Reddit Stories - Father began REQUESTING PAYMENT from me at 18, and later EVICTED me citing...

Episode Date: December 11, 2025

Summary: A young adult recounts their experience of being requested to pay rent by their father at 18. The situation escalates, leading to eviction when the adult could not meet the financial demands. The story highlights the complexities of familial relationships and financial expectations in adulthood.

I hope you enjoy this story. Father began requesting payment from me at 18, and later evicted me citing the necessity of my room for the infant, so my grandfather discovered and compelled my father to compensate. Back all my rent money while charging him for the apartment he put me in. I'm using a throwaway because if any of my friends or family see this, I don't want them to know my main account, since I have some very private things on there. I, F-21, lost my mom when I was 14. Dad remarried when I was 17.

My stepmom has a daughter, F-15, she and dad had a boy M3, and now she just gave birth to a little girl. Anyway, I have worked since I was 16 to have so money to buy stuff for me. When I turned 18, Dad said I was now an adult and should start paying rent. It was only $500. A symbolic amount since he would still cover food and other essentials. I was mad and we fought, but in the end I accepted and that was the arrangement until seven months ago. Dad came to me saying I had two months to move out, stepmom was pregnant and they would

need my room for the baby. Which is insane because they both have private offices. My stepmom doesn't even need one since she's a son since the birth of my baby brother. Nonetheless they told me I had to move. By the way, just an addendum. Me and stepmom get well fine. We don't fight or bicker. I don't think this was an evil stepmom moment, but who knows?

Me and step-sister are actually pretty close, I help her with homework, and talk about her personal problems. I do love her very much. Back to the story, I didn't know what to do. I'm going to a college, I want to be a civil engineer, and work part-time. I don't have the means to live by myself. I called my aunt, asking if I could move in with her for the time being, until I figured something out, offered to pay rent and all.

She was aghast at what Dad was doing. She said I absolutely could live with her, no rent needed, but also said she was going to deal with my dad. The next day Grandpa came to our house, and they talked privately. I could hear my dad angry voice, but couldn't understand anything being said. After a while Grandpa came to my room and said I had three choices. The first was continue living with Dad and Stepmom like I was doing, nothing would change except without paying rent.

The second was moving in with him and Grandma or my aunt. Third was find a place of my own and he would pay the rent and costs for me. He said I didn't need to choose now, I could keep living with Dad and if I changed my mind to just tell him. I was actually relived I could still live with Dad and that this madness was over. But the following days and weeks, Dad and Stepmom were very hostile. towards me, and I felt incredibly uncomfortable being in my own home. Even Cassie picked this up and asked me why they were angry at me. So I decided to move out and told Grandpa. He said he

would take care of everything. Few weeks later he moved me in into ones of his rental units. The apartment is lovely. He bought me a fridge, stove, and other essential items. He gave me a check for 15,000 saying this money is to help me start living on my own. And that as long as I'm I am working or studying, I can live there rent-free, for as long as I want. My dad and I have been pretty low contact since I moved out. He never came to visit me or I visit them. I miss them a lot, especially my step-sister, but I'm still hurt. Two weeks ago, my stepmom gave birth, I visited them in the hospital. It was a little awkward, but nice seeing them and my baby sister. Anyway, few days ago dad calls me, saying he misses me, the children misses me, and I should

move back home. He apologized for asking me to move out, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, and I told him I would think about it. Yesterday I visited my aunt and was telling her what my dad said, and my cousin laughed a little and said, I'm sure he does. I asked what he meant, and that's when they told me a lot of, until now, unknown information. Basically, my dad's home is actually my grandpas, as is my aunts. Basically the deal he made with me, he did with all his kids and some grandkids as well. He never wanted any of his family to have to worry about basic stuff like house and food, etc. when I called my aunt that time. She called Grandpa, which was furious with dad, not only for kicking me out, but also for charging me rent. That day,

He went to my dad's and tore him a new one, and threatened to have him evicted. But now the petty part, you know that 15K Grandpa gave me? It's actually what I paid Dad and rent all that time. And now he's making Dad pay him back. Also, he's charging Dad $1,200 for the rent loss and apartment I'm living in. Call me dumb or naive, but until now, I never realized my dad didn't make that much money. We lived in a great house, always went on vacations, and lived very comfortable lives, but I guess Grandpa has always been helping behind the scenes. Now my cousin thinks Dad is struggling, with three kids at home, a single income, and having to pay it back to Grandpa. So he says Dad wants me back, because he imagines Grandpa will stop

punishing him if I'm back living with them. Honestly, I don't know what to do. I'm actually loving living on my own these past six months. But I do really miss them, I miss my siblings. I miss the life we had before all of this, but I don't know if moving back home is the right answer, and also I'm hurt the reason he wants me back is money. Honestly, I just wanted to vent. Update 1, I wanted to give you guys an update, since you've all been so helpful and kind to me. I was so overwhelmed by the support you gave me. Thanks one thing. thousand times. Before, just answering some questions people had. My aunt and grandpa are from my father's side of the family. My mom's side, unfortunately, I don't have much contact. My grandparents

have passed away before mom. I have uncles and aunts. I see once in a while, but they don't live close. I also have two other uncles from my father's side. I'm close to them, but not as near my aunt. She was my rock when mom died. I consider her a second mom. My stepmom knew about the rent I was paying. It was implied step-sister would need to do the same when she turned 18. But I don't know if she knew Dad didn't own the house, or the extent of how much Grandpa has financially helped Dad. To the update, Monday, the day after my post, I called Dad and said I decided to not move back. I didn't mention anything I was told, just that was well settled here, and moving back seemed like a step back. But I also said I wanted to

keep in contact with them. They could invite me for dinner whenever they wanted, and I also said I would love for my step-sister and brother to be able to spend time with me here at home. He was disappointed, and I didn't feel any angreness in his tone at least. But he basically said, oh, we'll see and left at that. I was also disappointed. But then Friday he called me, asked me if I wanted to have launch Sunday, today, I said I already had plans with grandpa and grandma, he asked when I would be free. So we schedule a dinner for Thursday. I haven't told any of this to my step-sister, we talk and text regularly. She also haven't heard they talking about me. But she did say her grandma, her mom's mom, is there to help with the baby and is being

incredibly annoying. I laughed at that. I wanted to offer her to sleep over here, but didn't want to get her excited just for dad to say no, so I'll try talk with him Thursday. The big update is I've just came back from visiting Grandpa and Grandma. We spent a lovely day together. But I also said I wanted to know everything that was going on. I wasn't a kid anymore and I felt like living in lies. The most important things were things my cousin and aunt told me last week, but there were a few more. Grandpa had been subsidizing quite often our basic needs like school, health care, etc. Because Dad haven't once since saved up according to Grandpa. Also, also, my college fund was mainly contributed by him and mom before her passing. I guess that

makes sense. I was also dumb to not realize this sooner. He also have set up funds for my baby siblings, and also one for my step-sister, because he didn't want her to feel excluded and not have the same opportunities as her siblings. This man is incredible. I love him so, so much. And yes, I'm very, very luck. I've seen so many people comment this, not in a derogatory way, but being very supportive and nice. I know I'm very privileged to have grandparents and family members who can afford and are willing to help me. I hope one day I can help others the way they are helping me anyways. I also expressed worries about dad financial situation. And he assured me dad is fine, more than fine. He will have to be less

frivolous with money for a while, but that he would never let any of his kids or grandkids to suffer or be in the need for anything. As many of you said he's trying to teach Dad a lesson I should have taught him a long time ago. So I'll stay out of it. I don't think I'll tell Dad that I know all of this. I know many of you said to confront him, but I think it's for the best if he continuous thinking I'm oblivious.

Lastly, we talked about why Dad kicked me out. He didn't have an answer either. I could see he and Grandma were very hurt by what Dad did. He said he asked for an explanation but got none. That's it for now. I'll continue trying have a relationship with my siblings outside of my dad and stepmom. I also try to schedule some weekly dinner with them. I know what you guys said about my father is mostly true. But I need to at least try have a relationship with him, if not for him, for my siblings, and for me. But don't worry, I won't let him hurt me anymore.

Update 2. There isn't much of an update, but some people message me asking about how was the dinner. So last Thursday I went there after work. Gosh, I missed my siblings so much, and I spend majority of the time with them. My baby brother is not a baby anymore, he have grown so much. My baby sister is so cute. I could eat her alive. I never want to be apart from them anymore, doesn't matter what happens. Cassie, I said her name once in my original post by mistake, she's my step-sister, is the only one

I maintained regular contact through calls and text, she's just an amazing person as well. She knows I didn't move out in the best of circumstances, but doesn't know the details, or anything about the money. I asked if she wanted to have a sleepover at my house sometime, and she was thrilled. If I hadn't stopped her, she would have started packing at that second. My stepmom's mom was still there to help with the baby. And guess where she's staying? in my old bedroom they transformed it into a guest room and the baby room was stepmom's old office because it's closer to the master honestly that hurt a little i've only met my stepmom parents a few times they were always nice to me this time she kept looking at me weird all the time

didn't matter where i was or where i moved she was keeping track of me like she was expecting me to try and steal something when i was holding the baby didn't leave my side Anyway, apart from that dinner went as well as you can imagine. A little awkward, but I was glad I could see my siblings and spend a few hours playing with them. At the end I mentioned Cassie having a sleepover in the weekend. Her grandmother started saying that absolutely not, Cassie would not go. But to my surprise stepmom stopped her.

She said if Cassie wanted I could pick her up Saturday after soccer practice. For dinner that was that. When I was leaving stepmom gave me a really tie hug, so many people were saying how she's just an evil stepmom that I kind of started to believe. But as I said in my first post, we always had a good relationship. I left very confused and emotional. Saturday afternoon I picked Cassie, we watched inside out too, then we ate shawarma for the first time, which is basically a meat burrito. I don't see the difference, it was so good to spend the day with her. I'm so glad to have her in my life. Sunday I dropped her off and went inside to see my other siblings. Dad wasn't there,

he was out meeting a work friend, some people asked what my dad does, he's a lawyer and stepmom used to work for an advertisement company, but is now S.O.m. We have another dinner schedule for Friday. I don't know if I'll ever find out exactly why they wanted me to move, or why charge me rent. I don't want to touch the subject now, because I don't want to jeopardize my relationship with my siblings. So I don't know if I'll have any more updates since things are settling down and is now just life. But if I find out in the future I'll update. You guys have been incredible. Thanks so much for all the words of kindness and support you gave me. Talking it out and then reading your replies have helped immensely. I also took people's suggestions and do therapy, and this Friday

will as be my first session. Update three, so things blew up a little, and I don't even know where to start. I still haven't processed everything I'd been told. Since my last update, things have been normal, from my side. I had another dinner with my parents the Friday before last, stepmom's mom, who I'll call Eby, meaning evil bitch, spoilers, was still giving me the dirty eye, but I ignored her. I had scheduled dinner with them for last Friday, and I was talking to them about taking my little brother to the park yesterday, but Wednesday my dad called me asking if I could instead postponed dinner, and instead go to grandpas on Saturday because he needed to talk with the whole family. Meanwhile I had been talking to Cassie and she's been telling me stepmom,

I'll call her Stey, and Eby have been fighting a lot. Well, last Sunday Shte's father shows up, I'll call him Leby, meaning lying bastard, there's a big fight and Leby and Eby go back home on Monday. So yesterday afternoon I go to Grandpas, my aunt was there as well, then Dad and Shte arrived with Cassie. Dad was clearly embarrassed. He apologized to me, to my grandparents. Stey apologized to me as well. And Dad gave an explanation, apology, reason for everything that happened in the last few years. Some things I already knew, but Cassie didn't, she was present for the whole thing. So I'll try to tell everything here, I don't know how coherent I'll be, but I hope you can follow me, years and years ago, Grandpa and a friend started a company.

The company was very successful. When Dad was 25, Grandpa sold the company and made a lot of money. So he decided to gift each child a home. He gave his kids $350K each, with the promise they would use to buy homes or pay out the mortgages. Grandpa had seen people lose their homes and didn't want that to happen to his kids. Dad didn't buy a home however. He actually moved to New York, to start his own practice and become a big, and successful lawyer. And as you can imagine, things didn't turn out so well for him. Half a decade

later, he has no money left, can't pay rent, so he reaches out to Grandpa and moves back home. Grandpa helps him find a job with a buddy of his. After a while, Dad starts to put his life back together, rents a home and move out from Grandpas, meets my mom and starts dating her. They fall in love, after a while he asked to marry her. Before they married, Grandpa came to them and said he would gift them a home. He had already talked with his other kids, and they were fine with it, but because he didn't trust Dad, and the home is so Dad's future kids would always have a roof over their heads, the home would stay in his name, and in his will, they would go directly to Dad's kids. So I was actually mistaken before, my uncles and

aunt don't live in homes owned by grandpa, only my dad does. And I think two cousins of mine as well. Next thing I was born. Life is good for a while. Then mom passes away. Dad struggles with taking care of me alone. That's when grandpa starts to help financially. Few more years, Dad meets but Dad is embarrassed about not owning the house and that grandpa is helping him. So he never tell Stey any of this. For her dad was just a moderately successful lawyer. They marry, she becomes pregnant, she asks if she could become a full-time song, and Dad is embarrassed to say no. So he tells her it's fine. In the meanwhile, now with three kids, plus a psalm wife, Dad is struggling even more, Grandpa is helping more, and Dad's savings are being diminished

day by day. Dad admits that he kind of threw Stey under the bus to Grandpa. Blaming her for his financial problems to Grandpa. So Grandpa would continue helping for the sake of the kids. Now I need to go back a little and talk about Laby and Eby. Just as Stey, they think Dad is a rich successful lawyer. And they start saying to Dad how he's spoiling me, how I'm going to be irresponsible with money, how I have an easy life. That when Laby was my age, he had to pay rent to his dad, and he did the same with his son, Scha's brother, and how successful they became, never needing anything from anybody, bootstraps, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.

And apparently that got into Dad's head. He became afraid I would be dependent on him, or more likely Grandpa, and his money, instead of being successful on my own. He became afraid I would be a failure like him, that still needs his dad to bail him out. So he started getting parenting advice from his in-laws. why not ask his own dad, who's much, much more successful and raised three-quarters of his kids to be successful as well? I asked. And apparently, it's because he felt embarrassed, that comes

up again and again and again to explain dad's action. Embarrassment. He didn't want grandpa to think even less of him. Therefore the rent idea which was a suggestion from Laby. Dad says his initial plan was to save the money and give it to me later. But with a new kid, stay not working, and trying to project to stay and his in-laws how things were fine, saving the money became impossible according to him. By the way, he also lied to me here at the time, saying it's a normal thing to do, that grandpa had done it to him and his kids. Which is a lie I discovered eight months ago, but with everything else that happened that seems small at the time. There's a detail that I didn't disclose in my previous posts because it didn't matter,

or so I thought. And that is I'm part of the LGBTIQI. a plus community. I don't hide this fact. In fact, I was already out to my mom before her passing. But it's not something I advertise either. That'll become relevant later. Anyways, continuing. Layby becomes Dad's confidant, and he starts to open himself to him about his money troubles, and Laby start to say things like, um, should move out, and things like that to Dad, which is rejected initially. Then Stey becomes pregnant again. And Dad, panic. That's when Laby and Eby come to Dad and say they would help him, not only financially, but Eby would move in with him and stay after the baby to help out, and even convinced Stey

to go back to work, since Eby would be there taking care of the kids. But for that I needed to move out. Their reason is because the home wouldn't be able to accommodate Eby, and that it was time I left the nest, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. So they convinced Dad I needed to move out. Dad didn't tell Stey any of this, keep in mind, only that he thought it was the best for me, and the baby coming was just a great opportunity. According to them, Shte was against this, but Dad pulled to my daughter, I know best card, so she deferred to him. They tell me I need to move out, I talked about this from my point of view. That day Grandpa goes to my dad's home and they have a huge fight. Not only Dad and Grandpa, but Dad and Stey. Because it was

then she discovered Dad didn't own the house, Dad had almost no savings, and Dad was dependent on Grandpa. Dad's deal with her parents was still a secret. At this point I asked stay, why then she acted so hostile towards me after that day, so much that made me unwelcome and wanting to move out. And she looked shocked. She apologized to me and started to cry, saying that she was never mad at me, but at Dad, that she had no idea she was to blame for me moving out. I was crying as well, I said it's not her fault, and guys. I know many of you have said bad things about her, and I don't blame you. But I do believe her. The look on her face when I said I felt unwelcome and that's why I moved out, it's not something you can

fake. Now I'm thinking she's as much of a victim of my dad's actions as me. And all this time she was just trying to give me space. So going back to events, I move out, Grandpa not only cuts dad from all financial support, but starts to charge him money for the house. The only thing he continued paying for is Cassie's education. Now everything is in the open, and Dad and and Stey have to cut everything. Dinners, expensive foods, sell her car, etc. Laby and Ebby give them some money as well to help out. Poor Shte is stressed out, pregnant, with a lying husband. I'm actually sad for her and what she went through. I was looking at grandpa, and I could see he was as well. I don't think he realized the amount of stress he was

placing on her. I don't know how he will proceed from now on regarding dad and the house. Before the baby is born, Ebby moves in with Dad and Stey, Stey gives birth, things are normal. But with the new baby, Dad feels even more guilty over what happened, and that when he calls me. Again this part one already told you. Jumping to when I went to dinner the first time. Dad and Shte also recognize Eby acting strange towards me. After I left, they talked, nothing came from it. But Shte kept talking to Dad about her mom. And Dad started to tell her his conversations with Eby and Laby, about money and raising kids, etc.

After my second dinner, Shte confronted her mom, and they had a huge fight. And apparently that's when she said something in the lines of, I can't believe you're letting that, slur, back into your home. after getting rid of her and that's when the coin dropped for Dad, and he realized how much of a fool he has been. They kicked Ebby out, Laby came to pick her up and they had another fight. Dad actually wanted to act as nothing had happened. Continue with me visiting and rebuilding the relationship. But Stey put her foot down and said he needed to come clean, about everything, not only to me but Cassie, and everyone as well. And so we came to the present. I was crying, Stey was crying, Cassie was crying, Dad was crying, aunt was crying,

Grandpa was crying, Grandma who hadn't said a single word was holding me tight. According to Dad, that's all. No more lies, no more deception. Dad and Shte left after that. I slept at Grandpas because I was in no state to drive. Came home this morning, took a fucking long shower. Cried a lot. And now I'm typing this out to see if it helps me make sense.

sense of all of this. Make sense of my thoughts and feelings. I guess that's the end of the story. I don't know what I'm going to do now. I feel sad, angry, sorry for Stey and Cassie. I feel everything and nothing. I'll be calling my therapist tomorrow to see if we can book more sessions. I've been going every Friday, but I can't wait a whole week. On the bright side, whoever had bet evil step-grandmother, one. Update four, Hi Every I was recently thinking of this post and decided to give an update. First, I'm in a much better place emotionally, as last year I was a complete wreck. I'm doing very well for the most part.

For those who don't remember or do not want to read my previous posts, the summary is, my father forced me to move out, grandpa was mad at him and cut off his financial assistance that no one knew about, including my stepmom. Stepmom parents manipulated my father into kicking me out, because I'm trans, in exchange, for their financial support. Now, after everything hit the fan that day, life went back to normal more or less. We started family therapy for a while. It started promising, with dad being willing and open. But after a while he regressed and became less willing to put on the work until he stopped going. Me, Cassie, stepmom continue going for a while, but stopped as well.

I continue with individual therapy, and my psychiatrist wants to make an evaluation for ADHD, but wants to wait until I'm fully emotionally and physiologically stable. Stepmom and Cassie continue individual therapy as well. As I imagine most could guess, stepmom and dad ended up separating after a few months. At first it was temporary, but now there's no going back. Divorce is not finalized yet, however. stepmom stayed on the house as grandpa would not accept anything else. I started going there to help stepmom with the baby and my little brother more and more, until I was spending almost all time there,

so me and stepmom decided I would move back. I thought grandpa would be disappointed, as he was very proud of how well I was doing on my own, but he looked happy when I told him. But he said he'll keep that unit a little longer out of the market if I ever need it. I continue going to uni, but took only a half load of classes this last year. But now I'm back to a full schedule. Fluid mechanics is a pain. Home life has actually been pretty good. Me and stepmom became really, really close this last year. She went back to work while I left mine to help with the kids. And I truly prefer this as taking care of my siblings is much more enjoyable, but also grandpa insisted on paying me to babysit. But next year I'll start interning on a construction company from my grandpa's friend.

I know many people insisted my stepmom knew everything, or was somewhat complacent with dad's actions. But I truly, truly believe and trust her. She's being almost no contact with her parents, and they are forbidden to visit. Cassie also stepped in and is helping a lot around the house, and Grandpa also insists on paying her for her time. We know this is his way of helping us without making it sound too much like charity. My baby sister is a little devil, running all over the house. The little Lucifer, or Lucy as I call her, that's not her name, but I do actually call her Lucy sometimes. Didn't even learn to crawl properly, she went directly to walking. We need to keep constant vigilance because it seems her head has a magnetic pull towards sharp corners.

My little brother was the one hit the hardest by dad moving out. I know these posts have painted a terrible picture of my father, and I'm not excusing anything he did, but he was a good dad otherwise, and my little brother was very attached to him. Me and my father barely speak nowadays. He acts like we should all forget everything and move on, which I, still, cannot do. There's no formal custody agreement between him and stepmom, but he picks my brother twice or twice a to spend the day or weekends. And now that my sister is older her sometimes too. Overall, I'm in a much, much better place than I was last year. I have an incredible family,

amazing grandparents, loving siblings, and my stepmom has become a really close friend. I even got a girlfriend. I also know I'm extremely privileged to have a supportive family and system. In no moment in all of this, have I ever had to worry about having a roof over my head or food on the table, which unfortunately is not everyone's experiences in similar situations, as I've been told, sometimes harshly, over private messages. Lastly, I'd like to thank everyone who read or commented something. The support on my first post was the push I needed to stop being naive and ignore things. Posting here was a great way to help me to figure it out my thoughts and feelings.

But I probably won't do any more updates, as I consider this chapter of my life closed now.