Reddit Stories - Discovered numerous covert COMMUNICATIONS between my SIGNIFICANT other and our common ACQUAINTANCE in

Episode Date: November 15, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #relationships #communication #secrets #trust #betrayalSummary: Discovered numerous covert COMMUNICATIONS between my SIGNIFICANT other and our common ACQUAINTANCE in a shocking betrayal. Unsure how to confront them or move forward. Seeking advice on how to handle this delicate situation.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, relationships, secrets, trust, betrayal, communication, significantother, acquaintance, confrontation, advice, delicate, situation, handle, movingforward, shock, betrayalBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. Discovered numerous covert communications between my significant other and our common acquaintance in which she disparaged me and they schemed to engage in intimate relations solely to inflict pain on me, prompting me to gather all my belongings, and left while she was at work. This is hard. We've been together for nearly eight years. We built a life together. So, there's so much to this but basically I did that thing that everyone in a relationship. relationship should be wary of. I looked through her phone, and I found messages upon messages from a mutual friend who lives out of state now that were concerning. Basically, I was going to

leave right then and there, but I wanted to try to talk to her. So I gave her almost three chances to own up to it. The first time I was really vague and just asked if there was someone else. She flat out denied. I thought I was prepared for her to deny, but turns out I wasn't. Then the other times I got more and more pointed. Finally she admitted that the guy had messaged her and flirted with her, but we knew he was that way and while she didn't tell him to fuck off she wasn't into it. Now I didn't see any messages from her at the beginning that showed she was exactly complicit in it. So while I didn't believe her, I tried to give her a chance.

I know it's stupid but we've been together for so long and we built a life together. But then I dug again. And there it was. all of it. And worse she took the time to insult me to him. That hurts. So fucking much that hurts. I know my faults and I know what I could have worked on in this relationship, but I really tried. Every day I tried. But for her to tell someone else things about me like that, I can't help but feel broken. So, right now I'm waiting for her to wake up and leave for work. Then I'm packing what I can and heading to a friend's place and, I don't know.

I spent eight years on this relationship and I'm going to walk away from it. I wrote a note out on my phone that I'm going to write up for her after she leaves. It says everything I can think to say. I mold over what to say non-stop. Somewhat satisfyingly I'm going to tell her how she did this. To know that and remember that. And that if at any point she thinks we can okay that she fucked her. this and hurt me so much. I'm scared I'm lost and so much so I don't want to have to do this.

But I have to and I know ultimately it's going to get better. But also fuck all of this. Edit 1, she's up now and getting ready for work. She tried to kiss me and apologized about tossing and turning all night and she knew it kept me up. I seem to be getting a lot of pushback on the letter. When she leaves I'm going to pack and I'll mull it over again. But I'll say this, if I decide to write and it ends up being a mistake then, so be it. It felt nice to at least draft it out on my phone. I need things more real so I can convince myself more that I have to leave. Edit 2, she just left for work.

I'm going to shower and truthfully let out a nice cry. Then pack my stuff. Lots of people are saying to straight ghost her and lots are saying a short and to the point note instead of letter. I'm going to contemplate that in the shower. She kept saying I love you and I was reluctant to say it back. She said it three times and I kind of grumbled it out once. I'm certain once she reaches work she'll text me about that. I'm not going to respond to her while she's at work.

She won't be home till probably eight tonight. Edit three, I'm packing up now. Kat seem to know something is up because they won't leave me alone. honestly breaks my heart. I've been mulling the letter over. I reread it a few times. And I've decided on a short note just laying out that I know and I'm leaving. Essentially something like, I left.

I know about you and him. Insert what I read and saw. I'm so utterly disappointed in you. I won't be answering my phone and I wish for you not to contact me. At some point we'll get together to discuss. us logistics. Also, I am reading everyone's comments. If I didn't reply, I'm sorry. To the people that have commented about going through something similar, I am so, so sorry you're going through this as well. I don't know what you'll be able to glean from my situation, but I hope something

here and all of this helps y'all as well. Edit 4, I'm pretty much packed with what I can get out right now. Obviously, there's a lot more. I'm writing the note and then leaving. I'll need to find food after I drop off what I have. This may be the last update since she won't be off till later tonight. But I'll respond to y'all when I can. Gives me something to do. Edit 5, I'm at my friend's place. She's giving me the lay of the land.

People have been talking about taking the cat. Currently that's not an option. Friend has three and a dog. My cats are spoiled and hate anyone that is. her and I. I'm not worried she'd do anything to them. If anything, she's going to want them around if she does get upset. Not that she deserves that, but it is what it is. Thank you everyone for the kind words and the advice. I'll respond to some of you again here soon. Someone asked me about my work. I work in equine care. It's actually really cool. I love my job and I love

being there. So once I start going back in a few days it'll be a really good distraction. In a bit I'm going to get food and maybe walk around downtown and goof off. Also, my friend reminded me she's going out of town next week for a week. So I'll have the place to myself. I don't know if that's a good thing or bad thing. But hey, she'll have someone to watch her animals while she's gone so there's that. I know I have a lot of figuring out to do. But I don't literally just left. Oh, and someone else mentioned they hope I find things to do to make myself happy. I had plans before all of this to go to the usual brewery with some friends tomorrow. Initially I was going to call some of them and tell what's going on and I need space

but thinking about it more it actually sounds like the perfect distraction. Edit 6, got food, bond me and a mite I if anyone was curious, and talked to a couple of friends. So I'm sorry I haven't been replying. It's going to take a while to go through all the messages and comments, but what I've seen so far I want to say for the umpteenth time. Thank you y'all. Edit 7. Okay, this is my last update. Apparently I used a word that alt-right folks like to use, but it was used to describe me so whatever. I'm still trying to go through all the comments, but I saw some people had questions I'll do my best to address. The friend is, well a friend. I don't know what else to say on that. There's nothing there. A guy and a girl can be friends and that's it.

If this is weird for you guys then I'm sorry. I mean I don't know if this is going to be a straight move in. I'm still figuring things out. Some people have said I'm no better than her in eight years and not being married was already a bad sign and et cetera well, I guess so. Like clearly this relationship isn't working out. Look what it lead to. If that's a little, if that's a That's my fault or her fault or her fault or whatever it is the situation I'm in. And on the note of what it'd lead to, a lot of people asked me what exactly was said or done. I realize I kept it vague and I supposed it was because I felt weird typing it out. But I don't mind telling you guys what I can.

As far as I know she hasn't actually cheated E fucked him. They messaged flirtatious things, calling each other hot segy etc. And there's some pictures but no nudes. But the recent thing I found, and I'll touch on the going through the phone thing next, it was messages about wanting to fuck each other. Straight up. That they missed a chance because of me. But, and this for me is the kicker, he apparently wants to make a, this is where that word was used, of me.

And she seemed into it. They wanted to have segs and have me know they did. Which is why I don't think they have yet. On the going through the phone thing, I know it was dumb. I know what I did. I don't advocate. But it is how I found about all of this. I just had suspicions that something was going on with someone.

So it did that for me. Would I tell the next person to go through their partner's phone? I don't know. Probably not. I'd tell them if they find something it'll hurt because this fucking hurts. and if they don't then they breach the trust and privacy of their so for nothing and that in and of itself is a weird situation. I don't know folks.

Does that help anyone? Should I elaborate more? Update 1, so we had our talk last night. I got back and she tried to crack a couple of jokes like things were normal. I started it off and told her that I loved her. And I had for the nearly eight years we were together. but this is something I can't forget or forgive. I told her I knew everything said between them. It disgusted me. That it hurt. Deeply. And that she did that. Now, I told her I didn't believe I'd be

okay because of this for a long time. That's half true. This will of course take plenty of healing but I know I'll be okay. Now for her side, she told me that none of this had to do with me. None of it was my fault. It was all her. Her mistake her fuck up. She had been feeling unhappy just about life for a while. She felt stuck in life and aimless. Then this guy, an ex-friend, came along and gave her attention and it distracted her from

how unhappy she was with how her life was. But then it started to progress to a point she didn't know what to do. None of what she said she meant to him. She said it because she knew he wanted to hear it. That it almost didn't seem real to her. It almost felt like a game. I told her it was real to me. That she still said those things.

But she can't take that back or undo it. She told me she never intended to hurt me. That that's been the hardest thing for her. Because she knew I treated her better than anyone else will. That I'm the only person who had and will put up with her bullshit. She told me I really did treat her better than she deserved. This relationship is officially over, though. I know there's probably more I wish I could have said, but my real takeaway is that I can let go of it.

Move on and start to live a new chapter of my life. I haven't told her this yet, I'm going to Monday, but I have an opportunity on a new place with a co-worker. Their roommate leaves in a few months. So that gives me time to save and get some of my life back in order. I have a lot of work ahead of me, a lot of things to figure out. As plenty of people have pointed out, this will be the first time in a long time that I'll be financially and personally independent. I'll only have me to worry about.

That's something that'll take some work. But I'm going to welcome the challenge and spend as much time as I can trying to be who I am more than ever. I also want to say from the bottom of my heart, sincerely, thank you to everyone that took the time to read and respond in the last post. This has been and will continue to be one of the hardest things I've gone through. But you guys have been so amazingly gracious with your advice. I will always remember this and the kindness of random strangers on this silly little website. Update 2. Hey, sorry I haven't updated in a long time. First things first, I'm sick.

Going to the doctor Monday. Think I have an ulcer in my stomach. Not sure. So I've been dealing with that. But as far as everything else, moving into my new place in about a week. Talk with X on and off. Wouldn't say things are friendly okay, but we're being civil. There's nothing really for us to talk about anymore, so it's been like once a week something random. We had lunch a couple weeks ago and she opened up a lot. She has growing to do, I do too, of course, and she's not doing anything with that guy just

wants to focus on herself and bettering herself. Until this past week being too sick to go out, I've been hanging out with friends and goofing off. Tried to brave a small concert the other day but almost threw up while I was there. I've been meaning to make an update and I'm sorry I haven't folks. Things are all right. I've got things going for me. Been basically focusing on that. Budgeting, making various lists of things I need and things I want to do, I'm getting too paid vacations this year, and just generally figuring out my life. Next story was making secret videos as a surprise gift for my boyfriend before my two-week work trip, but when he came home early, and caught me, he thought I was cheating on him

and stormed out of our apartment. So, a little backstory here. I am an attorney who is doing well enough in her career, has A, that I get to go appear at a flurry of expert and witness depositions for an upcoming trial on my own for the first time. It involves a two-week traveling stint with lots of flights, driving, busy days and exhausting nights. It's the first time I will be away from my boyfriend for longer than a day since we've gotten together, because, you know, job things, I've known this was coming for months and so did boyfriend. We also live together and have done so for a little over a year now.

I'm leaving next Monday. I decided that I wanted to do something a little special for boyfriend, let's call him Logan. While he's been in night class for the last few weeks I took to my laptop slash phone and decided to make some se videos for him. We're both highly sexual people and very affectionate. I wanted to give him some extra spank bank material while I'm working, essentially in communicato, for two weeks. This was also potentially spawned due to the fact that I grew up sexually repressed and

have just recently within the last few months learned how to really orgasm and masturbate. I am proud. I was excited for my authenticity I'm being adventurous I was working on video number five shower head fun I was doing my thing at 545 p.m. with plenty of time before Logan's lab let out at 8.30 p.m.

I didn't hear the front door open but Logan sure heard me making noise. His lab had let out early. I left the bathroom door open to keep it from getting too steamy so he rounded the corner and saw me, naked in front of the webcam rocking the detachable shower head. Naturally, he freaked out and cried out, what are you doing? I dropped the shower head and slammed the laptop shut in fright, which I assume made it look even more sketchy. He stormed out of the bathroom and down the hall, picked up his bag ready to leave when I slid down the hallway

in his tracks without even grabbing a towel. I told him to let me explain it is no way as bad as it looks. I wasn't camming with anyone I was making videos for him. Logan shouted at me that it was the stupidest excuse he had ever heard. This response was just, out of character for him. He's such a nice, calm, loving man. We have had a perfect two years together and have never fought. Neither of us have raised our voices and any disagreement we have had has been resolved swiftly with actual adult discussion. He stormed out of our apartment and I have yet to hear from him. I've tried calling and texting him, leaving him crying and pleading voicemails to try to tell him what I was really doing but he hasn't budged. I'm just sitting here at home

terrified and I have no idea what to say or do at this point. Reddit, what in the hell do I do to fix this? Comment where op has replied, drunker clunker, yikes. This is a tough one, I'm not sure there's any way to prove to him that you weren't being shady. On one hand it would be nice if he trusted you enough to not jump to the worst conclusion, but I can see how catching you getting freaky in front of the laptop wouldn't look great. So, shit, I don't know. Maybe offer to let him go through your phone slash internet history and such, but even then he'll probably think, well, she just already deleted everything. Here's a question. Did you do anything in the videos that might indicate it was for him? Like saying his name for instance. Oop, I can totally see why

in on it and catching a snapshot of the situation can look really, really bad. He's never shown any indication of jealousy or distrust before. We're both very mellow and chill with each other. I truly don't blame him for his initial in the moment reaction. I'm going to go through the videos now to see if I've done anything like what you suggested, that's a great idea. I've been doing this for a couple of weeks now and I don't remember off of the top of my head. I also just texted him, Hey, Logan. I know I've been flooding you with messages, but I am really distraught about this and I don't want to lose you over this. This is the last message I'll send. I want you to be able to cool off and not feel pressured by me. Please believe me when I say

that the videos, yes, videos, are for you. I've been secretly recording them for a few weeks now for you to have while I'm out of town for work. My Facebook info is, X, my email password is, X, my ATT info is X, for him to check my phone records, and you are more than welcome to come get my laptop and view the history. I know this is ridiculous, but I am willing to do whatever it takes for you to believe me. Update, it's been over 24 hours since this whole cluster fuck began and I haven't really been able to reply all day. I'm blown away by the response from my original thread, I never expected over 200 comments with a variety of different perspectives. I started replying to more comments this evening but I figure it would be easier

to just update everyone at once. Some FAQs, did you say his name in any of the videos? Did you have any introduction or are you just awkwardly jumping into it? No, no firm name usage. I did have intros that use generic pet names, baby, see, and the like. Nothing that specifically cements the fact that it was made for him. However, I did find something that stood out in one of my videos, more on that in a bit. How would he know you were on your webcam? I'm not sure how long he was standing there. I might not have seen him right away.

I have a MacBook Pro that has a built-in camera so there's nothing attached to the top or plugged in. I can't say for certain but I presume he saw the screen. My bathroom setup is weird where there are two. entry doors. Why did you slam the laptop closed? My initial thought was, oh my God, I'll ruin the surprise. It was a gut reaction. It was stupid. I should have paused and reacted better. Are you being a sneaky lawyer and laying the bait expecting Logan to discover this thread? As far as I know, Logan doesn't actively use Reddit. He never mentions it, I never say, hey, check out this thing on Reddit.

And he never does the same. I've never seen a flash of anything resembling Reddit if I happen to see a screen. So maybe he does use it, maybe he doesn't. I plan on deleting these posts fairly quickly because it's humiliating. Has Logan ever been cheated on? I can't say for certain. He's discussed his exes in the past and the reasons for their breakup never specifically included cheated. He never said he has, but he never has said he hasn't.

I'll follow up with this. Anyhow, here's how the last 24 hours have been. I went to bed last night tossing around the possibility of calling in sick the following day to throw myself a pity party. However, I ended up going to work today but progressively felt worse throughout the morning as I did not receive any contact from Logan. However, as I mentioned in my previous post comment section, I texted Logan last night with what I perceived to be a very thoughtful explanation with log in information to my social media, email, etc. I expected to be pinged right away that someone logged into my Facebook and email, but the pinged text slash email never came. By about 11.45 I was feeling so awful that I was preparing to pack up and go home for the day. I received a call from the receptionist saying that I had to sign for a delivery from Jimmy

Johns right before noon. I was confused because I definitely didn't order any lunch. I asked her if she was sure it was for me and not other attorney with the same first name as me. She confirmed that it was me and I came down to get my food. Sure enough, Jimmy Johns for me. I tentatively tossed around the idea of texting Logan and saying, thank you for the lunch but debated on whether or or not sending him another text was a wise idea. I went back upstairs and by the time I got back to my desk, I already had a text myself from Logan. Hey, I'm sorry for my reaction last night. I should have heard you out instead of storming out like that. We've been together for

two years and you've never given me a reason to distrust you. I honestly think the videos are a little weird I'm not sure why it just doesn't sit right with me although I appreciate the thought. I always love how you try to surprise me and show you care, but this is kind of a big thing and I wish you would have talked to me about it. I want to hear your side of the story specifically now that I've had time to think and process. I shouldn't have taken the time to think in the way that I did, but I know you're smart enough to know how this looks from my perspective. I'm really freaked out about the possibilities and just need some reassurance, I guess. I'll be home at 9 o'clock tonight and I don't want to talk about it right away, I just want to be with you.

Can we talk about this tomorrow? Without regurgitating the entire conversation, innocuous fluff not relevant to the issue, just exchanging niceties, saying I love you, etc. I ended the conversation by thanking him for the lunch surprise, it was very sweet, and told him I would never do anything to hurt him and I look forward to working through this with him. This evening I went through the two videos I didn't watch last night. I tried going through them last night, but, A, they're awkward as. fuck in retrospect so it was painful to watch knowing what I know now and B, I just wanted

to go to bed. The second video I ever made did have something distinct to Logan. I was wearing a pair of lingerie he bought me and said something like you still like these right. Remember when you bought them for my birthday last year? So when we talk tomorrow I'll at least be able to show him that. I don't believe it's airtight by any means, but it's the second video, meaning it's old, showing I've been doing this for a few weeks, and I think, well, surely it can't make it worse.

So that's where I'm at. I'm CST, so it's about 8-30-ish now so Logan will be home soon. I just wanted to update those that were following along, and it helped organize my thoughts too. Thank you to everyone who commented and provided me with perspective, advice, and occasionally laughed at my jokes. Here's to hoping I have something positive to share later.