Reddit Stories - PARTNER'S closest pal's partner REQUESTED us to vacate our RESIDENCE, and forsake our

Episode Date: November 23, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #relationships #friendship #housingdrama #conflictresolution #communicationbreakdownSummary: PARTNER'S closest pal's partner REQUESTED us to vacate our RESIDENCE, and forsake our living arrangement. Tensions rise as we navigate boundaries, loyalty, and personal space in this unexpected housing dilemma.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, relationships, friendship, housingdrama, conflictresolution, communicationbreakdown, boundaries, loyalty, personal space, livingarrangement, unexpected, housingdilemma, tense, navigate, request, vacateBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. Partner's closest pal's partner requested us to vacate our residence and forsake our young dog so she could host an exclusive gathering, but she was unaware that we were the true proprietors. The place and thought we were just roommates. My boyfriend and I, been together for two years, bought a house about six months ago and we've been renting out the spare bedroom to his best friend, we'll call him James.

We also have a five-month-old puppy who we got when we bought the house. James has been with his girlfriend, we'll call her Amy, for a little over a year now. She is at our house very often and we don't mind her being there. Amy is nice, but she is very socially awkward. My BF and I have tried to get to know her, but she shows little interest in us. She never talks to us unless we say something to her, and oftentimes she shows no interest in getting to know us. Sometimes she doesn't want to say hi to us when we come home.

Amy has a group of friends who we've hung out with once before, but it was hard to have conversations with them because they were all high at the time, we weren't BTW. We didn't judge, but it was hard to have a conversation with someone who clearly wasn't in the right mind to respond. But ever since then, she has never invited us to go out together ever again. We just chalked it up to her being weird, and just left it at that. James is aware that she is very particular about who she hangs out with. A few days ago, James mentioned that him and Amy want to have a get together with a few friends at our house on Wednesday night, yesterday, and wanted to know if we were okay with that. My BF and I didn't mind, because the guests are Amy's friends that we met

once before. We just told them not to get to noisy and to clean up afterwards. I came back from work last night and people are just starting to show up for the party. I briefly say hi, then go upstairs to freshen up. Then Amy comes into my room and says, Hey, I'm sorry, but we actually want some privacy for the night. Do you think you and, B.F., could go somewhere for a few hours? I was confused. I told her that James asked if it was okay to have a party and we all agreed.

But nothing about us not being allowed in the house. She said that James should have made it clear. I told her, I'm sorry, but I can't. I have to take care of the puppy, and there really isn't a place I can take him for a few hours. Her response, Oh, you can leave him here. We really like the dog, and we'll take care of him. I told her I wasn't comfortable leaving the dog with strangers. She wouldn't give up.

I simply told her no again, that she and James are free to have friends over, but that she can't expect us to leave our own home and our puppy behind. She seemed frustrated, especially when my BF came home. I kept the puppy in our room most of the time, we have the master bedroom and it's pretty big. I told my BF of the situation and he was pretty confused by it as well. The party went off without a hitch and everything was fine. Or so we thought. James texted us this morning telling us that Amy was really upset that we ruined her party

and humiliated her in front of her guests. apparently when we first hung out with her friends, Amy was upset that we didn't make an effort to get to know them. She said that we weren't very friendly to them and that's why she couldn't bring us around anymore. Except when we first hung out with them. They were high and couldn't even muster a response to us. But that doesn't matter apparently, Amy didn't want us hanging out with her friends because she didn't think we would get along based on that one time. James is asking us to cut him a break and apologize to her, because she's been having a rough time and really needed this party to relax. Absolutely not. I told James that it doesn't matter

how rough her life is, it's extremely rude to tell us, the homeowners, that we have to vacate our own home so she can have a party. My BF also reiterated this to him in a separate text conversation. I told James that if anything, Amy should apologize for how rude she's handled this situation and how rude she's been in general, citing the past few times we've tried to be friendly to her, but instead she get coldness in return. I told him I'd only accept an apology from her in person, because all of this is coming secondhand from James. Amy has not said a word to us about this. Whether I like it or not, James is still dating Amy and there's nothing I can do about it. Amy will most likely be around pretty often, because she lives with her

parents, but I don't know how to diffuse the situation going forward. Am I in the wrong here? How do I handle Amy in the future? Additional information from Op, a lot of the comments are telling us to evict James, but I don't agree. James and my BF has been lifelong friends since childhood, their moms have been friends since great school. My BF has had some really, really rough times growing up, and James was there to support him. Because of that, and the fact that James is in a tight spot financially, my BF rents the room to James at a lower rate than normal.

our area is very expensive. Given their history, I don't think he has the heart to kick him out with nowhere to go over something he didn't do. I don't feel it's right to evict James for something Amy did. James is very timid and soft-spoken and Amy is pretty much the opposite. Not to mention James has been in some pretty dysfunctional relationships and Amy is really the only relatively good relationship he's been in. I feel he's only sticking up for her for fear of being lonely and single again. BF and I don't think she's right for him, but who are we to tell him who to date? Update, first off, thanks for everyone and their advice. I didn't think this post would get as much attention as it did. A lot of people were angry for us, and it was nice to know that I wasn't being

unreasonable. This update isn't quite as dramatic, but I figure people would want to know our resolution. A lot of comments were saying we should evict James, but I wasn't okay with that. As I said in the comments of my last post, James is a childhood friend of my BF. Their moms have been friends since grade school, and he supported him through some tough times growing up. Money is a little tight for James, so my BF wanted to help him out much like he did for him. We also didn't like the idea of banishing Amy because we inadvertently would have been responsible for ruining their relationship and we didn't want to deal with that.

On Friday night we sat down with James and Amy to talk them about the situation. We told them that we didn't appreciate being told to leave our house and our dog behind so that they could have a party. James had only given us a heads up that they would be having friends over, and nothing more. Amy interjected and said that we were the ones being rude, and that we should have left because they should be allowed to have friends over because we have people over all the time. While that's true, we never asked James and Amy to leave, in fact, we invite them to hang out with our friends when they come over. Amy said that we couldn't have stayed and hung out with her friends because she didn't think that we get along that well. My BF and I are working professionals in good career fields and her friends don't make as much in smoke pot all the time. We told her that we don't judge her friends

and we don't care. We have all been at that point in our lives, so what does it matter? It seemed like she was embarrassed to bring her friends around, because all of our friends are equally as successful as us. She didn't think that we would associate with, in her words, people like my friends. Again, we don't care or judge. It seems like she has more of a problem with her friends than we do. Amy herself has a successful job and career and since she lives with her parents I don't think she has any money troubles. She then went on to say that James pays an equal share of the rent, so we should be able to use the house equally. Wait, a share of the rent? We told Amy that we own the house, and that James pays to rent the room. It turns out that

Amy didn't know that we were the homeowners. James, before moving in with us, was living in another city three hours away, which is where he met Amy. He moved out here after getting into grad school in the area and Amy followed suit about a month after because we live in her hometown. She assumed that James and us were renting the house. James never told her the nature of his living situation because there wasn't any reason to tell her since she wasn't living there. She tried to explain her way out, but there really wasn't anything she could say after that. James in the midst of all this grew pretty exasperated with her. He was trying to be a good boyfriend by lending his support and keeping her happy,

but when everything started to unfold, he started getting pretty tired of her excuses. He apologized to us, and also to Amy for not telling her about his living situation. But we were right, she can't kick us out of our own home. We all agreed that we don't have a problem with them inviting her friends over. In fact, we actually do like them but never get to talk to them, and that they're always welcome as guests. But if she wants to have a private party and not invite us, she is free to do so but it would be better to not have it in a place we live in.

Amy eventually apologized, albeit a little begrudgingly, but it seems like she's still angsty about her friends rather than the party situation. Either way, we made it very clear that we are the homeowners so hopefully this doesn't happen again. Comments where Op has replied, comment one, he apologized to us, and also to Amy for not telling her about his living situation, but we were right, she can't kick us out of our own home. He really should have done this sooner. James knew you guys own the house, so he should have told her right away that she can't kick you out. I don't think he didn't tell her because there wasn't any reason since she wasn't living there, he didn't tell her because he didn't want her to know that his friends own the place and not him.

Some stupid ego thing. He was hoping you guys wouldn't sit her down and tell her, but clearly he miscalculated. Oop, if I had to guess, I think James did tell Amy, but he has a tendency to not explain things in great detail. I can see him saying, yeah, I'm living with my best friend, I'm renting a room in his house and she could have misunderstood. that, thinking it was a sub-lease or something. Comment two, I think you're still allowing yourself to be steamrolled a bit here. Sounds like she's just going to keep being resentful toward you, which isn't something you need under your roof. Just try to keep in mind, moving forward, that she has no more excuses. Rudeness, entitlement, manipulation, all of these

things she's guilty of and she can no longer fall back on ignorance as an excuse. Sounds like you don't want to punish James, and for whatever reason you don't want to show Amy how serious you are, but I sincerely hope that if she ever tries to pull anything remotely similar in the future, you'll stop pulling punches and tell her she is no longer welcome in your home that you fucking own. Oop, I don't see how I'm being steamrolled here. We sat down with her, laid it all out, and told her that she can't kick us out of our own house. Sure, she may be resentful, but she technically isn't our tenant, so I don't see how that's a problem for us. In my opinion, evicting James, banishing Amy, or doing anything to show them how serious we are

would have solved nothing. If anything, it would have caused even more resentment. To me, resolving a situation like this means getting everybody to understand slash compromise, and not winning. If she ends up being more than a handful we have no problem dealing with her. But for now, she knows where she stands, so we'll be fine. Next story, avoided my adopted sister after she met her biological family, because I felt like a terrible brother who used to annoy her, but when I finally broke down crying she made me promise never to ignore family again. I'm 22M, and my sister is 28F. So for context my sister was adopted, parents thought they couldn't conceive, and then I was born.

But my parents loved us both and whatever. Anyway, a few months ago my sister started meeting with her biological mom after tracking her down. I was there to meet with them for the first meeting and everything. My parents have been supportive and I've been supportive as well. But that first meeting, her biological mom brought her two daughters. They look a lot like my sister, and the older kid is 21, around my age. She hugged my sister and they cried and everything. They look alike and after talking they were able to point out like similar behavioral characteristics, etc.

I'm nothing like my sister. We have different interests, et cetera, but we've been close. But when I was a kid I used to annoy her a lot, and T.B.H. I've done some messed up stuff to her. When I was 12, I pulled her earring and tore her earlobe didn't want to hurt her like that but did want to mess with her. I used to force myself into any outings with her friends. I used to annoy her. I made fun of her a few times when she got bad grades in math and she made fun of my English grades as well. I suck at writing. There's more messed up stuff we did to each other arguably I was worse though, L.O.L. But I could go on and on. When I was around 14 to 15, we got chill and been chill since. Also, I like video games, the gym, and the gun range, that's all I do. She likes outdoor and super social activities. Her biological sisters seem to be more in tune with her interests. I kind of feel like I've been a shit brother and felt like an imposter. I've sat out through. I've sat out through. three other meetings they had with them claiming I couldn't come home, I was busy with work,

etc. I'd kind of talk about this with her because I have super ironic relationship with her. She keeps it real with me, but I've never spoken non-sarcastic to her. Even when she said she would contact her biological family, I said, good hope they take you off our hands, ha, and we both laughed it off. Recently she's begun to suspect something I think. She asked me if I don't like them or something or why I keep avoiding my family as a whole. home in a few months either. I lied to her and said I'm actually busy. My mom keeps asking me about it too and tells me it's important to support her. I do support her, but it's like. I feel like

she's better off with them. They never annoyed her growing up and stuff. I know it's a bit illogical but I thought I was doing the right thing since I don't want her meeting them to be about me. I don't really get along with my dad and my mom never intervenes when I argue with him. has always stood up for me against him. She's the only one who gets me so I don't want to lie to her, but I don't want to make this moment about me either. I thought I was doing the right thing. Anyway, sorry if this is messily written, I don't like thinking or talking about like deep shit much. Comments where Op has replied. Comment 1. It is highly unusual that you would be invited to go with your sister to visit her birth parents slash siblings. You are NTA for avoiding this,

but it is also clear that something is going on with you. How about you visit your parents this weekend? Boop. Yeah, she meets with them on her own, but my family and her bio-mom insist on trying to have those family dinners. And ever since like January, they've had like four big family dinners. I was there the first time she met them and that first dinner sat the rest out. I don't want to go home.

Long story short, I only go home if my sister is there because I haven't spoke to my dad in two years or so. So she needs to mediate if we need to talk, but I don't go to CMTVH only my mom and my sister. But now that things are awkward with my sister I'd go about going. I just low-key been avoiding going home since January. I feel like everything will spill out of me, and it may result in me pouring everything out if I see her in person. Like I may cry or something if I see her face earl. I want her to just be happy meeting her biological family and being at home with my parents.

I don't want to dump random emotions on her that are my issue. Comment two, oh, M, dude, tears are okay, I bet she would like that better than the sarcasm. Go hug your sister. Oop, maybe. I have cried in front of her growing up and she never brings it up. My dad will 100% hate it if we have a sappy moment like that, though, because he hates it when men cry because it's not manly. And she lives with my folks R.N., and I'd give if I want to meet her in public. Maybe I'll invite her over to my apartment or something when my homies aren't around.

It's just I've never like been straight up with her so I'd kind of approach it. I'll probably just figure it out as I go if I do decide to meet up with her. Update, I followed everyone's advice and thought about sending her a text slash letter. But my dad unfortunately fractured his leg, and I had to stop by home to see him on Thursday. We don't have a speaking relationship, but my mom's makes me still be a good son and he lashes out at my mom if I don't play the part. My sister was there, since my dad and I don't talk to each other face to face and only talk through her or my mom.

Anyway, afterwards, my dad sat on the couch to watch TV and I had some dinner with my sister. She just said it's been a long time since we've seen each other and asked if everything was okay and why I'd been avoiding her. I'd quiet happened or what happened, but for some reason I started crying then and kind of just told her everything. It all just spilled out. Not just that, but other issues I've been having in life in general as well. Little bit embarrassing TBH, I just haven't seen her since January.

She started crying too, and assured me I'll always be family, and my mom cried too. My dad got pissed off and made a comment about how men don't cry and that my mom and sister are spoiling me by letting me cry same shit he normally did growing up. This time my mom joined my sister and they both yelled at him, told him to fuck off essentially. He got angry and picked up his crutches and walked well hopped, to the neighbor's house's friend, L.O.L. Anyway, I'd cry, but that helped a lot. I took off from work and my sister did too and we spent all a Friday chilling. She wanted me to come to her bio-mom's husband's birthday party on Saturday if I was cool with it. I was and I went there and met them again. Cool coincidence,

her bio-mom's husband's sister was my professor back in college. I did for her and she was my mentor. So I spent most of the time they're catching up with her and taking grad school and career advice from her. And she said she knew someone at my dream company I want to work for and told me to contact her again when I graduate since I already know her and were confusingly family now, L.O.L. My sister was glad I had a good time,

and my mom did two dads set it out since he was injured. when I had to leave to come back my sister cried again and made a huge scene ha made me promise to never ignore my family like that again I'm home now and I think I'll continue stopping by home once every two weeks or so like I did before everything anyway yeah not a huge update or anything but it's cool I told my sister I would show up to her meetings with them sometimes but not every time cause it's still awkward for me and she said she's okay with that just one of them and me to know about each other a bit So yeah, it's kind of all chill now. All it took was be crying like a child and being sappy LaMal, I'm never living that down.

Comments where Op has replied, comment one, I'd cry, but the dad gives the vibe of I had to pay for my college degree, so we should never let young people have free college like it infuriates me. Anyway, I'm so happy for you. If you cried it was because a lot of emotions was stuck inside, even in your last post saying that you only talk sarcastically is a proof of not letting anything out. Being vulnerable, especially with your family, isn't a vulnerability. Try to be a bit more genuine from now on, you'll be free of an immense weight, and be happier in general, talking from experience. Oop, not credit where credit is due, he offered to pay for my college but I dropped out of pre-med and switched to something else and that's what ticked him off. I realized it wasn't for me.

I ended up not doing pre-med or engineering the good degrees. I ended up doing a data-related thing and he didn't like that. That's kind of why me and him don't talk anymore because he thinks I betrayed him by baiting him into thinking I was going to be a doctor and then switching up on him. He's a religious man and swore to God he wouldn't talk to me ever again unless I was in med school, so it's not happening ever, L.O.L. Comment two, your dad sounds straight up abusive. But I'm happy for the rest of you.

Yay for healthy communication. Oop, nah, he has his quirks, but he really did try growing up. He has his own set of issues. He was an immigrant from a war-torn country and lost his family in war. Came here and lived with his uncle, but since he was the oldest kid, and his uncle's wife died, he had to step up and be a parent to his cousins while his uncle worked late to support all of them. He worked his ass off to provide us with a good life.

He cares in his own way. He's just from a different place and time and has a different way of looking at the world. He always told me I got to be a man, because the world will never respect a man unconditionally and that a man is only respected when he brings something of value to the table, and whatnot. My mom was born and raised here and had abusive parents and was adopted by her foster parents herself. So they met and bonded over struggle. They both do try, but they weren't given the best either. They tried with what they had to build a family.

and I would say we turned out pretty well for the most part. I say all this about him, but he literally, through my mom, keeps asking her to ask me to move back in so I can save money on rent. I just don't want to live with them. I think I made him seem worse than he is by only providing one side of the story. I may not like him sometimes, but he is my father, the only one I have in this life. I do owe him everything I have in life.