Reddit Stories - REPORTED child PROTECTIVE services about my spouse and SIBLING-IN-LAW when they coerced my

Episode Date: February 6, 2026

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #tifu #familydrama #childprotection #spousalabuse #siblingrivalrySummary: I reported my spouse and sibling-in-law to child protective services after they coerced me into silence regarding their harmful behavior. The situation escalated, revealing deeper issues within our family dynamics. This experience has been emotionally taxing, but I felt it was necessary to protect the children involved.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, childprotection, familyissues, domesticviolence, siblingconflict, mentalhealth, parenting, abuseawareness, familydrama, supportsystem, legaladvice, emotionalwellbeing, safetyfirst, familycounseling, crisisintervention, childwelfareBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6816713/support.This episode includes AI-generated content.

Episode with two stories, first part. I hope you enjoy this story. Reported Child Protective Services about my spouse and sibling-in-law when they coerced my harassed child to stay overnight with his tormenting relative without my knowledge. Hello, all. I am a 37-year-old female and have been married for nine years. My husband Harry is 40 and I also have a seven-year-old son, Nate. Harry's sister, Kim, also has a son around the same age as Nate. Her son, Dean, and my son used to be close and we used to have playdates almost every other day until recently. For the past couple of months, Nate has been telling me that Dean is bullying him at school. Both of them go to the same school and used to be in the same class too, but after my

son complained about being bullied and made fun of by Dean, I spoke to their principal and had his class changed. Both of them are in second grade and I tried everything to fix the situation before taking that step. I'd spoken to Kim about the bullying, but she laughed it off and said that the boys were just being boys and they'd get over it. My son's a rough and tumble little boy too, so if he was actually complaining about being constantly bullied by Dean, then I believe that there was something wrong and it wasn't just playing rough. When talking to Kim didn't work, I spoke to his teacher and had them separated. Since then Kim and I haven't exactly been on good terms and I avoid her at family gatherings because I don't want to speak to her. Her son is

very unruly and rude and has absolutely no idea how to behave in public. And he's just seven so things must be pretty bad, you guys can imagine. I don't think he's a good influence on my son so I've stopped them from hanging out together and have told Nate to keep a distance from his cousin. He's okay with it because he was getting bullied and he didn't get along with his cousin anymore. Kim was either oblivious to all of this or she just didn't want to acknowledge that there was something wrong with the way her son had been behaving recently. This might also have to have have something to do with Kim's recent breakup. I'm not sure, though. She was dumped by her boyfriend

of three years just six months ago, but none of us know the reason why that happened and she's been weird ever since that happened. It seems like she's very detached from everyone now and only cares about herself, not even her son. She'd never married Dean's father and they had broken up within a year of Dean's birth, but he had continued to co-parent their kid. He lives nearby so Dean can continue to go to the same school and he and Kim can easily take turns looking after Dean. As far as I know, they're not exactly on good terms but they're not on bad terms either. He's not really close to the family so we don't see the guy unless it's Dean's birthday that's being celebrated or Hanukkah at Kim's house, which is a holiday she hosts every year.

That's the only time we see the guy and he seems like a nice person who loves his son. At Dean's last birthday, which was three months ago, a couple of days before Nate and Dean were separated in school, he seemed very upset with Kim over something but we didn't know what it was. I did guess that it must have been over Dean since he'd been behaving badly at the party as well but Kim was acting there was nothing wrong with the way he'd been acting. I didn't even want to go to that party and neither did Nate because of Dean's behavior but my husband insisted so we did end up going. I didn't want us to fight because of that and I figured just making a

appearance would have been enough. So we did just that and came back home and this way everyone was happy. A few weeks after that, Nat had his class changed and after that, Kim and I didn't meet or speak to each other one-on-one. A few days ago, I sent out invitations to a lot of moms from Nate's group because Nate was celebrating his birthday in a couple of days. I did not invite Kim and her son because Nate didn't want Dean to be there and neither did I but when Kim found out that I hadn't invited her but a lot of other kids had been invited, she was furious and called me to demand an explanation and to make sure her son got invited. I told her the real reason why her son wasn't invited and didn't mince my words because I thought she'd been letting her son run free

and behave in a really awful way. I could understand that she'd just been through a bad breakup, but that was really no excuse to let her son be so undisciplined. And even if she believed it was all right, she could let that behavior remain confined to her own life and household, but I wasn't going to force my son and I to be a part of that. Dean had bullied Nate enough to make him not want to be around him at all and to me, my son's well-being was more important than maintaining relationships. She was very angry and said a lot of horrible things about me and my son and then hung up. I didn't think much of it because I knew an outburst like this was bound to happen at some point and it didn't make much of a difference to me if she didn't talk to me over

this, since we weren't really that close anyway and after she refused to raise her son better, I'd completely cut her off in my head. Out of love for my husband, I'd still tried to have a cordial relationship with her and attended her son's birthday, but it had been three months since that and her son's behavior had only gotten worse so now I didn't see any reason for us to force ourselves or our sons to be friends when they so clearly didn't get along with each other. My husband wasn't happy about this when he found out, but he also didn't say anything about it.

Nate's birthday is coming up in four days and after that phone call, Kim didn't try to talk to me about the birthday invitation. Then two days ago, I had to attend a wedding but it was out of town so I had to stay overnight after the wedding. My husband told me that he couldn't attend because he was busy with work and Nate didn't want to go since he would have to skip one day of school, which he didn't want to do. So it was just me attending. It was a four-hour drive to the location and the wedding and after-party were all wrapped by 11. I called my husband once I got to the hotel to check up on him and Nate but to my surprise, my husband told me that, that Nate wasn't there. I didn't understand what he was talking about because it was really

late at night so I obviously expected my son to be at home. I asked him where he was and he told me that Nate was with Kim which shocked me because I'd made it very clear that I didn't want her or her son around Nate at all. Not because of any personal issues but mostly because Nate didn't want to be around them. Once I got over the shock, I snapped and asked my husband to get him back home right that instant but he told me that I was overreacting and that they're just kids so they could sorted out if they just had one sleepover together. Kim had apparently come by to pick my son up from our house to take him home and my husband had let her because he thought that it was totally fine just because Kim was family and he believed that Nate had to toughen up and learn how to be

friends with his cousin instead of running away like a baby. I hung up on my husband because he was talking crazy and decided to call my parents so they could go over to Kim's house and bring Nate back to their own house where he'd stay until I came back the next day. I also called the cops who got CPS involved and they went along with my parents to bring Nate back home. I don't know what went down there exactly but what I did find out from my parents later on was that Nate was very upset and had definitely been crying a lot. He'd even refused to have dinner at Kim's house because of some things that Dean had said about me which he'd undoubtedly heard from his mother. So Kim had sent my son to sleep without any dinner. He was glad to be out of there and go home with my parents.

I didn't rest until I was sure that he was with my parents and even then, I was sure that he was shaking like a leaf because of how overwhelming this experience had been for me. I started my drive back home as soon as my son was safe with my parents and I had told the cops that Jay wanted to press charges against Kim and my husband. I had to be present in person for that so I left the hotel at around 1130 and headed straight to my parents' house. Once I'd seen my son in person and made sure he was okay, I headed over to the police station and pressed charges against both my husband and his sister. They'd been detained for a day but had been released afterward and they'd have to stay in the state until the charges against them had been dropped or

they were acquitted. I think they'd been let off pretty easily given the seriousness of what they'd done because essentially, Kim had taken my child away from his home without my approval and it was absolutely not okay. Maybe he wasn't physically hurt, but he was emotionally really distressed and didn't even want to go to school today because he thought he'd have to come across Kim or Dean and that kid would end up bullying him again. There had been a pattern of rough housing and playing rough, but this was different and it needed to end. If a seven-year-old is afraid of another kid to the point of being terrified to even see him, then there's certainly something very strange about that. I didn't let my son go to school and I've decided to file for a divorce and full custody of

Nate because I don't think my husband is capable of handling a child if he's willing to put family over his own kid's mental and emotional health. He didn't even apologize to me, but as soon as he got his phone back, he texted me to tell me that what I'd done was really disgusting and that he didn't want to see me because I was not fit to be a mother. He said it'd raise a sensitive girl instead of a son and he wasn't on board with it, so now I could either come back to him and raise Nate on his terms or I'd have to fight him for custody. I didn't even respond to that message but a couple of hours ago. I received another message from him saying that Kim was in the hospital because of me, apparently.

He said that because of my overreaction the other day, Kim's ex had decided to file for full custody of Dean and had even come by to take him away because he believed that she wasn't capable of raising him anymore. She couldn't even stop him because he'd come with CPS and since she was already facing charges for what she'd done with Nate, things weren't looking too good for her, so Dean was removed from her custody. She tried to deal with the situation by having a temper tantrum

once they'd left and ended up smashing a lot of things in her house in a fit of rage. One of those things had been her glass coffee table and when she'd smashed it, it had shattered and glass shards were all over the floor, which is how she'd injured herself now. My husband was blaming me for all of this because my actions had triggered this behavior and even though I'd known that she was going through a breakup, I'd still called the cops on them for something petty despite knowing that Kim was unstable right now. He's even called me a homewrecker because I've not only ruined my own marriage, he's also

holding me responsible for breaking Kim's family apart which doesn't make sense because she and her ex were never even married or anything. I don't understand what to think right now. I defer reporting my husband and his sister to CPS after he let her take our son to her house to bond with her son who bullies and scares my son. Update 1. Hey, you guys. Thank you so much for the overwhelming response I got it was nice to have people on my side here because everyone else, apart from my parents, is certainly not on my side right now.

Everyone's upset that Kim injured herself and she even ended up in a rehabilitation center because she had a complete mental breakdown. I don't understand why his family and even some of our friends are blaming me for all of this because if anything, the violent episode that she had just proves that she's not fit to raise a child. Not right now at least because this could have just as easily happened while her son was inside the house with her and then he would have been in danger as well. So I probably did everyone a favor but mostly people have accused me of overreacting and being too sensitive. I mean, how was I too sensitive?

The woman had literally taken my kid away from home and my husband had let her and then even tried to act like it was okay, even though he knew how much Nate didn't like to be in the company of his cousin. I'd only call the cops because my husband refused to care for his son and obviously someone had to. The kid's not even ten yet. There's also the fact that Kim didn't find it necessary to discipline her own child at any point but because Nate was under stress and was very upset. She'd thought that it would be appropriate to send him to bed without dinner just because he was sad and wanted to go home. And nobody seems to think that there's anything wrong with what she did just because she had a mental breakdown and ended up in the psych ward. It just seems really

unfair to me that everyone's blaming me for what she did, even though I had no part to play in it. If she was under so much distress, then she really should have sought professional help earlier, but she didn't and I don't understand how that's my fault. I didn't intend to create such a chain reaction of bad things to happen to Kim, I was just trying to protect my son. I don't understand why that's so hard for certain people to accept. I've already been feeling really upset about the divorce that's going to take place and this is certainly not helping my situation. I feel like I just had to vent and let all these feelings out somewhere and somehow so I'm treating Reddit as my journal right now. I need a lot of mental strength to get through this because what happened with Kim was

bad and I do feel sorry for her but I don't think lashing out at me is the right move like most of my friends and my husband's relatives seem to think it is. My only solace is that at least is happy and he's even resumed going back to school now. He's happier now that Dean's father has taken Dean away so they can start afresh. They've moved a few blocks away and Dean's going to another school now from what I heard from a couple of the mothers who keep in touch with the faculty. It's not ethical to gossip about the parents but this is the first time that the gossip has been of any help to me so I'm thankful. Nate's back to school again and as for the divorce and custody, I've already filed for a divorce in full custody.

My husband's yet to be served, but I'm sure that when he is, he's not going to let this go without a fight. I've already told my lawyer to take a look at our finances because nine years is a long time and I don't want him to screw me over which he might try to do now that he and his family suddenly hate me. I can't say this is coming as a surprise. I'd always known he was fiercely loyal and protective of his family, but I really had never imagined that he would pick them even over us. I don't understand how he can just treat me like this after almost a decade of being together and I'm kicking myself for not letting him go the second he showed the first signs of wanting Nate and Dean to still be friends even after our son was being bullied.

I should never have attended that damn birthday party with my son and shouldn't have dropped that fight so easily. Then maybe we could have at least ended our marriage without so much drama but unfortunately I thought about giving him a second chance. And well, look where that landed me. Update two, hey, guys. so today my husband responded to the divorce petition and he isn't contesting it, which is a relief because I don't think I would have been able to handle the stress of that mentally.

But he's not ready to give up custody of Nate yet, so that's going to be a problem. My lawyer and I did see this coming and we prepared for it so we're hoping it works out well for us and I think it will because after what my husband did, I don't think any judge would want Nate to remain in his custody. He also hasn't visited Nate or me ever since I left and I've been living with my parents for a while now. He hasn't even contacted me to check up on how Nate has been doing, which is kind of surprising since he wants custody of his son but can't be bothered to ask how the same kid is doing. It's funny but since it works in my favor, I'm cool with it. Nate has been asking about his father and it's going to be tough breaking the news to him,

but I'll have to do it at some point. I wasn't strong enough to do it so far, but now that I'm going through with the divorce, it feels a lot more real and I know I'll have to let the poor guy know that his dad probably won't be around the way he used to be. I know my son's going to be just fine with me, but it still feels awful because he's still just really young and small. It breaks my heart and I'm hoping that the love from his grandparents and me, of course, can help him feel better but nothing ever fills the void of a father figure. I know that and I'm really upset that I'm going to have to put my son through that.

My parents have been supportive and have been taking care of Nate and I guess it helps because they're both retired now and don't have much to do around the house. This keeps all of them occupied and I can focus on the mediation process and my work without constantly worrying about whether Nate's emotional needs are being met or not. I mean I do play with him and talk to him every night for about an hour before I tuck him into bed but I constantly keep feeling guilty. Like that's not enough for him even though he's been really brave and hasn't complained about it even once.

I just worry about whether I'm being a good mom or not and I really hope that I am because otherwise, I don't know who I am. Update 3, hi, this is the night before the first mediation session for the custody case. It's around 3 in the morning right now and I'm shivering even though it's a summer night and relatively warm because of what my psychotic, crazy, immoral soon-to-be ex-husband just did. It started when Nate and I were just about to go to bed, at around 930 but someone rang the doorbell and my dad was soon in our room, telling me to come downstairs because my husband was at the door. He didn't understand what was going on and neither did I.

I told him that I didn't want to speak to him, so he needed to go away. My dad said that he seemed totally out of sorts and suspected that he was either really drunk or on drugs and asked me if I wanted to call the police. Before I could even answer that, I heard my husband screaming out my name and then he started yelling out expletives directed towards me. I freaked out a little and so did Nate so I told my dad to call the police immediately. We'd hardly even dialed 9-1-1 when we heard the sound of smashing glass from downstairs followed by my husband laughing loudly and then the sound of a car pulling out, which meant that

he'd left. My mother had already fallen asleep before my husband showed up, but as soon as she heard the sound of the glass breaking, she rushed upstairs to check on me. Thankfully, all of us are unharmed but we were all really traumatized and didn't dare to move or do anything until we were sure that he wasn't loitering around anymore. We'd heard the car drive away, but we still couldn't believe that this was happening and were scared of even breathing too loudly. When we went down to check the damage, we realized that the psycho had thrown one of the potted plants that my mom keeps outside for decoration into the house through the glass window in the living room and there was glass all over the floor after that. We wasted no time in calling the cops

and pressed charges against him for destruction of property and also harassment. It turns out he had been drinking and celebrating that he had finally managed to get rid of me with his family in the house that we had lived in for so long and it was his family's bright idea to go to my house the night before the first mediation meeting to mess with me a little bit. Of course, they hadn't seen this coming and when we came face to face at the police station, his mother was practically begging me to let this one incident slide and that it was just a prank. It took me a lot of restraint but I managed to ignore her altogether and came back home. It's been a couple of hours since, but I still haven't been able to bring myself to process any of this. It feels weird that the

guy who had been the love of my life for so many years is even capable of doing something as nasty and deranged as this. Nate, thankfully, had fallen asleep but even he was very traumatized and kept asking if that was his father's voice that he'd heard. I didn't know how to answer that, so I just didn't say anything and I think it's better off that way. He doesn't need to know any of this right now and he can just be a kid. I'm still in shock, but I've told my lawyer what happened and since I don't believe my husband will be showing up for our meeting with the mediator tomorrow, I'll be filing a restraining order against him first thing in the morning. Update 4. Hi, guys, I have great news for everyone here who is bothered to stay with me,

commented on my posts and updates, and even reached out to me. My husband and I are divorced now. It took a while but the court expedited our divorce process since this. was a bit of an emergency for me. I also have full custody of my son now and I don't think I'll ever have to see him or any of his family again, which is something I'm so grateful for. As far as I know, Kim is still in rehab for her mental issues or whatever and my husband's probably going to be facing time for everything he's done. And I'm going to therapy with my son to undo all the damage that he and his family have done to us and our mental health. We're also going on a mothersome trip soon to cheer the little guy up and I couldn't be happier

about how things turned out. It was rough for a while but this is a new chapter of my life now and I'm excited for what the future holds for me. Thank you so much for all the love. That's the end of the first story. Let's begin the second one. I hope you enjoy this story. I 55M recently discovered that his spouse, 52F, had an affair with a younger man and their daughters were aware of the situation. A few years back, I learned that my partner had been unfaithful to me. She never disclosed her infidelity. Me any suspicious behavior, we've always been a strong couple, married for 25 years, three daughters, ages equal 17, 20, 23, or at least I thought, or did I find out.

One day I received a message from a woman telling me her soon to husband confessed that he cheated with a senior colleague at work. He came clean and gave the name of the woman. woman so she did a little bit of digging and found me. She thought I deserved to know the truth. I don't know if she did that to get back at my wife or genuinely thought I deserve to know, but that's not important. Obviously, I didn't believe her at the beginning, but as she gave me more details about the affair, the dates, duration, name of co-workers who knew, etc. So it does appear to be true. The guy gave her all the details, hotel name, even the address of my god.

goddamn house as she invited him, her phone number and so on. So yeah, at some point I had to face the truth. The guy was 21 at that time, a kid, still can't believe she slept with a kid, it happened when I was on a business trip, classic, when I put things together, I realized that she probably planned this as my business trip was scheduled months in advance. I find it odd to believe that it's a coincidence that she suddenly cheated the same period of time while I was away. wife is dead to me, I'm ready to divorce her so I'm just preparing it, financials, etc. One of my good friends faced the same issue so she advised not to confront my wife as she may go nuclear if she's cornered. I don't think she will, but who knows, I thought I knew her, turns out I do not, it's been hard to see her every day acting like nothing happened.

She's planning our next holiday, talking about going to visit our daughters, our eldest works in a different city, and the second one is in college, the youngest one is in college, the youngest, is finishing high school, she's like, a flatmate now, I just don't feel anything, I'm a ghost living in our house. I wake up at five, go to the gym, go to work, I have my own business, come back around 7 p.m. and just do my own stuff. I kind of think wife is feeling something is weird, but I don't really care. What hurt the most is that my daughters knew about the affair, the soon-to-be husband told his girl that my daughter walked in on them while they were kissing in our living room, wife thought she would be at school all day, apparently, she managed to calm down daughter and explain the situation, not sure what happened but daughter never told me anything,

so I'm not sure what wife told her to keep the secret, knowing how close she is with her two sisters. I'm 100% convinced she shared the secret. With them, and the three of them probably decided to keep it quiet, that's probably why I feel so detached, I believe I was, still am, a good father, I worked really hard on my business to make sure they get the best of everything, I put them first in any decision about my business to make sure I can provide, send them to college free of debts to give them the best start in their working life. I tried to be there at every step of their life. Basically what any father would do, we had our ups. And Downs obviously but nothing major, they are my baby girls and I always saw them as my little princesses,

so knowing that they knew really stung, part of me thinks they didn't tell me because they were scared of destroying the family, I understand that, but still, I have this anger inside me and it keeps growing, we have a WhatsApp group and when I see them asking for advice, asking to help for a deposit for a flat and so on. I just feel like screaming and confront all of them, but I know it won't solve anything. It will just be a 10 seconds happy feeling for me and then it will go back to stinging. Another part of me just wants to leave, close my bank account and just leave the house, cut ties with all of them and just leave without. a word, my good friend advised against that because law doesn't take this kindly, but really,

I can't say that this option is not growing on me, I don't even want to talk, I don't want to understand their point of view. I want to leave and go somewhere like Thailand, stay. On a beach for a few months and maybe one day I'll feel ready to listen, or maybe I won't, I don't want to hear about how sorry they are, how they regret they didn't tell me, they had three years, for three years they looked at me in the eyes and didn't say a thing, I really don't know how they manage to keep a poker face like nothing happened and still behave as usual, I feel like the four of them are master manipulators. And this anger inside me is not going away, what would you guys do if you were me? Reconciliation with the wife is out of the question,

she repulses me and the fact that she behaves like a loving wife just adds to the fire inside me, I'm glad my friend helped me and talk to me about her experience, so I managed to see this from our outside point of view, where I need advice is about my daughters, as I said part of me wants to talk. Another part just feels like they don't deserve a chance to come clean now. It's too late. I'm just so lost. Thanks for reading all of that. It took me forever to write it but somehow it does feel good. Edit, hi guys, I read all the comments and thought I would add an edit so everybody could read my thoughts, not sure how Reddit works so I hope I'm doing this fine. One, Layware up, yes, that is already in motion.

Layware told me that since the kids are grown up there won't be any alimony issue. As for spouse support, she might ask for it, but since she works and is doing fine for herself, the judge will most likely turn that down. Our joint account is only used for the things that we pay as a couple, otherwise we have our own bank accounts. That was a strong advice from my parents that if two partners are working, they should not put everything in a joint. Account, can't thank them enough for that, Layware said she could.

argue that my business is doing well and she's entitled to a part of it if I happen to sell it, but since she works we can always argue about this. To be honest, I don't even care, too. Talk to my daughters, I know I should, you guys are 100% right, the reason I've not done it is because I have this anger inside me that is not going away, I feel like if one of them says something that doesn't go well with me, I might snap, and yes, I would like to believe my wife manipulated them to keep the secret, so me snapping will make it worse. Yes, the anger is misplaced, but just to be clear, obviously I hated my wife when I learned about the affair, but then anger turned into.

Indifference, I will divorce and she will be gone. With my kids it's different. I can't hate my kids, I have feelings for them. Unfortunately right now it's anger. The reason I assume my youngest shared it with the two others is because they have always been very close to each other, supporting each other, which makes me very proud, so it's hard to believe my youngest didn't share it, but like someone said I'm not 100, percent certain. In any case I don't want to blame them, I understand their point of.

View if they tell me they didn't want to break the family, etc. But it's hard to accept the lying, it's like someone wrote, part of me would feel they sided with their cheating mom. I feel like I need some time alone to process everything, time I didn't have lately, between a wife, three daughters, a business to run. My only me time is the time at the gym I allow myself to have, but I don't feel it's enough to make the anger go away, and in my current situation. It'd be weird if I tell them I will be away for one month, and then go to Hawaii, three. Paternity tests, STDs, etc. Health checks are a no-brainer.

I have an appointment at a clinic and I'll do all the tests needed. Paternity tests, I don't know, I mean what's the point? Worst case they, are not my flesh, does that matter? I raised them for 20 years, they are my daughters, being blood-related, is not relevant. If they are not then it's on the mother, not them, I can't hold them accountable for that. Maybe the lady who contacted me lied, that was my first thought, I mean three grown daughters. I thought we were a strong couple. My first reply was, I am sorry you're going through this, but I don't believe your story about my wife. Then she started giving me more details,

more proof, as I said I don't care if it was. Because she wanted to ruin our marriage, but as the details are coming, doubts start getting into your herd and they're not going away. I started my own investigation and as you can imagine it's a lot easier to find clues when you know what you are looking for. I'm not one to live in denial. Facts are facts and as much it hurts. You have to face the truth. From what I understood she and the guy were preparing their wedding. I don't know what happened to him but it seems that he had this urge of. Coming clean, God knows what happened in his mind. Five, cut ties with all of them and move on. I assume that. these comments are from people with no kids, you can't walk away like that. What I meant is I would

leave for a period of time to process everything and when I'm healed, we would talk, but yes, it won't be the same, I love them, they love me, but it won't be the same, however, no matter how angry I am, I feel like I can't just leave like that. If my youngest didn't actually share the secret and kept it to herself, me leaving will be devastating for her and my other two might resent her for that. This is my nightmare scenario. I might be an idiot for thinking that, but my role is a is to father protect them. I will get the lawyer to speed up the paperwork and get my wife served. Then on the day she receives the papers I'll Skype with my daughters. They are all in different states, so we can have a discussion to clear things up. I want to do this on the same day

so that they don't go talking to their mother and then she'll try her best to play the victim. I want her to believe I know nothing until I'm ready. It's Sunday now. I hope by next week all the papers will be ready and then I can finally open up and have a discussion with my girls. Let's see how it goes, as many of you suggested, I took my youngest daughter for lunch last week. During that lunch I asked her if there is something she would like to share with me. I don't know if it was my face or tone, but she immediately understood what I was referring to. She broke down and told me the whole story. She did see her mother kissing another man a few years ago in our home. Apparently my ex-wife told the man to leave and sat down with our daughter. She explained that it was a brief

lapse of judgment, but she was glad that our daughter stopped it. She swore it was a one-time mistake and begged her to not say anything to me as knowing me, I would just walk. Away from her and our family, as many of you suggested, I took my youngest daughter for lunch last week, during that lunch I asked her if there is something she would like to share with me. I don't know if it was my face or tone, but she immediately understood what I was referring to. She broke down and told me the whole story. She did see her mother kissing another man a few years ago in our home. Apparently my ex-wife told the man to leave and sat down with our daughter, she explained at it.

Was a brief lapse of judgment, but she was glad that our daughter stopped it, she swore it was a one-time mistake and begged her to not say anything to me as knowing me, I would just walk away from her and our family. My daughter told me that she agreed to keep it a secret as she believed her mother. Later on, she shared it with my two other daughters, as you can imagine they were both shocked. Apparently my eldest didn't believe the story of the one-time kiss. It was too convenient that my youngest happened to, walk in the living room and find them kissing

for the first time, she told them not to worry and that she will handle it with their mother. I can't be more proud of her for taking this burden on her shoulders, from what my youngest knows, it seems that my eldest talked to their mother about her cheating on me and that if she doesn't come clean to me, they would inform me, however. The mother always had a good excuse, over the past few years. To delay it, either it was our job situation, a sick relative, etc. There was always a good excuse to explain that it would be devastating to add this on top of what is going on with me. At the end on the lunch, I told her I will call her two sisters to discuss this.

She insisted to be part of the conversation. Fair enough, I messaged my two daughters telling them I need to talk to them right now, so we quickly set up a call. Part of me thinks they knew what I wanted to talk about. And I told them that their sister told me about what happened with their mother. They both started crying, saying they are sorry, they wanted to tell me, etc. Long story short, I told them I was not mad at them, I said I was sorry they had to carry this burden for so long and that I will always love them. When it comes to their mother, I told them I will leave because I don't see myself staying with someone who betrayed me, but I said I will talk to her first before making any decision as it is the least I could do. I ask them to not

mention anything to their mother as I am planning to have a discussion the same evening, end of the day I go back. Home, wife is already here talking about her day as usual, etc. I told her I had an interesting discussion with her daughter, she immediately knew what I was talking out, she's starting sobbing, saying it was just a kiss and because she knows how much I value trust and so on, especially with my business. She was afraid of losing me for such a small thing. To be honest, I thought seeing her crying would make me cry, but nothing, I told you. I told her she will receive the papers tomorrow by courier and we will move on. After that I went to our

bedroom, packed some clothes, and left. I didn't know where I was going, but I just couldn't stay in our home anymore, booked a hotel downtown and called my youngest to tell her I would not stay at home tonight. She told me she was planning to stay with a friend tonight to avoid going back home and face her mother, but since I was out she asked if she could stay with me, of course, I informed my two other daughters that their sister and I will be staying in a hotel for the night. They asked and we could discuss altogether so. I said yes, during that discussion I told them what would be the next steps. According to my lawyer, I also made sure they know they are my daughters and that I love them,

against probably everyone's advice I couldn't stop myself telling them that part of me was hurt that they didn't tell me anything. I told them I thought we had a strong bond and that we could discuss about anything. They started crying and apologizing so I reminded them that no matter what happened they are my daughters and I. Love them, however, I told them it will take some time for me to behave as normal, I told them I was thinking of going for a long trip to clear my mind and my eldest said that if I need it then I should do it, after that we just went to bed, the next morning daughter and I were having breakfast and the mother called me. I didn't really want to pick up the phone but daughter insisted I talked to her. I agreed but I put her on speaker. As soon as I picked up the phone, I could hear she's been probably drinking all night, she started crying, telling me she loves me, we are meant to. be together, this will be devastating for the kids, etc. I told her the kids are adults now, they don't need us, we gave them the best we could and now they have to build their own life, suddenly she turned very nasty, saying she will take everything I have, that she will make

sure my company goes bankrupt, she will tell our daughters I physically abused her, etc. I was so shocked I just stared at my daughter, who also couldn't believe what she was hearing, I decided to cut the discussion short and said my lawyer will get in touch with her, daughter and I didn't even know what to say to each other. It is like the person who was with us for two decades suddenly became another person. Five minutes later she received a message from the mother telling her they need to talk. Daughter was scared so I told her not to reply. Anyway, the mother was clearly drunk.

So nothing good would come from that discussion. I told her I will be staying at this hotel until things are settled and she's free to stay with me if she wants. we had another group call with my two other daughters to tell them what happened and as you can imagine, they were astonished. I met my lawyer and told them what happened. He said I don't have to worry about anything. The mother had a good position professionally and is financially all right. I run a business that employs 5,100 people so. A judge will never jeopardize that knowing her comfortable situation, she will get half of our assets, houses, cars, etc. But money-wise she shouldn't have a penny for my savings, and she shouldn't be able to claim anything from my company. My

daughter told me she's worried about going back to our house with her mom as she's afraid she will be blamed for it. I told her I'll get a place downtown and she can stay there with me, either temporarily until she feels she can go back, or until she goes to college. I feel like the way her mother went crazy on the phone deeply troubled her, I will tell her I can find. Someone she can speak to if she feels the need, like a counselor, let's see how she feels, The mother received the papers and apparently went ballistic with our families, her and mine, her family tried to call us but my eldest just shut them down. On my side my brother knows me and just offered support. He knows I wouldn't do something like this for no reason, so here we

are now, divorce is on the way. Daughter is staying with me until she feels like going back home maybe, the mother sent me. Messages, I might meet her but my lawyer strongly advised me not to. He said there is nothing to gain and everything to lose, so I will probably trust him on that, about me, I will not go to Thailand until I am sure my youngest is in a good place, so if I go it will probably be next year when high school is done, I don't know how our day-to-day life is going to be, let's see. I don't think I will send another update unless something major happens, so again I would like to thank you for all the support you sent me, I never thought I would be in that situation and I hope nobody will be in the same, thank you all.