Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey - Should You Vote When You Don't Like the Options? | Ron Simmons

Episode Date: October 3, 2026

Allie’s dad, Ron, returns to give us an update on Iran and its nuclear program, making it even more clear how important this war is. He also takes a look at the polling in the battleground states to see where things are landing as we near the midterms. And he answers some listener questions, like what should you do when you are facing regret over a major life change? All that and more. Do you have a question for Allie? Leave a voicemail at 844-755-5252 Share the Arrows 2026 is on October 10 in Dallas, Texas! Tickets are on sale now at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://sharethearrows.com⁠⁠⁠Share the Arrows is sponsored by:A'del Natural Cosmetics: AdelNaturalCosmetics.comRange Leather: RangeLeather.com/ALLIEWe Heart Nutrition: WeHeartNutrition.com–Time Codes–Episodes You May Like:Don't Listen to the Critics — Trump Unveiled an Election Nightmare | Ron Simmonshttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6aKEYQ1KMDMNew Report: Home Prices Were Raised 30% By This Biden Policy | Ron Simmons https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uidMZvdASaI  ---► Buy Allie's book "Toxic Empathy: How Progressives Exploit Christian Compassion": ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.toxicempathy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠► Buy Allie's book "You're Not Enough (& That's Okay): Escaping the Toxic Culture of Self-Love": https://alliebethstuckey.com/book► Subscribe to the podcast:iTunes: https://apple.co/2UVssnPSpotify: https://spoti.fi/2FwkXxj► Connect with Allie on social media: https://twitter.com/conservmillenhttps://www.instagram.com/alliebstuckey/https://facebook.com/allieBlazeTV/► "Relatable" merchandise — use promo code ALLIE10 for a discount: https://shop.blazemedia.com/collections/allie-stuckey

Well, good afternoon, everybody, or good morning. I'm Ron Simmons. I'm Allie's dad. And welcome to Papa's Workshop. I know that the last episode, a couple episodes ago, I was here and we did this. And I thought it might like it for a little change of senior. You know, this episode's coming out one week before the third annual Share the Arrow's Conference. And you've probably heard already. But if you haven't, surprise speaker is going to be Sarah Huckabee Sanders, governor of Arkansas. She is truly a superstar in the conservative public policy world, and we are so glad to have her. I don't know what her future holds, but I think it holds, you know, whatever the Lord wants it to do. I think she's one of those that says, like Charlie told us, send me, right? Send me. And Sarah has been there for that, and she's doing a great job as governor. I know that you're going to enjoy her.

So hopefully you've got your tickets and you've got your airplane tickets. or you've got your map out and you know how to drive there. And if you don't have a ticket yet, there's still time to get a few tickets. I don't know how many are left, but there's a few left, and I know that we love to see you. I'm going to be around some. I won't be there the whole time. But if you see me and you want to come say hi, I'd love to see you and meet you and just get to know you a little bit.

So anyway, but today we're going to go over a few things. Obviously, we're going to go with listener questions. We have such great questions every time that I do this episode, and I appreciate them. Some of the questions that I'm going to answer today are ones that are emailed to me personally. And I'm not going to mention the people's names, but the subjects they email about are subjects that we get multiple questions on. So I'm going to talk about those in a few minutes. But I'm going to start today. And I know people get tired of hearing this. I really understand that. But we need to continue to make sure that everybody's up to date on what's going on with Iran.

But I need to remind you of a few things. And I ran across an article this week. that I wanted to bring up. It's a couple of months old, but I think it was very important. The UN ambassador from France. Now, as you know, France is not the most conservative country in the world, and they're not necessarily good buddies with the current administration that we have, but the France's UN ambassador, Jerome Bonafont, warned the UN Security Council in June of 2026 that Iran's nuclear programs is still a serious international threat, pointing to the independent quarterly reports by the International Atomic Energy Agency, IAEA, which we talked about before. He said Iran is the only non-nuclear weapon state, and there are a few countries that have

nuclear weapons, but they are the only one that has enriched their uranium, to at least 60%. And you remember, as I said before, a few months ago, that it only takes a few weeks to go from 60 to 90%. And 60% is even far more than is needed for civilian nuclear power fuel, which Iran kept saying that's all they're doing. If they keep enriching the 400 kilograms of uranium that we believe they have, they could potentially produce 10 nuclear explosive devices.

What's even scarier is that the IAEA has lost track of the uranium since June of 2025. Now, we hope that our bombing got all that earlier this year, but we don't know that for sure because we haven't been able to go in there and check it, and they haven't allowed anybody come in there and check. In September of 2025, the UN Security Council reinstated international restrictions. And it takes the U.N. Security Council made up of five, five, of the main countries, okay? That's like the U.S., China, Russia, France, and England. I think those are the five that are on them. I may be wrong on one of those, but I think that's correct.

Because they had repeatedly broken commitments under the 2015 nuclear deal, which was Obama's deal. When we shipped them all that cash on the airplane in exchange for this deal, they've broken that deal. And despite several attempts by Europe and the United States to negotiate another agreement, they have stopped, and they've also stopped allowing the IAE to inspect its most sensitive nuclear facilities. I just want to remind you that the reason that we're in this conflict is because we cannot afford for a country that has stated, their leadership is stated they hate us. They want us dead, death to America. We can't afford for them to have a nuclear weapon, and negotiations have not worked in the past. So we're now what we're trying to do is put military and economic pressure on them.

How long that's going to last? I thought it would have already been taken care of by now. But one of the things that we've learned is that the leadership in Iran doesn't care about their own people. They really don't care about their own people. This could be over tomorrow if they would just wake up and come to a reasonable agreement. We would open back up the Strait of Hormuz. We would lift the economic sanctions, but they just are unwilling to do that.

So it's really important that we stay the course. And I know we get some questions sometime about, golly, it's really hurting our economy. I get that. I know that you feel that. I really do understand that. I've got kids, adult kids that are trying to raise families and it's hard on them. I understand that. However, it's not only always just about us right here and now.

One of the reasons that we need to stay the course is for our grandkids, your kids, right? What we do now will have a major effect on them. Do you really want Iran to have a nuclear weapon that they could bomb cities in the United States with a nuclear weapon when your kids are trying to grow up and raise their own families? You don't want that. Yeah, it's going to, it's a little tough on us right now, but we need to, we need to stay the course. In fact, one of the questions that came came out was that if we effectively dismantle the current leadership in Iran, what steps would the Trump administration need to take to prevent another time? terrorist regime from taking over. The only way that that's going to work is, first of all, the people of Iran would have to participate in that and prevent that. You know, for 2,500 years,

as I said, I think on our last time that we got together, 2,500 years, Iran and Israel were partners. They were allies. And it's only been since the early 70s when the radical Islamic leadership took over that they haven't been allies. So it's not like they've hated each other forever, all right? That has not been the case. But the radical leadership that consists, the Mullas and the Iranian Republican Guard, that really all they want is power. They want power. And remember, power and leadership are always in conflict. If you're a great leader, then you don't abuse your power. But the challenge is people become quote unquote leaders of nations and companies and things like that and they let the power go to their head and they become they become consumed by power and they

quit worrying about leadership and that's obviously what happened in iran what we're going to have to do is we're going to have to make sure that there are inspections that there are inspections going on related to nuclear weapons that there are inspections going on to any other restrictions that we put that we put on them so i just wanted to mention that briefly so that you can understand why it's important to stay the course. We have to stay the course, and it's not pretty. I get it. And I don't like some of the rhetoric that, you know, the current administration uses sometimes,

but I certainly support our men and women in uniform that are trying to protect our country, and I support the leadership in the administration that's trying to make the very hard, hard decisions that other presidents in the past have not been willing to do that. What do you think? I wasn't alive then. Maybe there's somebody on this, listening to this podcast that was alive then. But if you do any history reading,

think about going back to World War II, there was a large percentage of the people that did not want us to go into World War II. That was their war. That was Europe's war. That was Germany and France and England. And we weren't going to be a part of that. Now, behind the scenes, President Roosevelt,

even though publicly he was saying, no, we're not going to go there. we're not going to do that. He was behind the scenes knowing that we were needing to do that. And, of course, we were trying to help Britain any way we could during that particular time before we actually got in the war. But aren't you glad we did? Aren't you glad we did? I'm pretty much convinced that if we wouldn't have gotten in that war, that Germany, a lot of people would be speaking German today. And not the Germany we know, but the Nazi regime, the Third Reich, the thousand-year reign.

I mean, maybe England could have stuck it out and eventually won, but they were fighting a battle against a much, much larger force. So it's very difficult, and I appreciate what we're doing, even though it certainly has consequences. And one of the consequences could be the midterm. I don't know what's going to happen in the midterm elections. We talked about it last time. I wanted to kind of bring it back up.

Remind you, remind you that, There are some very close races in a lot of the states, and we're voting for not a person. We're voting for policy. So you should look at the Democrat Party's policies and the Republican Party's policies, what they stand for. I mean, if you're pro-abortion and you don't mind babies being murdered right up until birth, then you should vote for Democrats. If you're pro-life and you think every life is important, that's on the Republican side. All right? Those types of things. If you think that more individual liberty is important, that's Republicans.

If you want the government to be more of a nanny state, then that's Democrats. Okay. And again, there's a lot of things that they probably agree on. Like, you know, maybe in a large part, a lot of them agree on our military. Most of them don't agree on our police force because, you know, the Democrats, a lot of them want an open border. And they also want to defund police in some ways. And they want to get rid of our, our immigration, customs, and enforcement. Republicans don't want to do that. And all the polls show that borders are really, really important. So we're going to see what happens in the midterms. Now, a lot of people will say this is a election about Donald Trump.

And in some ways, I guess it is that, you know, that there's so much hatred out there for Donald Trump that a lot of the people that are going to polls are voting against him. So whatever he's for or they're against, I understand that. However, what we need to do, do. If those of you that believe in the conservatism, that believe in pro-life, that believe that we should have borders, we need to make sure that we're getting our friends out in these close states making sure they're going to vote. And just a reminder in the Senate, the states are Texas. Texas generally has not been a very close state. But it is a close state this year. There's no question about it that Ken Paxton and James Tala Rico are in a neck-and-neck race. It just depending on which polls you look at,

Tala Rico's up one or two percent. I just read one today where it's a dead heat. A lot of these polls have margins of error, so if you're up 2%, it's probably more like a dead heat. You need to be up about 5% in order for it to be outside the realm of the margin of error. And so we'll see what, I don't know what's going to happen in that, but I do know that if all the Republicans in Texas go out and vote for Paxton, vote for the policy that he represents, he's a flawed candidate.

No question about that. that. But Talarico is someone that doesn't believe in hardly anything that you and I believe in. I mean, he believes in gender mutilation for children on the transgender scenario. He believes that abortion should be allowed right up to birth. He thinks that God is six genders. You know, he doesn't like the beef industry. He was a vegan. He's talked about that. He doesn't like school choice. He's never seen a tax bill that he didn't like. So James Tala Rica was not a good candidate and will not be a good senator for Texas. Same thing in Michigan. Michigan is Mike Rogers versus the Abdul El-Said. El-Said. So many recordings about how much he hates America and how much he said

that, you know, we deserve 9-11, those types of things. And that's a very close race. Mike Rogers should win that race in any normal time, but we don't live in normal time. So we don't need to assume that, hey, this El Saeed guy is so far out there, there's no way he's going to win. That's not true. That can happen. Ohio is another close rate by John Husted and Sherrod Brown. Sherrod Brown's a former senator. That's neck and neck.

And so those of you in Ohio, which has been a solid red state for, oh, the past three or four elections, but it's close right now. It is very close. We encourage you to do that. A couple more races. I was a close race between Turek and Henson, Maine, Susan Collins, and Troy Jackson. And again, he is a super flawed candidate. Very close in that. The Alaska race is close, even though Alaska went overwhelmingly for Trump. That's a very close race. So we need to make sure that we're getting our people that we know and ourselves out there to vote. Early voting in a lot of these states will start within the next couple of weeks. If I'm you, I recommend you go vote early. Some people like to vote on Election Day. That's fine. But you never know what's going to happen. You could have car trouble on Election Day. There could be someone sick in your family you've got to take care of.

I would recommend not waiting. If you have the ability to vote early, then go ahead and go ahead and vote early. There was a question that came from about the North Carolina. I think it was about the North Carolina. Oh, the North Carolina race is also close. And then there was a question that came about the Florida governorship. And this question was, in Florida, I don't like either candidate for governor.

And a lot of times we all get in those scenarios, okay? How do I decide who to vote for? Well, again, you're going to vote for policy. The Republican Party's policies are they better policies than the Democrat Party? Just make it easy like that. And don't worry about the candidate themselves when it gets to the general election. That's what I recommend. And that's what I recommend that you do.

So, all right. Now, I wanted to tell you a little bit about an interesting event that I went to this week. And it was a kind of a special thing. My oldest son and I are part of a leadership class with about 75 other people. And the folks that are running it take us to different experiences. Like earlier this year, we had to sit down with the head of Delta. to airlines and the head of Rich Carlton Hotel talking about, you know, how they operated their businesses and how they started them and their leadership techniques and all that type of, all those

types of things. We also had to sit down with Jack Nicholas to talk about individual leadership and discipline and and those things. Then this recently, though, we sat down to listen for an interview, kind of a panel interview with Condoleezza Rice first, and then President George W. Bush. What an inspiration both of them were, right? And how positive they continue to be about America, even though we're in some tough times. There's no question about that. Dr. Rice talking, man, she is just one of the smartest people I've ever seen. I mean, she is some kind of bright. Went to, you know, grew up in Birmingham, Alabama, and segregated South. Now, she lived in a segregated black middle class neighborhood, her mom.

mom and dad were college education. Her grandmother, I think she said, her grandmother or her great, one of the, I think it was her grandmother was the, had gotten a PhD in English literature or something like that. It was a very interesting background. And of course, she's also a concert pianist. She started college at age 15. Is the provost at, or was the provost may still be at Stanford University, overseas the Hoover Institute out there, which is the conservative institute that someone like Victor David Hanson's a part of,

if you've heard of him, of course, was Secretary of State. You know, she said a couple of things. One of the things on leadership, I just wanted to leave you this point on this part of it that I thought was really cool. And that she said, you know, she said, when you're, when you are the one that's in charge, okay, whether this is your family, dads and moms, or whether this is your business or whether this is your church organization, when you're the one in charge, you have to be very careful in how you communicate with others. Like she said, look, I've got a very quick wit. And if I'm around my friends or buddies or whatever, you know, we can kind of trash talk each other and it's pretty fun. You know, we all do some of that. She said, but you know, when I was teaching classes at

Stanford and somebody, some student would ask what really most of us would believe was a pretty silly question, I had to make sure that I didn't snap back at them with some smart answer because if I did, yeah, everybody may have giggled during that, but I would have shut down any other questions. People wouldn't want to question me. Same way she said when I was Secretary of State, if you're Secretary of State of the United States, and you go, you're the big dog in all of these meetings, right? And so if I treat someone improperly in that, because I, you know, just had a smart mouth or quick mouth or something like that, then especially the smaller countries, they're never going to feel comfortable talking to me.

And that's not important. She said one thing President Bush always did when he was at these big summits where they would have, you know, small countries and big countries, he would make sure he spent time with the small countries. And that's just the type of person that he was. And when he was speaking to us, when he was speaking to us, you know, he talked about, you know, that he said there were two things that I wish you know, that we could have gotten done during our administration. Now, 9-11, obviously, sidetracked them and they had to focus on that. But one of the things that he said, he said, you know, immigration policy, he said, now there's, and he thought, this was very smart, he said there's really two parts to immigration policy. One is the border, and the other is immigration reform. And we've talked about this. There are people that want to come work here,

especially, let's just take Mexico, for example. There are a lot of people, and we use some of these special work visas for this that want to come up here and work during our work season and in the winter go back home and work down there. They're not interested in staying up here, okay? But it's hard for them to get a visa to be able to do that. Used to it wasn't as hard. Same thing on the border. He said, look, President Trump has done a really good job on securing the border, on closed the board. We have to do that. Americans want a border. And he said, we had immigration bills that we, we think, think could have handled that, but they just got sidetracked, you know, they got sidetracked in the Senate and didn't get, didn't get done. And that was disappointing. He also said, if you remember the iconic

picture when he goes down to ground zero after 9-11, within just a couple of days after 9-11, he goes to ground zero. And he said, I kind of start talking on my stump speech about how we're going to get past this and da-da-da-da. He said, honestly, said, you may not could have heard it, but I've some booze. And what was what what what what those people wanted to hear, which was all first responders primarily, a lot of them had lost family or friends in those twin towers. He said he said I threw in my mind threw away the stump speech and stump speech and I said I want you to know that I hear you and America hears you. And that's what those people wanted to hear is that they were being heard and that we were going to do something about it. And this small invite that I was a part of was a very special

time this week. And it really encouraged me because I can get discouraged like everybody else in the way things are going on. And, you know, are we going to get on the other side of this election? And our house is going to get more affordable for my kids and grandkids. And, you know, things go through cycles. And President Bush and Dr. Rice reminded us of that. And they are very optimistic. And listen, they still get intel that you and I don't get, of course, right? They still, I'm sure, have some types of security clearances, or at least they have the people there that they know that they can get information that you and I can get. But it was a really great time. If you have the opportunity ever to go hear some people like that,

statesman, I'd encourage you to do it. I think it'll feel good. Take your kids to it if they're old enough to understand that, especially your teenagers. I think they would really enjoy that. All right. A few more things here. Let's go to some listener questions here. I want to go through these as many as I can today before we finish up. Is accepting school choice funds socialism? No. Public schools, in my opinion, are more socialistic than school choice because if you're in a state that just requires you go to public school, then you don't have any choice. I mean, the state's telling you what you're going to learn, where you're going to go. that is totalitarianism in my opinion. We're forced to do that.

School choice gives the parents the option. And remember, that's not the government's money. That's your money. That's money that you've paid in taxes over the years, that they've been putting in a government-run school. And so, no, don't feel bad about that at all. What can we do about Islam in America? I've got a couple of questions on that.

First of all, remember that we live under a couple of Constitution, all right? And our Constitution guarantees the freedom of religion. And Islam is a religion. So we can't outlaw Islam. I mean, we just, we can't, we can't do that under our current Constitution. I would never support that. But what we can do is we can make sure that we are monitoring it for radicalism, okay, because that's, that's breaking the law. Terrorism breaks the law, obviously. We can't outlaw Sharia law, which we've done in places like Texas and other states. And we can also, keep taxing districts. Like in Texas, we have something called a municipal utility district where essentially a developer can go in there, essentially set up their own city and actually charge taxes and collect,

you know, money for water, sewer, those types of things. We can, and they've been trying to do that in Texas and we've been able to stop that so far. We can avoid religious exclusive tax districts, things like that. but we can't stop them from having their religion. We just can't do that. What we need to do as Christians is we need to show them, you know, the other side, show them why we believe what we do about Jesus, right?

And that happens, all right? We hear about, in fact, I was just hearing the other day, somebody was telling me about two Muslim girls. Oh, this was at a university in Texas. That's a religious university that for some reason, and these Muslim girls went there because it was probably good education on some other fronts, and they've become Christians. Now, their families have disowned them, but the community there is obviously supporting them,

and so that's really important as well. All right. Somebody asked about comparing the 529 accounts to the Trump accounts. I've done that already in a previous episode, and they're going to link that episode to the show notes here. So make sure you take a look at that. All right. The other one is, somebody says,

my husband has regrets that he voted for Trump. And how can I convince him or what can I bring up that might, you know, make him understand? And I get it. He, you know, it costs more to fill their vehicles up, restaurants, prices are higher. But remember, restaurant prices and gasoline prices, all this stuff went up during the Biden years. And yes, it's still gone up a little bit. But remember I told you last time, it's gone up 21% during the Biden years. It's gone up about 5% since Trump.

took over in two years. So we're at a better pace. Now, the Iran war is hurting that, but that will be temporary. I promise you that. I don't know how long. I thought it would have already gotten behind us, but it hasn't. But again, you have to look at a broader picture. It's not just about us right now. Again, we may have to sacrifice a little bit in order for things to be better for our kids going forward. And the other question was, how can I support my friend who has a kid with special needs? You need the way you can support them the most, other than just loving them, being their friend, listening to them, because sometimes they may just need to vent. Also, respite care. If you think that you can give that mom or that mom and dad a couple of hours to go out to a dinner and y'all can keep that child if you're capable of doing that, that is a huge help.

Most of them don't get any respite care. You know, we're going through with our adult son, Daniel, right now, who has a mile from autism, and that's manageable. but he has epilepsy, and that has gotten worse in the last year or so. For whatever reason, we're working on medicine combinations and all sorts of things. And that's been difficult. It's been difficult on Lisa and I, and it's been difficult on him, bless his heart. He's a trooper. It's unbelievable.

I mean, I was just with him a couple of weeks ago, and he fell, which he does sometimes with these seizures, and cracked his collarbone, and, you know, he just fights through all of it. But it's difficult. I will tell you. And so encouragement, respite care. Hey, can I, hey, can I, you know, if somebody called us, said, hey, can we take Daniel out to dinner, you know, give you guys, you know, a couple hours off. That'd be awesome.

We love that, all right. But it doesn't happen very much because we feel uncomfortable doing that. So just make sure that you're just encouraging them. And then, you know, how do we, what do I do with little kids and, you know, keeping the relationship with my spouse? That's a question that we always get. and is just, I've said this before, but make sure that you have a date night. Make sure you have a day.

Even if you're not spending money, if y'all are just going to go drive around town or go sit at the park or just get a soda pop or something like that, make sure you have a date night. I'd like to see you do it once a week, but at least once every other week. Really, really important, okay? Really important, no matter how tired you are, no matter anything, you need to have that date night where it. And it's not a date night to talk about the kids. obviously sometimes you'll do that but it's a date night for you to that's what's really important

how do i submit to my husband even when i know he's making a wrong decision i get those sometimes and and kind of related to hey i think maybe we ought to move to a more conservative area but my husband doesn't want to i think in all of these obviously husbands are called upon to cherish their wives so that means that what their opinions are are important guys, very important. Wives, you're called on to respect your husband and assuming that he's honoring what he's supposed to be doing as well. And so the way you can get, I know that if Lisa needed me to do something in our earlier marriage and what have you before, you know, we've known each other now for almost 50 years. But what Lisa would do, Lisa, she learned earlier on,

she focused on herself. She would bring things up to me for sure. She was never demanding or anything like that, but I knew, I didn't, I wanted to please her. I still want to please her. I mean, that's still really, really important to me is pleasing her. And so I could sense that. I think it's okay for you to sit down and have a detailed discussion. Again, I encourage you to all read five love languages because that's really important to understand how you're, how your spouse receives love, and that's how you can best learn how to communicate with them. Also, think you try to figure out a compromise. This one person said, well, maybe we can't move to more conservative state because the pay

differential in what this particular person does is too great, but maybe we can move to a more conservative part of our state. That's a great compromise, okay? That's a very good compromise, and I think it's something that you should talk about. You shouldn't be afraid to talk about difficult things. You have to be able to do that. you'll need to get some counseling to help you do that. No question about it, because most of us have different personalities. I'm more outgoing than Lisa is. Lisa is more laid back. So we don't think about

things exactly the same way. And over the years, we've had, you know, I think I've talked about before when Allie was a teenager, we had some family counseling on some things. I still seek the advice of some of my mentor friends, and I encourage other people to do that as well. Advice on reading this raise a special needs child we we thought about we thought that we have to again how do we move past the grief of all they can't do i understand that and i don't know that that ever goes away 100 i still sometimes i'm sad about you know things that i know that daniel won't be able to do or hasn't been able to do yet we try not to put limits on that anytime we've done that we've been proven wrong because he's always been amazing to us but i think that listen god gave us these special

gifts and he gave us the gifts for a reason and I think we just have to get them to the maximum of their ability. That's what our role is and make sure that it's to the extent they can that we can teach them about Jesus. What should a Christian, what are some ways a Christian dad or husband do should support a new mom? Again, read the five love languages, figure out what her love language is and do those things. Probably what she wants to do is quality time. That's usually what they would want as quality time. How to deal with in-laws who don't share faith when a child is involved. I think you have to always respect your in-laws up to the point where you make sure that there

obviously no abuse or anything like that. But I would say respect with boundaries. Our job as parents, one of our jobs as Christian parents, is to expose our children to the love of Christ and so that the Holy Spirit can begin working on them and bring them under his umbrella. And I wouldn't allow anything as much as I could that we'd get in the way of that, all right? Now, some of it's not going to matter, but that's where I would do the boundaries. Here's one.

I haven't gotten this question before. This was really pretty interesting. It says, my father-in-law asked my husband to keep his estate and money from the wives. He said it's not for us to know, but me and my husband tell each other everything so it feels wrong. for him to ask that, am I wrong in thinking that? Well, first of all, that's wrong for the husband, for the dad to do that, all right? That's putting, that automatically puts a strain between his son and daughter-in-law. I mean, that, that sets up a marriage strain right there. Why, I'm not sure why he would do that. Okay. Now, a lot of people, maybe these first generation money, they're afraid that,

you know, the wives are going to not respect that and, you know, go off and spend the money or something like that. But as far as you and your husband go, it's perfectly okay for your husband to talk to you about that, right? That's, you don't break that bond. That's why the Bible says that when we grow up and we get married, the husband leaves his mom and dad and clings to his wife that they become one flesh. And one flesh shares with each other. I promise you, my right hand knows what my left hand's doing, right? I mean, and so that's the way we are. We come together as one flesh. Is it wrong for him to ask that personally I think it is but it's his money it's the way he looks at it so that's his deal but you're not wrong for thinking that okay your husband you and your husband should be able to share

those things no question about it all right should I cash out of life insurance if I have enough other investments well I need to know more about that so email me a little bit more personally on that if you know whether you have kids or what your obligations are or what because here's what you need okay you need about 25 times your annual income. What are you going to need to live off of? Okay, when you retire, let's say you need $100,000 to live off of when you retire, where you're going to need at least $2.5 million, in my opinion, in the bank, if you want to live off of that and still leave some inheritance. Now, if you want to gradually spend that down to zero, you probably don't

need as much, but my number has always been about 25 times what you need, all right? what you need to live off of when you retire, you need to have that set aside. Or maybe some of it if you need 100,000, you get $50,000 from a pension plan or Social Security. So you only need to have $50,000 from your investments. Then, you know, you don't need as you need about a, would that be a million and a half dollar or something like that? So it varies. So I just need a little bit more information on whether or not it's good to cash out your life insurance policy. How to move forward if you regret a big life choice. If, you know, if you can fix it, do it.

But if you can't, you have to move ahead because Satan's the one that creates doubt. No question about it. Now, I want to finish up with one thing. I've gone a little bit longer today than I normally want to go in these. But I think I told you guys earlier that I was reading through the Bible this year in a year. Now, I started in April, so it's not, I'm not going to be done by December. But one of the things that I'm doing is I got this little notebook and I am writing down a precept that I read in the chapters I read that day, I write one or two precepts down that spoke to me.

And so I'm going to try each couple of weeks to share with you one of those precepts. And the one this week that I wrote down, and I wrote this down back in April, it says, God honors righteous action that carries risk. God honors righteous action that carries risk. And this refers to Luke 19, 12, through 27. And it's the story of where the noble man, in fact, I'm going to read it to you, that'll be the easiest thing. It says, a certain noble man went to a far country to receive for himself a kingdom and to return. So he called ten of his servants, delivered to them ten minutes, which is money, and said to them, do business until I come back.

But the citizens hated him, and they sent a delegation after him saying, we will not have this man to reign over us for whatever reason. and so it was that when in return, having received the kingdom, he commanded those service to whom he had given the money to be called to him, so that he might know how much every man had gained in trading and doing business. Then came the first, Master, I have earned 10 Minas and M-I-N-A-S, and he said to them, well done, good servant, because you were faithful in very little, you have authority over 10 cities. And the second one came, Master, I've earned five.

Likewise, you will have over five cities. Then another came saying, Master, here is yours. money that you gave me, which I have kept put in a handkerchief, for I feared you, I feared you, because you were an austere man. You collect what you did not deposit and reap what you did not sow. And he said to him, out of your own mouth, I will judge you, you wicked servant, you knew that I was an austere man collecting what I did not deposit and reaping what I did not sow. Why then did you not put my money in the bank that at my coming I might have collected it with interest? So you can see all three of these servants were probably a little nervous about what to do,

these people that worked for him. And, but some of them, two of them said, okay, I'm going to take the risk, all right? And because I think this would be the right thing to do. If I wasn't afraid of the man, this is what I would do. Well, this other guy, he didn't want to take any risk. But what's happened here? The parable here is that God is honoring our dutfulness, our obedience, but sometimes that carries risk. So think about that. Thank you for joining me today. I hope you

have a great day. I hope to see a lot of you at Share the Aeros next weekend. Talk to you later.