Reddit Stories - Spouse was UNFAITHFUL with COWORKERS, so I claimed all her POSSESSIONS. In existence,

Episode Date: January 28, 2026

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #infidelity #divorce #relationships #betrayal #possessions  Summary: A spouse discovers their partner's unfaithfulness with coworkers, leading to a tumultuous emotional response. In retaliation, they claim all shared possessions, igniting a debate about fairness and morality in relationships. The situation raises questions about trust, ownership, and the consequences of betrayal in intimate partnerships.  Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, infidelity, divorce, relationships, betrayal, possessions, emotionalresponse, trustissues, coworkeraffair, relationshipadvice, moralquestions, consequences, retaliation, partnership, heartbreak, personalstoriesBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6816713/support.This episode includes AI-generated content.

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we should always be ready for the finest and the most terrible. It's uncertain and startling. How one moment can put your life together or make your life fall apart, as it did in mine. I, 36M, married my best friend's sister ten years ago, and in addition to that, we dated a other for four years, but I have known her since we were like five. You can call us childhood sweethearts. Our dating days were very sweet and bitter because our relationship almost broke my friendship with Jacob, her brother, I'll call her Candace, 33 F, she was not just my girlfriend but my childhood crush and the only woman I ever laid eyes on.

On top of that, I considered her my soulmate until she willingly decided to break that sole contract of ours which ruined my life and our daughters as well. Our marriage life was going smoothly and we never fell out of love, she always took care of my needs, and I did the same with her, she is a great mother, and we have a six-year-old daughter together. She is always very nice to everyone and has a very sympathetic nature, which made me rethink my thoughts before doubting her for something obscene like this. I am a lawyer and always occupied with different cases, which pushes me to spend more time with my case files in my chamber and less time with my wife, but I always make sure to be. be there for her, to make everything special, and to make her feel the same way as she did back ten years ago on the day. I proposed to her if she wanted to marry me and she immediately said yes. Candice works as an assistant manager in my brother's company, and she is always present and

attentive in her work, but that has never stopped her from being a good wife or mother. Since the day she got promoted to an assistant manager position in a different branch, things had been very rough, with regular arguments, she had been coming home later than usual, and I thought it was because she was adjusting to a different branch with different people, but my doubt and fear escalated the day. She came home very drunk, dropped off by her friend because she was unable to walk. I already tucked our daughter in the bed and took Candace to our room. I was changing her clothes when something caught my eye, I saw two huge hickies on her back and one on her shoulder. Something inside my stomach turned up and down, and I felt the anxiety creep in and lots of other

thoughts of how and why. I kept my composure, relaxed my mind, and let myself not overthink and doubt her. I headed towards the living room and started preparing myself for tomorrow's case, but my mind was still revolving around those hickies and how she got them. After all that thinking, to confront her the next day before she left for work. Her cold and irritated behavior was already bothering me, and all these little details were the cherry on top. I never knew our marriage would turn bitter after ten years of sweetness. And maybe it was just a phase. I went inside our bedroom, and her phone was continuously buzzing every second. My mind was questioning who could be texting her, so I went to the desk and tried checking her phone. In our ten years of marriage,

Candice never had a lock on her phone, and this time her phone was locked. My thoughts again started haunting me, and I was thinking about our lives, our daughter, and everything we shared. I put the phone back on the desk and went outside to get ready for today's case. I went inside the kitchen and started preparing breakfast for Candace and our daughter. I placed the dishes on the table and suddenly felt someone hugging me from behind. I turned around and saw Candace smiling and hugging me. I hugged her back and felt relaxed, but there was another thing that caught my mind.

She always wore rose and vanilla mix perfume, and today she smelled like men's perfume, and her hair reeked of smoke as if she were smoking. All these little details made me not hug her back. She sat in front of me at the dining table, all smiley faces, and she was in a very cheerful mood, but I was not happy, so, I asked her the reason behind her happiness. She told me she was happy because I made her breakfast. I couldn't stop myself from asking where she was last night. So I eventually did, the smile on her face faded.

She apologized and told me that she forgot to inform me about the welcome party in her new office, where she was forcing herself not to drink but eventually ended up drinking a lot. She looked frightened and suspicious. I asked her where she got all those hickies on her back and when she started putting locks on her phone. She stood up, put her hand on her head, and started grabbing her hair like a maniac. I ran towards her and tried to stop her. She was screaming and crying at the top of her lungs. I got scared by her behavior.

She said I was not seeing her efforts she had been putting in her work and doubting her for effing someone. Follow the adventures of Sir Duncan the Toll and his unlikely squire, egg, as they travel across the realm, battling to make a name for themselves. in the exciting new Game of Thrones series and Night of the Seven Kingdoms on Now. Starring Peter Caffee and Dexter Saul Ansel and based on the novellas by George Orr or Martin. Stream it weekly. Enjoy this and more for only $4.99 a month

for six months with Now. 18 plus new Now Entertainment Cinema Boost Customers only six month minimum term. Standard pricing after six months. Further terms apply. She called me insensitive that I didn't care to ask about the marks and just made my assumption that it was a hicky. She said it was a cigarette burn. and she got in the club. I guess anyone at my place would have done the same thing. Before I could say it,

she stopped me by telling me that her phone password was my birth date and because of office files in her phone she had to put a lock. After all the screaming and shouting, I went to work. During my work, I couldn't stop thinking of different possibilities, and I wanted to talk to my brother James about it, but our marriage privacy was another thing that would make Candace more upset, so I just tried to forget it. I don't know I found Candace's behavior very suspicious. I went back home, and our little daughter Lily was playing with her toys. In the bedroom, I heard Candace giggling and talking to someone, she was not laughing in a fun way but more in a flirty way. I headed towards the room and overheard her saying, how red is it? What was she talking about? Giggling, as soon as I

opened the door, she immediately hung up the call and gave a fake laugh. She got her. She got I got scared. I asked her to whom she was talking while pretending to be searching for something. She shrugged off by saying it was just a friend and left the room. Nope, it wasn't just a friend. There was indeed something going on with the way she was acting and gaslighting me into thinking differently. That evening, she was wearing a backless top, and her hickie was visible to me. It was very dark and red, and it was not a burn. I know I love her, but I can't act like a fool in love and let her pull she-tie under my nose. I can't stop myself from suspecting her.

Update 1. It's been three weeks since my last update. It was pretty hard for me to do anything after seeing those hickies or whatever she called it. Let me tell you guys my instinct was right and I was not overthinking. Candace continued with her shady activities so one day I decided to stay up and check her phone after she went to sleep. That evening I was doing my work in the living room, and she was on her phone for two straight hours, looking worried while texting someone. I didn't ask because she was only going to lie straight to my face. After an hour, she was inside our bedroom, sleeping peacefully. And let me tell you guys, we haven't had sex for a month now.

Even on days I tried initiating it, she told me she was tired, but I never let it be the reason for the argument. As I was about to reach for the phone, it started buzzing, and it was an unknown number, calling her. I took the phone out outside the room and answered the call. There was a woman on the other end screaming something, which almost made me throw up. The woman was screaming in saying that she finally found her number, and if she did not stop F. King her husband, she would tell everyone in the office and make her jobless. As soon as she finished her sentence, I told her I was her husband and there might be some misunderstanding. The woman, whose name is Jenny, was the wife of Matthew, who works in the same office as Candace.

She gave me her address and asked me to meet her, as there was something she wanted me to know. Let me tell you guys that the worst thing to experience in life is getting stabbed by the person who took an oath to be there for you for the rest of your life. All this while, I was praying and wishing that all my assumptions turn out to be false. I loved her and I didn't want to think that on days she refused to sleep with me, it was because she was sleeping with her colleague. The next day I went to meet Jenny. She was pregnant and younger than me and Candice, which made me feel bad for her.

She was eight months pregnant. She told me that her husband was cheating on her with Candace. Her eyes were teary, and for some reason, I couldn't cry and felt the only emotion, which was anger. It felt sad and a very cruel thing to do to your pregnant wife, and my wife was a part of it. She opened the tab, and it had obscene images of Matthew and Candace, not just pictures, but a video of them having sex. Jenny had got those videos from Matthew's phone last evening and they had a confrontation. That was the reason Jenny was worried in texting someone last evening.

I felt the taste of bile in my mouth and cried my heart out. I asked her to send me all those pictures and promised her that Candace would suffer for wrecking her house. She told me that she was going to file for divorce, but I intentionally asked her to wait a few days so she could enjoy the disaster as well. After leaving Jenny's house, I drove off to my brother's place. He has two kids and has always been a great advisor in my life. I drank a lot while sitting next to him until I passed out. After two hours, I woke up with a throbbing pain in my head, and my brother was sitting on the sofa, rubbing my feet. After having a warm cup of espresso, he started asking me different questions, and I understood none. I gave him my phone and asked him to open the gallery and see what's inside.

He looked disgusted and immediately put the phone on the table. I told him about everything, and there he interrupted me and gave me more information that she had been cheating before the promotion. In her previous team, Matthew was her team leader, and there could be a way she did that for promotion. One thing about Candace that I forgot to mention is her greed. She was never a gold digger and earned her own money and always bought her stuff, but she was greedy for fame and position, and I was not surprised if that was the case. James was the owner of the company, but he always worked from home because his wife Rose was half paralyzed, and that's another story. Anyway, he's a great brother and husband. I asked him why didn't he tell me all this. He said he was investigating

into the matter and didn't want to take any action basis the rumors. He didn't have any evidence to prove his point so remained shut. I drove off home and had already practiced acting normal like nothing had happened before. As I went in, Lily came running towards me, and I held her in my arms, giggling. Candace walked towards me, kissed my lips and told me happily that she made my favorite lasagna. I felt like throwing up after the dinner. Well, it was hard to eat with her, and I wanted to put an end to this as soon as possible. She is evil, a narcissist, and one hell of a gaslighter. I was going inside my office, but Candace hugged me from behind. I turned my face towards her. She was wearing her red satin slip dress. She used to look beautiful,

but today she looked so disgusting to me that it was hard for me to look at her. She asked me whether I picked up that call last night, to which I immediately said no. She again asked me and told me I could tell the truth and she wouldn't be mad, but I was not a fool, and I disagreed again and kissed her lips. I was following her path of lying and gaslighting the situation. She pushed me onto the bed and whispered in my ear that Lily had slept. I asked her if she was feeling tired as usual. She looked at me in disbelief and refused.

I tried resisting, but I gave in. I did it also to humiliate her later. It's going to hit her hard after she will know that I already knew about the SHTS she pulled and how afking disgusting she is. It was the most thrilling sex we ever had, and I wasn't guilty about how it was going to make her feel. She was using me for emotions, so this time I used her. After she fell asleep, I took out my arm from my arm from my arm. under her head, left the room, and headed towards my office. I had three missed calls from James. I called him back, and he asked me to meet him tomorrow, as it was something he couldn't tell

me on the phone. I went inside Lily's room and looked at her. I felt so bad, and it made me so angry at Candice that I felt like killing Candice. How could she steal her own daughter's childhood and our happiness? I'm just not able to sleep thinking about what is stored for me next. I will make another update after I get done with everything. Update 2. It took a while for me to update you guys, as I was busy making my wife jobless. And the divorce status, so instead of updating regularly, I thought of doing it after sorting out everything. So, in the morning, I drove off to James, and he was in the company's office. James showed me something on the computer.

There were pictures of Candace with different men and one of them was from our school, Richard. who was her team leader. As I said, James was investigating the matter and he found that Candace was hooking up not only with Matthew but others too. The employees had confessed to James that Candice was a very easy woman, and she used to go to the club with them. She had sex with Richard because he promised to promote her to assistant manager, which he did, and she did the same with Matthew.

James recorded the conversation for the jury of the company, as the company here has strict no dating rules and many employees are going to get jobless, along with Candace. Candice was beautiful. She was always attractive and knew how to take advantage of that. James sent an email to the different branch where Matthew and Candice were working or F. King. Half of the time I didn't know what to do and just sat there hopelessly. As soon as the branch received the email, Candice started calling me. I picked up the call and she asked me to come home immediately. I told James and headed towards home.

I went inside and saw Candace crying. She hugged me and started crying. I didn't hug her back. She looked at me and said she lost her job because of something. I asked her the reason and started making up some stories. I pushed her back and asked her to stop lying or if she wanted me to play her video of Fking her colleagues on the TV. She looked at me in disbelief, and I told her that I got her. to know about everything from Jenny. She looked at me for a moment and started gaslighting me again,

saying that I was never there and always busy with work, so she couldn't resist. Lily came inside, and Candace was going to take her, but that's when I stopped her from showing fake concerns about us. I told her that I had already filed for divorce and that was the reason she had been fired from her job. I will have custody of our daughter and take care of her needs. I am a lawyer, so it was easier for me to get things done. She started sobbing and crying and begging me if she could do anything to fix this. It made me so angry, and I asked her how she could fix anything when she felt no remorse for what happened. I asked James to take Lily to his place so she wouldn't have to witness such things. I felt sorry for my little girl. When she was

born, I was happy about her future, and she was blessed with two parents, being raised by a single parent. I never wanted my daughter to go through the same in her life. I asked Candice if she wanted to tell her brother, Jacob, my best friend, about this, and she got so scared. I gave her the divorce paper and asked her to sign it and put an end to this. As she was going to sign, a pleasant surprise came to her. My mother, her parents, and her brother came, and it was his idea to humiliate her for what she did. The house was named after my daughter, so Candace had nothing except her own money or savings. Her parents loved me, and they were disappointed and disgusted by her actions. Jacob told her that the reason he was against us marrying was because he knew she could ruin me

and the family, and she proved him right. After all, her brother knew her well, my mother loved her as her daughter, and there she also wiped her tears and consoled her. I read the divorce papers and told Candace that she could come and visit and was also allowed to stay with Lily in this house. And I would never take Lily from her. Before this, I had already shown her pictures to Jacob, but not the obscene ones, and to be honest, I have no respect for her. I would have forgiven her if it were a one-time thing but doing something wrong is one thing, and being proud and continuing it again is another thing, and she chose to destroy it all alone. There were times when I was indeed busy and didn't take her out or spend time with her, but I did my best and I

learned from it. When I tried giving her time, I guess I was late. I never saw her narcissistic side because I was blind, but I cannot forget those two hickies. Anyhow, whatever happened can't be undone, and I do miss the old her. My mother asked me if I wanted to stay with her for a while, and I told her that I wouldn't and I would be living here, but from now on she will stay with me. Candice's parents scolded her and said many cruel words to her. They were very respectful writers and doctors, and she put dirt on their names and fame. Jenny, on the other hand, also got divorced and went to a different city to live with her parents. After the divorce things were pretty difficult to handle, but the satisfaction of making her jobless remained constant

in my heart after seeing the aftermath of things happened. It was hard for Lily, but then she loved spending time with her grandmother, playing and coloring and sometimes she was all sad because obviously, the kiddo misses her mother, and as for Candace she got her new profound freedom to go and meet different guys regularly. She visits Lily on daily basis and we never saw each other because whenever she came I was already in my office and from the window I saw Matthew dropping her off for a week and after that bit was someone else. It was not just friends, she gave them proper kisses after coming out of the car. Was she always like that? I was too blind to see, and honestly, guys, I dodged a bullet,

but after 14 years of togetherness, I am still shocked, and if it were not for the lack of communication, I would have never known. It's been a month now, and I am busy with my cases and all. We did see each other after all in greet, and I feel empty and sad and on depression and anxiety medication. She is doing better than ever, with no remorse or anything, but from time to time she gets humiliated, which satisfies me a lot, but in the end, I would like to say that she was a lesson for me to learn, and I was just there to let people see the real Candace behind the mask. Her parents hate her, and she is not getting jobs and just humiliations for mutual friends, but she is still very proud and continuously doing what she does, but apart from the rest, I only want the best for my daughter, a happy childhood and a great future filled with love. That's the end of the first story. Let's begin the second one.

I hope you enjoy this story. I possess a contingency strategy. Prior to my partner committing to our relationship, he was aware of this. Now that we are engaged, he is requesting that I eliminate it. Not doing it and I don't understand why I should. I have always had a backup plan. My backup plan includes a place to live, money for general expenses and a rainy day fund. It's more complicated than that, but that the gist of it, I like having it and I have explained to previous partners that I have won and I let me them decide if they're okay with it. My fiancé knew this before he started dating me exclusively. He knew that if we ever got I would request.

a prenuptial agreement and a request that this backup plan stays intact. A couple days ago, he told me he wasn't okay with this plan any longer. I don't think that's fair that he comes from a wealthy family and the prenuptial agreement protects him and I should have something that protects me. I'm actually finding myself really angry about this because I was an open book about this every step of the way and now I feel like Hess changed his mind. He says that having this plan makes it seem like I will leave him while I think it protects me. I'm annoyed because it's not fair to me to change your mind when you knew my expectations from

the very beginning. Eddett I put this post up because I was annoyed that he essentially told me this on Friday minutes before our meeting with the lawyers. I was and am annoyed, but he follows my Reddit account so throw away. I don't tell every person about this plan, only ones that I've gotten serious with, which is a grand total of two. The backup plan is complicated, but it doesn't screw him over in any way, it protects me and I would be paying for the property and still contributing the same amount that he would be to our household expenses and savings. Now that he knows what the plan entails in depth, he wants to just not sign anything on both sides. This is a bad idea, I would be unprotected, but so would he, and he is way more than I do.

He feels like I have one foot out the door. I don't. I love him but my dad is a divorce lawyer and from what I've heard and seen, better to protect yourself and not need it than no protection and then have to pick up the pieces. Both of our parents agree that a prenuptial is needed. I'm not getting rid of this plan. There is not anything that would make me compromise about this. I told him he has a decision to make because I'm not changing my mind. Yes, I told him about this post as more people have seen it, rather, he finds out about it from me than someone else or just being on Reddit. Update October 1st 18, 2022, I have a backup plan.

Before my BF started dating me seriously, he knew this. Now that he is my fiancé, he wants me to get rid of it. I am making an update because I had people keep messaging me asking about it. I had to split it into two parts. It won't let me post as one. When I made the first post, I was angry because I felt like I had been deceived. I was honest with my fiancé from the start and I felt like he had pulled the over my eyes. But I understand his perspective now and he understands mine. It never crossed

our minds to break up and I think we both needed some time to think. I understand this is Reddit but please don't bash my partner. I understand I was vague but to call him names and try to tear down his character when you don't know him is not okay. I also don't know why I'm clarifying things. It's honestly a little therapeutic. To clarify some things about my backup plan I called it that because I started it at 25. I have had it for about 10 years now. I'm in my mid-30s. It is an emergency savings account, another savings account, and a property I own. I use my main job to pay for my household expenses with my fiancé and also to fill my main savings. I have a trust but also investments as well but my dad helps me handle those. The emergency savings is only money

from additional contract jobs I take on in my profession. The other savings account is a is only money from rental income, some of which I used to maintain the property and pay my dad back. The property is a multifamily home and I rent out all the units but one. The property was bought by my dad when I was 24 and I had been paying him back the purchase price with no interest for a couple of years now. The property is worth a great amount now, but my dad would only accept what he paid for it for me. He took out a loan for me because he wanted me to be set up financially. In paying him back even though he already paid the loan off a long time ago, there's no way I would be able to buy that property now, or even five years ago since house prices have skyrocketed where I live

and I'm grateful that my dad did that for me. I will finally pay off the loan in about eight months and before I get married. It's taken me so long to pay my dad back because he insisted that I prioritize setting myself up financially rather than paying him back. The property is also a 15 minutes walk to the nearest hospital and close to the city center so it is easy to rent out to medical students. I keep one unit open because of events. I make a killing when there are events or when big artists tour and two examples are the recent Beyonce and Taylor Swift tours where I made a lot on the days they were in my city. If there are no events where I think I can make a good amount, I rent it out to travel nurses in three four month periods once or twice a year but realistically,

there could be a couple weeks or two, three continuous months during the year where it sits empty. Although, I make a substantial amount from this property, I can't take credit for this strategy because my dad is the one who helped me set up the apartments and manage it. My partner and I come from vastly different economic backgrounds, his family has generational wealth and he can't remember a time they didn't. I grew up firmly middle class until my parents divorce and then it was a struggle for a while. His home life was relatively stable with a mom and dad. On the other hand, my dad tried his best, but my birth mom made my childhood tumultuous both emotionally and mentally. The difference with how we think about money became very noticeable when we were planning our wedding.

We had been discussing what type of flowers we would like and then I started talking about the budget and stated that I thought 30 to 40K was good overall to pay for a wedding and an amount where we could easily afford it. He thought I meant 30 to 40K for flowers and he and his parents didn't budget the amount and just said okay. I clarified what I meant and I was. would never ever pay that amount for just flowers. When it comes to the plan, my fiancé knew about it as soon as we were exclusive. I don't agree with people saying I shouldn't have told him. To protect my assets and the prenuptial agreement, I had to. I also told him because I felt he deserved to know. As we got more serious, especially with marriage, I told him more after

talking to my dad and finding out what was okay to say so that he understood the extent of the plan. The reason I kept saying the backup plan was complicated was due to the pre-nupt my dad came up with. It is very long and protects me very well and my fiancé was, in his view, not prepared for the extent of it. My dad and I went to this extent due to what he had seen people do in divorces, but also mainly due to his divorce that affected us both. It didn't help that I further joked that my dad tried to cover for any loopholes, including asking his associates to look over the document and revising it if one was found. What I saw as protection, my fiancé saw as me having an out since my dad went to such an extent.

The short part of it is that my fiancé was insecure about it. He grew up with a dad as the breadwinner and he was raised with this idea that he should be a provider and my plan rattled him because it showed him that financially I didn't really need him. He told me he didn't. Realize how much of himself he had tied into this provider role and felt extremely insecure because he didn't know what he now brought to the relationship. When he found out about the sometimes empty unit, he felt more uneasy because he, even though I have and will always have a job, wanted and planned to take care of me,

his idea of scrapping both prenups was his way of trying to say that he trusted me and that I should trust him. If he was willing to go without a prenupt knowing I could get a substantial amount of his assets, then it would show me that he would never try to hurt me financially or otherwise. I told him I saw it at the time as extremely manipulative due to him doing it before we met with the lawyers and he apologized because he honestly just panicked. Update October 2nd 18, 2023, I have a backup plan. Before my BF started dating me seriously, he knew this. Now that he is my fiancé, he wants me to get rid of it. I explained the reasons I wanted

a pre-nup. The first was because I was with him when his brother got a divorce and to put it nicely, the brother's ex-wife financially got eviscerated. I'm not going to talk about their relationship, but financially, she just kept being taken back to court over and over until she said she couldn't afford a lawyer anymore. From the way his brother bragged about it, she wasn't left destitute, but she paid a significant amount in legal fees and left with a far smaller settlement. His family would have bankrupted her because they had the wealth to wait her out. They could have gone to court forever and they had a pre-nup. His brother's divorce was never on his radar as a reason why I was so persistent about the pre-nup. Boschley what I said was there was a

disparity in wealth here and I know he would never do this to me but I would feel better protected with one. The second reason is that though my dad is a divorce lawyer and upper middle class now, he went through a pretty bad divorce with my birth mom and I witnessed it for three years, my dad is first generation, married young and had no pre-nup. What I saw from 912 was my birth mom I no longer consider her a parent. Completely tried to annihilate my dad and she didn't care that her child's well-being was on the line. She didn't care what financial damage she did even to herself as long as my dad suffered. I'm talking wiping out savings, taking loans, and maxing out credit cards, getting tickets and getting the car towed by parking in an incorrect place and leaving

the car to accumulate fees. She called CPS, said my dad was a pedophile, and turned on me when I wouldn't back up her lives and all of this financially devastated my dad for years during and after the divorce. We were struggling for years and I think people don't realize how quickly you can go from stable, even upper class to nearly homeless or homeless. People don't realize if you have never been in that post-ion before how an ugly divorce not only devastates people financially but also socially and professionally. My dad lost clients and lost income and it took many years to rebuild it back. We only survived because my grandmother dad sighed, sold her home. I told my fiancé that I Boschali went from having a parent who showed me love for nine years to a person who hated me

and decided to destroy two people my dad and me, because a marriage ended. A way to stop her and a pre-up could have stopped a lot of the financial damage. I again told him I knew he wouldn't do this to me, but I needed him to understand where I was coming from. Also, if anyone reading this says him damaged from this and should have been in therapy from age nine, I know, but it's hard to pay for therapy when you're poor. It is the last priority over having a roof over your head and food and basic necessitates. I did get into therapy when I was 19. My fiancé and I talked over several days and any time he had a question or needed clarification, I answered it. I didn't realize how much seeing the extensive pre-nup affected him and he didn't realize why I was so insistent on it. Overall,

he knows that though I love and trust him, that I have to protect myself and he should too. He knows insistent on signing a pre-nup, but also knows that I'm choosing to be with him based on who he is as a person and not what he can provide for me. I now understand why he felt insecure and I have tried to alleviate that and am constantly reassuring him of the reasons in with him. I also asked him to come see the property and unit with me and he was really excited about that. I told him that I don't plan on us breaking up ever and I have a plan for leaving the assets to our future children. Finally, I really see how. When it comes to people he loves, he leads with emotion while I'm more logical so we both are going to try to be more mindful of that as we move forward.

We both finally signed the pre-ups and his only stipulation was to stop calling mine a backup plan and instead call it I'm never going to need this plan. We are good, and I'm glad this happened because it showed both of us that we need to work on our communication more outside of our counseling. We are going to keep planning our wedding and I'm excited to begin this next part of our lives to do. together.