Reddit Stories - Partner was COVERTLY RENDEZVOUSING with my sibling at pubs, then when I CONFRONTED

Episode Date: January 28, 2026

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #relationshipadvice #betrayal #familydrama #confrontation #trustissuesSummary: I discovered my partner was secretly meeting my sibling at pubs. When I confronted them about their covert rendezvous, emotions ran high. The betrayal shattered my trust, leaving me questioning both relationships. This situation forced me to reevaluate my connections and what loyalty truly means to me.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, relationships, betrayal, family, drama, confrontation, trust, loyalty, secrets, emotionalpain, siblingrivalry, heartbreak, honesty, communication, support, healingBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6816713/support.This episode includes AI-generated content.

Episode with two stories, first part. I hope you enjoy this story. Partner was covertly rendezvousing with my sibling at pubs, then when I confronted them, they both deceived me to my face until I exposed that I was already aware of their illicit relationship. However, my mom still expects me to forgive her because she's going through a hard time. I, 20F, and my boyfriend, 29M, I will call him Ryan, have been together for about a year and a half now, and up until recently I always trusted him, maybe blindly and naively looking back on it.

I started losing that trust a few months ago when an ex of his, I will call her Anna, found me on Instagram and DM'd me what was basically the dreaded hey-girly text. I knew about Anna because they were pretty serious in college and he and his mom had both told me stories about her. I was told by Ryan that they ended their long-term relationship because they wanted different things with life. He said she wanted to settle down and he wasn't ready, I believed him but Anna told me that they actually broke up because after four years together and talking about marriage she found out he had been cheating on her almost the whole time with no remorse. Apparently they had rekindled some time about a year before and Anna thought he had grown

as a person so they were considering meeting up and possibly getting back together until he randomly ghosted her. She found my account through his and piece together by our photos that I was the reason he ghosted her. She provided multiple screenshots and the time stamps are all during the same time frame me and him started talking. He was talking to us both and entertaining us both up until the same day he asked me to make things official. I don't know why she didn't tell me sooner or if she had just found out, but I never asked even now because I don't know if I even want to know more. I thanked her and I did confront him with this almost immediately. He was honest, but I think that was only because I had the proof right

there in front of us. He admitted that he was talking to both of us and another girl because he was single then and he had the right to. When I pointed out that I told him I wasn't talking to anyone else very early on in our talking stage and he could have told me then, or better yet stop talking to these other women if he thought we were so serious. He got very defensive and said that I was making this out to be something it wasn't and said I was acting like he was a cheater. The fact that he brought up cheating first is telling to me now even though I didn't think of it in the moment. I know he did not technically cheat on me but it still feels disrespectful that he not only did it but didn't even think to tell me throughout our whole relationship.

This opened my eyes to some massive red flags that just seemed to keep popping up and eventually they were all I could see about I still love him despite how stupid that sounds. Even now as I am typing this I still hope I am so very wrong even though I do not think I am, but I need other opinions because I feel crazy. My sister, 25F, who I will call Jane,

just went through a nasty breakup three months ago and had to move back home with my parents to get back on her feet. Instead of hiring a moving company and wasting that money, she just asked our brother 23M to use his truck and have the family help her move. Of course we did, but I felt like we needed some more help so I stupidly invited Ryan to come and help us. Ryan had never met my sister before then, but as soon as they started talking I felt like a third wheel. They have more in common which I should have expected with them being closer in age than me and him. I ignored it at first and tried to convince myself I was glad they were getting along, but the way he looked at looked at her when we left later that night and the way she said goodbye like there was more

behind the words filled me with jealousy. It wasn't even a full week later that it started getting weirder. Ryan made a comment in the middle of a date night about how mature my sister is, which if you talk to this woman at all anyone can tell she is the opposite of mature so I know this was some type of dig because I have always been self-conscious of our age gap. I have even said the words I wish I was more mature, to him before. My mood was ruined after this because it made no sense to me why he was even thinking of Jane, and I was already upset and on edge so I tried to end our night early, but he was following me around his apartment and yelling at me that I was acting insecure and didn't trust him.

I let it slip that I hadn't trusted him for a while and he asked me what the point of our relationship was if I cannot trust him, and after some back and forth of me saying he needed to work to regain my trust and him saying I was blaming him for stuff he can't change, I ended up leaving because he would not stop and I wanted to sleep. I went to my parents' place because they were closer and it was late already so I crashed there. My mom, of course, was curious why and I broke down and explained everything to her, minus the Jane details because I knew she would be listening, and she was. I was a crying mess by the end, but my mom said she thought I was being paranoid and jumping

to conclusions based on his past. I called Ryan and to his credit he did pick up quickly. I told him I was sorry but now I feel like a pushover because looking back on it I was not the one who needed to apologize. Jane even came down and comforted me herself, which is rare because she usually only cares for herself. I should have seen this as a sign, but I was too caught up on thinking my sister finally cared about me. For a while everything was okay after. When I got back to his place, he apologized for yelling and said he hated seeing me leave and even asked me to move in with him. I hadn't decided yet, but I was stupidly considering

saying yes. Everything felt too good to be true and I was tired of of feeling crazy, so I just started trying to accept that I may have paranoia issues when everything was basically confirmed for me. In the middle of the night like a month and a half after Jane moved back, almost four in the morning, Ryan was on the phone with her. I caught him in his living room basically whispering into his phone, I was already suspicious and angry before I even knew who it was and asked him instead of doing the smart thing and listening into whatever they were talking about, because I still do not know what their late-night conversations were about. He didn't even try and hide it. He admitted to me that he and

Jane had been talking for weeks and were becoming close friends. He said he didn't tell me because he knew how I would react. And that he was worried I would think the worst. Hearing him say that felt so demeaning because it told me he knew how I would feel and what it would look, but did it anyway. I was too angry to even have a conversation with him, so I locked myself in the bedroom until it was light out, ignoring him and Jane who spammed my phone with explanations. As soon as I could, I left his apartment with as much of my stuff as I could carry. I vended to my mom about this on the phone just to find out that it was my own mother who gave Ryan's phone number to my sister that night I crashed at their house, because she apparently wanted to get to know him better.

My mom keeps saying that she is being a good sister and looking out for me by making sure he is good enough, but I do not believe it, the timing is too weird. She finds out my boyfriend has a history of cheating and that's when she wants his number? If she truly was just trying to make sure he was good for me she would not have felt the need to go behind my back to get Ryan's number, and would she not have done that in the beginning? And she did not do that with either of my previous relationships. For some context about how my mom acts towards Jane, my sister has always been spoiled rotten. She is my parents' favorite and didn't hear the word no from them if they could help it. In my parents' eyes, my moms especially, she can do no wrong. Even though

Jane is one of the rudest people I know my mom still sees her as her baby. My mom keeps trying to get me to accept that she is just going through a hard time and needs a good friend like Ryan who takes care of her, but that just makes me more livid because why should my boyfriend be responsible for the heavy lifting of my sister's life? She is a grown adult who could go to therapy for her problems. She shouldn't need to call my boyfriend about them in the middle of the night. Last week was my final straw. I found out through my brother that Ryan and Jane had been regularly meeting up at bars for now, even after the big fight about them calling in the night, going on what Jane calls friend dates, the cherry on top is that she specifically told my brother not to tell me, he told me almost

immediately and I finally broke. There is no good excuse for my boyfriend to be regularly seeing my sister behind my back, so I finally confronted them. I waited at my apartment and called them both to come and the looks on their faces when they realized they were both their made my stomach churn. I didn't mention knowing about their little dates because I wanted to see if they would dig themselves into a hole and that is exactly what they did. They both said they barely interact off the phone and when they did it wasn't planned it just happened. I let them say their whole spiel before simply dropping, so you ended up at the same bar multiple weekends in a row for friend dates on accident? When I used her own words I saw on her face that she knew I knew,

They tried to say it was nothing weird and they both adamantly denied anything happening during those friend dates, but I feel it in my gut that they are lying about that too since they can so easily lie to me about everything else. Ryan said they were just hanging out as friends, but once they lied to my face about them I knew they were more than friendly hangouts. I have no hard evidence of anything going on past these dates and even if nothing physical has happened he is at least emotionally cheating on me with her. They let me feel like a crazy paranoid girlfriend, trying to make me feel like I was seeing things while Manetian. manipulating me and am having the nerve to ask me to move in with him while doing this. I have not spoken to either of them or my mom since because I can't help but think my mom knew. What I keep thinking of that hurts most is that had Anna not told me he had a past of being a cheater,

I would probably be thinking he's such a nice guy, helping and befriending my sister and they all would have let me stay in the dark. They have not stopped trying to contact me and I have gotten multiple voicemails from my mom that I am sure are defending them so I can't even bring myself to listen to them. I have no idea what I am supposed to do now or how to go about this. I didn't technically break it off with Ryan and I do not know how to. I fully believe he was trying to trap me in his life by asking me to move in and now I am honestly a little scared of what else he could try to keep me around. My brother said he would gladly break it to him for me, but I don't know if that is the mature thing to do, and I keep having to beat myself up mentally

for missing him. Am I jumping to conclusions like my mom thinks or does it seem like like he is emotionally cheating with my own sister? Update 1, I decided to cut ties with Ryan and I have gone no contact with my sister and my mom. The day after I posted my initial ADA, I took some of you guys' advice and I broke it off with Ryan through a careful text that said, more or less,

I do not believe nothing happened between you and my sister and I won't stay in a relationship with someone who would break my trust like that. Even if nothing happened you lied to me about seeing her, went behind my back to be with her, and hurt me all for someone you barely know. know, for someone I am supposed to be able to trust. I do not want you to text or call me and I do not want to see you again. My brother will be coming to get anything of mine you still have when he can.

I wanted the text to be direct and fast so he couldn't try to twist my words but he still responded saying he only wanted to be with me, was sorry he hurt me, and that he didn't mean to break my trust so I silenced his contact and put my phone on DND for now but I know he has still been texting I just refused to even look at them. Some comments said not. to block him fully just in case he goes too far and I need documentation, so I am following that advice until I think I am in the clear. My sister showed up at my apartment unannounced after this and I am positive he told her about my text. I talked to her outside because I wanted to see if I could get more information out of her but didn't want her in my apartment. So while she

was begging me to forgive her I said I would if she told me the truth. And I was pretty much right, she confessed that they both talked about being attracted to each other and about what they would do together if I wasn't in the picture on those late-night phone calls. The farthest it went was talking about getting a hotel room for a weekend to act on this which she claims Ryan shot down but I do not believe that. She said nothing physical ever happened and they went on those friend dates to live out a fantasy they were never going to act on, which I think is bullshit. She said she was the one pushing for them to go further but he never crossed the line but I do not care.

They were leading up to cheating physically if they haven't already and in my eyes already did cheat. They were basically asengi or having phone segs or whatever TF while I was asleep in the next room and her trying to justify that me feel sick. I told her I was likely not going to talk to her ever again and she went from begging to being angry and calling me a liar almost immediately so I just went back up to my apartment to avoid doing something I would regret. I also finally listened to my mom's voicemails and they were in fact offending Jane. I called her, told her what Jane admitted and asked if she knew.

She said she didn't know and thought they really were just friends but still thinks I am being too hard on Jane. She thinks I should be more angry at Ryan since he made the commitment to me and Jane will be my sister for life. I believe her that she didn't know about everything but I can't even find the words to describe how I feel about her expecting me to just forgive Jane. I also do not believe she told the full story but I have no idea how I would find out more while also avoiding them like the plague like I want to. I have not spoken to them since, but they have pretty much brought the whole family into this to try and convince me to reconsider. I could tell they were just repeating what my mom or Jane told them, but I still made it clear to them that I would also be going no contact with anyone who tried to convince me to talk

to them before I am ready and my brother helped back me up on this. My brother has been very supportive in all of this and is probably all that is going to get me through this. He plans to go to Ryan's tomorrow to get some stuff I left there and he is actually going to be staying with me because I do it. have a spare key to my apartment at Ryan's place. We are also both ready to call the cops if he tries to do so much as keep one thing from me. My brother was ready to fight him, but I told him not to because I don't want him getting in trouble for my relationship problems, especially since I

blame myself for not noticing this sooner. Some of these comments were the harsh kick I needed to realize I needed to stop doubting myself here and that I was acting into the exact parts of myself he manipulated and maybe sought out when getting with me in the first place. Other comments were some great advice that really helped me and I really appreciate those especially. For those of you pointing out how great my brother is, he has always been one of the best people I know and is my best friend. He really is an amazing guy to everyone not just me. Our sister has kind of always been our biggest bully so he knows how she can be and even he is surprised she went this far. He also agrees with me they might be more together than they're saying.

He never liked or trusted Ryan and didn't like us dating because of the age-gave. long before I realized he is a posse and I should have considered that a while ago, I do not understand why or how I was so blind. I showed him this post earlier today because he frequents Reddit and was likely going to see it eventually. He read through the comments and I actually had to stop him from responding to some of the ruder ones he thought were uncalled for but I am even grateful for a lot of the harsh comments too because they definitely made me stop second guessing myself and made me realize I was letting this man make me act like an idiot. Before I wrap this up I also wanted to say just because a lot of the comments mentioned it. I do recognize how weird the age gap was.

I know it does not make a big difference but I will be 21 in December and Ryan has only been 29 for almost two months now. Our relationship did not seem or feel creepy in the start, but I have only dated two people before Ryan and they were both the same age as me so I know I missed the signs. I never thought I would be in a relationship with that big of an age gap until it happened and I didn't even expect it to last as long as it did in the beginning. I plan to not date for a a while and just focus on getting past all the anger and everything I am still feeling and whenever I do start dating it will not be with someone that much older and I will definitely be more cautious no matter the age. Comments where Op has replied, comment one, I am so, so sorry.

I read your first post and I could feel your pain. I feel it more deeply now. Your brother really is fucking amazing. Your mother really is fucking awful. There aren't words for how fucking awful Jane and Ryan are. Jane is far and away the biggest scumbag of the two. She was your sister. Stick to your brother, I love that man so much. Please tell him how fucking wonderful he is. I would never forgive your sister and your mother would have to change her tune massively before I would forgive her. As for the family flying monkeys, take control of the narrative. They've probably been sold a distorted version of what happened. Tell your truth and then state your boundaries and see how things fall. I bet you money it hasn't been unnoticed what your

mom and sister have always been like. Oop, I am sure they were told some other story, but I did tell them my side of the story when I said I would go and see with them too if they pushed the idea and I have not heard from them so I don't know what side they're taking if either. My sister has always been a master of twisting PPL words so I am honestly trying to talk as little about it with anyone other than my brother and Reddit. Comment two, what you do now will affect your family for years. I honestly recommend you at least message each family member individually or as a group, reiterating what happened and asking them how they would react. Repeat your NC thread and then see what people say. If they have any insight, then they're

hopefully already questioning what they've been told. But you are on a hill I would die on. Oop! Me and my brother texted the extended family my mom and Jane brought into this about the situation and they were told a watered down BS story and when they told me to reconsider it was because Jane had told them I was assuming what happened and wouldn't let her explain. I don't think my mom had anything to do with coming up with a lie, but she definitely let them believe it. Now there is a giant back and forth going on that I am doing my best to stay out of for my own sake, but my brother is making sure my feelings get heard and that my sister can't lie more. Comment three about the only thing I can add to what others have said is the observation

you don't mention your father. Is he alive? If so, from your silence I would be. guess that he is either staying out of this, or that he enables your mother and sister on a routine basis. Oop, my dad has always been on a short leash for my mom. I have never been close with my dad and then I moved out practically on my 18th birthday BC that is what he wanted so it's a strained relationship. He hasn't said anything, but I am not surprised with that BC we never really talk past birthday texts and holidays.

I am sure he is on their side whether he thinks what they did was right or not BC he's worse at standing up for himself than I am. Update 2. I am going to update this even though it is kind of anticlimactic. My brother was able to get my things from Ryan pretty easily, but he did try to keep my key by saying he didn't know where it was. It has been in the same place since I started staying over. But he got it from him after some threats. That confirmed to me that I was right to be scared he would do something if I was alone. He tried to get my brother to pass on another apology that was basically the exact same bullshit he has said every other time so nothing new there and me and my brother finally had a good laugh at how dense he is and we really needed

that. My mom and Jane are both blocked. Ryan is not yet because I am still worried I will need to go to the cops with the texts he has sent after I told him to stay away. I explained this in a comment on my first update but I want to say it here too, the extended family that tried to get me to talk to Jane relied too. Jane told them I was assuming and wouldn't let her explain herself. but me and my brother made sure they knew the truth and now everything has blown up. They are not directly defending me but I don't expect them to I am just happy they know the truth. Jane texted my brother to tell me her and Ryan have not talked since then and she deleted his

number to get me back in her life, but if that is true I think it is more because everyone except my parents see her for who she is now. Also that should have already happened if nothing was going on between them. They stayed in contact the whole week I was trying to figure out if I was crazy and that alone is disrespectful. My brother agreed to help me snoop for more evidence at some point when we are ready, but we are both going to be taking a giant step back from this whole thing for now because I do not want my brother to be suffocated with them trying to contact me through him. We are going to ignore it all weekend as if it is not happening and just do stuff that makes us happy since it is

clear we are all we've got. If there is more to add to this, I will come back to this account and add it, but as of now I have nothing more. That's the end of the first story. Let's begin the second one, I hope you enjoy this story. Husband's sibling donned a matching suit at our marriage ceremony, then I witnessed him being unfaithful to his spouse at a cafe and discovered that my spouse was aware of the infidelity. I'm a 42-year-old construction manager who married my wife Rachel four years ago. Rachel comes from what everyone in town calls the perfect family. Her parents have been married for 45 years and still hold hands when they walk.

Rachel has two brothers who couldn't be more different from each other. The older brother is Marcus, 44. He's a high school football coach, married to Olivia, 40, for 12 years with three daughters aged 10, 8, and 6. Marcus is what most people would call a family man, coaches his daughter's soccer teams on weekends, takes them camping during summer breaks, and puts in extra hours at school fundraisers to make sure his family has everything they need. The younger brother is Ethan, 35, who works as a freelance photographer. He travels a lot for work, taking pictures of wildlife and landscapes for nature magazines. He's always been the free spirit of the family, with his long hair and stories about sleeping

under the stars and remote mountain ranges. He recently got engaged to Lucia, a botanist he met during an assignment in Costa Rica. When I first started dating Rachel six years ago, I noticed something obvious. about her family's dynamics. On our third date, I took Rachel to a local brewery I'd discovered. While we were sampling different beers, I spotted a man with sunglasses and a baseball cap pulled low, sitting in a corner booth, constantly looking in our direction. I pointed him out to Rachel, suggesting we might want to leave if this person was following us. Rachel squinted, then burst out laughing. She waved at the person, who immediately ducked behind a menu.

Rachel turned to me and said there was nothing to worry about. We continued our date, but that mystery person stayed in my mind. It wasn't until months later, when I was officially introduced to her brother Marcus, that I recognized him as the stalker from the brewery. Apparently, the siblings had a habit of checking out each other's dates without introducing themselves. This was just the first glimpse into the unusually tight relationship between the three siblings. Rachel, Marcus, and Ethan shared every detail of their lives with each other, daily calls, group texts that never stopped buzzing, and weekly dinners that couldn't be missed for any reason.

They knew each other's banking passwords, medical histories, and relationship problems before their own partners did. At first, I found this closeness charming. Coming from a fractured family myself, parents divorced when I was seven, step-siblings I rarely speak to, I admired their bond. But as my relationship with Rachel progressed, the charm wore off. Rachel would tell her brothers about our arguments before we'd even finished having them. When I received a medical diagnosis for a minor condition, Marcus called me with advice before it even told my own father. I raised my concerns with Rachel several times. She dismissed them, saying I couldn't understand because I didn't have siblings who actually cared about

each other. There was some truth to that. My own brother hadn't even responded to my wedding invitation. So I backed off, accepting that this was part of the package deal with Rachel. Then came our wedding planning. Unlike most couples who fight over venue choices and guest lists, Rachel and I worked together seamlessly. We both wanted a medium-sized ceremony at a local vineyard, agreed on a reasonable budget and even liked the same style of decorations. The planning process actually brought us closer together. I thought I'd found someone who truly understood partnership. The wedding day arrived and everything was perfect,

until Marcus showed up in a tuxedo identical to mine. Not similar, identical, same designer, same cut, same boudinier. When I first saw him at the vineyard, I thought someone was playing a prank. Rachel beamed when she saw us standing together. During her vows, she included a special section thanking Marcus for always being the example of the kind of husband she wanted, and how fitting it was that the two most important men in her life should look like twins today. I stood there, listening to my bride talk about another man during our wedding vows. The guests shifted uncomfortably in their seats. Olivia, Marcus's wife, stared straight ahead with a fixed smile.

My parents exchanged glances. Even Rachel's parents looked embarrassed. At the reception, I pulled Rachel aside and asked why she hadn't told me about the matching tuxedoes. She looked genuinely confused by my question. In her mind, this was a wonderful surprise that I should appreciate. When I explained that I felt upstaged at my own wedding, she told me I was overreacting and that I didn't understand family traditions. The Tuxedo incident cast a shadow over our honeymoon. We argued repeatedly about boundaries and family involvement.

Rachel finally admitted that Marcus had always wanted a formal wedding, but when he married Olivia, they had eloped because they couldn't afford a big ceremony. Olivia had gotten pregnant shortly after they started dating, and they rushed to get married before the baby arrived. Marcus had always regretted not having wedding photos and a proper reception. So Rachel had decided to share our wedding day with her brother, giving him the experience he had missed. She couldn't understand why this bothered me. After all, she reasoned, it didn't take anything away from our marriage.

Ethan reached out to me after the wedding, apologizing for his sister's behavior. He explained that while he loved his siblings, he recognized that their closeness sometimes crossed normal boundaries.