Reddit Stories - BETRAYED_ CONFRONTING a Betrayer's AFFECTIONS for My Loved One_

Episode Date: September 21, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #betrayed #confronting #affections #lovedone #relationships  Summary: A Reddit user seeks advice after discovering a betrayal involving their loved one's affections. They contemplate confronting the betrayer and handling the situation delicately.  Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, betrayed, confronting, affections, lovedone, relationships, betrayal, advice, confrontation, trust, emotions, loyalty, family, friend, support, guidanceBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. Close companion continued to make physical contact and show romantic interest in my partner. I decided to address the situation with her, only to discover that she was dishonest about it. Eventually, I learned that they had been engaging in a clandestine romantic relationship for an extended period. All our friends knew. Hey everyone. My 24F, best friend, 24F, is too hansy with my boyfriend, 26 and. and I think it's inappropriate I know I should be careful calling someone best friend in a post like this,

but I don't know how else to call Jesse. Our parents are great friends so we grew up together and she kind of had my back in high school. Long story short, on the teenager food chain, she was on top and I should be on the bottom. But nobody messed with me because I was Jesse's friend. Jesse is one of those people who require attention. I never minded though, nobody is perfect right? But now that I have my first real boyfriend, she doesn't know how to behave. Every time we are together she is really handsy. Always touching his arms, running fingers through his hair, complimenting him. And now she even started with the prank spankings on the butt, you know?

I just feel really uncomfortable with it. Maybe it's normal, I mean, Jesse has a lot of guys' friends, so maybe this is okay? My BF never thought much of it either. Am I just overreacting? She is super pretty, so maybe I'm just jealous? Anyway, yesterday something really threw me off. B.F. had to do some work and I had a book thing, hobby, so we decided to meet later at a friend's house. They were getting together to drink and so on.

B.F. finishes work early and calls me, but I don't really need him to come over to the book thing. I know he doesn't like it, so I just tell him to go to friend's house. Then I start getting texts from Jesse all like girl, you gotta come to this party now, your BF is wasted. L.O.L. L.O.L. L.L. We so drunk. You need to come and stop us. I can't behave myself if you don't get here soon. And so on. The book thing took longer than I thought and I was just getting mad and matter. But I am a very non-confrontational person, so I deal with it. I call BF when it's over because I don't feel like going to this party anymore, but I was his ride.

so I ask him if needs me to come pick him up. He says, sure, I get there and don't even go inside. I am ready to release the hounds of hell on him. But he gets in my car and he is stone cold sober. I ask him if he was drinking and then show him Jesse's texts. He gets super upset and says she was lying, he wasn't even hanging directly with her, but catching up with a friend who just came back to town.

He says I should have texted him letting him know what she was saying so he could confront her about it since you don't ever seem to be able to give that girl some boundaries as words. Now I'm thinking maybe I should talk to Jesse. But maybe she was just drunk and annoying me because she wanted me there? I don't know, I mean, this girl was really nice to me growing up when she could have been a bitch. I don't like how she behaves around him, but at the same time I don't want it to look like I don't trust her. Is there a polite way of going about it? Or I should maybe wait and see if this happens again? Am I overreact? reacting? Update 1. Yesterday I posted here about how my best friend Jesse is a bit handsy with

my boyfriend and it makes me feel uncomfortable. I am very thankful to all those who commented, especially the ones who encouraged me to say something and what. I don't like arguments, so those were very important to me, thank you. Last night we were alone because she wanted me to help her choose clothes for an event. I was at her place so I thought I should say something, I wanted to say something. I was very polite and just said that I knew she meant no harm but I didn't feel good about it. So I asked her if she could tone it down, should have said stop, but I guess I'm weak. She didn't really say anything mean, but her attitude was a bit off, I think. She was looking at me in a scornful kind of way, and the way she smiled once I was done

talking. It just felt weird. She didn't say anything else but okay and we just moved on to choosing her clothes and I left after. We were supposed to go get something to eat but she said she was tired. I am not dumb, she was hurt. So I texted a common friend, more her friend than mine, and, without getting into details, I just told him that I talked to Jess about something that was important to me but that I was afraid she may have gotten the wrong idea from it. The common friend said, I don't want to get involved, but you should watch it. I asked what he meant, he said nothing, just watch it. A little while after that he texts me back and says changed my mind.

I do want to get involved and sends me a bunch of prints of texts going back and forth between him and Jesse. It basically starts with him asking her if the two of us had a fight, because I was worried, he was kind with his words, I don't mind him stepping in, and then just a nonstop stream of her being horrible. She says I had a big mouth and was judging her behavior because I'm a prude who doesn't know how to be around guys. How she taught me everything I know about having a life and how dare I tell her what she can or cannot do, or how I should thank her for even having a boyfriend at all. Common friend actually called her out for being rude and no friend of mine.

After the prince he told me I'm done with her, I give up, and you should watch it. He also said it was okay if I told her I had the prince. I didn't though. Didn't know what to say. I mean she is not 100% wrong. But even though I know that, it really hurts to read those. This morning I wake up and see she texted me late at night. She says she knows Pete sent me the prince and she didn't mean to be rude, but it's ridiculous that I am jealous of her because if she wanted my BF she could just have him, you want me to prove it? So I'm being silly and should drop it, is what she meant. She ends it with kisses and a joke. So I don't know if she was being playful, apologizing, threatening or being pragmatical.

I didn't answer her yet. I don't know what to say. Should I even say something? Or should I just let it go? I wish I could talk to someone about this, but I am very private. I usually go to Jesse with these things. Help? Comments where Op has replied.

Commenter. Sounds like this person is completely wrapped up in their own head and have a serious case of overthinking their importance in life, especially others' lives. Obviously we're all going to tell you to drop her because she's not a desirable person to be around if that's how she acts slash talks to you in person and behind your back. This person thinks they own you enough so that they're decided to let you have your BF. Fuck that shit. Also show your guy everything that's happened cause guaranteed she's going to go after him. Oop, I suppose you are all right. It just gets me, you know?

It's a 20 years long friendship. I keep thinking maybe this is a misunderstanding. She didn't mean it or she is going through a hard time and doesn't know how to deal with it. I am just trying to make sure I am not overreacting, so I needed some outside perspective. As for my BF, I think he would turn her down quite fast. He doesn't really like her. He just hangs with her because of me. He's always saying that he'd rather not in all.

So it's unlikely that they'd be alone together. But I will talk to him. Thank you for the heads up. Turns out she already went after him I was stupid update too. My boyfriend is having sex with her. A friend convinced some other friends to send me prints of texts between themselves and either my BF or best friend. They are pretty clear.

I confronted my BF, he looked lost, said he loves me and it was just sex. He says Jesse kept throwing herself at him, teasing him, and he said he didn't like her, but I still wanted to hang. He said he just had sex with her to see if she would move on and leave him alone, and that it only happened a couple of times. Says he won't do it anymore, he doesn't even like her, he loves me, asking me to please forgive him. From the texts, once I finally made it through them all, I think that Jesse went to the party, where me and B.F. met, because she wanted to hook up with him. She had it bad for him, but he didn't feel the same way. She was trying to get him to break up with me, and then to get me to break up with him. It worked. As of yesterday,

he is a single man. In some of those texts, they are talking about some of the hookups. I feel like throwing up. I blocked him, because he was still trying to get in touch. I ghosted her. But she just sent me a message saying she just heard what happened and you know this was probably for the best right? And I feel like fucking screaming. I don't know if this is an update or just me venting. Thanks for listening either way. Edit. I don't want to sound melodramatic or sappy or anything, but you all brought me to tears. We keep hearing about how it is insanity to rely on the internet for personal connections, but I just lost a boyfriend, a best friend, and a whole group of friends. And instead of feeling alone, I am more and more feeling like

fuck yeah that was the right thing to do, I will be okay. It still hurts. But not as much as it would had I really been alone. I can't even begin to thank this sub. I really don't know what to say. Even on my previous posts that didn't get as many responses, it was some of the comments there that made me approach the cheating thing knowing I had to break up and move on. So it changed my life in this moment. And considering I will be doing a lot of soul searching on toxic relationships, this probably changed my life for good. So thank you all so much for reaching out to a stranger. This community is so precious. And I got a gold, I don't even know what to say. Thank you so much. I don't mean to sound ungrateful, but I don't even know how much a gold costs, and this is an

all to count, so it won't really be used. Is there any way I can return? turn it to the sender? Some of you are asking for an update. I might in a while, if there is something new to tell. Right now it's just more of the same. I don't think I will be able to answer all the comments, but I am trying to at least answer the ones with questions. Thank you. Comments where op has replied, commenter one, well yeah, I would just ditch that whole friend group and start trying to find new friends my god that some fucked up shit op yep done and done I think I'm being too permissive with the word friend. It was going on for months. Everyone knew. Nobody had the decency to tell me. It was only the one friend who wasn't even

that close who stood up for me. Comment her too, you also can't make her hurt. She has no respect for you, and clearly doesn't care. So it will be impossible anyways. It would have the same effect as a drunk stranger telling you that you're awful. It might make you angry but you didn't care about that stranger so what they say is irrelevant. Also, I can't imagine anything so utterly not worth your time. The delightful side effect of just ghosting is that they will stew in it. They want the reaction, but they get none. They realize they lost all their power and never get to know and feel that satisfaction that comes from getting the reaction you wanted. Boop. Oh, I get what you mean she is still texting me. I didn't mention one detail because it wasn't

important. We were all traveling together soon. My family paid for some of Jesse's expenses. She is messaging me about the vouchers, since I have them all. This fucking woman can't even wait a day to ask. It's like she's suddenly remembered she still needs me. I mean, I am not giving them to her either way. Trip is off. Can't she tell? Absolute truth. Commenter three, she would be more hurt by no response at all. To anything, ever, op, though no contact. Oop, I'm very much thinking the silence treatment will be the way to go. I think she just realized she needs me for the trip,

she has been aggressively trying to contact me. Now she is saying that she liked my BF first, and I was the one who stole him, so she is the one who should be mad. I know I should just block her everywhere. But is it petty that I am having fun watching her squirm? I wanted to have the last word, but not say, saying anything is driving her crazy. Comment her four, LOL-L-L-L-But. Seriously, that is one of the stupidest things I have heard. It is like saying, hey, babe, I jumped off a cliff because somebody

was really pestering me to do it. Edit, I feel for you op, but what an excuse. Oop, I confess I almost fell for it. How pathetic is that? He was saying he cared about me, it was just a mistake, he thought she would back off. And I felt it was a bad decision on his part, but maybe it made sense and I could forgive him. Then he said something like and I didn't even like her, you were the one who always wanted us to hang, that's when my brain joined the party and I was like, is he seriously trying to blame this shit on me? More comments made by Op, most disgusting part is that it is a trip we would take together with my BF and some other friends. So she really thinks I would let my family pay

for her to go on vacation with my ex who she cheated on me with? I'm starting to think this woman is sick. Like for real. I just went straight to venting, didn't I? Sorry. Well, it was all Pete really. After she texted she could get my BF if she wanted to, I just answered back WTF Jessie.

And she lolled as if it was a joke. After that, Pete texted me, asked me if I was alone. He was really kind. and told me everything, said he had proof and asked if I wanted to see it. I said yes. He had gone after our friends and convinced them to send him Prince. He's really well liked by everyone, and he was the one who said enough pete as gay BTW, just in case anyone jumps the gun like my mom did and think he did this because he's interested in me or something. He's not. He is just a decent person. No, I didn't get Prince between BF and Jesse.

I guess I went straight to venting and didn't give much details. Wasn't expecting this response. There was this friend Pete who convinced three other friends to send him texts between them, three friends, and either Jesse or B.F., so he could have proof, because he thought what was happening was disrespectful and someone should tell me. There were prints of texts between two friends and Jesse, and one other friend and B.F. They were pretty clear.

Jesse especially didn't seem to care about hiding it. at all. B. F. texts were mostly wondering if I had noticed something, and wanting Jesse to back off, while saying she was hot, etc. There was nothing 100% confirmation on his side. It wasn't a talk between him and one of his closest friends, so it was kind of generic. But when I confronted him, I said I had Prince, without saying what they showed, and he just confessed. I really appreciate the prince. It was ultimate evidence. But I don't think they did it for me. It's a peat thing, you'd have to know him to understand. He's the stand-up guy who is everyone's friend. He is a huge people person. I think they sent the prince because it was something for him, you know? He was the one

leading the charge and dealing with consequences. If it were just me, I don't think they would have final update. I said I'd come back if anything relevant happened. XBF kept trying to get in touch through common friends. They kept asking me to unblock him and at least hear him out, because he was really sorry, he loved me, he was a mess, he didn't mean to. Someone even went as far as to ask me if I was really sure it happened. They offered to send me prints of texts where he was talking about me, so I'd see how he always had great things to say and how much he cared.

But I've had it with the print screen drama for life, and said no. to the ones who insisted I told them I wasn't unblocking him, had nothing to say or hear, and if they kept pushing me, I blocked them too. I ran into XBF at this book thing I go to often, hobby of mine. Maybe I'm being presumptuous, but I think he went there for me. He didn't really have any business there, but I'm just speculating really. He asked if I had a few minutes for coffee, I said I was late, lie. He walked me to my car.

He looked so good, smelled great. He was so sweet. Was even wearing his hair the way I like it. I fell horrible because even after everything, I still like him. He apologized some more, said he knew I needed time and space, but asked if I'd consider giving him another chance because he would wait for me. Said he would never talk to Jesse again, and would act like they had restraining orders against each other. And I just found it really funny how everything he was saying required me trusting him, which I don't. So I told him I wasn't interested anymore and he should move on. I wish I said something snappier or wittier. But I had nothing. This was Saturday, I haven't heard from him or friends since. I think that was that. Jesse also kept trying to talk to me. Like I told some of you

on comments, I had a trip coming up, it would have been me, Jesse, XBF, and a few friends. Since Jesse couldn't afford it, my parents paid for most of her expenses. She must have remembered this right after everything went down and panicked because I had everything, vouchers, confirmations emails, credit card info. She went crazy. Even showed up at my place, I wasn't home and my roommate told her to fuck off, exact words. I didn't block her at first because I had to do. admit I was having some fun watching her despair. I talked to my mom and she was amazing. Told me I should cancel everything even if it costed us money, it was fine. So I did. And for one last

bit of print screen drama, I printed all the emails I got confirming cancellations and sent those to Jesse with the word by before blocking her. My roommate has been amazing. We were never really close and now I don't even know why. She cancelled plans with her friends to stay with me and invited me to go out with them next weekend. A few of you suggested I see a therapist and I did, yesterday. I really liked it. It was just one appointment and I mostly just talked, but it felt good. She gave me homework, she talked a little about unhealthy and abusive relationships and asked me to think about my friendship with Jesse and try to point what was healthy and what was unhealthy about it. Made me realize she was never really my friend. She was taking advantage of me for years

and she even had me thanking her for it. Therapist also told me about this saying, I think that's what it is, called the narcissist's prayer, which goes something like that didn't happen. If it did, it wasn't my fault. If it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did, then you deserved it, which is totally how Jesse is handling this whole thing now. So good riddance and And a final piece of gossip. Pete talked to me yesterday, he is checking up sometimes, he's a good guy. Again, he is gay in case someone is still thinking this might turn into a romantic comedy. He said Jesse was super sure that since I broke things off, she and Dean would hook up right away. But apparently he doesn't have the same plans and that freaked her out over the weekend.

Pete says he really is a mess and went out drinking hard four nights in a row to the point he had to be carried home by his pals. And yesterday, they all went out for lunch at this burger place. Jesse was going to run her fingers through his hair or something and he just pushed her away and told her to stop and to never touch him again. Great that now he manages to do that, huh? I guess in the end he really did like me in his sick way. The thing is, I don't want to be with someone who likes me in a sick way. I want to be with someone who likes me in a healthy way. I think I deserve that. I am also thinking about taking the money I got back from the trip to go somewhere else by myself. Haven't decided though. Anyway, this will be the final update on this, since it is

unlikely that I will have anything new to add now. I think I just need time to heal and let go, you know? I might come back in a few months if there is reason to do a yay life is awesome now post, but I wanted to post this update now because I wanted to end this whole story on a bright note. and, of course, thank you all again. You are the best.