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Episode Date: May 26, 2022

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Hey folks, before we start the show, I just wanted to give you a heads up that the episode we're about to play for you today references violence and sexual abuse against children. So skip this one if you need to. Hey, everyone. So we'll be back with a brand new episode of Replyo in just two weeks. But in the meantime, I just wanted to share with you something that some of my colleagues have been making at Gimlet. It's a show called Stolen, Surviving St. Michael's. It's actually the second season of the show Stolen. The reporter and host of the show is Connie Walker. Connie's amazing. She's been reporting on indigenous communities for a long time. She herself is indigenous. And in Stolen, what she does is she goes into indigenous communities and looks into mysteries and crimes that, frankly, not that many other people are covering. This season is about something that happened in a residential school in Canada. If you don't know what residential
Starting point is 00:00:52 schools are, residential schools were boarding schools in North America that government forced indigenous children into basically an effort to strip their culture and their identities away from them. We have Connie with us today. It's so good to see you, Connie. Hi. Hi, Manuel. How are you? I'm well and well. Thank you. Thank you for taking the time to talk to me. You've had this whole remarkable career. And like I feel like you've spent it telling stories, but I really haven't heard anywhere else. And I'm just wondering like, yeah, how did you come to be doing this work? Well, it took a long time, honestly. Like, it took a really long time to kind of get to this point where I feel like I could tell the stories that I feel are really important and that I want to tell.
Starting point is 00:01:34 I mean, I've been a journalist for since 2000, basically, when I started as an intern at CBC. And for a long time, like, there just wasn't any space for stories about indigenous people or communities. And I remember, you know, pitching stories early on and being kind of met with, like, a brick wall. Like, people just didn't care. Oh, well, there's like literally like people you worked for just saying we don't want to tell like indigenous stories. Yeah, yeah. I think that's the thing like I can, I hear in the work that you've done a lot is your very, you're very honest reporter. And I can hear it when you are kind of like wrestling with the darkness of actually finding out what did happen to people.
Starting point is 00:02:18 But this is the first time basically in this season where you are like turning it around kind of on yourself. And I guess I was just like, yeah, could you just tell me how you discovered, like, yeah, how you started reporting this story? It was really, it was like a year ago. Actually, it was like a year ago probably this week even. Wow. And there was a terrible discovery made it at a residential school in Canada at the Kamloops Indian residential school where they found what's believed to be the remains of 215 children at this residential school. And for whatever reason, like that became. not for whatever reason. Obviously, that's such a horrific discovery.
Starting point is 00:03:00 Yeah. But what I, the reason I said for whatever reason is that because I think that this is an analogy that I told my team when we first started reporting on this story. I was like, I think that sometimes to be an indigenous person in North America, you're, it feels like your house is on fire and you're like waving your arms in the air and you're saying, hey, oh my gosh, my house is on fire. Help, help, help. And people look at you and they're like, oh, what's going on over there? something's happening. And they just keep, but they look away and they just keep going. And eventually you're like, okay, you've just got to keep going.
Starting point is 00:03:32 And you learn to live with like the smoke and the flames and everything else. And it felt like after Camloops that people finally stopped and they were like, oh my God, your house is on fire. And you're like, yes, yes, it is. And it was like something about the acknowledgement or recognition that this is actually true that what survivors have been saying for, you know, like decades is real, that this has actually happened and has been continuing to happen and impacting our families and communities, was like, oh, there is a, that now that they're acknowledging it, like, it feels even heavier.
Starting point is 00:04:10 Right. I noticed then after Camloops, like, that survivors started coming forward and sharing their stories. And including people in my family who had never heard even acknowledged that they had gone to a residential school before. You know, there was a recognition of what they went through and that it was true and it was real. And that was that was around the time survivors were coming forward that like I just, I was
Starting point is 00:04:32 just scrolling through my Facebook on my phone one day. And it came across this post from my brother about how when my dad was an RCMP officer, like a member of the Royal Canadian Mounted Police in the 1970s, he was on patrol one night. And he saw a vehicle that was swerving or he thought. the driver was drinking. Yeah. And so he pulled it over. And it turned out that the driver was a priest who had abused him at residential school.
Starting point is 00:05:01 And I read that in a Facebook post about my dad. Like I never knew that story before. I couldn't stop thinking about it. And it just made me think about how I really don't know anything about my dad. Like I didn't know anything about him. And that to me, you know, felt so painful to just think of my dad as a little boy. going through something like that. And then I,
Starting point is 00:05:24 and then I was thinking about, like, how so much of my work life is, like, diving into other people's lives and, like, connecting these dots. And I was like, that I had never, like, that I had never thought about that in my own family just felt like something I should try to do. Right.
Starting point is 00:05:42 Right, right. And then I started thinking about, like, what is the way for, like, you know, it didn't feel like this was like a thing that I could just be like, oh, now I learn this little thing about my dad. Right. I'm just going to put it in my pocket and keep going.
Starting point is 00:05:57 It felt like, oh my God, this is like a burning hot coal in my hands and I need to like to do something with it. Yeah. And it became then this question, this like, who is this person and how do we find them? And you know, that that person you wanted to find out more about was the priest. Yeah. And how do we like find out like whatever happens? happen to them and and like try to find some kind of accountability. But it's like, it's like a
Starting point is 00:06:30 classic thing. As soon as you start looking, as soon as you start scratching at one story, you uncover a whole other thing. And that's what's happened with this podcast. Thank you so much for spending so much time talking to me about this. Oh, no, I'm, I'm happy to. Thank you very much. Of course. Right. So today we have for you all the first episode of the series, Stolen, Surviving St. Michael's. You can listen to the rest of it as it comes out exclusively on Spotify. All right, here we go. Where I come from, the open plains are broken up by gravel roads that intersect every mile or so, and small paved highways, linking tiny town to tiny town. Driving at night on these roads, it can feel like you're the only
Starting point is 00:07:17 person around for miles and miles. And on the nights where there's no moon, It's dark and heavy and quiet. If something happened out here, it might never be discovered. One night, in the late 1970s, something did happen. Two men met out here in the darkness. Their chance encounter felt like fate, because they had met before, but under very different circumstances. One of those men was my dad.
Starting point is 00:07:52 He was a police officer in rural society. My dad was driving alone in his patrol car when he spotted a set of taillights swerving ahead of him in the darkness. He flicked on his lights and the car pulled over on the side of the road. My dad got out of his cruiser and walked up to the driver's side window. He motioned for the man inside to roll it down and as he raised his flashlight, he realized he recognized the man behind the wheel. He knew that face, those eyes, the white collar under his chin. And he saw the man recognized him too.
Starting point is 00:08:34 For a moment, neither of them moved. Then my dad opened the door, grabbed the man by his collar and dragged him out of the car. He hit him again and again, until he was tired and out of breath. My dad walked back to his patrol car and drove off into the night, leaving the man crumpled on the side of the road. There were no witnesses. The only people who knew what really happened
Starting point is 00:09:05 were the two men who were there. But this is how I imagine the story. It's a story that my father told that was later told to me. Hearing it has changed the way I think about my life. Because the man who my dad beat up that night was a priest, a priest who abused him in residence.
Starting point is 00:09:27 School. I'm Connie Walker. From Gimlet Media and Spotify, this is Stolen, surviving St. Michael's. One, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine. Okay. I am just arriving in Duck Lake. And I'm on my way to meet my brother Hal at his house, which actually used to be my dad's house. If I can find it. Because I think I've actually only been there, like, a couple of times. That's kind of weird, I guess, maybe to not know where your dad lived. It's around 4 o'clock in the afternoon
Starting point is 00:10:38 on a warm summer day in August. I've just pulled on to a small highway in central Saskatchewan. As I drive, there are fields of wheat on either side in big stretches of open sky. I know this place. I used to live here, but I haven't been back in a long time.
Starting point is 00:10:56 The road I'm on connects the small town of Duck Lake to the Beardy's and Okamasa's creination. This is my dad's home, and my brother Hal lives here now. He's the one who first told me the story of my dad and the priest, so that's why I'm here to ask him about it. Okay, this is a road called Constable Cameron Road. My dad would have been Constable Cameron,
Starting point is 00:11:20 but this road is actually named after my sister, who was also Constable Cameron. She followed in my dad's footsteps, and I'm pretty sure they live down this road. He lives down this road. It's a pretty big hint. My dad's name is Howard Cameron. He's my father, but I didn't know him very well.
Starting point is 00:11:39 My mom and I used to live here with him, but they split up when I was seven, and we left. I didn't see or hear from my dad until I was a teenager and came back to the reserve to visit. But whenever I would come here, I wouldn't stay with my dad. I would stay with my godparents, my auntie Lois and my uncle Ernie. The first time I came back to Beardies, I was 14, old enough to ride the bus alone. My auntie lois and uncle Ernie picked me up from the bus depot, and I stayed with them.
Starting point is 00:12:09 When they asked me if I wanted to see my dad, I kind of felt like I had to say yes. And then, while I was here visiting them, I would have a visit with my dad and my brothers and sisters, including Hal. By then, my dad had a new life, with a new wife and four more children. I remember walking into his kitchen and immediately being surrounded by little kids and having them all hug me and call me sister. Hal was one of them. Okay. That, this has to be it. As I pull up, I see Hal waiting outside from me.
Starting point is 00:12:52 What are you doing? Just golfing? No, no. Like most Cameron's, he's obsessed with golf, and he's holding a club, practicing his swing. Oh, nice. Okay, hold on. Let me grab my bag. Is your dog friendly?
Starting point is 00:13:05 Oh, yeah, she's a gentle giant. Okay. She's a little bit skittish of new people, but once she warmed up, she's... How are you doing? Good. Went, well, for the past, like, last week, it's, like, medicine picking season.
Starting point is 00:13:24 Yeah. So, like, I went all last week picking. What kind of medicines are you picking? Today went out for sweet gas. Oh, my God, it smells so good already. Wow. So we pick probably with this, it'll be over 20 braids so far. We walk over to a cluster of birch trees.
Starting point is 00:13:43 Inside is a small fire pit. Hal says our dad built this setup, including the wooden benches surrounding the fire. He lights a pipe as we sit down. This is so nice out here. It's nice to be able to just be in a nice little secluded spot. Fire's not really going to go anywhere here. and it's nice and quiet. Hal is 32.
Starting point is 00:14:07 His full name is Howard Cameron Jr., which is fitting because Hal really takes after my dad. They look alike with their jet black hair and brown skin. But Hal's very different than my dad was at his age. He's easygoing and gentle. A few months ago, Hal shared that story about my dad beating up the priest on Facebook. And as soon as I read the post, I couldn't stop thinking about it. I called Hal on the phone, and then I decided to come home with a microphone.
Starting point is 00:14:36 But interviewing your brother is kind of weird. What is your job? Cultural resource support worker. What kind of tobacco do you smoke? It's a blend. Are you going to quit? Do you think you'll stay here? I don't know.
Starting point is 00:14:52 I think... The truth is, I haven't spent that much time with Hal. I'm 12 years older than him. We didn't grow up together because we have different moms, and it feels like we had different dads, too. Like dad and I were pretty close. So, like, I was always, like, kind of by his hip and, like, we spend so much time together.
Starting point is 00:15:16 So I remember lots of, like, doing things with him and, like, him taking me, go sweetgrass picking and, you know, things like that. Like, I remember, like, just having heart to hearts with late dad. The way Hal talks about our dad feels foreign to me. I sometimes feel a little uncomfortable even calling him dad, not just because I didn't spend much time with him, but because the man I remember didn't feel like a dad. I only have a few memories of him from when I was a kid,
Starting point is 00:15:51 and I don't think any of them are good. Some are hazy impressions of his presence, of what it felt like to be near him. Like I can picture him sitting in a velour armchair, one that swivels or rocks. He's watching TV and eating radishes out of the bag, his jaw muscles clenching with every bite. I remember how tense I felt. How small and quiet I tried to make myself when he was around,
Starting point is 00:16:20 how I tried to avoid whatever it was that would set him off. There are also memories that are very clear. Most of them are at night. when I'd be woken up by his bursts of anger, the sounds of his violence filling the house, filling my head. I remember flashes, running away from him, me and my mom dipping into alleys, hiding from him trying to get to the safety of a relative's house.
Starting point is 00:16:49 So when he and my mom split up when I was seven, it was a relief. It was like we escaped. And as an adult, I didn't see my dad very often. When I did, I could see that he had changed, that he was a different father to my younger brothers and sisters, but I was cautious. Whenever I saw my dad, he would tell me that he loved me,
Starting point is 00:17:11 but we never talked on the phone, and we only saw each other once every few years. My memories of him from my childhood were enough to make me want to keep my distance. And I've kept that distance from my dad. But there's something about the story of him pulling over the priest that feels like a clue, one that could help me figure out
Starting point is 00:17:32 why he was the way he was. Yeah, I don't know, actually, I don't know how the conversation came about, but I remember we were driving, and then he started talking about how he saw a vehicle driving on the highway and it was kind of swerving, so he figured that they were impaired. Howell says it was about 10 years ago
Starting point is 00:17:52 that my dad told him the story. So he went to, he pulled him over, And when he walked up to the window, asked for their identification or driver's license, he recognized him as being one of the priests that, and he said, one of the priests that abused me in residential school. He ended up, like, taking them out of the vehicle and beating the shit out of him. In that moment, I guess he just didn't care what the consequences were. And what did he say happened? He thought for sure there would be a call to his commanding officer,
Starting point is 00:18:32 and that would be the end of his career. But there was no call or anything came in. What was his mood when he was telling you that? Like no regrets, no remorse for what he had done. And this was an instance where justice was taken into our own hands. I felt just like pride, almost like I wanted to like a warrior cry, I could feel like that that pride. I can understand why Hal feels pride when he thinks of that story, but that's not what I felt. I felt sick because immediately I thought of my dad as the boy he was at residential school.
Starting point is 00:19:22 Did you get a sense of what kind of abuse he endured? He shared about, like, he did, like, experience, like, sexual abuse. That was my fear when I read House Post, when I first heard it was a priest my dad pulled over. I knew my dad went to a residential school, but I never thought about what it was like for him, which is surprising, given the amount of time I've spent reporting on what happened to children there. They were called schools, but the focus wasn't really education. They were funded by the federal government and most were run by the Catholic Church. It was a perfect union.
Starting point is 00:20:05 The government wanted to quell indigenous resistance and continue its colonization of Canada, and the church was eager to indoctrinate as many indigenous children as it could. Residential schools became machines of assimilation. They separated indigenous kids as young as four years old from their families and communities to get rid of the Indian problem, to strip away our culture, our language, our very identities. There were more than 100 schools that operated for over 100 years. Generations and generations of kids were forced to go.
Starting point is 00:20:43 There were at least 20 residential schools in Saskatchewan alone. One of them was the St. Michael's Indian residential school in Duck Lake. I think that's where my dad first crossed paths with the priest who abused him. I drove past it on my way to Hal's house. It was a big red brick building, three or four stories high. It always looked to me like an abandoned hospital, like something out of a horror movie. St. Michael's was one of the last schools to close in 1996. And then the truth about residential schools began trickling out,
Starting point is 00:21:18 about the rampant neglect and abuse that happened inside. school walls. Abuse often inflicted by the priests and nuns who ran them. Very few were ever held responsible. In 2008, Canada established a Truth in Reconciliation Commission. Thousands of residential school survivors testified about the physical and sexual abuse they endured, and other horrific discoveries came to light. At some schools, nutritional experiments were carried out on children. One school used a homemade electric chair as a form of punishment. The Truth and Reconciliation Commission found that what happened in residential school
Starting point is 00:22:00 was cultural genocide. And last spring, ground penetrating radar found what are believed to be the remains of 215 children on the grounds of the Kamloops Indian residential school in British Columbia. It made international news, and it seemed like people were finally starting to pay attention to what survivors have been saying
Starting point is 00:22:21 for decades. It's been said that there's not a single indigenous person in Canada who's not been touched by the legacy of residential schools. And I know that's true. I felt it the moment I heard it. But I've never connected the dots in my own family. I've done this reporting for years, but when it comes to individual schools like St. Michael's and individual stories like my dads, there's still so much that's unknown. It's like the biggest open secret, that we just don't talk about. But my brother Hal saw how residential school haunted our dad throughout his life. He told me it came up in unexpected ways that even the most mundane things would remind him.
Starting point is 00:23:10 I remember we started walking up steps and there was like that black metal or that cage kind of step. Yeah, and it kind of like echoes when he step on it. I got to the top and I was going to open the door. and I looked back and he was like at this top step and he was like he had the railing and he was like kind of like hunched over and like looking down like focusing on something
Starting point is 00:23:35 and then he kind of gathered himself and he went in but then on the way home he told me that that was a trigger for him because that was the same stairs that they had at the residential school so when he heard it he brought him back because it reminded him that he was going back in there
Starting point is 00:23:51 and I was like holy fuck just to imagine what is up stairs what that did to him. Learning that what happened to my dad at residential school followed him, his whole life, learning that he was sexually abused by a priest. I can't unhear it. I can't ignore it.
Starting point is 00:24:15 I tried. But now I'm here, sitting with my brother Hal at my dad's old house, feeling like I need to understand how the father I remember was impacted by the priest who abused him. Did he tell you who the priest was or anything about him?
Starting point is 00:24:31 No, he didn't, no. Or maybe he did. I just didn't, like, remember the name, but no. I, yeah, I've only just created this image in my head of what this person looks like. What do you imagine he looks like?
Starting point is 00:24:48 He's in black and white. Like, I don't even see a complexion. It's just, like, this black and white film, but he just has this, like, dark rim glasses. Very pale. White hair. There's like really big intense eyes. Like you see people who have like just hate in their eyes like that.
Starting point is 00:25:20 Now that's how I imagined the priest too. One of the last times I visited my dad was when I brought my six-week-old daughter home to meet my family. There's a photograph from that visit that I love. My dad's smiling with his mouth open and looking up at me. while cradling my daughter in his arms. His hair is black, but starting to gray on the sides. He looks strong and healthy.
Starting point is 00:26:02 Eight months later, he was diagnosed with incurable lung cancer, and we came home to see him again. By then, he'd already lost a lot of weight. I remember he was very sick, but he sat up with us at the kitchen table and held my girl in his lap. By February, he was in the hospital. and we were called in to say goodbye.
Starting point is 00:26:25 He was only 58 when he died. I saw him three times that year. It was the most I'd seen him since I was a kid. I had always imagined that at some point in my life, I would take the time to get to know my dad, to talk to him, to reconnect. When he died, I thought I lost that chance. And I came to accept that my understanding of him
Starting point is 00:26:49 and our relationship was going to stay the way. way we left it. But now it feels like a door has been cracked open, like there might be a chance to write a new story for me and my dad. I feel like the answers are here for me if I want them, but I know unearthing this story will also unearth a lot of painful memories, not just for me, but for my family. I need their help to find out more about what happened to my dad, and I kind of feel like I need their permission. Is that your garden? Oh, nice. What are you growing? In the box here, I have beets.
Starting point is 00:27:35 Oh, wow. What are you going to do with your beets? I want to can them. I love candy. After leaving Hells, I drive over to my Auntie Ivy's house in the reserve. My dad was one of 15 Cameron kids. My Auntie Ivy is one of the younger siblings, but she's become sort of a family caretaker, the one everyone turns to when they need help. She takes me over to her gazebo where there's a table and chairs set up. Can I have some of this too?
Starting point is 00:28:04 Yeah. Awesome. There's tea, the coffee and the thermos there, the tea pot. A few minutes later, my auntie Leona arrives with her grandkids. Hi, how are you? My auntie Leona lives just across the road and must have heard we were having a visit. My aunties look alike. They both have big smiles and long, long, dark hair. My Auntie Ivy keeps hers in a braid, but my Auntie Leona's is held up by a barrette and flows down her back.
Starting point is 00:28:36 Yeah, our hair is annoying us. I can't have my hair down. It drives me insane. And I can't have my hair up like that. I mean... In a braid even? No? It just drives me nuts.
Starting point is 00:28:47 That's the only way people can tell us apart. My Auntie Ivy's house was built behind another house that I remember well, my Cook-A-Mary's house, my dad's mom. We lived with my Cook-A-Merry for a while. when I was little. The yard where the grandkids are playing now is the same one that I played in, and the same one that my dad played in when he was a kid. I remember the one time,
Starting point is 00:29:09 I don't know what the heck was going on, but anyway, there was an argument. Somebody was standing on the porch, or on the steps. Right here at this house. At this house. My Auntie Ivy tells me about a time when my dad and my uncle Ernie got into an argument.
Starting point is 00:29:25 And Ernie grabbed the mop that was sitting in water to slap this person with them. Your dad grabs a gun, and Ernie is running zigzag down the road. So he wouldn't get trapped. The ability to laugh about things that are dark is a gift that all Kri people seem to have, especially in my family. We're talking about my dad as a boy taking a gun and shooting at his brother, my uncle Ernie.
Starting point is 00:29:54 He's the uncle I used to stay with when I came home. He's my godfather, and in some ways I was closer to him than to my dad. My uncle Ernie died last year, also of lung cancer. My aunties say that he and my dad were a lot alike. They were a few years apart in residential school, and after school, they both joined the Royal Canadian Mounted Police. I don't know much about that period in my dad's life, other than it was around the time I was born.
Starting point is 00:30:23 Do you know why my dad joined the RCMP? No, I think he just, they were doing a recruiting thing. A few years ago, the RCMP tweeted out a photo from its archives. It was of my dad. It was jarring to scroll past a picture of him in my Twitter feed, but I instantly recognized him. In the photo, he looks just like my little brother. He's standing next to an old police car in his uniform.
Starting point is 00:30:50 He has one hand on his hip, and he's looking very serious. His eyes are narrowed, and his jaw must be. are clenched. I retweeted the picture and a bunch of people responded with questions. Like, when was the photo taken? Where was he stationed?
Starting point is 00:31:06 Which division was he in? I couldn't answer any of them. And now when I look at it, I have my own questions. Like was this taken before or after he beat up the priest? Did you guys see howl's status about my dad when he was an officer?
Starting point is 00:31:22 And he pulled over a priest from residential school? He told me the story, but not at the time. Yeah. Yeah. What did he say about it? Well, he just was kind of proud of himself because of what he did. I could just see him kind of has laughed.
Starting point is 00:31:41 I don't really remember that total story, though. Telling that story is a big smile. Did he ever say who it was, which priest? No, I don't remember the priest. My brothers. Yeah, they didn't really talk about things that happened. Like, even to this day, they don't talk about what happened to them at residential school. They just don't want to talk about it.
Starting point is 00:32:07 I can understand that feeling of not wanting to talk about painful memories from your childhood because for a long time, I didn't want to talk about the memories I have of my dad. I think in part because I'm still dealing with them. I still sometimes have dreams of being chased, of trying to get away. from some imminent danger. I wake up with my heart racing and fear and adrenaline coursing through my body.
Starting point is 00:32:40 Despite the lingering effects of his anger on my life, I've never fully understood where that came from in him. But it seems like having a microphone is giving us all permission to talk about things we've never talked about before.
Starting point is 00:32:56 I remember my dad drinking when I was a kid and that he was very He was mean. Abusive. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, very short temper.
Starting point is 00:33:08 Yeah. You had to be very careful of what you said or did because, yeah, he would fly off the handle like that, you know? Yeah, even when he was sober, I think, yeah. Yeah. Like, my kids don't know what we went through. Mm-hmm. And they need to be educated. I don't know how they're going to get it.
Starting point is 00:33:28 I don't know how. What's going to be the outcome? But I think that's our error as parents. Because that's what we were taught. I never told them anything about residential school. All of my dad's brothers and sisters went to the St. Michael's Indian residential school. This is the first time I've heard any of them talk about it. And I think that's where we went from.
Starting point is 00:33:58 What we suffered, they don't know about it. And what we had to endure, that wasn't ours, they don't know about it. So stuff like that, you just try and bury, just to not think about it on, like, to affect your life. Yeah. But the thing about trauma is that it doesn't often stay buried. It keeps popping up. And one of the ways to heal is to talk about it. It's the trauma that caused a lot of heartache.
Starting point is 00:34:32 Yeah. And they always wonder why. Well, now you know. Bye, so nice to see you. Yeah. Good night. I should let you guys go inside. It's getting cold out.
Starting point is 00:34:45 No, no, I'm good. Okay. Are you cold? No, I'm okay. I'm all right. The kids all go inside, and I know I should let my aunties go in, too, but I don't want to leave.
Starting point is 00:34:56 Learning the story from Hal and hearing my aunties talk about my dad is helping me realize that his life went beyond my bad memories, that there's more to his story. He had to find that and he had to work on it and to become who he was. Because he was very humble at the end. Like not the mean Howard that I knew growing up. He was very gentle, especially with the kids.
Starting point is 00:35:24 Like, I couldn't believe that. amount of patience he had with the kids, and I said, what? That's not the Howard that I grew up with. I'm soaking up every story, every insight my aunties are giving me, talking and laughing and crying with them as the light fades to black. I'm starting to see what I've been missing. My dad, my family, this place. And I'm going to find out that what happened to us
Starting point is 00:35:55 is part of a far bigger story than I realize. It's pitch black when I finally leave my auntie's house and get into my car to drive the hour back to my hotel in Saskatoon. Oh my God, okay, it is 1041. I got to my Auntie I at 6.45, I think, so I was there for like four hours. It was just so hard to describe how I'm feeling because it's such a mixture of emotions. And that I like it feels amazing on one hand because I feel like I'm remembering a part of myself with every conversation. In talking with them, it feels familiar. And then also obviously the people that were talking about like my dad, my coca mary.
Starting point is 00:36:53 You know, like those were people that I spent a lot of time with. and I was closer to, but that who I then really kind of lost when I was seven and we left here. And so it feels so good to kind of be reminded of them and reconnect with them all in a way. But then it's also just so sad because my dad passed away. and the only way I can get to know him now is through these interviews and these conversations with people who knew him better than I did. My dad was stolen from me
Starting point is 00:37:49 because his childhood was stolen from him by residential school, but also by a man in a black robe. Their lives first intersected at residential school when my dad was a boy and the priest a grown man. And then they collided again years later, one night on the side of a dark road in Saskatchewan. My dad's life was cut short when he passed away in 2013.
Starting point is 00:38:18 But what happened to this priest? Who was he? And can I find him? This season on Stolen, surviving St. Michael's. I was so used to getting up in the morning, running outside, playing with my dog, go and visit my grandparents, and all that was taken away. Did you understand any English when you arrived? Nothing at all, Connie. Nothing.
Starting point is 00:38:49 They wanted to kill the Indian in me. They sure did. He's the one that said he was sexually abused by a priest. Did he say which priest? I said, you know what, Father, I'll tell you something. I tracked you down. What is this? It looks like there are photos of boys and dressing. You sometimes lie?
Starting point is 00:39:12 Are you lying to me now? Bolin Surviving St. Michael's is a Gimlet Media and Spotify original production. The show is hosted and reported by me, Connie Walker. Additional reporting by Betty Ann Adam. Reporting and producing by Shantelle Belichard, Max Green, and Anya Schultz. Our supervising producer is Ellen Frankman. Our editor is Devin Taylor. Our consulting editor is Heather Evans.
Starting point is 00:39:47 Additional editorial support from Lydia Polgreen, Rahan Hermansi, Jonathan Goldstein, and Saeed Tijan Thomas. Fact-checking by Naomi Barr. Original music by Emma Munger, Chris Dirksen, and Raymond Cameron. Scoring, sound design, and mixing by Emma Munger. Music supervision by Liz Fulton.
Starting point is 00:40:08 Legal support from Iris Fisher, Natalie Russell, Whitney Potter, and Rachel Stry. If you have information that you'd like to share about St. Michael's Indian residential school in Duck Lake, Saskatchewan, you can write to us at Stolen at Spotify.com. If you're a survivor or intergenerational survivor of Canada's residential school system, and you need help, there's a 24-hour support line you can call. 1-866-925-4419. And if you or someone you know is dealing with physical or sexual violence,
Starting point is 00:40:44 you can find resources in your area by going to Spotify.com slash stolen. Thank you for listening.

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