Reddit Stories - My FRIEND COPPED a crib close to mine to CHILL, but then she

Episode Date: January 13, 2026

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #friendship #relationships #drama #conflict #chill  Summary: My friend moved into a crib nearby to hang out more often. Initially, it was great, but soon, tensions arose due to differing lifestyles and expectations. What started as a fun idea turned into a complicated situation, leading to misunderstandings and a reevaluation of our friendship dynamics.  Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, friendship, relationships, drama, conflict, chill, lifestyle, misunderstandings, reevaluation, dynamics, social, community, advice, support, stories, experiencesBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6816713/support.This episode includes AI-generated content.

I hope you enjoy this story. My friend copped a crib close to mine to chill, but then she got mad when I bounced after my fiancé did me dirty, so I let her vibe with me. Bridesmaid at my wedding, but she got drunk and slept with a married groomsman. About a month ago I, 36F, realized that every time I saw a post from her, 37F, it made me upset. I realized we don't even live in the same state, and I don't want to let her have control over my emotions any longer. Backstory, we worked together about 10 years ago, for two years. When we met

she was very negative and controlling, constantly telling me how to make decisions in my life. Things like not getting a dog because I wouldn't care for it, well ha because my pupper will be seven this Halloween. At the same time she seemed idolize me and said I was her best friend almost immediately. After only knowing her for two weeks she became upset and started crying because I didn't invite her to a girl's night from a group of girls that I have known from high school. She said she didn't have a lot of friends and she thought I was a really awesome person. She begged me to invite her on anything I did, and would bring up any instance of me doing something without inviting her and make me feel guilty about it.

Okay, I thought, everybody struggles sometimes maybe she's just looking for some friends. About three months after I met her she started dating a guy from work. Cool, I thought. Perhaps it's the pickup she needs to feel better, raise herself esteem a little too. Fast forward a year and a half. My friend insisted I was a bridesmaid, one of two, for her and Guy's wedding. Okay, cool. She and hubby buy a house a mile and a half from my house I own, loudly proclaiming it was there were much better houses,

but we got this one because we were so close now. Oh, M.G. Okay. Fast forward six months. My fiancé cheats on me and I leave him and sell the house. My friend is furious with me, screaming and telling me that I've abandoned her, and that I'm an awful friend, and she never would have bought a house there if she knew I was going to move. There's no point in her living here and now we aren't two couples and so forth. Fast forward about a year again, I'm healthy and happy and I meet an awesome Brazilian man.

We date and move farther away. She moves to another state. I decide to marry the hot Brazilian and stupid me lets her guild trip me into letting her be a bridesmaid. My soon-to-be husband invites his huge family, about 50 people travel just from his side alone. She insists to her husband on coming to my wedding alone, even though it's clear that I'm also friends with him. She misses her first flight, causing someone to have to leave the rehearsal dinner to pick her up, about 45 minutes away, instead of earlier that morning. She gets so drunk at the rehearsal dinner that a group of us carried her back up to her hotel room afterwards.

At the reception she continues sloppy drinking and ends up in bed with a married groomsman from Brazil. After she's missing for about an hour other guests find her and alert me, causing the whole wedding to come crashing to a stop while more than 100 people ask each other, but isn't she married? Especially frustrating after earlier in the night she insisted we let her dance alone the anniversary dance, because she wouldn't let her husband attend. She's scowling and making angry faces in every wedding picture, even during her bridesmaid's speech, that she insisted on giving. Fast forward a year and my husband and I are happily married. She left her American husband and is trying to immigrate to Brazil where the dude is.

She constantly complains about how things are not going well or she is somehow wronged in any particular situation. Nothing is her fault. She blamed her ex-husband for their divorce. and never told him that she cheated on him at my wedding. So yeah, if she's got no idea why I removed her, then she's completely oblivious. Is it even worth responding? I feel like if you don't have anything nice to say, why light the pot on fire, you know? Comments where op has replied, comment one, where's the part where she's bothering your family? Oop, she basically started

texting my sister and brother, and then my mom because she's worried. Comment two, hasn't your mom been dead for 12 years? Boop, stepmom, to get technical. She's been remarried for almost 11 years now. Comment three, I would have avoided her in the second paragraph where she was very negative and controlling. Op sounds like a dormant. Up, after 25 years with a narcissistic controlling mother, 12 years after her death, I am realizing now that you are correct. Comment four, she is a narcissist. You won't ever get through to her, so don't even waste your energy. Oop, unfortunately I feel like that's how I let it go on. She filled the narcissist hole in my life after my mom died about 12 years ago.

Very interesting I never considered this, thank you. Update, so first, thank you for every comment and suggestion. Even though I was very confused as to what to do for the first few days after my post, I knew I needed to say something. About two weeks after I posted here she sent a message to my sister saying that I'm a lot of trouble and that after my last relationship ended I forgot what was important, her. She told my sister I was jealous because her Brazilian man is hotter than mine. What?

My husband? Three weeks after my post, she sent me a direct message saying she supported me through a lot, and I wouldn't have made it without her and I owe her an explanation. I decided this was the time. I'm thankful for the replies to my previous post because the words flowed much easier than I thought they would. I told her I've realized our relationship was not healthy from the beginning. I think it's time we go our separate ways. I wish you the best.

Her reply was her listing all the times she's helped me, including putting me in her wedding, L.O.L. to the guy she cheated on with at my wedding, and including a different time she helped me by inviting herself last minute on a road trip that she didn't want to go on and complain the whole weekend. She was obviously upset, and she sent 10 or 12 long messages before she stopped. She also posted seven or eight passive-aggressive real friends are. Posts on Facebook. As told to me by friends, then she showed up at my dad's house that evening, very, very drunk.

She was standing on the porch screaming that they tell her the truth. My stepmom ended up calling the police after about 15 minutes when it looked like she wasn't leaving. They didn't open the door. Two officers arrived and she proceeded to yell at them. She was arrested. The officers gave my dad their info, mentioned restraining orders and left. No contact from her since then. Damn, I'm glad I don't live near her anymore. Comments where Op has replied, comment one, she couldn't handle the truth. Oh, O-op, ha ha ha, omg, hadn't thought about that movie. idiot. Comments too, is there any chance that she was in love with you? I just mention it because

this all seems like the responses of someone with hidden love feelings that they just don't know how to deal with, and mental health issues. Oh-op, this is something more than one person has said to me over the years after her weird outbursts about plans I made without her. Comment three, you know what's funny? I had read that old post a month ago, and thought she was psycho for buying a home next to yours and blaming you for selling it after your fucking engagement broke. And look, I've found your update post today. Such a small Reddit world. Anyway, glad you got out of that friendship. Some girlfriends sometimes take platonic friendships to be like. Soulmate relationships. Skeptical it's creepy, but very sad that they can't set boundaries and have

healthy relations with people. Good luck to you, op. Also, beware. in the meanwhile. Some people can't get over rejection and may not drop the crazy for a while. O-O-P, thank you, Reddit friend. I wasn't sure if update was necessary, but it was because of that post that I decided to grow a pair. Plus I can't make this shit up. It is so ridiculous. Comment 4. That was a sad ending. Oh, O-O-P, I don't know. Maybe it's the wake-up call she needs to realize her actions aren't healthy. I hope, for others in her life. Comment 5. What about her family? Do they know about her behavior? OOP, she's an only child, and her family is on the other side of the country. I doubt they

know what's going on. She never really contacted them, and never invited them to her wedding. Comment 6, probably, but that is her own fault. Clearly, as she drove them all away by being an asshole. Oh-op, this is the impression I get. She doesn't have long-term friends. Next story, told my fiancé that my property and savings stays separate in our prenup. Then days before meeting with lawyers he said he's not okay with it anymore and wants to scrap both pre-ups, because my plan makes it seem like I have one foot out the door. I have always had a backup plan. My backup plan includes a place to live, money for general expenses and a rainy day fund.

It's more complicated than that, but that the gist of it. I like having it and I have explained to previous partners that I have won and I let me them decide if they're okay with it. My fiancé knew this before he started dating me exclusively. He knew that if we ever got married, I would require a prenuptial agreement and a request that this backup plan stays intact. A couple days ago, he told me he wasn't okay with this plan any longer. I don't think that's fair.

He comes from a wealthy family and the prenuptial agreement protects him and I should have something that protects me. I'm actually finding myself really angry about this because I was an open book about this every step of the way and now I feel like he's changed his mind. He says that having this plan makes it seem like I will leave him while I think it protects me. I'm annoyed because it's not fair to me to change your mind when you knew my expectations from the very beginning.

Edit, I put this post up because I was annoyed that he essentially told me this on Friday minutes before our meeting with the lawyers. I was an am annoyed, but he follows my Reddit account so throw away. I don't tell every person about this plan, only ones that I've gotten serious with, which is a grand total of two. The backup plan is complicated, but it doesn't screw him over in any way. It protects me and I would be paying for the property and still contributing the same amount that he would be to our household expenses and savings. Now that he knows what the plan entails in depth, he wants to just not sign anything on both sides. This is a bad idea.

I would be unprotected, but so would he, and he is way more than I do. He feels like I have one foot out the door. I don't. I love him but my dad is a divorce lawyer and from what I've heard and seen, better to protect yourself and not need it than no protection and then have to pick up the pieces. Both of our parents agree that a prenuptial is needed. I'm not getting rid of this plan. There is not anything that would make me compromise about this.

I told him he has a decision to make because I'm not changing my mind. Yes, I told him about this post as more people have seen it. Rather, he finds out about it from me than someone else or just being on Reddit. Update, I am making an update because I had people keep messaging me asking about it. When I made the first post, I was angry because I felt like I had been deceived. I was honest with my fiancé from the start and I felt like he had pulled the wool over my eyes, but I understand his perspective now and he understands mine. It never crossed our minds to break up and I think we both needed some time to think.

I understand this is Reddit, but please don't bash my partner. I understand I was vague, but to call him names and try to tear down his character when you don't know him is not okay. I also don't know why I am clarifying things. It's honestly a little therapeutic. To clarify some things about my backup plan, I called it that because I started it at 25. I have had it for about 10 years now. I'm in my mid-30s. It is an emergency savings account, another savings account, and a property I own. I use my main job to pay for my household expenses with my fiancé and also to fill my main savings. I have a trust but also investments

as well but my dad helps me handle those. The emergency savings is only money from additional contract jobs I take on in my profession. The other savings account is only money from rental income, some of which I use to maintain the property and pay my dad back. The property is a multifamily home and I rent out all the units but one. The property was bought by my dad when I was 24 and I had been paying him back the purchase price with no interest for a couple of years now. The property is worth a great amount now, but my dad would only accept what he paid for it for me. He took out a loan for me because he wanted me to be set up financially. I'm paying him back even though he already paid the loan off a long

time ago. There's no way I would be able to buy that property now or even five years ago since house prices have skyrocketed where I live and I'm grateful that my dad did that for me. I will finally pay off the loan in about eight months and before I get married. It's taken me so long to pay my dad back because he insisted that I prioritized setting myself up financially rather than paying him back. the property is also a 15 minutes walk to the nearest hospital and close to the city center so it is easy to rent out to medical students. I keep one unit open because of events. I make a killing when there are events or when big artists tour and two examples are the recent Beyonce and Taylor Swift tours where I made a lot on the days they were in my city. If there are no events where I think I can

make a good amount, I rent it out to travel nurses in three to four month periods once or twice a year. but realistically, there could be a couple weeks or two to three continuous months during the year where it sits empty. Overall, though, I make a substantial amount from this property. I can't take credit for this strategy because my dad is the one who helped me set up the apartments and manage it. My partner and I come from vastly different economic backgrounds. His family has generational wealth and he can't remember a time they didn't. I grew up firmly middle class until my parents' divorce and then it was a struggle. for a while. His home life was relatively stable with a mom and dad. On the other hand, my dad

tried his best, but my birth mom made my childhood tumultuous both emotionally and mentally. The difference with how we think about money became very noticeable when we were planning our wedding. We had been discussing what type of flowers we would like and then I started talking about the budget and stated that I thought 30 to 40K was good overall to pay for a wedding and an amount where we could easily afford it. He thought I meant 30 to 40K for flowers and he and his parents didn't budget the amount and just said okay. I clarified what I meant and I would never ever pay that amount for just flowers.

When it comes to the plan, my fiancé knew about it as soon as we were exclusive. I don't agree with people saying I shouldn't have told him. To protect my assets and the prenuptial agreement, I had to. I also told him because I felt he deserved to know. as we got more serious, especially with marriage, I told him more after talking to my dad and finding out what was okay to say so that he understood the extent of the plan. The reason I kept saying the backup plan was complicated was due to the pre-nupt my dad came up with. It is very long and protects me very well and my fiancé was, in his view, not prepared for the extent of it.

My dad and I went to this extent due to what he had seen people do in divorces but also mainly due to his divorce that affected us both. It didn't help that I further joked that my dad tried to cover for any loopholes, including asking his associates to look over the document and revising it if one was found. What I saw as protection, my fiancé saw as me having an out since my dad went to such an extent. The short part of it is that my fiancé was insecure about it. He grew up with a dad as the breadwinner and he was raised with this idea that he should be a provider and my plan rattled him because it showed him that financially I didn't really need him. He told me he didn't realize how much of himself he had tied into this provider role and felt extremely insecure because he didn't

know what he now brought to the relationship. When he found out about the sometimes empty unit, he felt more uneasy because he, even though I have and will always have a job, wanted and planned to take care of me. His idea of scrapping both pre-nups was his way of trying to say that he trusted me and that I should trust him. If he was willing to go without a pre-up knowing I could get a substantial amount of his assets, then it would show me that he would never try to hurt me financially or otherwise. I told him I saw it at the time as extremely manipulative due to him doing it before we met with the lawyers and he apologized because he honestly just panicked. I explained the reasons I wanted a pre-nup. The first was because I was with him when his brother

got a divorce and, to put it nicely, the brother's ex-wife financially got eviscerated. I'm not going to talk about their relationship, but financially, she just kept being taken back to court over and over until she said she couldn't afford a lawyer anymore. From the way his brother bragged about it, she wasn't left destitute, but she paid a significant amount in legal fees and left with a far smaller settlement. His family would have bankrupted her because they had the wealth to wait her out. They could have gone to court forever and they had a pre-nup. His brother's divorce was never on his radar as a reason why I was so persistent about the pre-up. Basically what I said was there was a disparity in wealth here and I know he would never do this to me but I would feel better protected

with one. The second reason is that though my dad is a divorce lawyer and upper middle class now, he went through a pretty bad divorce with my birth mom and I witnessed it for three years. My dad is first generation, married young and had no pre-up. What I saw from 9 to 12 was my birth mom I no longer consider her a parent, completely tried to annihilate my dad and she didn't care that her child's well-being was on the line. She didn't care what financial damage she did even to herself as long as my dad suffered. I'm talking wiping out savings, taking loans, and maxing out credit cards, getting tickets and getting the car towed by parking in an incorrect place and leaving the car to accumulate fees. She called CPS, said my dad was a pedophile, and turned on me

when I wouldn't back up her lies and all of this financially devastated my dad for years during and after the divorce. We were struggling for years and I think people don't realize how quickly you can go from stable, even upper class to nearly homeless or homeless. People don't realize if you have never been in that position before how an ugly divorce not only devastates people financially but also socially and professionally. My dad lost clients and lost income and it took many years to rebuild it back. We only survived because my grandmother dad sighed, sold her home. I told my fiancé that I basically went from having a parent who showed me love for nine years to a person who hated me and decided to destroy two people my dad and me, because a marriage ended.

There was no way to stop her and a pre-nup could have stopped a lot of the financial damage. I again told him I knew he wouldn't do this to me, but I needed him to understand where I was coming from. Also, if anyone reading this says I'm damaged from this and should have been in therapy from age nine, I know but it's hard to pay for therapy when you're poor. It is the last priority over having a roof over your head and food and basic necessities. I did get into therapy when I was 19. My fiancé and I talked over several days and any time he had a question or needed clarification, I answered it. I didn't realize how much seeing the extensive pre-nup affected him and he didn't realize why I was so insistent on it.

Overall, he knows that though I love and trust him, that I have to protect myself and he should too. He knows why I'm insistent on signing a pre-nup, but also knows that I'm choosing to be with him based on who he is as a person and not what he can provide for me. I now understand why he felt insecure and I have tried to alleviate that and I'm constantly reassuring him of the reasons I'm with him.

I also asked him to come see the property and unit with me and he was really excited about that. I told him that I don't plan on us breaking up ever and I have a plan for leaving the assets to our future children. Finally, I really see how, when it comes to people he loves, he leads with emotion while I'm more logical so we both are going to try to be more mindful of that as we move forward. We both finally signed the pre-ups and his only stipulation was to stop calling mine a backup plan and instead call it A. I'm never going to need this plan. We are good and I'm glad this happened because it showed both of us that we need to work on our communication more outside of our our counseling. We are going to keep planning our wedding and I'm excited to begin this next

part of our lives together.