Reddit Stories - Spouse was UNFAITHFUL and wealthy RELATIVES RIDICULED me, claiming they would overpower me

Episode Date: February 6, 2026

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #infidelity #wealthyrelatives #ridicule #overpower #betrayal  Summary: A person shares their experience of dealing with a spouse's infidelity and the subsequent ridicule from wealthy relatives. They felt belittled and threatened by their relatives' claims of overpowering them, which added emotional distress to an already painful situation. The struggle for dignity and respect is highlighted.  Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, infidelity, betrayal, familydrama, emotionalabuse, wealth, relationships, support, healing, selfworth, empowerment, personalstory, adversity, overcoming, lifechallenges, storytellingBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6816713/support.This episode includes AI-generated content.

Episode with two stories, first part. I hope you enjoy this story. Spouse was unfaithful and wealthy relatives ridiculed me, claiming they would overpower me in legal proceedings. However, I had the final chuckle when they were imprisoned after I discovered crucial proof. I, 24F, got married to David, 25M, not his real name, a year ago after being in a relationship for two years. We met through my cousin, who went to college with him and became good friends with David. He and I come from very, very different families and I still don't know how we managed to stay together for so long when we're so different ourselves. For context, my parents are both realtors and I've had a normal childhood.

I also have a sister who's three years younger than me so I wasn't spoiled either. We weren't too rich but we weren't exactly poor, somewhere in the middle. It wasn't the same for David who was born with a silver spoon in his mouth. He was the only child of his father, Sean, 50 M. and since Sean was a business tycoon, David was a totally spoiled brat. His mother Naomi, 48F, was a socialite and didn't do much apart from attending parties and going on shopping sprees, mostly because she didn't need to do anything else. They were literally straight out of a novel and not in a good way.

My in-laws were rich and arrogant in the worst possible way and they didn't even try to make me feel comfortable when I first met them. In hindsight, it feels weird that I didn't think their behavior was odd, but I I was so in love with David that I didn't even care how his parents were. Neither did I care about the fact that they demanded that I live with them once we got married. I just agreed to all their terms and conditions because I wanted to marry David and I assumed that so did he. He was my first serious boyfriend and before him. I'd only ever had short flings with either men who weren't serious about me or men whom I didn't care for much.

David was sweet, charming, and seemed like the perfect guy while we were dating so I didn't think there was anything wrong with moving in with my in-laws once we got married. To be fair, they lived in a literal mansion and I believed that we'd have our personal space in spite of the living arrangement. His parents had also been quite civil to me before we got hitched, and that was yet another reason for me not to question things. After I said yes to his proposal and agreed to their arrangement, it was my in-laws who seemed thrilled and covered the cost of the entire wedding even though my parents had said that they wouldn't mind splitting the cost. My family and I actually thought that they really liked me and we even discussed at length how they were being so kind to me.

We had no idea what was to come, especially with regards to David who had never been anything but perfect in my head. David and I ended the lease on our rented apartment a week before our wedding and moved in with his parents soon after the wedding. The first few days were nice enough, but gradually things began to change for the worse and it was so slow in the initial days that I barely even noticed it. Both Sean and Naomi had started becoming a lot colder toward the me and weren't as civil in their way of speaking as they used to be earlier. They'd ignore my existence if it suited them and then if they were feeling mean, they'd make snide comments about me and my family.

David told me not to mind it initially and said that once we'd had a baby, it would cement my place in the family and my in-laws would turn over a new leaf, but I wasn't ready to have kids and wanted to wait it out. That led to a few arguments and fights between us after which he started growing distant from me and wouldn't spend as much time with me as he would earlier. This was just the first three months of our marriage and they'd already started showing their true colors, but I still stupidly kept hoping that things would get better eventually. After a couple of months passed, the pressure to have a baby began to build from all sides

and I began to seriously consider moving back home but every time I'd say that to David, he'd tell me that he loved me and couldn't bear to live without me. It became a vicious cycle and I was just so exhausted that I even fell behind at work. I'd already said no to taking the lead on a few big projects that had been offered to me, and let others manage those because I wasn't sure if I'd be able to handle the pressure from my in-laws and at work altogether. I was in a very dark place at the time and didn't even have the energy to fight for myself when it came to David and his parents and their constant nagging and jives. I kind of gave up and took it all without complaint because I didn't feel brave enough to say a word

and looking back. It sucks that I let things get so bad in the first place at all. I could have left him, but I loved him and every time I'd want to leave. He'd play the I love you and can't live without you, which just made it impossible for me to leave. I was already feeling weak and that just made me feel worse about even thinking of leaving when my husband insisted that he loved me so much. I was trapped, so to speak. This went on for a while and would have probably gone on for longer had I not discovered David's affair. About three weeks ago, I was reading in bed and David had gone on a jog. He'd left his phone on the bed, but after a while, I heard buzzing from another source which seemed weird. I checked the phone that was on his bed and that wasn't buzzing,

so I looked all over the room and located another phone in his laptop bag. I'd never seen that phone before and neither did I know anyone by the name of Jessica and it took me a few seconds to try and process what I was witnessing. I kept the phone with me and tried to unlock it with no luck so I decided to wait for David to come back home. When he came back home, we talked for a while and then he went to sleep. After he fell asleep, I used his face to unlock the phone and went through the only messages he had on this phone, the ones with Jessica.

Their texts were all pretty explicit and it was obvious that he was having an affair with this lady. They'd made several plans to meet and had gone through with those plans as well, from the looks of it. The texts went back to almost four months, after we'd just been together a little over half a year. The recent texts weren't very flirty or cute though and were mostly Jessica demanding an explanation for something that had happened and insisting that

he either leave me or he get the job done that he'd promised. David had been ignoring her for the most part and that's probably why she'd called that day. While reading the texts, I recorded it all with my phone and even took screenshots and sent them to my email address for good measure. Then I cried myself to sleep as silently as I could because the realization that David had been cheating on me for the past four months had finally hit me and I couldn't hold it together anymore. I cried the entire night away, but by the next morning, I was ready to confront David about what I'd found. I expected him to deny it or try to get me to forgive him, but he did none of those things to my surprise. He owned it and told me very

confidently that he had cheated on me with an employee and everyone in the family knew about it as well. Apparently, he'd meant to tell me about it, but he thought that it would get in the way of having a child and he didn't want that right now because his parents were hounding him to have a baby so they'd have an heir for the company at the earliest. That was pretty much my only purpose as a member of their family, to present them with a kids so they'd have someone to take over the business eventually and that's why he'd married me so early. According to him and my in-laws, these were my prime years and I'd have to have a baby soon.

It was already bad enough that I came from such a financially weak background. The least I could do for them was give them a healthy child at the right time. He even had the audacity to tell me that he was getting stressed out because of my refusal to have a baby and the pressure that his parents had put him under, which is why he'd had an affair and he'd been honest with his family about it, so there was no need for me to get so mad since his parents didn't mind. Jessica was just his stress relief, but at the end of the day, I was the one he loved and I was his wife so I didn't have to worry.

After saying all that rubbish to me, he left for work that day without even waiting for a reply because he thought this was totally normal behavior. I packed my stuff upright after he left and snuck out of the house to go back to my parents, place where I told them everything once I got there. They had no idea how my life was at my in-laws place because I'd never told them out of fear that there'd be a ton of drama if I did tell them the truth about how I was being treated by my husband and in-laws. After I found out about the affair, I realized there was no point in holding back anymore and spilled everything. My parents were very supportive and instantly put me in touch with one of their friends who

happened to have a son, a divorce attorney. I told David that I needed some time to think and that I'd be living with my parents for a while and he bought it. In the meantime, I worked out the divorce papers with my lawyer and within three days, he'd been served. He didn't see it coming because I hadn't mentioned anything about divorce even after I'd learned about the affair so he was definitely taken aback the day he was served and came right over to my parents' house. He thought that he could argue his way back into my life, but in my head, our relationship was over and I'd accepted that so his arguments were all pointless. He went back home disappointed that I wasn't staying with him despite his cheating, which just goes to show that he really did think of me as nothing but a huge

pushover who could be bossed around all the time and I'd stay nevertheless. The day after that, I received a call from my in-laws and Naomi told me that I'd pay for what I'd done to her son because he'd apparently been miserable once he realized I wasn't coming back. She told me that I'd made her son cry and that's why. They'd make sure that I was absolutely destroyed in court. I told them I could handle it and then block them but that was just all talk. I knew they were rich and influential people, so picking a fight with them wasn't exactly in my best interests. After contemplating for a couple of days, I decided to take a leap of faith and get in touch with Jessica. I remembered that they hadn't been on good terms in the recent past

judging by their texts and I hoped that she'd be willing to help me out. After a lot of stalking, I found out that Jessica was actually an employee where David worked. Sean was the founder and CEO of the company and David was the C-O of the same company. Jessica worked under David, which I found out from their website. Once I found her social media account, I decided to text her and ask her to meet me because I didn't think these things were appropriate to be discussed in the text. She agreed and we met at a nearby cafe about a week ago. She was a couple of years older than us, very attractive, and single so it was no big

surprise that David had chosen her to have an affair with. She apologized to me for wrecking my home but also said that it was not personal and the only reason she'd gotten involved with David was because he was the one who initiated the affair and had promised her a huge promotion and raise if she agreed. So for her, it was mostly greed and ambition that allowed her to forget that David was a married man and continued the affair with him, and for David, it was just a stress buster. She told me that she'd continued to work even after the affair ended about a month ago because the promotion that she'd been promised ended up going to some other employee who also happened to be a woman, which had led her to believe that she was probably not the only person that David was involved with in the office.

She'd been trying to get back at David by texting him on his secret phone that he usually hid from me by keeping it turned off along with his laptop, but on the day that I'd found out, he'd probably forgotten to do so. Jessica confessed to me that she'd been trying to blackmail him into promoting her or else she'd come out with the truth and end our marriage, so he could either leave me himself or she'd arrange it for him. Unfortunately, the threats had no effect on him because some were deep down. Both of them knew that he had way too much influence and wasn't going to be intimidated by an ordinary employee. She'd be the one jeopardizing her future career if she spoke up and that's why she'd had to

continue working in silence despite knowing what she did because she was scared she'd lose her job if she said anything against him. Me texting her had given her some hope and that's why she'd agreed to meet me, so we could at least come up with some idea about what to do next. I explained my side of the story to her and then, we decided that for now, her best bet would be to file a report with the police to make sure this goes on his record and get in touch with the other female employees

of the office so we could find out if he was involved with any of them or not. After about four days, she told me that she'd spoken to most of the female employees that she worked with and the majority of them said that they had been offered such deals by David where he'd hinted at promotions if they agreed to his terms. A lot of them had turned him down but another woman, the one who had been promoted, told us that she'd had an affair with not only David but also Sean, and when she'd heard that Jessica was about to receive the promotion over her, she'd dropped by at their house to confront them in person. I wasn't at home at the time and had been away with a few of my friends so I hadn't witnessed

this incident personally, but she told me that when she'd confronted the two men, Naomi had actually physically attacked her and slapped her senselessly. She'd pinned her down to the floor with Sean's help while David yelled at that. them to stop but didn't actually do anything to stop them physically. They'd hurt her pretty badly and she went home with scratches and bruises all over because of how vicious Naomi had been while screaming at her like crazy and accusing her of being an immoral homewrecker. Once she got home, she called David and told him that she was going to complain to the cops but he pacified her and told her that he'd make sure she got the promotion she deserved

as long as she kept the affairs quiet. So in exchange for that, she agreed but even now, Sean had continued to verbally abuse her and treat her like crap when no other employees were around. She'd stayed quiet for the same reason as Jessica because she knew how powerful these people were and she didn't want to invite trouble for herself for no reason. In addition to that, she also didn't have any proof of the attack itself so she couldn't come out and accuse Naomi because she knew they'd destroy her. When she said that, I finally remembered something I'd done ages ago, back when David and I had started fighting over when to have a baby. When nobody was at home, not even the housekeeper, I'd had CCTV cameras with recorders installed in every room of the

house because I'm a generally paranoid person and things were so bad at the time that I'd started considering divorce but hadn't left. I'd installed the cameras so I'd have proof of the kind of mistreatment I was going through for the divorce to make it easier but then I'd forgotten about it because things were so bad. When I was told that she didn't go to the police because she had no proof of the attack, I decided to finally log into the system and check out the footage from the date she'd mentioned and luckily, the cameras had captured every single thing. It was horrifying to watch Naomi attack her while Sean helped her out and my husband just stood by, doing the bare minimum but not actually bothering to physically intervene. I knew they were horrible people but this

was way too much for even me to stomach and even talking about this right now makes me feel so uncomfortable. Once I found the footage, I forwarded it to the two women and told them to go report everything to the cops which they did. And a few days ago, my husband and in-laws were all arrested for the things they'd done and I couldn't have been happier about it. It was David's lawyer who called me and told me about it because apparently, David had said that he wanted to speak to me. They were all being detained in prison until the trial started, but I had no intention of going to visit him. When I told his lawyer that I wasn't interested in seeing him again, the man literally lashed out at me and called me all sorts of degrading names. It wasn't surprising, but I was a

because David and his lawyer were actually childhood friends, but for him to take things so personally was a little surprising for me. He accused me of using and manipulating David's co-workers so that it would be easier for me to get what I wanted in the divorce settlement, which made me just as bad as him, if not more, since even I was using people for my own gain. I didn't know what to say to him, so I just hung up without arguing, but now that I think of it, it kind of does make sense. After all, I did push Jessica, the other woman, and God knows how many other employees into something that would definitely affect their future and their careers all because I didn't want my divorce to go awry and I was too scared to go up against my in-laws

all by myself. I keep trying to convince myself that everything will work out fine for everyone involved but I don't know that for sure and so if things don't go well for Jessica and the others, that'll be my fault and I'll never be able to forgive myself for it. On the other hand, I also don't think it's a bad thing that they're in jail right now because they're all pretty messed up people and don't deserve to roam around freely because there's no telling whose life they might ruin next. I could talk about this to my friends and family but they'd side with me. And that's why I've turned to Reddit for an honest and unbiased verdict. I'd offer pushing my husband's employees to report him so that I have more leverage over him to work with for our

upcoming divorce settlement. Update 1, I didn't expect this post to blow up the way it did and the support had been overwhelming. So I've had to take my time to process things. I'm also going through a divorce right now so things have been pretty messy. I have, however, been going through the comments and the messages that you guys have sent and I'm really thankful for your kind words. It makes it a lot easier for me to deal with my current life right now. I don't know how long this process is going to take because right now, we're still in the early stages of negotiations for the settlement and alimony but I'm hopeful that things will get easier and better slowly but surely. There's also the ongoing trial regarding David where quite a few

ex-employees have also come out and spoken up against him. It's pretty scary that these things happened and I had no clue about it at all. My cousin who introduced me to him heard about this in the local news and reached out to me to apologize for even introducing me to such a horrible man and an even worse family. Jessica had been keeping me updated on the trial and it's not looking too good for them at the moment. They might be looking at anywhere from three years to even five or more. It's crazy how David, in spite of the situation he he's in, has still managed to get on my last nerve during the negotiations. They're conducted online because I refuse to go out there to see him in person. He doesn't deserve that and he always

makes it a point to tell me that he loved me and I ruined his life. Like, no, you ruined your own life by cheating on your wife and being a creep. That's not my fault. It's tough right now, but I'm trying to go with the flow. Update 2, it's final. The judge ruled that David and his parents were going to jail for three years. He was able to wiggle out of a more strict punishment because at least the relationships were consensual even though it was still basically exploitation of his employees. He's also going to have to pay a huge sum to all the women who spoke up and testified against him and that's definitely going to affect his bank balance significantly. I don't know how that's going to affect my settlement in alimony but I guess I'll find out soon enough.

For now, I'm happy that he's going to face the punishment for whatever he put these women through. He totally deserves this and much worse, if I'm being honest. Update 3, hi, everyone, so I'm back after a long time and I guess people have been wondering what happened to me. Things have been better ever since my divorce was finalized about six weeks ago. David and his parents had to sell off all their assets to be able to pay off and compensate their victims. I also received the amount I'd asked for in the settlement and the alimony is going to be paid in installments over the next couple of years. I'm not sure if he'll be able to pay off the entire amount, though, judging by the state of their company. Their stocks had been plummeting steadily ever since the news of their arrest broke and they haven't managed to recover since even though their board of directors have put other people in charge to replace David and Sean.

It's quite possible that they might go bankrupt and shut down which would be sad for the other employees, but they can always find other jobs where they don't have to work for creeps like these. I hope their company gets shut down and they go bankrupt, to be honest. Yeah, I won't get my alimony but it'll be totally worth it still. For now, I'm just focusing on rebuilding my own career and life. I'm going to therapy, to the gym and just trying to live my life the way I'd wanted to before David came along and ruined it all. Forward slash forward slash. That's the end of the first story. Let's begin the second one.

I hope you enjoy this story. Spouse has been unfaithful with her buddy, so I decided to take drastic action. My partner, age 29, whom I've been married to for seven years, had betrayed my trust with a close companion. In mid-July, I discovered text messages back and forth between them after getting suspicious and finally checking her phone. The texts I read were from a day after D-Day about how good their intimacy was, I love you, and even discussing a mild fight we had where she recounted things I said and they both laughed about it. I tried to explain that we may be entering a new stage of marriage where we are comfortable and complacent, it might feel a little boring but maybe that's just how things get once you're married for more than a few years. But she is convinced that is wrong and we've drifted apart, despite spending our days together full of good conversation, good sex, etc. She doesn't know that I know. I've talked to a lawyer and have divorced papers in the works.

Note this is the second time she did this. The first time she cheated when we were dating. We had a six-month split, Worked things out, got back together and later married. On the rare occasions we talk about her past infidelity I've told her if she ever does it again, we're done. We've been fine for six years with no problems. About a year ago she began getting a little colder and wouldn't accept my affection. Things like she didn't hug me back at all.

I guess this distance culminated in her affair. Fast forward to today, I've known for three weeks and have been waiting for paperwork before confronting her. At first she was clearly not interested in me, but this week she seems to be feeling more guilty about her actions, and a little more interested in me. She has been trying to do what she can to make up for her actions in her own way, all without us never talking about it, like washing dishes, cleaning, cooking, all while refusing any help, it's like she is punished. In my mind she has completely betrayed me and I can no longer trust her. She has caused me such pain and cannot possibly love me if she is able to do all that. Financially we have been okay but struggled a bit because she doesn't want to work. She is finally working for a year but it's a minute wage part-time job and barely covers

her bills. I feel like I have to pull all the weight and she is not really my equal. At the same time I still care about her, value the life we built, and will worry about what will happen to her, I think she could easily fall into a deep depression. There is really only one way forward and that is divorce, but I am worried about how she will take it and it will be hard to resist taking her back, I almost wish she would happily leave with her new person. I know I have to divorce her, but not looking forward to the heartbreak, loneliness, and whatever else I can't even predict, how do I do this? Update, three days until I go

scorched earth. All the PPL doing remind me in three days. I realized it may not be three days, my lawyer will be giving me the paperwork in three days, but I have to read over it carefully and make sure it's right, so it may be longer. Sorry, but she will get burned eventually. I posted last week that I found out about my wife cheating and haven't confronted her yet. I want to get everything set up and ready before I do, in an effort to do so I was able to download a complete text message as log of her conversation with AP, Holy Jesus, she is way more fucked up than I thought.

So I originally thought she began cheating in July but nope, not only did her affair begin in May, but from March to May she had another affair, this one involving unprotected intimacy with a heroin addict. So the grand total of cheating is four dudes now, onto the current AP. First she established his support by lying to him about our relationship, she told him I insult her and I mean, which is not true at all, this gave him justification. So he began manipulating her, telling her she deserves better, that I'm a much. a piece of shit, I'm a child, all kinds of stuff. He actually fancied himself a relationship coach, he would listen to her complaints about me and tell her how I would respond or the reason

I did that, the person she is cheating with, telling her how to handle her relationship, WTF, the things she was mad about, I had no idea they bothered her, she never told me, remember, he has never met me, yet he thinks he can predict all my behavior. This guy prides himself on his control over others. He bragged about it. He thinks he's some relationship guru. It's ridiculous. He is a church minister. He bragged about how he helps a teen group get closer to God. In one instance he bragged how he helped a teenager break up with his GF, and then did a good job consoling the GF because she was then suicidal. So she has fallen for this good guy act, total manipulation, hook line, and sinker. He refers to her living with me as prison, and calls me the ass, while I am the one

who hugs her, who pays her bills, who happily greets her when she gets home from work, who values her above all others. I do have to come clean, I value self-improvement very much and believe PPL should always be striving to improve, but she has not improved at all over the last 10 years. She is overweight, dropped out of college, working a min-wage part-time job. Years ago I tried to get her to improve, asked her to go to the gym with me, do a sport, anything, but she refused. She was unemployed for four years while I paid her student loan an alarmingly high credit debt. I asked her to find a job every week. She never did. I asked her to go to school. I'd pay. She can study anything she wants. She never went. After a few years of requesting her to work on herself, I slowly

got frustrated to where I began criticizing her for her lack of effort. Sometimes I was so frustrated with that I was mean about it. This was very wrong of me. I stopped all my criticizing a few years ago, before her affairs began. She truly loved me even when I was still, meanly criticizing, yet now that I'm not, she didn't love me. My criticizing didn't come from a place of hate, I believe that a marriage is partnership that should be equal, that she should be my equal. I wanted to help her gain equality in our relationship, but she didn't want it. I think we are supposed to be able to lean on each other for support, yet she leaned on me only, now that I'm in school and need some support. She has completely fallen apart which manifests in a fair

and resentment, all without addressing her issues with me, she has a prop. With me, she brings it to AP and he tells her what I will probably say, she told her mom about her affair and tried to say how bad I was to her, but she didn't believe my wife, my wife got angry that her mom wasn't on her side, complained about it to AP who quickly took her side and rationalized her mom's stance, my wife is looking for someone to agree with her, to justify the awful thing she's done to me. She feels shame and hides it by convincing herself how terrible a person I am. She has very little emotional intelligence and barely pays attention to me, can't read me at all, yet she is an open book to me. Her mental image of me is

not at all who I really am. She is stuck on the person I used to be, but I've changed a lot over the last few years, but she never noticed. She won't leave me because she knows she has it super cush with me. She told AP if she leaves me she has nothing. I am a busy student so I don't have tons of time to give her attention like I used to, I think this is what triggered the cheating, if anything else challenges her as a priority for me, she goes wildly unstable, so here we are today, I've read all her shit, she still has no idea I am aware of her despicable ways, I have divorced papers coming Wednesday and counting the minutes until I can blow up her world, I was going to try to do things nicely, but now after reading it all I want

to go scorched earth. I want her to really understand the depth of her horrible behavior, I posted last. Weak I was not looking forward to it, but now I am, I can't wait to read her texts with AP back to her and show her just how fucked up it is, I can't wait to point out all the obvious manipulation AP has done with her, I am looking for support for my situation and possible solutions to a dilemma, we have a dog that she is obsessed with like a child and will fight tooth and nail for. But neither of us has money to fight it over in court, so how can I keep my dog without incurring

30k in court. Slash lawyer fees, yes, she is crazy enough to do that over the dog. I am thinking I can somehow serve her papers and leave with my stuff and the dog same day before she gets the papers. Problem there is that I live at school, which I need to be back for in September. There is a lot more to this, but the texting with AP is like literally 100 pages so this is very condensed, update in the home stretch. I guess I got ahead of myself with that three-day countdown.

The papers took a lot longer than I was told, well now I have them and all the pieces are starting to fall into place. I am planning to have her served a week from today, but as we all know, things may not play out exactly as planned. My soon-to-be ex-wife still has no idea that I discovered her cheating over a month ago and have been planning for our separation. I have been living with her and acting like nothing is wrong for this whole time, and she is completely oblivious, it has actually been difficult to not catch her, I have seen her texting him. and would have caught her 15 times over at this point. She never even changed her password, and she still talks about him like he is just a friend of hers. It can be hard to keep my cool when she is talking about him, but I do what I have to do. Sometimes I feel like secretly plotting against her to pull the rug out from under her is wrong, not wrong to do to her. But immoral for me to do something like this, regardless of who is on. The receiving end, some days it is difficult to hide that I am angry with her about what she did, some days it feels like some weird dream I am living in, we had a big fight about our relationship, in which I was

able to call her out on lots of her poor choices without giving up the fact that I know about everything, I told her she didn't love me and that I haven't been important to her for a long time. That was a week ago and I have been using that big fight as a cover, so now if I am angry or cold, she thinks it is because of that big fight we had, I was the only thing holding our relationship together, and now that I know about her infidelity I have no reason to put in any effort. As a result, our relationship has drastically fallen apart. I explained all this to her and it seems she realized it was true, since that fight she seems to have chosen me over her affair partner. This is obviously not how it should be. She chose me when we got married.

So there should not even be a choice to be made here. She has been putting more effort into showing me attention and communicating. She wants to make things work, but from my perspective, way too little, way too late, there is nothing she can do to change the situation she put us in, she made her bed now she has to lie in it, this infidelity began because her position as the absolute center of my life was challenged. Her large amount of attention from me, from which she derives happiness, was challenged, so she sought the attention elsewhere, rather than communicating with me, what I find truly hilarious is that the men she has chosen to have affairs with don't treat her as number one either. One guy regularly

ignored her for weeks, the other guy has an ex-wife and child that he even told her would always be his priority, he's even been seen around town with other girls, remember that this guy is a youth pastor also, so she is not even number two to this guy, even though they tell. Each other how special, their relationship is, he even told her he plans on moving to co-parent his kid with his ex, but none of that matters to her, how is she okay with that, but can't handle me focusing on school, so here is the update as of today, as a response to our big fight, she decided she will be staying with her parents for a few weeks to clear her head. This makes things way easier for me. I don't have to worry about her refusing to leave or attacking me or any other

crazy things. She may do. She already has plans to come back. Little does she know I have arranged for her to get divorce papers served the day after she gets to her parents, so I have a week to go, and it can't be over soon enough, as much as I want it to be over. It means this is also the last week I will do. It really sucks. We are super attached, but I have no hope of keeping him. There are some special circumstances that I don't want to explain, but it's basically impossible for me to keep him. I'm going to miss him a lot, update, blindsided her with papers, I did it, she got blindsided and completely devastated by the news. I discovered my wife's multiple affairs over a month ago, but I didn't confront her. Instead, I carefully and secretly planned out how to remove her from my

life with as few problems for me as possible, I have been acting totally normal for the last month, being cheerful, buying her things, having conversations, etc. It has been a long month, I wanted to call her. Out so badly, it was on the tip of my tongue, but I never did because it would make things difficult for me, so I hit the gym, lawyered up, got papers drafted, collected over 450 pages of explicit messaging, set up a new debit account ready to transfer funds, and convinced her to take some time. at her parents' house, everything, and I mean everything went to plan. I even predicted the exact reaction her and family would have. I froze her credit card with my name and transferred half our money. To the new debit account as soon as I heard the papers were delivered,

she left yesterday with her mom, I just gave her a hug and said, take care of yourself, she said, okay, this morning a process server arrived at her parents' home and delivered the papers. She had no idea I knew what she was doing. Her parents claimed they had no idea about anything. She got completely blindsided and was apparently hysterical. I say hysterical because, get this, I still haven't talked to her, yep, her mom. Called me and I had to explain the situation to her, just higher level details though, even in a situation like this, her mom is trying to solve the problems for her. It's absolutely ridiculous.

I can't even discuss my personal relationship with my wife privately. This is a 29-year-old woman, who is letting her mom mediate and talk on her behalf, although I did have a good relationship with my mill. And she did push my wife to work on our marriage, I find this so beyond idiotic of them both. I handled everything with tact, kept my composure, and didn't let my emotions do the talking. I had to really bite my lip though,

my mill, in discussing getting her wife's things, was using language that implied I was responsible for getting her stuff back to her, suggested I packed the stuff, rent a car, and drive the four hours to deliver it. The stuff in question is mostly t-shirts and lotion bottles. So I told her it is not my responsibility. She comes back with if you respect me so much like.

You say, you would do me the favor. Oh man, not only is she getting way too far into our business, but she is going to try to manipulate me. I just said that has nothing to do with this, and I could say the same thing to you. Please don't attempt to manipulate me again. I'm already giving you lots of respect here by keeping a lot of issues off the table I can decide to bring it to court and prove infidelity.

Costing us both a lot of money, I can claim theft of our dog, I can give evidence to. Her APs, employer which will get him fired from his youth pastor position, and others, I'm trying to make this as affordable and simple as possible, she backed down and will be picking up the stuff, now I have to wait for them to make a move, I'm guessing they are trying to hire a lawyer and refute the dog ownership, which is the biggest fighting point, yet oddly not brought up. Her mom is probably comforting her and telling her that her multiple illicit affairs are okay, that dragging her. Husband through the mud, talking shit about him whatever chance she gets even while still coming home at night and expecting love and affection,

is all okay. Someone in another thread mentioned she might have borderline personality disorder based on some stuff she said, I think she does. Is it odd that they are so worried about such insignificant belongings right now? Yes, is it odd my wife is not handling this with me, yes. Should I refuse to deal with her mom? Maybe, is my wife mentally? Unstable. Yes, so, do I let them come get her stuff? I don't really want to deal with that. I hate all of this. I am being straightforward and honest with them, and they are trying to pull some shit on me. I hate that I might have to resort to twisting their arm. I hate that I have always been a meal ticket for my wife and just the sucker paying her bills to her parents. I hate that I can't even discuss this

with her civilly and rationally like adult. I hate that her mom lied to me about not knowing her. Daughter had affairs, I hate that they are so confused by my actions, I hate that I instinctively think of her and want to ask her what kind she wants when I see ice cream at the store, but most of all I hate how even now I am the bad guy to them. Update, two years after divorce. I noticed a few messages asking how everything eventually turned out with my situation, in a nutshell, good, it was a cleaner.

break, absolutely zero communication, no issues whatsoever, she moved on, I moved on, that's it, was essentially a very expensive breakup, the single one thing that sucks is I had to give up my dog, but looks like he is still living happily with her. After the divorce I graduated, got a job, and moved, she moved to her parents' guest bedroom, and never moved out, she got a low-wage job, and hasn't done a thing since, she is dating someone, that's all I know because she has me blocked even though I've never said a thing, I dated a couple of girls, found one that was extremely special and showed me love I didn't know existed, then I proceeded to lose her. So I'm single and doing extremely well with dating, literally every single woman I met. Has been leagues better

than my ex-wife, but would like to be back with my recent G.F. Love again, such as Life, got a great job, doing very well financially, while she is 30-something living with her retired parents, so I guess I came out on top and relatively enscathed.