Reddit Stories - My PARTNER NEGLECTED our SCHEDULED outing and powered down his device to dine

Episode Date: November 23, 2025

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I hope you enjoy this story. My partner neglected our scheduled outing and powered down his device to dine with his former partner, and later confessed to being intimate with her when I confronted him. That's why I ended the relationship. Him, he crashed my brother's wedding. Me, 25F, and my boyfriend, 28M, have been together for five months. His ex and he were together on slash off for three years and they broke up officially around this time last year.

I'm still friends with one of my exes, so I didn't really think anything of it when he told me he was still friends with one of his. They don't hang out alone, they only hang out with their clothes-knit group of friends. I've met them all and they're really nice people. I've never had any reason to doubt anything he's told me. He has been cheated on by this particular ex, and it really shook him up, otherwise they'd probably still be together, so I don't think he would ever cheat on me or anyone else. He's just not coded that way. That said, he and I were supposed to hang out last night after work, but I couldn't get a hold of him. His phone was either turned off or the battery was dead. Either way, my night was put on hold for hours until I finally decided to just

eat out by myself. I was already dressed and ready to go, so I just left, grabbed some foe by myself and came home to find zero text slash calls from him. I left my phone at home by accident. He didn't get back to me, nor did he stop by the apartment, according to my roommate. On a whim, I popped on to Whig to see what he was doing, if he had posted anything that day. I was partially worried that something bad had happened to him, and partially suspicious. I've never had any reason to feel suspicious of him before. As I scrolled through Wig, however, I noticed that his ex had posted something. For whatever reason I follow her and she follows me.

the photo was taken at his favorite restaurant she took a photo of her dessert and you can clearly see him in the background seated across from her his elbows on the table she made the post hours before he and i were supposed to hang out and in the image description she mentions having a movie night with him one of their friends whom i've grown close to commented on the photo with a question mark there was no reply i was kind of numb at that point i wasn't sure what what any of it meant, but I knew he was doing something he shouldn't have been, and that he had blown me off in the process. Again, this was completely unlike him. It could have been that he had simply forgotten our plans. We organized it a week prior, which is long enough to forget.

That said, I'm his girlfriend. He should remember. He should at least make sure he's reachable. I went to bed last night feeling sick with worry, and then when I woke up this morning, I found five texts from him saying the following, Hey, I'm so sorry. I forgot we had plans. Kathy and I Marathwond Westworld and I fell asleep. My phone died. I'm an idiot. Please forgive me. How about I pick you up tonight and we go to that new sushi place on Maine? Just you and I. I love you. I don't really know what to think. He has always made a point to never hang out with her alone. He hasn't made any promises to me in any explicit words, but when he and I first got together, he told me things between him and Kathy were completely finished, and that he had no desire to

hang out with her alone anymore. He said the only reason they still occasionally see each other is because they're part of the same social circle. It's the same with my ex and I, except I've never hung out with him one-on-one post-breakup, and I don't plan on it. I replied back asking if anything happened between them and he said, no, of course not. I would never do that to you. But he would make himself unavailable for hours without even thinking to say hi to me all day.

Our plans were for 8 o'clock. Unless he's had a rough day at work, he usually stays up much later than that, except he didn't have work yesterday, so I don't understand how he would magically fall asleep so early in the night. I trust him, but at the same time, I feel betrayed. Comments where Op has replied, comment one, yeah, I don't believe a word of his explanation. He has no desire to hang out with her alone anymore, and yet that's exactly what he did. He went on a date with his ex and slept over at her place. Unacceptable.

Oop, exactly. Comment two, what do you think you're going to do? Oop, I'm meeting up with him right now. I just want to talk to him in person and gauge the situation for my own sanity. Right now it looks bad. Unless he has superpowers, I can't see him being able to give me a a valid reason as to why this happened. Spending the night with his ex, switching his phone off slash leaving it dead, and neglecting to contact me until the next day? No. That's not how

relationships work. Comment three, Kathy left his elbows and the picture on purpose. She knows what's up. Oop, good thing she's petty or else I'd have never realized where he was or what he was doing. Comment four, what was his explanation? Oop, he said he genuinely did forget we were supposed to hang out, and that he didn't go into the evening thinking he was going to fuck her, but he did, and then he cried in front of me begging me to forgive him. I promptly gathered my shit and left, blocking and deleting him from my phone in the process. It took a good hour for me to pull the truth out of him. Comment five, shame on him for wasting an hour more of your time to pull it out of him.

Glad you got the truth, though. You may be feeling numb right now, don't be surprised if the feelings catch up with you later. I am glad you are home safe with comfort food and reality TV. I hope you can get some rest. Depending on how much you cared, the next few days will be the hardest. Remember to stay hydrated. Oop, thanks. This is the first time someone has ever cheated on me, to my knowledge, so I'm kind of numb at the moment, but you're right, the feelings will catch up with me later. Probably when I have to go to my brother's wedding alone this Saturday. Yikes. Update, okay, I did not think I would be posting an update on this situation, but so much has happened since I posted the original. For those of you who didn't read my

mini update in the comments of the first thread, my ex-boyfriend did in fact cheat on me with Kathy his ex-girlfriend, and I did in fact break up with him. For a few days he left me alone. Even last weekend on the day of my brother's wedding, my ex decided it was wise to crash the reception. He showed up in a full suit, made nice with some extended family of mine that he knew, and then sought me out as I slipped away to use the bathroom. You won't believe how shocked unsettled I was to see him there. As some of you may know, I blocked and deleted him from everything when I broke up with him, so I guess he showed up as a last-ditch effort. Why he thought it was a good idea to crash my brother's wedding, I have no clue.

Once I immediately told him he had to leave or I would tell the groomsman to escort his ass out. He didn't seem phased. He just grabbed me by the arms and said very clearly, I can't survive without you, up. Looking me in the eyes and holding on to me so tight, it hurt. In that moment I went from unsettled to flat out scared. I told him I had nothing to say to him and that he needed help, but he acted as if he couldn't hear me.

He just held tighter, leaned in really close as if he was going to kiss me, and then when I turned my head away he broke down and started crying, full on sobbing in the middle of the hallway. One of the groomsmen came around just in time, recognized my ex, assessed the situation, and then peeled him off of me. He didn't call the police. He just said this to my ex. Listen, man, I've been there, but you can't do shit like this. You got to go home. for whatever reason my ex listened. A couple of minutes later he left in a cab and I explained what happened to the groomsman in further detail. We decided we would tell my brother after as to not ruin his and his wife's special day.

It was a small town venue so there was no security there. But I trusted that my ex wouldn't come back. Fast forward to last night. A week later. I was sitting at home talking to my roommate, and all of a sudden I got a call from an unmanned. no number. I didn't answer it the first time but the second time I did. It wasn't him. It was actually his ex. The girl he had cheated on me with. Apparently after I broke up with him they got back together and she was calling me to confirm that he had crashed my brother's

wedding. I told her truth, and then I politely asked her not to contact me again because I want no involvement in their relationship. She popped off on me saying, you're a stupid fucking S. why would you get so pissed at him for cheating on you, and then cheat with him when he's with someone else? You dumb bee! It was a whole lot of that and a whole lot of screaming. I have no idea what he told her, but nothing happened between us at the wedding. He tried to kiss me, I didn't accept it, and then he got kicked out. I said as much, and then I hung up. And now people are saying she's pregnant with his kid. I don't know. It's a whole bunch of crazy, and I'm glad I don't have to deal with it anymore. The fact that he had me convinced he was a

decent person for five straight months is embarrassing. Obviously he's in a bad place right now. I've been there, as I'm sure we all have, so I can empathize with him in this strange way, but this is too much. I'm going to get tested very soon just in case, and then hopefully I can put this relationship behind me. Comments where Op has replied, when asked about the groomsman who saved her, Oop, he's single, and we may or may not have danced together most of the night. Before and after my ex crashed the party, L.O.L. That said, I'm not looking at the moment. Let's just say I need a breather. Comment, well, breaks can be the best, but as my mother always told me, don't throw away something if it tries to organically grow. I mean, you're making the right move

not jumping into anything, but don't work against it either. Oop, true. He asked if I want to grab brunch next Sunday. My roommate thinks I should get my head out of my ass and go. I want to, I really do, but I've only been single for a week and a half, L.O.L. I was going to give it a few months at least. Oh, well. Next story, had an affair with my coworker who died from an allergic reaction after I refused to take her to the hospital, because my wife was expecting me home, but then her brother exposed our messages to HR.

I, 35M, have been married to Lisa, 28F for three years, together seven. A year ago, I fell deeply in love with Amy, 24F, and had been planning to end my marriage for her. I know it's terrible and not what my wife deserves, but we were the real thing. Two weeks ago, she had an allergic reaction when we were getting food after work, but she used her AP pen and seemed mostly okay afterwards. She usually gets checked at the hospital after a reaction, but I asked if I could take her home and she could get her friend to drive her there because my wife was expecting me back. All I know is that she had a secondary reaction that evening and died.

I didn't even find out about it until the following Monday, through a work email. It has been eating me up ever since and I will never forgive myself for not sacrificing an hour of my time to possibly save her. I sent some childish messages to Amy when I didn't hear from her over the week. weekend because I thought she was angry I didn't take her to the hospital. I am thankful she never saw them and ashamed that I assumed the worst. Our relationship was great and the highs far outweighed the lows, but I have always hated being ignored and I lose my cool when it happens. It is not a regular occurrence and I would have more than made it

up to her. Yesterday at work, HR and legal were in the CEO's office all day and my manager ended up canceling our project meeting because he was with them all afternoon. I was on edge, but in an affair isn't exactly a corporate crisis and I thought something would have already happened if anyone knew. I am now 99% certain it was about me. A few hours ago I received a message from Amy's phone which said this is Amy's brother, Tom. I want you to know it was me. I tried to call but it went straight to voicemail and none of my messages have been delivered. I tried to call my manager more times than I should have, and he sent a message saying, please don't contact me until Monday morning. I can't discuss anything with you right now. So it looks like my universe is going

to collapse. I am going to be fired and my wife will definitely find out why. All I can do is hope that Amy's brother only showed them the messages from that weekend, and they were bad enough. I have no family except my wife and daughter and nowhere to go. All of my friends are either people I've met through my wife or my colleagues. On Monday, everything I've spent over a decade working towards disappears. I can't stop it. I can't talk to anyone about it. So here I am. I know cheaters are the devil so I'm not expecting sympathy, but this is making my chest hurt and I need to get it out there. I have been consistently harassed for an update since posting, so please take it, gloat because you're such wonderful people in comparison. Then stop

following me around Reddit. I am suffering in the wake of my infidelity and unprofessional behavior as I knew I would. I understand that it is an appropriate outcome and I am taking full accountability. I was suspended from work on Monday, and I'll probably be fired sooner than I thought. I'd hope to be able to save money as HR built their case, but it looks like Amy's brother basically performed the entire investigation for them. After an excruciating three-hour run-through of everything they had, I spoke to the founder, and he recommended. the solicitor I am now using. The issue is that the company has to come down hard to protect themselves, because even though Amy's family doesn't have much chance of a claim,

any suggestion of a cover-up could cause damage regardless. The founder still thinks my offer to pay them back will keep it out of court, and some more information has come to light, so it's not certain I won't be prosecuted but I'm quietly hopeful. I can't afford to keep the solicitor if this goes much further, especially with a divorce on the horizon. Things are not good with my wife. I'm still committed to making this as easy as possible for her, but I had to draw a line when it came to my daughter. When I got home from being unceremoniously escorted out of my office, she already had a bag packed for me. She wouldn't let me wait at the house until my daughter was back, she wouldn't let me check I had everything I needed, she wouldn't

let me take the car, and she didn't care that I had nowhere to go. I spent two nights in a hotel then went back when she refused to let me see my little girl. She tried to stop me, but we own the house jointly and it was my only option. My wife is family she could stay with, but she won't leave our daughter here and she's absolutely not taking her, so we're at a stalemate right now. I'm keeping out of her way as best I can, which I appreciate is the least I can do. The Amy situation is quite difficult to talk about, and a lot hasn't sunk in yet. It turns out that she didn't love me as much as I loved her, if it had a lot. all. Her brother sent me images of her talking to her friends about me, and it's hard to

person I loved, but they are real. Sorry to those who were heavily invested in me being a predatory abuser, but she and her friends had a good laugh about her manipulating me for money and a promotion. The role came with a big pay rise, and it looks like her plan was to treat it as free cash, then go work with one of her friends when it fell through. She knew I'd come under scrutiny whenever she messed up and assumed I'd keep stepping in to save her. She was right. Obviously, I am completely humiliated. I was planning to give up everything to build a life with her,

and she was treating me like a joke the whole time. My feelings are complicated so please don't feel entitled to any expansion on this, but I no longer feel guilt over her death. Reddit acted like I kept her hostage whilst she begged for help. What actually happened was that I asked if she could ask her friend to take her to the hospital because I had to go home, she said that was fine because she needed to get some clothes back from her anyway, and I dropped her off as normal. Ultimately, she was an adult who had a better understanding of her medical needs than I did. I still don't know what happened between us saying

goodbye and her death, but whatever it was, it had nothing to do with me. I'm sorry for her family's loss, but I bear no responsibility for her passing. After Amy's messages to her friends were passed around, a few people quietly reached out with words of support. I assumed everyone would write me off like Reddit did, as an abuser and predator. Now it's clear that Amy was using me, they see me as a fool who had then lost it all. I'm not sure if I'm being too honest beyond humiliating, but I have learned I'd rather be pitted than despised, and it improves my legal position with work. There's small mercies, but I'll take what I can get. I remain filled with regret, and I will have learned many lessons by the time I get through this. I may have been

deceived, but I am a grown man who made my choices, and I take full responsibility for them. Update 2, I'm in the comments, because I worked at the same company as this guy, and in the very sad circumstances, you can read all about it from his perspective, conveniently. I only joined Reddit quite recently, but I was aware of the post a few weeks after it was made because it was passed around the office and gave us all a ton of information which made a lot of things suddenly make sense. We were all extremely invested at the time, and weirdly, the story you all saw set off a series of events which basically led to an entire division of the company quitting. I've seen it repeated on a few of those Reddit read-through accounts, and a few people

and I saw earlier today seemed interested. So because the company didn't think to get me to sign any additional confidentiality agreements when I left, an equally dramatic, but also closely related story, I figured I'd spend a Friday night drinking wine and spilling tea if anyone wants some. One thing I do need to mention is that the original op has a brain injury he didn't disclose in his posts. I can't speculate too much on that, and I'm not saying it makes his actions forgivable, but it would be crazy to pretend it's not a factor. He lives independently, but from what I'm aware, his brother helps him a lot. Comments where Op has replied, comment one, did it end up going to court?

Op, no, they all used to abuse their expenses and they knew he could bury everyone if it ever saw the inside of a courtroom. He claimed to be running out of money in his last post, but it was common knowledge he got a huge payout after his accident. A sign wasn't properly mounted on a shop front and it fell on him when he was walking past, so he could have easily afforded to take it all the way. Imagine the first question would have been why they gave someone with brain damage a company card with no restrictions and no written policy on what they could and couldn't use it for.

Comment two, any chance he could have spent the payout all on Amy or on drugs? I mean, I guess there's a good chance his wife would have noticed, but he obviously hadn't been thinking clearly for a long time. Op, definitely not drugs, he drank in moderation but was pretty judgmental about anything else. Amy, absolutely. He spent thousands and thousands on her. She would link him to things over and over again until he bought them for her. The HR guys were disgusted when they got the phone back and saw all the messages.

I haven't seen the messages myself, but they said enough to confirm it was extremely predatory. Comment three, I know you shared he has a TBI that influenced his thinking. Was it as wildly apparent and handicapping to his professional life as it was his personal? He seems easily manipulated if you fed his ego the most minimal scraps. Up, it was really weird, and I can't think of a better way to put it than really fucking I'm an engineer by trade, and he could ask a million extremely complex questions about the technology one was working on, and pose reasonable follow-ups based on my answers which required a ton of domain knowledge, not immediately after the accident, but certainly within a

year. He could also, within minutes of making a super insightful point which totally changed the direction of my week, fall apart because his sandwich had too much mayo. I don't know if you've ever seen the expressions of a child superimposed on an adult's face, but it's unsettling in a way that sticks with you. I personally couldn't, in good conscience, treat him like an adult full-time. He was fine maybe 80% of the time, but when he slipped, it was like interacting with an eight-year-old in an adult's body. He wouldn't say much when he got confused, but his face would totally change. I don't know him well, but I am not convinced he could properly consent to a sexual relationship.