Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - Ep 885 | What if I'm Burned Out by Church? | Q&A

Starting point is 00:00:00 Hey, this is Steve Day. If you're listening to Allie, you already understand that the biggest issues facing our country aren't just political. They're moral, spiritual, and rooted in what we believe is true about God, humanity, and reality itself. On the Steve Day show, we take the news of the day and tested against first principles, faith, truth, and objective reality. We don't just chase narratives and we don't offer false comfort.

Starting point is 00:00:19 We ask the hard questions and follow the answers wherever they leave, even when it's unpopular. This is a show for people who want honesty over hype and clarity over chaos. If you're looking for commentary grounded in conviction and unwilling to lie to you about where we are or where we're headed, you can watch this D-Day show right here on Blaze TV or listen wherever you get podcasts. I hope you'll join us. How do you stay encouraged to go to church if you feel totally burned out by it? How do you talk to your kids about the divorce of their grandparents? Where are all the good men and are dinosaurs just dragons? We are answering all these questions and many more today on this. episode of Relatable, which is brought to you by our friends at Good Ranchers. Go to

Starting point is 00:01:01 Good Ranchers.com. Use code All right. Hope everyone's having a wonderful day and a wonderful week. I'm going to answer some questions that you guys send in. As always, very interesting and insightful and diverse questions. First question is, how do I talk to my kids about grandparents being divorced in a Christian way? So I think we can start with our own understanding as Christians of what the Bible actually says about divorce. There are biblical grounds for divorce, of course, like abuse and like infidelity. However, we also know that infidelity isn't, it doesn't mean that you have to get a divorce. There are many couples who have sought reconciliation. Their relationship has been redeemed, but there are biblical grounds for divorce. However,

Starting point is 00:02:01 Jesus makes very clear in Matthew 19, 4 through 5, he makes a lot clear in that. segment. But one thing that he makes clear in responding to a question about divorce is that divorce was not supposed to be part of the plan. That was not part of God's good picture for marriage. And what God has brought together, one male and one female in marriage, let no man tear apart. Marriage is supposed to be for life. Again, there may be reasons why separation needs to happen very very limited reasons though today we slap any kind of justification on divorce even just personal happiness despite the not just like the moral and the biblical issues with divorce but also the trauma that it causes our children so it's a very selfish world that we live in there are some

Starting point is 00:02:53 reasons but there are exceptions so we understand as christians though that marriage is sacred marriage according to ephesians five is a representation of christ and the church christ the head of the church as the husband is the head of the wife. The wife is therefore to submit to her husband. The husband is to love the wife. What a huge calling as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. So a very high calling that Christian husbands and wives are called to. And marriage is a representation of that eternal wedding, that eternal marriage between Christ and his bride to the church. The Bible starts with the marriage between Adam and Eve and ends with the marriage between Christ and the church, wow, it's a really, really big deal, a much bigger deal than even those who profess to be Christians say that it is often. And so I think we have to understand first, or we have to start

Starting point is 00:03:46 with our understanding of what the Bible actually says about marriage, why it's so important. I don't know why your parents or your husband's parents are divorced. So I don't know the reasons for that. But I think as long as we have that foundation of what a marriage is, why it's so important, we can start from there and start building out an answer that we can explain in a simple but biblical way to our children. Now, my answer to this will also depend on what age your children are. Like, are they aware that their grandparents are separated? Do they know what a divorce is? It really depends on their age, their stage, their maturity level. And I'm speaking to someone, this is just my own personal opinion. I'm not speaking as an expert in talking to your children

Starting point is 00:04:31 this way. My children are very young, so I'm just imagining how I would approach this situation and how I think, you know, just biblically in general, we should think through something like this. So you can take or leave my stance on this. I would, if my children were very young, and it came to a point where I needed to explain this to them, it was becoming obvious or it was just coming to a point to where, okay, they can understand the truth about what marriage is, at least on a basic level, and they need to understand that this relationship between this man and this woman is not the ideal. It is not what God calls us to. It is not what marriage is supposed to be.

Starting point is 00:05:12 And so I would probably not, I don't even know if I would use the word divorce just again, depending on their age, but that they are separated, that they were married at one point. They are no longer married anymore. You're probably going to get, again, depending on the age, a why. And so you can kind of come up with your own simple but truthful, explanation for why that is, but what you really need to drive home and reiterate is that marriage is meant to be for life, that God set it up for his glory and are good. And they don't have to also understand everything that you're saying. You also don't have to have all of the answers for all

Starting point is 00:05:48 the questions that they have. If they ask a question that you don't know the answer to, I think a really great thing that we as parents can do, they say that's a really good question. I love that you're thinking through that. Let me think about it or let me talk to daddy or like let me let me pray about that. Let me read the Bible. I think that is showing an example of humility for your kids. And it also makes them feel good that they were curious in a way that you found interesting or that they came up with a thought provoking question or maybe that they even stumped you. They'll probably like that a little bit. But I think approaching all kinds of questions and difficult topics that kids have is okay, as long as you are truthful to keep true to your word and to really go seek wisdom in the

Starting point is 00:06:32 word of God and through prayer and through godly counsel. And then go back to them promptly. Don't wait weeks and weeks. Go back to them promptly before they even bring it up again and say, you know, you asked a really good question this morning. You asked a really good question yesterday. And here's what I think about it. You know what? Let's pray together about this. Or let me read you a passage that I read. Again, they don't have to understand everything. But they're a little minds. I mean, they're absorbing so much. What they will remember is the value that you have placed on marriage and that you go to the word of God for your wisdom and for your answers. And also, I mean, the biggest thing that all of us can do that we all do imperfectly as moms and dads is

Starting point is 00:07:13 model what it means to love each other. Model what it means to be married and to have respectful disagreement and to respect and to love one another and to show kids that you love one another, that you're committed to one another. That doesn't mean perfection. That doesn't mean that you never argue. But gosh, we can all do better at that and making sure that we are modeling love and unity and commitment and stability for our kids. So they can just naturally kind of deduce, oh, I see that what they have is better. That's what I want, rather than instability that is always, always, always caused by divorce. Hey, this is Steve Dase. If you're listening to Allie, you already understand that the biggest issues facing our country aren't

Starting point is 00:08:04 just political. They're moral, spiritual, and rooted in what we believe is true about God, humanity, and reality itself. On the Steve Day show, we take the news of the day and tested against first principles, faith, truth, and objective reality. We don't just chase narratives and we don't offer false comfort. We ask the hard questions and follow the answers wherever they leave, even when it's unpopular. This is a show for people who want honesty over hype and clarity over chaos. If you're looking for commentary grounded in conviction and unwilling to lie to you about where we are or where we're headed. You can watch this D-Day Show right here on Blaze TV or listen wherever you get podcasts. I hope you'll join us.

Starting point is 00:08:45 Next question, favorite family activity. The favorite one that we probably do is just go on a walk. Go on a walk, chill, go to the park. We like to eat. If we can walk to a restaurant and walking distance, then that's something fun that we do. sometimes the zoo we're homebodies though so we really have to be like pushed and prodded out the door sometimes it's by our own initiative often it's by friends saying like will you come do this and we're like oh my gosh I didn't even consider the possibility that I would be leaving the house before

Starting point is 00:09:21 Sunday morning and then I'm like oh I forget that you know people do these things so we are very much homebodies so we do like to do things with friends and like just kind of go to houses and eat dinner and things like that. But our natural propensity is to like just chill together. The weeks are crazy. And so when we get the opportunity to just chill together, that's what we like to do. My oldest and I like to do puzzles together.

Starting point is 00:09:47 I don't really like puzzles. She likes puzzles. She's incredible at puzzles. And so I want to encourage her in that. So that's a fun thing that we do together. Other question, where are you seeing God's hand in your life? that's a really good question. Again, some of these questions, I'm like, I feel like I answered this on another episode and I can't remember. But I guess, I mean, it's evergreen and it could change depending on what day I'm recording the episode. So I don't know if there's necessarily a specific answer to this. I always see God's hand orchestrating both the big and the small things in my life. And I always have. And that doesn't mean that I over spiritualize everything. I'm not like, oh, my, gosh, I was supposed to stop at that red light because of such and such. I mean, maybe,

Starting point is 00:10:35 but that's not really how I'm thinking, but I can clearly see how God is going before me, giving me the words to speak, giving me patience and peace when I need it. Not, I don't manifest those things perfectly, but I can see. And like, in a big way, throughout my career, looking back, I can see how like every different stage or every different opportunity, was prepared for before it happened without me even knowing. So like the first time I was on like TV or the first time I gave a speech in front of thousands of people or like the first time that I had this interview, whatever it was, all these things that I thought, I'm not prepared for this.

Starting point is 00:11:19 I'm so nervous for this. The congressional testimony that I give, I can't do this. I look back and I'm like, oh, well, this thing prepared me for that. And that thing prepared me for this. And so that's just one way that I can look back and like map out kind of how God was preparing me for something that I didn't even foresee. And I think that's true of all of us in big and small ways and personal, private ways and also in public ways, whether it's motherhood or friendships or ministry opportunities, anything that you're nervous about, any new thing, chances are you

Starting point is 00:11:56 have been being prepared for that thing by God without even realizing it, that he has actually been equipping you, either just through your own prayer and through the study of his word or through other smaller opportunities that he's given you, that you didn't even see as preparation and equipment until you got to where he wanted you and you look back and you say, wow, I'm a lot more equipped for this than I thought, thanks to the grace of God. So that's just one example. Let's see. How do I stay encouraged to go to church when I am just so burned out by it? I understand this. As someone who has gone to church my whole life and who went to a Christian school, I guess there were some months in college, probably where I didn't attend church regularly.

Starting point is 00:12:44 That's definitely true. At least like short stretches of time, probably because I felt burned out, probably because I was tired, probably because I was doing things that I shouldn't have been doing, wasting time doing unproductive things. But I think a lot of people go through this stage. A lot of people go through this, especially if you were raised in the church. And it can even be tempting to think that you don't need church because you've heard it all before or like there's just nothing new or like you do want to spend your Sunday's different ways. And so just know that I think that it's common to think that way. But going to church is not. primarily about our feelings. It's not primarily about whether we are energetic or tired, whether

Starting point is 00:13:31 we're enthusiastic or lackadaisical or it's not a matter of any of those things. It's not even a matter in us always of how we're being served or how we're being made to feel. It's a matter of obedience that we see modeled to us in the early church that we are to be committed to the local church in our congregations and the service and ministry opportunities that we are given. And we are to serve members of the church. I think in evangelical world, we think of the church primarily as training missionaries to go out and be evangelist or primarily a tool to reach out to seekers. That's not the primary role of the church. That can be a role of the church, but the church is to be a reflection of Christ in the church.

Starting point is 00:14:22 The church is to be the bride of Christ. The church is to glorify God. The church is to preach the gospel. It's to be a beacon of love and charity and altruism and camaraderie with each other that shines like a light in a dark world. And yes, there are outreach ministries and opportunities and ways to help the lost and to reach those people. but the church is for God.

Starting point is 00:14:48 And the church is about the church. The church is about elevating Christ. And that is naturally going to be an evangelistic tool. And so I don't know if you need kind of like a refresh on what the church is for. I don't know if you need a new church. I would not recommend switching churches if your church is solid and biblical because that could just be Satan, just tempting you with apathy, which is a whole part of the spiritual war here,

Starting point is 00:15:19 that we are just being distracted into apathy to no end. And Satan doesn't even have to bring us into like this stage of serious rebellion or sin or depravity or drug addiction or anything. He can just distract us into apathy endlessly and therefore prevent us if we're unbelievers from becoming believers, if we're believers from glorifying God with obedience. And so that is also part of the play here. But maybe you do need to Swiss churches if the church is not preaching the gospel. If they're not preaching expository preaching, I personally never get tired of expository

Starting point is 00:15:55 exegedical preaching verse by verse preaching. Very, very hard to find. Very, like, very hard to find a verse by verse expository preacher. But I never get tired of that. I find scripture fascinating. And so maybe it's also just asking God to renew your love for scripture, ensuring again, that you're going to an expository church. Making sure that you are using every opportunity that's at your disposal to use your strengths for the edification of the church, for the body of Christ. And so maybe ask the Lord for those new opportunities or to change your heart or to change your mind or to show you what's true.

Starting point is 00:16:38 I understand being burned out by all of this. I really, really do. but that's not an excuse not to go to church. Obey through the slump. I think that's true for all of us in many different situations, whether you're in a slump in your marriage, you're in a slump in parenthood, you're in a slump in your job,

Starting point is 00:16:56 you're just in a slump in your life in general. Like you don't know which direction you're going and you feel lost and listless. Obey through the slump. Obey even when it's hard. Obey even when you don't feel like it. Open the word of God even when you're tired. Go to church,

Starting point is 00:17:11 even when you don't, even when you're burned out by it. And I'm preaching to the choir. Like we're all feelings based. We all dictate things by our emotions. We all go the way that we want to go and put our desires first above obedience to God. So I'm preaching to myself just as much. But let's ask the Holy Spirit to sanctify us out of that selflessness and see what is the purpose of life? What is the purpose of church?

Starting point is 00:17:36 What is the purpose of our every day and live accordingly? All right. next question that I have is homeschool or private school. So I've talked about this a lot. It just depends. It really depends on your area. Now, I went to a Christian school kindergarten through 12th grade. I'm very thankful for that. There were years when we considered homeschooling because even at my private Christian school, there were just things that I wasn't well adapted to. Like I don't know if I really benefited or thrived in classroom learning. I don't know.

Starting point is 00:18:26 Kindergarten through eighth grade. Like it got better in high school. I guess I got used to it. But, you know, every teacher told me or told my parents probably through middle school that I had ADD. And tried to convince my parents to put me on medication. I'm very thankful that they didn't because I was always talking in class. And I didn't. I don't think that I have ADD. I don't know. Sometimes I joke that I do, but it's extremely well managed without any medication. But I do think sometimes classroom learning is not conducive to good learning and to thriving for every kind of student. So I do think sometimes homeschool is better for certain kinds of students. I also think that there is benefit from classroom learning. Now, homeschoolers will also tell you. you, there are co-ops. There are opportunities also for group learning and things like that.

Starting point is 00:19:22 You're not only at home by yourself. There are a lot of community opportunities within homeschool nowadays. But I do think I benefited from the routine, the regimen of classroom learning, of going from class to class, of having the assignments that I did, having the long-term projects that I did, sitting around my classmates, the friendships that I gained from going to the same school from kindergarten through 12th grade. And yes, in some ways, in some ways, the socialization that I got from classroom learning, being around some different kinds of people, not that different. I mean, I did go to a private Christian school and just experiences that I had that came with going to school. I liked my Christian school experience. I don't necessarily look back and wish that I

Starting point is 00:20:11 had been homeschooled, even though, again, I think I could have benefited from some aspects of homeschool, especially when I was little for sure. But then, I mean, obviously there are parts of homeschool that she just are not going to get in a private school. You're going to have complete autonomy and control over the curriculum in a homeschool environment. You know your child best. You care about your child and their education, their well-being, their emotional, mental, spiritual health, more than any teacher ever could, even if that teacher is amazing and so compassionate and so talented. talented, she understands. Like, she's never going to be able to love your child and understand your child as much as you do. And so in a homeschool situation, you are able to have utmost authority and input and interaction with your child. And so that is a huge benefit to it. That doesn't mean that you have to teach every subject, by the way. Oh my gosh. If I were homeschooling math, I think we'd only get to third grade and then we'd be done. By the time we got to decimals, I'd be like, I'm out. You're never going to know what this is.

Starting point is 00:21:16 I'm sorry. But you have other people in your community, in your homeschool community that you get to know that teach the different subjects. I got English covered. That's about it, y'all. Got English and podcasting covered. Everything else needs to be taught by someone else. But nowadays, like there are so many resources and so many communities that you don't even

Starting point is 00:21:36 have to worry about that. Even moms who are like, I'm totally unequipped. I have no idea how I'm going to do this. They just find so much support, both in the curriculum that's available, but also in other people who are sharing the curriculum. I've had a conversation on this podcast with Lee Bortons, who is the head of classical conversations. We're not to the point of that kind of schooling yet. And so I haven't used it, but I've heard that it's good by a lot of people. Charlotte Mason is another one that I've heard about. Just be careful if you pick a Christian curriculum that it's truly Christian,

Starting point is 00:22:07 it's truly Christian, like believes in Father's in Holy Spirit and is preaching the gospel and good theology, just make sure that you're involved in all of that. But I mean, you guys know that I think that both of these options, you have to be really involved. You are the primary faith trainer of your child. You were their primary discipler in a private Christian school. There's still going to be the potential of woke stuff. There is. There's going to be the potential of your kid being introduced to things that you don't agree with. That's not always bad, but just understand that. And so you're going to have to be really involved. Gone are the days when you can just drop your child off at Christian school or Sunday school or wherever and assume that they are going to be taught

Starting point is 00:22:52 things that align with the things that you believe in. We have to be so vigilant in disciplining our children and laying a good theological foundation. I love, for example, the truth and grace catechism by Tom Askell. He has a few books, the truth and grace books. And I really like them just for laying a very simple foundation through a biblical catechism for your kids. That's just one example. Making sure you know the Bible yourself and that you're explaining biblical concepts to your kids. But you know that I think both of these options are better than public school. In most cases, there are exceptions to that.

Starting point is 00:23:30 But Deuteronomy 6 lays out for us like what biblical education really looks like. You can't separate discipleship from education. You can't say, well, my kids are going to go to school just to learn reading, writing, and math. and then I'll teach them morality. No, that's not going to work. I mean, they're at school for 40 hours a week. They're at school for many, many hours, kindergarten through 12th grade parent. You just can't compete.

Starting point is 00:23:56 You can't compete. You don't get as many hours with them. And their minds are malleable. I'm not saying that everyone who goes to public school ends up being a derelict and a heathen. And everyone who goes to Christian school or homeschool ends up being amazing. I'm not saying then. I'm saying our responsibility is disciples. education is discipleship and if our job as parents is to steward the hearts and the minds of our kids

Starting point is 00:24:19 to bring them closer to christ to show them constantly the beauty of christ the goodness of christ the truth of christ to instill in them everything that is good and right and true if that is our job we will not hand them over to a secular entity that cannot by law show them these things at best you're getting a non-biblical education from public school at worst, and very likely you're getting an anti-biblical education, which you could argue that those two, you know, those two things collapse, those two categories collapse, but an explicitly anti-biblical education at public school. Your kid could still turn out amazing. I'm not saying that they definitely won't. I'm just saying it's our responsibility to steward our child's heart and mind well.

Starting point is 00:25:07 And ensuring they get a Christian education is really like, I mean, it's the least we can do as parents. Not every single person can do that. I understand that. You don't have to message me and tell me your specific situation. You can if you want to. You don't have to, though. I understand. There are some exceptions. But a lot of the people I know who make exceptions for it don't really, they don't have those extenuating circumstances that other people have. They just don't feel like sending their kids to giving their kids a Christian education despite being Christians themselves. They just don't feel like it. They just don't feel like pain. I think that's true of a lot of Christians who just think my kids will turn out fine.

Starting point is 00:25:47 They might turn out fine. But I can tell you, as someone who has asked, I know, I say this all the time, say this all the time. But as someone who has asked, like, how did you start doing what you do? Or how do you, when you're doing these podcasts, you remember scripture passages, it seems like you just kind of pull them out of thin air. How do you remember those things? How do you research? Well, first of all, well, with the research, I do have help with the research. But not too long ago, I did not have any help with that. And with the books, how do you do, how do you do the things that you do? How do you approach these subjects? How do you think about these things? Look, obviously I attribute it all to the grace of God. But I would be lying if I said that my Christian education didn't have a huge part in it. Like the way that I learned to write, the way that that I learned to reason, the way that I learned to research, the way that I learned the Bible in every single subject from kindergarten through 12th grade, that was it. That's what did it. Why do I, I mean, there's so much scripture that I don't know. It's not even funny. But why do I know so much

Starting point is 00:26:56 scripture? Why does it come to mind easily? It's not anything that I can pat myself on the back for. It's because every single day of my life from kindergarten through 12th grade, this is what characterized my education. Wasn't a perfect education. I didn't. A perfect education. I did. didn't have perfect teachers. I certainly didn't have a perfect experience. But what's better? Giving your kids thousands of hours with a Christian education where they're learning the Bible, giving your kids thousands of hours and a non-Christian education where they're not learning the Bible. Who do you think is going to know more about scripture by the time they're 18? It's not really that tough of a question. Let's see, maybe one or two more. Okay, this is similar. So I just do want

Starting point is 00:27:46 to answer this because it's a good question. Public school teacher here, stay or flee. Now, if you're a Christian public school teacher. It again depends on your situation and your family situation, what's needed. But I am so appreciative of Christian public school teachers. No, you can't by law, preach the gospel at the front of your class or teach an explicitly Christian curriculum, but you can be the only source of light and truth that some of these kids will ever see, the only source of love that some of these kids have, the only bulwark in some of these schools against the insanity of, for example, gender ideology. And so, like, I would love love for Christian teachers to stay and be lights in the darkness. But again, it largely depends on your

Starting point is 00:28:27 circumstance, your school, what you're able to do and say. Do you love Bluey or do you love Bluey? We've never watched Bluey in our family. I know. Crazy. Let's see. Our dinosaurs really just dragons. Excellent question. I don't know. I don't know. Well, as I'm recording this, I have not yet have my interview with Ken Ham. And I don't know if you guys have heard this by the time that you're hearing, or I don't know if you guys will have heard that interview by the time that you're listening to this. So I'm sure he will answer the questions for me. If you don't know, I'm skeptical of dinosaurs.

Starting point is 00:29:03 I'm not skeptical that there were these like large creatures that existed. But if you look at these like these skeleton pictures that look like they would be dinosaurs, it's like, oh, that's a hippo. Oh, that's an owl. I just want to know. How do they really know what these dinosaurs look like? How do they know what they sound like? How do they know what their skin looked like?

Starting point is 00:29:24 Someone had the audacity to tell me that they've recovered voice boxes. Yeah, right. They have not recovered the voice box of a taradactyl. They're lying to you. They're lying to you. Someone asked, what are my thoughts on the chosen show? You should go back and listen to my interview that I did with Dallas Jenkins. I think it was a really interesting interview that a lot of people liked.

Starting point is 00:29:48 Okay, well end on this one. Where are all the good men? Man, I saw a meme. You've probably seen it too. Those like do millennials who got married feel like they got the last chopper out of NAM? And I'm like, yeah, I kind of do. Like I met my husband before. Really the dawn, not the dawn of dating apps because I think Tinder was around,

Starting point is 00:30:11 but the popularization of them. And I have amazing single friends right now who would be, would be amazing wives and moms and who really think that just dating out there is bleak, that it's really tough to find a guy, especially like the older that you get. It's tough to find a guy who is stable, who is mature, who is relatively close to where you are in Christ and is not looking to date like a 22-year-old. That's tough. And like, I think that dating apps make it so difficult too and a lot easier for people to ghost one another to just be irresponsible, to be rude.

Starting point is 00:30:55 Because you never really had that in person connection. You never had to make the investment of mustering up the courage to ask someone out and then to face the potential of getting rejected. There's no risk. And because there's no risk, I think there's also just less reward too. And so I don't say all that to discourage you, but just to relate to you, like I don't completely understand. stand because I have been married for eight years, but I do think I understand and I do feel for you. Here's what I always tell people, though, because I see this every year it happens. Every year I see someone that's like, oh, I'm never going to get married or I'm never going to

Starting point is 00:31:32 find someone. I just don't know where to find someone. And then it's like, boop, they found someone. So here's what I say. It only takes one. It only takes one. There doesn't have to be a million great guys out there. There doesn't have to be a thousand guys that you would like that are compatible to.

Starting point is 00:31:47 you. It only takes one. And so a lot can happen in a year. That's also another thing that I say. A lot can happen in a year and it only takes one. So I don't know where all the good men have gone. I feel your sister. I think that as much as I can. I think that guys probably think the same thing in some ways. Although guys, like it's just different. You've got a different dating pool because you can go a lot younger than you, whereas girls, like, really don't and can't for a lot of different reasons. So I think it is tougher out there for girls. So I can, I can sympathize with that. And I will just say that it is, I would read of Passion and Purity by Elizabeth Elliott. And I would also say that the hard thing that most people like won't tell you is that it might not,

Starting point is 00:32:45 It's not God's plan for everyone to get married. It's not. Even if we have a desire in our hearts, it doesn't mean that God's going to fulfill it. I hear a lot of people say, but I've always wanted to become a mom. That is so heartbreaking to want something like that and to not have it fulfilled. There's also not the promise of that fulfillment in this. I mean, there's not a promise of the fulfillment of all our desires in this life. That's what makes it this side of eternity and this side of heaven. That doesn't mean that your life can't be full of joy. Try not to think of marriage as like, the time when your life will really start. And right now is this like long waiting period.

Starting point is 00:33:20 You can glorify God fully now. You can have joyfully now. You can serve your community fully now. Your life doesn't start when you meet the person that you're going to marry. I think that we're raised in a lot of ways thinking that and we're not. Or it's not. It's not true. Like your life is right now.

Starting point is 00:33:37 And a day from now, in two years from now, you will be closer to death than you are right in this very second. your life starts now. And so do the things that you can do to honor God and to fulfill all that he's called you to do. And if he wants you to be married, he picks that person out before he laid the foundations of the world. Okay, he's got it. And all you have to do is the next right thing in faith with excellence and for the glory of God. And some practical steps, like putting yourself in situations where Christian guys are. I mean, that could just probably be helpful.

Starting point is 00:34:11 But God's got it. He's got it. He's sovereign over that. All right, we've gotten a more time. So we will be back here soon. Hey, Relata Bells and Relator Bros. If you could please leave us a five-star review, wherever you listen to Relatable, that would mean so much to us.

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Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - Ep 885 | What if I'm Burned Out by Church? | Q&A

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