostly because

I couldn't bring myself to do it since I was crying so hard. I drove a couple of miles away from the house before completely breaking down inside my car and calling my husband up to tell him what had just happened. He heard me out patiently and consoled me, even promising me that he would cut his business trip short to come back home earlier than he planned so he could be there for me because this had obviously been a very humiliating experience for me. I could tell that he was very upset with Sharon, but he did not let his anger come through, while he was talking to me and just focused entirely on comforting me. So, I literally had no idea what was about to happen the next day. Anyway, I came back home that day, and I blocked Sharon everywhere that I could possibly

think of and promise myself that I would never ever speak to her again or even give her a chance to speak to me. The first thing that I did the next day, I speak to my husband on the phone, and he told me that he was coming back the day after. But while I was on the phone, somebody showed up outside my door and they were shrieking their head off when I went to check. I was really not surprised to find Sharon out there because I had expected her to show up at some point, but I did not know what she was screaming about until I heard her out. And I realized that she was telling me that she was going to take us both to court and make sure that we paid up. I had no idea what she was talking about, but luckily, my husband was on the phone, and when I asked him,

he told me that the night before, he had sent a message to her. And in the message that he had sent to his mother, he had said that he was going to cut off her funds now because if she couldn't respect him or his wife, she had no business taking money from us. He told her the truth, that her husband had not left her anything and all the money that my father-in-law had, it went to him. But I guess she hadn't yet put two and two together, and she still thought that her husband had left instructions for her son to take care of her for the rest of her life. And that's why she had shown up at my door, screaming about how she was going to take us both to court and make sure that she got the money

she was owed. After speaking to my husband, he told me to just call the cops and that's what I did. I called the cops and had her escorted off the property but did not press charges against her. I was very pleased with the situation because the way she had treated me was unacceptable and I was glad that she was getting her karma for it. She had humiliated me and now, she was going to have to look out for herself because as far as I knew, she did not have any money and had been expecting her husband to leave her something. At the time, I did not think there was anything wrong with what we were doing, and even when my husband returned, we were fine with our decision to cut off her funds and make sure she stayed out of our lives. But then, two days back, she sent us both an email saying that she was really sorry for what she had done,

but she needed our help to survive because she literally did not have anything and she was counting on the kindness of her children. Referring to both my husband and I, I could tell that she was trying to butter us up and it did not seem very sincere, but now that I think about it, there is nobody to take care of her unless we do. And yet, I don't really feel like telling my husband to get back in touch with her or anything. We haven't even spoken about it yet, so I don't know what he feels, but I have been having a lot of mixed emotions on this topic. So Ida for wanting my husband to cut off my mother-in-law's funds after she insulted me? Update 1, hi, so first things first, I have received a lot of comments, calling me stupid and stuff

for wanting to give my mother-in-law a chance. I would just like to defend myself and say that I had genuinely and truly wanted to believe that maybe she was sincere about wanting to make amends with me. Everyone makes mistakes. everyone has an ego, and she is definitely not the first mother-in-law in the world to treat her daughter-in-law badly. But I have heard of people who have corrected their behavior and I thought that it would be the right thing to give her one chance, at the very least. Which is why I went to her party and I do regret it now, but I don't think that I did anything wrong. I was the victim in the situation, not the perpetrator, so I don't think it's fair to hate on me for being somebody who likes to give

second chances. That's just who I am as a person and I'm not stupid or gullible, I'm just a normal human being. Besides, I had spoken to her on the phone before attending the party, and she had sounded very sincere. So the act that she had put on was so good that I literally felt like I did not have any reason to doubt her intentions. I feel like we have to give her some credit as well since she manipulated me quite well. Me attending her party and wanting to give her a second chance, shows the kind of person that I am, and her taking advantage of my decision and humiliating me shows the kind of person that she is. That's the end of it. Anyway, I don't want to talk more about that. I just wanted to defend myself before more people started sending me

hate. I have discussed it with my husband and while both of us regret whatever happened at the party, we are just glad that it brought out her true colors, and we know what kind of a person she is now. Not that there was any doubt about it earlier, she was still terrible but now it's just more obvious. And we also spoke about the email that she had sent both of us and realized that both of us had been feeling equally guilty after it. But after talking it through, we realized that the only reason she was reaching out to us was not because she was sorry, but because she needed money to maintain the kind of lifestyle that she had so far. So she could pretend that we were her children all that she wanted, but the truth of the situation was that she did not have anyone else to count on

and we were basically just her meal ticket. We pretty much stopped feeling guilty after we realized that even though she did not have any money that had been left to her by my father-in-law, she definitely had some money. We spoke to the lawyer who had been the executor of my father-in-laws while he did not tell us why exactly no amount of money had been left to my mother-in-law, he did tell us that she did have a certain amount of money in her bank account that her husband had transferred to her before he passed away and if she was really struggling. She had a bunch of really valuable stuff that she had purchased and she could always just sell it. Worse comes to worst, she could approach her family for money and ask them to take care of her.

The bottom line was, it was not necessary for us to keep funding her, even after she was so disrespectful towards us because it wasn't like she couldn't survive without us. She just didn't want to because she did not want to spend her own money, that's how she had been her entire life. She wanted to portray herself as a helpless damsel in distress so that my husband and I would take pity on her and keep sending her money, even if she continued to treat us like crap. And for a while, she had us fooled and had completely manipulated us into feeling guilty for her, but we were not going to allow her to manipulate us again. She is a bit of a master when it comes to that, but we are also aware of her tricks and now, it's going to be very difficult to fool us.

It has been one week since she sent us that email and we haven't responded to her yet. Neither are we going to, we are going to continue to ignore her because we don't want anything to do with her. If she stops living such an extravagant lifestyle and living beyond her means, she is going to be able to make it work with whatever money she is right now. We are not going to take pity on her and help her out anymore because she had lied to us about being helpless in the first place. Honestly, I just feel relieved that I don't have to deal with her anymore, because it had been very difficult for me to maintain the balance between hating her and still

somehow dealing with the fact that she was going to be a part of my life through my husband. But now that he is done with her, I'm feeling a lot better about things. He was never a mama's boy to begin with, let me just make that clear but like any other son, he wanted to be able to take care of his parents and that's why he had stayed in touch with her. Unfortunately, it's very obvious now that Sharon does not deserve it. She could have had a very easy life if she just tried to play nice with me, but what can I say? Some people are just not clever enough and let their egos get in the way of what's good for them. Update 2, hi, so it has been two weeks since Sharon sent us both at email and after that,

she did not contact us for a really long time. Yesterday, though, while my husband and I were having dinner, she showed up at our house once again. I was about to call the cops again, but this time, she was not yelling. at us. Instead, after ringing the doorbell and making herself known, she just started crying at our doorstep. At that point, both my husband and I were really confused about what to do because this could be another one of her tricks to manipulate us into feeling bad for her and guilt-tripping us into continuing to support her. But on the other hand, she was sobbing on our doorstep and I think anyone in our place would have felt just as bad. So after a brief discussion with each other, my husband and I

decided that we were not going to open the door, but we were going to try and be gentle with her because the cops on her while she was in the state would not be a good move. We spoke to her through the intercom and told her that we were willing to give her some time to pull herself together and leave. But if she did not take that opportunity, we would be forced to call the cops. And we really didn't want to do that a second time. So now it was up to her what she wanted. She replied, saying that she did not want any money from us. She just wanted. She just wanted. She just wanted to say that she was really sorry. She knew that this apology was coming a little too late, but now that she did not have anybody. She had realized how important it was for her to have her

family around her and she couldn't exactly fill that void in her life with extravagant parties and time with her friends, because even her friends had families of their own who loved them and spent time with them. So even if we did not want to send her money, the least we could do was at least visit her sometimes because she really missed us and mostly, her son. We did not know what to say, so we just stayed quiet and she continued to talk after we did not respond. She said that she was also apologetic for the fact that she hadn't been completely honest with us. She hadn't told us that her husband had indeed given her some money before he passed away. But to be fair, we haven't been entirely honest with her either. She brought up the fact that just to spare

her feelings. Her son hadn't told her that her husband had left her absolutely no amount of money. And in a way, it was fair, but she felt like both of them had lied to each other and let each other down. And that needed to stop if we were going to be a healthy and happy family. So she wanted to be truthful with both of us and said that a reason she did that awful thing on the day of her birthday to me was that all her life, she had believed that woman would ever be good enough for her son. She hadn't approved of me because I was too outspoken, too bold, and too ambitious. Which, I guess, is true. But I really don't understand how that was supposed to be a problem in our marriage, but anyway, that's the reason why Sharon had never approved me. And when she realized

that her approval did not mean anything anymore, since my husband was head over heels for me, that made her resent me even more. She said that she had had to sacrifice a lot when she was married to her husband and they were never in a happy marriage, but she was content with him. And somewhere or the other deep down, she had started imposing the same burden of expectations onto me. And when I did not try to live up to those expectations, she started hating me. She hated the fact that her son loved me so much, which meant that she had serious issues, but she was willing to work through them so she could maintain a relationship with us because she did not want to lose the only family she had. I thought that was pretty raw and real of her,

but we are still wary of her. So after some silence, I told her that we would think about what we wanted to do, but for now, we just wanted some peace and quiet to mull this over. After that, she left and before leaving, she apologized to us for one last time. Right now, both my husband and I are very confused and have no idea what to do. So we are here. Any sort of advice on what to do will be really appreciated because we are completely lost. We really, really don't want to get manipulated into anything again, but we also don't want to be heartless.

Honestly, neither of us has any clue what to believe anymore, and I guess out of all the things that she said, she was definitely right about the fact that my husband's family had to stop lying to each other and keeping secrets. Update 3. It's very ironic that in my last update, I had said that my husband's family needed to stop keeping secrets from each other, and in this update, I'm still going to be standing by that statement because what we have uncovered is so serious. So apparently, the reason my father-in-law's lawyer had been refusing to tell us the reason why my father-in-law had not left Sharon any money was because he had been giving explicit instructions not to tell us the truth.

However, that was not really official or formal, it had just come from my father-in-law as a friend. So since there was no binding document, he was free to tell us the truth, and since we kept pestering him, he was forced to. I don't know why, I just had a gut-finding document. feeling that getting to know the truth about this situation would unravel a lot of things and I was right. Apparently, the money that Sharon supposedly had was not something that her husband had left her, but it was her affair partner. She had been having an affair with one of her friends from college, who used to be smitten with her back then and still was. Sharon had never spoken

about it while the guy she was having an affair with was still alive but three years ago, around the time that my husband and I had started dating, she lost him to a heart attack. He did not have any family of his own, so he had left everything to her and my father-in-law found out about it much later, when Sharon finally told him the truth a couple of months before he passed away. At that point in time, there was not much that he could do, and he knew that he was dying so filing for a divorce would be pointless. So he decided the only way he could get back at her for this was not to leave anything

to her apart from the house and leave all his assets to his son instead. He left the house to her on purpose, so she wouldn't suspect anything and wouldn't try to to contest the will after he was gone. And we also found out that whatever Sharon had said to us about having to sacrifice a lot while she was married to her husband, that had also been a load of BS. My father-in-law had given her the option to work after she got married and gave birth to my husband, but she was the one who said that she wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. The only thing she had sacrificed in her entire life was dignity because, throughout her life, she always got somebody else to carry her weight. Anyway, now that we know the truth, we also know that she was putting on an

act the day that she came to our house to tell us that she really missed us. I'm glad that we did not bother to reach out to her after that because that would mean that we got manipulated once again and we would feel pretty stupid if that happened. She's a liar, cheater, and an overall terrible human being, and the farther we stay away from her, the better it is for us. Update 4, hi, so Sharon tried to contact us again, even though it has been one month since we last spoke. I guess it has to do something with the fact that I recently announced my pregnancy on social media, but she pretended not to know about it in her email. She said that she was really looking forward to hearing from us because she thought that it had been

enough time since we last spoke and by now, we should have been able to come to a decision about what we wanted for the future. And she was right. It didn't really take us long. to come to a decision about what we wanted, and what we wanted was for her to stay away. So we sent her a message, telling her that we knew everything about her affair and stuff and we did not want anything to do with her anymore. We told her that if she was all on her own right now, it was because she deserved it. She had never valued anybody in her life, and the only person that she genuinely cared about was herself. So she should be grateful that right now, she gets to spend time with the only person she loves herself.

If she runs short on money, she can always find another man to have an affair with and rely on him instead. But for now, her son is done with her. It was a really harsh message, but it had to be said because she has bothered us enough and now that we are embarking on a new chapter of our life, we need our peace. And we need her to stay the heck away from us.

I'm pretty sure that this message is not going to deter her and she's definitely going to try again in a couple of months when I'm in the later stages of my pregnancy but my husband and I have already spoken about that possibility and decided that if she bothers us anymore. We are going to just file a restraining order against her and hope for the best. We are also planning on moving out of this house into a new one and we're going to make sure that nobody gives out the address to her because, with a baby on the way, we need a bigger space. Anyway, I'm just looking forward to being a mother and I can't wait to start afresh. forward slash forward slash