Reddit Stories - GUARDIANS wrongly blamed my sibling for ENGAGING in INAPPROPRIATE behavior with my sister's

Episode Date: November 22, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #siblings #familydrama #falseaccusations #relationships #conflictresolutionSummary: My sibling was wrongly blamed for engaging in inappropriate behavior with my sister's guardians. Seeking advice on how to address this delicate situation and clear my sibling's name without causing further conflict within the family.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, guardians, siblings, familydrama, falseaccusations, relationships, conflictresolution, inappropriatebehavior, accusations, familyconflict, delicateissue, siblingrivalry, trustissues, communication, misunderstandingBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. Guardians wrongly blamed my sibling for engaging in inappropriate behavior with my sister's garments and labeled him as a predator, but it was revealed that their canine was the culprit stealing her clothes. My brother is 15, my sister is 17, and I'm 23F. This is really stupid and it shouldn't have happened but it did. Now I just want advice on how to make it better. Also this is the story my brother told me as I wasn't there.

He was in his room playing on his phone minding his own business. He got up to take out the trash. He came back to lay down on his bed. As he was laying down, he noticed their dog walking out of his room. He ignored it. Later on his sister 17 noticed clothes were missing. She went looking for it and found it in my brother's room. The problem was that his was wet and slimy.

She immediately told our parents and they thought the worse. My dad, mom, and brother argued about it. Rude things were said. Apparently mom said I knew you were weird but not this weird. My dad said I raised a predator. In the end, my parents asked me to pick him up and let him stay with me for a couple of days. When I picked him up, he didn't say anything and just sat in silence. He spent the entire time in the room he was staying in.

He only came out for dinner. He skipped breakfast and lunch. His eyes were always red when he came out, so I assume he was crying. I've never seen him cry. Most of the time when he's upset, he just has a stone face, so what they said must have got to him. Finally, at the end of the week, his parents called me and said they wanted to talk to him, so they came over. Before they came over, I tried to talk to him, but he ignored me. When parents came, they apologized to him.

Over the week, they noticed more of sister clothes in his room until one day my dad caught the dog with my sister clothes. loads. My brother just said okay and went home. I tried to ask my parents if he could stay longer, but they said that wouldn't be necessary. Later on I got a call asking me what did he do over my house because he's just been in his room all day at their house. Is there anything I can do to help him feel better? Advice would be greatly unappreciated. Good news. He can stay with me until Sunday. I had to lie a little to parents to get him to come. I told them he should get out the house because he spends most of his day sitting in one spot with online school. They didn't believe me at first, but I said it would be a chance to get him out his room. They finally

agreed. He was about to go to sleep so I came just in time. I think the plan right now is to just spend time with him this week. I'm broke so it's going to be mostly home stuff. I tried to talk to him on the car ride. I asked him if he's okay. He said he's fine and we had a little conversation about his school. So at least he's talking now. He's in the spare room so everything is okay right now. Comment where op has replied, comment, poor fellow. Your parents seriously attacked this kid and to think they can just say I'm sorry and everything be fine is mind-boggling. They destroyed any trust he had in them and this will not be an easy fix. It appears they had their mindset before even accusing him, thanks to your other sister. Yeah, he probably doesn't have much

use for her either right now. Your brother needs space and time to heal. Being at home and being made to interact with this right now is punishment, even though they are his parents and sister. If I were you, I'd tell my parents what they did was inexcusable. I'd talk to him one-on-one and see if he wanted to stay with you for a few weeks. He's 15, being accused of creeping on his sister really put a dent in his self-esteem and self-worth. He needs time to heal. I would also tell him were there for him no matter what. He will eventually seek affirmation that he's not the weirdo he was labeled. Be there for him. As for your parents, good grief, they need counseling and your sister probably does too. They made their beds by striking him down so

harshly, now they'll have to deal with it a while. It's tough being a 15-year-old kid without these accusations. He really got put behind the eight ball with this situation. I hope the beat for him. Up, if I were you, I'd tell my parents what they did was inexcusable. I did tell them that was fucked up. They don't see it, though. They tried to pass it off as they were just upset in the moment, but I wasn't buying it. Talk to him one-on-one and see if he wanted to stay with you for a few weeks. Sadly, he's ignoring my calls and texts. I am thinking about just driving to see him, though. And if he wants, he could stay with me for a while. I'm with him. I'm with him. I don't really know why they went all in one him. There has to be something larger

happening if they can say all those things and not care how he feels. I'd, but they do need some help too. Update, this is going to be the only update. It's long. So I've been asked to update the situation. Many of you guys asked that I let brother live with me, but I had to take him back to our parents' house this morning. The last update I gave was when my brother was allowed to spend the week at my house. That was last Sunday. We spend the first day, Monday, at my house just talking. He spent most of the time in the room. At first he wasn't responding back. It was going nowhere quickly. So I ended the conversation by telling him our parents were wrong and that he is not weird. I didn't say it exactly like this, but I hope you get the point. He just had a stone face and we

stopped talking. Tuesday. He still didn't really come out of the room. I offered to go to McDonald's and he came out the room to eat at the table. We just talked about random different things. He wasn't really interested in the conversation until we started talking about my Xbox. We eventually started talking about Madden. He started talking about how good he is at the game. We finished eating run. He went back to his room. Wednesdays. I bought Madden. I don't play sports game. I play games like Cuphead or cartoon animated games.

I asked if he wanted to play and he agreed. I know this is serious, but Madden absolutely sucks. The game started cheating as soon as we started. The first thing my player did was fumble the ball. He was cailing me at it. He actually laughed a couple of times, and he seemed to be enjoying himself. We spent a good portion of the day just playing. Thursday was pretty much the same as Wednesdays, but he was talking more.

I was going to go to the movies, but COVID is still a thing. We eventually just settled to watching Netflix. He spent half the day in his room, but he is coming out more. Friday I decided to try to talk to him about the situation again. I pretty much told him I would talk to our parents to get them to understand why he was hurt by it. I also took the advice of seeing if he wanted to talk to a professional. He asked me not to ask them about it. He said it was just better if nobody brought it up again.

I was a little shocked, but there's not much I could do. We then decided to go to a walking trail. At first he didn't want to go, but I convinced him to come. We just spent more time talking. This also made me realize that I should talk to my siblings more often. He seemed happier. Saturday or yesterday was pretty much us just talking again. We decide instead of Madden to just play random games I had.

I don't have a lot, but I think he had a good time. When it was dinner time he got kind of quiet again. I asked him what was wrong. He said he wasn't ready to go back home yet. I didn't know what to say. I asked him if he wanted me to talk to our parents to see what we could do. He just said no again. I pretty much told him he could come to my house any time he wanted to.

That leads us to today. He is back at his house. I was going to talk to our parents, but I assumed he has a reason for not wanting me to talk to them. I know you guys said something about getting him a therapist, but he said no to the idea. I did call my sister to see how she's doing. She said she tried to apologize to brother, but he ignored her. I don't know what happening with that, but one thing at a time. and that's pretty much how the week went.

Overall, he seemed much happier than he was last week. I texted him and he wants to come back over some time next week. This part has nothing to do with my brother, but it's about me. You don't have to read it. I'm going to be honest with you guys. I have no idea what the fuck I'm doing. I'm only 23 still trying to get my life together. I'm a firefighter, so I'm just glad that we get a lot of vacation time

or else I would have had to work. I know people are thinking if you're a firefighter you should know what to do and why did you ask what the signs of depression are. I was never trainer on how to deal with somebody actively showing signs of depression. I was trained to help somebody who is in the process of trying to commit suicide, and that training wasn't that good. It was basically try to talk them down and do whatever you can to get them to a hospital. I've yet to use this this training.

This is why I was panicking when everything was. happening. People were telling me he could commit suicide. I know I should have kept a cool head, but it just felt different because it was family. They tell you not to panic, but I'm only human. I've been a firefighter for about two years now. Anyway, something else I wanted to say. I'm going to try to be there for both my brother and sister, but I made a mistakes too. Somebody brought up the point of when I found out what happened what was my reaction. I'm ashamed to admit it, but I didn't have one. I thought he was going to get over it and everything would be all right.

I only started caring when I realized that he wasn't acting like his normal self, that when I realized the impact of what they said and how fucked up this all really is. So to the person who brought up this point. Thank you. This showed me that no matter how great my actions are looking in front of random strangers, the truth is that I had a similar mindset as my parents. I don't think he's weird, but I guess my time spent around them made me desensitized to the things they say. I come going to work to change that because it's not right. So to everybody thank you

for the advice you've given. I see the mistake I've made and I'm 100% behind changing myself and being behind my brother. Comments where Op has replied, comment one, you're a great sister op smile. I would try to invite him over often more so than just extending one forever open invitation. It'll make him feel more wanted up. I'll definitely try to keep hanging out with him and invite him over more often. I'm also going to try to hang out with my sister more. I'm going to try to have a better relationship with both of them. Comment too, I have no idea what the fuck I'm doing. Sounds like you do to me. You care about your bro. That's all that needs to be done. Have you thought about introducing your brother to your pals at the station, maybe give him a tour?

Op, when I graduated fire school we had like a family day. We brought our family to where we did our training for fire school. So they all know my brother, sister, and parents. Comment three, W-O-A firefighter at 23. Isn't it hard to get in? Op, not really. I know a 18-year-old in fire school right now. If you apply to the Wright County almost everybody gets.

However, out of a class of 100 you will notice only about 10 to 15 people will pass the entire thing. Next story, offered my favorite nephew free housing for college but my family demanded I include his poor cousin too. So when they started bullying him I ruined the cousin's job interview out of spite. I, F-39, am very much not a kid person. I can tolerate them in small doses, but I also find them uninteresting slash annoying and don't want any of my own.

I'm well aware that some find my child unfriendliness off-putting and can strategically fake it until I make it most of them time. I just prefer to avoid situations slash relationships where I'm expected to interact with kids but when I can't, I radiate don't talk to me energy to deter them and will try to pawn them off slash redirect them and escape. I had the good fortune to be the baby of the family during my generation, but as my siblings and cousins started having kids, they resented me for being a deadbeat aunt, as one cousin put it. They kept pushing me to be involved with their kids, and I eventually snapped

and told them how I felt about kids in general. Afterwards, I was slowly iced out socially. I stopped trying when I was hospitalized and only one person even bothered to visit, or even call. The one exception was my brother Michael, M-43. He never questioned or undermined my decision. He was that one sole visitor when I was hospitalized. He never tried to force his son Adam, M18, upon me, nor did he resent that I didn't take a serious interest in Adam until he was 14. Even when he was in the trenches in regard to parenting, he still made time to call or text, if sporadically. In the present, Adam is the only niece slash nephew that I care about. Yes, his cousins did not receive a fair opportunity to bond with me. Yes, I'm playing favorites,

I've set up a 10K college fund, I take him out for experiences monthly, and I've given him some pricey gifts, while his cousins get zilch. Yes, this has caused friction in the past, but I've always been happy to be the bad guy. I try to be discreet. Adam has been instructed to attribute the gifts to his father and not me, and I did not tell him about the college fund until a month ago. My latest gift, however, has led to a major fallout. I live in a desirable location in a major city with a while Michael slash Adam lives nearby. Adam was recently accepted to his dream school in said city, but it's out of his budget. I offered to let him live rent-free with me, which would allow him to commute, my house is

much close to campus, and thus afford it. The issue is my other nephew Alex was also accepted into that school, and it's also his dream school. Alex comes from a disadvantaged background while Adam is middle class. Alex won a partial scholarship to said school, but it's still Still not enough. When he heard about my offer to Adam, he asked, using Adam as an intermediary, to be included. I refused. I've nothing against Alex, but I also haven't talked to him for 15 years, not that we were ever close, and we simply don't have an emotional connection. It would also come at a massive opportunity cost. I rent out my spare bedrooms, and I'd lose 38k in rental income. Yes, this is well below market rate over four years.

Most of my relatives are now in arms. They've given the ultimatum that either one I extend my offer to Alex as well to I rescind my offer three, Adam rejects my offer, or they will go and see with Adam and Michael. They're calling Adam the golden child, he's an only child, say that Alex deserves my help far more and are tired of my favoritism. They're not wrong about my favoritism, but honestly. Idgaff, about my ex-family. Though I never blocked them or had a big fallout, we've been effectively NC. I value chosen family over people who happen to share my DNA and we've both

made choices that demoted them to the latter category. I'm also of the opinions that aunts and uncles are entitled to have preferences. Furthermore, I don't see what makes Alex more deserving. He certainly needs the help more, but that's not my tab to pay. Adam is in a more complicated situation. Michael is willing to support whatever Adam chooses and refuses to pressure him. Adam and Alex aren't close, but accepting my offer would mean giving up many other familial bonds that Adam does value. Rejecting it means Adam giving up on his dream school. I do feel bad that my offer is forcing Adam to choose. Edit, I can't believe that I have to say this explicitly. but I don't hate kids. They're just not my cup of tea. You cannot like something and not want to

throw it into a trash compactor. Update 1, I saw a few questions in my last post that I wanted to address. Why not try to form a bond with Alex now? He comes across as a gold digger and disingenuous seeing as he was perfectly happy being distant from me without something to gain. Why distance yourself for Alex's parents since? I didn't. I just don't have a reason to try to form a bond with him. Just like I don't have a reason to connect with cashier at my local grocery store. Many people that didn't meet by circumstance meet because of a social lubricant that brought them together. Ants slash nephew ties are facilitated by said aunts ties to the child's parents slash wider family, and said ties do not exist in this case. A relationship with

Alex might also be a liability if our relatives try to weaponize it in some way, and given that they already tried with Adam, I'll pass. Why didn't you put your bio family on an information diet? I did. Unfortunately, I suspect that Adam slipped up during his excitement at being given the chance to attend his dream school after thinking that he couldn't. I've always stressed the importance of secrecy, but up to this point he's never experienced conditional love, and in his naïveness, believed the best from his relatives. It's a lesson that I wish he'd learned in a different manner, but what's done is done. I did see the suggestion about claiming that I have a long-term lease on my other rooms, and that probably wouldn't work. My relatives would probably

demand that I try to break the lease, taking on the penalties, or that Alex and Adam share a room. Could you compromise? Is there a win-win solution for both Adam and Alex? Maybe let them share a room? Perhaps, but you never negotiate with bullies it sends the wrong message. Also, it would be a incredibly awkward and tense between Alex and I, never mind Alex and Adam, who would be living in the same room. Why not just rent out the room and send Adam the proceeds so he can get a room elsewhere? My rates are well below market value, and it would not cover the cost of a room elsewhere in the area for Adam. I could raise the price to market value, but then I'd have to explain to said potential tenants why they're being charged so much more than the tenant that I

already have. I also don't want to raise my rates on principle. I don't like that landlord slash private equity are intentionally squeezing the housing market. The only reason why I'm renting out my rooms is because they'd be sitting empty otherwise, and offering them cheaply was a compromise between pragmatism and my values. I actually would have preferred a smaller place but there weren't any smaller houses that ticked off my non-negotiable requirements. You've no right to feel hurt over being abandoned in the hospital. You pushed them away.

As acknowledged in my post, everyone made dissuble. that contributed to me going NC, I was disinterested in the center of their world, and they couldn't accept me as who I was. And while I certainly self-selected out of kid-centric events, I repeatedly tried to reach out to arrange kid-free hangouts. Heck, would have been okay with occasional text-slash-phone calls that was literally the only way Michael and I stayed in touch until Adam was seven. And the hospital incident didn't hurt me so much as it was the final nail that ended any hope of reconciliation. I was well aware that our relationship. I was well aware that our was fraying well before the incident. Update as for the actual updates, Michael, his wife

and I were gearing up to have a talk with Adam to discuss his options, go over the pros and cons and long-term effects, reaffirm our support and nudge him in the right direction. It turns out, we didn't need to, though not for the reason that we'd like. Adam called me yesterday, clearly upset. Apparently, his cousins have been talking smack behind his back, saying some really nasty and cruel things and targeting some of his deepest insecurities. Even if he wanted to make peace with Alex, it wouldn't be possible now. I still think that it would be beneficial to have the talk with him, though, if only to help process his feelings. It isn't all doom and gloom, though. A friend of a friend is apparently

an interviewer for a job that one of the nasty cousins has applied for, and asked about a week ago if I knew them. We look similar and have an unusual family name, and had any tea. No, I was not listed as a reference. I didn't know the cousin well enough to comment back then, but now? Guess who's going to get a call and a warning not to hire that cousin due to bad character? Did I also mention that said job was in a small industry with typically only one employer per area? Yes, I'm a petty queen and I own it. Update two, I thought it was implied that Adam was accepting my offer and staying with me for college, but yes, he is. Michael, his wife and I had the conversation with Adam to help him process what his cousins did, we assured him that

nothing that happened was his fault. He's still sad, but seems to be doing better. Speaking of my plans, I did make the call to the said acquaintance about my cousin. They mentioned that said cousin had been neck in neck with their competition and there was one final, inconveniently timed, for the acquaintance, interview, and they outright thank me for giving them an excuse to cancel. The Petty B-T-C-H and me also decided to look up nearby similar jobs and found that unlike one I just blocked the cousin from, they were not unionized, likely mismanaged, and paid considerably less. The cherry on top is that when I told Adam, he seemed really happy, and added that the sight for the job that the cousin just lost was a ten-minute commute.

His mom scolded me for being childish, but her face said otherwise. Unless something unexpected happens, I expect that this will be the final update.