Reddit Stories - BETRAYED My Best Friend'S Fianc CONFESSED His Love For Me While PLANNING Their Wedding

Episode Date: May 31, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #relationships #drama #confession #friendship #weddingSummary: A shocking tale unfolds as a best friend's fiancé confesses love while planning their wedding. Betrayal, friendship, and love collide in this emotional rollercoaster.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, relationships, drama, confession, friendship, wedding, love, betrayal, emotions, secrets, scandal, honesty, trust, loyalty, heartbreak, marriage, commitmentBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. Close friend's partner confided in me that he had feelings for me for the past couple of years, despite being engaged to her. When I turned him down, his behavior towards me became strange regarding my recent significant other. Boyfriend. So, my best friend and I have known each other forever, and I love her with all my heart. We're extremely open and honest with each other, about as close as two people can be without being romantically involved. though it's a running joke that were wives. Because of this, and because of her meticulous nature,

we've previously run over random scenarios and what we'd like the other person to do in said scenario. Things like if a guy asked one of us out via duck the other one, if we both got feelings for the same person, even things like if the other one died. One of these was the dreaded if I had a boyfriend and he had feelings for you scenario. The potential for this to happen has come up a few times

conversation over the years in varying degrees of seriousness. And while we agreed that it'd be awful and sucky, we didn't agree on what we would want to know in the situation. I would always, under any circumstances, want to know, and she wouldn't. She has been adamant about this every time it comes up, and no matter what question I hit her with or alteration to the scenario she always made it 100% clear that she would never want to know. About three years back, she starts dating guys. He's been around, he's kind of one of those extended members of our group, so we both know him and I never thought much about him other than that he seems cool, nice, etc. Because of his proximity to her, he joins the rest of our friend's group and he hits it off with all of us.

The boys love him, the gals are happy for best friend because he's genuinely perfect for her. And most importantly, she is over the moon. All she's ever wanted is to be in love, it's a dream of her. he treats her, and other people in general, with the utmost respect. Him and I get along well. We don't hang out the two of us, but we'll chat a bit, very basic stuff about music, our jobs, etc., and hang out the three of us. He had this small talk with some of our other friends too, and I always thought it was great

because he was taking an interest in her life and the people around her. I've always been a bit of the odd one out in my group of friends. I was put up a few years in school, and because of that all my friends are just a little older than me and I've been the baby of the friends group my whole life. Most of us went from high school to the same university. I've also always had a general disinterest in dating. I've had interest from guys, but I'm a bit of a daydreamer, obsessed with my chosen field, and my future plans do not involve children and perhaps not even marriage.

The idea of love always appealed to me, but I've just all just all. always been happy within myself and never in any kind of rush. Because of this, there was a running joke in our friend's group about me dying alone surrounded by nothing but dogs, etc. Harmless fun, and Guy joins in on these jokes as well over time. I noticed as he became closer to the group, he always seemed very interested in my love life, and encouraged me to pursue my dreams and take my time. Best friend always did the same.

I never thought much of it. Until, about four months ago, I met a guy, 25M, who completely sweeps me off my feet. We'll call him Max, because that's his name. Totally unexpected, just swooped in and we've had a very charming, fairy tale-like romance. Because of my inexperience and relationships, I've spent a lot of time talking to best friend about all the feelings I've been having, etc. She's happy for me, gives me advice, Yada. Guy is in the same room when this is happening a lot of the time, so sometimes gives us input.

Everything is perfect and awesome. But then Guy starts acting weird. We'd be having drinks as a group and I'd be telling a story involving Max and he'd suddenly get really weird. He'd be warning me, telling me completely normal stuff Max does is red flagish. Max spontaneously showed up to take me out on a date stargazing late at night, I love surprises, and I study slash work in astronomy, and Guy is going on about how dangerous it was for me to go alone, blah, blah. Guy has always been friendly, supportive, nice to, and about everyone.

So much so that best friend starts to doubt Max and his intentions purely because Guy is a great judge of character, while all my other friends think Max sound great and laugh Guy off as bizarre. During this time, Guy reveals to me he's going to ask best friend to marry him. Hooray. Totally awesome. Have to keep it a secret for now, but I'm really pumped for them. He told me so he could get advice on the ring, and how she'd like to be proposed too. All good. It finally reached the tipping point when Max met my friends, and they all really liked him. Everyone seems to be getting along and Max and Guy are chatting to a side.

Suddenly, Guy just puts his glass down hard on the table and starts. storms out of the bar. Best friend is all what? And goes after him, and I go over to Max to see what's up. Max looks super shocked. He tells me Guy was doing a bit of the Big Brother routine which he did get from a few of the guys in the group. Max said for most of the others it was playful banner type stuff, but Guy was a lot more serious. The point where he got up and stormed out was because Max had been talking about how serious

he was about me, though no one had to worry, he would never dream of hurting me, etc. Later on, Max suggested maybe Guy was jealous or something, but I was pretty disbelieving of that. I cannot stress enough that Guy has never done or said anything that ever seemed like he had feelings for me. He's treated me the same as anyone else in our friend's group, the only difference being he's gotten to know me more because I spend a lot of time at best friend in his place. deciding I had enough, I messaged Guy. First, I asked him if he was okay, then I went on to say that I hoped everything was cool between us all. The following conversation reads, him, it's not cool.

I don't trust that guy. Me, do you mind if I ask why not in specifics? No one else got bad vibes. Underscore and underscore even invited him to the beach tomorrow. Him, he looks at you funny, I can't explain it properly. You've known me a while, you know I have your best interests at heart, trust me on this. Me, I understand that you can't help it if you get bad vibes, but no one else does, I'm sorry, but I'd need more than trust me to go on.

Regardless, while I appreciate your concern I'm capable of making my own mistakes, and I do not think this is one. It'd really mean a lot to me if you could try and get along with him to make him to make it easier to fit in. I plan on keeping him around for a while, and best friend wants to do double dates and stuff so you're going to run into him eventually. Him, one. Double dates sounds lame. Two. Even if they yet didn't, I don't want him to come. Me, one. Take that up with your lady, two. Do you really not like him that much? Him, okay, he seems all right but kind of weird. How can a theater kid be so alpha?

It's more that I'm jealous. Me, I resent the notion that theater guys can't be manly, but also, it the group is really tight, but everyone really likes you, you've been one of us for years now. Max got a lot of attention tonight BC. He's the new guy. I'm sorry if you felt excluded,

but I promise it's really not like that. He didn't reply for a while, and then sent this, him, not of that. I've been thinking very carefully about how to phrase this message. I don't want you to think I don't love best friend, because I do. Very much. But I am also in love with you, and have been for about two years. When I realized I thought about breaking up with best friend, but you were always so in your own world I thought I'd never have a shot anyway, especially if I was your BFF sex.

I pushed it down. With with it. It was hard, it sucked. I got over it, kind of. I thought that if I couldn't be with you then at least I could have happiness with best friend and be near you. Then, you met Max, and watching you start to fall in love with him is the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life. I know this is cliche and dramatic, I know it's fucked and I should just not say any of it, but I literally feel sick when you talk about him.

I cannot tell you how much I wanted to hit the guy last night, and then how bad I felt about it when I realized he was actually a decent guy. I think the only thing worse than you being with another guy is you being with another guy I actually like. Sorry for offloading onto you, I know it's unfair to do this now. I do love best friend. You know I do. I want to marry her. I would rather you didn't tell her, but what happens next is up to you, I guess.

Me, if this is a joke it's not funny, can you please tell me the truth? Him, sorry, but that is the truth. What are you going to do? I haven't sent him anything back after that. He sent a few more messages asking what I was going to do, I replied to say I was thinking. Small edit, since posting this he sent quite a few more messages asking what I was going to do. I told him I still hadn't decided overall, but also made it to do.

clear I don't reciprocate his feelings. I am gutted, and how I feel is nothing compared to how best friend would feel if she knew. I want to tell her so badly. I know if I was in her shoes, I would want to know. The last thing I'd want to do is marry a guy who wasn't honest with me about something, but it was the beginning of this year that we last joked about this exact scenario and she was still adamant she wouldn't want to know. I know it's not my fault, but I still feel terrible. I'm questioning if I ever did anything to bring this on from Guy, and if I can even go on acting like he never said anything.

His feels are not reciprocated at all, never have been. Max was with me when I got the message and has been very supportive. If a little myth towards Guy for obvious reasons, send help. Best friend meets Guy a three years ago. He integrates into our friend's group, gets along with everyone, is just generally a cool guy. Life goes on, they move in together. I'm thrilled for her, he's all she's ever wanted. I meet what seems like my dream guy. Everyone is happy for me,

except Guy who seems super standoffish and weird about it. I don't think much of it. Guy wants to marry best friend and tells me about it to get advice. Awesome. Eventually it snowballs after Max and Guy meet for the first time to Guy telling me in love with me, but still wants to marry best friend and just be in love with me from the shadows. His feelings for me are not reciprocated in the slightest. I need to talk about this, Reddit. Should I tell her? Should I just keep it to myself? I'm furious with Guy, I feel terrible, I feel awful for best friend. I don't know if I can look her in the eye as she marries this person. I don't know if I can let her. her marry someone him without her knowing all the facts. I'm overwhelmed, please, just give me

some advice. Update, sorry, this'll probably get long. It does, so, there were lots of conflicting opinions on what to do, and a lot of you had really good reasons behind those, however, there were consensus which seemed to be that one. This sucks and there's no ideal solution, and two. Everyone seemed on board with the letter idea which was suggested by a few people. The gist of it was that I should write a letter and put the screen caps, etc. I took into it and then offer the information to her again. That way, she would have some more agency to choose whether or not she wanted to know. I have to say letting her know there was something to know kind of felt like I was forcing her to choose to open it, but, well, here's what happened.

I made the envelope and went to her place while Guy was working just to hang out, pretty usual stuff. Read it, I'm not a terrible actress, but this woman knows me so well. She opened the door to let me in and immediately asked what was wrong, and to my everlasting shame I immediately burst into tears. Super pathetic of me, and not ideal. Ugh. After I'd composed myself, I started saying what I'd been practicing in my head. Pretty much, that there was something we'd talked about a lot in our scenarios that had happened, and she had always said she wouldn't want to know, but I wanted to give her the option. I gave her the letter. Then without even opening it, she also started to cry, which made me start up again, which was kind of okay because the ridiculousness of us

both just standing in her living room sobbing all over each other made us laugh a little bit. A lot of people had guessed she had noticed or had some kind of idea of guy's feelings, and they were absolutely right. But it's weirder that. than even that. I genuinely can't believe I'm explaining this, it's just, weird. I don't know. Best friend had thought Guy had a harmless little crush on me. The kind people in relationships just get sometimes. But when he didn't talk to her about it, she started to feel uncomfortable, and she did something she shouldn't have, but you know how it goes. She snooped. She snooped on his laptop months ago, and found a file with my initials on it buried amongst a bunch of other stuff.

She went and got his laptop and gave it to me to read while she read my letter. Inside it were stories he had written, like fanfiction. About the three of us living like a kind of poly-relationship lifestyle where we were his wives. Some of it was sexual stuff which, you know, I think I could understand it better if it had just been sexual fantasies, but there were also really long documents about. about our lives together. And it goes deep too, there was a whole plot line about him trying to convince me to have kids, love them, but I'm child-free and everyone around me knows it.

There were loads of stories, all different lengths, I didn't read all of it. Just kind of like Skim read them with my mouth hanging open. It's so hard to explain, it was really bizarre to read about myself like that. There were newer documents Best Friend hadn't read, too. Best friend goes on to tell me that she hadn't minded because she was in all the stories as well, so she's reassured and is love for her, but obviously me being part of their life in that way isn't her ideal and she was disturbed by the way he'd spoken to me in the messages from the other day, and the ones he's sent since.

I asked her loads of questions, including if she felt safe, and she said she does. I asked her what she wanted to do, and she said she wanted to leave him. She also apologized for not telling me, and while it doesn't sit well with me that she didn't, because of what happened after this, I've basically forgiven her slash put any talk of that on hold. She doesn't need that now, and I've been so relieved she wasn't mad at me for bursting her bubble and concerned for her, that it seems very secondary. Of all the things I expected to happen during my visit, it was none of that. So then the conversation switched to me being worried about her safety because while he doesn't seem dangerous this is very obsessive, and he's clearly been upset by his fantasy becoming further from reality with Max in the picture, and now this. I'm a little anxious about Max's safety, too.

I can't tell if I'm being reasonable or paranoid. She assured me tenfold that she feels completely safe, he's never done anything other than this that's red flageish, but that she still wants to leave, and she's very cautious by nature so she's taking some precautions. She got up and went to pack her bags and started giving me typical air, business-like instructions on the things she wanted me to grab from around the house. She filled up her suitcases, and I filled up a box of her personal stuff. Then, she wrote a note for Guy explaining that she didn't think they should be together anymore,

and she would only talk with him about it over messages or in person a few days from now, in a public place, she assured me. So, this is when I did something I maybe shouldn't have, I don't know. I carry a pen drive on my keychain. I told her that I wanted to take copies of the stories because if anything happens, even if she doesn't think it will, it's important that there's something we can use to prove his obsessive behavior. She said fine, so I now have a pen drive full of fan fiction, and playlists.

About myself, my best friend and her ex. I'm not going to lie and say I'm not tempted to read them. Shear morbid curiosity. But I've resisted so far. We went my place first while we thought of what to do next, and her emotions were understandably all over the place. Later I got a call from Max and filled him and he said to come stay with him since Guy doesn't know where he lives.

Best friend preferred to stay at a nearby host. which we used my car to pay for, and after I hovered over her anxiously as she settled and she eventually said she wanted to be alone, which isn't unusual for her when she's upset. I've been to visit her and she's been sending me messages the whole time, so I'm feeling pretty confident about where her head's at, sad, but coping well considering, but still just general worriedness. I'm staying with Max until things settle down. I've gotten and am still getting messages from Guy. I have been since about 5 p.m. that night, and it's been two nights since then.

They're very I just want to talk messages. Not aggressive or anything like that, I was going to block him on everything, but best friend asked me not to because she's worried about his mental state. I'm staying at Max's just in case. Guy is trying to talk to me and to her, but the only responses he's gotten are to read the note she left him again. Lastly, thank you so much to the people who commented, especially the ones who wrote a lot and gave me such good advice and just sent general good feelings my way. Or PM me.

You guys were amazing. I'm super grateful for all the comments. Next story, met my wife at my cousin's bachelor party where she was working as STRPour. We fell in love, had two kids, and kept her past secret from our religious family. Eight years ago, my cousin Joe was getting married. He invited me to his bachelor party. It was me and a bunch of his weird friends I was uncomfortable around. I spent the whole night nursing a beer waiting for it to end.

Towards the end of the night, his best man, whose name I can't even remember, had two strippers come. I hated the idea, so I continued to nurse the beer while the girls entertained them. A week later, while I was at the gym, a pretty good one. girl I couldn't quite place comes up to me and starts making small talk. I ask how I know her and she says she was the entertainment at a party I was at. I was surprised by how different she looked compared to that night. Long story short, I end up asking her out. Her fake name is going to be Audrey. It turns out Audrey's only been stripping for a few months. I believed her, but their friends have confirmed it, and she ends up quitting a few weeks after we start to.

dating. I was clearly uncomfortable with it, and she didn't really like it. She's never been ashamed about it. But we haven't told anyone in our family about it and Joe kept his mouth shut because I asked him to. She's still friends with some girls who still strip, and I think that some of my friends put two and two together but haven't been rude or anything. Just made the usual I'm jealous jokes. Anyways, we've had two great kids, a son, five, and a daughter, three, and were thinking about having one or two more. Joe's always been super quiet around Audrey, probably because of how they met, until recently, after his divorce. He started complimenting my wife's physical appearance, like every time he sees her. I've told him to

lay off, but he hasn't so far. One incident in particular where he said something about kids not ruining her figure really pissed me off, and I bowed up on him and he apologized saying he was drunk. We were at a family barbecue. I calmed down and realized I wasn't going to beat his ass in front of my whole extended family and my kids. I told him not to talk my wife again. This has really come to a head where he sent my wife a love letter asking her to leave me and start a life with him. She sent a reply email just saying no, thank you. What do I do here? I love my family, I love my extended family, and I want her to be comfortable around them. And she can't be with Joe there.

Audrey doesn't want me to tell my family he's making her uncomfortable. The only thing she's afraid Joe will let out are the fact that she used to be a stripper. I told her I'd be okay with it, but she's pretty adamant on not wanting them to know. Another thing, Joe hasn't done anything that would require legal action. He'd been acting like a teenager with a crush, and my wife admitted that she doesn't feel like she's in any kind of danger. I told her that we need to watch him carefully, but I don't know if there is much we can do on this front. My wife has just been terrified he's going to tell my family, I've been there for her the best I can. She's afraid that one day our kids could find out if the

whole family learns. I would love advice on this whole horrible situation. Comment where op has replied, Montiran 87TD. Do you think your family will be terribly up? upset if they find out your wife used to do some stripping to pay her way through college. I'd say pull a David Letterman and beat your cousin to the punch. You just have to convince your wife of that, maybe start with one or two you definitely trust and go from there. Oop, my family is really religious. They've always been the hate the sin love the sinner kind of people, so I feel like they'd be kind, they're pretty accepting. I've talked to my wife about letting people know, she's dead set against it. Update, yesterday, my wife and I decided to

show my parents Joe's email love letter. We learned a lot of things. One, Joe has apparently seduced another one our cousin's wife, as well as his uncle's wife, Joe's uncle is only five years older than him. Both times he sent a love letter, and both times ignored them afterwards. I don't know why, but both of those couples are still together, all of them are religious so maybe it has something to do with not wanting to get divorced. 2. The reason Joe got a divorce was because he would not stop cheating on his wife. 3. Joe came to his parents and the older family members who I will refer to as the old guard, facetiously, and asked for help after being caught with the cousin's wife, saying he was

sorry and that he had a problem. They decided to forgive him, but put rules in place. Four, my parents knew about Audrey. Joe had told his mom told my mom, her sister. My mom told my dad. Audrey started crying at four, but my parents gave her a hug and told her they didn't care. It was great, and after some tears we went back to our house. A babysitter was watching the kids. My parents told me the old guard was going to talk to Joe. Apparently Joe told everyone there about Audrey, by trying to say that her being around set him back. Everyone didn't know, except for my parents and Joe's parents. He claimed that she made the first move.

He also said that he slept with her on Tuesday while I was at work. That was completely false, because I had started working from home a month ago. I was at home all day with my wife, just to be clear, there's no way she has been having an affair with him. I think the longest we've been apart this month has been an hour when she gets groceries. And he claimed Tuesday was the first time. The fallout has been horrible. Apparently I was already the black sheep, not the fucking sexual deviant. Because my family doesn't go to church.

We've received various messages denouncing us, the worst being from me. the parents of Lisa. Lisa is like a sister to me, her parents moved in with mine and we lived together. Lisa turned 17 recently, and her parents aren't allowing her to be at our house anymore, she used to come over all the time. My wife is crushed, I've been holding her as much as I can, and I know our kids are making her feel better, but she told me that her worst nightmare came true. She still thinks going to my parents was the right idea, though. My parents are still supporting us. The younger group who aren't living with their parents won't cut us out. I've pretty much written off the rest of the family. I'll try to have my parents explain that she had nothing

to do with Joe, but if they don't listen, they don't listen. Lisa also doesn't believe it, but besides a text saying that she doesn't want to stop being around us we haven't heard from her.