Reddit Stories - Partner SABOTAGED my ideal show by PURCHASING passes for the INCORRECT date despite

Episode Date: November 9, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #relationships #drama #partner #tickets #mistakeSummary: My partner sabotaged my ideal show by purchasing passes for the incorrect date despite my clear instructions. Now, we are left with tickets we can't use and I am feeling frustrated and disappointed.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, relationships, drama, partner, tickets, mistake, communication, misunderstanding, frustration, disappointment, event, entertainment, date, planning, sabotage, conflictBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. Partner sabotaged my ideal show by purchasing passes for the incorrect date despite my flawless coordination, and his affluent acquaintance remarked that the eatery I selected has an odor reminiscent of destitution. People he laughed instead of defending me. I, 24F, have been dating my boyfriend, 27M, for two years long distance. We don't live together, but due to our demanding jobs we try to see each other at least three-x-slash-month. Overall, I can say many positive things about our relationship, however things took a turn a few

weeks ago and I can't seem to forgive him. For context, I'm very much a type A person, I need everything planned and to be in order. However, since I'm always planning things with friends, BF or at work, I get worn down pretty quickly and it takes a toll on my mood. He on the other hand is very laid back and goes through life with and it is what it is attitude. So naturally, it has always been me who's been planning activities, booking places to stay, sightseeing and holiday all throughout our relationship. A year ago, BF got me tickets for my favorite artist and I've been excited ever since. I still had to book transportation, hotel, and plan activities though, but I didn't mind as long as we could get to see the artist in time. Spoiler alert,

we missed the concert because BF booked the tickets for a different day and we couldn't get a refund. Safe to say, I've never been more disappointed in my life. I still feel physically, emotionally and financially drained, and that I can't rely on him. I decided we needed to go on a break and I've been talking with my friends and my therapist about what to do. My therapist said that I'm processing it as a betrayal and a breach of trust. My friends are telling me it's up to me if I want to continue the relationship, but if they were in my shoes, they couldn't trust him with anything ever again. I understand that it's a mistake anyone could have made and in the end it's not that serious.

He has apologized about a million times and feels very sorry about how he let me down. But at the same time, all this penned up frustration that's inside me keeps reminding me he had one job and still managed to ruin the experience for me. Of course, not everything is black and white. Besides this character flaw, he is a very good boyfriend, kind, funny, and we have the same opinions on politics, human rights, etc. Basically all the serious life stuff. I can't seem to get over this mistake, though. We were planning on getting married and spending the rest of our lives together, yet I don't want to end up being the only one pulling the weight. Advice would be

greatly appreciated. Edit 1. There seems to be some confusion regarding booking and tickets. There were two concerts. One was happening on the 31st and second was on the first. B.F. told me we had tickets for the second concert, so I booked everything in accordance to that. Then on the first he realized we had tickets for the 31st, so the day after we were supposed to attend the concert. Also, only he had access to the tickets. Hope that clears it up a bit. Edit 2. So far I've seen people form three stances in the comments. Break up with him or I will have to manage him for the rest of my life. Give him a chance with a set of boundaries or I'm actually neurotic and he should break up with me. I've done some introspection and considering all the facts,

uneven mental load, distance, how long we'd still be apart, my reaction, I've drafted a message explaining how I felt, highlighting how much I still care about him. I've also written a few questions to ask him about the future of our relationship. He probably thought a lot about our relationship as well, and if he doesn't want to be with me, I'm not going to force him. I'll ask him probably next week, not sure if anyone wants an update on that, though. Overall, this situation has saddened me and I feel extremely uncertain about my future. Thank you to all kind Redditors who actually offered great advice. Update, hi everyone, not sure if this will get buried or not, but a few people asked for an update.

First of, I want to thank everyone who gave me feedback in my previous post. Here's the update. I omitted a lot of details and lied about our personal lives, just so I could get truly unbiased opinions. To tell the truth, I'm a med student, got into med school a bit later because, well, life happened. He's just finished law school. At the time of the concert, I had to study for my anatomy final and could not have any distractions, but I told myself that the concert would be a treat to myself during this tough time period. We had arrived at his friend's place where we'd be staying in TBH. I've never felt so unwelcomed and out of place in my entire life. Me, my BF, let's call him Jim, his friend Jane and her BF John decided to go to a restaurant in the evening

and Jane basically didn't acknowledge me for the entire evening. Every time Jim had to leave the table, Jane would turn to John and pretended I wasn't there. I then heard her say that after dinner, she'd like to go get something cheap and sweet to eat, to which I proposed a certain shop in the city we were in. Jane replied that it smelled there. After asking her how did the shop smell, she looked me in the eyes, laughed and said it smelled like poor people. When Jim returned, I took him aside and told him what Jane has said to me, to which he just laughed. For the rest of the evening it was clear I was sticking out from the

group, because the conversation topics were about things I had no knowledge about so I couldn't participate in them. So I sat in silence until we came back to Jane's flat. I then cried in the shower. I felt completely useless, like the evening would have gone exactly the same whether I was there or not. The next day, the ticket incident happened. Jim checked the tickets and realized he booked them for the day before. I tried to get the tickets and was contacted by a scammer, and got scammed circa 1,980 euro. Already talked to police but they put the investigation on hold. During this time, Jim kept repeating how stupid he was and that he would fix everything, just didn't know how. The artist won't come to our country anytime soon B.T.W.

Jim also never said how he would prevent similar mistakes from happening again. After that, I didn't speak to him for almost two weeks and took to Reddit. In the end, I decided to give him one last chance, and said probably both of us should work on our communication. He said he didn't expect me to give him another chance, didn't know how to react, so he thought it over for 12 plus hours and didn't contact me. During this time, I kind of emotionally accepted he didn't want to be with me anymore. The next day Jim agreed to give it another try, but the excuses started. He kept telling me he would be jobless during the summer, money would be tight,

we wouldn't be able to travel anywhere, that I should enjoy my summer, etc. To me, it sounded like he wanted an out, but didn't want to be the bad guy and proposed the breakup. Come to find out, he wasn't as broke as he was telling me, because he attended a film and music festival. doing the math, he probably spent around 300 euros. So I messaged him that I'm tired, he didn't even say sorry after Jane insulted me, and I didn't see him making any effort in planning our future and owning up to his mistakes. We wished each other well, we would be open to communication if we ever crossed paths again, and I now feel like somebody close to me died. Rationally, I know I did the right thing, but I've never broken up with anyone amicably

before, and grieving this relationship is extremely hard on me. Thank you all for reading. Take care. Comments where Op has replied, comment, breakups always suck, but you definitely did the right thing. Anyone who would laugh at Jane saying the place you suggested smells like poor people is not someone you want to build a life with. Oop, I don't want to indulge in this whole classism thing, but TBH Jim comes from a worse financial situation than me. Jane has generational wealth and I think he didn't confront her because he would lose access to the perks of being her friend. After thinking about that moment so many times, I couldn't come up with any other explanation. Are Oop and Jim different nationalities? Oop were the same nationality. But I study in a neighboring

country. If either one of us wanted to visit the other, it would take two, five-dash-three hours of travel. Next story, kids ran away and told police I kicked them out which got me arrested, daughter admitted she made up abs allegations after watching YouTube pranks and now my ex-wife is using fake injuries to frame me during our divorce. Hold on because this is a doozy. I'm going to omit some details to help keep myself from getting doxed about this whole thing. Last year my kids, 9F and 7M, ran away late at night slash early in the morning. When found by some city officials, they claimed I kicked them out of the house. I woke up the morning up to the cops and CPS knocking on the door. I told my side of the story from what I knew and they had

my, now ex, wife tell her side while keeping us separated. The cops claim our stories don't match and end up arresting me. I bail myself out that same day and go live with my parents for a while. I'm dealing with court, scared that I'm going back to jail or prison and that I'll lose my job that I had only been at for a year. A little over a month goes by and I get a phone call to have a meeting with the CPS woman in charge of our case. My daughter ended up making more allegations against me that did not make any sense to the CPS people and when they asked her questions, she was unable to give them answers. My son ended up breaking first and admitting the whole thing was made up and that my daughter

was the one to orchestrate everything. This reveal led to the charges being dropped and my daughter getting counseling and psychiatric help. For a while I thought things were good. We were on our way to fix things. I kept trying to get all of us into therapy, both individually and family. I was already in therapy due to this whole situation anyway. My ex kept dragging her feet and it never went anywhere.

After some other situations with being displaced due to a natural disaster and me trying to get things packed up in our old apartment, I get told by my ex she wants a divorce so now I'm having to rush and try to find a place to live, which I did luckily. I actually move in tomorrow. On the 14th of June I get served an emergency protection order by the county sheriff's office. I'm told it's because I allegedly hit my son and gave him a concussion while in the grocery store. Where there are cameras. He had been taken to the emergency room by my ex on the 14th, but this event allegedly happened on the 10th.

I had told my ex that due to me having to get this house to rent, along with utilities in my name, adding up to over $2,000 that I wasn't going to be able to pay certain bills this month but that I'll get them caught up as soon as I can to get everything paid off and even. I signed for the deposit on the 11th and the kids had been with her while I did this paperwork and there was no issue. On the same morning I had taken my kids to the park so they could play and recorded videos of them being silly and having fun. I was talking to my therapist this week and I told her what was going on and how I felt about being around my ex or the children. It's two years in a row of false allegations. I want nothing to do with any of them now. I'll pay child

gladly, I had an agreement with my ex before this all happened of paying $1,000 a month, $500 per paycheck, for child support. After all of this, Ada for not wanting to be around the children and my ex after everything gets settled and found out to be lies again? Additional information from OOP. I posted this before I clocked in at work so let me give some more details. My ex-wife and I were still together when the kids ran away last year. My side of the story during that was that I came home from work, talked with the kids and wife, gave the kids their melatonin gummies before sending them to bed, after which I took a shower before making me something for dinner and cleaning up afterwards. By this point

my ex was asleep already, and so were the kids. When CPS and the mental health professionals were talking to my daughter after everything got cleared, she was saying the voices she was hearing were telling her to do things. The mental health professionals said this sounded too rehearsed to them. It later got revealed that she was watching videos about kids pranking their parents and she wanted to try it out herself. She had access to YouTube due to tablets that my mill had given the kids for Christmas back in 2023, which I disagreed with but I was ignored. At the time, and to this day, I do not believe my ex had a hand in the running away situation. On to this year, my son went to the ER on the 14th because he had, and I quote from the paperwork

I was given, dizziness, light-headed feeling, and a nosebleed. I am not sure how he received a concussion. Nothing is finished with this situation yet and nothing has been decided in terms of child support. We go back to court next month to revisit this after the investigation has finished. On the day I received the EPO I talked to a state trooper and told him the kids' history, showed the videos of my kids playing, and showed receipts on my banking app from when we were at Walmart and at what time we were there. As of right now, I have to have a lot of haven't heard anything else. I have already been interviewed by CPS and informed them of the same things I told the state trooper because it is a different person on this case as my ex and kids

live in a different county at the moment. This time I firmly believe that my ex is behind this due to my telling her some of the bills would have to wait because I'm having to pay approximately $2,500 to move, put down deposits and pay first and last month rent. I haven't seen my kids since I dropped them off to my grandparents on the afternoon of the 11th. I have not made a decision about staying away from my kids, but I do plan on talking to a lawyer in the next couple of days and I'm looking into security for my house and a discrete body camera to where like many other users have said. I'll try to answer any other questions that I can, but I move tomorrow and I have some last-minute things to pack up and place in my car and move downstairs.

Thank you for all of your insights and words and thoughts and prayers. It means a whole lot to me that I can't put into words. Update 1, so I have an update, along with answering some questions better from my previous post. When I first posted this I was not in a good headspace and I realized that I wasn't very clear. To be honest, I'm still not in a good headspace, but it's a little bit better. For starters, these false allegations started last year when my kids were nine and seven. When I said two years I meant calendar years. When I said I spoke to the police about my side of the story last year, I meant what happened the night before the police and CPS showed up at the front door. I had gotten home, spent some time with the kids and my ex, then wife, before giving the kids their

melatonin gummies, this was done on an as-needed basis, mainly two to three times a week at most. After that I went and took a shower, made myself some dinner, then ate and cleaned up the kitchen before spending more time with my then-wife before we both went to bed. Due to a contraction happening when she was being given the epidural, she sleeps better propped up so she slept on the couch while myself and the kids slept upstairs. The next morning is when I woke up to the cops at the door with CPS. I was charged with child abandonment and arrested. It took over a month for the truth to come out about my kids making this up due to the fact

my daughter was saying I was having Sags with her. The CPS agent conducting the investigation tried to ask more details, and that's when my daughter started crying and admitted she made it up because she couldn't give details. The only reason my daughter even knew what Sags was is because my ex and I were in the bedroom and we both thought the other locked the door and my daughter walked in on us. Moving to now, I don't know how my son got this supposed concussion. We had court again on Monday, the 21st, and when the judge asked her she told him that after talking with the state trooper we have decided to not press criminal charges. I asked the judge if there was any

evidence that they had about what they're claiming I did and he told me that since no charges were filed, there's no evidence gathered to give to me. I want to thank everyone for their answers on my last post. Thinking about those feelings was making me sick to my stomach and I just needed some perspectives from people who weren't emotionally involved. I thought about this since last month and I made the decision to tell the judge I want the divorce process and this EPO to be over and done with and that I just want to be left alone. I'm still questioning if this was the right decision or not. I'm just not sure what else I could do. I work 12-hour days five to six days a week. I have no way to take care of the kids so I can't take them in. Even then,

am I supposed to get to the point where the court system says supervised visits aren't needed anymore and just start wearing a body camera around the kids and just be scared all the time? Looking over my shoulder constantly just to make sure that I'm not going to end up in jail again? We have a hearing set up for December to hopefully get everything finalized and finished. I keep thinking about the kids going trick or treating in three months, going back to school and next month, how we won't be decorating Christmas trees together or making cookies for Santa and I start crying all over again. I'm not sure what else I could have done though that wouldn't have made me a paranoid mess 24 to 7. This will be the last update until December

or January, I guess. Thank you again for everyone saying I wasn't an asshole for feeling this way. Have a good one, read it. Comments where Ope has replied, did Oop's ex explain why she wanted the divorce? Oop, her words was that she just isn't in love with me anymore and we've both become too different. She's religious, I'm not. Both have different views on things that we can't come to an agreement on. After last year I wanted to get us into therapy and got some recommendations for marriage counselors and gave her the list and said that I'd be fine with whoever she chose so long as we worked on it. She never chose anyone and kept making excuses about why every time I asked. Comment one, your daughter lied about you or ping her,

among many other allegations, and she says that she was motivated to behave the way that she did after she apparently watched a prank video? There is more to this story than your daughter is letting on. Either your ex-wife has coached your daughter well, or your daughter is incredibly manipulative at a very young age. Oop, everything I know I included. I'm dead certain there's stuff I don't know about like you said comment too. If you don't mind the question, in your previous post, you mentioned how you were arrested because the cops claimed you and your wife's stories didn't match. Did you find out why they weren't the same, and why your wife wasn't arrested as well?

Sorry you're going through this op-oop. No, I didn't, I have the police report, but all it says is when asked if she believes he's capable of this she answered, I don't know. I don't think so I don't want to think about it did the daughter's tablet, from Mill, have parental controls? Boop, she apparently somehow found a way to get past it from what I know about it. Like I mentioned in a different comment, I told everything that I know about the situation from my end up needs to get his kids in therapy, especially his daughter and himself,

I agree about both, and luckily I'm in therapy already. I've been in therapy since August slash September of last year update too, so this is a really small update that I wasn't expecting to make. I had left a voicemail for the CPS agent assigned to the current situation with my son asking for an update on everything because I haven't heard anything since June. She had to look in her case notes but everything has been found to be unsubstantiated. I should be getting the official paperwork in a few days to a week in the mail. I'm not sure how to feel about this, honestly. I'm relieved that the truth has come out about these allegations.

Angry that this has happened to me twice now, happy that this is one step closer to being finished. I want to cry, but I couldn't tell you the specific emotion that's causing it. I'm taking some other Redditor's words to heart and putting in a request to my state police records department to get copies of any and all paperwork, evidence, or lack thereof, anything I can get my hands on from them. I'm also getting copies of my son's medical records so I can see exactly what was found back in June. I know a lot of you don't believe this and I don't care. I have nothing to gain from lying about this. I'll gladly post pictures of the paperwork from CPS when it comes in, with all private information redacted, of course, to protect myself and my children. I know some of the

details don't make sense between the August post and the update, but like I saw one person mention, which I love to read posts from and didn't expect my own to end up there, I'm just going on survival mode. I only just got a full-sized fridge two days ago. I only have an air mattress for a bed. I'm just tired. I want this over with. I want things to go back to January when all I had to worry about was the fact I was recovering from a car wreck and couldn't even help take down the Christmas trees and get a new car.