Reddit Stories - PUBLICLY CRITICIZED my guy pal for his poor PERFORMANCE in the bedroom when

Episode Date: August 2, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #relationships #sex #communication #friendship #criticismSummary: I publicly criticized my guy pal for his poor performance in the bedroom when things didn't go as expected. It led to an awkward situation and strained our friendship, making me question if honesty is always the best policy in such delicate matters.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, relationships, sex, communication, friendship, criticism, honesty, delicate, awkward, performance, bedroom, guy pal, honesty in relationships, friendship challenges, communication skills, social interactionsBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. Publicly criticized my guy pal for his poor performance in the bedroom when he sought validation for his supposed excellence, and my spouse insisted I was mistaken before relenting. Realized what his friends were really doing to us. One of my 24F male friends, I'll call Jack 25M, is a bit of a lad and very good looking. Jack basically thinks that lad points are important, he's always going on about how many girls he's been with and how high his body count is. I lived with him in a house share for a while and whenever he bought a girl home, he'd make sure to parade her around by introducing her, spend 15 to 20

minutes in his room having sex, then come out and strut around naked or in his boxers, yes, he really would. I remember saying a few times why are you out here, you have a beautiful girl in your room and you're not in there with her. This behavior was pretty common for him and even though he was an almighty douche, we were still friends. Anyway, after about eight months of living together, after a drunken night, me and Jack ended up in bed together. Honestly, it was terrible and having slept with him I realized something. Jack had a big dick, which I knew because of his strutting, but he thought that having a big dick automatically meant he was good at sex. Like it just immediately made him amazing in bed. Our sex was shit, like hands down the worst

sex I'd ever had. No foreplay, he left lights and TV on, then unceremoniously shoved himself inside me. The whole thing was basically a race for him to get inside me as quickly as possible. Maybe ten minutes of uncomfortable jackhammering then he was done. The next morning I was really sore because one, I wasn't wet at all too. His dick was big. But because I was sore he took that as him doing a bang-up job. Anyway, that experience was a few years ago, and even after all this time, Jack is still the same lad he was and still fucks girls like they're lined up on a conveyor belt for him. Back to the present. Recently, my husband and I hosted a barbecue in our garden as gatherings are now allowed. Jack came over as he's in our mutuals group. Of course after a while Jack starts going on

about the girls he's fucked, and even showing up another girl at the party by telling people. people he'd fucked her. It's then he turns to me and asks if I can prove to the lads how fire he is at sex. Slightly embarrassed but also angry he even mentioned me, I straight up told him he was shit. Basically worst sex I ever had. I then went on to say what happened and that he only has sex just to say that he's had sex. It wasn't fun, pleasurable or enjoyable and for the record I didn't come. Amazingly enough, two other girls also backed up what I was saying. Saying their nights with him were pretty much the same to how I described it. Jack got defensive and angry but we wouldn't drop it. He eventually left absolutely fuming. My husband, who

knows I slept with him years before, said I was insensitive, especially as it seems Jack relies heavily on the lad slash sex god persona he's created. I don't think so, it was about time Jack was called out for being shit in bed and maybe use this to learn how to actually have sex. All the boys in the group think I'm an ass for calling Jack out, me and the girls disagree. Edit 1. Holy cow this got way more attention than I thought it would. Thanks for all the comments. And thank you kind strangers for the awards. Should clear a few things up.

A lot of people asking why I was or am friends with Jack. I was back then, because honestly at times he was a decent guy, just blanketed by a douchey exterior. After I moved out of the house, we fell out of close contact but are still hovering in mutual friend's circles. I'm not directly friends with him now, but he's still a friend of a friend and we are normally civil. Edit 2, I really don't get why people are misunderstanding the story. For the record I did not cheat on my husband. Jack and I had a one-night stand together years ago while we were at uni. I wouldn't consider him my friend now, but we still have mutuals from different social circles and we do a case.

still see one another. Info, basically my friend group, close slash mutual slash extended, all new or new of each other at uni. I'm British and now live in the States. I attended uni between the ages of 18 to 21. At 19 I went to the States for a year abroad, and the sister uni is where I met my now husband. Jack is American and was an international student doing exchange. I was first year he was second year. I, a first year, ended up living with Jack because I decided to go to uni last minute, and as halls were full, ended up responding to a house share ad, a lot of students drop out after making a house share commitment so these ads are common.

I actually met my husband, also American, through Jack, as Jack was one of my only known contacts when I moved to the States. My British uni and his American uni were linked, I met my husband a year after I slept with Jack. I could not possibly have had any idea that my housemate and one-night stand would go on to introduce me to my future husband. My husband knew Jack and I slept together because, and funnily enough, Jack brought it upon our first meeting. Living together, Jack and I mainly bonded over weed and raves, and although he was sometimes somewhat decent, looking back I'm disgusted at our so-called friendship. I could write an essay on how he treated me.

Update, honestly reading through the comments of women praising me for standing up and being honest, warms my heart. I greatly appreciate the support I got and the response my post got has encouraged me to be a stronger person. Yes, in that moment I was angry but now I feel that I can continue standing up for myself and not taking any more shit. I ended up telling my husband I posted this and seeing how popular the post was and the comments for himself, he was immediately upset that people had called him an asshole for not standing up for me. From that we had a long, and maybe overdue discussion. I laid out how embarrassing the situation was for me, and how, after dealing with so much

shit from Jack, I wasn't going to apologize for tearing him down. Like so many people commented on, I asked my husband why he was okay with Jack's comments, as surely Jack embarrassed him as well. I even pointed to a hilarious string of comments with my personal favorite, I think it's funny that the husband was disagreeing, like honey, be nice and tell Jack he is bomb-ass dick, go ahead and tell everyone he laid the pipe, go on my husband reason that's just Jack. He doesn't really mean any harm in what he jokes about. I told my husband how I felt and he honestly didn't realize that all this time the sexual jokes made me so uncomfortable and that I just covered up my uneasiness by just going along with it. I also wanted to distance myself from his friends, close and mutual. As right now I feel like there was never any respect before and certainly won't be any respect for me after. As I'm still getting messages from the boys calling me a bitch slash slut slash whore, you name it. I told my husband that if he wasn't going to stand up for me or stand with me, I would leave him.

The persona he is around his friends is completely different to his true personality and is not the man I married. I respect myself more than to let my husband and his friends disregard my feelings in such a blatant way, and worse, allow my husband to witness and just stand by me getting publicly humiliated. My husband is not confrontational whatsoever and admitted he was also very embarrassed but kept quiet. He has never said anything before because Jack is the ringleader of the group and didn't want to go up against him. And as it turns out, it isn't the first time Jack has made comments about me to my husband, I just haven't been there to witness it. Furious at that, I told my husband that breaking away from the toxic group would be best for the both of us, but if he wants to be Jack's lap dog, then I won't get in the way of that.

I'm pleased to say my husband chose me. He apologized for his own complicit behavior and agreed our lives would improve without our so-called friends. I think me pointing out that his friends disrespecting me were in turn disrespecting him got him to see the reality of it. truthfully if they had any shred of respect for him as a friend, they would not be putting him down publicly as well. We were both the butt of the joke. One last point, I didn't apologize to Jack and I never intend to. Honestly, I never intend to speak to him again, but I did message him before I blocked him. To sum up, I messaged to detail point by point why he was bad in bed. That having a big dick doesn't equate to being great in bed, and to get off his high

horse. Women are not sexual objects for you to parade around and embarrass, and maybe if you could please a women, you wouldn't just have to rely on getting girls drunk from the club or bar. I also let him know that how he treats female friends is appalling, and he needs to reflect not just on his sex game but who he is as a person. So, I've informed Jack of his lack of skills and he is no longer ignorant. If he continues with his behavior, that is not on me. For the record, yes, women should be open and honest in bed, but I don't think it should be a women's responsibility to let a man know. I mean, guys, read the room. Once again, thank you for the brilliant and supportive comments. Thank you for the awards and finally, to all the chads, lads, brothers and

jacks out there. You ain't shit. Sincerely, Women Everywhere X Next Story, gave my boyfriend's Catholic mama cookbook called, Oh shit I have too many mushrooms as a sweet Mother's Day gift, but her reaction exposed something much darker about why she really hated me. So my BF, M36, and I, F34, have been together a little over a year. His mother is cordial with me. I've been at family events and her sons, seven in all, curse and whatnot and I am a theater gal and military brat so when I saw her being okay with the kids cursing I thought it was all Gucci. It was not, in fact, Gucci. I wanted her to feel special this past Mother's Day as my BF is terrible with gifts, he told me straight up. He told me earlier this year he was stressing about what to give her.

I suggested I help as gift giving is a love language of mine and I am usually very successful with the budget. I got her a cookbook set but it's silly. And the reason behind it? Sillier. She once complained to me at my BF's party for his birthday saying she had too many mushrooms. She didn't know what the heck to do with them all. We laughed as she joked about if people will think she's trying to push mushrooms or mushrooms on them as she's giving them away to friends and family. If you catch my drift.

I found it funny and when my BF asked for help I suggested a cookbook I found on Amazon titled, Oh Shit, I Have Too Many Mushrooms, It's part of a series replacing the key ingredient with onions, etc. My BF thought it was hilarious and it tied into that memory of his mom and I bonding over laughter. So I got the whole series, onions, tomatoes, the whole thing, along with flowers, a painting of her cat I did myself, loose leaf teas and more. We didn't get to be with her on the day itself. I had COVID and he wasn't feeling well either. We found out later he got the flu, so he didn't go to dinner so his brother picked up the gift and brought it. She called that night, and when he came back to the guest

room where I'm sleeping until I feel better, he says she is pissed. That I am immoral and making a mockery of her love of cooking and making it profane and vulgar. I called her immediately to apologize but she didn't answer that are my texts. It's June now and she finally texted me on the first stating simply that she accepts my apology but that I am on thin ice and to just be good to her son so she can forgive me. I showed him the text and he was very confused by this. Well today, I got a call from his dad. Father's Day is coming up and he told me he didn't want me pulling that classless SHT on him and if I can't tell if it's classless to simply forego the gift giving and provide a gift card to his favorite restaurant. I just purchased the gift card.

But am I really so terrible? They are Catholic, but they accepted me as a pansexual agnostic woman dating their son. I've heard SHT said in other curse words and honestly way worse stuff, so I'm unsure where and when I crossed a line. My BF's brother joked I should post here so, Ada. Update 1. I wanted to be optimistic about Father's Day as I follow directions and just got him a $50 gift card to a restaurant chain he really likes and went to the Father's Day dinner and simply didn't say much, I even ignored the jabs my BF's mom kept making at me such as when my BF's Sill, who works in the service industry.

Mentioned very rude customers and Mill mentioned that when you deal with classless losers it's best to just let them be and be grateful they're not in the family, while looking right at me. In that moment I actually sipped my drink and pretended to contemplate the menu. I was on my best behavior, or at least I felt I was, all night. When it was time for gift opening, we went my BF's plan and just combined our gifts in one bag. As his dad went through the gifts he saw the gift card and snorted and just looked at me, then pulled out a book and wallet which he hailed as amazing thoughtful gifts and thanked my BF for not taking the lazy way out. That was when my BF said actually the gift card is for me, the book is because Op remembered

your favorite series and the wallet we both paid for, a white lie as I got the gift card and bought the book a while ago, and B.F. got the wallet, but I did help him pay for the inscription. His dad ignored that and moved on to other gifts, but when we were all dispersing the brothers and their partners wanted to keep the party going and my BF wanted to as well. We said our goodbyes in the parking lot as I went to our car not far off and switched from my heels to my flats as we were going to walk to the bar about a block off. Mill saw me doing this and asked me why I was changing my shoes and I just said I didn't want to damage my nice heels. I got a shake of the head in response and she said so now you can't even afford shoes. Are you okay? To which my BF cut in and

said I was fine but we're all walking to a bar to catch up with one another. I don't know how but it then became my fault the group wanted to go to a bar and not stay and drink with the parents. She made it seem like I had talked everyone into ditching early and how disrespectful I was not speaking at all during dinner. She claims I ignored her a lot and that I looked angry to which the kids all spoke up to set the record straight that I didn't even know about the group going to the bar until Phil had already said he had movie tickets to ballerina and had to go and that I seemed perfectly fine all day and not angry, as she seemed to think I was. At this point, I just went with some of the brothers' partners to the bar while Mill headed out with her sons.

By the time they caught up with us, my BF was clearly upset but didn't say anything and the mood lifted as we drank and laughed together. But when we got home and I asked how it went he just said he didn't want to talk about it right now and sat down to play video games. Maybe I'm crazy but he just seemed so defeated. I got a VM from Phil that just said, thank you for the gifts and he rambled a bit something to the effect that we don't really think that way. Sorry for the misunderstanding I gave BF space the rest of the night and I work early so I left before he woke this morning but I'm sort of dreading getting home to ask what that was about but I already know it's nothing good. BF has something of a social media business and won't be out until 7.30 today so I am biting my time at a nearby restaurant until he's done. I am not looking forward to this talk. Send positive thoughts. Update 2. I really don't understand.

I talked with my B.F. Ben last night, he was much calmer but still upset. At first I thought he was upset with me, but it was just the situation tailspinning out of control. He started with apologizing for his parents' behavior saying this was not how he was raised and he's never seen his parents act like this before, but he can't ignore that reality. The reality is they just don't like me. I asked why and he got really quiet and I asked if, as some comments suspected, it was because I am not white. That's when he told me what happened. The significant others of all the brothers all got around me and started to defend me,

the brothers got in between and the eldest Derek told us to just go to the bar. So we did. Derek's wife Crystal told him to deal with his parents or they were which pissed Mill off and she apparently screamed at us to come back but we didn't, obviously. Once we left Derek asked what the big deal is and why Mill and Phil are bullying me. She tried to Una reverse it into a narrative that I was actually the one bullying her and Phil was just offending his wife like a man, exact wording, remember that, so to leave him alone. Ben said her treatment of me was unfair and without any reason and he lists off a couple of glaring occasions but it wasn't until Derek mentioned that it all started happening since our six-month anniversary. The other brothers are chiming in and Ben said that's when he realized what was going on.

His mother made some off-color comment to him over the phone about how surprised she as we lasted so long and he joked he was going to marry me Sunday. She called him childish and basically scolding him for using marriage so flippant. He thought it was just a religious thing at the time. But then Mill said the words you know those people are promiscuous. You need to watch yourself. And everyone pretty much exploded who is those people and what does she mean? Mill turned on Waterworks and said she was just looking after her baby boy, Ben is the youngest, and Ben shut it down telling her that the only way she could look out for him is to support him

and I and be happy he found someone. He told her that she better apologize to me because what happens is up to her now and he needs to defend his partner like a man and then he walks away. Derek later told him he stayed back to tell Mill that if Ben and I decide they don't want to deal with her anymore, he wouldn't blame them and he asked his dad to take her home. That's the lean version because from there it's a lot of accounts of who said what when and what not and I wasn't there. But what Ben tells me is that it's really up to me how to proceed. He is willing to go LC for a while and see if her behavior changes but if I really want we can just not go to family events anymore and spend time with my family instead.

He just asks that he still be able to call or text then on their birthdays, of which his mother's is this summer. I told him I need to think about it because of the text as Phil sent and he asked which text so I showed it to him. He just stared at it like that sounds like they're admitting to something and I said I have guesses and he just looked angry. He then said that the text wasn't even a real apology so they'll have to do better than that. We just ended up rewatching Great North and drinking together before going to sleep. I'll have to figure out what to do later but I have a big meeting today so I'm going to try and focus on that for now. Edit, I had to name people because there's a lot of back and forth. Update 3, I wanted to give a quick update.

I came home and Ben's Silmel F. 26 was there. She was picking up items from us that we were donating, she's in education. We had a long talk and landed on the elephant in the room. She basically said the siblings and S.O.s were disgusted by what happened and Ben sent a screenshot of the text Phil sent in a group chat with everyone in the family except the parents. I realized I gave no context to the text, sorry I'm not used to this. Phil sent this when I didn't call him back, here's it transcribed. Please call me back, op.

This isn't what you're making it out to be. For Ben's sake, please talk to me. I am sorry it happened, but that doesn't need to be a reason to fight. Call back now, please. Everyone agreed that this was not an apology and the behavior indicated bigotry whether it be racist. I am half black and half Hispanic, Ben and his family are Scots-Irish decent, or it was a panphobia as I am pansexual. So without much dragging this update on, the family agreed to come with me to the Juneteenth celebrations today, most of some still have work. It's the intention of some of them

to take a lot of photos and post on Facebook as the parents are on there to show support. We are also going to all get together without the parents for July 4th. This isn't a to exclude them per se but to show them we can gather and celebrate together and their unkind energy is unwelcome. Ben is going L.C. for now and the parents are blocked from my phone. We're going to give them about a month before giving them any sort of chance. Ben called his dad to say that much. Also I mentioned that I know one of the authors of the cookbook adjacency. Ben just asked if it's okay to reach out to her about this, LOL. I said, why not? The siblings all want to buy one. or all of the series to have on their shelves if the parents are over or at least to post to

Facebook. That part is sort of more fu energy to the PIL. So for now, I feel okay. I'm very excited to have my, Ben's family meet my family today at all the festivities.