Reddit Stories - Sibling CONTINUED to boast about her PREVIOUS romance with my SOON-TO-BE spouse during

Episode Date: November 21, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #relationships #family #drama #jealousy #conflictSummary: Sibling continued to boast about her previous romance with my soon-to-be spouse during a family gathering, causing tension and discomfort. The situation escalated as emotions ran high, leading to a heated argument and strained relationships within the family.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, relationships, family, drama, jealousy, conflict, sibling, romance, spouse, family gathering, tension, discomfort, argument, strained relationships, emotions, heated argumentBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. Sibling continued to boast about her previous romance with my soon-to-be spouse during my wedding celebrations, so when he eventually lost his temper and labeled her as fixated and unsettling at the pre-wedding meal, my dad said he wouldn't walk me down the aisle unless we apologized. So, last evening there was an incident at my rehearsal dinner and I'm getting married tomorrow. So, I really need some urgent insight on the situation right now. For context, the guy that I'm 28, female, marrying, my fiancé Jake, 28, male, had a fling with my half-sister Maddie, 26, female, like six years ago. They met on some dating app and went out

on a couple of dates which ultimately ended in nothing. Then about two years later, he met me through friends and we hid it off and we started dating. It was not until later that we found out about his connection with Maddie. But honestly, that was just a few dates and nothing really happened. So, it didn't bother us too much. Besides, I'm not very close to Maddie. I don't see her very often and honestly if it was not for my dad I wouldn't even have a relationship with her. So, it was really not a big deal. But even then I didn't want to invite her to the wedding. However, my dad kind of talked me into it and unfortunately I didn't want to fight with him so I just agreed. And Maddie was invited to the wedding and she's been absolutely insufferable about it.

She was at the engagement party as well and at the pre-wedding events and she keeps milking her past relationship with Jake as if it were actually something very meaningful. She doesn't stop bringing it up whether she's joking about it or not. She's just talking about it constantly. And I thought I would ignore it and she would stop. But after a while it became very clear that she was just trying to belittle me somehow. And this was just trying to belittle me somehow. And this was just how she was trying to put me down by playing up the kind of relationship she shared with Jake. It was annoying for him as well, but I really did not want any drama before my wedding. So I thought that I would let it go together. Both of us had decided that we would not

talk about it and we would just ignore her and hope that she would have some self-respect and stop talking about it because clearly she was not being acknowledged. But then at the rehearsal dinner, she made some stupid joke that I don't even remember about her relationship with Jake and how he used to be back then and he just lost it. He snapped at her and told her that there was a reason he stopped seeing her and she got dumped and that was because she was extremely annoying. And he remembers how she used to be so clingy and obsessive because just after the first two dates she had started talking about marriage and stuff even though both of them were pretty young back then. And not just that, he even brought up how he found her creepy because a few days after their last date,

She had decided to call his mother up even though they had barely even known each other for a few months. And he was obviously not ready to introduce her to his parents. But she took it upon herself and that was why he stopped seeing her because she had overstepped her boundary and even now she was doing the same thing because she just couldn't take the hint. He told her that she reeks of insecurity and so there was something wrong with her and at that point she started crying really loudly and ran out of the room. My dad went after her and it was pretty obvious that he was very upset with both of us. But I think they did what had to be done. After that, we haven't seen her because she's refused to come out of her room in the hotel. And just a couple of hours

ago, my dad asked me and Jake to come to his room and told us that he had decided that since we had upset Maddie, we would have to apologize or else he would not be attending the wedding or walking me down the aisle. I thought that was really unfair and I got into a horrible fight with him, but I really don't want this right now because I'm literally getting married tomorrow. I know that my dad thinks that Jake and I are the bad guys here, but I just don't see it. But I also don't want him to skip the wedding. So I'd offer allowing my fiancé to insult my half-sister at my rehearsal dinner before our wedding. Edit.

Okay. So, I didn't mention a lot of things about my family dynamic in my post because I didn't think it was relevant in the situation, but I'll just give you guys some more contact. So, basically, my parents did not get along well. Well, they were married. They dated in college and they only got married because my mom got pregnant with me and they were under a lot of pressure from their families. From what I know, the pregnancy was very difficult as it is.

And my parents realized that they didn't love each other very much. When I was three years old, my mom cheated on my dad with one of her friends and that was the end of their marriage. She came clean to him and they filed for divorce. They co-parented me until I was an adult. And when I was 15, my grandparents told me everything. When I was one, my dad started dating one of his friends from high school. And soon enough they had Maddie. Even though we were pretty close in age and we were half-sisters, Maddie, and I didn't see each other much because my dad only had me for the weekends and I guess she was jealous of me or something. Anyway, the point is growing up I didn't really have a good relationship

with her. I didn't see much of her and in our adult lives we only have to see each other when it's absolutely unavoidable. But other than that, we don't have a relationship. My mom, unfortunately, passed away a couple of years ago. So, right now, I only have my dad. And regardless of how their marriage was, both of them did their best to raise me. So, I'll always. I'll just have my dad. So, Obviously, I do value my dad a lot in my life. Besides, even when we were younger, he never made me feel like I was less important to him than Maddie. In fact, he has told me several times that he would have loved to have me with him for more than just the weekend. But unfortunately, my mother wouldn't allow that, and she had initially wanted full custody of me, but my dad wasn't fine with that. So, it had already taken them a lot to come to a custody agreement that the two of them could come to terms with. He didn't want to drag it out further. Anyway, the point is, regardless of what's going on with Maddie, I do have a good relationship with my dad otherwise, and I don't want that to be ruined.

Edit 2. Hi. So, I just want to clarify a couple more things. There are a lot of people in the comments bashing my mother for whatever happened. I just want to say I don't think that I have the right to say that she was a perfect human being like everyone else. She had her flaws, but neither was my father perfect. They had their problems. And even though she was the one who had cheated, even my father agrees that he was the one who drove her to it.

He was horrible to her for most of her pregnancy, he ignored her, and he knew the kind of pressure that she was under from her parents because they were kind of conservative and wouldn't tolerate it if she decided to get a divorce. So he took advantage of that and took her for granted. She had her issues. She picked fights with him over the smallest of things and he made it a point to not help out in any of the household chores and stuff and made her do all the work and stayed out until late every day. And it was basically torture for both of them because they were punishing each other. I mean, I'm not saying that cheating was the right solution, but I think the situation was not that easy for her either.

And as for the reason why she decided to file for full custody and wasn't willing to give up more than the rest of the weekend for my father, it was because she was upset with him since he decided to start seeing another woman while they were still in the process of getting divorced. And he was fighting her pretty hard on the amount of alimony and child support he would be paying even though he knew that she hadn't been able to work because she got pregnant right out of college and then she got married. So, she really didn't have anything of her own at that point in time. And since her parents were not supporting her either, she had had to rely on her friends to even pay for the lawyer. So, things were already pretty bad between the two of them. And I'm only saying that things were incredibly messy for the two and

I honestly cannot say who was right and who was wrong or whatever. Update 1. Hey, so it's around 6 o'clock in the evening right now and since last evening, my father and I have not spoken after we've fought about the situation with Maddie. My fiancé and I have had a discussion. We've gone through the comments and stuff and we've talked about it with our friends and everyone thinks we don't owe anybody an apology because Maddie had pretty much been getting on everybody's nerves. Everyone has just been too kind to say anything because they did not want to start any drama. But she was obviously asking for the negative kind of attention and she got it. So now she can't be complaining about the consequences of her own actions. That's just not fair.

Besides, it makes sense for my father to demand that Jake apologized to Maddie. But I don't understand why he thinks that I should apologize. In fact, if anything, she's the one who should be apologizing to me right now because she's the one who created all this drama just because she wanted attention. She also knows for a fact that there was practically nothing to talk about when it comes to her relationship with Jake. They just went out on a couple of dates six years back. Nothing came out of it and that was it. It meant nothing to him. And I'm pretty sure that it meant nothing to her either until she found out that I was marrying this guy. Then all of a sudden, she couldn't stop talking about it. And everything that Jake had said was actually true.

Everyone in his friend's circle knows her as the obsessive girl he went out with. And they had made a whole joke out of it back when it actually happened. Even his mother remembers her, but everybody was kind enough not to bring it up because they did not want to embarrass her. So, I don't understand how when so many allowances had been made for her, she still had the audacity to keep bringing this up just to put me down and be an attention seeker. If my dad cannot see that, then I don't know what to say to him. I don't understand why he thinks that we owe her an apology, but we really don't. So, I'm going to tell him that if he wants to come to the wedding and walk me down the aisle, then he's welcome to do so. And if not, he and Maddie can leave. Obviously, it's not ideal,

but it's my wedding day for God's sake. I'm not going to allow anybody to ruin it with their temper tantrums. Not even my father. It's a big enough deal that I invited Maddie just to be kind because he wanted me to honor the relationship that I had with her as a sister. He was actually even pushing for me to invite his wife, but that was where I drew the line because I knew that my mom wouldn't have liked that. Anyway, the point is because he asked me to, I invited her.

But if he thinks I'm going to let her do whatever she wants and walk all over us, then I'm sorry, but that's just not going to happen. Update 2. Hey, so after I made the post a couple of hours ago, my fiancé and I went over to my dad's room and we told him that if he does not want to attend the wedding and does not want to walk me down the aisle, then he's free to leave with Maddie. But given the current circumstances, neither Jake nor I feel particularly inclined to apologize to her.

and in fact, we would really appreciate it if she left. I told him that I had thought about it and it was very obvious that Maddie had been trying to put me down throughout the time that she had spent here. Everyone had noticed it. It was not just something that I had made up in my own head. So, there was no point in him trying to defend her. All our friends, couple of my cousins, and even my in-laws agreed that Maddie's behavior had been very strange.

and whatever happened at the rehearsal dinner, it was whatever frustration had been building up because of her behavior. So, she can't pretend that it was all our fault. Besides, everything that had been said was true. So, I don't think that we need to apologize for any of that. If she had just kept her mouth shut like a normal guest and being dignified instead of being so much of an attention seeker, then nobody would have had to say anything at all. So, while we could agree that Jake had been very rude, he had his reasons. And neither of us thought that he should apologize. I told my father that I would have really loved for him to be there for my wedding and for him to have walked me down the aisle because now that my mom's not around anymore, he's my only

living parent. So, it would have meant a lot to me. But if he thinks that he does not want to be here, I can't force him. So, he's free to leave. And even though it made me very sad to say that, I still got it all out somehow with as much dignity as I had. After hearing me out, my dad started telling me that he had said all that in the heat of the moment. And it was just because he did not want anybody to hurt his daughters. He sounded very dejected and I felt like he had also thought about everything that had happened and probably had had a change of heart. Once we were done talking, he told both Jake and me that he was the one who was wrong

and that we shouldn't have had to apologize for anything because we didn't start anything last evening. he was just very shocked at all the information that had come out because he had had no idea about any of this. He also said that he had noticed that Maddie had been acting very strangely throughout the whole thing, but he didn't make much of it, which he probably should have. Anyway, I just really made him very upset that Jake spoke to her that way. And he told me that was because his father instinct kicked in. And if anybody had spoken to me that way, he would have reacted the same way. But even then, it was not his place to say anything because he was not fully aware of the situation. And so he wanted to apologize to both of us

and he said he was really sorry for ruining everything before the wedding. In all honesty, I was just glad that he had realized his mistake and I told him that it was not his fault. But the person who had actually ruined the wedding would really want her to leave because I hadn't even wanted her here in the first place. I had only invited her because I had only invited her because of him. And she decided to stir up so much drama out of nothing. The best thing would be for her to leave. And I know that would probably make him upset, but it had to be done. And that's when he told us that he had asked her to leave this morning itself. And that's apparently why he hadn't contacted us throughout the entire day. He had wanted to speak to us and apologize

earlier, but he was just busy dealing with Maddie first. He had spent the entire morning trying to get her to apologize to us because even though he had stood up for her last evening, he realized that in the end it was actually her fault and he had gotten a little too defensive. So he tried to get her to apologize first, but when that did not work and she started fighting with him, he told her that I was just as important to him as she was and he was not going to let her ruin my wedding. So she needed to leave and that led to them fighting for a couple of more hours. So by the time he was done and had seen her off, he was exhausted. Thankfully though, we reached out to him and spoke to him and we were all able to sort things out before the wedding.

Update 3. Hi everyone. So about a week ago, I got married to Jake and it still feels surreal to even say that, but it happened. And luckily, after everything was sorted out, my dad and I had a talk right before the ceremony before he was about to walk me down the aisle, and he apologized for his behavior, and I forgave him. Besides, it was supposed to be the happiest day of my life. I didn't want to think about anything else at that point in time. At the end of the day, what mattered to me the most was that he had realized his mistake and that even though he had had had a knee-jerk reaction, he had tried his best to correct himself afterwards.

I know that a lot of people in the comments said that I was too quick to forgive him. But honestly, I couldn't afford to waste more time mulling over it. Like I had said in the beginning itself, it was an urgent situation. I was getting married the very next day. I couldn't afford to sit around and think about whether I wanted him at my wedding or not. I had already thought about it and I knew that it would be incomplete without my dad. So, I knew for a fact that I wanted him at my wedding and if he was apologizing, then I did not see the harm in forgiving him. And also, let's not forget the fact that even though he took

Maddie's side initially, that was just because that was his instant impulse. And I guess I can't complain because that is his daughter as well. However, later on he did ask her to apologize and when she didn't, he asked her to leave as well. So, I think he was really sorry and was not just saying it for the sake of it. Besides, from what I've heard from him in the past couple of days, it's not like he hasn't had to pay for it. His wife is furious about whatever happened at the wedding. She was already pretty upset because she hadn't been invited and she thought that it was a huge

insult, but I don't really know why she expected to be invited in the first place. Neither she nor her daughter had been very nice to me in the past. They mostly just pretended I didn't exist whenever I would come over. They wouldn't talk to me. They wouldn't even look at me. And it was very obvious that I was not welcome in their house. She claimed that she had opened up her home to me, but it was just the weekends. And I'm pretty sure that she didn't like me staying with them even for weekends.

And if it had been up to her, she would have made my dad give up custody of me altogether. So why would I want a person like that at my wedding? Besides, my mom didn't like her, so that was another reason for me, too. Anyway, she was already pretty upset about not being invited to the wedding. And then when she learned from Maddie that she had been sent back home a day before the wedding because of her behavior, she obviously immediately decided that I was the bad guy here and I was the one turning my father against Maddie. Even on the day of my wedding, she called my dad about 100 times. But because he was busy, he didn't have the time to talk to her.

However, for the past couple of days, ever since he's gone back home, she has really been getting on his very last nerve. And he's been texting me almost every other day, telling me about what's going on. I actually feel really bad for him because all he tried to do was to do the right thing and tell. That did not sit too well with either Maddie or his wife. She has been insisting that I'm the one trying to break their family apart and that I should be apologizing to them right now and that my father really screwed up by sending Maddie home that day because she's very upset with him. And she has told her mom that she's not going to come back

home until her father apologizes to her. And my dad's also a pretty tough nut to crack. He said he defended Maddie against Jake, but that was the most that he could have done because in the situation that had come to exist, she was not right. He told his wife that he was putting his foot down and that if Maddie could not apologize to me for something she was definitely guilty of, trying to put me down at my own wedding and trying to be an attention seeker by constantly bringing up her little fling with Jake and then playing the victim when she got called out for it, that he was completely fine with her not visiting anymore because he was not going to support her if she was wrong. And since then, his wife has either been fighting with him or giving

him the silent treatment, either of the two, hoping that he would crack. But he hasn't yet. The only thing that has happened is that he's extremely annoyed with all of them. And I've told him that he can vent to me if he wants to because I'm pretty sure that he needs it. Otherwise, he'll end up driving himself crazy. Anyway, I just hope they're able to sort things out soon because otherwise this will just become another thing that mother and daughter will blame me for. Update 4. Okay, so it's been three weeks since my last update and a couple of days ago, my dad came over to live with us. He had already been going through a very tough patch with his family just because he had taken my side on something that was actually Maddie's fault.

I had already spoken about how it was being created by his wife and Maddie in my last post and I honestly felt bad for how he was being treated in his own home. So I told him that if at any point he felt like he needed to get away from all of this, Jake and I would be more than happy to have him over. We had discussed it with each other and we had a guest bedroom as well, so it wouldn't be much of a problem for us. Besides this week, we will get some more time to spend with each other and speak about certain things that we hadn't had an opportunity to discuss before this because we were too caught up with the wedding. Now that that was done with, we could talk in a more relaxed way. And he finally decided to take us up on our offer a couple of days ago and has been staying

with us since then. So, we made the most of it and we talked about everything in a way that we hadn't been able to sort things out before. It was mostly just me and him talking. Jake was just there as an observer. Anyway, I won't get all the details of it and bore you guys. I'll just say that a lot of things were laid out and came out into the open and we discussed it.

We talked about it at length. We were quite open with each other and things worked out fine. I think both of us are quite relieved at the end of it. Jake and I are going to leave for our honeymoon next week, but he's going to stay back and it's lucky because this way he gets some much-needed space away from his family. It was probably driving him nuts right now and we don't have to worry about the house either. So, it's a win-win for both of us. But by the time we came back, both of us agreed that it would be better for him to have gone back home

and tried to sort things out with his wife and Maddie. And I really hope that they're able to do so because jokes aside, they've been together for a very long time and I wouldn't want this to end badly. Not just because it's my dad, but just in general as well. It would be pretty sad. Anyway, let's just see how things work out for him. And I'm going to keep my fingers crossed that it all works out for the best. And until then, Jake and I will be holidaying it up.

Update 5. Hi. So, a few days ago, Jake and I came back home. My dad was gone by then, and he had already informed us about it, so he had locked up and everything. After that, he and I didn't really get a chance to talk. for a couple of days because I got busy with my work and he was also busy. But then today we got a call and he told me that he had decided to go for marriage counseling with his wife

because clearly something was going wrong since even though he had come back with the intention of fixing their marriage, they had ended up fighting even worse than the last time. In fact, even the days that he had been spending here trying to give her some space had backfired because she said that she felt ignored and unheard and things were just not very good. And I think that marriage counseling will actually do them a world of good. At least both of them were on the same page about this that they do want to make it work because they've been together for a very long time. And keeping all their personal differences aside, they still love each other and that they agree on. Personally, I think as long as they know they love each other, they will be able

to work it out. And for a while, the whole situation with Maddie, it's been put on the back burner for both of them, and they're just going to try and focus on their marriage and nothing else. I think that's the way it should be. And if Maddie knows what's good for her, she's going to encourage this. I'm just happy that they are going to try and fix their marriage because I want my dad to be happy. And I know that he wants the same for me. And I'm obviously happy. I just hope he is too.