Reddit Stories - Revenge Unleashed Exposing INFIDELITY DESTROYING RELATIONSHIPS

Episode Date: May 30, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #relationships #infidelity #revenge #betrayal #divorceSummary: A tale of Revenge Unleashed Exposing INFIDELITY DESTROYING RELATIONSHIPS unfolds, revealing the consequences of betrayal and vengeance. Secrets come to light, trust is shattered, and lives are forever changed in this gripping narrative.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, relationships, infidelity, revenge, betrayal, divorce, trust, secrets, vengeance, consequences, drama, storytelling, relationshipsadvice, relationshipissues, heartbreak, emotionalpainBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. Discovered my spouse being unfaithful, so I put an end to the relationship with the person she was cheating with. I feel utterly lost. I'm unsure of how to proceed. There were indications, but I failed to notice them. Blinded by love and never imagined this would happen to me, not with her, my wife and best friend of nearly 20 years. I work out of town and wasn't supposed to be back until tonight. We were supposed to leave for a two-week road trip tomorrow.

Things were slow at work so I came home yesterday afternoon. This trip was to give us a little alone time since we've been so busy with family and friends this summer. When I got home there was a truck in my driveway that I didn't recognize. My neighbor just recently asked me how I liked the new truck, but I thought he was mistaken and didn't think much of it. As soon as I could see the truck, I got a terrible gut-furt. feeling. I love my wife and trusted her completely, but that feeling was there and strong. I snuck around the side of the house to our bedroom window. It was open and I could hear them as I got close. I looked in the window and my worst fear was confirmed. They were right there,

completely naked, on my bed. I walked away. I have been fighting the urge to do something that I know I will regret. I'm struggling to care what happens to me and this point. I went to my family's cabin for the night and drank everything there. Today I was on my way home to confront her and decided against it. I'm not ready, all I can feel is anger, all I can think about is violence. I'm not in a good place right now, not good enough to see her. I'm back at the cabin right now, I have a 60 ounces of rum and have been staring at it for an hour. I want to get drunk and forget this, but I don't want to get get drunk and make bad decisions. I know this is a critical moment in my life and my actions

in the coming days will dictate the rest of my life. That's why I'm here. I need help. I'm not ready to speak to family or friends, so I am reaching out to strangers. Fuck this world. Update, busted wife cheating. The amount of support and advice I've received is unbelievable. I actually got choked up just realizing how many great people there are out there willing to help a stranger. It gives me a bit of hope for the world at a moment when I needed it most. The downside to all of this support is that I am struggling to respond to people. I have over 600 private messages unread and several hundred comments unread. I want to say thank you to everyone individually, and I'm going to make an effort to do that.

But it won't be quick so I will just start by giving you. giving a big thank you to everyone for your kind messages and helpful advice, it really means a lot to me. I have noticed several comments and questions that keep popping up and wanted to provide clarity in addition to my minor update. If you can't tell, I am feeling a lot better today. The pain almost completely went away. I still feel like I've been punched in the gut, but otherwise I have begun looking to the future. It has been two days, so this doesn't seem right to me. Is this a calm before the storm, or am I just freakishly resilient? As for the questions and comments I've received, here are some cliff notes to clarify some things. When I said wife

and best friend, I was referring to the two roles my wife played in my life, the other guy was not my best friend, or even someone I knew, I didn't get a great look at him, but from the quick glance and seeing his vehicle. I don't feel like this is someone I know. We do not have to be a kids, we were planning to have them soon though. We recently sold our house and were set to move closer to my job in September when the new owners take possession. I am going to thank my neighbor, but I am going to do it subtly like he did for me. A lot of people have been asking me about the signs I mentioned overlooking, off the top of my head, here are a few. Was texting abnormally late at night? Went for after-work drinks with friends. Regularly, this was not. This was not

not like her, but I was glad that she was being social. She had yoga once a week, but was apparently not paying because one of her co-workers was the instructor and she was helping with setup and clean up. I also thought she was very inflexible for someone who went to yoga. Unknown caller hangups. We regularly answered each other's phones if we are closer to it. Several times she had an unknown caller who would hang up as soon as I answered. We get a lot of spam calls, but usually it's a telemarketer or a debt collector looking for the previous owner of the number, rarely it's a hang-up. The update is a work in progress. When my brother arrived we had a good long talk, he has been my true best friend and I realized I need to always

remember that and know that he will always be there for me without judgment the same way I would be for him. He really sets the standard for what a true friendship is, even if we fight on occasion. Since I was supposed to be home last night, I decided to respond to my wife's text, we aren't allowed to have phones on site, so it was reasonable for me to only be texting her, she knows it's easy for me to sneak in some texts. I wrote her and said I needed to go to one of my company's remote sites and wouldn't be able to call her until the end of the weekend. I told her that I would cancel all of the reservations and rebook later,

she said she could take her best friend with her this weekend to the romantic bed and breakfast on a vineyard that I booked, I knew it wasn't the best friend she wanted me to think would be going. I told her that I already gave it to my brother and his wife since it was non-refundable and they would pay me back in a month. This morning, I cancelled all of the reservations except the romantic one. My brother is coming with me. Fortunately, the hotel let us switch from the honeymoon suite to a room with two beds. There also happens to be a really nice lake and boat rentals nearby, so this just turned into a long overdue fishing trip with my brother. This means I am free for the weekend, I don't have to write her or talk to her for a few days,

so that relieved some stress and gives me more time to think. I am currently in the mindset to get a divorce, I honestly can't see it any other way, my brother is supportive of this, but has asked me to take a few weeks and speak to someone, his wife has a friend who is a couple's counselor and is willing to talk to me on Monday, I don't see it changing my mind. But at least it might help untangle some of this mess for me. I am also taking a bunch of the advice on here and starting to speak to lawyers, at the very least to prepare for what I think is inevitable. I want to do this right, I've never thought of her as someone who would try to screw me over, but I also never expected her to cheat. So I think I need to be prepared for anything.

Thanks again everyone, I'm going to try to enjoy my weekend as much as possible. Update 2, busted my wife cheating. A lot has happened in the past few days, I'll start with the less important stuff. My brother, Matt, and I drove nearly five hours to the BNB on the vineyard, I really appreciate him being there for me through this. It was more of a venting session than anything, but it really helped clear my head, after spending the better part of the drive whining to him, I just wanted a little alone time while he wanted to go out for dinner. I stayed in the room and he went out to eat and took me back some food. He also managed to rent a boat for the next day.

On Saturday we hit the water, the owner of the BNB knew about our plans for fishing and was nice enough to pack us a small cooler of food and drinks. It was their way of making the romantic package more useful for two brothers. It was a nice gesture. Fishing wasn't good, we both caught a couple of trout that we had to release due to their size, so the snacks from the B&B worked out great. We stopped fishing at mid-afternoon and then drove around to all of the vineyards and fruit stands buying food and cases of wine for Matt's wife Jen, that night we went for the biggest tomahawk steak we could find. On Sunday we drove back to Matt's place, he lives in the next town over from me which is about

an hour away from my place. When we arrived, Jen was there and we all sat and cracked a bottle of white wheat chilling in the cooler. This is when the weekend officially ended for me. Jen told me that while we were away that she decided to go spy on my wife, she told me that the guy was at my place on Friday night all night, but on Saturday morning she managed to get there just as he was leaving, she followed him home and found the apartment where he lived. My wife stayed over there on Saturday night. The same time she was sending me text messages saying she loves me and misses me. Jen said that she was splitting her time between visiting family who live in my town and stalking

my wife. She said that she happened to catch my wife leaving his apartment on Sunday morning and took a few picks of them hugging and kissing before she got into her car, I don't want to see them. That pretty much sealed the deal for me, I don't think I could ever trust her again if she can turn it on and off so easily to tell me she loves me while being with a different guy. Still, I decided that I am not going to jump to a knee-jerk reaction based on emotions. I need to remain calm and level. That's when Jen told me that Sharon was coming over for dinner.

Sharon is the counselor that Jen set me up with an appointment for, to clarify, she has never met my wife and this was my first time meeting her as well. Sharon was a very nice person and we got along great. After dinner, Sharon and I went for a walk around Matt's neighborhood to walk the dogs and have a bit of a private conversation. Sharon was really helpful in the fact that she was a great listener and made me feel like I didn't need to be guarded. It was therapeutic to be that free with describing my feelings, as much as I am comfortable with my brother, this was just different and very needed. It's the same reason why I like writing this on Reddit. It's a vent session that helps me untangle some of the mess in my head. Our walk lasted an hour and the only

real advice that Sharon gave me was to not delay that conversation with my wife, she said that the longer I wait, the harder it will become to talk to her about this, she said I need clarity more than anything at this point. And my wife is the only person that can give that to me. Later that night Jen and Matt offered me to stay with them for as long as necessary, I know that Matt and I have an expiry period for being in close quarters with each other, so I spoke to my boss who was able to set me up in company housing. I've been staying there every second week for a while, but have to leave on days off. He managed to make it work for me to stay full time for a few months if I needed. I decided to re-book with Sharon for later this week, I figured our walk

sufficed for the first session, she agreed. I spent the night on Sunday just laying in bed thinking about how to approach this, I struggled with this because even the imaginary scenario in my head was making my angry or sad, I decided I would just wing it, I'm usually good under pressure. Yesterday I woke up and said my goodbyes to Matt and Jen, I drove towards home and was thinking what if he was there when I arrived, then I thought that it would likely just put me back in the angry spot I was a few days ago. I decided to do a drive by first, neither his truck or my wife's car were there. I went inside and grabbed a bunch of essentials and things I don't want to part with, mainly just some photos and old family heirlooms. I got them all packed up in my truck and then headed

over to the guy's apartment. Her car wasn't there either, but his truck was. I decided to write her to see where she was. She said she was getting groceries. I trust her so little right now that I drove by the grocery store and actually confirmed she was there. I feel so dirty admitting that I did that, but my trust is broken and it's the only way I can be certain of anything. I wrote her again and told her to just come home because we need to talk. She wrote back what's wrong. I just responded and said she needs to be ready to be honest, and then turn my phone off. She got home 15 minutes later, when she came and she came over to give me a hug and kiss

like she does every time, I turned away from her, she asked me again what was wrong, so I told her that she needs to start being honest with me, she played dumb and said, she had no idea what I was talking about, I said, okay. If you can't be honest, then I am leaving. She started panicking at this point and said, are you talking about yoga? I figured it was a start, I asked her what she was talking about, and she told me that she hadn't been going to yoga. Here's a bit of a breakdown of the rest of the conversation. Me, if you weren't going to yoga, then where were you going? Her, I was taking walks to relax because I've been so stressed lately.

me, why were you so stressed, and why did you lie to me about what you were doing? Her, preparing for the move has been stressing me out, and I just didn't know how to tell you. Me, so lying was the decision you made? What was your concern with telling me that you were going for a walk to de-stress? Her, I didn't mean to lie, I was worried that my stress would add to your stress. Me, but I'm not stressed, it really seems like you are not telling me everything. Her, what do you mean? Me, I think that you're lying about more than just skipping yoga.

I am asking you again to be honest, you've already lied to me, so this can't work if you keep lying. Her, I don't know what else to say, oh, are you talking about last weekend when I went for drinks with some friends and came home late? I had a feeling that bothered you. I had no clue that she went for drinks or was out late, I was at work a couple hours away me, is that what you actually? did that night or was that a lie as well? Her, I went for drinks that night, but I didn't see, her best friend who she supposedly was with that night. Me, who did you see?

Her, no one, I just drank alone. Me, you drink alone now. Her, yeah, maybe I have a problem. Me, maybe, we'll talk about that later, last chance, be honest or I'm leaving. Her, um, I don't know what else to say. Me, okay, I'm leaving. At this point I got up and left, usually when we have an argument I go for a drive to get away from her, she probably thought this was the same, then she realized I took my clothes and toiletries,

as well as the Xbox, that's when she began blowing up my phone. I told her that I gave her a chance to be honest and she didn't, so there's nothing left to say, she begged and pleaded with me to come home to talk about this in person. She said she had no idea why I was so upset or what I think she did, she repeated that she loved me and would never hurt me. Just hearing her say that really tore a new hole in my chest, it was always comforting words that I believed without question. Now it's a dull jagged knife sawing through my heart in the most devastating way, I couldn't handle it, so I hung up. She called back about 40 times before I was was ready to answer again, this time she said, did you talk to Karen, her best friend?

I asked why, and she said come home, I don't want to say this over the phone, I agreed and drove around a little longer to get my heart rate back down, then I went home, that conversation went like this. Her, I assume you spoke to Karen. Me, her, well a few weeks ago while you were at work we went for drinks, a couple of guys started buying us drinks, so we just played along, when we were leaving, one of the guys tried to kiss me, I pulled away immediately and told him I was married, I felt so bad about it and wanted to tell you, but I'm an idiot and just decided to hide it from you.

Karen hooked up with the other guy and gave his friend my number without asking me, he has texted me a few times since, but I have never written him back. Me, can I see your phone? Her, yes. She showed me her phone which was completely empty of texts except for myself, and her mother, She never deletes her texts, so this was new. I looked at her photos, which was also clean, but then I checked the deleted photos and found one of a guy I didn't recognize me, who is this? Her, that's the guy who tried to kiss me.

Me, why did you take a picture of him? Her, I was just being stupid. Me, that's not a reason. Why did you take a picture of him? Her, I don't know. Me, is that everything you want to tell me, or is there more? Her, that's all I can think of. Once again, I left, I didn't want to be trickle-truthed, I got in my truck and drove away, she ran outside trying to stop me, but I was already out of reach, I went to the park nearby and just sat on my tailgate and ate my lunch trying to figure

out what to do next. While there I began remembering other things that I should have been more aware of, things like. I was working a weekend shift and was in bed early. My wife went out to the club with a few of her girlfriends. I woke up at 4 a.m. and she still wasn't home. I called her a few times, but there was no answer. About 30 minutes later she called me back and asked if I would come and get her. When I picked her up, she told me that they were trying to hail a taxi but had no luck, a couple of guys that her friend knew stopped and offered them a ride, but wanted to stop at home first, when they got to the guy's house.

Her married friend went into room with one of the guys, my wife said she spent some time looking for her, but then eventually gave up and just had a drink in the kitchen with the roommates while she waited. She claims, she didn't hear her phone when I tried calling, we fought about this, and she was disgusted by her friend's actions. So she cut that friend out of her life, I thought that was over,

another time she traveled to visit a close friend in a different city, It was a planned girl's night. There were four girls all getting drunk and watching movies in their PJs. At least that's what I was told. Then she called me around 1 a.m. to say good night. We spoke for about 20 minutes and she repeatedly told me that they were having a great girl's night. Then I heard a guy's voice in the background. I asked who it was and she denied hearing anything at first.

Then it happened again, loudly. She couldn't deny it. So she was like, oh yeah, X took a couple of guys with her. Everyone here is super pissed about it. She was drunk and three hours away. She left me no choice, but to trust her again, we fought about that and why she refused to tell me they were there. She promised never to put herself in that type of situation again, clearly that didn't stick, after remembering all of those things. And the conversations we had about them, I was ready to give this one last shot, I turned my phone back on and almost immediately it rang,

I answered, and she was screaming for me to come home. I drove back to the house. I walked inside and was immediately confronted by her bawling her eyes out. She was sitting on the couch repeating I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I asked her sorry for what. She began rocking back and forth like a crazy person. It took her a good five minutes to catch her breath enough to speak. Her, I lied about the guy who tried to kiss me, me, okay, tell me what happened. Her, the four of us actually went back to his place that night. We fooled around. I knew it was more than that. But just hearing her say it made me feel dizzy, it felt like the room was getting smaller and there were a million people speaking into my ears at the same time. I think I was having a panic attack. I went to the bathroom and

washed my face in cold water until things returned to normal. Me, what did you do? Her, do you want me to actually tell you? Me, yes, her, he fingered me and I gave him a blow job, me, was that it? Her, yes, me, I'm not playing this game any longer. You either tell me everything right now, or this will be the last time we speak. She began bawling again and took another few minutes before she was able to speak her. We met up again and had sex. I'm so sorry, I love you and will do anything to make up for this, me, just the one time. Her, if I tell you the truth, please give me a chance to do anything I can to make up for it.

Please, me, I'll think about it. Her, it was an affair, we had been hooking up while you're out of town for work, it's been going on for almost a month now, he is married and they are about to get divorced, Me, does he know you're married? Her, yes, me, if he's having an affair because his marriage is failing, does that mean you think ours is failing? Is that what you told him? Her, no, I don't think ours is failing, I'm so stupid, I hate myself,

please don't leave me, I can fix this, me, how? Her, whatever you want, me, if you were in my shoes, or even his wife's shoes, what would fix this for you? Her, knowing the truth, being able to trust you to mean what you are saying, you can trust me, I screwed up and won't do that again, me, if you were his wife, wouldn't you want to know the truth? Her, yes, me, then fix this, her, you want me to call her. Me, if you think that is what you would want, she tried calling, but never got an answer. A few minutes later her cell phone rang, it was listed as Karen, work, she looked shocked, so I knew that wasn't Karen, I asked if that was him, she said it was, I answered. And being the coward he is, he said oops, I must have the wrong number, I said no, this is the

husband of the girl you've been cheating with, I'm going to let you speak to her because she has something to say to you, I passed her the phone, her, I told him everything, he knows the entire truth, we're done. It was just a fling and now you need to never contact me again, I asked to see the phone before she hung up me, what divorce lawyer are you using? Him, I'm not getting divorced, me, oh, but didn't you tell me wife that you were? Him, no, me, okay, then can I speak to your wife? I feel she has as much right to know about this as I do. You. Him, please, man, I didn't know she was married, don't ruin my marriage over a mistake.

Me, you ruin mine over a mistake, it's only fair that I tell your wife. Him, please don't, she's at work right now, I will tell her everything when she gets home, I swear. Me, okay, you do that. That's where I hung up, I asked my wife if she knew where his wife worked in her name, she did, I had my wife call over and ask for her at work, she did get her on the phone and told her to take a seat, this woman said she was just getting ready to leave for the day and she would call my wife back from her car, she did his wife, what's going on?

My wife, I have something terrible to tell you and I don't want to cause any accidents, please don't drive. His wife, OMG, did something happen to, his name. My wife, no, no, he's at your apartment right now, I am. just letting you know that we have been having an affair for a month now, I'm coming clean to my husband right now and thought you should be given the same respect. She went silent for about a minute, then said if this is some sick joke, I will find out who you are, then she hung up, not even ten minutes later, my wife got a text from Karen, work, saying, thanks, you just ruined my life, I grabbed the phone and wrote, back you just ruined four lives and two marriages.

Don't forget that this was your fault, you piece of shit. For the next hour, my wife begged and pleaded with me to stay with her. She offered counseling, she offered to never leave my side, she even offered me sexual favors, this was everything that I expected, thanks to the comments in here. She then said we should go on that vacation, her treat, we need time away was her reason, we need to spend some quality time together because my work schedule has been pushing us apart lately, also exactly what I expected her to say. She wasn't expecting me to tell her that I went anyway, she also wasn't expecting me to tell her that I already have counseling booked for myself,

she definitely wasn't expecting me to tell her that I busted her on my very own bed, I could only imagine she didn't expect me to have a place already lined up to stay. When I told her all of that, she fell to the floor bawling, she started saying how she doesn't deserve to live, she told me I should just kill her right now because she's too terrible to be with anyone. It went on like that for a while, I stayed for a total of four hours listening to her make excuses, then try to hug me or cuddle me, or even blow me if I would just stay and work through this with her. In the end, I called Karen and told her that her cheating friend is suicidal and that she should come keep an eye on her, then I left. It's been almost a full day since that went down and I haven't spoken to her since,

She has been calling and texting me all day, her friends and family have been calling and texting me all day, everyone has a different excuse, or a different plea for empathy. Her father is the only one who wrote me and told me that I need to do what is best for me and that he will always love me like a son no matter what happens. Reading that was what made me have a good cry for the first time since all of this began. I meet with Sharon, my counselor, tomorrow and a lawyer on Thursday. I think I know where this is going, but until it happens I'm just not sure about anything. I'm sorry for the overly long-winded story, it just helps to vent in this way.

Again, I really appreciate all of the comments and messages. The people sharing their own stories like this are really helping me feel less broken and giving me more hope. I sincerely appreciate everything you've all said and done for me.