Reddit Stories - SPOUSE forgot my SPECIAL day and gifted the EARRINGS I've always wanted to

Episode Date: November 24, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #relationships #marriage #gifts #specialday #communicationSummary: My spouse forgot my special day and gifted me the earrings I've always wanted. I felt hurt and unappreciated, wondering if they truly know me. Should I confront them about their forgetfulness and lack of thoughtfulness?Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, relationships, marriage, gifts, specialday, communication, spouse, earrings, forgetfulness, thoughtfulness, hurt, unappreciated, confrontation, emotions, understanding, communicationissues, relationshipadviceBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. Spouse forgot my special day and gifted the earrings I've always wanted to his mother instead, due to a minor disagreement we had. After I decided to end the relationship, he threw a celebration and made a purchase. Me the whole jewelry set. I, 33F, had a really petty fight with my husband a couple of days ago, and two days ago, on my birthday, he didn't even bother to wish me because of it. The thing is, I'm trying to lose weight and get into shape because I have pkos and that's why I keep

these small cups of Greek yogurt at home because everyone knows how useful they are for anyone trying to lose weight. And I have told him many times that he has several other kinds of snacks that he can have whenever he feels hungry but for a couple of months now, he just has my Greek yogurt whenever he feels like and then, when I need it, I hardly have any left. A couple of days ago, after I came back home from work, I planned on having a little snack with yogurt, some honey, and nuts. But when I checked it, there was nothing left and I was sure that I had two cups left over because I had made a mental note to buy some more cups in a few

days. I was already very tired from work, and I was feeling cranky because I was hungry, so I just ended up picking a fight with my husband over this. I told him that it was not cool that he kept doing this, even after I had asked him to be a little more considerate, because I was really trying to get serious about this weight-loss thing and this was just one thing that I was asking of him and he couldn't even bother to care about it. All he had to do was get his own snacks and not touch mine, but he got worked up as well. He told me it was not a big deal and I knew it was a petty thing, but it just blew up into something bigger.

We only stopped arguing when our four-year-old son woke up and we put him back to his nap after dinner, but since then, we haven't spoken. I thought that things would go back to normal the next morning, but they didn't. I made it for a couple of days, thinking that maybe he would fix it, but he didn't. And then, my birthday came and went, and even then he didn't speak to me and that's when I got really hurt. Usually, he makes a big deal of my birthday, invites our friends and family for dinner, and surprises me with some amazing gifts but this year, there was none of that.

I was really disheartened, and I cried myself to sleep that night since he was still sleeping on the couch. The next day, I found out that he had given his mom a gift on my birthday, and apparently, it was the one that I had asked for. That was pretty much the last straw for me, and I decided to confront him after I found out. The gift is this lovely pair of solitaire earrings that I had asked for about two months ago. I had been dropping hints like crazy that I wanted it and I knew that he was going to get it for me. But yesterday, in the morning, when I woke up, I saw a post from my mother-in-law.

And she was wearing those exact pair of earrings and in the caption, she had thanked her son for this random and completely unexpected gift. It really hurt me, and I confronted him about it and that's when we finally spoke to each other after several days of ignoring each other. I was hurt that he had done something like this over a petty little fight that we could have easily solved, but he told me that I had overreacted, and I had the opportunity to apologize, but I didn't do so. So it was crazy of me to expect him to do it, and if I was expecting him to apologize for anything at this point, he was not going to do it because he only did what he thought was right. So we had another fight and then, he decided to walk out.

For the rest of the day, I kept trying to call him. I texted him a thousand times, but he did not respond. I even dropped off our son at my mom's place so I could go look for him personally and I drove to so many places, still calling him and hoping that he would pick up. But he didn't respond and in the evening, when I came back home, I finally gave up trying to contact him and started crying. I passed out on the couch crying and at around one in the morning. he finally came back, but even then, he ignored me. He just walked into the bedroom and shut the door

and then, this morning, he left for work even though I kept trying to talk to him. After he left, I had another crying session and I didn't even know what to do. All I knew was that I was hurt and he didn't seem to care. Neither did he care that our son was not at home, since I had asked my mom to look after him for the night. He just didn't talk to me at all, and I didn't think that was right. so I packed up my stuff after crying and I moved in with my mom as well and then I blocked him everywhere because that's how hurt I am. Then, in the evening, he finally showed up at my mom's house, probably after he realized that nobody was at home. And he started begging me to come back, saying that he was sorry about everything and that he felt guilty about everything but now,

I was the one who needed some time. So I told him that I was not going back home, at least not for a couple of days. And he started guilt-tripping me, saying that I was the one who had started this whole thing, and now the least I could do was try to work things out with him. But I'm not ready, so I sent him away after a lot of fighting and tears. And now, I'm questioning whether I did the right thing or not just now. I just feel confused about everything, and even my mom doesn't have anything helpful to say at the moment. So Ida for sending my husband away and saying I need time before moving back in with him? Update 1, so thank you for all the comments.

I guess I needed some clarity on the whole situation. I think both my husband and I have been acting extremely toxic towards each other and I guess we have some serious talking to do if we want things to work out. And we really do want things to work out. I mean, we have a kid together, and I think it would be for the best if we try to work things out and move past this. I do agree that he has been very insensitive and that whatever we actually started fighting about, it doesn't even matter anymore because it has come to a level where that

whole Greek yogurt thing seems like a small thing. It's been three days since I posted, and for those three days, he has been trying to get in touch with me nonstop. I unblocked him a couple of hours after I posted here because I was feeling seriously guilty about everything that was happening. And I also had no idea what to tell our son, because he kept asking what was going on and even he was very confused. I didn't reply to him for the past couple of days, but I did speak to him today, finally. I called him up this morning, and I told him that if he wanted to sort things out with me then I was open to do so and we could meet for dinner today. I chose a restaurant because I wanted a neutral location. And in an hour, he responded,

and he told me that he would be happy to be there at whatever time I picked. So we got a call, we discussed the timings and in a couple of hours, we are going to be meeting each other. and even though I have been with him for the past seven years of marriage, two years of dating, and five years of marriage, I feel unexpectedly nervous about agreeing to this today. I guess in the past few days, so much has come to the surface that I feel like I'm going out on a first date with him once again. But I'm determined to lay it all out on the table and just have an honest heart-to-heart conversation with him, no matter what. Because I think in the past few years, lots of things have changed and we are no longer the

people that we used to be. In fact, I think we have become one of those stereotypical couples who let the romance fizzle out after a few years of marriage and one kid. And I don't want to be one of those people, because I know marriages like that, maybe they last, but they don't make you happy. Or even worse, sometimes they don't even last at all. So I think both of us have to put in more effort into making each other happy, like we used to before. We can't let our lives get in the way of our marriage anymore and I'm going to make sure that I mention it to him today. I know that has happened recently, it's not nice, but it's definitely not something that we cannot bounce back from. In fact, I know of several couples who have bounced back from worse. I'm just making all

this clear because I know that a lot of people in the comments of my previous post had said that I should end this marriage and just walk away. But I don't think that's the right thing to do. I really do want things to work out, and I just hope that it does. So I'm keeping my fingers crossed. I'm heading out to dinner in an hour, and let's just hope that all goes well now. Update 2, hey, so it's pretty late at night, but a few hours back, I came home from dinner with my husband, and I don't know exactly what to say about it, because a few things are still complicated but overall, I think I got whatever I wanted to say through to him. He was also very respectful of my opinions and how I felt, and he apologized wholeheartedly for behaving the way that he did.

We started off with apologizing to each other, because I think, at this point in time, it doesn't even matter whose fault it originally was. Because if we want things to work out, we can't keep playing the blame game. We are going to have to grow up and start acting like our age, instead of acting like juvenile kids from high school, so that was one thing that we agreed on early in the conversation, and agreed that that would make the rest of the conversation much easier to get through, so that's what we stuck to. The next thing that both of us agreed on was the fact that we had really let our romance fizzle out. We didn't care about our date night, we didn't care about making each other happy, all we cared about was getting through the day and that's not going to work

anymore. So we had a chat about it, and he told me that he thinks the best way to go about it would be to opt for marriage counseling. And I agreed with him, so we decided that we would start looking for couples counselors, and within the next two weeks, we'd try to finalize someone. Then, the next thing that we spoke about was what happened that night and about the gift. I told him that I was really heard about it, and that I couldn't believe that he would do something like this. I told him that he had taken it too far, and something as petty as a fight over Greek yogurt shouldn't have made him act like that. And I told him that I thought that he had overreacted to an insane degree. But at that point, he got kind of defensive, and he even

even though he did admit his fault, I could tell that he had a lot to say that he was refraining from. At that point of time, though, and things were going well, I did not want to pick a fight with him, so I just pretended like I did not notice his change in attitude as soon as we started speaking about this. So that's the part that is still a bit complicated, along with the fact that I told him that I still needed some more time. I couldn't just move back in with him and pretend that everything was okay, especially not right now, when everything was still so fresh. I told him that I believed that taking some time apart would be better for all of us at the moment. But if he wanted to spend time with our son, he was completely welcome to come over after work or

whatever he wanted to do. And he told me that he did not agree with that. He said that he wanted us to come back home the next day itself because he didn't think that taking more time apart was necessary. And he believes that moving back in would make it easier for us to talk, and just sort everything out ASAP now. But I don't feel the same way. I think it's important for us to sort things out within ourselves before we start living together again. And I do think that he has a point, but for now, we have just decided to take a couple of days apart now and come to a decision about what we want to do. So that's what we talked about, we ended the dinner on a good note.

For the most part, we were able to solve our problems, but I think some things are still kind of complicated, like I mentioned at the beginning. Now, we are going to take a few more days apart and see how we feel about everything. Then, hopefully, we are going to move in together again and try to be a happy family once again. For now, I am happy in content with how everything turned out and hopefully, things are only going to get better from this point onwards. Update 3, so it's been a couple of days and today, we are finally planning on going back home. I spoke to my mom about everything that we had discussed over dinner the other day,

and she told me that it was the right thing to do, and I should go back home. after all, I have a son to think of, and spending too much time away probably wouldn't have a good effect on him. He was already very confused about everything that was going on. I did not want to extend that time period of confusion for him, so that's why I made this decision. I spoke to my son about it as well, I told him that we were going back home and he seemed very happy to be spending time with his father once again. My husband did come over a couple of times in the past four days, but he's been busy with work since he has just been assigned a new project, so he hasn't been able to see much of us. Both my son and I are looking forward to living peacefully once again

and in a couple of hours. My husband is going to come over and pick us up since I had taken a cab here. In the past few days, we have been talking to each other a lot, be it over text or on phone calls or whenever he has come over. And I would say that things have pretty much gone back to normal, there is no remaining awkwardness or uneasiness anymore. I'm very grateful for that, because I hadn't expected things to become normal so soon. Even then, I do think that we would do better with counseling, because I think we have only been able to solve the surface level problems. So we are still looking for someone, and as soon as we lock one person, we'll start our sessions. We still haven't spoken about the incident at length, so I don't know if he's still

going to get defensive over it or not and right now, I don't want to bring it up either because things are going well, and I don't want to ruin anything. It's not that I'm scared of bringing it up, I just think that it's done and dusted and I don't want to talk about it anymore. I did ask my mom about it, because I had told her that he seemed very defensive when I brought up the incident and wanted to talk to him about it, and he didn't seem willing to discuss it at all. And she told me that if we are doing fine right now, then there is no need for me to bring it up either and I can just let it go now. So I guess that's what I'll be doing for now.

Anyway, I still have some packing left to do, so I'll get back to that. I'm happy that the situation is finally under control now. Update 4, hey, so I'm finally back home. And today was a big surprise for me, because my husband really went out of his way to make things up to me. We came back home around noon, and after that, I decided to take a nap and so did my son. outside, he was so silent that we didn't even wake up while he was decorating the house. We only woke up around four in the evening, and when we came out, he surprised me and told me that

he had invited a bunch of family and friends over to make it up for the birthday party that was never hosted. Alongside that, this was also a welcome home party, but only my mom and I would know about that. I was very happy, and then, in a couple of hours, the guests started showing up and stuff. We had a really fun time at the party, and during it, he presented me with a really beautiful jewelry set. It included the pair of earrings that I had asked for, along with a necklace that went with it and a bracelet and a ring which were part of the same set. It must have been very expensive, but I literally didn't have any words to say at that point of time, I just teared up and thanked him. That gift in particular meant a lot to me, especially now, since we were

trying to put in more of an effort for each other, and he was going out of his way to do things like this for me. Everyone else seemed touched as well, and after the party, my mother-in-law came up to me and told me that she wanted to speak to me in person. Okay, so here, I feel like I have to clarify something before I go on. I know that my husband had given her my gift, but she was never the one that I was upset with. She and I have actually had a very normal relationship, and she couldn't have known anything about the gift, unless my husband had told her anything, so I didn't have a problem with her accepting it. Now, coming to what happened, she came to me, and she returned the earrings that she had

received to me and told me that her son had told her everything and she just wanted to return it to me because she did not feel comfortable accepting it anymore. She told me that she was really happy that we had decided to work things out, because apparently, two days after the fight, he had visited his mom and told her everything, and that's when she found out about the earrings, and he had been very scared that I might not come back to him and she was glad that I did. At first, I wasn't sure if I should take those earrings back or not, but she insisted and I ended up taking it back

and it was a really sweet moment, and then she left. After everybody had left, and we had put our son to bed, I told my husband that I was really thankful that he had done something like this for me. I also told him that his mom had given the earrings to me, and he told me that he was really happy about that as well. Because ever since he had given away those earrings, he had been feeling super uneasy about it since he knew exactly how much I had wanted them

because I had been dropping hints about it nonstop. And just despite me, he had given it away, but afterwards, he felt really petty and small about it. He had regretted it, so he had gone ahead and bought me the whole set just to make it up to me. But he was still very happy that his mother had tried to fix his mistakes as well. He said that he got really lucky regarding the women in his life. We talked about the party, and then somehow, we started talking about the incident that had led to our fight in the first place. We had a good laugh about the fact that we were literally fighting about Greek yogurt, and he told me that at the end of the day, he was the one acting a little insensitive about the whole thing. And he told me that the way

he had behaved for the next few days, especially on the day of my birthday, it was just not acceptable, and he was very grateful that I had chosen to forgive him instead of holding onto it. So I guess he's not getting defensive about it anymore, and I'm glad that I didn't bring it up with him, because he brought it up himself and the conversation that we had was way better. He acknowledged his mistakes again, so did I end today. We have also been able to finalize the couple's counselor that we will be going ahead with. We are going to speak to her tomorrow and lock the dates of our first session, and hopefully, we will be doing even better than we were. I know there is no conflict as such anymore, but I'm still posting about it because

I didn't talk about the fight to anybody else apart from my mom and I don't want to bring these things up with my friends. But I guess I can talk about it here, and I want to talk about it because I think it's important to know that sometimes, giving your marriage a second chance is just as important as walking away, especially when it comes to things like this, small things that can be solved with a conversation or an apology. Anyway, that's my outlook on the whole situation. Everyone might not agree, but people seem invested in this, so I'm going to keep posting as long as people want me to. Update 5, okay, so a couple of things have taken place and I'm going to save the best for the last. So a couple of days ago, we had the party, and two days ago,

we attended our first marriage counseling session together. It went really well, we were able to talk about a lot of things and I think this was exactly what we needed. Of course, a lot of the things that we spoke about in counseling were things that we had already discussed for ourselves but it didn't hurt to get the opinion of a professional, and I think we did well. We are going for our next session next week, and we are pretty excited for it, because we just found out that I'm pregnant. I was a couple of days late, and I decided to take a test this morning, and that's when we found out. It almost seems like a miracle, because we had been trying on and off for the past few years for another baby. Our first child had been a total surprise, but this one we wanted a plan ahead

for. And even before we got married, my husband and I had always said that we wanted two kids. But for the past couple of years, we had been trying for a few months and then letting it go because it was just not working out. Then, a couple of months ago, I had my PCO's diagnosis and that made me realize why it was proving to be so difficult for me to conceive this time around. We had almost given up hope, and we decided that we were just going to stick to our son and not try for any more kids anymore. But then, this happened today and I don't know, I'm just overjoyed. I don't even know what to say anymore because this is not something that I had been expecting.

It also makes sense why I had been so moody and irritable for the past couple of weeks. I was pregnant and I had no idea. When I told my husband about the test, he was even happier than me, if that was even impossible. He literally started jumping for joy, hugging us all, and there were a lot of tears of joy. Knowing that I'm pregnant, it makes it even more worth it that I decided to give my marriage a chance again, instead of just walking away over something like that. Both of us are really happy that we picked this time to work on our marriage and fix the unsaid and unaddressed problems because by the time our baby comes along, we want to be better partners to each other, so we can be

better parents as well. And of course, it goes without saying that I'm going to be more health conscious now, so I guess my husband will do better if he just stays away from my Greek yogurt for now, ha. Anyway, I'm just really happy and grateful about literally everything at the moment. Update 6. Hi, guys. So it's been close to a year since my last update and in between, I totally forgot to post here at all. I got busy with my pregnancy, counseling, my family, and of course, work. But a couple of months ago, I finally gave birth and this time, I had a daughter. Everyone in the family is super happy. My son is so excited to be a big brother and he takes really good care of his little sister as well. Both my mom and mother-in-law were overjoyed

to become grandparents for a second time, and if I'm being honest, the past few months have been nothing short of blissful. Counseling is going really well and I think both my husband and I have become better partners to each other, the way we used to be in the beginning, after we started attending these sessions and I'm really grateful for it. We got our spark back, and we are not taking each other for granted anymore, and we're definitely putting an effort to keep the romance alive, even after two kids. We have also decided that the first pair of earrings, the one that my mother-in-law had returned to us, is going to be kept aside for our daughter so she can have it when she's old enough. I think it's going to be the most befitting thing to do, and we're also going to

have a very funny story to tell her about the earrings as well. Anyway, I just logged in to post this, and now I had better get back to my family. Thank you to everyone who kept reading and was invested in my life, but I don't think that there are going to be any more updates for a while now, so thank you all.