Reddit Stories - Spouse became pregnant three years after I UNDERWENT a PROCEDURE to prevent FERTILITY,

Episode Date: November 6, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #relationships #pregnancy #fertility #family #decisionsSummary: Three years after undergoing a procedure to prevent fertility, my spouse became pregnant. The unexpected news has left us both shocked and unsure about our future plans and decisions regarding our family.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, relationships, pregnancy, fertility, family, decisions, unexpected, news, shocked, unsure, future, plans, familyplanning, lifechanging, surprise, dilemmaBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. Spouse became pregnant three years after I underwent a procedure to prevent fertility, so I underwent examination and learned that I am still unable to conceive. Subsequently, we conducted a genetic test on our child and learned that she was not biologically related to me, either. So I got up and divorced her. We spent two years together in college and got married the fall after we graduated. Spent two years exploring our relationship and finally got to be. got settled down and was ready to raise a family. She got off birth control and her libido took

off but it took three years for us to get pregnant, but we got a beautiful girl finally. After a couple of months, my wife got back on birth control and had a hard time with it. Her doctor switched her med several times but she had bad side effects with each one. We talked about it and were unsure if we wanted another child and since it was easier for me to get a vasectomy reversed later if we decided to have more children I had the operation. That was three years ago and after coming off birth control my wife has felt better and Sags has been worry-free since we can no longer get pregnant. We actually have Sags more now than when we were in college.

Then three weeks ago my wife was late for her period, which isn't that unusual for her. Then I noticed her breasts were a little tender and she started what seemed like signs of morning sickness. Now I know there have been cases of nature reversing the same. so I went to the doctor and had my sperm count checked and the verdict was I'm still sterile, but I didn't tell my wife. My wife finally went to her doctor and confirmed she was pregnant and so she had me go to my doctor to get tested. I didn't go right away because I was literally sick from the stress of the situation. I had all sorts of sick scenarios going through my head, in the end I got retested and I took my daughter in and had a DNA test done. I got both test

results back today and got violently ill after reading them. Yes, I'm sterile, and no, my daughter isn't mine. When my wife got home I showed her my test and she denied any wrongdoing and saying that there was a problem with the test and I showed her the test from last week and she broke down crying. I finally got it out of her who she had slept with and that it only happened once and the condom must have failed. I made her tell me the story three times and each time I asked her if that was the whole truth and if there was anything else that she needed to tell me because another lie would mean we were through. She said that was the only time and she had never done anything like that before. I told her how much this hurt me and asked her how she could do this to our family and if

it was worth it. I asked her if she wanted a divorce and she pleaded with me to forgive her and put this behind us. I said I couldn't raise someone else's child and asked her if she would be willing to terminate the pregnancy in order to stay together. She cried the rest of her. She cried the rest of of the night, but when we went to bed she said she would do whatever it took to save our marriage. I never brought up the DNA test. I will contact a lawyer next week to see what my options are about if I have to pay child support on our first child. If she had come clean about the father of our first child I could have swallowed my pride and tried to work to forgive her, but she thought she was in the clear and didn't need to confess to anything else, no telling

what I'll never know. Edit, my lawyer is awesome, she had me bring in a bunch of paperwork, statements and my medical and DNA results and had me tell her my story. Her assistant sat in with us and took notes while my lawyer went through my documents. After I finished, she asked a few questions and spelled out my options. I live in an at-fault state which is good and bad. Good is in it gives us leverage, bad as it takes longer and much more expensive. In the case of the first child, if my wife agrees to sign the papers my liability for child support is an easy fix, if she doesn't agree then a court-ordered DNA test and a judgment from the court can remove me without my wife's consent. Either way, I will most likely not have to pay child support,

one way is just more expensive than the other. Since my wife has a good job and earns close to what I do she didn't think the judge would award her any alimony. And all of that plus dividing up property and other things can be negotiated before a judge gets involved. The bad news was due to the holidays they couldn't have the papers ready before Christmas but definitely would before the end of the year. She advised me to say nothing until she got served. She gave me a list of things to do before and after Christmas before they served my wife. One thing they did point out was since we were actively trying to have a baby,

there was a possibility that my wife didn't know that the child wasn't mine. My wife has an appointment with her OB tomorrow. Update 1 so I met my sister at my house and we started moving my stuff to her house while the divorce goes through or at least until my STBXW leaves and I get possession of the house. We took four carloads to her house and came back for the rest. My sister felt it important for her to be there for support and as a witness. I also moved the nanny cam into the living room so it could record everything in the cloud. At about 10.45 a.m. I got a text from the lawyer saying she had been served. I sent her an email saying that I am at the house when she is ready to talk. A couple of minutes later I got a text

from my wife saying why. Blah, blah, blah. So I resent the first text and waited for her to get home. She sent several texts and voicemails. They don't mention anything about cheating just how she thought we were working this out and she thought we would sit down and have a conversation before proceeding with the divorce. Playing the family card and how this will devastate the child and our families. How she feels betrayed that was a good one. She was still sharing her location and it took her 20 minutes before she left work. She then stopped at a nearby Walgreens for a few minutes. The purpose of the stop at Walgreens became clear as a police car pulled in behind her in the driveway. According to the officers, she got the police there because she said she was afraid and that

we had guns in the house. I showed the officers my empty gun safe and said that I had removed them to another secure location. We went back to the living room and I showed my wife the paternity test that I had done that showed her daughter was not mine. Her response was denial and disbelief, which appeared genuine. She broke down and cried for about 10 minutes. I told her this was the final straw and why I wanted the divorce. At about that time, the police officers reminded me to keep it civil and made their exit after I told them I was leaving soon to stay at my sister's house. When I asked to the child's father was she claimed she didn't know. I asked if there were that many guys she was sleeping with or did she just not know his name. I asked how many times had she

cheated on me between pregnancies, to which she said it was just the two of them. I told her that I had said earlier if she didn't tell the whole truth that I was done. I reminded her I also told her that I couldn't slash wouldn't raise someone else's child. And that she had better figure out who the real father was because I wasn't paying child support for someone else's baby. She wanted to know what we were going to tell our daughter and I said that was up to her because this was her mess and I wasn't taking the blame or cleaning it up for her. I drafted a couple of emails last week one for our friends and family with copies of all the test results and reasons why I was asking for a divorce.

The other for my wife with copies of the same tests along with what I knew and things that I had told her previously. I had to run it through my lawyer and make a couple of edits before she signed off on it. I sent copies to all our friends and relatives when she pulled into the driveway this afternoon. Most of the feedback has been one-sided and very colorful. In the end, I told her if she had been truthful we might have been able to work things out. But I couldn't trust a lying serial cheater, and I told her if she had gotten her tubes tied instead of me getting a vasectomy she might have got away with it. I told her she needed to get a lawyer so we could move forward and start to heal.

Edit, we had our second meeting with the lawyers today and we signed off on almost everything except the house, still waiting for an appraisal to come back and figure out the split. Motions got filed today and a court-ordered paternity test was scheduled for all three of us. Since STBXW didn't fight me on everything we filed a no-fault divorce petition if everything goes right I get the house back on February 15th and the divorce will be final on April 5th. The lawyers did a better job keeping us separated in the conversation between the two of us to a minimum. I was a little worried when she came in, pale and with no energy to speak of, I couldn't tell if it was lack of sleep or maybe over-medicated. She just stared out the windows as the lawyers read everything to us before we see. signed some of the papers. Walking out felt like I had shed a giant weight from around my neck. HR got me signed up for therapy tomorrow. My boss had put a bottle of champagne on my desk,

offered me some time off if I needed it, but I told him I was excited to get back to work. Edit 2, adding relevant comments related to OOP to make the next update more understandable. Critical Bank 5269, did she disclose any more info about her infidelity child's father's ID? Or is she just running through the motions at this point? O-O-P, she had already told me who the Bio-Dad was but I don't know if I can believe her. Doesn't matter to me at this point. She did say she hasn't reached out to him yet, which makes me think she is deflecting. Not my monkey, not my circus anymore. Equivalent B-A-86, did you know the Bio-Dad? Was he part of your friend group? What happened at the first

meeting with the lawyers. OOP, I think I remember meeting him a time or two, but he was not part of our friends' group. First meeting was just a prelim with my lawyer outlining our terms and what we intended to do if she contested any of our terms. Deleted, how are you doing? Can you update us? OOP, my ex got her share of the equity on the house and has already moved into her new apartment and I moved back into tomorrow.

Court-ordered DNA test came back and the judge has approved the motion. determine my parental rights and obligations. The divorce won't be final till April but for all intents and purposes, I'm free. Only contact I have with my ex's messages through my lawyer or meetings at the lawyer's office with her present. I blocked the ex and some of her family and friends. She has said she wants to sit down and talk at some point but my lawyer said it should wait till after the divorce is final.

I had dinner with AP's wife again as we keep each other up to date on our ex-spouses. I almost feel sorry for him, she got him fired and is determined to drag out the divorce and inflict as much pain as possible. Equivalent B-886, how did she get AP fired? Was AP an employee of the school district? OOP, AP worked for her family's business. She told her dad and uncle who ran the business what he did. She didn't have to ask twice.

They took his laptop, company phone, credit card, and company car. the next morning with no notice. All he got was a cardboard box with his personal stuff and was escorted out. All in about 15 minutes. Equivalent B. 886, you had dinner with her twice. I get the impression that you like her. You could have easily caught up over the phone. Sometimes both BS become support systems for each other. It is not uncommon for both BS to really like each other and for more to develop or am I reading into this two months. OOP, comrades in arms, so to speak. We have been able to fill in the holes of what we know about our spouse's affairs.

And we both have a macab interest in the fate of our exes and their APs. All evidence from both sides points to about six weeks and them meeting up three times. The amount of SEGs is hard to say. Update 2. So throughout and after my divorce I have kept in contact with Sharon, OBS, as we had shared details about our ex's affair and both of us were interested in the consequences our spouses ended up suffering and we provided each other moral support. We talk on the phone and usually have dinner once or twice a month to catch up. Last month, Sharon said that one of her friends was getting

married and had invited her to the wedding. Her ex, Stan, was also invited as he was a friend of the groom. Her invitation had a plus one and she pitched the idea of me going with her. Both as moral support and as a dig at her ex-Stan. It was a weekend event and we would share a room with double beds, strictly platonic. The idea amused me so I agreed. We flew in the day before the wedding and at dinner with several of Sharon's friends, I was introduced as her friend. No mention of our history and the divorce.

We didn't run into Stan until right before the ceremony as they escorted us to the bride's side, while Stan was seated on the groom's side. Needless to say he was less than pleased and kept looking over at us, something Sharon was well aware of. At the reception we were seated with some of Sharon's friends from the night before and we picked up where we left off and everyone was quite engaged. Stan was seated at a table across the room from us but in clear view. We danced quite a bit together and probably drank more than we should. There was a brief confrontation with Stan and Sharon but her friends diffused it quickly and spirited Sharon away. At the hotel after the reception we had drinks with two other couples.

Several comments about Stan shooting daggers at us all night and a few about how cute a couple we made and questions about if we were serious or not. We laughed it off and said we were just friends. I had to support Sharon on the way to the room and had my arm around her, on the cramped elevator ride we were standing quite close. When we got to the room there was a tense moment and we kissed. Good judgment lost out to the alcohol and we ended up sleeping together. Next morning we never spoke much about the elephant in the room as we rushed to catch our flight home. We did run into Stan as we were checking out and he made a snide remark and walked off. Once we were on the plane we talked about what happened, that neither of us were sorry but questioned the wisdom of the timing.

We both agreed we each needed some time to process what happened and agreed to have dinner next week and talk about it then. I know neither of us has tried to date since our divorce, I haven't been in the right headspace to even flirt much less date. I have a session already scheduled with my therapist where I will bring this up. But we did have a great weekend at the wedding. Next story, I'm 15 weeks pregnant and my husband, gets four weeks paid paternity leave but only wants to take one week because he doesn't want to lose money, so I told him I'd rather do everything alone, but then he called himself a deadbeat. Hey everyone, I, 23F, am 15 weeks along, my husband, 25M, and I have just started talking about all of the appointments slash schedules going on until the end of the year, baby due in November. We found out I would not be getting paid maternity leave, but he would be getting paid paternity leave for up to four weeks. I've already started saving up for when I will be out of work for three weeks after the baby, I work from home, and I didn't really think it would be a problem for him to help me out for three weeks.

weeks while I healed, and then let me readjust for a week while I try to transition back to work. His response was that he would be happy to take a week off, but if he needed to he could take two. His reason was that two weeks was $2,000 that he would already be missing out and didn't feel comfortable losing anymore. A few key details before I get into the juicy part we've been together for five years, just got married May 4th. Yes, we had issues before the baby and no, the baby was not planned. I have pre-existing health issues, on top of being diagnosed with hyper-emesis grabaderm that have sent me to the ER four times already. He does new construction plumbing, so he's paid per project, but if you were to be working at the shop on a rainy day

slash low inventory, then he makes $15 an hour. Which he would be getting paid during leave, we already have three ginormous dogs that I take care of 80% of the time on top of all vet visits slash grooming. I feel that these are important tidbits so that you can better understand where I'm coming from. All I could do in response was sit there and cry. It hit me that I would honestly be doing this alone. I had already come to terms that once he went back to work, I wouldn't get much help from him since he does work a job that is Manuel labor, and he already is exhausted without having a baby around. I told him that at this point, I'd rather him just take the day off for the birth than I'd handle the rest. I explained that a week was hardly

anything and if I was expected to be okay with just that, then I'd rather take nothing. I've already been looking around in care and rover to find someone to help with the baby and the dogs. I don't have anyone else but him, since both of our parents work and we don't have any other family near us. I now feel selfish because he got upset by what I said and he said the baby isn't even here yet, and I already feel like a deadbeat. I can't find anything online that says what's if a week is enough or not and now I feel horrible because I can't get past the emotional part of the situation. Someone tell me I'm wrong or something because I don't really know what to think anymore. Edit, a few things I feel like I need to point out since some of you are a bit on the cranky side.

Yes, we use protection, hence, surprise baby, I live in Florida, maternity leave is not mandatory for employers. I could have done FMLA, but because I don't use my employer's insurance, it's not offered to me nor have I paid into it to use it. My main reason for this post was to get a viewpoint of all sides on this matter. It's our first child and we had already discussed to have children later on in life. I never planned to get pregnant, I promised the baby and I are being monitored by my OB and my cardiologist. Update, I got a lot of questions slash comments about having an abortion. and truthfully, it's not for me. I have nothing against abortions, I had already grown an attachment to my baby. I showed my husband the post and comments, it was all truly eye-opening

for us both. We had some really hard conversations and some of the most groundbreaking talks. We both ended up in therapy and in couples therapy. We still have a long way to go, but I feel like I'm living in a dream now. My job ended up paying for six weeks of matured, leave. My husband took two weeks off and his job gave him a baby bonus, on top of the end of year bonus. They were absolutely incredible during the journey. My pregnancy was absolutely horrible. My morning sickness sent me to the hospital seven times. I had two fours weekly, anemia, and pups, in the middle of summer. I ended up on bed rest in October and I had her in November. She had a few complications that we faced and we ended up at a high-risk doctor,

but the stars aligned and all of her issues were resolved by the time she was born. I labored for 36 hours and ended up having a C-section due to her heart rate dropping. Out of everything, that was the moment I was terrified. My C-section was absolutely traumatizing. I remember there were doctors everywhere, asking me questions and asking me if I was feeling anything. Every few minutes after they had given me numbing through my epidural, I kept getting my feeling back. It was horrible feeling them cut and pulling in the burning pain. I swear, as soon as they pulled her out and she started screaming, it was the most peaceful I'd ever felt. The first two weeks with her was everything I had hoped and dreamed.

My husband was incredible and took care of everything. I had never felt so loved in my entire life. He helped me do everything and was amazing at night once. watch. We are now officially seven months in and I swear life couldn't be better. I still work from home and she's with me while I work. She's incredibly smart and we have a great routine together. She has four teeth, she's standing on her own and crawling. We are so close to saying Mama. I never knew I could love someone as much as I do her, and I'm grateful that she's mine. I think regardless, I'd still have made the same decision to keep her.

I know it would have been harder and a lot scarier. I've hated my life for as long as I can remember for one reason or another, but now I feel like I have an actual purpose and she came at the most perfect time. I realize that not all stories are the same and I hope that I don't seem insensitive, but I figured an update is an update, good or bad. If you ended up reading this, which I doubt anyone will. Thank you for the time. It means the world to me less than three.