Reddit Stories - Blamed my folks for FAVORING my sibling as their FAVORITE and DAMAGING our

Episode Date: July 15, 2025

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I hope you enjoy this story. Blamed my folks for favoring my sibling as their favorite and damaging our bond. Following a tense gathering with the family, I also found out that my partner was exploiting me for my money. My sister is my dad's golden child and no matter how much I try to get him to see me as her equal it never works and I believe she takes advantage of it. Usually is not much of an issue, but this week some things happen which were the cherry on top. I'm hopefully getting married next year and she asked if she could invite her in-laws because

they will come next time she comes over. I said okay only because my parents are paying but I know she just wants to do it for the attention. So she will have at least four people from her political family there and for sure parade them around. Also, my parents are about to have a big anniversary in November but they are postponing any celebration because my sister, who lives overseas, doesn't want to travel so long until things are even calmer. But last month she went on a holiday to a country next to hers. I was having lunch with them and my fiancé when they informed me they are moving their big celebration to next year and I couldn't handle it anymore. I said to my dad, of course, you will postpone.

We should all stop living until she is here, he said it was uncalled for and I was making a big deal about something that had nothing to do with me and my mom said they will, of course, have something intimate and I was as important, but I don't believe it. I stood up and said to my dad, I am so sorry the love of your life is not around, but the most important woman in your life should be your wife, not your daughter. After that I left. The next day I felt bad and tried to call my mom who refuses to speak with me and just sent me a text telling me I was bitter and was hurtful and need help. But they and particularly my dad hurt me with their desire of giving her such a prevalent role in their lives when she has lived abroad for like 10 years. My dad blocked me and my fiancé is worried they won't pay for the wedding anymore. My sister, trying to be the center of the universe as usual, tried calling me but I didn't reply.

I gave it a few days but my parents haven't contacted me. My sister stopped trying to get in contact with me, but she contacted my fiancé to check on me. I visited my grands today and she told me I need to apologize because my parents love us both but we are different and so got different things so I began to wonder if I was the asshole. I just want some days where I'm the most important person to my parents and still believe that my sister's golden child status should be addressed and corrected but maybe I was the asshole for the way I expressed it. Edit 1. I am, 26M, my fiancé is a woman. I also want to clear out I don't think my parents are bad people but just bad parents. Edit 2. This is long time coming. My sister, 33, and my dad have a little club. She is smart,

reading since four and all that. Since she was very young my dad used to take her to visit his clients in a nearby city and sometimes she would stay with one of his best friends who owned a bookstore and she has a very large book collection that my parents refuse to throw away, even when I tell them to send them to the woman, dad's best friend, or my sister. They talk almost daily and discuss. They talk almost daily and us economics, politics, etc. I am not interested on any of those, and yes, he tried to take me with him, but I was always bored and did things like going to my games or getting us stadium tickets for our team, but I feel he likes her more. My mom, on the other hand, has ups and downs with my sister because they are very different. The last issue was my sister's weddings five years ago,

yes, she had two. One intimate where she lives and another in our country, and my mom wanted to have her dresses made from a special fabric and my sister put a budget limit on how much the dress was going to be and even wanted to wear the same dress for both things. They had an argument but in the end she had two dresses but with the budget. She didn't even let me bring my GF, future wife, because she wanted it to be intimate but there were like 50 people there. My mom told my fiancé she would be buying or making her dress singular. My mom and fiancé have a very good relationship so I am sure my sister was involved somehow in convincing her of that. Sister has a PhD that my parents paid for and doesn't work in the family businesses at all,

only consult sometimes and pretends she doesn't want to be paid for it. My parents supported her until she got a job and every time she graduated for the Masters and the PhD we had to go to Europe to be there. I work in a family business so I know they have to talk to me eventually even if they are angry. I could give more and more examples of their favoritism towards her. I also don't hate her I just wish she would let me shine on my days. And yes, the wedding would be a gift, but if they were willing to pay for two and many dresses and honeymoon, then I deserve the same treatment.

Edit 3, in case anybody wants to know, you might be happy about this. I got a message from my dad telling me to be in a family Zoom call, to say everything I want and everybody will take turns. He said if I didn't attend he will pull out his funding from our business so I had to go but told him I will ask my fiancé to be in two. It was me, fiancé, parents, sister and her husband. The moment I connected I noticed my sister was pissed. I was the first to speak. I told them all my feelings and even brought up the fact they are treating my wedding differently and even what some commenters brought up about my parents leaving the businesses to my sister. I spoke about how hurtful it was they

preferred her. They seemed to talk to her about serious things and she gets so much and they all think she is great, etc., and nobody said anything or interrupted me, which is very common in serious family talks. Then they asked if my fiancé wanted to say anything and she bravely said she felt she was not part of the family and she always thought they thought of her as a daughter and she stands by me. Then it was my mom's turn and she told me she was sorry about my feelings, that they tried to do things I liked and that they love us both equally. She said it was sad I pretended everything was okay and they didn't know how deep it was but she still thinks I need help. She then told my fiancé she loves her but my sister is her only daughter.

Then it was my dad's turn. He said he is sorry I feel he doesn't like me but he isn't sorry for loving his kid. He said I didn't mind the tickets, cars, or even living in a house rent free and he is disappointed. He said everything they own will be divided 50 to 50 when they died and if I didn't want my sister to have anything to do with our business then I can buy him out. He said they will pay for my wedding no matter what because it's something they always wanted to do for they kids but are not happy with me. He also told my fiancé that she should be grateful and not greedy. By then I was upset with the lack of apologies and the attack of my fiancé,

but I held it. Then my bill told me he didn't know how I feel about his family and he just assumed his nuclear family would come just like I was at his brother's wedding. He said no hard feelings over it. Then it was my sister. A thing about my sister is that when she is truly angry she doesn't swear or screams, she is just really cold, hard, and to the neck. She said she could feel me distancing at around 10 to 11 when she visited from uni and I was not included in some conversations with my dad. She said she accepted being my guardian at 18 if my parents died so she had to be brought up to speed on all matters and didn't want to stress me out. She said she could have been a better sister and she was sorry I grew so full of resentment but that her career path had nothing to do

with me. She reminded me I was offered to go abroad, but I didn't want to. She reminded me that I have gone on holidays with her and let me know those holidays were paid by her or her husband, not my parents. News to me. She said she asked me about her in-laws coming because they need to plan the trip around my wedding. She said my fiancé and I were only seven months together when she got married and that she didn't want my parents to have to pay for her trip. She said that the reason she doesn't want to get paid for consulting is because she thinks is not right but that next time she will invoice me her actual hourly rate since I am so insulted by it. She said she went to the Netherlands, from Germany, because she was truly burned out and

as pathetic I think is the same as taking a ten hours plane. She said my grandma was the one that told her everything I said because my parents tried to protect me and that she was done with me for the moment until I get therapy. and the last thing she said was that she loves me but doesn't like me at all right now. This is obvious summary but the way she said the things is something I have seen her do to people but never to me and I almost cried but she had no niceness in the eyes. My parents said they can get me therapy or I can find it myself and that if I don't try something to help myself the wedding is the last thing I will get from them.

What made me feel worse is how my sister spoke to me. She has never talked to me like this even when we argued so I know she is serious. I got my hand into me. Yes, I am jealous and the asshole. I am upset my fiancé is crying, but I think I need to evaluate what my next move is. Also, we are from La Tong. Update 1. I haven't been able to sleep and decided to read all the comments again.

I tried calling my sister because even if yes, I am jealous of her, it still hurts me the way she talked to me. She refused to talk to me, but I could speak with my bill. He said the reason she doesn't want to talk to me is because I hurt her deeply and she feels emotionally drained by me and knows if we talk she will say more hurtful things. This made me realize how much I love my sister and the problem is me. I still have bad feelings and feel I've been slighted. I cannot say I am magically a different person but my family has never talked to me like they did and my sister has always defended me and I thought she did it to look good.

I am beginning to think maybe she actually loves me. I am very confused. My bill is an amazing man too, and he told me to just get help and give it time, but I am unsure what to do or where to go. He told me to research therapists and pick one, and he would help me choose if I want his help. He also said I should stop thinking my family doesn't care that they are not perfect, but they do their best. But he also asked me what is my fiancé's family contributing to the wedding or our lives,

and I could not think of anything. She lives with me, works with me, and her parents are not paying any. because they say my family is better off. I don't know where that will go, but I did tell her I need help because I became a monster so no wedding until my family issue is fixed. She is crying but said she understands. My grandma said that she told my sister because my parents just told her there was an argument but not what I said.

Looking back what I said is disgusting and I feel bad about it. She said my family wouldn't react so strongly unless they love me a lot. I asked my dad if I can take some mental days off, Noida thing in my country, and he said it sounds like a good thing and reminded me they love me and just want me to be happy and not just pretend to be happy. Also, the books are in her walk-in closet in her bedroom at my parents. They still have a lot of my stuff in my bedroom and my parents said I'm welcome to Sunday meeting whenever I feel ready to go. I also must admit that she did two weddings because my parents asked if she would be willing to do so. My mom wanted to get her super fancy dresses and at the end they got two dresses for like 600 euros because my sister put a limit of 300 per dress. I think maybe I am jealous of her because she is actually better than me,

I just don't want to feel like this anymore or hurting my family anymore. So I guess I can thank Reddit for the hard comments. I have so many issues and so much jealousy about my sister to get over I don't know where to start. I am beginning to doubt if I am even ready to get married. But if the comments had been full of support, I would probably not see it. And of course my family call was really something hard to be in. Update 2. It has been a very interesting time for me and my family.

I wanted to share because you redditors are brutal but fair. Some told me I am rambling and yes I do so I try my best this time. My family, after taking some days off work to process it all, my bill found me a therapist and I started immediately. We have also done group sessions and couple ones, aka me and dad, me and mom, me and sister. It has helped me see all the issues and we are learning to communicate better as a family so nobody, me, feels unloved or unappreciated ever again. I now know I have a long road ahead but I want to be better.

My parents say they just want the best for me and they want me to feel loved. Also, I am moving back home. After high school I moved out because I wanted to do things like my sister but I feel it is the best option so when my parents gave me the option I thought it over and agreed to. Baby steps but good ones. My sister, she didn't talk to me at all for about 10 days, and this might sound stupid but it is the longest chase and communicated with me ever. It hurt me a lot and I knew I hurt her a lot. In our session she showed me a list of many messages people send about me. They were all positive, praising my talents and all. She said we

are different but great in out-owned ways and the reason I usually don't hear how great I am is because people don't praise me directly. She also told me most of the time when something happens that my parents know she might give me shit about they simply don't tell her so I don't have drama and joke maybe I am the true golden child since they shield me. She is talking to me again and has helped me a lot. Am I still jealous of her? Yes, but I want to transform that into admiration. My ex, while I know my feelings are mine and I am responsible for them, my ex did throw gasoline to it. She was always the first to point out anything my sister got that I didn't, or how much money everybody spent on things, etc. Long story short, we broke up. Long story,

I told her I was considering moving back with my parents and maybe getting a master or something like that. She was not pleased with it and kept asking about the wedding, but I told her I could not think about marriage at this moment and maybe we could also use a break. I also told her I would give her three months to find a place to stay or she could pay rent on the house, my parents own it. She was very angry, told me I had to marry her and if not at least let her live rent-free and cover utilities and food because I was breaking up out of the blue. I told her that was the reason I was giving her three months and she could use her salary since she didn't use a single cent while we were together. Then things got weird and bad. She told her that was the reason. She

me she was calling her family, not leaving the house and will sue me for mental distress. I did panic, she said the same back in the day when I tried breaking up but then convinced me she was the only one that loved me. But this time I called my family and they told me to lock myself out the house and call a friend of my sisters. He came and told her she can sue, she can do whatever, she is not getting anything in that my offer of the three months was off and he wanted her out ASAP. He took a video with the state of everything and told her if he was not.

If things are damaged, I would sue her. Turns out my sister told him this might be coming so he got info from her and was prepared for it and did it as a favor to her since they are kindergarten friends. A couple of my cousins stayed with me until she left days later and her dad told me I would go to hell. She is still working in the company and will have a job as long as she performs, but I have no relation with her at all anymore and haven't been to the office. Yes, there is nepotism and my family hires each other.

But nobody would take away her job because she does an okay job and is always on time. I hope she finds love again, just not with me. And me, I am single, at home and most likely unemployed in the next month since my parents say I should focus on myself and my mental health. My bill has been one of my rocks through this and he truly cares for all my family and we are becoming true friends. My grandma let me know nobody liked my ex and she is happy we are not together anymore. She says they all started disliking her when she got upset they didn't get her expensive things for our first Christmas. My friends also told me they didn't like her.

Turns out everybody wanted it to end and some said so jokingly over the years but they thought she helped me out and made me happy so they dealt with her. I hope I get better luck and love but I need to be better too. I might take up the offer to start over abroad but I feel more positive. And yes my sister and I are trying to find common ground. She truly is amazing and the more I get to know her and her flaws and weird things like her her lemon juice obsession, the more I like her. At the end speaking my truth got me what I needed and while I was a huge awe now I can admit

how privileged I am. Still not perfect, but a little less awe. Update 3 Hello my brutal but fair friends. I wanted to give you my final update before but a Redditor let me know about a very cruel post mocking me and it sent me into a spiral. I am lucky to feel stronger and want to update you mainly to conclude this chapter of my life and also because I have received a lot of support and kindness and love I feel is just the right thing.

I will also try to keep it straight. My ex, since I left the company we have not talked much, but she became upset when I told her I was not coming back and we will be selling it. My dad made a deal with a friend that every employee that wanted to would get the option to stay at least three years and would keep their position and not be demoted. I told her that, but she said it was unfair, that people already treat her different and she feels people like her less. I told her I haven't say anything but I know people were not crazy about her before and it doesn't surprise me that now that she is not related to any boss they're not putting up with her. We did have a big conversation about my future and it is obvious she was not with me for the right reasons. My sister, I told her about my posts and she asked to read them. After a little

thought I told her my username and she said she wanted to check it out and we can talk about it later. She was very upset people were mean to me but very thankful people called me out because I really needed that. She said her lemon juice thing was not that weird and teased me about it. In getting to know her more I have also been told things like they have lost two babies but I was not told since I didn't seem interested in their life and she was afraid I wouldn't take it well and it broke me. It made me realize my sister is really a human and not myth and she has suffered things I can't even understand and made me really ashamed I was not there for her because I was being selfish and arrogant. Even in the pain she thought of how I would feel because, yes,

my sister does love me. She has assured me she loves me unconditionally, but now she is starting to like me again. My bill and parents, my bill is an amazing man. I really hope one day I am like him in my own version. I get more and more why he truly deserves to be with my sister and he is full of love and patience. We had a long conversation about them having kids and I told him to please don't think I am an obstacle. He was really moved because he told me they were considering not trying at all until I were better but I know in my heart I would not forgive myself if I prevented them to have babies. My parents told me now that I am making changes in life they would like to spend seasons in Germany and the only reason they didn't before is because they wanted to be

close to me. Turns out they wanted to be close to me all along. I just was too stupid to notice. Me, I am moving to Germany. I decided to just try something new. My sister and Bill are helping me with all the paperwork I will be going under an applicant permit and I feel very happy about it. My parents are helping me translate my documents, do everything to make them legal and all. I am applying for a master degree and will get support from my family, sale of the business

and a little job my bill got me. I am just finalizing things and will be moving at the end of the year. My sister owns her own department and she will host me until I find my own. I am already taking German classes and my bill helps me practice too. That is the reason I know without a doubt my ex is not for me, because when I told her I was moving to Germany her only question was if she could come too and if my parents would be willing to help her out since she doesn't get a wedding now. She has been posting things about how my sister and how she destroyed her life with her

schemes, but my sister's friend sent her a notice letting her know we would sue her and she stopped naming her and now it is all passive-aggressive posts without my sister's name. I apologize to my sister, but she only asked me if I would ever get back with my ex and when I said no, she told me she couldn't care less about what my ex did. I am working very hard on my mental health. I know it may take months or years to be in a place where I have zero jealousy, but I also know it is for the best. I have not started dating again even if some friends suggested it because I want to be a man and I am moving so I see no point. My therapist is amazing and since we do the sessions online it shouldn't be a problem. Sometimes I reevaluate some memories and realize people did like me,

did love me, did care about me, but I just couldn't see it. My sister is truly just extraordinary and I couldn't see it because I didn't truly knew her and was so focused about myself. I now know I am also extraordinary in my own way or at least she keeps telling me that and I should stop comparing myself to her or anybody else. I never really appreciated how much my parents thought of me or did for me, but now I know my family loves me and we are not perfect and I am not perfect but I will never take them for granted. I am looking forward for a better future, a better relationship with my family and if I am lucky enough a new nephew or niece. Thank you for all you have told me and for being the kick I needed to change my life. I am very grateful I came to this

site. Update 4. Hello to the few asking about an update. I recently read all my posts and I feel very ashamed and proud of them. Ashamed because I was such an idiot and proud for the progress so far. Things have changed a little but it is all positive for us. My parents, they now do seasonal or small stays in Germany. We have taken small hobbies together like wine painting and we keep getting to know each other better. My parents might eventually end up moving here but is unclear yet. The celebration of the anniversary is still postponed but they went on a very fancy trip as a second honeymoon and they don't seem to care much for that. My bill, he's my brother now. I also became friends with his brother and they introduced me to

their football and pool groups. I eventually made other friends but keep hanging with them a lot. My sister, she says she likes me again which honestly is the best feeling in the world. They are starting to try again soon and I am just excited for them. Sometimes when I feel any jealousy I actually tell her and she takes me step by step to see where it came from. We have had arguments since we are human but nothing so big or permanent and I feel she is more comfortable with me now. My ex, I don't keep up much with her. We were supposed to be friends but she was so negative I simply blocked her everywhere. All I know is she is dating someone else and telling everybody around she is so glad she didn't marry.

me which same. Me, I got into the program I wanted. I arrived at the end of 2021 and stayed a bit with my sister and Bill. There was a lot of debates over staying in the same city, but I decided to do so. I moved out and decided to give student life a try, but I still see my sister at least two times a week and same with my parents when they are here. I am still in therapy, learning ways to improve and bike everywhere. I had a couple flings since I arrived but still do not feel ready for a relationship. I want to find a partner but is scary and I need to be able to do so without being manipulated. One year ago I made a disgusting remark and now it feels my life is just going up. Thank you guys. Update 5. I recently showed this to my girlfriend and she is surprised how

things happened. I am very happy and love my life now. I will be a an uncle soon, almost done with my new degree, and have a great relationship with my family. This is for the few people that ask for updates, which probably will be the only one's reading. No drama or anything bad to report. And now I'm also obsessed with lemon juice. Thank you Reddit for kicking my ass and improving my life.