Reddit Stories - Former spouse REQUESTED INCREASED spousal support following my job ADVANCEMENT, arguing that she

Episode Date: February 17, 2026

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #spousalsupport #jobadvancement #financialsupport #divorce #relationshipadvice  Summary: A former spouse has requested an increase in spousal support after the individual's recent job advancement. The argument centers on the belief that the new income level warrants a reassessment of financial obligations, raising questions about fairness and the dynamics of post-divorce financial arrangements.  Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, spousalsupport, jobadvancement, divorce, financialobligations, relationshipadvice, legaladvice, exspouse, incomeincrease, supportmodification, familylaw, personalfinance, negotiation, lifechanges, emotionalimpact, fairnessBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6816713/support.This episode includes AI-generated content.

Episode with two stories, first part. I hope you enjoy this story. Former spouse requested increased spousal support following my job advancement, arguing that she gave up her professional opportunities for our union. I found out that she was unfaithful throughout our relationship, and even had a concealed child. Hence, prior to I begin, let me just tell you guys a little about my marriage with my ex-wife, Julia, 30F. I, 30M, met her when I was in college and it was pretty much love at first sight for me. But it took her a while to agree to go out with me. Once she did, we never broke up and we ended up getting married.

We'd been together for almost seven years until she decided that she wanted to divorce and could no longer stay married to me. I didn't want to give up on us and I promised her that whatever it was that was bothering her, we could work on it together. I even suggested couples counseling to her, even though I didn't think there was anything wrong with our marriage. But she didn't agree to it and said that she was just done and she wanted out. She told me that she was bored, the spark was gone, and that she just didn't feel anything for me anymore, which was a punch in the gut for me. Because I still had feelings for her when she

decided to get divorced, but I wanted her to be happy, so I didn't contest the divorce. She wasn't working at the time and I was, so she got alimony as well. But she demanded a ridiculously high amount and since I was still hoping that maybe she would come back to me, I let her get away with it as well. I do regret that decision now but back then, I was in over my head and so I agreed to whatever terms that she and her lawyer set forth, just so she would be happy. I was pretty much a simp for her. That was almost two years ago and things have changed considerably since then. I started hitting the bottles in the aftermath of my divorce because I was just straight up depressed and I couldn't imagine a life without Julia. It took me a lot of therapy and strength to bring myself out of depression and resume normal life.

She didn't even check up on me after she left, which was eye-opening for me because I always felt like she loved me too, even though she was really out of my league when we first got together. But after the divorce, I realized that I had always loved her more and that's probably one of the major reasons why our marriage had. come undone. But I started losing feelings for her slowly after the divorce and after a point, I stopped feeling anything for her at all. That was a major turning point for me romantically since it allowed me to stand up for myself. I tried to contact her and discuss the alimony arrangement with her in person so that we could modify it and go a little lower than the amount that she had decided upon. But she wouldn't agree to it and told me that she had never worked after graduation because she was too busy being a stay-at-home wife for me.

She said that she deserved this and I couldn't argue with that because she always had been a great housewife, so I didn't push much harder. I wasn't happy with the arrangement but I had to deal with it and after that, we didn't keep in touch. It was only the monthly alimony payments and when that was done, we didn't speak for the rest of the month. Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago, she somehow found out that I had received a huge promotion and a raise at work. I guess some idiot from our friend's circle had blabbed and that's how the news got to her. After she learned that, she decided that she was going to demand a higher amount and filed a petition to increase the amount without even consulting with me first. I was taken by surprise so I decided to reach out to her informally before the legal proceedings

began and asked her if the amount that she had been receiving for so long was not enough and now she had to come after me for even more and rob me blind. To that, she told me that she wasn't willing to speak to me without a lawyer and that was the end of our conversation. It was just infuriating to think that I worked so hard day and night but for some reason, she felt that she was entitled to so much of my money only because she'd been a good wife to me for a couple of years. And towards the end, she didn't even do that because she just left me without a proper explanation or even a real goodbye and I never received any closure for our breakup. So I was really annoyed that she was coming after me with her lawyer since I felt

like I was going to lose to her this time as well. At least the first time around, it was my choice to go easy on her, but after the first mediation session itself, I could tell that her shark of a lawyer was not going to leave any stone unturned to back me into a corner and eventually I would just have to give in to their demands. I was getting frustrated but then something crazy happened and it felt like the universe really had my back this time. I met with a couple of my old school friends recently for dinner and drinks and I couldn't help but talk about how Julia was totally screwing me over and how frustrated I felt about all of it. The restaurant that we were hanging out it was pretty fancy and it was quite a distance

away from where I lived, so I didn't expect to run into anybody that I knew there so I was named dropping Julia left and right without being concerned about anybody over hearing my conversation. And I guess after a while I got kind of drunk, and when I get drunk, get really loud too. So I started cursing her out along with my friends and we were all having a great laugh about it, which in hindsight, is pretty embarrassing. But it wasn't at that moment. Anyway, while we were laughing, a guy who I didn't know approached our table and he looked pretty upset. He then asked me if I was talking about Julia and then he used her real, full

name. I was intoxicated so I didn't think it through and I told him that I actually was talking about that very person and that if he knew her then I was really sorry for him. And then I referred to her as a gold digger who didn't even have the decent to tell me when she lost feelings for me and just left without an explanation after seven years of being together as if I meant nothing to her. It's all very embarrassing to put it out here but for the sake of the backstory, I have to mention these things. Anyhow, apparently, that's how Julia's current boyfriend found out that she'd been divorced before because the guy who I met at the restaurant the other day happened to be her boyfriend's brother. This explains why he was so

upset and walked away abruptly after I showed him a photo of us in my wallet to prove that I still hadn't moved on entirely, even though she had been nothing but horrible to me. She called me a day after that and yelled at me for about half an hour. She told me now that because of my stupid behavior, while I was drunk, her boyfriend was not speaking to her anymore. I didn't think that it was my fault, but she insisted that I needed to do something and fix this since I shouldn't have been yelling in a restaurant about how cruel she was as a person in the first place. And then she cursed me out for a couple of minutes and disconnected the call. I was really mad because I felt that it was ridiculously unfair of her to put the blame on

me when she was the one who had been lying to her boyfriend. She had been really mad at me during that conversation and while shouting at me, she had referred to her boyfriend by name a couple of times. I'll call him Jeremy. So now that I knew Jeremy's name, I couldn't help myself and I went online to stalk and find out more about this Jeremy guy. Unfortunately, since she and I didn't have each other added to our socials, I had to ask a common friend of ours to let me use her account so I could do my digging.

It was difficult to convince her but I told her that this could probably save me from going bankrupt from the alimony, which it eventually did. And I had to really lay it on thick while manipulating her and then she finally agreed to let me use her account. While going through his account I realized that this guy was school friends with a cousin of Julia's and I figured that these two probably met at her cousin's wedding. I hadn't attended that wedding with Julia because I'd been down with the flu but she insisted on going because apparently she and her cousin were really close.

I remember that incident distinctly because I was very disappointed that she left me while I was sick so she could attend some cousin's wedding. Jeremy had a couple of photos on his feed from the wedding and Julia was featured in almost every single one of those photos. Jeremy had no ties to Julia's life back here because he lived in a completely different place and he didn't know any of the people that Julia knew. So she wasn't going to get caught unless her own family decided to rat her out, which they definitely wouldn't. And nobody here knew about Jeremy. It also didn't matter if they followed each other on social media because she followed a ton of people and her being featured in a couple of photos on some guy's

feed who attended the same wedding as her wasn't exactly incriminating evidence of her cheating. But I knew the truth now and I knew that I had to somehow get to the bottom of this and prove that she had been cheating on me while we were married, before she filed for the divorce and maybe then I could have a real shot at getting the alimony canceled together. I called my lawyer up immediately when I found out that she had known this guy even when we were married and now she was with him, so there was definitely something suspicious going on. He told me that he would look into it and he came through. He traced Jeremy down and then, he spoke to a couple of people who lived in his neighborhood

and confirmed that Julia had been living with Jeremy ever since she filed for divorce. The people on his street told him that Julia had moved into Jeremy's house about a couple of years ago, and it aligned perfectly with the time around when she told me that she wanted a divorce and moved out, so this is obviously where she went. But that wasn't even our winning hand. Apparently, she even had a two-year-old son now and when my lawyer told me about that I knew for a fact that we'd finally won. There was no way that she was getting out of this one and I was thrilled that I could finally prove that she was a cheater and get out of paying her because she really didn't deserve it. The last time we met, her lawyer finally had to concede that she didn't deserve the alimony since her client had been cheating.

I guess she didn't want to involve the kid because she knew for a fact that the kid was Jeremy's and not mine, so they'd be. be no point in a paternity test. Had the kid been mine, she definitely would have come after me earlier to demand child support. She had been engaging in infidelity and that disqualified her from receiving alimony, that was it. I guess I should have left it at that after I got rid of her, but I was feeling particularly vengeful and I guess that's where I crossed the line because what I did afterwards wasn't great. After the last session, I really wanted to get back at Julia because I still hadn't felt that satisfaction kick in. So I decided to text Jeremy and rant to him about Julia.

In my defense, I was kind of wine drunk after celebrating my big win against her and I wasn't thinking straight. It's not a great difference but at least it explains why I did what I did. I texted Jeremy that even though I had loved Julia more than anybody else in this universe ever could, I still didn't envy him for having her now and stealing her away from me, because he didn't steal my wife. he just stole a gold digger and I suggested that maybe the only reason she even left me and moved in with him was because of the child. And had it not been for her pregnancy, she probably would have stayed with me and that would have ended as a short fling. But she knew that she'd get caught if the

kid was born and it ended up looking nothing like me, so she opted for the safer way out and latched onto him instead. I wished him luck and said that he and Julia should separate for the sake of the kid because nobody should ever have a mom like that. And now, that's exactly what's happening and I couldn't regret what I said more. Julia is obviously blaming me for all of this and she really should because it is technically kind of my fault. Because I'm the one who texted Jeremy, which was just straight up out of line. And she also put up a post about how I was sabotaging her life just to get revenge, which all our friends agree with and I think that's kind of weird. In a way, isn't me trying to get revenge on her okay. Because if you really think about it, she is the one who cheated on me first

and yet nobody is talking about that. People are just lashing out at me for what I did but nobody is discussing what she did, even though she was the one who started screwing everything up for me and what I did really pales in comparison. I don't really understand what to do about this now and I would appreciate some advice on the situation. I'd offer suggesting that my ex-wife's current boyfriend leave her as she left me. Update 1, Hey, guys. First of all, thank you so much for all the advice and I appreciate every single one of you who replied or commented on my post. And yes, most of you are correct about the assumption that I have a drinking problem. I don't really know what to say about that apart from I guess I should get professional help for it.

I never really considered how this was affecting my life before I made this post and so many of you pointed that out in the comments. If I had not been drinking, I wouldn't have messed up that many times and would have nothing to regret. I guess that's true and I definitely will try and work on it. It's not like I cannot function without drinking but when I do get drunk, I kind of go off the rails and that's not okay. I can see the way it's been negatively impacting my life and I really want to get better before it turns into alcoholism. That being said, I have decided that I'm not going to apologize to Julia. For very valid reasons, she hasn't apologized to me for anything yet. She didn't even apologize to me after it was revealed that I knew about her affair with Jeremy.

She was just disappointed that she was going to lose out on the alimony but she didn't seem to regret anything else. After she left me, I was a complete mess and it took me a really long time to get back up on my feet and try to live life normally. She never even bothered to look back and see how I was doing. And that's what hurt more than anything else because she and I had been together for so long and yet she didn't think that I was worth looking back at. I mean, we've been friends before this so she probably should have valued that at the very least. But she didn't, and just left without thinking about me or the time that we had spent together. She didn't even have the guts to tell me the truth about why she was leaving and left me wondering for ages

about what I could have done better and what I did wrong. So no, I don't really. I don't really regret what I did to her. She completely deserves it and now she is going to feel just as hurt as she had made me feel. It's just the circle of life. Update 2. So, something happened a couple of hours ago and I don't know how to feel about it. It's been almost a month since I first posted here and Julia and I haven't really spoken after she was served. I assumed that she got busy with her life afterward because now she also had to worry about what would happen with her son and if she could retained custody of him or not. So it was pretty surprising for me when she called me a couple of hours ago, but luckily, I decided to record the call in case she said something weird at least

then I would have proof of what she said. As soon as I picked up the call, she started shouting at me and told me that I had ruined her life and that I deserved nothing but the worst. She told me that she was glad that she had left me because she couldn't imagine spending the rest of her life with a loser like me. And the only thing that she liked about me was my money but even that wasn't worth staying for, after I turned into the clingy and annoying husband once we got married. She told me that she had cheated on me, not just with Jeremy but with several other men before, and that I had been too stupid to find out. But this time, she had to leave as she got pregnant and she actually felt relieved when she saw the positive

pregnancy test. Because now she finally had an excuse to dump me and go to somebody that she actually liked. I hadn't even started to process everything that she had. I hadn't even started to process everything that was saying when she moved on to talking about how I'd taken the two things that she valued the most, her partner and her son. And now she was caught in a custody battle which was all my fault because I had put that idea into Jeremy's head. I didn't exactly understand how this was completely my fault. She could have just been honest right from the get-go and not lied to him about her marital status when she met him. Or at least have come clean after they got together. If you are are raising a kid with somebody, I think you should at least be honest with them. That's pretty

basic, I would say. And if she didn't know any better, then that's on her and not on me. So it's pretty unfair to blame me for her own stupid decisions. She is an idiot and an even bigger one for calling me up after so many days. Just to rub in the fact that she's a serial cheater. I felt bad for a while after the call ended because she told me that she truly wished that she had never even met me because I was the worst thing that had ever happened to her. And that really hit hard. So I tried really hard not to end up crying on my couch again over her, which I had done several times already over the course of these past two years.

But I was trying to bring about a good change in my life and I didn't want to go back to my old ways. However, I have been thinking about sending the voice recording from the call to Jeremy so that he knows what he's up against and maybe that would help him with the custody battle. I'm not the best judge of whether Julia is fit to be a mother or not. But after everything that has happened, I think it's okay for me to go ahead and try to get back at her for everything that she did. I'll just think of it as social service and help Jeremy out. Update three so, I told Jeremy. He hadn't replied to the text that I had sent him a couple of weeks ago when I was drunk after celebrating my win against Julia.

But he hadn't blocked me either, which was strange. But it helped me get through to him. I apologize to him for saying so many things the last time that I texted him and then I sent him the recording and told him that he was free to use it if he wanted to, for the custody case. And left it at that. I don't know if he will use it or not, but that's not something that I need to worry about. The bottom line is that he is all the information now, and Julia is really done with it.

Update 4. Okay, I just heard from a couple of people that Julia lost custody of her son and only has supervised visiting rights. Jeremy discovered that she had been cheating on him as well after some guy from his workplace confessed to him because he couldn't bear to keep this a secret anymore and he also had my recording to use against her. Julia clearly isn't the best person to be a mother right now, for a couple of other reasons as well, I presume. And that's why she lost the custody battle. I would feel bad for her, but she pretty much brought this onto herself by being so immoral. It just sucks that the person I wasted so many years of my life after turned out to be the literal worst. At least karma is catching up with her now and she's getting

everything that she deserves. I don't speak to our common friends anymore so I received this news a lot later and from somebody that wasn't even part of our friends circle back when we were in college. So it's safe to assume that people have been gossiping a lot behind her back, including our friends. Clearly, they are not really her friends if they feel comfortable talking about her behind her back like this. But to be fair, I don't think that the people who happen to be our common friends can be anybody's friends. They proved that when they didn't keep the same energy for me and her, even though she was the one who was cheating and I just made a stupid mistake while I was drunk. So their priorities have always been kind of skewed. But anyway, the bottom line

is that she is screwed now and I really couldn't be happier about it. That's the end of the first story. Let's begin the second one. I hope you enjoy this story. Partner ridiculed personal aspects of me with acquaintances so I ended the relationship. Allegedly my 20M, partner 21F, of 12 months, disclosed private information to her friends. Sexual life including the fact that I was a virgin when we started dating and joked about it. I feel really hurt personally, I'm not sure if I'm right to be.

This all started last Friday night. One of my girlfriend's closest friends had just come home from a trip abroad, so they were all going out to celebrate, originally they were planning a party or something. But then they decided to go out to a restaurant together and then go back to one of the friend's house and watch movies, or whatever shit they do, I don't know. Basically it was meant to be a girl's night out, and there was 12 of them, I think, My older sister who is a close friend of my girlfriend and part of her inner circle friendship group was going along with them.

It sounded like they were going to have fun and I wished them the best. Well, since my girlfriend was going and my sister is going, my girlfriend was at my house beforehand, and my sister drove her to the restaurant where they were all meeting up. My sister was going to drop her off at her home afterwards, and then come back to our home. We both live with our parents, at least that was the plan. They headed off around 6 p.m., and I wasn't really expecting CIS back until like 12 p.m. or 1 a.m. or something, if she didn't end up sleeping over there. Instead, she came back on her own at around 9.3010 and she seemed really angry and in a horrible mood. We asked her what happened. She said she was just really tired and not in the mood. I asked her if she had dropped my girlfriend off at her place. She said no, she can take a taxi. It was really weird because she seemed visibly angry and I know. my sister, she's not the sort of person to easily get angry. She was like even slamming doors

and shit. The next day she was in a bit of a better mood, but still kind of angry, I prodded and asked what the matter was, she refused to talk about it, she said it was nothing, she had just been a bit tired the night before, maybe feeling unwell. Next day, on Sunday, she opened up, she said, look something happened the other day when I was out with your girlfriend and her friends, I said, aha, I knew it, she said you won't like what you're going to hear, but you need to hear it anyway. My mind was like, oh shit, is she cheating? That was the first thought that came to my head, she proceeded to tell me about the entire night, how they had gone to the restaurant, all had plenty of fun, gone back home, apparently they started watching a movie but didn't

like it so they didn't finish it, and they couldn't decide on what other movie to watch so they started drinking and gossiping, like, started gossiping about past and current boyfriends, relationships, sex. Sis said your girlfriend may be drunk a bit too much, and started. Revealing too much information, about you, stuff she shouldn't have, I said what sort of stuff? She said you don't want to know. I said you can't just start telling me that, and then cut off without telling me what she

said, what did she say? Sister said I really didn't want to talk about this, but you want to know and you probably have a right too, and she proceeded to tell me the stuff that my semi-drunken girlfriend had said about me. Apparently she was making jokes about how when we first started dating I was a virgin and had no knowledge or experience of sex, and she was mocking my inexperience and lame attempts. My girlfriend also apparently made fun of the shape of my penis, it has a weird thing where it bends to the side. I've never really felt self-conscious about it because I thought it was the sort of thing that most girls wouldn't care about and my girlfriend never mentioned it,

but now I feel incredibly self-conscious, and apparently I ejaculate too quickly and make weird sounds when I do, I was like what the fuck, why was she even talking about this? How drunk was she? Apparently not even that drunk, like she'd had a few drinks but not that many, I told my sister why did you have to tell me all this, I wish you hadn't, now I just feel hurt, she said I felt you have a right to know your girlfriend is saying this stuff, I just couldn't being in the same room as her when she was saying it all, that is why I was so angry and left early, she seemed to feel better having gotten that off her chest. But I couldn't understand why she was so angry about it, my. Girlfriend had been saying all that stuff about me and revealing all those

private details about me and sure, I was hurt by it, but I had no idea why she had gotten so angry from all of it, it made no sense, someone explained this. I feel her honestly, kind of dismayed, like, I feel like all this stuff my girlfriend never brought up with me, she just jokes about in front of other people, is it right for me to be upset about this, is it right for me to be hurt or am I overreacting? Was it fair for her to talk about that sort of stuff in front of other girls, even if they were all gossiping? Should I bring this up with her and tell her that it really hurts me? What if she tells me to just get over it? Or should I just forget about it and move on because it's no big deal, even though I feel it's a big deal to me.

Am I being too sensitive? Update, apparently my 20M, girlfriend, 21F, of one year, told her friends explicit stuff about our sexual life, including the fact that I was a virgin when we started dating and joked about it. I feel really hurt personally, I'm not sure if I'm right to be. It's been a really eventful week, it's had its ups and downs, a bit chaotic at times, but now things have settled, I finally have time to do it. to write this update in full. Some of you were really supportive in the last one. Some of you a bit

less so, but that's okay. I appreciate all your advice. Hope this update can clear things. After I had found out from my sister what my girlfriend had said, I was feeling pretty down, I felt quite a blow to my perception of myself. Like all this time my girlfriend had held me in a lower esteem than I thought she had, did she look down at me because I was a virgin? Did she really think I was that bad when we were together in bed that she thought it was worth making fun of me to her friends, or is that just something all girls do? I hope not, I was feeling pretty self-conscious about my penis as well, I never thought it was abnormal, I thought the slight bend was just a feature, I didn't know it's something a girl

would ever be disturbed by, I didn't even know how abnormal it was, I haven't seen that many, embarrassing to say, but I looked up a few pictures of penises on Google and Googling whether there was anything wrong with me or if it's any abnormal medical condition, I eventually realized I was overreacting about. The whole thing, but still, my self-esteem did take a momentary blow. I realized I had to confront my girlfriend about it, the more I just thought about it, the more I intensely scrutinized myself and scrutinized my actions and behavior, the more I began to doubt my own opinion of myself, was I overreacting. Maybe, probably, but I had opened up myself to my girlfriend in a way I'd done to nobody else before, I had trusted her by letting her be the first person

I had ever slept with, I felt hurt and betrayed that she'd mouth off about my initial lack of sexual capabilities to her friends, I mean everyone sucks at sex first off, right? Surely it's not just me, and even if I did, she never mentioned it, I'd rather be able to improve than just remain a joke for her to mock with her friends. I obviously care for her very much. I wish she'd open up about these things to me not to others. I was feeling really depressed and doubtless of myself, needless to say, my first instinct was to, wrongfully, shoot the messenger. I started harassing my sister with questions about exactly what my girlfriend had said. She didn't want to tell me, but I told her I needed to know exactly what it was because I was planning to confront her about

it, my sister was uncomfortable by the whole thing, but I pressed, and she repeated everything she had previously told me about what my girlfriend had. Said, I asked my sister if it was okay with her if when confronting my girlfriend about it, I told my girlfriend that she was the one who had told me, my sister sighed and relented, figuring that the girlfriend would probably assume as much anyway, I asked her, are you sure it's right for me to confront her about this? Sister said yes, if you feel that is what you need to do, but promise you won't stay with her just because she is your first or you feel obligated to, I've seen you hurt all day because of what

she said and I don't think she deserves you back, and then I started lashing out of my sister, I got quite angry, I got mad at her for telling me, saying I would have been better off if she hadn't had told me, my sister said sorry at first, and left it at that, I kept going at it, harassing her about it, and blaming it on her, she just stayed silent and visibly frustrated, eventually storming upstairs to her bedroom, I followed her up and kept peasant, and kept peasant. her about it. Why did you have to tell me? Why did you even think I needed to know something like that? I definitely pushed too far. She opened the door and shouted back at me something along the lines. Oh, I don't know. Maybe because I love you. Did you consider that you a fine-y- idiot?

Fuck me for trying to look out for you when she clearly has no respect for you. But no, go running to her. She's exactly what you deserve. She called me a finge idiot numerous times and slammed the door on my face. I tried to knock on the door and open it, but she had locked the door and was playing really loud music. From within, she didn't come out of her bedroom the rest of the day, and I, was feeling really bad, I felt guilty and atrocious for lashing out at her like that, I know I was 100% in the wrong, I know you're going to slice me up in the comment section for that, and go ahead, I deserve it, I was an idiot and a terrible person for attacking the one person who had my back in all of this, I wasn't thinking straight. And I'd clearly hurt the person closest to me. I decided I had to

confront my girlfriend about this. I called her the next day. She seemed in a good mood, happy to hear me. She said I hadn't called in a while and she'd been waiting for me to call. We met up, went for lunch, and I kept waiting for the right time to bring it up. But I couldn't. She asked if she could stay at my place for the afternoon before heading back home, I said sure. Apparently her parents were having some people over that afternoon and she didn't want to be around, we were sitting at home, and I decided to finally bring up the thing. My sister was upstairs in her bedroom listening to music, quite loudly, and I figured she wouldn't come down or anything. I said to my girlfriend, look, I don't know how to bring this up, but there's something that's really been

bothering me, some stuff that you apparently said about me. I proceeded to tell her about the stuff she'd apparently said to her friends. Her response was that's it. I could tell something's been bothering you, is that really it? She then proceeded to dismiss it, saying she couldn't believe I was worked up about that, I told her that she knows I care deeply about what she has to say about me, and I was really hurt by all the stuff she said, and I think an apology is in order. She said, fine, I'm sorry, I shouldn't have said that, she said she wouldn't do it again, and she didn't know that it would affect me so much, but then she started brushing it off again, saying it was a silly thing to be upset about, that girls talk. About that sort of stuff with each other and tease

their boyfriends behind their backs all the time, it's just being playful, I told her that it was hurtful to me, she did a sarcastic off face, and seemed to be laughing at the whole thing, then she asked me how I knew about it anyway, I said, well, sometimes when you say stuff about someone in front of other people, it can likely get back to them. Her instant response was it was, my sister's name. Wasn't it? I said, well, maybe you should have. thought about that before talking about someone in front of their sister, she said I knew it, that bitch, I hate having her around anyway, she always has to act like she's so moral and better than everyone, I told her, hey, that's my sister, don't talk about her that way,

she proceeded to go on complaining about my sister, twisting the whole situation to blame it on her, saying that none of this would have happened and I would have never even found out about it if my sister hadn't told me, I told. Her my sister was just looking out for me and she showed. shouldn't hold any blame, she said, do you really believe that? Your sister always tries to pretend she's so moral but she loves to create drama, she enjoys stirring the pot, why else do you think she told you? I told her that's not true, my sister just cared about my feelings, she should stop blaming her. Girlfriend's response, if she cared about your feelings, she wouldn't have told

you, then the girlfriend started asking if my sister was around at home, I said she was upstairs in her room but now is probably not a good time to bring this up with her. So my girlfriend and I stayed in the living room. Eventually my sister came downstairs. While she was coming downstairs, she was calling my name. Saying there was something important she needed to talk to me about, then she saw me and my girlfriend were sitting together, she said, oh, I didn't know you were here, there was an extremely cold silence between them, there was a bit of chit-chat, but it was very awkward, then my girlfriend opened up, what do you think gives you the right to interfere in the relationship between me and my boyfriend? My sister was stunned, she just stared back and didn't

answer, girlfriend said don't act like you don't know what you did, I know you always enjoy stirring the pot, she started telling her that she couldn't trust her as a friend, and started accusing my sister of being a horrible friend, and she shouldn't even go to girls' nights if she couldn't keep her mouth shut, I had to intervene, I said that's enough, but she didn't stop. It broke out into an open argument between the two of them, I kept. Trying to calm them down, it was mostly just the girlfriend relentlessly attacking my sister, my sister's eyes swelled up with tears and she just turned to me and says, why don't you stand up for me? She's FNG bitch, can't you even hear what she's saying? Why are you even with her? At that point the girlfriend said she couldn't take it

anymore and had to leave, before she left, I said I need to speak with her, at that point I broke up with I didn't really give a reason. I just said I felt things weren't working out and it's better for everyone if we end our relationship. She was really hurt and didn't seem to understand why. I told her because of everything that had happened recently, we should stop seeing each other. Plus the enmity between her and my sister, I didn't. Think I could be with her after that. She was incredibly upset, but she seemed to understand. My girlfriend said maybe we can still be friends. I said maybe, we'll see, but we just need some time apart now. We hugged and kissed one last time, said goodbye, and she went on her way, my sister had disappeared,

I figured she was back in her bedroom, I went upstairs, and she was just sitting on her bed listening to music. Staring at the ground, I sat beside her and tried to comfort her, I told her. I'm sorry for everything, I told her how sorry I was for lashing out at her earlier, for trying to blame things on her, I basically told her I was incredibly sorry for everything that had happened, and I was sorry for my girlfriend's behavior towards her just then. She said that my girlfriend was right, that she's an idiot who always sticks her nose and everything trying to make things better, but she should have just kept her mouth shut. I told her that she had done the right thing, that I knew. She was just looking out for me like any brother or sister would. I told her I'd

broken up with my girlfriend just minutes earlier. She said she thought I did the right thing. I said I was sorry she had to endure all that and gave her a hug, asking her if there was anything I could to thank her. She told me she just wanted to see me smile more often. The next few days, she seemed kind of depressed and dreary, not leaving the house much. She tried to put on a brave face and smile when she can, but I knew something was up. On Friday afternoon, I noticed she was sitting at home eating chips and watching cartoons TV, in old dirty clothes. It looked like she hadn't showered in a while and her hair was dirty. I asked her what was up. She said nothing. I told her I thought she was going to go out again with her friends on Friday to a restaurant,

i.e. a girl's night like she had the previous week, she said not anymore, I said why not? She responded that her friends had officially disinvited her. My reaction was that that's horrible, how can friends do that? She said she didn't think they were her friends anymore. All of the girls she had gone with last week had stopped responding her and were ignoring her. Some of them had deleted her on social media, and were basically all giving her the course. shoulder, apparently they really hated the fact that she had ruined the gossip of their girls' night, and basically all the girls in that social group followed my girlfriend's lead. So when my girlfriend cut my sister out of her life, they followed suit and...

Did the same, I was shocked, I couldn't believe that so-called friends would do such a thing to someone, just completely defriend them from life over one incident, she just shrugged and didn't seem to care, I lamented over the fact that all of this had happened to her just because she chose to stick up for me and tell me the things my girlfriend had been saying about me, my sister just shrugged in response. I told her I'm sorry and I felt this was partially my fault, and I said I don't. Understand how she can still not regret having told me all this, she said why would I regret it? I don't care about them, you mean more to me, I'll find other friends after all, I told her that is an incredibly nice thing to say and hugged her. I sat down

and asked her what she was watching, but she didn't seem very interested in it. She said, she had had a lot of fun with them last time and she kind of felt sad that they were all having fun without her while she was stuck at home like a loser. Friday nights were sort of a thing for her and the girls when they'd regularly go out, so it was. Understandable she'd feel upset that she no longer had that and she'd lost a bunch of friends. I asked her what restaurant they were going to. She told me they normally went to the same one each week. Apparently it was a really fancy place. I said, screw it. She doesn't have to stay at home. I'll take her to somewhere even better, At first she thought I was kidding, but I told her I was serious. We got dressed and I drove us to this new place that I haven't been to before. It was expensive as.

Fuck, I spent over $200 on the two of us, but it was worth it and we had a good time, the food was excellent, at least she wasn't feeling so down afterwards, I still feel terrible over the way I initially handled it, I feel ashamed over my initial misdirected anger and how I was rude and careless, honestly, I think I feel much better off after having broken up with a girlfriend. I was expecting I'd have a period right afterwards where I feel down and regretful about it, but the more days that. Go by, the more sure I am that I made the right decision.