Reddit Stories - I, a 30-YEAR-OLD man, DISCOVERED my former partner, a 30-YEAR-OLD woman, in a

Episode Date: February 6, 2026

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #relationshipadvice #breakup #exes #movingon #selfdiscovery  Summary: I, a 30-year-old man, discovered my former partner, a 30-year-old woman, in a new relationship shortly after our breakup. This revelation prompted me to reflect on our past, my feelings of loss, and the importance of personal growth as I navigate my own journey toward healing and self-discovery.  Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, relationships, breakups, personalgrowth, healing, selfreflection, emotionalwellbeing, love, dating, exes, movingon, lifeadvice, selfimprovement, mentalhealth, introspection, adviceBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6816713/support.This episode includes AI-generated content.

All episodes, completely add free with an Apple podcast subscription. Cancel any time. One time offer, two dollars. Episode with two stories, first part. I hope you enjoy this story. I, a 30-year-old man, discovered my former partner, a 30-year-old woman, in a committed relationship with another person while attempting to reconcile with her. Assistance needed.

I have been acquainted with my ex, Olivia, for a considerable period. Approximately 15 years. During this period, we've tried dating three times and gone through five breakups in total. When we were 12 to 13, 17 to 18, and back in 2018, the first time we dated, I was 100% responsible for the end of our relationship. We were still 12 to 13, the relationship lasted two months, and I honestly just got so overwhelmed with how affectionate she was at the time and how she needed my attention throughout the day. So I sent her a text message to break up with her. I was a foolish young boy who was willing to hurt someone I liked for selfish reasons.

The second time we dated, I was also 100% responsible for the end of our relationship. I can personally speak for my own flaws. I was struggling with my independence at home, while at the same time struggling financially. At 17 to 18 I didn't have much money. And instead of communicating this to Alice, I would ignore her or stand her up. One day, we'd gone out to a club and I made out with a girl while Alice was there. Alice's best friend caught me, told Alice and they left immediately. A few days later, I met Alice and she was still willing to work through this, but again I broke up with her.

My reasoning at the moment was that she honestly deserved a better, more independent, financially stable, and non-douche-bag boyfriend. By this point I had pretty much broken the heart of the love of my life not once, but twice, and had proven once again that I was a horrible, foolish young boy who was willing to hurt someone I loved for selfish reasons. I later came to learn that Alice had earlier in the relationship made out with a close friend of mine and that she and my close friend had never intended on telling me, It was this close friend who told me this when he watched how hard the breakup was on me, after the second breakup. I wasn't able to commit myself to another relationship. I spent years trying to work on myself, trying to be the kind of man I could be proud of. Days were spent battling moral conflicts, religious and cultural ideologies, and most importantly my personal values, which I could be proud of moving forward. After about five years, I was ready for something close to commitment and

found myself in multiple situationships, but I never truly committed fully to being someone's boyfriend ever again. This was until 2018 when I hit things off with Alice one more time, after almost seven years of little to no contact. All the emotions I felt for her came rushing back. At this point, I was very content and satisfied with the kind of man I had become and I had my values deeply entrenched in me. I was ready to try things one last time with her, and this time I was going to treat her right, however, things didn't quite work out as I had expected. Alice took me through one hell of a ride and by late 2019, I was ready to break up with her, this time not because I was a foolish, young man who was willing to hurt someone I loved for selfish reasons,

but because I was a self-aware young man who knew he deserved to be treated better by the woman who claimed to love him. I won't get into the details of what Alice did to me for I don't want that to distract from the main point. All I can say is she broke my heart throughout the relationship multiple times, that I got so sad I had to leave for the sake of my internal peace and mental health security. The process of my departure from the relationship was however difficult, with a lot of second-guessing and denial that she really treated me like she did, which led to three break-ups in a span of two months, all initiated by me again. So this year, about six months after the breakup, Alice and I started talking again. I asked her if there was someone else in her

life and she assured me there was absolutely no one. We continued talking and eventually got to the point where we started meeting in person. We were slowly getting closer and closer to each other emotionally and our conversations were getting even more frequent and even more intimate. This was until a few weeks ago when I started noticing inconsistencies in her actions and her words, which led me to suspect that she was at least talking to someone else. This lead to me confronting her about whether she was considering ourselves exclusive at this point, which she responded with an affirmation. I raised my concerns that I suspected there was someone else,

and after a lot of back and forth, she admitted there were two guys she was probably talking to. I'll call them John and James. She admitted that with James, things were a bit more serious, but insisted it was me she wanted and that she would cut them off. I told her that I wasn't going to start a relationship with her again with things being the way they were, i.e., talking to two other guys. Fast forward to last weekend when we met physically and things started getting intimate between us halfway through. We were just cuddling and talking and I brought up the fact that I'd like for her to reassure me that she's cut these two guys off by showing me her phone. This is where things went downhill and fast.

Basically, I discovered there was a new guy who was neither John nor James whom she had been seeing since early February this year. I'll call him Mark. Mark and Alice were in a serious relationship and things had moved so fast between them that they'd talked about getting engaged, officially meeting each other's family and even talked about getting married soon. Mark isn't in the country at the moment and hasn't been around for a while, maybe about five months. I learned from Alice that they had talked about getting married as soon as Mark came back into the country. I didn't discover everything I've stated here with ease. Alice lied through her teeth the entire time I was questioning her about Mark. She lied about every single detail, tried to manipulate the truth by even claiming they weren't in a relationship

but were faking it for some reason I don't want to mention here. Slowly by slowly, word by word, her inconsistencies within the narrative caught up with her and she revealed the truth bit by bit which helped me piece together the bigger picture. She says she lied because I was mad. However, I asked her to come clean about the situation way before I got mad. T.B.H. I didn't even suspect that there was a mark so I didn't even have something to be mad about. Eventually, she admitted that she never even intended to tell me about Mark, and that she was going to slowly let him go had we gotten back together.

How I feel I feel like the past three months or so have been full of. of deceit since she had a boyfriend the entire time and lied to me about him. I specifically asked if there was someone else in her life so I can know whether to disappear into thin air and let her move on, and she insisted that there was no one at all. I don't know if I can trust a word she says especially after the way she lied to me when I discovered Mark. On the other hand, I still want to try and work on things with her, but I need her to be honest and transparent which is something she struggles with. She also struggles with selfishness, which includes her twisting everything to be about her. How Alice feels Alice says she feels as though I make her feel unwanted. She says that from

the many times I've broken up with her, she can't help but worry I would leave her again in a whim. She insists that the reason things get so messy from her end is because of the insecurity and doubt I raise in her. She insists that I don't reassure her enough to feel safe and secure with me. This is also why she lies to me. She doesn't want to lose me so she'd rather fabricate the truth and keep me rather than tell me the truth and stand to lose me. Where do we need help? So Alice swears that it's me she wants but she's struggling too. Let Mark go. From what I understand they are also in love, so even as I write this, three days later, they're still in communication but she claims affection with him has reduced and that she's slowly trying break up with him.

I don't truly believe her, and I think she's currently maintaining two parallel relationships while she battles with the decision of who to chose between the two of us. She's unwilling to be transparent with me about her conversations with Mark and only wants me to trust her word. I don't. I would rather something more concrete, e.g., access to the conversations with Mark or just anything else that could give me some reassurance that she's working on it. I need something else that backs her words up. People have read it, help me fix this. I really want to be with her, but I don't know how to fix this mess we're in.

Note, we live about 33 miles from each other which is about a half-hour drive one way. This means we don't see each other often and have to plan around a lot of obstacles just to get some private intimate time between us. Update I, 26M, caught my XGF, 26F, in a serious relationship with someone else while trying to work things out between us. Help. Okay, things have been hectic this past week, but here we go. So my ex-GF says that she ended things with Mark and they're no longer in contact, though they seem to have limited contact rather than none. She says that she told him everything, including how long we've been talking,

us getting close to each other and even that things got physically intimate between us. She assures me that things are over between them and that she's hell-bent on being transparent, trustworthy and different moving forward. I on the other hand insist that I need evidence that things are over between them, e.g., me talking directly to Mark, screenshots of conversations between her and Mark about ending things, etc. If she could come up with other ideas to prove they are over, I am open to it, but I need more. Then just her word, my XGF, however, insists that she is not willing to prove things are over between them and that I should just trust her word. She does not want me talking to

him. She is not willing to provide any screenshots of conversations between them about ending things, and she is not willing to think of any other way to prove that things are over between them. Moving on, she insists she'll be completely transparent, including allowing me to access her phone at will, and that she won't hide anything. This means that if she were to get in touch with him, then I would easily know for I could just go through her phone. She says that this is how she would have liked things had she been me. She says that these standards I set to prove things are over between them don't sit comfortably with her and she wouldn't be able to move on with me if I was to, for example, reach out to Mark. She doesn't want to be

with someone who would do such a thing. We're at an impasse where I feel like I can't move forward until she proves things are over between them. Whereas she wants me to take her word and promise of complete transparency moving forward. If I can't take her word on this issue with Mark, then we can't move forward. Edit. It's Alice here. The only reason why I don't want him going through my phone slash contacting Mark is because I don't see an end to it. Not because I'm hiding something or I intend to hide anything in future.

I broke his trust and I currently don't have a healthy way and how to fix it slash we have not come up with healthy ways so far. I did suggest that I need time to fix this within myself being as I feel horrible since I put all of us in this situation, but that didn't sit well with up. I feel horrible for how things are. I just don't know how to fix it in a way that is healthy for us moving forward. It's difficult building trust that you have broken and I am open to whichever healthy solutions that could make this work. I have all the evidence for everything he has asked during this time. My only problem is once I show this to him and open this up, then what next? Is this the ultimate solution?

I do agree that I am a horrible person for playing the Bachelorette with unsuspecting contestants and for this there is no excuse. It was selfish. I 26M caught my ex-GF 26F in a serious relationship with someone else while trying to work things out between us. Help. You were right. Reddit. Alice and I can't make things work.

She's still a liar, a manipulator, deceitful and most importantly isn't able to let Mark go. Okay, I'm not sure where to start. Damn, here we go. So after sharing this previous post with Alice and allowing her to share her point of view, we talked on the phone and she agreed to come over the next day, i.e. Tuesday. Just a bit of background, I recently moved closer to work, so as of now, we're no longer 33 miles away from each other. We're probably about half of that right now. Okay, now on to Tuesday. So Alice took an Uber quite early and came over before noon. As we were talking the previous

night, i.e. Monday night, we talked about what she thought of the comments and she agreed that yes, she was wrong for refusing to be transparent from the conversation. It seemed as though she was going to come over. We talk about stuff and resolve everything. Remember, she had edited the post and said, I have all the evidence for everything he has asked during this time. Therefore, you can imagine I was finally looking forward to this evidence. Long story short, a lot happened on Tuesday as we were talking while in each other's arms. She opened up a bit more about how she's always held my actions at 13 and 17 over me and

was glad I had owned up to them and apologized. She said she needed to hear it and told me that she'd forgiven me. We talked a bit more and she slowly revealed that things between her and Mark hadn't really changed like she had alluded earlier. This was the point where my radar went off, but I didn't say anything. I let her continue. Alice said that she tried different ways, everything but the truth, to break things off with Mark, e.g. using the this long-distance thing isn't working argument.

But, with everything she brought up, Mark wouldn't budge and would find a way to dismiss her attempts to create a problem out of nothing. She said that over the past weeks, this is all she'd been trying to do. This meant that up to then, she hadn't even attempted to tell Mark anything about what had been going on. The only thing Mark seemed to be aware of

is that she was talking to me and she was conflicted about us. At this point, I asked her whether Mark knew anything about us talking about getting back together, getting emotionally closer, getting physically intimate, and most importantly, that she wanted to break up with him.

She confirmed that she hadn't brought any of this up with him. So, there you have it folks have read it. She was once again lying about the situation between her and Mark. She wouldn't show me evidence because there was nothing to show. I was angry. I told her that the only way we're moving forward is if she disclosed everything to Mark right then and there, and I watch, listen to her do it. She hesitated but started drafting a message. She even asked me to help her write her breakup text and foolish me.

I agreed to it. Well, once we got done with the message, she completely froze. She couldn't send it. She tried to compromise on my condition but I wouldn't budge. We spent about two hours going back and forth. Eventually I was so frustrated. I decided to step out to get something. On coming back, I found her with all her things packed, ready to leave.

She'd already even left my house and was waiting for the lift. The same lift I came up in. She was on the phone with a friend this whole time and when I said, I see you're ready to leave, she didn't respond. So I took what had gone to get back to the house. And on coming back she was gone. I tried calling and she said she'd left the building and that I should give her a minute to finish her call. Well, I waited and she didn't call back.

At this point, I was sure she'd taken an Uber and was well on her way home. I tried calling her about five times in a span of 30 minutes but she would hang up. Eventually she called back and said that she needed some time alone, especially that night. So that's it. Reddit, I basically demanded for a resolution and she bailed on me without warning. I can't even put into words what that felt like. It felt like someone had ripped a hole through my chest. I'm still deeply hurt, but it's okay.

Tuesday needed to happen for me to be able to move on. Anyway, I finally deleted and blocked Alice on all platforms I use, including here. This was the final straw for me, even though harsh, most of you were right, we can't make things work between us and it saddens me. The aftermath. So on Wednesday morning, I woke to a chat request on my actual Reddit account from Alice. She'd created a new account and wanted to talk. She said she had some screenshots she wanted to share.

I unblocked her on WhatsApp and she sent screenshots that seemed to be between her and Mark, and she was disclosing to Mark that she had cheated on him. She also accompanied the text screenshots with screenshots of her voice and phone conversations with Mark from the moment she left my place while on the Uber ride home. Basically she said that she needed to talk to him alone. she couldn't talk to him with me around, and now that she'd talked to him, she was sending these screenshots to let me know she had done it. I told her these screenshots weren't conclusive. I said they don't really give the full picture of how much she told him, i.e. that we were

planning on getting back together and that she wanted to break up with him. She said that she wasn't able to tell him all this. This is when she revealed that she wasn't even planning on doing it. You see, Mark has been cheated on before while in a long-distance relationship and it broke him. Even from the screenshots Alice shared, Mark claimed that what Alice had shared with him, that she cheated on him, had given him PTSD, but from the way it seemed, he was willing to forgive her as long as she doesn't repeat it again. So Alice and I talked and from our conversation it is clear that she's leaving some room to try and see if things can work out between Mark and her, maybe not now, but later after she has

worked on herself. It is clear that things are much easier with Mark since they neither have the history me and Alice share nor do they have the baggage me and Alice have from our past. It is clear that were she to work on herself, it would be easier to fix things with Mark than it would be with me, and with that, I considered this situation wrapped up. I wished her well with Mark moving forward and I told her that I wished for the best on her self-improvement journey. We're no longer in contact as I have gone back to blocking Alice on all plans. I'll take this time to heal from this mess and focus on my happiness. I'm heartbroken, but I'll be all right.

Thank you all for your sound advice. To Alice, if you're reading this, I hope for happiness and healthiness to you moving forward. Goodbye. That's the end of the first story. Let's begin the second one. I hope you enjoy this story. Just a kind notification ahead of the video starting. You will listen to two anecdotes in the first. two anecdotes in this video and both contain recent developments. Now on to the initial tale.

I am acquainted with my ex and I want him to be at my wedding, but my fiancé and his sister are against it. Will I be the A-hole? I, 24F, am getting married to my fiancé, 24M, and have been going over the guest list. We're planning on a bigger wedding so whoever we want there, we invite. Before we got together, we were friends in separate romantic relationships, mine ended decently. and I'm still friends with my ex, his did not, she was horrible to him. I see my ex like a brother slash friend now and I want to invite him to my wedding. Originally when I brought this up my fiancé didn't make any comment on it. He's met my friend before and I thought he was fine with it.

A couple weeks later I got a call from my fiancé's sister. She told me that her brother has been asking her for advice because he doesn't want my friend there but doesn't want to come off as jealous. She said it's inappropriate that I even suggested inviting him and said it'd look like I wasn't over him. She even brought up that my friend might try and sabotage the wedding or try to win me back. I told her it wasn't any of her business and my fiancé should come to me about this, not her. She pushed back saying that I wouldn't tolerate it if he invited his ex. I told her that it was different. His ex is a lying, manipulative bitch. My ex is my friend who I've known since high

school, and we didn't work out. She said, it should go without saying you don't bring your ex to your wedding. I'm inviting my friend. It should go without saying if my partner has an issue, he should come to We kept going back and forth until I told her that I will talk to fiancé about this and hung up. A part of me thinks his sister is exaggerating or that my fiancé is projecting his bad breakup onto me, but he's never brought this up before, I don't know what to do, or say to him, am I being too protective of a friendship versus my partnership? It's his day just as much as mine. Will I be the a-hole if I invited my ex to my wedding? Verdict of that post was that the op was the asshole.

Relevant comments were the op replied. 420 bean juice. Info, how old were you and your ex when you got together and split up? How long ago did you split up? How quickly did you and your fiancé get together after you and your ex split up? Was there any overlap, no judgment if there was? Any particular reason why you and your ex broke it off? How long have you and your fiancé been together?

How long have you been engaged? Have you and your ex spent time together in a platonic, way since the breakup or do you just still text? Have you and your fiancé spent time with your ex in a platonic setting? I know this seems like a lot of info, but I think it's all useful for a level judgment. Oop replied, fair enough, I'll give a timeline. Friend and I knew each other since ninth grade and got together in 11th grade. College first year we went to the same school and I became friends with future Fiancee. Shortly before college second year started, future fiancé had a big breakup. Friend and I drifted apart and broke it off a few months after that in September of 2020. Fiancé and I got

together that December. Fiancé proposed last March. There was no cheating involved, but friend and I realized we weren't as close as we used to be summer 2020 when we went home for break so it was inevitable. J.MBBL. You will be the A-Hole, that being said. I don't think this is a hill worth dying on. If your fiancé eventually talks to you about the situation himself and expresses his discomfort, then I'd probably err on the side of keeping him happy, even if his insecurity doesn't necessarily come from the most mature place. Boop replied, honestly, if it comes down to it, my fiancé has to come first. It sucks since the friendship has lasted far longer than the relationship with friend,

but at the end of the day I love fiancé more than anyone. I know fiancé had a horrendous breakup as well, so I wonder if there is some projection since we were both newly split when we started dating. Oop adds additional info I am the comments. Four added context. Friend and I knew each other since high school. We got together junior year and went to the same university. I met fiancé in undergrad.

He had a girlfriend and I was with friend. Friend and I were in different majors so we didn't spend a lot of time together. We just drifted apart. We still like to hang out. But we just fell out of love, it hurt, but no yelling, no fighting, just accepting that we weren't a good romantic match. Fiancé went through a crazy, explosive breakup a couple months before friend and I split up. We got together a few months after our breakups and stayed together for three years before the

proposal. Update Last night we sat down and I asked about Sister's Call. Fiancé admitted he'd been venting and asking her for advice, he knew she was going to bring it up to me but didn't know she. she'd bring up his ex or yell over the phone. I asked why he didn't talk to me about it. Fiancé explained it was few things. One, his ex cheated on him a lot with friends while dating.

Just texting my friend, hanging out with friend tonight, etc. Second, he didn't realize how much it bothered him until he thought about it and by then we already agreed on friend as a guest. Third, he's known friend a few years now and neither of us ever made a move. He felt he was being paranoid and didn't want to come off controlling, especially since friend is in our friend group and if he was the only one not invited fiancé worried he'd look insecure. Someone made a good point that we never established a boundary. Friend is still a friend, but I love my fiancé. I said I didn't want to cut out an entire friendship if I didn't have to and we compromised, since the whole friend group mainly sticks to group chats.

friend can only talk to us via the group chat, in person, or public socials. Fiancé offered to do the same with a different friend of his that he used to have a crush on. I didn't about that until he said it, but I told him he didn't have to. He also asked that I double check with him when friend attends any group hangouts. For the wedding, we might ask Friend to come to the reception but not the ceremony to avoid drama. Friend has asked in the group chat. No official invitations yet, but the whole group knows we're planning. If he can bring his girlfriend to the reception but not the ceremony since, his words,

don't think my friend's big day is the best place to bring a date, but if there's a good party afterwards, I'd love for you guys to get to know her. We talked over how it all made fiancé feel and I do feel better going forward. He apologized for not coming to me and I apologized for making him feel like I couldn't be trusted to talk to. NGL, I'm still a little freaked out he's going to secretly hate everything I do now since he felt like he couldn't talk to me, but I'm just being a paranoid idiot, note. Some noted I was too fixated on sister and I agree. It was unexpected and I got too defensive.

Fiancé didn't know she'd be so aggressive, but clearly the problem is with me. Something has to be wrong with me if he'd go to her instead of me about this. It's shaken lots of confidence I've had, but I needed the reality check. Communication is crucial for marriage. Those that pointed out their exes to friends made me feel better too. Like most, I hope to keep most of my friends in my life, but my husband has to come first. Thank you for your kindness and advice. Now on to the next story, Story 2.

Fed up with the single mom who constantly flirts with my husband whenever we meet her. I am married to my husband for four years and we have a two-year-old daughter and a London Montessori. Many of the parents in this Montessori are always rushing for delivering and picking up their kids, so brief interactions can be common. My husband and I regularly made it a point to go to drop off and pick up our daughter together as we both enjoy it so much. One of the women who has a daughter in my child's class always used to frown at me when I was there alone. I had seen her for several months and she would rebuke and dismiss me when I said hello or smiled at her. Then my husband went to pick up our daughter solo one day, and she started speaking.

to him. In several minutes she told him where she is from, where she went to school, how her marriage had failed and that she was not where she expected to be in her personal life and her career choice. I joked to him later when he told me it sounded like a speed date in the nursery. In the conversation he mentioned to her what he did for work and she was super impressed, and then he said his wife, me, went to the same graduate school as her, during similar years, giving her a point of conversation with me, as he thought this commonality could change her nonchalant attitude with me. My husband was traveling for work so I did solo pickups for a few weeks, and I bumped into the woman every day, and she stood next to me during pickups or sat next to me

but said nothing to me, and when I was in conversations with other parents she would be close enough to listen. It was eerie and annoyed me and I mentioned it to my husband. He was shocked she didn't even make an introduction after she so quickly made one with him. When my husband got back to pickups with me, one evening he was on the side getting the pram ready while I was with the big baby on the other side of the room. She was entering THR room and had not seen him for weeks and grabbed him on the shoulder to ask how he was, she didn't see me. My husband immediately introduced us and she said she remembered seeing me months ago at an event, which was not true as I see her every day. Since then she actively says hi to my husband and ignores me when

I am alone. She has tried to wait for him to exit with my daughter to walk with him but he completely disregards, ignores her and tries to stonewall her for her behavior to me, am I right to assume she was trying to flirt and develop some relationship with my husband? I am just irked how one woman could try this with a married man, let alone in their children's school. My husband and I hold hands so it's noticeable we are together. I've never experienced this competitive behavior and it's annoying. I almost feel like saying something to her, but my husband says someone so pathetic shouldn't phase me and he will not speak to her again as now he thinks she has issues.

What would you do? More info, my husband and I are uncomfortable with her advances. If it was the other way around and a male parent was consistently trying to approach a female, I think it would not be tolerated. Also, I would really love to confront her but I feel she will completely take the victim card. Sure her life may not have been what she wanted but we really don't care. It's her issue to tackle, but still, I am not enjoying the nursery because of this petty person. I shouldn't let her issues influence me, single parent or not, there should be boundaries,

and if you see people resistant to your advances, you should step back and perhaps have time to rethink what you are doing. It's sad that some people put their own agendas in front of more important things like children. I can't imagine how damaging it will be for her daughter to see her mother do this in school when she begins to understand. I am fine about people doing this in other places but we go to school for our kids not to be in. A singles club, there is Tinder for that. Now just to be clear, I am not territorial, not threatened, and I definitely will not be insecure about someone who behaves this way. I'm just annoyed. There's a thing about manners. I hate it when people judge women, and I try to be the last two, feeling a sense of camaraderie. So I guess I'm

just disappointed. Also, if I wanted to make friends with someone, and their partner was in proximity, I would at least acknowledge the partner's existence. I really think she thought my husband wouldn't care and form some unilateral friendship with her. Maybe that's the point about marriage she doesn't understand. My husband was giving her the benefit of the doubt thinking she was just some lonely parent trying to make conversation the first time they spoke. And he became very uncomfortable when she acted like she had seen me at an event several months prior when he knows she sees me every day.

Since then it has been blatant she was not approaching this via. a friendship context, and he's been avoiding her. I think she was trying to build some emotional connection and now realizes it's not going to happen and is annoyed. I remember one time when my husband had once gone to pick up our daughter, and I was going to meet him a little later, I saw her angrily storming past me with her kiddo in the stroller. My husband said she was waiting around for him to talk and perhaps walk out with her.

He gave her the cold shoulder. I was shocked at how visibly angry she seemed to me. In any case, my husband is also too smart to fall for this, he would never hurt me let alone our family. More so since we talk and we stick up for our partner, even more so now that we have a daughter. Now, I'll end with the irony of it all. There is a weekend class I've enrolled in and paid for our daughter to be in. My husband and I thought it would be a great bonding time and a great skill. And in the nursery, I heard this nutty woman telling her friend she had her daughter in the same class.

I don't want to not go because of her being there as I value my daughter's learning over trifling people. We waited a while on the waiting list to get in. However, it is a super small class. It's almost like dark humor comedy that of all the people in that class, we have to deal with her. Update on single mom flirting with my husband. I actually did end up confronting her. So several months ago she found out where we live, I was speaking to another mother I am friends with at the nurse's who asked me and she was sitting nearby and listening and it was obvious.

I joked to my husband that day watched she moves into our street and last month low and behold she began renting in the building adjacent. This could purely be coincidental but the fact she knew where we live it's weird. My husband also told me that she had tried to set up a play date with him and the baby and he said to go through me, she never did. So now our interactions went from being in the nursery to literally three, four times a day where she ignores me and goes overboard smiling or trying to speak to my husband. My husband finally told her in the nursery I wanted to speak with her because her attempts to go above and beyond to befriend him and behave so poorly and blank me as something very obvious, disrespectful and we don't appreciate

this. I told her the same and that I want her to keep away from my family as her intentions were clear with the rude treatment she is towards me and how over the top she is with him. I was a bit upset and I told her she was in a nursery and not a speed dating event so maybe she should try to be aware of that. She said she was shocked. She said she walked with my husband to the office and that's when they spoke. My husband told me they walked out of the nursery at the same time and walked one block in the same direction and he felt awkward and said goodbye and he would never walk with a stranger to his office. So essentially she lied. A few days later she said she wanted to talk to us. My husband said he didn't have time for her as he's busy with our baby and I spoke to her.

She said she was angry with us and that we would not be friends. Please note for one and half years this woman has not even said hello to me. I said to her thank you for letting me know and I walked away. She looked dumbfounded how I didn't care to respond. So now this is our situation, this relatively weird person in our child's nursery and literally on our block. My husband is super disturbed that she is now living on our block. L.O.L. What did she think we would think it was a pure coincidence and she would have more opportunity and reference point to befriend my husband? It's so strange and if anyone can advise the best way to deal with this rather even more awkward situation it would be great.

I know I shouldn't have confronted her, but it was getting too personal with her being on our block and even more irritating that she was being rude to me now several times a day instead of just the nursery. Thoughts much appreciated. I don't really care but it's hurtful that this person who is a stranger is even in our periphery and I guess I just have to learn to ignore someone so pathetic. Sorry to burden you guys for advice but something about this doesn't feel right and her proximity to us on our street and to our child in the nursery actually disturbs me. She really, really made us feel weird and uncomfortable when she came to the building next door. My friend told me this has the signs of a classic stalker written on it and that's why there

are rules for people to stay away. It scares me and my husband. So hopefully now with my intervention, she will be able to be. will leave us alone, but it is unnerving. Now, she can tell her version of the story to all her friends. She can say that I am an irrational or jealous or whatever wife, but she is the one who moved onto our street and even if she were my friend. Telling me that story, I would raise an eyebrow when I heard that coincidentally she landed on the same street as us. It's just nuts the more I think about it and we've actually wanted to move for a while and this kind of forwards our thinking.

Not because we want to run away, but we don't want someone unstable to ruin our peace each time we leave the house. Finally, I will let the nursery know about all of this. So there is some record. I've already mentioned this to several friends. It's just so weird to be in this situation because, in the back of my head, I don't even want to believe someone could be that unstable, especially in our proximity and in our child's proximity. Anyway, tonight is the school's Christmas party, and last night. year, she came totally made over an address that is not necessarily appropriate for a school function.

Go figure, this must be the highlight of her year to purge dads. We'll see how it all goes. Thanks again for all the comments and ideas they all helped a lot.