Reddit Stories - BETRAYED and BULLIED_ When Love Turns to VANDALISM_

Episode Date: October 9, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #betrayed #bullied #vandalism #relationships #heartbreakSummary:Discover shocking stories of betrayal and bullying in relationships that escalate to vandalism. Real-life scenarios from Reddit users unfold the heart-wrenching effects when love turns sour.Tags:redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, relationships, heartbreak, betrayal, bullying, vandalismBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. My partner's former spouse's siblings vandalized my vehicle and bullied me for stepping into her role. I am pursuing legal recourse and have issued an ultimatum to my partner to cease communication with them or risk losing me. 25F. Am getting married to my fiancé, 29M, in May. When we first got together, he told me that he was married from 20 to 22 years old to his high school sweetheart. We met when he was 25, but she passed away of sepsis from a botched surgery. He didn't cope well and stayed in contact

with her family, namely her father and two sisters, 19 and 24. It was a soft spot for me for a while at the beginning because there was so much history they had that we would not have, and it was tough knowing that she was all around him. I never told him and decided to work through it on my own, especially with the fact that he would often spend time with her family during our relationship. Her birthday, their anniversary, and the anniversary of her death, he'd spend the day with her family. It was uncomfortable at first knowing the man I loved was reminiscing about the love he had with someone else, but I kept trying to see it from his perspective, and the last couple of years, I am completely secure in our relationship.

And it doesn't bother me much anymore. Well, he proposed this time last year, and I was over the moon. I love this man with all my heart, but I recently learned that he never took to you. told them that we got engaged. Now, I've been trying local coffee shops the past few months rather than my usual run and tried a new one. His L.W. sister worked there, and other than being awkward, she did a double take of my engagement ring and looked really unhappy. I didn't mention it and left. My fiancé told me that she kept messaging him on social media about it, and I wasn't happy that he kept it a secret. He apologized and was very depleted by it all.

He said that he didn't want to hide me, but he didn't want to hurt them either and that both of us were a huge part of his life. I understand that and let him off the hook slightly, I just told him to be up front with them from now on. That was that. At least, I thought so. A week ago, on Sunday, I got a message from the 24-year-old asking if I was happy with myself, that I would never replace his LW and that if she was still alive, he'd chose her over

me every time. She even said that he only kept me around for my money and something to stick his dick in. I supported, but I can't say that it didn't affect me. When you're in my position, all these points are ones you have to work through, and it's not easy to get over those insecurities. It feels like a knock on the teeth when they're used against you. I mentioned it to him, and he comforted me and reassured me. He said he'd set boundaries with her, and I'd never have to hear from her again. Fine by me. That was until I found my car with horror and grave robber smeared in red paint. I had saved for this car for a year, and it was very expensive. The tires were slashed, and the windows cracked. I asked the store a few doors down for their CCTV camera footage of

that night, but it was blurry and didn't catch much. It did manage to catch half a license plate, though, and the color and make of a car. It was his L.D. W's youngest sister's car. I told him I was filing a police report, and he asked me to hold off until he talked to them first. I told him no, but I would if they paid for the damages and apologize to my face. He set up the meeting for last night, and it didn't go well, to say the least. Everyone was shouting. The sisters told me they, yes, both of them, had nothing to be sorry for and that I should leave their family alone, including my fiancé and their family. He told them that it wasn't fair to him to be lonely forever and that he'd hope they'd be supportive

of him finding love again. They told him he was betraying L.W. and that he never loved her if he'd marry someone else. They didn't have a problem with him having a new girlfriend because he'd realized she was the only one for him and get tired of me. Now that hadn't happened, they were putting their foot down. The youngest told him to tell me that they were right, and that he'd never love anyone like L.W. My fiancé broke down at the table. I picked him up and made us leave. I told them I'd be filing a report and suing for damages, and the next time they saw us would be in court. When we got back and calmed down, I gave him an ultimatum. Either he cuts contact, or we call off the wedding and go our separate ways. I wasn't going to live my life

with this harassment and someday subject my children to their bullying. He said they would never bully a child, but I shot him down and said he didn't expect any of this either. He called their father, who was fairly chill about it all but still defended his daughters. They say I shouldn't control him and that I'm horrible for cutting them off. I don't know what to do. I can't live like this, and I don't think I should have to just because we're getting married." Comments, Caspian 41-36, NTA what they did is completely unacceptable and I'm glad you're standing your ground and filing the police report. Look into a restraining order as well, since you must still have all the proof of the messages and such. As for your fiancé, I understand why he kept in touch with them, but he messed up big time by not telling them he's moved on and loves someone else.

These hate you from them, which is stupid as what did he expect. He needs to grow a backbone and put them in their place. Reflection Suite 722, NTAI understand why he keeps in touch with them and views them as family, but if my family treated a partner this way I'd go no contact until they could treat us both with respect. He may be dealing with some guilt about moving on, but if you can work through your hang-ups regarding this, so can he. Nuredit knew that I would never replace his LW and that if she was still alive he'd choose her every time. Well, she's not so they can fuck off. Discharges. sue and try to get a restraining order. If he doesn't stick to no contact, move on.

Definitely NTA. Update 1, Hey everyone, just a mini update to clear some things up before I have a discussion with my fiancé either later today or tomorrow about my ultimatum. I didn't sleep at all yesterday or the night before for obvious reasons. There's a ding on my phone at least once an hour from them saying one thing or another, mainly the 19 years old and I don't know what they've told people but I've got a message from one of their uncles and grandparents calling me horrible stuff too. So obviously, they've been spreading what's happened this week and twisting it. I haven't blocked them because I want to

gather as much evidence as possible for the inevitable case. Regardless of any outcome with my fiancé, I will sue and file a criminal case for harassment and vandalism and seek a restraining order. I just haven't had the mental fortitude to do so yet. I'm hoping my fiancé will help me. I haven't spoken to my fiancé since the argument at the table, other than to tell him either they go or I do. It was my choice to give him a couple of days to come to terms with everything, and I will contact him when I'm ready.

From the first message to now, it has been a week. It's a huge weight to contemplate leaving people you've known for 15 years and who you grew up with. He did set hard boundaries with the sister from the coffee shop as I've seen the messages. He said, paraphrasing, you have no right talking to op at all if this is how you're going to behave. She doesn't deserve this and you've gone too far. Why are you being like this? And she responded with more name calling and back and forth. He ended by saying not to message me again and to make sure everyone else does the same. I was happy with that. At this point

only one person in that family had an issue, to my knowledge, so it was silly to have him cut all of them off. It may not be enough for some, but it was enough for me to feel safe and comfortable. For those saying he needs therapy and counseling, he's already getting it. He's been getting it since before we even started dating after an incident at work. I don't know about any of their family, though. The first time I had a conversation with any of them was that night. Now, some people are wondering what L.W. died of, and it was a botched weight loss surgery where she died of sepsis. People were wondering if he was somehow the reason behind the surgery, hence the family's insane reaction, but he was not in the slightest. He likes bigger women and

wouldn't pressure something like that onto her, speaking from experience. I also want to clear up the not calling the police about the car thing. It was entirely my idea to not file charges in exchange for a face-to-face apology and damage payment. He only wanted me to wait so that he could talked to her to see if she regretted it and then have her father pay the damages. At the time, we thought it was just the 19 years old that smashed up my car, not both daughters. Neither of us wanted to ruin her life. When I found out it was both of them, it was full steam ahead. Thank you all for your messages and hopefully I'll have a positive update for you tomorrow. Edit, I chose for him to take this space apart. It's not him being indecisive. I said to take time and that I'd

reach out so that his decision is thought out. It's for me. I don't want to be chosen only to be three kids down the line and stuck in a resentment-filled marriage. It's for me. Please understand that. Update two, well, what a wild morning I've had. My fiancé came over bright and early this morning, and I've never been so damn tired. You may want to take a seat because this will be long. sorry in advance. First of all, I want to set the record straight here. A lot of people are coming for my fiancé over not cutting them off from the get-go, which I don't think is fair.

He's a very mild-mannered, calm and calculating person, and that's who I always knew he was. Nothing has changed. If he had been Rocky Balboa and flipped the cafe table shouting obscenities, he would not have been the man I fell in love with. He did exactly what I expected him to do and exactly what I was comfortable with. You may be attracted to other things in man and expect other things and that's awesome, but not me. Anyway, I texted him saying I thought it was time to discuss this and he was back at home not a half

hour later. He'd been staying with a friend the couple nights we had no contact. We sat on our bed to talk because my back was sore from all the packing, and I wasn't going to force myself to sit at the table. Before we even got to talking he asked if we could cuddle for a minute. It definitely took some of the weight off and we were able to talk like a couple and not awkward strangers because, regardless of some people's beliefs, we do love each other and it took me a very long time to feel confident in that fact. Before anyone calls me a doormat again, no, I was still sure I would stick to my ultimatum.

The first thing I asked was if he felt he had enough time to make his decision, and he said he didn't need time. He was very shocked and bewildered at how so much could change in just a week and how everything he knew was so shaken up that he couldn't think and went numb. He apologized that he didn't take a more defensive stance at the cafe and didn't want to make excuses for it. One explanation was that he genuinely didn't expect such a vitriolic response. He hid the engagement because he knew they weren't over L.W's death and would be upset at the news. It wasn't like I would feel upset by them not knowing, which I wasn't. really. He's known these girls since before they were in double digits, and he would never

have thought they were capable of it. It came so far out of left field that he froze. I asked him if there was any possibility that either of them had a thing for him, and he looked very confused and disturbed. I said how I've had people tell me it's not uncommon for siblings to do this after loss, and he thought about it. Turns out you were right. He said the 24 years old, about eight months after L.W.'s death, made a move and tried to kiss him. He immediately left and told her mother about it. Mother and father are divorced now but weren't then, she was a minor at the time and messaged him saying she would be 18 soon. So it wasn't a big deal. Her mother made her see the school counselor and didn't allow her to be alone with him

for a while. It was years ago so he'd forgotten it ever happened. He said he was sure that wasn't the case now because it had been so long but I'm not so convinced. Not that it matters anymore. He opened up his Facebook and gave it to me to read. Twenty-four years old had been messaging him, but he ignored it. She ranged from telling him off to crying and saying how betrayed the family was to try to manipulate him against me. He said he was sure that he needed to put them behind him and had been thinking about it on and off since he proposed but couldn't bring himself to do it. After this week, the fire was lit. and he knew what he had to do. It was all abstract until suddenly, it became very real.

He asked me how I'd been coping, and I told him. I felt like I'd done everything right, but somehow things turned out worse than if I'd been the jealous type and stopped their contact at the beginning. I tried to be understanding and put in so much effort to be secure in myself and our relationship, only for everything I worked on to be thrown in my face like I was a mistress who was cheating with him. He didn't blink the entire time and just listen. He didn't blink the entire time and just listened. He said he should have been more observant and realized I was struggling with this so that he could help me, but I've always been the strong one, so he neglected too, and he'll do better. As I've said in a few comments now, his parents had him in their late 40s and are retired.

He hates to involve them in negativity, but I was stunned when he said he's been talking to them about this since the first Facebook message. They were very understanding, but his father took a tough love approach. He said the best quote, I think I've ever heard. Get your act together before the jig is up. They offered to come stay for a while and help us move. I don't think that's necessary, but I really appreciate the thought. On the subject of moving. I made it clear that I would not be living in this house any longer than I had to, and he completely agreed. His parents offered to find us a place in their state if we wanted to have more of a support network, and I'm honestly considering it after all this. They're only a state away from my own family, so we'd be a lot better off.

His job is remote, and I should be able to find work there easily enough. I've also been in contact with a friend who's a mechanic, and they've quoted me between 1 to 2K for the damages, but that's in a cost estimate as a discount. A few people have said to get a real statement and to shop around. The real cost is between 4 to 5K, and that's just for the noticeable damage. My friend thinks they've done something to the engine, so thank God I couldn't drive it anywhere. He thinks I may be entitled to a replacement car altogether. If so, I will be sure to sue for it, and that's not going to be cheap. Still, after all the emotional things were discussed, he asked when would I be comfortable

enough to go to the police? I made clear he was okay with that, or I'd go on my own. He said, the surest I've ever seen him, that this is what needed to be done, and he wasn't going to let them continue. He'd done enough to try and shield them, but he wasn't going to let it come at my expense. I'm currently in the bath frothing and bath bombs, but we'll be going to the station as soon as I'm done. He's downstairs right now printing out the new quotes from the mechanics, and the message is 24 years old sent him over the past couple of days so we can go prepared. People have said that nothing will come of it, and you may be right. But I have to try.

hoping my local police don't have anything better to do. It's a small town. To finish, I made a point of asking again if he would cut them off or if I had to go. He didn't miss a beat and said that they were no longer going to be a part of his life, even if I decided to leave. He did ask for one last meeting to say goodbye to her parents to put a close on that part of his life, and to explain to the girls that this is not my fault but his decision after seeing how cruel they were capable of being.

After that, we would block them on everything and move forward. I was completely fine with that. So, there we have it. Writing all this out and being able to talk to people about everything has been both helpful and a good distraction from the dumpster fire that was my life. Everything worked out as well as I could have hoped. We'll see how his meeting with them goes. I'm sure they won't be very happy about it, but that's not my problem.

Thank you all. and I'll update you after they've met up. Update three, so we drove down to the police station with our block of paperwork and had a couple of hours of talk. They were so sweet about everything. As some of you expected, they did say I should have come earlier, but they didn't really care because it was only a few days. They said that it often takes people about this amount of time

to actually file charges if they weren't an immediate threat or danger, so unless someone was about to throw punches, I handed them everything and it looks like I've got plenty of evidence. They'll be contacting my insurance on my behalf to get the ball rolling, so they can come to do a check of my car themselves. And then they can open a claim with me if I want. They're not filing a claim, they're just notifying about the criminal damages. I filed criminal charges for harassment and vandalism and they'll notify me with more details about my restraining order this week. My fiancé told the police that he was planning on meeting with LW's family and asked if that would contradict my case, and they said no.

We're not married at the time of filing, so legally, we're two separate entities in the case. Or something. So, my car is totaled. My mechanic friend, I'm going to call him Tom because I can't keep saying my mechanic friend. So Tom and his partner at the shop did a full check on my car, and this is the damage they found. Shattered windshield for slashed tires, two broken windows, paint, obvious, I think, an unknown substance in the engine oil and battered bodywork. They said with this amount of damage, I should just go for a new car so that's what I'll be doing. If anyone is curious, it was a Volvo. I'd always wanted one

and managed to buy one new two years ago. Either they get me a new car or they be set back about 60K. Either way, I'll be all right. The amount classifies the vandalism as a felony, so they could be looking at jail time too. Now, my fiancé met with the the family on Saturday, and Tom sat by the window. I currently live in a one-party state, so as long as my fiancé consents, the recording can be used in my case. While it may not be as drama-filled as some of you may want, it was still pretty stressful to see. They met at the same cafe that we had before, and Tom sat a few tables away. Fiancé arrived after their father and before them. They managed to have a calm conversation for once. Fiancé told her. He told her,

him how he was feeling, and Phil was very understanding but still trying to minimize. He was saying things like, you know they miss L.W and they'll come around and just need time to come to terms with you moving on. He kept trying to initiate paying for the damages, but his fiancé wouldn't talk about it until the sisters arrived. It was like butter wouldn't melt with the 24 years old, but 19 came in like the Tasmanian devil. My fiancé didn't acknowledge anyone until it had all settled down where then he said this would be his last meeting with all of them and they'd be going their separate ways. He turned to the girls and said that he would miss who he thought they were, but the way they treated people, especially me, horrified him. He said that this was all him,

and they needed to accept that I was not to blame. He even said that it was me who offered the apology in exchange for not filing charges. The 19 years old then interrupted, asking what charges, and saying that no one was going to charge them for barely touching a car. She was a deer in headlights when he asked what they'd done to the engine oil and the two looked at each other. Seems they didn't expect me to find that out. Cue up the grovelling. Twenty-four years old actually tried to touch his hand and told him he had to stop me from pressing charges because this would ruin her and interfere with 19-yo's college.

He said it was too late and the cops should be issuing a warrant soon. It can take a few days. I thought it was an instant thing but apparently not. This is when their dad got involved again and said for everyone to calm down and fix this like adults. Now he wants his girls to be adults. I see. He asked if fiancé would convince me to drop the charges in exchange for that apology and he'd pay the damages. When my fiancé said it was 60K, the eyes he gave to those women would shave the hair off a cat. The video wasn't the best, but I swear I could see the color drain from their faces. I may sound a little. I may sound

awful, but I enjoyed it. Call me what you will. They kept going on about apologizing and that they'd pay, but he just said it was too late and he was done. He tried to be civil, but they were the ones that wouldn't let it go. Twenty-four years old actually asked him to set up a meeting with me so they could get to know me and put it all behind us. He didn't reply and after the silence they piped up again like so she won't even meet us? She's behind all this because she doesn't want us around. We'll see about that. They went on and on and frankly it was funny more than hurtful. But they did incriminate themselves more and more for my harassment case and the nail in the coffin was when 19 years old said if we can do that to a car, imagine what else we could do.

That, my friends, is both a confession and a threat of bodily harm. My fiancé said one loud stop before wishing Philwell and telling the girls to not come near me. He then got up and left. That's where the recording ends because we were. wouldn't be able to use anything afterward anyway. After moving, we're pretty much all packed up and have a truck coming on Friday. We'll be staying with his parents until we find a place. We're looking at buying this time but might get an RV in the meantime so we're not all stepping on each other. I doubt his parents would mind at all. This is the last update for a while,

I think. I have a wedding to finish, a venue to change, new invites, etc., and less than two months to do it. Send help. But, thank you all for being ears and helping me get through this. If only to distract me from ruminating and digging a huge mental hole.