Reddit Stories - My SIBLING'S PARTNER offered me a lift back from COLLEGE, but she blamed

Episode Date: July 11, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #relationships #family #college #siblings #partnerSummary: My SIBLING'S PARTNER offered me a lift back from COLLEGE, but she blamed me for getting lost. I stood up for myself, causing tension in the family.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, relationships, family, college, siblings, partner, blame, tension, conflict, communication, boundaries, support, transportation, misunderstanding, resolution, advice, communityBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. My siblings' partner offered me a lift back from college, but she blamed me for snatching him away. Later, he ended the relationship with her due to her ultimatum to end all connections. Herself, she blamed me for it. For more context, my older sister is 22 and her boyfriend and I are the same age, 19. I'll call my sister Kate and her boyfriend Adam which is not their real names. So Adam and I were initially acquaintances. We were both in the same year in class and high school and are now in the same university studying the same thing. We were never close enough to be friends

but after he started dating Kate, we did become friends and okay friends since we have a lot in common. I must mention I have no interest or any feelings for Adam. But when Adam and I kind of became friends, my sister didn't like it which is understandable so I kept my distance like she wanted but Adam and I had to still end up speaking because we have a few classes together but we only really talk about school or when it has to do with a class or anything Kate related. So Adam had been invited by Kate over for dinner and he asked me if I wanted a ride home in his car since we were still going to the same place after all. I didn't think much of it so I agreed and we had just come from evening classes and it was dark out and I was too exhausted. Most of the time during

the ride I was actually asleep so we didn't even talk at all. But when we went to went into the house, I was heading up to my room when Kate grabbed me and pulled me back and asked why Adam and I came back together. Adam immediately tried to tell her why, but she started shouting at him and telling him to stop talking for me and to stop defending me too. Her shouting caused my parents to rush to us. She then started screaming at me, telling me to stop being jealous and to find my own man to drive me home. She then said she's noticed everything and she hates how I think every man wants me and she called me desperate too. She was also tightly grabbing me, digging her nails in my wrist which hurt so I yanked my arm off and she shoved me.

Adam tried to hold her back, but she began to scream and cry for him to stop defending me and that he was her boyfriend and not mine. My parents tried to calm her down, but she was shaking and breathing like heavily and fast. She was also looking at me and I felt and still feel so shaken up by the scene. My mom started yelling at me to look at me to leave the room until she was better and said that I was triggering her more by being there. I felt confused and accused. So I tried to tell them that I had no idea what I did wrong and tried to explain, but my sister started to make these sounds while shaking and like panting and glaring at me which honestly scared me. My mom yelled at me to leave again and I did.

I heard them ask Adam to leave too, and he also did and later texted me and asked me if my sister was okay, but I honestly have been too scared to leave my room. I feel that. I feel I feel a bit scared that my sister might do something to me. And I've honestly cried a lot and I feel a bit shaken up because of seeing my sister like that. I don't know if it's a panic attack or a breakdown. But she looked more angry than anything. I feel a bit responsible for her having such a reaction since she told me before to stay away from Adam so I wish I never took the ride home with him.

I don't know who to talk to about this and I'm still in my room. I know I've said this a lot already but I'm genuinely scared to leave my room because of everything. And I feel like my parents both think it's my fault for my sister acting that way. Update 1, May 5th, 2025. Sorry for the delay in posting an update. I had taken a break off of my phone and social media due to harassment I'll later mention in this post. I'd like to thank everyone that gave me advice and encouragement. I didn't really expect it so I'm very grateful. I would first like to begin by saying that everyone was right. I should have left my house for some time after Kate had such a reaction towards me.

So after Kate's meltdown a week ago, Adam actually started keeping his distance from Kate and our family. I did too. I'd only leave my room to go to school or to get dinner which I had in my room. My mom also advised me to do that because she was worried about how Kate would be to me, especially since Adam wasn't talking to her much at the moment. But he would still text me occasionally if he had something to tell me about in terms of school, but he wouldn't even ask about Kate. So about three or so days after that happened, I was at school and got a text from Kate and she basically told me that she hated me and that if I come home that day she'd actually kill me. I was so confused. I didn't know what I had done since I hadn't spoken to her for some time.

I forwarded the message to my parents and I was also upset since she was threatening me out of nowhere, plus she was insulting me a lot too. Kate called me, and when I answered she was crying and screaming at me saying it's my fault, and that I never want to see her happy. And I took away someone so important to her just because I don't have a man for myself. I tried to tell her first that I didn't know what happened, but she kept saying, liar. It's your fault. Liar. It's your fault.

Then when I hang up and went to ask Adam about it, he told me he had ended things because Kate had started not only calling his phone a lot, but also his parents. She was also texting his friends on Instagram asking them to talk to him so that he could talk to her again. Adam also said that she started threatening him too. But with her life. Like saying if he actually leaves her,

she's going to kill herself and it will be his fault. I didn't believe him at first actually since I had never seen or heard my sister being like that. So he showed me the texts as proof and told me that he couldn't handle being in such a relationship since he was now afraid of her. Then he said he was also scared of me or interacting with me just in case Kate would hurt me again for it. I called my mom and tried to explain everything to her after I was done with all my classes and I even had Adam there to speak to them just in case she wouldn't believe me or wouldn't believe what Adam had told me but my mom just started.

Yelling at me. She told me that what I was doing was wrong. Like communicating with someone who caused my sister so much pain and even trying to get her to speak to him. She then refused to speak to him or even hear the reason he broke up with her because all he did was hurt Kate to her and said that me continuing to speak to him meant I didn't care about my sister. I then told her how Kate was threatening me and she told me that it was just out of anger and that I should stay away from Adam if I don't want to make Kate angrier. I kept trying to get her to understand how I felt, but she kept dismissing me so much and yelling at me too that I cried and had to end the call. I stayed in school with Adam for some time and we spoke about what I should do. and mostly because I was just scared of going home and wanted to talk to someone who understood me.

Not to trigger Kate, Kate was spamming me with texts asking if I was with Adam and what was taking me so long to go home. She was also calling me a lot and when I didn't answer her calls, she called me through my mom's phone and when I answered and heard it was her, I hang up after she said she knew I was with Adam. I honestly felt so exhausted by all of this and had to even face the fear of asking a friend who slept in the dorms if I can stay with her. I told her everything too and were close, so I've been here for a few days. I told my parents that I was with a friend to prep for some exams and both of them, especially my father, insist I go home, especially since I'm the youngest. They don't trust me to stay out of home since first I have nothing on me, but I'm actually just scared to go home that I don't care.

My parents think I'm overreacting about Kate's threats and even made me speak to her on the phone and she told me she didn't mean it, but I don't believe her. They're saying I'm trying to ruin Kate's name by involving others into family matters. Like what? I had to turn my phone off for some time because of Kate constantly calling and texting threats and insults to me. And when I'd tell my parents they literally made excuses. Oh. And on Saturday all three of them came to my school to try and find me. I was lucky not to bump into them but Adam and one of my other friends unfortunately were spotted by Kate but Adam didn't want to talk to them. them, so he avoided them and warned me about it, and my friend who did talk to them told me my sister asked her if I was staying with Adam and my parents told her to tell me to come home

and to take their calls. So yeah. I apologize if this post feels all over the place. I tried to explain everything for everyone who wanted an update. I'm still so stressed about everything in keeping my distance isn't helping like I thought it would. I'm constantly worried that my sister or my parents will find me and that I will have to speak to them on this which I don't want to, but I know I know I'll.

I'll have to go home soon since my parents are insisting on it. Update 2. May 6th, 2025. I am once again overwhelmed by the support and advice and encouragement I have received. Thank you so much. I once again took everyone's advice. The hardest part about this was having to move out of the house I grew up in. It was really hard to go back. I actually felt worried, but I decided to go back home today when both of my parents were at home and I also went with a friend just in case.

Plus I had time since my classes were all in the evening. My family have this obsession with keeping the family image good and I kind of surprised them by coming back so suddenly and with a guest, I think. I first of all sat down with them and my friend went upstairs to my room to begin the packing and obviously to give us space. My parents then started talking in silent tones basically telling me to stop being dramatic and stop dragging this issue out and that it has already happened and I should just forget it come back home. I first asked if I can stay in the campus accommodation or the apartments

close to school since I am actually doing my finals exams from Thursday and I wanted to stay in school where I can focus on just school. I thought this approach would work since my parents are pretty strict about school but my parents refused immediately. My father said that I wasn't allowed to until I was older and my mother said she knows it's because of Kate. I then told them I've already decided that that's what I want and I'll do it anyway and my father threatened to stop paying my fees. He also told me to think about what our other family members would think and that I'd have a lot of time in our house with my sister during the summer break to make up. But I dreaded actually living so much time in the same place as Kate. Plus I asked the school already about

summer housing and it is allowed in my school but you have to pay a different price which I expected my parents not to agree to pay. My friend came downstairs while we were talking and called me to the side and then she told me that she was looking for a suitcase and then Kate burst inside and was like lunging to her but then stopped when she realized it wasn't me. She said she was scared and wanted to leave and I felt scared too. I took my friend to my parents and told her to repeat what she just told me and my mom just sighed. She told me to go if I want and see how I'll survive without them. I looked at my dad but he didn't say anything.

I asked if I was allowed to leave and my dad said I can go but as long as I wasn't under his protection, I shouldn't expect anything from them. frown My friend said to me that it was okay and she'll help me pack So I asked my parents to tell Kate to come downstairs and mom said she can do whatever she wants since she lived there So me and my friend just went upstairs and my room was wide open and my friend and I actually hesitated to go in but she wasn't there

I packed most of my clothes Not everything Then we left immediately after I decided to speak to the school with my friend Moron on campus housing and explained my entire situation and I was actually allowed to have it if I took summer classes or if I took internship, but since I'm a freshman it would be harder to do internship so I am choosing to do summer classes. Sorry for that me, I was then asked to speak to the campus safety officers concerning my sister and the threats she made against me. But I'll go with Adam

tomorrow. Since we both have evidence and I had a lot of work having to bring my stuff to the dorms as well as having an evening class to prepare for. I called my father after my father and told him about it, the housing and fees, and then I asked again if he was really not going to like pay my fees or support my other expenses. He said that he'd pay for school fees and the housing, but I'd have to figure everything else out, like food and stuff which I think is manageable. Now regarding pressing charges, I don't want to risk being cut off financially by my parents since I am not ready to pay for my own fees yet. Plus after I blocked my sister, she stopped bothering me. But after my friend told me that she lunged at her when she came

back home, I'm worried she'll do that again to me. And a lot of comments in my posts have given me scenarios which made her scarier to me. But Adam wants to file a restraining order against her. For some reason he doesn't have her blocked, just muted, but he views all her texts and even forward some to me or send screen recordings of voice notes she sent to him. And yes, we are actively communicating because we are going through the same issue. I hope to just receive protection from Kate. Like even if it means spending my entire summer in school I'll do it. I'm not sure what going to happen tomorrow but even now, the school has said they're not letting people to the dorms area, so I'll be safe until then. To the people hating on me for not pressing charges earlier,

I hope you understand I fully depend on my parents for everything. I was worried that if I did, I'd be cut off. But after my finals, I want to try and get a job so I can earn some money during the summer and hopefully I'll get used to such independence. This is my final update. Thank you for all the support. I'm okay. So is Adam. And we'll continue working on making sure we'll both be safe. Next story, caught my best friend's fiancé cheating with her boss so I sent him the photos, but everyone says I ruined their relationship until I found out she was getting promoted for sleeping with him so we got them both fired. Me and Carlos are friends since 28 years because our mothers were great friends and we spent basically all our life together. Despite being

very different because he is more extrovert, makes friends in a blink of an eye, always have nonsense jokes ready on the other side and more cold, calculative and controlling. Our mothers always said that we are like black and white, but somehow we got along. Carlos recently got engaged to his G.F. Marlene, and since a couple of months they were planning the wedding and despite me not liking her too much because of her look at me. I'm here everyone look at me character we never really had fights or arguments. It's just a skin thing. This whole mess started two weeks ago while I was walking my dog, a rescued 10 years old German shepherd called Kimmy as the Formula One driver, when I saw from distance in a bar

Marlene with another guy there on a table talking. Nothing of strange I thought, but then when we were on the crosswalk with the red light waiting to pass from that bar Marlene and the guy started kissing each other pretty passionately, so I was taken aback for a few moments but got out my phone and made a photo and a quick video zooming on them. Here comes the first thing because I immediately sent the photo and the video to Carlos almost sure that there was some kind of explanation for this because come on they were engaged and planning a wedding. Carlos just saw the photo and the video but didn't reply and for two days just silence. Until 10 days ago on 3 a.m. in the night he intercombed at my house while I was sleeping.

I saw him from the monitor and when he approached the door still a bit sleepy I just saw the bags and told him that one of the guest rooms was upstairs and that I just refilled the fridge and then went to sleep again. But then the next morning he told me what happened. Apparently Marlene was cheating on him since nine months with this guy and when he confronted her with texts, the photo and the video she dropped the cheaters act. Carlos words, and then went straight to my house after spending hours yelling and arguing with her. I asked him what his plan was and he told me that he didn't want it to see her for any possible reason and needed to break off the engagement.

I agreed with him and told him that he could stay how long he wanted but just to not tell about this mess to my seven-year-old adopted daughter because she is innocent and all of this and drama is the last thing she needed. So coming to the main point of this post apparently I became the real reason why they broke up. Since Carlos arrived at my house it's like everyone turned against me with stuff like none of this would have happened if you had your mouth shut and similar shit but every time my response is thanks for letting me know and go to hell. I reply this to the barrage of texts, calls and people intercomming at my house.

Sincerely I don't feel very guilty but many are saying that I shouldn't send him immediately the photo and the video and having instead a talk with Carlos. But since apparently right now for many I'm the worst and the real reason why they broke up and only a few are saying that I did the right thing I want to hear others' opinions. So Ada for exposing everything or I should have done something different? Update, so almost two weeks passed by and unfortunately Carlos isn't managing well this whole drama. I'm trying my best for him to support him and be there for him. I can guarantee that seeing your best friend crying and trying to blame himself because his ex-fiance

cheated on him isn't easy at all, and even for someone cold like me is heartbreaking. So I decided to do something about this and for once showing that actions have real-life consequences. So knowing just the name and last name of the AP, I decided to ask a connection for a favor. Just a simple background check on who the guy is. And well two days ago I did it and find out the whole picture. The guy isn't a random guy, but he is Marlene's boss. And according to my connection since the affair started Marlene, she works as a lawyer, started to be designated to big cases and to manage big clients. What a surprise. But the most interesting thing is that Marlene wasn't the first one and her boss already did this with two other girls and their law firm was just

searching for any type of excuse to fire him and a very simple plan immediately came to my mind. Why not giving an extra push for this? So through Carlos screenshots of their chat and my photo and video I created a very clear case of this behavior. The most surprising part? When I told Carlos about this I was extremely clear on what would happen, the consequences of this, how he needed to think well at this before regretting it, but his reply left surprised hell yes he said immediately so we sent, through a temporary email. The proofs we had in well yesterday the good news showed up extremely quickly because the firm fired on the spot Marlene's boss and her two. I wasn't really expecting that she would be fired too honestly, but apparently karma doesn't show mercy.

So guess who today had a meltdown screaming and yelling every insult you can imagine at my house? Exactly. Marlene screamed for like two hours that we ruined their life, that she knew we were the one, how she will sue us for ruining her life and all this type of stuff. But again what I couldn't imagine is that one of my neighbors called the police on her and through the cameras on my gate the police officers had to drag her physically in their car and then had a talk with us, but we obviously played dumb and explained a bit the situation. Fortunately, they understood and didn't press further on the issue. Do I feel bad about it? Do I feel guilty? Absolutely fucking not.

Actually seeing Carlos laughing at Marlene having a mental breakdown was quite surprising and funny at the same time, like he was really enjoying seeing an adult having a meltdown and screaming all type of stuff. So the situation is this and I really hope to don't update again because now the focus is just seeing the clown of my best friend's smile and laugh again. He even asked me if I was sure that he could stay at my house for more time jokingly asking me if I would make him pay rent but I reassured him that it was fine and it wasn't a problem for me as long as my daughter would stay out of all of this.