Reddit Stories - My GIRL'S man was CHEATING, then CRASHED his ride on the way to

Episode Date: January 14, 2026

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #cheating #relationshipdrama #crash #betrayal #dramaSummary: A woman discovers her boyfriend's infidelity just before he crashes his vehicle while rushing to meet her. The incident raises questions about trust, loyalty, and the consequences of betrayal in relationships. Friends and family weigh in on the situation, leading to a dramatic confrontation and difficult decisions.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, cheating, relationshipadvice, drama, betrayal, heartbreak, love, trust, infidelity, relationships, lifeadvice, personalstories, emotional, conflict, advice, storiesBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6816713/support.This episode includes AI-generated content.

If you prefer to listen to the episodes without ads, you can now subscribe on Apple Podcasts for just $2 per month. This is a limited time offer. I hope you enjoy this story. My girl's man was cheating, then crashed his ride on the way to see her on the side. Now my mom wants me to fib and claim he was getting meds for me so that the family looks good, but I refused and told everyone the truth. I have seen so many posts of people asking for advice and sharing whatever has happened, and now I need advice from a stranger, because honestly things have been so complicated lately.

I, 28F, am currently dealing with what seems like a lifetime of drama squeezed into a couple of weeks. My husband, Noah, 30M, has been cheating on me for who knows how many months with a woman named Stella, 22F. I found out about the affair two months ago in the most cliche way possible. Noah left his phone unlocked on the kitchen table while I was cleaning up after dinner. I was not snooping, Stella's notification popped up on the screen, and I noticed it. One click led to another, and I discovered their entire text history, like explicit messages, photos, and plans to meet up at hotels. It looked like something out of a bad soap opera. When I confronted Noah, I had no idea what to expect, but I was not prepared for the way he

reacted. He did not make an effort to argue with what I was saying. He just sat there, aloof, almost as a if I was bothering him with some minor issue. It was as if I had caught him eating the last cookie, rather than confronting him about ruining our marriage. There was no guilt or sadness, nothing. It was a completely blank stare. I felt an overwhelming sense of anger and frustration all at once. He eventually spoke, but what he said made no sense. He said that he had felt disconnected and needed excitement. I honestly could not understand what he was saying because it sounded like he was talking about a game he had lost, not the fact that he cheated on me. It sounded hollow as if he was giving me a dumb excuse to avoid taking responsibility. It was disappointing. At that point,

I realized there was nothing else to discuss. I did not need to hear any more of his excuses. I told him to pack his things and leave. The next day, he moved into a friend's house. I contacted a lawyer to start the divorce process. I knew it would not be easy. but I was done. That should have been the end of it, right? Nope. Things went from bad to worse. Leaving, Noah ended up in a car accident. He was driving to meet Stella when he ran a red light and was teaboned by another car. He was very lucky to make it out with only a broken arm and a concussion, but his car was totaled. When I found out, I had absolutely nothing to say. There was simply no anger or pity, I was just like, okay. Maybe that makes me sound cold, but I was already

emotionally exhausted by what was happening. Here is where my mill, Hannah, 54F, comes into the picture. Hannah has always been a bit, too much. She is the type of woman who cares way too much about appearances and believes that problems should be ignored and shoved under the rug rather than dealt with. When Noah and I married, she would constantly criticize me, my cooking, my job, and even how I decorated our home. But she always managed to wrap it up in a way that sounded like helpful advice. I put up with her for Noah's sake, but we were never really close. After Noah's accident, Hanna called me and asked me to visit him in the hospital. I politely declined. I was not interested in playing the role of the doting wife when my husband had been

driving to see his mistress. She wanted me to pretend everything was fine for Noah's sake. She said that he was already going through so much and that adding marital stress would delay his recovery. I told her, in no uncertain terms, that I was not going to lie or put my life on hold for someone who had cheated on me. When Noah was hospitalized after his accident, Hannah called me, but I was done listening to her. I had already made my decision to leave Noah and was not going to play along with any more of her manipulative tactics. She tried to act like she was concerned for Noah's well-being, but I knew it was just a cover for her real worry, how things looked to the family and outside world. She kept calling, asking me to visit Noah in the hospital, but I could not bring myself to do it. I knew she was

more concerned with appearances than actually caring about me or Noah. I had enough, so I blocked her phone number. I did not want to be drawn back into her trying to cover up Noah's affair and make everything seem perfect when it was not. But that did not stop her. Over the next few days, she tried to contact me over texts, voicemails, and even messages from other family members. She was relentless, constantly attempting to convince me to do the right thing and make peace with Noah for the sake of family. It was clear that she was trying to keep up appearances, and cared more about how things looked and not what was actually happening. The next thing I knew, she was organizing a family intervention. She showed up to my house to invite me. At first, I refused to go to the

meeting. After everything with Noah, I did not want to be part of any family drama, especially not after his affair. I told her I was not interested, but she would not let it go. She insisted it was important for me to be there for Noah's sake and kept pushing, saying it would look bad if I did not show up. She guilt tripped me, telling me the family was worried and that my presence would help keep things calm. At first, I remained firm, but the more she asked, the more guilty I felt. Eventually, I gave in and agreed to attend while making it clear that I would not lie or pretend everything was fine. Hanna invited me, Noah, and several members of his extended family over to her

house under the guise of a family meeting. His two sisters, Sarah, 32F, and Emily, 26F, and their husbands were also there. She did not tell me what it was about, but I had a gut feeling it was not going to be good. When I arrived, his sisters and their husbands were already seated in the living room, looking awkward and uncomfortable. Noah was there too, looking sheepish with his arm in a sling. Hannah started off with a dramatic speech about how every marriage goes through rough patches and how it's important to stick together as a family. Then she turned to me and said, we need to come up with a united story for why Noah was driving that night. I genuinely thought I had misheard her. She wanted me to lie to everyone, to friends.

family, even the police, about why Noah was out at 11 p.m. Apparently, she had already told a few people that Noah was on his way to pick up medicine for me because I was sick. Now she wanted me to back up her story to protect Noah's reputation. That is when it hit me, this was not a family meeting, it was an intervention for me. She did not want to address Noah's actions or his affair. She wanted everyone to team up and pressure me into going along with her fake story. The other audacity was unbelievable. She was not asking me to forgive Noah or work on our marriage, she just wanted me to pretend everything was fine so no one would know the truth. I could not believe she thought I would go along with it. Worse, she tried to spin it as something I owed Noah

after his accident, as if his injuries erased the months of lies and betrayal. Eventually, more of the extended family, Noah's grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, started to show up. Hannah still kept talking about how everyone should be there for Noah. As Hannah went on, I realized she was using the whole family as an audience to put more pressure on me. She even talked about how much Noah needed support right now and how a united front would help him recover faster. At that point, I could not help but laugh. Not just a polite chuckle, but full-on, tears streaming down my face laughter. Her demand was so outrageous that I felt as if I were in a strange alternate reality, Everyone else in the room was horrified, but I just could not stop.

When I finally caught my breath, I asked Hannah why she was so invested in covering up Noah's affair. That is when I told everyone what happened. I explained that his late-night drive was not about picking up medicine for me, as Hannah claimed, but was actually to meet a 22-year-old woman he had been having an affair with. I was not guessing, I had proof. I told them how I discovered the affair by seeing texts and photos on Noah's phone. When I confronted him, he did not deny it. He admitted everything, including how long it had been going on. I also revealed that Hannah had been calling me repeatedly since the accident,

begging me to go along with her story to protect Noah and the family's image. She was not worried about Noah or me, she only cared about keeping the truth hidden so it would not ruin their reputation. The entire room went silent. You could have heard a pin drop. Sarah and Emily looked as if they had been slapped. Their husbands exchanged awkward looks. Noah simply stared at the floor, his face went white. And Hannah? She appeared furious.

She began sputtering about how I was vindictive and airing dirty laundry in front of the family, but no one supported what she was saying. Sarah even whispered something about how Hannah had interfered in other people's problems before. I did not stay to see what happened next. I grabbed my bag and walked out. Since then, I have received several messages from Noah's family. Most of them have been supportive, apologizing for what happened and admitting they had no idea things were this bad.

But Hannah? She is furious. She called me spiteful and accused me of trying to tear her family apart. As for Noah, he has been quiet, likely too ashamed to say anything to me. Now I am questioning whether or not I went too far. Part of me feels like I was right, Hannah was completely out of line, and no one needed to face the consequences of his actions. But another part of me wonders if I could have handled things better. Maybe I should not have discussed everything in front of the entire family.

Maybe I could have spoken with Hannah privately rather than embarrassing her in front of everyone. So, what do you guys think? Ida for exposing my mill's lies and my husband's affair in front of the entire family instead of dealing with it in private? Update 1, hey, so it has been about three weeks since my post, so here is an update. Since the fallout from everything that happened, things have been pretty quiet. Sarah and Emily, Noah's sisters, reached out to me after the family meeting, and honestly, I was not sure what to expect. They apologized for their mom, Hannah's, behavior. They did not know how bad things had gotten between Noah and me.

They told me that their mom had pulled similar stunts before, always trying to keep up a perfect image, no matter what was happening behind closed doors. Sarah shared some details about their family with me. Apparently, their family was a disaster. There was constant fighting, and their father had cheated on Hannah several times over the years. Despite the cheating and fighting, Hannah never even thought about divorce. She was obsessed with appearances and did not want anyone to know that things were falling apart at home.

It was not about love or respect for her marriage. It was about how the family appeared to other people. Eventually, their dad asked for a divorce, but Hannah did not want to give it to him. She refused for a long time because she could not accept that her perfect image might crumble. It was not until their dad completely cut ties with her and moved on that she reluctantly agreed to the divorce. I could not believe it. Even then, she did not fight for their marriage because she wanted to fix things. She did it because she was forced to.

It all made sense now. Sarah said that is what she meant when she said Hannah had done similar things before. She had been covering up her family's problems for years, making everything seem perfect even when it was not. It was like a constant act, and she never really cared about anyone's feelings as long as the family looked good on the outside. They told me they felt guilty for not realizing sooner how bad Noah's situation was. They regretted not stepping in, not talking to him about how wrong everything was. They admitted they wished they had done more to make sure Noah did not follow in their dad's footsteps. It seemed like they were really struggling with they said they could not believe how much Noah was acting just like their dad, repeating the same mistakes.

I understood where they were coming from, but I did not blame them. It was not their fault. It was not easy, seeing your family fall apart and realizing how much damage has been done. I told Sarah and Emily that they could not have done anything differently. It was not their responsibility to fix things in their family. I did not want them to feel like they had failed, because they had not. They kept apologizing and insisted that they would help me out if I needed anything. Honestly, it meant a lot to me. It felt good to know that at least a few people in Noah's family understood the situation

and were on my side. After our talk, things have stayed quiet for a while. Noah has not really reached out to me, and I do not expect him to. He is probably too embarrassed and ashamed to face me. It is clear to me now that his silence speaks volumes. He does not have the courage to take responsibility for what he did. Honestly, I am fine with that. I do not need an apology from him anymore.

I have already made my peace with the fact that he cheated, and I do not need him to tell me how sorry he is. The damage is done. As for Hannah, I have completely blocked her. After everything she tried to do, calling me and guilt-tripping me to lie, trying to protect Noah's image instead of acknowledging the truth, I had no choice but to cut her out. I blocked her on my phone, on social media, everything. I could not keep dealing with her manipulation. And honestly, I do not even need to. Noah will be completely out of my life very soon, and I do not see the point

of keeping in touch with a woman I knew through him, and did not even like. She has not stopped trying to reach me, though. She has been contacting me through texts, voicemails, and even messages from other family members. She is still trying to get me to forgive Noah and pretend like everything is okay, but I am not playing that game anymore. I have made it clear to her that I am done. At first, it was hard not to feel guilty. She is Noah's mom, and part of me still feels like I should care about her feelings. But every time she contacted me, it was just another reminder of how manipulative she had been throughout this whole situation. I am done being part of her plan to keep up appearances. I am focusing on myself now. I have not responded to any of her messages, and I do not

plan to. I know she is doing it because she is afraid of how it looks to the rest of the family, and because she does not want the truth to come out. But I have realized that I cannot keep putting other people's feelings ahead of my own anymore. I have spent too many years trying to make everyone else happy, trying to keep peace, but I cannot do that anymore. I have to take care of myself first. Things have been a lot quieter since I blocked Hannah, which is a relief. The constant pressure from her was draining. I feel like I can finally breathe again. It is still a work in progress, but I am starting to focus more on moving forward instead of dwelling on what went wrong. I am taking one day at a time, focusing on healing, and trying to make a new life for myself. I am still in the

process of getting the divorce finalized, but now that I have cut ties with Noah and his mother, things are a little easier. It is not going to be quick or easy, but I know it is the right decision. I feel stronger every day. It is like I am starting fresh, and I am starting to realize that I am better off without them. There are still times when I feel overwhelmed by it all, and I question if I could have done things differently, but for the most part, I am okay with my decision. I am not angry anymore. I am just done with it. I am done with Noah. I am over Hannah's manipulations. I just want to move on from everything. Update 2, hey, so here is an update. After everything that happened with Noah, our lawyer suggested that we meet once, with the lawyers present, to try to settle things between us.

They said it is better to try and work things out before heading to court, which could be messy. I was not sure how to feel about it, especially since I had not seen or spoken to Noah since the intervention. The thought of facing him again made me feel uneasy. But then he reached out to me. He called me a couple of days back and asked if I would be willing to meet him before we had the meeting with our lawyers. He said it would only take 15 minutes, and if I wanted, I could bring a friend with me for

support. I did not know how to respond. I told him right away that I did not think it was a good idea. I was done, and I did not want to hear anything more from him. He did not give up, though. He insisted, saying that it would only take a short time, and that he just needed to say a few things to me. I held my ground for a while, but he refused to back down. He kept insisting, and he sounded so desperate. I was not sure whether I should just listen to him for closure. I thought maybe it would help me move on. I was not sure if I was making the right decision, but I finally gave in and felt like the dumbest person ever. I told him I would meet him, but only with a friend present. A few days later, I met Noah. It felt strange seeing him again.

I last saw him at the family intervention. He sat across from me, and it was so awkward. My friends sat next to me, as promised. Noah just looked at him. looked tired, lost even. He began by apologizing, saying that he was not asking me to take him back or reconsider anything. He said he was not making excuses either, he wanted to take full responsibility for what he had done. He admitted that it was not a mistake or a moment of weakness, but something he did on purpose. He was fully aware of his actions when he cheated on me. He admitted that he thought he would get away with it and that I would not leave him no matter what. always saw his mother constantly forgive his father's affairs. To him, that is what partners do,

forgive and stay, no matter how bad things get. Because of this, he assumed I would do the same. But when I refused to accept his cheating, he realized what he had done was wrong. He said he regrets taking me for granted and making assumptions about what I would tolerate. I listened but did not feel anything. I expected to be angry, sad, or even heartbroken, but none of it was there. In fact, I felt oddly calm. I did not feel the pain I expected. I did not feel any sympathy or sadness for him. It was just a long list of words that did not seem to matter anymore. Maybe I had already accepted everything before this meeting. He also admitted to something else. He told me he had cheated on me once, about a year into our relationship. He said he never

told me back then because he thought I would not care. Hearing that should have hurt, but honestly, it did not. I did not have the energy to be upset about it. I did not ask for details. I did not even react. I just nodded and let him continue. He looked at me like he expected some kind of an outburst, but I felt nothing. Maybe deep I had already guessed there might have been other moments like this, and hearing it now did not change anything for me. As he kept talking, it became clear he was trying to be honest, maybe even hoping this would make things feel better. But for me, it did not matter anymore. That moment from years ago, just like everything else, was now part of the past.

It did not make what he had done recently any better or worse. It just confirmed that the relationship I thought we had was not what it seemed. I still did not say much. I just let him talk while I stayed quiet, not because I forgave him but because there was nothing left to feel. Whatever happened back then was just another reason I was ready to move on. He kept talking, saying he was not asking for forgiveness but wanted me to know how much he regretted everything.

He admitted he had been selfish and careless, that he had destroyed our marriage, and that it was entirely his fault. He said if I could ever forgive him, even just a little, it would mean the world to him, though he would understand if I never did. He promised this would be the last time he ever contacted me and said he just wanted me to move on and be happy, even if it was not with him. When he finished, there was a long pause. He sat there, waiting for me to react. But I just had nothing to say. After a few minutes of silence, I simply said, all right. That was it. No outbursts, no tears. I just got up and left

with my friend. It felt almost anticlimactic, but also freeing. I did not feel angry or sad. I was just, done. The entire meeting seemed like a formality. I did not need his apologies to feel better. I had let go of him a long time before this. As we walked out of the cafe, my friend kept asking me how I was feeling. She was expecting me to cry or vent, but I just told her I was fine. It was almost like a weight had been lifted, but not in a dramatic, emotional way.

More like I was finally at peace with everything, our meeting with the last. lawyers is coming up next week, and after that, the divorce will be final. I feel good and calm. It will all be over soon. Update 3, hi, so I am back. I wanted to reply to a few comments and give an update. A lot of people were asking whether there were any signs that Noah was cheating. At the time, I did not think there were. I assumed he was just tired or stressed from work, which seemed reasonable. But now that I have had to have had time to think about it, I realized there were definitely signs. I just did not recognize them back then. One of the first things I noticed was that he started staying late at work more often.

He would tell me that he had deadlines or last-minute meetings. At first, I did not think much of it because his job was demanding, and I assumed he was simply too busy. But then it started happening more frequently, and he would come home later and later. When I asked how his day went, he would barely respond, claiming he was too tired. At the time, I assumed he was overwhelmed, but now that I know more, it makes sense. Another thing I noticed was his attachment to his phone. He started carrying it around all the time, even taking it with him to the bathroom, which he never used to do.

Sometimes when I walked into the room, he would quickly close whatever he was looking at or tilt the screen away from me. I thought maybe he was planning a surprise for me or just wanted some private. but now I know it was something else entirely. He also began acting distant in subtle manners. It was not obvious, but he was more detached when we were together. He looked tired and distracted, as if his mind was elsewhere. I asked him about it several times, worried that there was something wrong, and he always said it was just work-related stress. I believed him and let it go. What really made it click for me was when he confessed, he had cheated on me about a year

into our relationship. That matched the time when he was acting the way he had been before I found out about his recent affair. He seemed distracted and distant back then too. At the time, I thought maybe he was going through something personal, so I asked if everything was okay, and he assured me it was just work stress. I never pushed further, because I trusted him completely. Looking back, I cannot help but be disappointed with myself that I did not actively notice the signs, but they were there. I was so focused on trusting him that I overlooked small details that did not add up. Even though it has been tough, I feel like I am starting to move forward now. I am not going to let this define me, and I am learning to put myself first. The pain of it all will fade, but the lessons I have

learned will stick with me. It is hard, but I am doing what I can to heal and grow from this experience. Noah's actions were his own, and while it hurts to realize how much I missed, I am not going to carry that guilt with me. I am proud of how I have handled things since the truth came out, and I know I am better for it. It is not easy, but I am choosing to focus on my future and what is next. I will not let this break me. Anyway, we had an official meeting a while ago where we talked about a few things and negotiated on some details. It was peaceful, and nothing heated up. Given what had happened, it was surprisingly civil. We were able to settle everything without any major issues, and the divorce is now official. Hannah was actively trying to get

in touch with me through different family members, for days before the divorce got finalized. She wanted to check in, apologize, and definitely changed my mind about everything that happened. Everyone I knew, everyone their family knew, and everyone Noah knew, was fully aware of the fact that Noah cheated on me. Even after that, Hannah kept trying to keep up the appearances. It made no sense. It looked like she was doing her best to maintain control over the situation or at least some level of influence. But right after the divorce was finalized, she became quiet, which I appreciate. I really hope she will not bother me again. On the other hand, Sarah and Emily, Noah's sisters, reached out to me. They wished me the best of luck with everything and said they would be there if I ever needed any help or support.

I really appreciated that. It felt good to know that there were people who understood my side of things. I have also recently moved houses, I live closer to my parents now. It feels like a fresh start, and I am grateful for the change. Most importantly, Hannah cannot just show up at my door anymore. It is a fresh start, and while it has not been easy, it feels like. feels like I am finally getting back control of my life. My parents obviously know about everything that has happened. They felt terrible about all of it. But they are amazing and so supportive. I stayed over

at their place for a few days before moving, and it was honestly all I needed to calm myself. Everything feels so much better and calmer now.