Reddit Stories - My PROFESSOR STARTED HITTING on me and showing me extra love, then he

Episode Date: January 12, 2026

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #professor #crush #university #relationshipdrama #studentlifeSummary: A student shares an unsettling experience where their professor began showing unusual affection and attention. Initially flattered, the student soon felt uncomfortable with the professor's advances, leading to a dilemma about how to handle the situation without jeopardizing their academic standing or personal integrity.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, professor, student, relationship, boundaries, academic, love, crush, awkward, advice, ethics, universitylife, drama, feelings, consent, experiencesBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6816713/support.This episode includes AI-generated content.

I hope you enjoy this story. My professor started hitting on me and showing me extra love, then he suggested boosting my grade in return for racy picks and a private rendezvous, and I was like, sure, why not? Of fear and he locked the classroom door and touched me inappropriately. I'm sorry I'm very distressed, this just happened and I don't know what to do. I'm also scared that he uses Reddit and might see this. I'm an undergrad in my second year of classes,

and this semester is the first time I've had this professor. He seemed like a really nice guy and I approached him after the first or second class to talk to him. He was really nice and answered a lot of my questions and we even chatted casually for a bit. At the end of our chat, he wrote down his phone number and handed it to me and said to message him whenever. I was ecstatic because I really struggle in my major and I felt like he was investing in me. Over time he would message me about random things, and even from time to time he would, would message me if I hadn't turned at a homework assignment or if I hadn't come to class a particular day. I asked around and he hasn't done this for any other students. He has given

his phone number to some other students, but they are all in the internship at his other job that he is the supervisor of. He would sometimes flirt with me, and at first I thought the special attention was nice and would flirt back. He would sometimes have me stay after class or ask me to come back if I had left frequently. It's always been vague or subtle, never truly direct until recently. My finals are next week, and I admit, I'm not doing the greatest in his class. I will pass, but with AC if I do well on this final. I had asked him if there was any extra credit was available. He then asked me what I was willing to do. I said I would do pretty much anything to get my grade up, and he then began to make some subtle references

continuously as the conversation went on. He never stated over text explicitly what he wanted. today, class ended early and I headed back to my dorm. He then messaged me and asked if I still wanted to make that plea for extra credit. I said that I still wanted it and was waiting for him to tell me what opportunities he had for me. He said something generic so I asked if he wanted me to come back, like I've done previously. He said yes. When I got to the classroom he asked if I was truly willing to do anything and if I was willing to go down that route. I was nervous but I still felt nice having that special attention and I stupidly said yes. He essentially offered that I would have a good grade in the class if I sent him explicit pictures of myself and if I would go back

somewhere with him sometime. I agreed to the photos, and after I had sent a few he asked to see them himself. I thought he just wanted me to flash him. He told me to go to the back of the classroom, so no one could see me from the window and the door. He then locked it and stood between me and the door and my backpack. This is when I started to regret being there and was scared of what he might do. He asked me to take off my shirt. I did, and he touched my BBS, then he asked to see my butt and took pull down my pants, he touched, and then my va-na, which he also touched. I said I wasn't comfortable doing anything else and he let me go. He asked if I was free tonight and I said I was busy with a friend and he left. The gravity and the weight didn't really hit me until after

and now I feel really gross. I had joked with my friends that this might happen, but I never truly thought it actually would. I feel so uncomfortable. I'm also scared to file anything because he's grading a large project soon and he'll be grading my final. This class is in my major and I really don't want him to take any anger out on me. I'm also scared because he has never explicitly stated that he was willing to trade SEGs for my grade over text. He only did it in person. Do I really have any evidence at all? How do I prove that he touched me? This is such a small department too, that I'm scared everyone will know it was me. Please, any advice for what I should do? Edit, I forgot to mention that I realized the number he gave me is a Google voice number and not his

actual cell number. He's only been contacting me through that. Does this mean he's been planning this from the start? Comments where Op has replied, comment one. Steps to follow. what I would do, one. Gather anything that can be used as proof less than two. Don't spread the word about it in your college since the teacher might hear about it and go defensive mode, plan something. Three, ask for appointments to the counselor and dean about a very sensitive topic. You don't have to say on email what it's about if you don't want to but giving an idea of what it's about might be good since they will take you an ASAP as an urgent matter. Four, with a copy of all the proof show it to the dean and counselor and explain what happened

verbally too. Five, comply with the college. If you aren't happy with the result, go to the PD. Every second matters. Most importantly, do not give in. A valid point you can make is that the teacher purposefully lowered your grades in order to make you the offer. All schools and colleges have extremely effective and harsh punishments about this kind of stuff. You will be fine. Oop, thank you so much. Do you think it would be all right to wait until morning? I feel really gross and it's already been so hectic. And I'm still scared and I know how much this will ruin his life. I know I shouldn't feel bad but I feel really, really bad about that too.

Comment too, do not go to a professor or dean. Go directly to the Title IX coordinator at your school and file a report. Many staff who are mandatory reporters fail to understand their duty. At worst, they will tip off the respondent before you make it to Title IX. File the report and if you need proof otherwise you can supplement the report later. It is important to get yourself protected from retaliation and further harassment. The Title IX office will be able to protect you in that regard. Edit, thank you to everyone who has been incredibly kind and has sent messages to see how I'm doing.

I do have a support system in place and they've been incredibly helpful. I've documented the event and emailed it to myself. I'm at the very least going to file a complaint in the Title IX. office. I told someone else in my class and we compared some of our tests and noticed I lost a lot of points where he lost few or none at all. Also, we noted that in my final project I was paired with a student who was supposed to fail the class and given a week later start than everyone else. I've written these down and documented this as well. The professor has continued to message me, and I've been replying to keep his suspicions that I might report off of me. I also just wanted to

let some of the meaner comments know. I am not saying I was raped in any capacity. I did fail to say no when he began touching me, but I never said yes and I was in a situation where it was incredibly hard for me to say no until it became far too much. I agreed to photos and for him to see, not to anything else. I'll update once I go through the process of reporting. Thank you to everyone who has given their input and given me their strength. Update, hi everyone, it's been about almost two years since I posted but I wanted to give an update for anyone who cares or had been in a similar situation. I ended up going to Title IX office at my university and they were incredibly helpful. They helped me every step of the way and still continue to assist me when I have

difficulties in my classes or in life. They helped me contact the police and begin an investigation. The professor was immediately fired from his position at the university and from his other job. He was the head of an internship at a company that was popular with students. He was found to be purposefully sabotaging my grade and coercing me into sex. Several other girls also came forward and confirmed similar had happened to them. My department head was less than helpful and even asked me not to speak about it to anyone to avoid damaging the reputation of the school. I'm in a male-dominated department and honestly I didn't expect much.

I haven't spoken to any reporters or lawyers about the situation, and I'm unsure if I ever will. I don't have any updates on the investigation, I haven't been to trial and it's been a debate in my own mind if I would even want to. I've had a restraining order filed and I try to move on and heal. I still have difficulty trusting male professors and get a lot of anxiety at the thought of being alone with them. Academic stress really triggers the trauma of the situation I was in, so school can be doubly difficult for me.

It'll take me an extra year to graduate at this point, but I try not to beat myself up over it. The university has given me free therapy through their health center and I've been in it for almost a year and a half. The healing process takes time but I'm happy I'm growing as a person. It's a terrible situation I was a victim in, but it's my responsibility to heal from it. He robbed me of a lot of my security, but he won't take any more from me. I will take it back one day. If you are ever in a situation where a professor is making you uncomfortable, tell someone. I began by speaking with my friends, and they were the ones who recommended Title IX.

You are not alone. It's not your fault. You are not dirty or gross. You are a student. They are the ones in power. They should know better. My DMs are open for anyone who ever has questions or needs help. I wish the best for you.

You are strong. You are capable. You will get through this. comments where op has replied, comment one, thank you for the update, and for coming forward. I'm glad that there were resources available, and that some people were helpful even if others were not. I'm glad the asshole is gone, and I hope he's never in a position of power that he can abuse again. Good luck with your continued journey. Oop, thank you so much. It feels a little like justice. But I try to get closure on my own rather

than spare any thoughts to him. Comment two. I'm glad for this update and that he lost his job, but please reconsider not going to the police. This dude deserves to be punished for being such a piece of human garbage. Oop, I did. Within the first few days the Title IX lawyer actually came with me to file the report. They haven't contacted me with any update since a year ago, though, so I've no clue where the investigation is now.

Comment 3. I work in Title IX and 1 a.m. so glad to hear that the Title IX office at your institution was helpful. I know sometimes Title IX gets a bad rap, but I and everyone else I know who works in Title IX really cares about helping students. I'm glad they were a good support system for you. Oop, I was surprised by how helpful they were. They didn't shame me or make me feel uncomfortable. They were 100% supportive of any action I wanted to take. Even when they reviewed the evidence, texts, tests, assignments, other students' reports,

they always made sure to emphasize that my comfort and privacy was above all. The efforts they made and still make for my sake have made a world of difference. Next story, parents always split my college tuition with me until we had an argument about my mom's hateful comments towards black athletes, so now they're cutting me off financially and kicking me out, saying I ruined the family bonding over the sports. As the title says, my parents told me that they weren't going to split tuition anymore following an argument we recently had, and the argument involves something dating back years. We're a big sports family, NBA, NFL, MLB, and my younger brothers play sports too, both play

baseball and HS, but dabbled in others. I played tennis at my community college, before transferring after my associates, and have since I was young, and I'm grateful to my parents for paying for our sports despite our differences. I still live with them, and I pay rent. I work two part-time jobs and split tuition until recently after an argument about something dating back years. This week and last week is the U.S. Open of tennis, and we've watched tennis together growing up. Over the years, I've done so less and less after realizing my mom's disdain for certain players went deeper than your average rivalry dislikes. For example, my mom despises Serena Williams, and she felt that way since I was young.

Whenever she plays, she roots against her. And when I'd ask why, she'd point to her outbursts against Naomi Osaka and Kim Clasters, saying she has no class and was a bad role model for black athletes. And while I understand some of the criticism against her outbursts, I disagree with her other arguments such as her saying that she doesn't act womanly and is probably on steroids and numerous comments about her weight that just seem hateful.

I understand hating a certain player or team in a rivalry sense, but that's not what she did with Serena. She personally prefers Venus or Coco Golf and Madison Keys in recent years. But she's had similar opinions about other athletes not in tennis which seemed to form a pattern. During the 2020 Summer Olympics, she said she disagreed with people who commended Simone Biles for her choice to withdraw from an event due to having Twistice which could have endangered her health. She called her withdrawal week and that commending it was harmful to teach other girls to quit and use mental health as an excuse to do so. She said that mental health was thrown around too much as an excuse to get out of facing challenges, and that's just one of her many takes I disagree with.

She's had other opinions including some about the 2024 Olympic boxing match where Karini withdrew from her match, and I refused to talk politics with her too. The reason my parents decided to stop splitting tuition was because of an argument that happened last week. My parents asked me if I wanted to attend the U.S. Open as they were purchasing grounds passes. And as I've done in recent years, I declined. That led to them asking why I don't do as much with the family anymore, like watching sports or going to sporting events or eating in my room if they are, and they've often harped on me for not acting like part of the family,

as I've stopped watching things with them over the years. I decided to speak my mind instead of coming up with an excuse and told them that I was tired of watching sports together because it had become annoying. I hate how Mom says certain athletes are good or bad role models for black people while bringing her political bias into it. She hasn't liked LeBron since he spoke at a Hillary Clinton campaign stop years ago, and it took the joy out of watching sports together years ago. They temporarily stopped watching basketball in the Disney bubble when the NBA put BLM on the courts in 2020. I don't want to be around her constant hate attacks while watching a game. So because I didn't want to act

like part of the family. They said that this upcoming semester would be the last that they split tuition. It's already paid, so I'm on my own going forward. I believe I can find more work slash hours to cover next semester myself, but I wanted to ask if it would be better to take a break after this semester to try and move out and return to school later. I think it'd be less stressful, but I could use other opinions because I'm near the end of my rope with them, and they've held firm on their position since I refuse to go to the open. Update 1, almost all of the advice I received was to stay in school, and I'd love nothing more. A break can turn into years quickly, from what I've heard, and some have suggested using this semester, that's already paid for, as a time to find bearings

for the next semester. I took advantage of my school's free counseling offerings and booked a session with a counselor to discuss my options. We discussed financial aid, payment plans, and campus jobs, in addition to finding a full-time job off campus. I have two part-time jobs, but ours are inconsistent, and they don't pay great. Even if I take less classes per semester, I believe staying in school would be the best option, and I have another session with my counselor coming up where she said we can talk more about it. I also told her about the situation that led to my parents changing their mind on tuition, and saying what I felt out loud helped me find some additional realization. According to my counselor, I internalized a lot of it because

my parents weren't receptive. So talking to her was therapeutic in a way. With my family always being a big sports family, hosting Super Bowl parties, going to many games, siblings and I playing sports, sports was the thing we bonded over for all of my life. Heck, it was a foregone conclusion that we skipped church on Super Bowl Sunday to prepare for guests and on Championship Sunday for the gentleman's finals at Wimbledon in the morning. But somewhere along the way, it became less fun to watch sports with them due to the things I mentioned in my previous post. Mom, more so than Dad, but he has his moments and agrees with her stances,

began infusing her political beliefs into sports and other areas, and it tainted the very thing our family bonded over. Sports is often an escape from work and stress, something that people on both sides of the political aisle can come together over and cheer for the same team at a stadium or party. Ignorant Bliss plays a role in that, of course. But, as humans, I believe it's important to come together to find community, and sports is one of the most common ways to do so despite our differences.

But when those differences caused my parents to decide to walk back their agreement to split tuition, it hurt because it felt like I was being punished for my different opinion. I love sports because it brings people together in a world where it's so hard to do so genuinely. At one of my retail jobs, our managers have huddles with team members with cheesy slogans, monthly themes, and team-building activities that coworkers laugh at once the huddle ends, criticize for being fake enthusiasm. But sports unifies people like nothing else, and I'm sad that watching sports became tainted over the years at home. The only time sports isn't tainted in my family is when we go to my siblings' games to cheer them on, and that's because no politics are involved.

Every family has their own thing, and I've seen many at church when I used to go. From musical families at church who have members in the choir or orchestra to missionary families who travel together. Every family has things they bond over, and sports began to change in our family because it became less fun to watch with mom and dad. I'd love to move out sooner rather than later, but I'm weighing all of my options. Staying in school remains the priority, and I hope I'm able to find more work soon. I'm glad to have found a nice counselor who has options such as payment plans, though. The payment plan is the one I'm hoping to utilize. Update two so, I decided to take next semester off, after finishing my current fall semester, because of a recent conversation with my parents,

but I'll get to that in a second. I somehow forgot to clarify that my mom is black which would have provided a lot more perspective on my first post. A lot of people DM'd me to ask which made me realize. So with that out of the way, I'll get to what happened. At the suggestion of my counselor, I decided to reach out to a relative for support to have someone on my side, and that relative was understanding and offered to help with tuition since my parents wouldn't. But they also decided to call my parents, without telling me, to give them a peace of their mind, and that led to another argument my parents didn't appreciate me going outside of the family and said it further their point about how I wasn't acting like a part of the family.

So, they suggested that I start looking for my own place by the end of the semester because I was disrespectful. I told that same relative about what happened, despite how she called my parents, because I'll still need her help to move out by the end of the semester, but I'll be taking a break from school after this semester ends, to try and find full-time work in hopes of having a place to myself sooner rather than later. I'm just upset about how my parents are at this point over such stupid things that are really meaningless I fully understand slash respect that I'm living in my parents' home and have no right to tell them what to do in it.

But when I decide to not go to the U.S. Open or other sporting events in the past, or sit at the dinner table when they're watching clips or opinionist podcasts about their favorite president, I'm apparently being disrespectful. I always sit down at the dinner table when we're not watching politics and moms not on one of her tangents. But there used to be a rule in our home about not watching TV at the dinner table because that's where we'd talk about each other's day. I used to complain about it when I was younger, but now I missed that rule. It just sucks that choosing not to engage in political conversations is somehow being disrespectful and not a part of of the family, but, I'm not surprised to be fully honest. I've kind of gotten used to leaving

the room or staying silent whenever Mom goes off on her tangents in recent years. The NBA BLM Jersey slash court was five years ago in 2020, and I refused to entertain her opinion then when I was 16. Her racial remarks towards Serena goes back over a decade. And while I don't support Serena's tantrums and threats she made towards an official once, it's no excuse to make such remarks towards her. Simone Biles faced similar remarks from my mom more recently during the 2020 Olympics along with LeBron over the years too. So when I've chosen not to watch sports with her for years now, I suppose she finally reached her breaking point because being silent is not being part of the family. If anything, I'm curious to see what life would be without having to tiptoe

around them 24-7. So I've already started applying for full-time work because being around them is emotionally draining.