REWILD + FREE - 29. THE STORY WHERE YOU AND I MEET: A LETTER FROM ME TO YOU

Episode Date: October 16, 2023

In this episode, I read to you an open letter I wrote for future clients. This includes the long story short of how I got to where I am today, and how I envision our stories potentially colliding All my love, ♡ Nicole P.S - If you’re curious about my private coaching packages, click here Support the showConnect with Nicole on IG (@nicolepasveer) Want to be a guest on the podcast? Fill out this form

You're listening to Rewild and Free. This is the go-to podcast for conscious and holistic mother entrepreneurs who are ditching society's to-do list for intentional living, freedom, and abundance, while creating impact and legacy in their home and business. If we haven't met yet, I'm Nicole Pasvir, your like-hearted mom friend and biz bestie wrapped in one. I'm an ex-nurse turned matrescence guide and business coach, leading women just like you into the new paradigm, where thriving in motherhood is your birthright and so is a successful and sustainable online business keep listening if you're ready to unsubscribe from patriarchal motherhood bro marketing and boss babe culture because in this space we use nature as our framework as we move

towards feminine embodied business development cyclical orientation and slow living together let's rewild and remember as we break free from survival and reconnect to what truly matters. Okay friend, steep your tea and take the most loving breath you've given to yourself today and let's go. Hey friend, get cozy and get comfy. I have a story to tell you and make sure to listen to this whole thing because you're in it too. It starts back in 1994 when I was born, but let's skip the tape to 2017. I remember driving to work one day thinking, I'm married to my high school sweetheart, we've bought our first home, we have the best dog in the world named Crosby, I'm literally en route to my dream job, so why am I so unhappy? And now I know, all those things were on society's to-do list.

They were things that I was promised would equal happiness and success. There wasn't anything wrong with me. I was just a victim to patriarchal conditioning and on this hamster wheel of never feeling content. Let's fast forward a few more years after an injury leaving me off work for months, a global dumpster fire, aka the pandemic, and a baby born in the middle of my living room. That's when I finally found joy, and spoiler, I got to keep the husband and the dog. Being pregnant during COVID ended up being a blessing. The nonsense hospital policies put in place ended up being the kick in the butt I needed to prepare for the dreamy home

water birth I wanted but didn't think I should attempt as a first-time mom. Yeah, I'm that lucky bee that had an empowering first-time birth, on paper at least. Off paper, I was truly incredibly shaken up, scared of my own power. I remember saying, if I can do that, what else can I do? I now understand. There's a frog in my throat. But I now understand it wasn't my power that I was scared of. It was being in my body. I had never felt as alive as I felt that day. A couple months into my maternity leave, it became clear that there was no way in hell I was going back to my job as a nurse. Motherhood unraveled me. It ripped me open and gave me clarity to see what mattered in my life. I could see how I was living a life out of obligation instead of desire,

trying to impress or meet the needs of everyone except the most important person, myself. Motherhood quickly taught me that if I don't take care of myself, I won't be able to show up as the mom I want to be for my daughter. This included learning how to deeply nourish myself so I could continue breastfeeding for two plus years, finding ways to regulate my nervous system so I could co-regulate hers, softening, being curious, finding safety to play, and seeking out pleasure, honoring my body through its cycles so I can model to my daughter that menstruation isn't something to dread, and the list gets bigger every day. The story isn't over. In fact, I haven't even gotten to the best part where you and I meet. One of the most important pieces of my story was deciding to retire from

nursing and pursue my new yet not so unexpected passion in birth work. I wanted everyone to experience the transformation and wake up call I, and I naively thought that coaching women through pregnancy and birth would achieve that. And so I completed an incredible doula training program only to pivot careers again less than a year later after learning a few powerful lessons related to business development. I'll save that for another day. Looking back now, it all makes sense. I was following the breadcrumbs that energized and inspired me. The doula training program was never for me to support women birthing babies. It was so I could hold women through the birth or rebirth of their business creation. Okay, this is the good

part. This is where you come into my story. I now help women just like you wanting to make sense of their identity, detach from conditioning that's keeping them pretty, perfect and pleasing and build impact and legacy in their community and home. If I haven't said it yet, mom is my favorite title and online business creation truly lights my soul on fire. Society says that you have to pick one, yet I refuse to compromise on either. Entering motherhood gave me the opportunity to finally come home to myself, to reconnect with my body and my intuition. My own matrescence has been a massive catalyst into personal discovery, and I'm in the process of some sort of spiritual awakening. I consider myself a witch making her way out of the closet. I'm building an impactful business

that fits inside my dream life, instead of hustling hard just trying to create that life. And mothering still remains my number one priority. My journey to get here included a lot of darkness inside at work and becoming comfortable with the uncomfortable. So a lot of cups of tea, donuts and cake. But now I'm here to hold the flashlight and your virtual hand while you pave your path. And with that, I'm so glad you're here. I'm so thrilled to get to share this space with you and to get to know you at a deeper level. If you're curious about how to work with me as me as your coach, I'm going to drop all the

links you need in the show notes. Okay, before you go, I just wanted to say thank you for taking the time to listen to this episode. If you were thinking of anyone while listening please send it their way and if anything resonated with you or you love these conversations please subscribe and leave a review this really helps the podcast algorithms put my show in front of more people just like you and the last thing I would love nothing more than hearing from you so say hi dm me on instagram and give me a follow at nicolepasvir until next time