Reddit Stories - The SIBLING'S spouse solely focuses on her BIOLOGICAL child and NEGLECTS the three

Episode Date: November 11, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #relationships #familydrama #parenting #neglect #siblingsSummary: The SIBLING'S spouse prioritizes their BIOLOGICAL child, neglecting the other three children in the family dynamic, causing tension and resentment.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, relationships, familydrama, parenting, neglect, siblings, biologicalchild, familyissues, stepfamily, favoritism, communication, conflictresolution, emotionalwellbeing, resentment, tension, siblingrivalryBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. The sibling spouse solely focuses on her biological child and neglects the three children from his prior union. Thus she became upset when I began accompanying them on holiday getaways and demanded I bring her spoiled daughter too. So long story short, I, 35F, live and work abroad but am from the Midwest. I grew up with my brother Jason, 43M, and our parents, 70s. We were working class, had what we needed but not well off by any means. When I was in high school Jason married Tiffany, who is and was and will always be a mess of a person, heavy drinker, partier, God knows whatever else, but she was hot and my brother is a dwee to put it nicely.

They had Jace, 19M, Jeff, 17M, and Hannah, 12F. Their marriage broke down before Hannah was born, they tried working it out but ultimately got divorced. Jason started to dating Jenny, 43F, while splitting custody of the kids with Tiffany, 50 to 50. Since Tiff had been a psalm she received child support and alimony, and my brother worked a lot. I liked Jenny at first, she wasn't a complete smoke show like Tiff, but she was kind, had a good job, and was well educated. I thought, much better match. At first, I know Jenny was upset that the kids didn't immediately love her and call her mom when they were there, and the divorce was hard on them. Got pregnant somewhat fast with Daisy, 10F, and they got married. Around this time,

the older kids started refusing to go back to Tiffs. She was always drinking and having guys around, so all three moved in full time with Jason and Jenny and Tiff left town and is no longer in the kids' lives. I tried being understanding, I'm sure having a newborn and then three older kids full time is difficult. But Jenny completely changed. She stopped working, but declared she was only a psalm to her kid. Jason was working 70-plus hours to make ends meet and her parents were helping them out, but she controls the finances. This means that the three of them, Jason, Jenny, and Daisy, operate as a family unit, going to dinners, events, even vacations and leaving the older three kids at home. I have always thought this was disgusting and voiced my

opinion about it, but Jason just said his divorce broke him emotionally and he will do anything possible to keep Jenny happy so that their marriage works out. Gross, yes. And ten years ago to be frank I was younger, broker, and dumber so it was kind of more like, yes, my brother fucking sucks as a dad, but I live on another continent and all I can do is be supportive of the kids. I know, not a great attitude in retrospect and I'm disappointed in myself. I really did my best when they refused to pay for Jason to learn how to drive. Even though Jenny refused to drive the kids anywhere, my mom taught him and I bought him a used car. We had to shame Jason to put him on his insurance, and he makes Jason pay for it. Same with Jeff, they share the car and use it for their

activities in Hannes. My wife, an only child and we don't want children, have the three of them as our sole beneficiaries in our will, something we did when we found out that Jenny and Jason planned to leave them only the bare minimum amount, everything goes to Daisy. Also, after we got married my wife, six years ago, and I decided that we would start taking the older kids on annual trips with us when we went to the U.S. Nothing fancy, we might be child-free, but we're not billionaires or anything, just well off. But things like a week in Florida, Utah, California, things like that. They're very outdoors a kid so they've had a blast every year, and we plan it when my brother takes Jenny and Daisy on trips, so they don't care. Normally we vacation in the summer,

but Jason got an internship this summer so we decided to move our trip to the fall and are going to Maine, leaves. I let Jason know the dates. They're in line with their fall breaks, no worries, and he basically said we need to start including Daisy. Jenny's parents made some bad investments. They're fine but aren't helping them out anymore and Jenny is looking for a job, but since her parents had always paid for their trips they can't go on one this year. So, even if all was fair, I wouldn't want to take Daisy on a trip. This is going to shock you with parents like that and I feel so bad saying this about a child but Daisy is a huge brat, spoiled, mean, and constantly bragging about the things she gets that her siblings don't.

She once told me they weren't her siblings, they were Tiffany's kids. She throws toddler-level tantrums on holidays if she doesn't get as much and more as the other kids, tells my wife and I we are going to hell, edit, I now feel bad for including this. She said it about five years ago a few times and when Jenny was told it was about the only time I've ever seen her disciplined Daisy. I guess she'd heard it from Jenny's aunt. But it was hurtful and hard to forget with everything else, and since Jenny waits on her hand and foot she's a total slop. I feel bad saying all this, I hope when she grows up she grows out of it. But there is no way I'd want to take her on a vacation. So I told him I didn't think we'd be able to handle all four kids and we'd just go the

five of us. He said Jenny could come to help out, absolutely not, or our mom could go, love her, but she's getting a freaking hip replacement next month and does not want to go. Plus the car we'd need for all these people on a road trip would be stupid, we'd probably need two, and you know what? I don't want to. Anyways, sorry for trauma dumping on you all, this is getting long. I was worried Jason would not let me take the other kids on the trip, but they decided to go the route of shaming us online. Obviously it's working with their friends and her family, but even my dad told me to stick to my guns. But, my wife came to me the other day and basically said, are we even better than Jenny if we're favoring some kids over another just because

we don't like their mom? Before we were evening things out, but now we're obviously favoring the oldest. She told me to think of the long-term health of my family and our relationships. She said that it's my family, my decision, but wants me to think about it. My gut is saying just take the older three, but Daisy is only ten, she's not to blame. Would it make me an evil aunt to leave her out? Update, hey guys, I posted about a week ago and a lot of people asked for updates but things have gotten yucky. A quick thing, Daisy is not constantly some Varuka salt-esque monster child. She can be a brat but she is also funny and caring. She's the only grandchild. She's the only grandchild, who is stuck with the church choir that my mom runs even though I don't think she loves it,

always calls my wife and I on our birthdays, and when their dog was too old to go upstairs, she brought her mattress downstairs and slept next to her every night before she passed away so she wouldn't be lonely. People aren't cartoon villains and please stop attacking a 10-year-old. Sorry I didn't reply to direct messages. I don't feel comfortable doing that. I don't know if that account people were messaging me was Jenny's and honestly it wouldn't change anything. I did change some small things for anonymity, and it would be a shame if there are more than one person out there like her. Finally, just a reminder that I live half the world, a 15-hour men plane ride, away. I can't just pop over and there are time zone issues. I also do well

for myself but don't have unlimited money. So stop telling me to take Daisy on trial trips and buy a four-bedroom house for the oldest three to live in LOL. And keep in mind, I live in remote, mostly rural areas, not bustling metropolises with vibrant expat communities and international schools. It's the nature of my job, I've worked hard for it, and it's not conducive to having kids slash young adults living with me. I'm not a messy person and I don't do social media drama, so I've been ignoring Jenny and Jason's little vague booking campaign. And honestly, I wasn't even going to update until I got some background information but basically I got a call from my brother last weekend and it was Daisy crying and telling me she would be good and she's sorry for being bad and she wants

to go on the trip and promising she'll be quiet and not say anything rude. It was dark, she was saying she was going to find a way to show me and my wife and her parents she was good and not a bad person and everything would be okay. I tried calming her down, I assured her that both her aunts love her very much and don't think she is bad person at all. My brother took the phone and was just like see what you've done and hung up. I tried calling back, he didn't answer, I texted my mom as well as Jason Jeff to see what was going on. And of course I wake up and there's a post about how cool people can be to innocent children. Anyways, between my mom and Jeff I got some more background info. I don't know where all their money goes or what kind of bath

her parents took but their financial situation is bad. As in asking my fixed, low-income parents for money for Daisy's tuition bad. Obviously they couldn't help them and I guess Jenny and my brother had told Daisy she was going to have to pick between vacation and her school, and she picked her school, but since it's taken Jenny longer than they expected to find a job they can no longer swing that either. I know you all think she's a little demon, but my heart broke for her with that. And yes, I am not getting into it I'll rage for too long, but yes, the older three have always gone to public school. I do think it was Jenny's parents paying the tuition, though, and according to Jeff, Daisy is getting older and having more of her own opinions and Jenny doesn't

like that. When she found out she couldn't go back to her school, she asked about a trip, and when my brother told Jenny I'd said no she told Daisy she couldn't go because she was bad. Heartbreaking, and just generally a plus parenting all around. I don't think this is the end of all of this. Jeff needs to be more discreet but told me Jenny was losing it because of Botox and Ozempic withdrawal. He did say the house wasn't as bad as you'd think, she mostly ignores them and has continued that. He works and Hannah has spent most the summer at her best friend's house. Also one quick thing I know everyone is worried about my nephews and niece and think they live horrible, miserable lives and this vacation is the only bright spot of the year.

Yes, their lives are completely unfair and I feel awfully for them but they are happy kids. From what Jace has told me, since she had Daisy they've always kind of just treated Jenny like an eccentric roommate that their dweeb of a dad is sleeping with. They're not all rude and screaming at one another, more polite indifference. They also do care a lot about Daisy, and would never ask me to leave her at home. It's me that doesn't want to bring her, because she needs a parent with her and as Drill would say I would face God and walk backwards into hell before I ever invited, much less paid for, Jenny to come with us. Next story, male co-worker started making inappropriate comments about me, then sent me love messages

at 1 a.m. saying he would find where I live, but when I showed my boyfriend he called me a and said I must have been leading him. Okay, so I, 26F, and my boyfriend, 37M, of nine months and I have just had a big fight and now I'm home alone and seeking advice from strangers, I guess. I'm going through a bit of an ordeal at work where a male colleague became slightly obsessive with me. It started with me just thinking he was being nice, but it seems to have accelerated very quickly. We had hardly any contact until he was moved into my team and quickly became friends as he

liked a lot of the same things as me, favorite TV shows, musicians, etc. After a few months, I did notice him make some odd comments about my boyfriend, who he's never met but seen on my Insta, things like I wouldn't picture you with someone like him, or we'll see how long that lasts, and he's the kind of guy that'll hurt you in the end. I thought he was being very assumptive, but didn't think anything of it, maybe that's my fault. Then the flirting started, or what I think he thought was flirting, where he would compliment me in really specific odd ways like the way I walked or how nice I smelled. Some of the comments became quite sexual, so I started backing away from him but as we're in the same team they continued and just got

more bizarre. He'd compare me to characters in the shows we both watched but would reference specific SEG scenes and how I would do it so much better. Very gross, very inappropriate I know, but I've never been one to cause a scene or get anyone into trouble so instead thought I'd just tell him straight that he was making me uncomfortable and he needed to stop. This was yesterday and he did not take it well, shouting at me, in the office, that I had no idea what the fuck I was talking about and soon I'd get it, not sure what he meant by that. He was told to go for a walk and cool off by our team leader. When he returned about 20 minutes later he immediately apologized and said he had some things going on outside of work and assured

me it had never happened again. He even thanked me for raising how I felt and said that he'd never do anything to make me uncomfortable again. This morning I woke up to the longest string of messages I've ever received. It was sent at 1 a.m. and started by him saying that he was in love with me and we were meant to be together. The messages then range from creepy compliments to saying he was going to find out where I live. One part literally reads, I was put on this earth for you and you only. There is no other option. I won't bore everyone with putting in the whole text, as this post is already too long, but there are some things that I found very threatening. I called my manager this morning and said I wouldn't be coming into work and that I needed

to formally complain about him. She was understanding, and we had a long team's call and started the process with HR, etc. So, now my boyfriend's response. This morning when I showed him the message he was supportive and insisted I don't go to work and stay at his. He wanted to call off work too and call the police, but I said I just wanted to focus on informing work today, et cetera, and think about how to proceed. However, when he came back from work today, his attitude seemed to have completely changed. He said he thought it was fucked up that I didn't go to the police and that he thinks I have feelings for this colleague. When I assured him that is not the case, he told me that guys don't write messages like that if there's nothing behind

it and that I must have been at least leading this guy on for him to end up acting so irrationally. The more I tried to defend myself, the more irate he got and he started saying that he hated how I acted so innocent all the time when he knows deep down I'm a whore and that he should have known I was a low-value woman. He's never ever called me things like that before, and it was so upsetting. Beyond that he ended up asking me to leave so now I've had to come back to my flat when I'm feeling pretty vulnerable and a little scared. For context, I got with my boyfriend quite quickly after I moved to the country I'm now

living in so my only friends are his friends. All my family and friends are back in my home country, so nowhere else to go. I really think that what has happened is not my fault and I'm incredibly disappointed with his reaction, especially when for the past few weeks I've told him how uncomfortable this guy has been making me, etc., so he's been kept informed. However, think it's important to note for context that he was previously cheated on by his ex-fiancee, so I know that any hint of cheating is a big trigger for him which may explain his reaction. So, do I break up with him? Sorry for the dragged out tale, but wanted people to have all the context and a bit of a rant

to be honest, as I don't want to tell my family all this. It'll just worry them considering they are so far away. Comment where Op has replied, comment, please go to the police about your coworker. I think you are underreacting to the danger he poses to your safety. His obsessive behavior is really scary and it sounds like it will only escalate. As for your boyfriend, the low-value woman comment seems like he has been red-pilled. At the heart of his outbreak is probably fear and concern, but it's really troubling that he is taking it out on you. This might be a good time to leave and visit home,

but not without first filing a police report. You are definitely in danger, and stalkers don't take no lightly. Boop, thanks for your advice. I think you're right with the whole red-pilled thing and think I know exactly who he must have spoken to yesterday to have come back with that stuff. Just very confusing when he's never indicated thinking that way himself before.

I'm going to see if he reaches out to talk, but nothing so far. As for the co-worker, I've stayed home again today but have an in-person meeting later with my manager and HR as they've opened an investigation. I've blocked my colleague on everything, which I think some comments said was a bad idea but I didn't realize, so haven't heard anything from him but that almost is making me more nervous and paranoid. A work friend is going to come over later to talk about involving. the police, etc. Thanks again for taking the time to comment. It's really appreciated. Update, quite delayed, it's been a journey, but I had some lovely concerned messages so wanted to post a quick update. Thank you for everyone's comments and messages. You were all bang on and I'm so

glad to say I'm out of this situation. Boyfriend Update, he came back apologizing, as many of you predicted he would. He confirmed my assumption that he had spoken to a specific friend that day who had gotten him riled up on the idea that it's always the girls who seem innocent that aren't and that I had clearly been cheating with this coworker. At first he did pretty well at apologizing and taking accountability on the phone, but when we met up I could see he was still angry at me for some reason. Turns out he felt abandoned by me because I wasn't the first to reach out after the fight. That's when I knew it was over and I couldn't forgive him, how he was making this situation about himself still blows my mind. I left him, received some more

red pill abuse and have heard nothing since. Good riddance. Stalker update, things got a little scary. I returned to work while he was suspended under investigation. Only one week later I had gone out for dinner and when I returned home he was standing outside my apartment building. It was dark and he was wearing a hoodie so I didn't realize it was him until I got close enough to see his face. I completely froze and for a second I stupidly thought he was going to apologize and beg not to get him fired or something. But instead he said he'd missed me. I have no idea how this man found out where I live,

but I think he is very unwell. I backed away into the street, but he grabbed me into a hug or something, not totally sure of his intentions. Luckily some passers-by heard me shouting for him to get off and intervened. Forcibly had to get him to let go. He then ran away. I finally went to the police and started the process of getting a restraining order.

Even after this, I received sexually explicit emails from weird email addresses and requests from newly made Insta accounts. I have since deleted and remade all accounts. After this experience, I have moved back to my home country. I wish I'd been brave enough to stay, but I was honestly living in fear, not to be dramatic, and just didn't have the support of friends and family that I needed. Anyway, just wanted to thank all you strangers again that made me feel justified in my feelings. I really have learned a valuable lesson to raise the alarm when you feel threatened, and truly hope none of you have to go through this experience.

Also, if someone loves you, they should never abandon you in times of crisis. Stay safe out there. Comment where op has replied, comment, I'm so sorry you encountered such toxic people, felt threatened, abandoned, and terrified. It's awful what they put you through. You are incredibly brave for setting boundaries and sticking to them in such situations. the timeline doesn't matter what matters is that you stood up for yourself and took action that can be particularly difficult at work and in a romantic relationship where they seem to

have been a huge part of every aspect of your life in a new country please know you are a strong woman for identifying what you need and what is important to you then following through with the big life changes to make it happen i hope you feel loved safe and supported Oop, thank you so much, I really appreciate this. It's been hard to recognize myself as strong when I feel like I ran away, but I really believe it was the best choice for me, and to be honest I'm just so happy to be home. I hope all the best for you too. Final comment from Oop, thank you to everyone for your comments I've showed my mom and you've

all made her cry. This was her first introduction to Reddit, so now she wants to make an account. It's crazy how much comfort all of you have brought me and feeling justified for leaving. Thank you again, and hope all the best in the world to all of you.