Reddit Stories - Broken Vows The Tragic Tale Of UNBLESSED Love LEADING To DIVORCE

Episode Date: June 22, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #divorce #tragiclove #brokenvows #unblessed #heartbreakSummary: The tragic tale of broken vows and unblessed love led to a heartbreaking divorce. The story unfolds with betrayal, shattered promises, and the painful consequences of lost trust and shattered dreams.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, brokenvows, tragiclove, unblessedlove, divorce, heartbreak, betrayal, shatteredpromises, losttrust, shattereddreams, lovegonebad, marriageproblems, relationshipissues, emotionalpain, movingon, healingprocessBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. I was never able to earn my father-in-law's approval, which led to the dissolution of my five-year partnership. Currently, my former spouse is interested in giving our relationship another chance. Just to provide some context, we were together for five years. And living together for four and this is the best, most satisfying relationship I have had in all my life. She works in the healthcare industry and her kindness towards those in me.

need and less privilege than her is what drew me to ask her out in the first place. In the last four years between us, there have been some little fights and only one big fight. The fight happened in October 2014. She planned for a lunch with Carl, which I had to miss because of work-related emergency. He called me later that night, saying that I don't show him the respect he deserves and I'm always trying to get out of family events because I don't want to be around him. which is not true because half of the planning and organizing on his birthday was on me and it was a big event. In the morning I told G.F. about his call, and she brushed it off as him being intoxicated.

The next weekend when we went to her parents' place for family dinner, Carl was extremely hostile towards me, but I kept silent about it. Until he said that I should not have missed the lunch. Every other Sunday is family dinner at her folks' place and I rarely miss it, so I didn't think it was a big deal, I apologized to him and said that I would make up for it in some way. At the next dinner, I bought a bunch of smart wearable accessories for him because G.F. suggested he was interested in them. He refused to accept the gift and when I insisted, he walked out saying he need some air. I had no clue what was going on and G.F.'s Mom was mortified, apologizing to me over and over again for Carl's behavior.

When we got home, I asked G.F. if there was something going on which she was not telling me. At first she tried to brush it off, but then she said that it was my fault for not seeing that her father was not interested in being buddies and wanted my respect, not friendship. This was a complete surprise to me because I never really thought of him as anything more than her father. We would just watch the game together sometimes and chat about it later, but that was the extent of our social interaction. G.F. said I needed to earn his respect and I told her I had done nothing wrong. That's when the fight started. But a few days later, Carl called me and said he liked the watch and other accessories. That's his way of declaring truce, I guess. After that, I was always extra careful never to miss any event with him. Last June GF's mother died and it was an incredibly difficult time for everyone.

I tried to be as supportive towards the whole family as I could. I cut down my work hours to spend more time with them. G.F. and I started cooking the family dinner at his place, because she thought it would be better for him to see the house alive with people again. And we made it an every week event for a while just to spend more time with him. Multiple times we made extra effort to host family events, and once we even flew his elder sister over for his birthday. I had thought he would warm up to me a little.

But I guess I was wrong. Which brings us to today. G.F. is away for the week on work-related stuff, so I planned the whole proposal. I was going to decorate our apartment like a planetarium with stars and planets and write, Will you marry me and the stars, it's from friends, which she is obsessed with. I wanted to start the preparations with his blessing, because that way he would feel good about me asking him first and he'd feel in. included also. I planned a lunch with him for today to ask for his blessing. I told him how much

respect I had for him and that I wish one day I could be as good a father as he was. Then when I asked for his blessing for the marriage, he blew up. He was absolutely livid, saying that her daughter deserves a better man and that he never really liked me much and had always hoped the relationship would end. He said all the ass kissing I was doing last year had showed that I just wanted to appear like a good man to G.F. and didn't mean any of that. I was so shocked because this is not how I expected it to go at all. I left him still spewing hate, and went to one of my friend's place. Told him and his wife everything, but they are just as shocked as I am. I spent the day at their place and got home about two hours ago. Not sure how to proceed now or even what to do.

Should I tell G.F. that her father said no. Should I proceed as if not? nothing has happened. For now I'm drinking and playing video games. What should I do, Reddit? Note, I have kept a lot of details intentionally vague because GF and her siblings are active on Reddit. Update 1. I am trapped in a marriage I think is one-sided and I need advice. August 20th, 2019. I'm not sure what I will get out of this. I feel like writing it all down and having a stranger over it might give me some mental clarity, but I think at this point there's no way to salvage our marriage. Also, English is not my native language so apologies for any errors which cause misunderstandings. I've been in a relationship with my wife for almost

nine years now, married for two. Our relationship has been, for the most part, a fulfilling and satisfying one for the both of us. It seems like I'm making a self-congratulating post, but we've become better people by virtue of being together. I'm an old-fashioned person, so it was difficult to meet a woman who liked the things I liked and had the opinions I had. The only unsavory part of our relationship over the years has been my relationship with my father-in-law. My wife and I rarely have disagreements, so most of the major fights we've had were because of her father.

I want to be clear here I don't hate him. I respect the guy, he sacrificed a lot in his personal life in order to provide him. for his family and to make sure my wife was raised with love and care. I used to look up to him in the earlier years of the relationships. He and my mother-in-law would host the family twice every week and when I first started dating their daughter, it took me by surprise how close they were as a family. I really liked the family events with these picturesque dinners of mild conflicts and contentment. With how close my wife was with all her siblings and her parents too. Early on in the relationship I I think I freaked out my wife by how much I enjoyed being at her parents' house.

Her mother was a saint of a woman who gave me so much love from the get-go. She would always make sure I was included in family activities and often reserved a seat for me at the family dinner right next to her, talking to me like I was one of her own. I remember one time I was over at their place and had to get back to the city for work. It was getting pretty late when I got up to leave and it had been snowing. She came down from her room when I was leaving, with an overcoat of her husband saying I should take the coat with me just in case. But I know it was because she knew my car got cold those days. It was a Pasker getting to the end of its life, she didn't want me to feel like she thought less of me just because I made less money than my wife.

These little mom things she would do made me love her so much. Anyway, the reason I bring up my mother-in-law is because I think she was the reason her husband was. accepting of me at the time. She died four years ago and it somehow changed him. I think his love meter broke or something. He started acting like I'd somehow slighted him. All the time. Like one-time wife and I were bringing over some groceries and restocking everything and I thought it would be nice to stay for the dinner and cook for him. While he was out for his evening walk, wife and I prepared a nice dinner. At dinner, he thanked my wife for it. She mentioned that I did most of the work for it and he kind of looked at me and just stopped talking.

Another time in September of 2016, we were staying at his place for the weekend because we were cooking the family dinner. Early morning wife and I were sitting on the breakfast counter just starting our day and we thought he was out because he was usually the first one up. I hit my wife on her leg over a stupid pun or something and I guess he saw it because he came over and started yelling at me about not being raised right and being a woman beater. He said a lot of extremely toxic things about me before my younger sister-in-law came into the kitchen and practically dragged him out. My wife repeatedly said that it was a joke but he wouldn't accept the explanation, saying she sticks up for me. Similarly, I remember one time, this was when his wife was alive, I bought him a gift and he straight up refused to accept it in front of the whole family. My wife's mother, brother and his family, including sister-in-law, both sisters, their husbands and the elder sister's kid were there. It was such a humiliating experience for me. I just wanted the man to not

hate me all the time. I think my mother-in-law forced him to accept the gift after a few days and made him apologize to me. After my mother-in-law died, he changed. It was like his filter was gone. He would stay in his room a lot, only come out for his errands and walks. He wouldn't watch the games with me saying I talked too much. He wouldn't let me fix anything at the house despite me practically living there and having done a lot of work in the house in the past. A popular theory among my friends was that he hated me because I was too close to his wife which sounds so absurd.

She was a maternal figure in my life and I can't for the life of me understand why that would piss him off. She was nice to everyone. My wife is nice to everyone too, to the point of it being a fault. My mother-in-law used to say that she had four sons, her son, two husbands of my wife's sisters, and me. So it's not like I was inappropriately close with the woman. I've discussed this with my wife a lot too, but she is always insistent that my relationship with her mother has nothing to do with it. My wife is the youngest daughter, so she treats her. She's a lot. She's always insistent that my wife is the youngest daughter so she treats her father with a lot of love and respect. Early on in our relationship, his behavior wasn't his issue and by the time it became an

issue we were already too serious for me to break it off over this. Everyone else in her family likes me as far as I know. I've been invited over by both of her sisters at multiple times for lunches slash dinners slash favors, etc. Everyone treats me like I'm family. I've talked to the eldest sister about why their father had. hates me, but she's always maintained that he doesn't hate me. She says he loves his youngest daughter a lot and has always been a difficult person to please. And honestly, I can see that it's

true. On an average day, he is most tolerant of me out of all his sons-in-law. But they all live in different cities or states and wife and I live in the same neighborhood. Say he gets to see me more. I'm sure a part of his resentment is because of that too. After my My mother-in-law died, we were all heartbroken. A few days after her funeral when everyone was starting to leave, my wife and I were going through some of the stuff that her mother left her. She started getting choked up about the fact that the house felt like it had died with her. We decided that we were going to take on the mantle of cooking for family dinners like

her mom used to do. It's a pretty big responsibility considering the family is almost never altogether except maybe one holiday a year. Sometimes it would just be my father-in-law, brother-in-law and his family in us. It was actually really nice for a while. Everyone kept visiting once in a while and the routine was nice. I was glad to have more time for family and not being harassed by father-in-law. It felt like he was warming up to me.

At that time, wife and I started talking about marriage and it just felt right. I don't think I was ever more sure about anything than about marrying my wife at that time. There was a brief moment before the engagement where she and I got into a fight but things worked out nicely. We got engaged in May and it just set things in motion. My wife is the youngest child in her family so she got a lot of positive attention from her siblings. They had kept her mother's wedding accessories for her which honestly was such a nice thing to do. And slowly, over the months, it became this big and happy event in our family. Winter of 2016 when we got married, my wife sat me down and asked me if it would be okay to move

and back with her father to take care of him. I think that was the moment where I made the stupidest decision of my life when I said yes. I was blinded by love, not just for my wife but for her family, for her mother who I missed so much, for her father who liked me but never really accepted me, and for her siblings who liked me like I was their own. I just thought about what would be best for everyone else. A month after we moved in, my father-in-law asked his son if he could come stay with them for a while. At the time it felt like a good thing that he was moving past the grief of his wife's death. But I don't think that was why he visited his son. He just wanted to get out of the house because of me. A few weeks later when he got back, his passive aggressive

bullshit started again. But this time it was just constant nagging over small, petty things. I moved the chair, no, I didn't, I broke the thermostat, no, and I changed it for good measure, I forgot to put the tools back. I messed up the library. Things like that, almost if I'm a child who's unwanted in this house. May 2017, we had a huge fight and I gave my wife a choice to either live with me or live with her father. That made her have a fight with her father and she decided she was going to move out because, in her own words, he is never going to accept you as his son. He's delusional in grief.

So we moved out but still lived close by because both our jobs were quite close. Our moving out, however, messed up the whole family dinner tradition as her father refused to come to our place for dinners. And we couldn't afford to host the whole family in our small apartment. It became a logistic nightmare. So her brother stepped up and said he was going to do it. I think their father was really mad at me for ruining the tradition because at every single dinner I had with him he wanted nothing to do with me.

I actually liked it this way because it was nice to not be attacked or defended all the time. But my wife started resenting me for it and I think her younger sister and brother do too. It's been almost two years since we moved out. I don't attend family dinners with much regularity, maybe once a month if I'm being generous. I also got busier at work so I've been spending less time with wife during the weekdays, which I prefer because her resentment towards me is making it a very difficult situation. She goes over to her brother's house every other weekend and the other weekend is spent at her father's place where her brother's family and she get together for dinner.

The only person on my side is my older sister-in-law because she thinks her father has treated me badly. She has visited us twice over the last year and it's the only time I've gotten any affection from my in-laws. It feels like up until two years ago I had a huge family who all loved me and now I'm getting more and more lonely by the month. I can't help but feel that the marriage has changed our lives for the worse. It's been more than two months since my wife and I have been intimate in our bedroom. It's been a lot longer since we've had a date for ourselves. I am at a complete loss as to what I can do to improve things. This post kind of grew when I was writing it.

I had to edit some small details because I don't want my in-laws to find this post on Reddit and be hurt by what I've written. Mini update, I have decided to go ahead and initiate divorce because I do not want to be in this relationship anymore. December 17, 2019 Some folks have messaged me asking for an update so I think, thought I could post it here instead of personal messages. I have been reading a lot of relationship help books and tried to talk to my wife many times. However, the fact is she and I just don't work as a couple anymore. I am no longer a priority in her life and I am not okay with it. So last month I decided to talk to my lawyer and initiate divorce. It's been a really stressful time, especially

from almost all of her family. But at this point, I just want to look after my and recover myself from this relationship. Once again, thank you for people who helped me in my previous posts. Update 2, My Ex-Wife, F-33, and I, M-35, recently reconnected after she went through a bad breakup. Is it bad that I want to get back together with my ex-wife because of how lonely I am? October 26, 2023. There's some context to why we got divorced, but it will take too long to explain here. The summary is that I could not get along with her family and mostly her father. And that made my marriage an unhappy place for me. Her father always hated me, and at one point told me that my ex-wife deserved better than me. If you want to read about my relationship with him

it is in the previous posts. I am not sure if I am allowed to provide links. But after our divorce, I lost a lot of family and friends. I was very involved with it. family on her side, and losing them all at the same time because we got divorced made things difficult for me. I am an immigrant here, so I did not have many friends outside of my ex-wife's family. During the divorce process, the COVID lockdown started and that killed all my relationships with her side of the family. And I was really lonely here for a long time.

I tried to go on dates but the dating culture is so different now than 15 years ago. I could not find a person I wanted to spend more time with, but I think it was in part my fault too. And the one person who showed interest in long-term dating, she was much younger than me. I did not like her friends and her friends were not thrilled with me either. So that relationship kind of died in 2021. Since then I have stopped going on dates even. And I have lost touch with some friends and acquaintances because of COVID. Or maybe because of age and not having a wife.

Like they are all family men now, so making time is a difficult thing. But anyway, I saw my ex-wife a few times in the last two years and we exchanged some quick words about well-being. But nothing substantial. I knew she lost her father due to COVID, and I told her I was sorry for her loss because he loved her very much. She also told me she was dating a younger man and it was going well. However, we never sat down for tea or any anything, it just never happened. But two months ago I got a message from her saying she wanted to meet for lunch. During this lunch she told me her relationship of one year and some months was not going well and she was thinking of breaking up with her boyfriend. She and him did not

agree on kids or not having kids. And she did not see a future with him. We kept in touch through the last two months and 12 days ago she broke up with him. She told me a part of the reason was that after talking to me, she remembered how it was with me when we first started dating and how it was not the same with her boyfriend. She and I have been talking a lot in the last few weeks. Since the Briya Up, the first thing she does after waking up every morning is message me. And then two days ago she called at seven in the morning saying she was at my door with some food. I had been feeling ill, but I don't remember when I told her. However, she came with a lot of home-cooked food and soups which she knows I like.

It felt like we were back in time ten years ago. It's been a very confusing time since then. I am not sure what I feel. I think I am starting to love her again. She pays me so much attention which is nice. She also keeps sending food or bringing it herself. And then last night she spent the night because I was too ill to get up and clean after myself. Nothing happened between us, but at the same time I think she wants to talk

about us dating again maybe. And I will admit, all the attention and food and other gestures of love and care are starting to feel incredible. I am not sure who to talk to about this. I think I need to keep her away for a few days to be able to think clearly. But it has been so long since I have felt this good about myself. And a lot of our relationship problems were from how her father acted with me, so I keep thinking maybe we can try again and this time it will be better. Any advice or anyone wants to talk to help me think here, I would really appreciate it. Update 3, October 29, 2023. As for the update, it is a mixed bag.

On Saturdays she came over to talk about our relationship and what we both wanted, what went wrong, etc. She asked to speak first and I really should have talked first instead. But I let her say her part, and it was focused on her relationship with her whole family. How important her father was to her, how much involved everyone else was in her relationship with me. She said sorry for letting her family, and her father in particular medal in our marriage. One of the things which hurt me a lot was when she mentioned that her ex-boyfriend never wanted to be around her family and hated going to any family events or even to a simple dinner, etc.

She said that's when she realized how much easier I had made things for her in our marriage. It was incredibly hurtful because I remember telling her in so many different ways and at many times, even before the death of her mother, that I was okay with her family's involvement, but she needed to keep some distance between our relationship and her father in particular. She said that one time her father said something nasty directed at her ex-boyfriend and after that time he refused to be in the same room as him. and I told her that he was right in doing that. I reminded her of the time when her father told me, after five years of our relationship,

that he did not want to give me his blessing for asking you to marry. I don't know why but hearing her say that she saw her family's behavior towards her boyfriend and that was what helped her see how toxic they can be was really hurtful. Like my feelings and my protest did not matter to her as much. I told her that and she had tears in her eyes. She said sorry a lot of times about it. She said she was young and inexperienced at first and then after her mother died, she was scared of losing her father and anything I said about him was difficult for her to hear because of that.

I remember one time we were hosting the family dinner and her father said hurtful things about my cooking and I brought it up with her and one of her siblings and she refused to hear me, even when her sister told her she should listen because I was right. Anyway, when we got talking about her father, the conversation kind of got away from me. We ended up talking about him for like two hours. I think she wanted to get a lot of it off her chest too. It was very emotional and exhausting, though, as afterwards I did not have the energy to continue talking. I really wish I had talked first because I wanted to talk to her about our problems in the bedroom as well.

But we had to make food first, she was saying how much she missed. cooking with me and being around each other. I guess that's another thing her ex-boyfriend did not appreciate about her. After making lunch together we just sat eating and talking about the few times we had some time for ourselves when we were married. She mentioned how much she liked going on two road trips we took together after we got married. For context, we used to have a lot more time when we first started dating as we were still studying. But then after getting jobs and having to take care of a house, it slowly diminished. After we finished lunch, I was too tired to continue our conversation. So we just kind of existed around each other for a little bit. We did talk about what we

should not expect if we started dating. I told her I want to talk about our bedroom problems, but maybe not right away. She told me she wanted to say sorry for no listening to me about that too. She was a very selfish lover and she told me it was a difficult thing for her to realize that she had ignored my needs in the marriage. She said if we date again she wants us to see a relationship counselor together and by herself to make our dating life better. I think it is a good idea to talk to someone who can help me explain my side of things to her. I am not confident how helpful the conversation can be if it is just the two of us. She has a tendency to talk over me or to agree with me but not let me say my part. I want to talk to her about it too, but I think it's better if I wait until we have found some

relationship counselor. But still, I think the outcome of the conversation yesterday was good. I want to ask her out on a date tonight, for maybe Tuesday or Wednesday. She went back to her house last night and I missed her presence around me a lot. I don't know if that is a good sign or not. or if it means I am too lonely. When she was here yesterday, she got a call from one of her siblings

and she mentioned me by name. I was not listening in, but I just heard her say my name so my ears picked up on that part. I feel like that should be a good sign too. Or maybe I am just desperate to look for anything positive as take that as a sign. She wanted to come over today,

but I told her I am feeling much better and she doesn't need to cook for me today. Also, I spent the morning today looking through our old pictures together. It was nice to remember the person she used to be. I feel like yesterday I saw a little bit of that person in her. Am I wrong to want to start something so soon? I know I said previously that I would wait, but waiting for the sake of it seems pointless. I do want to take things slow because I want us to find a relationship counselor soon.

But I am afraid I will lose her if I show no. interest. T.L. DR. We talked about our issues which were from her father. We also talked about dating life, about sex, and about relationship counselor. She said she wants to have individual counselor for her problems as well, which I think is the right thing. However, now I want to ask her out on a date properly this week. Maybe on Wednesday. Is that too soon? New Update, February 20th, 2024. Hello, everyone. I have been getting constant messages and comments in the old posts about updates.

But there is not a lot to update about, so I am making a post here instead of a subreddit. Also, since many people complained that my post was really long, even though they didn't need to read it, I will say in brief about the update. We got back together, but we are living separately at the moment. moment. Also, we started couples therapy. I am hopeful about my life and I will try my best to remember to update here at some point in the future. Anyway, here's what I wrote. My ex-wife and I have reconnected over the last few months. About two months ago, she brought up how she wanted to officially give it another go so we had a long talk about it. We talked about the past, in particular

the state of our marriage towards the end, and how much of it was because of my father-in-law, and how much of it was instead because of her and me. She has been going to therapy about her father's death which I did not know about before. She said she hasn't told anyone in the family either, so I am not surprised. But anyway, she talked about her relationship with him quite a lot. It was surprising to hear so much self-reflection from her about it and it honestly meant a lot to me that she decided to open up about it. She has struggled all her life about her father's shadow over her, and she acknowledged that it is a little late for the broken up marriage,

but that she now knows better. She brought up therapy for us as a couple again, and I told her we need to if we are going to start dating again. She asked if we are dating again, and I said I asked the last time so you have to this time, ha-ha. So I guess it's official. However, we talked about keeping separate places for a while just for the convenience of it and for giving each other space.

Things are slower this time around. She hasn't told any of her siblings, and I get the feeling her family is not as close as they used to be when her parents were alive. There are no official family get-together events other than Christmas and Easter. I think it's better for her that her siblings are not constantly around anymore, it gives her more space to find herself in a way. But it's a bittersweet feeling because I loved her parents.

parents' time of getting together as a big family every once in a while. Anyway, we decided to make it official, but I am at a loss about what the relationship is now. I keep calling her my ex-wife here, but she's also my girlfriend. So if there is a word for it, please let me know. It's a new feeling, there is familiarity in this relationship, but it is also very different than from last time. We are not so young and naive. We have found a couple's therapist and already gone to three therapy events. It is really helpful to have the therapist in our conversations. It helps me talk without her talking over or agreeing and then continuing my conversation on her own.

She's getting better at listening to me. She said how she grew up having to always listen to either her father or her older siblings. She is the youngest sibling, I don't remember if I have mentioned that before, so with me she felt like she had to talk the most. It makes sense when she she explains it, but it's like I was the only one around her she could talk to so she got in the habit of not listening as well. But we are working on it. Also, I need to be more stronger in conversations which I'm working on as well. It feels weird to be two adult people and having to learn how to talk all over again. I will admit that I had my doubts about therapists being able to really help, but I am really glad about being wrong. Not everything is good news though, and she had to get a court

order against her ex for abuse. I don't think she's in danger, but she said I should not write details about it here. Also, I am still struggling with loneliness. But I am trying to not fix it by this relationship. I have started talking to more people at work. Also, some of the people here who messaged me have been really amazing. I joined a small gaming group because of a message and I'm really happy about it. There are a lot of good and kind people who wished me well which I am really grateful for. And after a long time in my life, I feel positive about my future at the moment. I should probably message people more often, but coming to this website is always difficult because of how many hateful messages and comments pop up every time I post.

The last time I posted, it got a lot more comments than I am used to. There was a YouTube video about it which I find a little bit disturbing. But the video itself was not as bad as the comments I received both on my posts and also in private messages. Some of the comments were extremely rude to me and my ex-wife. I get that people were trying to look out for me, but you are all only reading a short post on the complex life I have. I'll take a moment to address some of the things which bothered me a lot from these comments. No, my late late father-in-law was not a racist person. He had a complicated life, his family struggled a lot and so he had a very rough childhood and early adult life. He worked hard all his life to make a better home for his

children. None of you know him, and the weirdly hostile comments about him are uncalled for. He's been dead for a while now, please let him rest. He was not a perfect person, but he was a good father despite his flaws. My ex-wife was not cheating on her previous boyfriend. We were talking in messages and nothing happened. Her boyfriend was abusive towards her, and she was scared and she needed a friendly person she knew just to talk about it. I really hope that people who have been constantly messaging me about how she's a terrible person, or worse how we are both terrible people are never put in an abusive situation. She was trying to survive the best way she could.

And despite us both wanting to, we did not do anything while she was actually dating the ex. Everyone keeps questioning why my late father-in-law hated me. I think I might not have written some previous posts very well. English is not my first language so sometimes I can write things which are not as meaningful as I want them. He did not just hate me, he hated everyone outside of his family. My ex-wife has many sisters and he didn't get along with any of their husbands. I was the favorite son-in-law but that might just be because my ex-wife is the youngest child. Also, my late mother-in-law loved me which carried over to my late father-in-law as well.

He was a difficult person to get along with but he did not just hate me. Or at least he did not hate me the most. I don't know why he was like that, but he had a complicated life like I said before. Also, there was another story posted on Reddit which brought a lot of angry and unhelpful comments. Best of Reddit updates took all my posts from over the last eight years. years and made them into a long story. It was not as bad as the YouTube video because some people were just trying to voice their concerns and wanted to advise a stranger to their best. I really appreciate all these comments and messages. However, a lot of comments and even more messages from that time are really hostile towards my ex-wife in particular. I don't want to

address these messages because these people don't need any more fuel for their hate. But please remember that the people you're reading about are real people, not just stories on your posts. And lastly, I don't think I should have to say this since I read the rules on best of Reddit updates and they have rules against commenting on other people's posts. But please do not bring hateful comments here. It does nothing other than cause distress. You are not helping anyone by being awful and rude. A kind word, even if it is something I disagree with goes a lot farther than a distasteful word or worse.