Reddit Stories - PARTNER'S sibling relocated to my residence and hosted EXTRAVAGANT GATHERINGS, while also taking

Episode Date: November 10, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #relationships #family #houseguests #etiquette #boundariesSummary: My PARTNER'S sibling relocated to my residence and hosted EXTRAVAGANT GATHERINGS, while also taking advantage of my hospitality. Struggling to set boundaries, I seek advice on Reddit to address the situation diplomatically and maintain harmony within the family dynamic.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, relationships, family, houseguests, etiquette, boundaries, hospitality, relocation, gatherings, sibling, partner, advice, diplomacy, harmony, conflictresolution, communicationBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. Partners Sibling relocated to my residence and hosted extravagant gatherings, while also taking my belongings. Subsequently, I uncovered that his guardians were covertly providing her with $700 each month for her accommodation costs. Never shared with us. I, 25F, have been with my boyfriend, 27M, for three years and he moved in with me last year. everything was going great until last Christmas when his parents announced they were selling

the family home and downsizing but they wanted to go on one of those six-month-long cruises around the world. Fine, whatever they can do what they want except they have a younger daughter Emma who is 18. Completely unbeknownst to me, my boyfriend had agreed to let Emma live with us until she moved away to uni. This led to a lot of fights between my boyfriend and I because I didn't want Emma living with us. Despite all this, she moved in after the house sold in February. It has been hell. For starters, our house might have three bedrooms but only one was used as a bedroom. One is my home, office, and the other was a home gym for me and my boyfriend. Emma turned the gym into a room and now a lot of our equipment is in storage. I hate having

Emma here as she's a total brat and doesn't contribute anything to the house. Here is just a small list of shit I have to deal with. The second Emma turned 18 she was out with friends, coming back drunk at 3 a.m. and waking up my dogs as she clattered into the house, normally with an equally drunk friend. For the first month of her living with us, she would steal my stuff constantly. Skin care, hair care, perfume, clothes. Anything. I now have a lockable box for toiletries so she can't get to them. Has lost six different sets of house keys since moving in and I've to have the lock changed twice due to various issues. Refuses to do anything I ask her to do because she's busy she doesn't have a job. How is she busy? Refuses to eat anything I cook

and will demand we order takeaway instead. I have asked her repeatedly for meals ideas and even if I make that exact meal. She refuses to eat it as it doesn't taste right. The breaking point came last weekend when me, my boyfriend and the dogs went away for the weekend. I was reluctant to leave Emma in the house by herself, but my boyfriend said it would be a great way for Emma to gain some independence before going to uni. Big fucking mistake. We came back in Sunday evening to a trashed house and I hung over Emma asleep in her room. I had to get a professional cleaner in on Monday to tackle the worst of the mess after I spent half the night cleaning. I'm done. I want her out the house. I thought I could deal with this until she moved away in

September but I can't, especially now that she's talking about putting her place on hold for a year so she can go traveling and use our house as a base. No, I want her gone and out ASAP. True, she has nowhere to go as her parents aren't back from their cruise until the end of August but I don't care. I want her gone. I've talked to my boyfriend about this and he won't budge because Emma is family and he can't kick her out. So Wibda if I kick her out? Edit 1. Forgot to this in the post slash maybe it wasn't clear. It's my house. I own it outright with no mortgage and my boyfriend is not on any official documents. The only thing in his name is our Sky TV payments. Everything else is in my name as I lived here before he moved in. He does pay half

towards bills, but he just sends the money to me each month. I'm going to try and talk to Emma and boyfriend's parents. I've sent them a text message asking to call me ASAP. I'm also reaching out to Emma and my boyfriend's older sister to see if she will take Emma in for a while. I doubt she will as they don't get along and she has a two-year-old but it's worth a shot. Edit 2. I am such a goddamn idiot. Firstly, thanks to all of the comments I have realized that my boyfriend is not the person I want to be spending the rest of my life with. Secondly, I managed to have a video call with my boyfriend's parents and wow, just wow. First of all, they have been sending Emma 700 pounds a month to cover her living with us and

I haven't seen a penny of it. Their mom mentioned that I could take the cleaner fee out of Emma's money and I asked what money she meant because Emma doesn't have a job. She laughed and said the 700 pounds we send Emma each month to cover all her expenses while she lives with you. They've been sending Emma money and she was supposed to be giving this money to us to cover everything. Either Emma has been keeping it or she's given it to my boyfriend and he hasn't seen it. said a word. Surprisingly her parents were furious that I haven't seen any of this money and they are sending me a bank transfer of 4,200 pounds to cover the money Emma should have been giving us since February. They are sending it to my personal account that I can do with what I see

fit. I was brutally honest on the call and said that I can't have Emma staying with us any longer. Yes, she might leave in September but what if she doesn't get the results she needs for uni and has to defer or if she takes a gap year? I'm not putting up with this for a another year. Their mom is going to talk to her sister and see if Emma can stay there until they get back at the end of August. For those wondering, yes, they have a house all lined up for when they return. They will not be living with us when they get back. I'm going to have a serious talk with my boyfriend this evening and I'm now rethinking our whole relationship. If he tries to fight over Emma staying then it's over. A lot of the comments in this post have made me realize

that I've been a doormat to this man since Emma moved in, also that I should have been charging him rent, and I'm not standing for it anymore. Wish me luck helpful Reddit folks. Wish me luck. Comments where Op has replied, comment one. Entier, but whose names are on the lease? Who is paying for all this takeout in cleaning and work? Has your boyfriend admitted that she is a problem and attempted to put his foot down about her disrespectful attitude towards your home? If you can't kick her out, some real rules need to be a established, such as times to come home, cleaning chores, etc. Your boyfriend is treating you like a hired hand to keep up after her refusal to contribute in any way to the home. If she can't financially contribute she needs to contribute with labor. No, you won't be the asshole to kick her out, but I suspect your BF will lose his shit, and really where does she have to go? It may be easier for you to leave and take your finances with you. Oop, it's my house. I inherited it from my when they died a few years ago, so it's mine outright. My boyfriend contributes half towards the bills and stuff, but I haven't got round to putting

him on any official documents yet. I doubt I'll bother now. He was furious when he came home last weekend, but also chalked it up to Emma being a teenager and having fun. I'm swiftly realizing he's not the person I want to be spending the rest of my life with. Comment two. Who pays for all her stuff? The locks, the cleaners, the takings.

Why did you clean up a whole night and what did your B.F. and the culprit do? Were there any other consequences for her? What does your BF say about the situation? Oop. My boyfriend paid for the locks to be changed as I refused. I paid for the cleaner and I assume my boyfriend pays for her food as I don't. Comment 3. I'm laughing only because I don't understand how you dealt with this for so long. NTA. Respectfully, you can't seriously want to keep living. with somebody that's controlling what you want done in your home. What you say goes. End of discussion. Oop, honestly, I don't know how I haven't gone crazy yet. I think I assumed it would get better

slash she'd be gone by September. I also didn't think she'd be this much of a brat. Oop to a downvoted commenter, at the same time put yourself in Emma's place. Her parents took off for six months and left her. She's been abandoned by her own parents, apparently a little before she turned eight. That sucks and she is likely acting out due to that. There is nothing like feeling totally unwanted by your own parents. The parents don't seem to want Emma and she knows it. That's why she is talking about staying with you for the next year.

I'd feel sympathy for her but they have spoiled her for years. Believe me, they have never made that girl feel unwanted. Comment 4. Both can go and why didn't he clean up himself or have him pay for the professional cleaning services. Smells of eye. NTA. Boop.

He was talking to Emma and watching the dogs while I was cleaning. He apparently asked Emma to apologize to me, but it fell on deaf ears as I still haven't had an apology after nearly a week. I paid for the cleaner because he'd paid for the locks to be changed. Comment 5. So, how much of a mess did she make? It sounds like she had a bunch of people over without telling you guys about it. It also wouldn't surprise me if the missing keys go to her friends since she feels like

brothers' things are her things. Boop, she had some of her old school friends over and friends from her college course. I'm guessing roughly 30 to 35 teenagers. The mess was a lot. My kitchen and living room were full of empty bottles, cans and snacks. All the rugs downstairs had to be cleaned. The staircase carpet had to be cleaned in both bathrooms. Luckily there was no permanent damage.

Underage drinking? We're in the UK so the legal drinking age is 18. Dogs okay? The dogs were with us, I never go away without them. Update 1, Hi all, I want to start this off by saying, Thanks to everyone because your comments gave me a serious wake-up call. So here's the update, I sat both my boyfriend, for this update we're calling him Tom, and Emma down last night and laid down to the law.

I said that Emma needed to go and I couldn't put up with her attitude and disrespect any longer. For those wondering if Tom knew about the money, he did. He wasn't keeping it, but he knew about it. He thought it would be a great chance for Emma to learn about budgeting and responsibilities. I said that the evidence has proved she hasn't learned shit and if you give an 18-year-old 700 pounds a month that she hasn't had to work for, she's going to go nuts with it. If Tom thought that would teach her any kind of responsibility, then he's dumber than I was for putting up with either one of them.

Emma tried to defend herself because saying that she thought living with me would be a chance to bond and how I could become another sister for her. I fired back with if this is how she treats her siblings, then it's no wonder that her actual sister doesn't like her. Mean but fair. As far as my relationship goes, I think I'm done. I've told Tom that I need some space and to seriously think about this relationship as this whole ordeal has shaken me.

Emma is going to stay with her aunt and so is Tom. Their aunt is driving over tomorrow to get Emma and her stuff. Tom is going with them and staying there for a week or so. When he's back we'll have a proper sit down and talk through everything. Sorry this isn't more detailed but I'm really drained from the last 24 hours and just want my house back to some semblance of normal. Mini update, ah thank you. I'm doing well despite everything. Tom and Emma have been gone for nearly a week so I have my house back, all to myself and the dogs.

I've changed the locks again, so even if Tom does come back, his key won't work. I'm definitely done with the relationship, I just need to meet Tom in a neutral location to break up. Update 2, hi everyone, I meant to post this on Monday but I've been busy so here it is now. Emma and my boyfriend, Tom for this update, both left last week and went to stay with their aunt. Emma is staying there until her parents are back. Tom was staying there for a week to give me space. Tom came round on Saturday evening so we could talk about our relationship and everything. Long story short, I broke up with him. Reading all the comments made me realize that I'd been walked all over by him and his sister for too long. Enough was enough. He's been back and forth

over the last few days to get his stuff and I think he's staying at a friend's house while he looks for a place to rent. Obviously I'm sad about the breakup because I did think I'd spend the rest of my life with Tom but this whole situation has made me realize that I need to be selfish and put myself first for once in my life. As for Emma, she's on a strict curfew and money will be sent to her aunt to cover her expenses. Her aunt has said she's on a three-strike policy but, to be honest, I don't care anymore. Emma is not my responsibility and never actually should have been. The money Emma and Tom's parents sent to me has been used in two parts. One, covering all expenses Emma racked up like the cleaning bill, etc. Two. A very, very nice spa

trip for me. Some friends are coming with me and we all can't wait. My parents are going to look after the dogs. I've booked myself a full body massage and a champagne afternoon tea. So yeah, that's the update. I'm now single and have my house back. Honestly, I couldn't be happier despite the breakup. Thanks to everyone who left comments and helped me find my backbone. Next story, husband confessed he fantasizes about watching me have fun with other men, then started encouraging his friends and coworkers to flirt with me, until one of them grabbed me in our kitchen.

My husband, 42M, and I, 40F, have been married for 14 years, but have known each other since I was seven and he was nine. We were neighbors and his family lived just a few blocks away. from mine. We were the best of friends growing up and started dating when I was 13 and he was 15 but broke up when he left for college at 18. During that time, he's had the whole college experience while I focused more on my education and career so I never really dated anyone. We reconnected when we were 22 and 24 respectively and had been together ever since. Needless to say he was more than surprised that I was never with anyone in the seven years we were apart.

It just never felt right. Now I know he's been with several women before, but it never really bothered me. I've pretty much indulged every sexual fantasy he's ever had as long as he promised that Sags was just for us. I told him that all I wanted was a committed and monogamous relationship with him and it's been that way since. About a month ago, he dropped a bomb. I've always encouraged him to be open and honest with me about anything, but it was still

a shocker. Apparently, he's always had this fantasy about me having Sags with other guys while he watches. The very thought of this made me violently ill, and I told him that I would never do it. He tried to argue for a bit, but he dropped it or so I thought. We owned several small businesses together, but I've since taken a step back after we had kids. I still help out with management every now and then, though. A few days after that encounter, I came by the office to have lunch with him and help with some paperwork, and I've noticed that some of the staff, especially the younger guys started acting all flirty with me which I found very inappropriate.

I told me husband but he just shrugged and smiled saying it was normal because I was attractive. Even when he had a few of his buddies over to watch basketball, one of his friends openly flirted with me in the kitchen while I prepared their snacks. Again, I told my husband but he just shrugged it off. He never really brought up that fantasy of his directly but since then he's been casually mentioning how good-looking this person or that person is almost as if he's trying to set me up with him. Every time I call him out on it, he just says he's not doing anything wrong and that he's just talking. I'm at the end of my rope. I've always found pride in the fact that I've only ever been with one man. It's always been special to me and he knows this, but it doesn't seem like

he respects that at all. I've always been devoted to him since we were kids, but he doesn't seem to value my commitment and loyalty at all. Every time I try talking to him about it, he says he's already dropped it yet I always have this gut feeling that the people flirting with me were doing it with his encouragement. Before that, everyone knew how devoted I was. What should I do? I definitely don't want a divorce because I do love him with all my heart, but this whole thing has been driving me crazy. Any advice? Edit, I don't want to have segs with other men. I never have and I probably never will. The very idea makes me sick. I only ever wanted to do it with him because I've I always believe that SEGs should be reserved only for someone you love, but I don't really

push this narrative to others that's just me. Update, so it's been a month since I posted and a lot has happened since so I figured I'd update you guys now that things have somewhat settled in a way. Here's what happened, a few days after I posted, my husband had his friends over again. As I was making their sandwiches, one of his friends came up behind me and grabbed my waist and started calling me beautiful and sexy. I'm not sure if I mentioned this in my previous post. but I don't like being touched by others unless I'm close to them. Instinctively, I stabbed him

with the butter knife and while it was dull, I did hit him hard enough to draw a bit of blood. His friend started cursing at me and my husband who rushed in the room after he heard me scream. His friend kept saying you said it was okay over and over. I'm not exactly sure what happened next cause after I slapped my husband. I walked right out of the kitchen and locked myself in our room. I've never felt so unloved and disrespected in my entire life. Our kids were at my Mills House, BTW. I didn't leave there till the next morning and found my husband sleeping on the couch smelling of booze. After he sobered up, we talked. It was long but to summarize the whole thing. Apparently, a few of his buddies were into wife-swapping and sharing them with

other men. Swinging is what he called it if I remember correctly. One just like sharing his wife with other men. They talked a lot about their sexual adventures and my husband said he got jealous and it made him miss his promiscuous past and he stated fantasizing about it. I reminded him of my boundaries and he said he was so caught up in the fantasy, he didn't think anything else mattered. He said that night was a wake-up call and for the first time, he was genuinely afraid of losing me. I know he's not lying. I've known him for over three decades so I can easily tell when he's being genuine. I told him how disrespected I felt the last few weeks where people in his life would flirt with me. I told him how miserable it made me feel

that he wasn't taking my commitment to him seriously. I told him that as much as I loved him, the sight of him makes me boiling with rage. He said he understands but that he'll do anything to make it up to me. To make things clear, I'm not mad because of his fantasies. I'm mad at the disrespect he's shown me since his confession and he has acknowledged this. Long story short, we are currently separated. I just couldn't stand living with him in this moment in time. The kids and I moved out and are now living in his sister's guest house. It's great here and the kids love being around their cousins and my mill, who's been living

in the guest house since before we moved in. His sister knows the story and is on my side and his mother just knows that he messed up. I'm in low contact with my husband now. He's in therapy which is good for him. I'm also in therapy to help deal with what's going on. He has also told me that he cut all contact with his circle of friends and in the few times I went to the office to drop the kids off to him, no one flirted with me. I still love my husband so reconciliation is definitely on the table and neither one of us

has brought up divorce yet. He knows what he needs to do and what he needs to work on and kicking his friends out was a good start. After some time we'll do marriage counseling but only after I've seen him put in the work. He knows he has to win me back and never take me for granted again. I'm hopeful for our family to be together again and that I can get my old loving husband back but at the moment, I'm just trying to hold it together for my kids. This sounded more like a rant but it's been rather cathartic. Thanks for the advice in my last post, I appreciate every single one of them edit, I'm here to clarify a few things.

One, I didn't force him to cut off his friends. It was something I would have brought up once MC was coming up, but he did so voluntarily. Two, I'm pretty sure my husband never slept with any of their wives. I don't doubt that he wanted to, though. He simply never had the time nor the means to do so. Most of the time, him and his friends hang out at our place. All of his time in the business is accounted for so he never comes home. nor is he secretive of his phone. I swears up and down that he never slept with anyone else and

I've known him well enough to know he isn't lying. Three, reconciliation is something that's not guaranteed. He'll have to show me he's changed or rather he's found his old self again. He'll have to sweep me off my feet again and I definitely won't make things easy. It's not something that will happen overnight though and I still haven't forgiven him yet. It's like, I love him and hate him at the same time if that makes sense. No, we won't be seeing other people.