Reddit Stories - I GAVE my NUMBER to this girl I met at a RESTAURANT, and

Episode Date: January 11, 2026

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #relationshipadvice #datingstories #restaurantencounters #socialanxiety #firstimpressions  Summary: A man shares his experience of giving his number to a girl he met at a restaurant. He reflects on the nervousness and excitement of the encounter, hoping for a positive response. The story explores themes of vulnerability, connection, and the unpredictability of dating in modern times.  Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, dating, relationships, restaurant, encounters, socialinteraction, anxiety, firstdates, love, connection, vulnerability, experiences, storytelling, advice, opinions, humorBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6816713/support.This episode includes AI-generated content.

I hope you enjoy this story. I gave my number to this girl I met at a restaurant, and she hit me up, suggesting we chill. But then my wife caught the message and now she's accusing me of cheating but I don't think I did anything wrong. All the requirements, ages slash genders, me 33M, wife 32F, am a 20F length of relationship, married seven years, two kids, and one on the way my wife and I had a date night yesterday. We had a reservation at a restaurant, got a sitter for the kids, and went out. The restaurant was overbooked and we ended up getting delayed for almost 45 minutes. While we were waiting for A, I struck up a conversation with a young woman who was out with some friends. My wife ended up going back to the car to make some calls while I waited.

The woman, Emma, and her group were delayed too, so we just talked about that. It turns out she goes to the same school I graduated from so we were talking about it. about that. It was just a nice conversation. I didn't think much of it. I was just being friendly. I had zero plans of anything more. I would never cheat on my wife. Ever. Emma did see my wife and I did introduce my wife to her. My wife made some joking comment about her being my type. I laughed and admitted that she was attractive. My wife and I do this sort of thing all the time. We'll mention if someone is attractive and she knows what my type is and I know hers. We've never cheated on one another and it's just harmless fun.

My wife had no problems with me talking to her while we were waiting. We had a nice meal and I went to grab our car while my wife waited inside. We had to park a couple blocks away so I didn't want her to walk. I ran into the same girl from the restaurant on the walk to the car and I said hi and we talked for a bit. She mentioned that we should get coffee sometime if I wanted to. We had an interesting talk and I thought it would be nice to finish it up sometime. And it was kind of flattering so I didn't want to say no. I gave her my number and she gave me hers.

I brought the car back and my wife and I drove home. On the way home I got a couple texts from this girl saying, Emma, hey, it was nice talking tonight. Much more interesting conversation than my normal friends. Ha, we should deaf hang out together soon. I left my phone on the console and we were using it for directions so my wife saw the text immediately. She absolutely exploded at this and has not calmed down at all. The C word, cheating, has been thrown around by her and she literally started crying.

I did apologize and I promised her I wasn't cheating. The thing is I don't think I messed up at all. I feel like I didn't do anything wrong. I didn't ask for the girl's number. I didn't text her. Did I do anything wrong? Update 1. I'm married, 33M. I've been seeing this girl, Emma, 20F, for the last three weeks.

It's been a pretty intense affair and I really like her, but I'm not leaving my wife and kids. We've just basically been casually dating and talking a lot, having lots of awesome segs and just having a good time. She is aware of my attached status. First on Friday night she told me she loves me and she has never felt this way about anyone. And now her texts to me are full of I love you and less than three you and all of that. It can't work if she feels this way about me. I was only looking for something fun and safe and risk-free. I think it's a little too risky if she feels this way about me.

Before I get flamed for the cheating, I do have my reasons and this is the first slash only time I've cheated. My wife has accused me of cheating for years and I finally reached my breaking point. If I'm going to be accused I may as well do it. I've always had this it to mess around but I've never had the opportunity until now. I really think I got it out of my system, so to speak. Honestly, I've thought about divorce briefly but we do have a family with 2.5 kids, one guy on the way, so it's not really a realistic option. I think the marriage is fixable and once I end the opportunity.

I will focus on making it up to her. My question now too, the sub, is how can I end this affair? I know I have to because Emma is getting way too attached. I have to be careful in how I end it because she really can screw me over by going to my wife. I also want to be sensitive to her feelings because she is a wonderful person who I do have feelings for. If I wasn't married, who knows? But I am and it can't continue and I know that. I just need some advice on finding a way to put an end to this without risking my marriage. Update 2. I debated posting an update or not since the reception I've had on this sub has been icy, at best. But I've already posted my story here so I may as well keep at it. Yes, I'm cheating

so there is that. I understand a lot of people don't support that but just realize it's very complicated and I am trying to put an end to this. I feel like the unluckiest cheater in the world. Everything that can go wrong has gone wrong. Every cliche has basically happened to me. I just wanted to live a little and have that quick affair and get back to my wife in marriage. Asked for advice about a week or so ago. I tried to break up with Emma. I told her my wife was getting suspicious and we both deserved better.

I told her she was an awesome girl and deserved to have someone all for herself. Her response, I'll wait for you. I love you more than I know possible. It's not even been a month of us being together. I ended things with her and she kept texting me and asking me to talk to her. I met up with her on Friday to have a closure-type deal. I'm a horny idiot.

I banged her the back of my Jeep, which sent the wrong, wrong message. I told her we can't do this anymore and didn't talk to her free, sat, son, moaned. or twos. Yesterday she begs me to talk to her, so I go to her place. We end up talking way longer than we should and some things go down. I just wish she would leave me alone. She is clingy and needy and honestly pretty fucking crazy. Not what I signed up for.

I'm like dying under the stress and drama. I have a hormonal, pregnant wife and two young kids. I don't need this shit and the guilt is starting to get at me. I don't know what I'm going to do. I honestly do not even want to continue the affair at this point. I'm not sure what my next move is. Just feel like venting right now. Update 3.

Decided to post an update to this thread since I have made some progress with ending things with Emma and a couple people did request it. Read all the replies and messages last time. But it started to get ugly so I decided to take a step back. My apologies for not responding. Also, just a simple request. No more PM's background is I am a married man that had a one-month affair that I regret deeply. I am working on ending the affair and ending contact with the woman I cheated on my wife with.

I've really struggled with ending things with her. I've tried multiple times to end it since we hooked up and I finally ended things last week. I haven't responded to any of her messages since then and I haven't responded to any of her messages since then and I have have not seen her in person since October 6th. We haven't had SEG since October 3rd. I am still getting messages from her, however. I've been doing a lot of reading and thinking on how to handle a breakup and most of the advice is not geared toward someone in my situation with an affair. I've been trying a lot of different things to end the relationship and I have come to the conclusion that Emma is just crazy. There is no other explanation. My main concerns right now is

ending the affair and ending any emotions I have towards Emma and making sure my wife never finds out. I've stressed to Emma she cannot talk to my wife ever. I don't think Emma is going to talk to my wife since she has never mentioned it. I've also built my wife up as someone who will take it out on her so I think she is afraid of that coming out. It is in the back of my mind though if I push her too far, she won't care and will talk. My problem is I'm still getting texts from her. on a daily basis. It is really, truly unbelievable at this point. We weren't even together for that long.

Some of the texts are harmless. Things like, hey Noah, I was just thinking of you or miss you. Which is okay, I suppose. It's just hard because I asked her not to text me and she keeps up with it. I'm either going to get caught by my wife or succumb again. My reason for posting is yesterday morning, Sunday, she sent me a sultry pick but acted like it was going to someone else. It was her tits with her hands covering them and the text said, last night was super fun, Danny. My name is not Danny. Either she accidentally sent it to me or it was some weird attempt to make me jealous.

Which I admit it did a little. I didn't bite and respond though. I have another post up where someone was telling me I like her attention. which after thinking about it for a bit I have to agree is true. I like that she wants me. That she is in love with me or feels like she is rather. I love that if I wanted I could go and fuck her right now and she would let me. It's addicting and so fucking wrong. I know what is important.

It's my wife and our family. I know that. And I am trying to forget Emma and what we did. I'm just struggling to detox myself of Emma and she is making it so fucking difficult for me by continuing contact. Right now I'm just hoping to vent a little and maybe talk this out. My focus is to keep up no contact with Emma. I debated offering to be friends with her but that is incredibly stupid and tempting and I don't

think that is a good idea. My other goal is to really get to a point of not caring about her. I'm still hooked on her. Every time I jack off I am thinking about her and I am using her picks to help. The hardest part is there in sexual outlet for me right now, and I am a very high-drive person so it's really very alluring to just go and bang her. I don't know how to forget her. And then there is the problem of her suffering from this same thing but seemingly worse.

I haven't told her I am thinking about her but she makes it clear to me that she is thinking about me and wants me. Update 4 I've been posting fairly frequently on this sub about this situation and I wanted to post a last update since a lot of people have taken time to read and advise me. What I've decided to do is contrary to 99% of the advice I've received and I still do have some regrets but I sincerely believe this is the best possible approach. Yes, it is selfish.

No other way to put it. I've tried several times to call off the affair in time and time again. and I haven't been strong enough. Around the last time I posted, I ended up talking to Emma, after a week of no contact, and we fell back into the affair. I have explained some things to her and I have told her that I can't ever leave my wife and that this can't be long term. And I've promised to stop jerking her around so much and I am going to work on being there

for her more. We've been in our relationship 2.0 for about a week now and it's been good. The Sags is great and we are getting into a moment. more comfortable routine. I am working hard to be better to her. It's been nice. We see each other almost every day and we talk regularly. Some logistics things need to be worked out but I think we are in a relationship that is mutually beneficial. I don't want this to go on forever though and I will work on repairing our marriage too. I'm trying to do more to help my wife with our kids and take some pressure off her. This isn't a decision I've made easily and it's not even something I am proud of.

I just know I'm not strong enough to not cheat. It's too easy and too tempting and honestly, too much fun. I know still that I do love my wife and I do love our family and I don't want a divorce. I've thought what I would do if my wife found out. I've obsessed about what would happen and I think I would beg my wife for a second chance. I would confess and end this but there are certain reasons why the affair helps me right now, primal reasons, and I don't think my wife would just forgive me if I admitted to cheating. I've actually brought it up subtlety by talking about Arnold and my wife's opinion on him is extremely harsh. So I can't imagine how she would feel about me, her own husband. I think it's very complicated all of this. It's never so simple.

I always thought someone should never cheat, they should leave. But it's not that easy. There are so many complications. It's not that simple. Thanks to everyone who has chimed in with comments and advice. I especially appreciate the kind PMs I received in the last couple weeks. And thanks to the harsher comments too. I needed to be blasted a lot and the verbal lashings have helped me with managing my guilt in a way. Next story, neighbor constantly borrow things, then asked me to watch her dog.

When I said no, she left for a part of her. anyway and tied the dog to my gate, and texted me saying it should sleep in my bed while she's gone. I, 31F, moved into a new house two months ago. I have three young kids, this is important later, at first my neighbor was very nice and popped in once in a while to see how we are settling in. This was fine. Now her and her daughter, 23, are calling in two-thirds times a day asking to borrow something or for me to do them a favor. It is never anything huge, but it is really annoying. I have tried not answering the door, but they walk around the house peering into windows until they get the aforementioned children's attention and they will

ask the kids to answer the door. I have told them that I am very busy and don't have time, nothing changed. I have tried to be nice but firm, but I am really quiet and non-confrontational, as an I am this house for at least the next two years I don't want to fight with them. The last straw was today when the mother asked me to mine their dog for today, tonight and all day tomorrow so she could go out to a party. I said no. I have two cats, they disliked dogs greatly, she came back twice more. I stuck by my guns and refused. She tied the dog on my gate and went to her party.

What the hell read it? Help. How do I, nicely, make her go away? Edit, thank you all for answering, I really didn't expect so many responses. You guys are great. I kept the dog inside last night because it wasn't her fault and I felt guilty leaving it out. The dog didn't settle. At all.

I finally got asleep at half five this morning so I am just exhausted. I have had enough and am going to have it out with her today. I have decided to tell her that her damn dog kept me up all night, and the next time that she pulls that stunt she won't see the dog again. I will call the ISPCA, she doesn't need to know that. I am also going to tell her that I have had enough of her and she isn't welcome anymore. If she knocks on my door again I am calling the police. I will update on the reaction and whether it works or not. On a side note I am bloody terrified. Thanks again to everyone. comments where OPP has replied, comment one, you will not be able to nicely make her go away.

If nice was a word in her lexicon, she wouldn't do shit like you posted. Take photos of her peering in your windows. Next time she walks around your property off sidewalk call the police for trespassing. She's exhibiting stalker-like behaviors. Oop, I am going to tell her not to call in anymore as I am very busy and she is too much with her requests, but in Smaller words, she is not a smart man. Thank you, I need to grow a pear comment too, not sure about how to make her go away but in terms of being left with dog you should take it to a kennel or a dog sitter and leave

her with the bill. It is not okay to leave a pet with someone else when they explicitly said no three times, especially when they have legit reason, as you do. Oop, thank you, I just text her and said that I was putting the dog outside for the night. She said no, she can sleep in your bed. What? Comment 3, you text her back and tell her no. You don't want a dog in your bed or in your house.

If she wants it to sleep in a bed, she should not have went anywhere and left it with someone who said they couldn't take care of it. The dog will be outside when she gets back. You can let the dog stay inside if it is behaved and you feel bad for it, but get up early and Ty is outside so she thinks it stayed out all night. I know you don't want to be rude but stop being. her doormat. Tell the kids they are not allowed to open the door for anyone and there will be punishment if they do. If she asks to borrow things make a notebook and have her sign for

what she borrows. More than one unreturned item means sorry, you still have not returned this thing and I need it, I can't let you have anything else until I get this back. She wants to borrow a few eggs. Ask for a cup of sugar. Put up curtains she can't see through. Or write notes and tape them in the windows. Please don't peek through my windows I didn't answer the door because I am busy, try back in an hour. If she wants stop calling, answer the phone and give it to the youngest most unable to speak child and tell them to talk about whatever they are excited about. My nephew can rattle on about hot wool cars all day. She asks you for help. Sure I can get to that in about two weeks. She just comes over to chat and be nosy. Rope her into whatever task you are

on. Sure I can talk but I need to get these clothes folded. Would you mind doing those towels for me while we talk? Or hand her a towel and a wet dish-oop, I text her back and said she is outside, if you are not home by 10 a.m. I will be living her outside your house as I have plans and will not be home. I have the kids warned not to open the door. I tried the cleaning plan before, I saw her walk up the driveway so I started vacuuming, she knocked, I ignored it, she walked around the house and got in the back door, I forgot to lock it, and she stood in the kitchen for 40 minutes as I hoovered the, already clean, house. When I finished, she was still there and it was time for me to collect the kids from school, I got my keys and she asked for a ride to the shop.

I said no, it's in the opposite direction of the school, and she got angry. I should point out it's a 10-minute walk to the shop. I left her fuming on my doorstep, where I found her when I came back 30 minutes later. This is the level of crazy we are dealing with. When told to call animal control, I am in Ireland. They work from 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. It's almost 7 p.m. here. Looks like I am stuck with this bloody thing for the night update one. First of all, thank you everyone who answered, I hadn't expected such a response. You guys are Brill. I can't thank you enough for your suggestions and advice. The dog kept us awake all night, no matter what I tried it would not sleep or even shut up. I finally got asleep at half five that morning. So when the neighbor,

I'm calling her Mary, rocked in yesterday afternoon to ask for some milk I was fit to KLL. I had left the dog tied to her gate at 10 a.m. and sent her a text saying the same. She didn't reply or mention it when she knocked at the door. I had locked the front door and warned her. I had locked the front door the kids not to open it. When I opened it she tried to walk in by me. I didn't say anything but didn't let her in. Mary said, how was the dog for you? Isn't she a pet? I told her that no the dog was not a pet, it had been a nightmare, that we had gotten no sleep. She replied that if I had just let the dog sleep in my bed under the covers it would have been fine. And the next time I should let her into my bed. I kind of saw red at that point, I don't let my kids

sleep in my bed, never mind the damn dog. I told her there would not be a next time and that if she ever left her dog tied to my gate again, the dog would disappear. She stood silently with her mouth open. I went on to tell her that I was not the type of person to ask for favors from people I didn't know, and I don't expect it to be done to me. And I finished by telling her that while I hoped we could continue to get on, she was not welcome in my house uninvited or to ask me to do something for her. She stormed off. That was yesterday, I haven't seen her since. But the day is young. Update 2, hi guys, I haven't updated for a while cause things have been a bit crazy. Again, I want to thank you all for your messages, support and advice. You guys are the best. After I had it out

with her she backed off, big time. For a while. For around a week she didn't come near me. You guys are the best. which was awesome. But, she isn't the sharpest tool in the box, so it didn't last long. Last week she was having a party and came in to invite us in. I said no, thanks. I should point out that she hadn't spoken to me since I told her that I wouldn't be taking her dog again, so the invitation was completely out of the blue and honestly a bit weird. Anyway, the party was last Friday night.

She must have tried to call in when I was collecting the kids from school, because when I got home there was a note that said party starting at six. Bring kids. Mary. I didn't. The party started and went on and on and on. At 12 o'clock I went in and asked her to turn the music down. It was blaring into her back garden and my kids' bedrooms around the back of our house. She said, Oh, high name underscore game, come on in. I told her no, thank you, please just turn the music down, my kids can't sleep. She didn't, and instead I suggested that I get the kids, and my husband and we all go to the party. At midnight, she thought it was a good idea to bring my kids into a house full of drunk strangers.

Really? Anyway, I went in twice more to ask her to turn down the music, then I gave up and called the police. When the cops arrived they turned it down for about five minutes. Long story short, this happened a few times. The music was finally turned off at half past four. I met her the next day as I was getting into my car, she said, oh, I hope that music didn't bother you last night. I told her, of course, it had bothered me, I had called into her numerous times and resorted to calling the police.

She said, well, I turned it off at one o'clock. I said no, it was half past half past her. for. She said, well, at least it was good music. Really? Anyway, I told her that if it happened again I would be speaking to her landlord. She hasn't spoken to me since. It seems to be going in cycles, she pushes her luck, gets given out too, sulks for a week or two and then does it again. We can't afford to move for another year or two so I am stuck with the crazy bitch for a while. I think that I just need to accept that I have a really horrible, selfish neighbor and this behavior is just going to continue until I can afford to move. Update 3. Hi all, I'm OOP. I love this sub and was a bit shocked to see my post in it. I'd long forgotten about it and really should have updated. I hope it's okay to do it here. I was going through a lot at that time. My kids were young, my husband was back in college, and we were trying to recover from the recess.

I think Mary could see I was non-confrontational and in a bad place and thought that I was an easy target. My husband had lost his job and was in college, but was going through a mental health crisis during this time so I was essentially dealing with it alone while trying to hold everything in my house together she continued asking for things and trying to call in. I locked the gate and door and stopped opening it if I wasn't expecting someone. She started messaging me on Facebook, I blocked her. It went like that for a while. And she slowly stopped trying. Occasionally she'd see me out with the kids and come over to try get me to do something or tell me some big drama she was having, presumably to make me feel sorry for her, but I just gray rocked her. In the meantime I met a few

other neighbors, I tend to keep to myself, who told me this was her tactic with anyone new and most of them didn't speak to her. The cold shoulder eventually worked, it was slow though. But for about a year I had peace. Then she moved out, well done to the person in the comments who said they'd never met an Irish person who acted like that, she was an Irish, and went back to her home country. I am still in that house, 15 years later. My husband is much better, my kids are all in college. My new neighbor is lovely, we say a few words to each other when we see each other, and when it was her child's communication she dropped in cake and wine as there was going to be a party and she said, she wanted to make sure I didn't mind the noise.

There was no noise I noticed.