Reddit Stories - The YOUNG lady INTRODUCED her PARTNER to us, but we found out he's

Episode Date: November 7, 2025

#redditstories #askreddit #aita #relationships #drama #family #secrets #betrayalSummary: The young lady introduced her partner to us, but we found out he's hiding a dark secret that threatens their relationship and trust.Tags: redditstories, askreddit, reddit, aita, tifu, relationships, drama, family, secrets, betrayal, young lady, partner, dark secret, relationship, trust, reveal, confrontation, deception, discovery, shockBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reddit-stories--6237355/support.

I hope you enjoy this story. The young lady introduced her partner to us, but we found out he's in his 40s while she's in her early 20s. Currently, she's betrothed and expecting a child, following his unfaithfulness. An even younger college student. My F-48, husband, M-46, and I have a 20-year-old daughter, Ellie, who is currently on vacation from college.

About five months or so ago, Ellie told us that she had a new boyfriend. who I'll call Tom. This came rather out of the blue as Ellie hadn't mentioned seeing anyone or that she was dating, but both my husband and I were supportive and happy for her. However, Ellie was strangely secretive about the whole situation. Usually, she's an open book, especially with me, and would always share details of her personal life. On this occasion, she wouldn't show any pictures, and we knew next to no information about Tom, other than that they met at a party through a mutual friend.

Ellie spent the past month of her vacation in her college town and the plan was always for her to come back this weekend. Ellie asked if she could bring Tom with her for a few days of the trip as they were getting serious, and she wanted him to meet us. Although we mentioned that we knew barely anything about him, Ellie expressed that it would be a surprise and that we'd love him. Given he's clearly an important part of our daughter's life, we agreed and said we'd look forward to spending the weekend together.

Yesterday morning, we went to pick up Ellie and Tom from the airport to drive them to our place and we were shocked. We knew instantly that Tom was much older than Ellie and he certainly wasn't a college student. I was just in a state of surprise but didn't want to cause a scene and told my husband to do the same. We drove home but it was a frosty journey, which Ellie commented on. When we arrived, my husband point blank asked Tom how old he was. Tom said he was 44. I was immediately disgusted. He's only two years younger than my husband and old enough to be Ellie's father.

My husband continued to interrogate him, asking how they met and the whole background. Ellie explained that it was at a party and Tom was there because he's well known around the town and they realized they had a lot in common and hid it off from there. I really didn't want to hear anymore, and my husband told Tom to leave. Ellie shouted and said how unfair this was and we hadn't even given Tom a chance and that he made her happy. Tom could sense the tension so left and Ellie followed behind him. I texted Ellie to tell her we'd love to see her and to come over to discuss the situation. She asked if Tom was welcome, and I said he wasn't.

Therefore, after labeling me a judgmental a-hole, she told me she wasn't coming and that they would be staying at a local hotel and catching up with friends. I feel terrible about the whole situation and don't want to lose my daughter over it. My husband isn't budging and says he'd have to be held back if he ever saw that man again. Am I Iida for saying he isn't welcome or have I done the right thing? Update 1. First off, I wanted to thank everyone for their comments and messages yesterday. I was overwhelmed with the responses and didn't expect my post to gain so much attention. I know opinions were quite split, but I appreciate everyone for you.

being honest. Please accept my apologies for not responding to anyone, but there has been a lot on my mind so I thought it would be best to provide an update for those interested. I was incredibly down throughout most of Sunday, so I spoke to my husband and said that I really wanted to see Ellie. However, I knew that wouldn't be possible without also seeing Tom, so I mentioned to my husband about meeting Ellie and Tom at a neutral location for brunch today. I asked my husband if he wanted to join, but he said he didn't feel in the right frame of mind at this stage, so we agreed that I would go alone. I was anxious throughout the drive, but when I met Ellie, those nerves subsided relatively quickly. I was generally just happy to see her and that she was well. I still felt

a bit uncomfortable around Tom, but I thought this was the opportunity to find out more about him and his intentions as it were. We sat down and I tried to find out as much information about Tom as possible. When I asked him to elaborate on being known around a college town and being at the same party as Ellie, Tom said he used to go to the same college when he was Ellie's age, loved the place and decided to never leave. Throughout his time, he still frequented the main bars and places that college students do, which meant he remained in the community in some form. I found it quite an unsettling response but remained polite. In terms of other details I learned, Tom has never been married, nor does he have any children. He works as a software engineer

and enjoys cooking and meditation in his spare time. Something felt off about him, but maybe I already had my preconceptions. Ellie spoke more about what a good match they were and how much in common they had. When I asked her to elaborate, she spoke about how they both love the same spots around town and campus, with apparently the same love of sushi, and she's never met someone so mature and understanding. Tom also said that Ellie was perfect for him and he was serious. I probed if he'd had many other relationships with younger women. Ellie didn't enjoy this question, but Tom said that he generally didn't do relationships, yet something about Ellie had drawn him in. Eventually, after about two hours, we ended the brunch.

Ellie said how nice it had been and she was so happy I had shown an interest in Tom before asking whether they could both come to dinner some evening. I told her, her that would be nice, but I would have to speak to her dad. Tom shook my hand and that was that. My husband remains reluctant, but I feel it's the right thing to do if we want to maintain a relationship with Ellie. I didn't like Tom off first impressions and this hasn't done much to convince me. Something is just off there and some of his answers solidified my thoughts about him not being right for Ellie. I suppose I'll have to remain open-minded but appreciate any thoughts. Update 2

First off, apologies to everyone for not updating sooner in my lack of replies. I post and read everyone's replies and messages, but it's so overwhelming that I struggle to know who to respond to. However, a lot has happened in the past week and enough people asked for an update so I thought I would provide one. After I came home from brunch, I spoke to my husband about the possibility of Tom and Ellie joining us for dinner one evening. My husband was completely against it, but I told him that if we still wanted to exercise some degree of control over the situation before we pushed Ellie away entirely, this was something we had to agree to. It took a lot of convincing but my husband agreed and we invited Tom and Ellie to come round

the Saturday just gone. Before then, I ended up talking to my oldest daughter and Ellie's sister, Holly, 23, about the situation. Holly was shocked and Ellie had told her nothing. Holly decided to do some social media digging but struggled because Tom didn't have much of an online presence. She said she was coming to dinner on Saturday, although I was reluctant because it seemed like it would spiral, I eventually said yes. So, we get to the dinner on Saturday, and Holly just continually grills Tom. It was far, far worse than I did. She asked him if younger girls were his

type, why someone his age is still hanging around at college parties and other small remarks. Ellie told her multiple times to leave her alone, and I tried to act as a mediator. My husband was just silently seething, and I could tell how uncomfortable he felt in Tom's presence. Eventually, Tom and Ellie said they had some big news to share. Ellie announced that she and Tom were planning to move and together for the upcoming college year. I almost spat my drink out, Ellie had planned to live with other friends and when I questioned this, Tom answered that he realized that he probably won't have another long-term relationship. Ellie makes him so happy, and he doesn't want to waste any time with who I want to be my wife and the

future mother of my children. At this point, my husband lost it and told Tom to get out of his house. Tom stood up and seemed affronted and Ellie started crying. I couldn't remember the last time my husband had shouted like that, and I think it surprised Ellie. Holly said it was deserved and said she needed to get away from the pedo freak. It all ended up with Ellie leaving in tears with Tom, my husband going upstairs, and I was just inconsolable. I've reached out to Ellie since, but she hasn't responded. I don't want her to move in with Tom and it seems he's trying to derail her whole life. She's 20 and does not need to be married and have kids, especially with someone his age.

She's never had a relationship before, though, and she appears infatuated to the extent she's not going to listen. My husband has told me that if Ellie marries Tom, that is it and he wouldn't want a relationship with her going forwards. I can't agree with that and will always love Ellie, but it doesn't mean that the whole situation hasn't made me incredibly sad. Update 3, about a year ago, I posted on here about my then 20-year-old daughter, Ellie, who had started dating a 44, now 45, year old man named Tom.

So much has happened since then that has been so overwhelming that it caused me to completely forget about this. However, I stumbled upon this Reddit account earlier today and due to the amount of of messages I received, I feel compelled to share an update. For those who don't want to read the whole post, the long and the short of it is Ellie is engaged and pregnant. The engagement happened around January, after only around a year of dating, and the pregnancy was announced in March. Ellie is keeping the baby and is due late this year. I'm still heartbroken and struggling to come to terms with the whole affair. Ellie was so bright, cheery, and with an

active social life. Now she lives with Tom in her college town, despite having dropped out of college herself due to the pregnancy, with barely any friends due to most of them distancing themselves from her because of Tom. My husband is also low contact with Ellie and wants nothing to do with Tom, while my daughter Holly also feels the same way and wants nothing to do with Ellie or her baby for as long as she remains with the predator. I still keep in contact with Ellie as much as I can, not only because I love her but also as I know that if things crumble, she'll have no one to turn to. She's ostracized herself, which makes me incredibly sad, and I never thought things would turn out this way. There was a glimmer of hope around March time,

where Ellie called me on the phone in tears after discovering that Tom had cheated on her, unsurprisingly, with another college student, and an even younger one than Ellie. Although I did try and talk some sense into her and figured this would be a wake-up call, she decided to stay with him after a combination of love bombing and finding out she was pregnant. The wedding has been set for next summer so the baby can be focused on now. My husband and other daughter have already decided they won't go and many others on my side of the family are uncomfortable with the idea. I'm trying to stay strong and hope I will love my grandchild but this isn't something that will ever get easier. I appreciate everyone's support and advice. It really meant

more than you know. Next story, mom's dogs are food obsessed and have ruined my house multiple times, so I banned them from family vacation. But she brought them anyway and left them locked in her car during dinner. My mom has two half-y-half-Maltese dogs. These dogs are my mom's world. The problem is they are obsessed with food, they will go to any lengths to get human food. It started with a bag of barbecue potatoes chips on my kitchen counter ripped open and devoured, leaving a huge barbecue dust mess. Next was an entire pizza that was snatched off of the table the moment I went to grab sodas from the kitchen.

In the span of less than a minute when I returned half of the pizza was gone, the dogs were standing in the other half of the pizza and there was pizza sauce all over my carpet. Next get together they found their way inside even though I asked my mom to keep them in the backyard. They got into my kitchen and tore open two bags of hamburger buns and ate around $40 worth of seasoned raw hamburger meat and a block of chest. cheese. At this point I told my mother her dogs were not allowed at my home. She has stopped coming by altogether, which does hurt my feelings because if it's a choice between her kid

and the dogs she will always pick the dogs. I'm planning a family vacation, booked a nice cabin for the whole family to stay in. My sister is bringing her dog, well-behaved female pit, so I know it's going to be an issue when I tell my mom her dogs are not allowed to come with us. I don't want to spend the whole weekend making sure not a single scrap of food is left out for even a second otherwise her dogs would tear it apart and potentially make a huge mess in the cabin I paid the deposit on. My sister told me to just tell my mom that she has to keep a close eye on her dogs, but I have tried that before and she's proven time and time again that she's either unable or unwilling to control her dog's behavior. Wipta if I tell my mom her food crazed dogs are

not allowed on family vacation even though another dog will be there? Comments where op has replied, NTA but just say no dogs to avoid hurt feelings. Is that an option? Boop. So my sister's dog, Lola, the beautiful pity, gets pretty horrible separation anxiety. Last time my sister left her at a kennel she was banned from the establishment for behavior problems. Other than that she's a saint, I don't want her to be punished because of my mom's dog's behavior comment too, Nope, NTA.

If your mom is going to insist on her feral destructo much. being included, she needs to book the accommodations and be responsible for the deposit. Otherwise, she's just going to have to be content with staying in the doghouse. Even if she does step up for that, I wouldn't share accommodations with animals that are so out of control. Sorry, not sorry, but I wouldn't tolerate every meal turning into a battle to keep my food. Boop, destructo mutts made me laugh. Comment three, and I bet mom would blame everyone else if the dogs ate something dangerous

that made them sick or killed them. Oop, my mom has bragged that her dogs ate a half a box of chocolate-covered cordial cherries and didn't get sick. I'm worried she thinks they can't get sick. Oop on their mother's reactions to the dog's behaviors. It's the same excuse every time they are hungry. They can tell we're eating. And she doesn't really clean up after them but that might be my fault.

She kind of stares at the mess and is like oops there's a mess. So I end up springing into action so nothing stains or gets more spread around than it already is. Oop on their mother's dogs finding ways to the hamburgers. Where there is a will there is a way, and these dogs will find a way. With the hamburger situation I'm pretty sure they pulled out a drawer to use as a halfway point to just up on my counter. They are smart as hell and like tiny acrobatts, but all they care about is finding food or the dog's house trained?

They are house trained and very friendly with people and other and other and animals. The only thing I can say against them is that they are food goblins 100% of the time update one. Packing up at the end of the vacation, a few of you asked me to update on what happened. Took the cowards way out and asked my dad to break it to her that her dogs weren't invited. He wasn't happy about it, but he said he gets it. Then he told me some mildly disturbing stuff that he was just laughing off. Like they had bought a locked bread box for pastries on the counter that had been chewed to pieces in order to get to the cinnamon rolls inside and showed me a picture of the bottom of their fridge that had been extensively chewed like the dogs were

desperately biting and clawing to get inside. He stated he loves the dogs too but could understand why someone wouldn't want them around during vacation. Dad reported mom took it well and the dogs would stay over at their neighbors who they are good friends with. I was relieved. Everyone showed up and started unpacking except my mom who my dad said was tying things up at the house and she would be by later. Mom didn't show up that night and I missed the next day mom did show up but, as many commenters suspected, brought her dogs with her. Tried to play it off as nothing giving out hugs and smiles, but I was upset. I also tried to play it cool, but I told her that her dogs were not to enter the cabin and that they could not stay the night. She waved me off,

Yeah, okay, I get it, it was fine for a few hours, but then I noticed some dirty napkins were floating around in the breeze. I discovered that the garbage bag we had tied to the picnic table had the bottom ripped out and paper plates had been shredded and licked clean. I cleaned up the mess furious and confronted my mother and told her this is exactly why her dogs weren't invited. My mom tried to blame my sister's dog for the mess you didn't see what happened. It could have been her. I told her that there was no way I would blame Lola for the mess since her dogs are known for doing this kind of thing. My mom clammed up and said, fine, I will just take them home and left with the My dad wasn't happy after that, saying I didn't have any proof and I went too hard on her.

My uncle thought it was funny and he was glad to not have the little bastards trying to steal his hot dog it put a damper on the whole trip. I just feel like an idiot for trying to make this work in the first place. I miss my mom and I wanted to make family memories, but it really does feel like the dogs and my mom are a package deal now and asking her to leave them even for a short time was never an option. A lot of people said this in the comments, I don't think I was ready to hear it yet. Thanks for being so responsive and the comments really did help me see the reality of the situation I'm in now. Comments where Op has replied, Op clarifies on planning the vacation at the time of the

original post, Bakow was planned and ready to go, only thing I hadn't handled was my mom and her dogs. I thought waiting to talk to her would stop her from being able to get into my dad's head and try to change my mind. But now I'm starting to think no matter when I told her the dogs were going to show up anyway so when I made the post, if I'm being honest, it was the first night of vacation. Mom didn't show up and I started to feel really guilty that I had excluded her somehow from the family. I really thought she was going to show up that night at some point, but she never did. I was sort of using the comments to feel better that I had taken a sort of stand against her, even if it was through my dad, I wanted to see if people would say I was an asshole because it was

obvious to me my dad and sister were upset that she wasn't there and that was my fault comment one. NTA a little off topic, but are those dogs okay? It sounds like they're being starved or locked in crates all day long with no way of getting energy out. Like what your dad said is some extreme shit. Those dogs will die horrible deaths if they're left to just eat trash in the fridge. I'd shame the hell out of my mom every single time I saw her. Boop. People are asking about if my parents are starving their dogs, so I'll say, I don't think so. They are quick and small, but they've also got some chunk on them.

I think it's more that they only eat people food. I've never seen either of my parents feed them dog food. It's always some kind of scraps from their plate. They might be giving them dog food at home, I just haven't seen it. Update 2, just going to jump right in and try to keep it short. I talked with my sis about the chance of my mom's dogs getting sick or dying from eating out of the trash. My mom has always gotten along better with my sister, so I asked her if there was any point in trying to talk to her about getting her dogs trained. She set up a dinner at Wing Stop for the three of us.

I directly asked my mom at dinner if she fed her dog's dog food or only people food. She got offended and said, yes, of course, I feed them two cups of food for lunch and dinner. I told her that four cups of food was already a lot of food for two small dogs on top of getting table scraps. My mom said she didn't want to discuss her dogs any further, but my sister jumped in and said that the dogs were why she invited her. She said that she had done some research on dog trainers and found an affordable program. She offered to pay for it in full. All my mom would have to is take them. My mom said that was very generous of her but didn't accept or deny it. My mom started looking nervous and said that she had forgotten to do something and needed to take off early. I thought

well we tried, let her leave. My sister followed her outside and I settled the bill when I left. I saw my mom and sister were still there and her dogs were doing small laps around my mom's legs. I was extremely confused. I just kind of stood there dumbfounded like how the hell did they get here? My sister was yelling at my mom, I would never do something like this to Lola. This is completely unacceptable. My mom yelled back it's less than 60 degrees out and it's night time. They were fine. My sister fired back so if we hadn't made you mad, how long would you have just left them out here while we were eating? My mom ignored her, grabbed her dogs in a huff and left my sister was fuming saying she was lucky nobody saw her dogs in the car. Otherwise my mom would be

dealing with the police. I wish I could say I was surprised that my mom's had left her dogs in the car but I wasn't. I've texted her a couple times since then, but she's not responding to anything my sister or I sent her. I won't be updating again, everyone is mad at each other and I don't see anything positive coming out of the situation. I'm going to take the advice of some of the commenters and just let her go. I tried my best to include and help her and it only made everything more awful.