REWILD + FREE - Simplifying Nervous System Nourishment: A Peek Inside The Reset Room (87)

Episode Date: July 24, 2025

In a world full of nervous system hacks and performance-driven healing…this is something different.In this short episode, I’m sharing what actually happens inside The Reset Room — my free 15-minute Zoom drop-in designed to nourish your nervous system without pushing, fixing, or bypassing your body's innate wisdom Because the truth is, most of us are over complicating our nervous system hygiene. It gets to be simple. In fact, it HAS to be more simple to be more sustainable and actually create long lasting transformation. Your nervous system is craving it! ✨ Join The Reset Room (Free):www.nicolepasveer.com/resetroom

just finished up leading a 15 minute drop in on Zoom. It's my reset room. And so my intention with the reset room is a super simple, gently guided 15 minute drop in for nervous system nourishment. And for me, I was finding that I was dramatically over-complicating the way I was trying to support my nervous system.

I was over-efforting and making it seem like this big to-do list. And the things that I was putting on my to-do list, even if they weren't that complex, because they were just something to cross off the list, I was intellectualizing them instead of actually embodying them and letting the somatic practice be somatic because that's the thing. If we're not actually feeling into the body's felt experience during the thing, during the practice or while we're using a certain tool, then we're not actually... that's not the purpose. The purpose is to connect to the body and to ultimately be like a radical non-judgmental compassionate witness to

to our nervous system because our nervous system is doing such an incredible job. There's so much wisdom that it holds and we, our egos, our minds completely hijack it and try to control it and even this idea of regulation kind of has been misleading because it gives us this sense that we have more control over shifting our nervous system states and I don't actually think that is true. Like I think it's our nervous system that shifts its state and so what we need to do our job as like the human is to create and show our nervous system safety. And when our nervous system is feeling safe,

then it can shift itself, right? This idea of a regulated nervous system regulates itself. And so a dysregulated nervous system needs tending and support and witnessing. So our job as the human, as the human meat suit that we are is truly just to be a witness and a space holder for our nervous system. And so the idea with the Reset Room is me guiding

you through a very very simple gentle practice and it looks slightly different every session but I'm kind of following a mini framework where I'm guiding you to first orient yourself to your physical environment. That is such a simple tool. And again, this is a tool, right? But the whole point is like, we're not just doing this to cross off. We're doing it as a chance to actually feel into into our bodies. And so we start by orienting ourselves to our environment, to our location, to the external weather, to whatever day we are in

our menstrual cycle, maybe to the lunar, whatever moon we're nearest to, to the date, to the time, to the people on screen with us. We start with that. And then we begin to bring our attention inwards and we allow breath to kind of be the anchor of this experience and I very intentionally use the word allow because this isn't breath work this isn't about taking a breath and forcing your body to do something that it's not naturally wanting to do this is about allowing breath and honestly getting out of the way for breath to just be.

And so we start allowing breath in, we start bringing our attention inwards, and then we start orienting to our inner landscape. And so this might include just kind of doing a little audit of your own energy level, feeling into any sensations in the body that are pinging to you. Sometimes you might be feeling numb, and so we start by just noticing any texture, sensations, temperatures, weights of clothing on your skin. Noticing the potential texture of the chair, the blanket that you're around, having your feet on the ground, starting there and then moving inwards and allowing our body to ping our attention.

And often this starts with like tension, so potentially noticing where tension is in the body, noticing temperature, noticing like what feels good and what doesn't feel good. And again, this gets to be intuitive and led by you. I'm just holding the container to gently guide you to do this and get more comfortable with how simple this gets to be. And also like how quickly it gets to be. This isn't about like drawing out a process just because you think you should do it.

I went through a season of, while I was in my breath work facilitator training, they were running a challenge of doing, I think it was like six or seven or eight minutes, it was something short, let's call it eight minutes of breath work every day and that sounded doable. I made the intention to really devote myself to it and very quickly I found that I was just treating it as something to cross off my to-do list and so it wasn't actually

something that I was embodying. I was basically forcing my body to do these breath patterns and obviously I'm sure there was some benefit to it because breathing is really really powerful but mentally the intention wasn't clean. Mentally it was like if I do this then I'm going to get a prize at the end. And that shouldn't be the point of the practices that we're doing to support our nervous system. That's not the kind of relationship I want to have with my nervous system at least. And so I actually took a step back from that

and really breath work in general, I've really had to recalibrate what my intention is when I'm using a tool like breath work, because I don't believe that it's actually beneficial and supportive to our nervous systems if we're constantly chasing a big breakthrough, if we're constantly putting a timer on something that we're doing. Like again, then we're not actually letting our body lead. We're not actually listening to the communication of our systems.

We're kind of adding some rigidity to it of like our human ego saying, well, I need to do this because it's quote unquote good for me. Story for another day is how I've been really challenging my belief sets on what's poison and what's medicine. And it really is interesting when you begin considering that every single thing can be both. And so I've been challenging the things that I believe so I've been challenging the things that I believe are medicine and also challenging the things that I believe are poison and really beginning to neutralize those things.

Different story for a different day. But my point here is with the reset room, it gets to be simple. It's gently guided. And the session I just did this morning, we talked about how after just that the body doubling aspect of it is really powerful too, because I think so many times, we talked about how after just that the body doubling aspect of it is really powerful too because I think so many times like we can do these practices on our own

and my intention is that by coming to the reset room you feel confident and reminded of how simple it gets to be that you do start doing these practices when you're driving in the car or when you're brushing your teeth or when you're cooking dinner, right? It doesn't have to be really aesthetic like you're on a meditation pillow in a candle's light, it doesn't have to be that complicated. But anyways, we were talking about the body doubling aspect and I was reflecting back how yeah, like we can say that we want to do these things but it can be really hard to do them and I think there's something really special and potent about being in the energy of somebody else. It creates that container. It's like the energy then gets to be held. And then there's the co-regulation that happens with

it. And so again, that's something that the reset room gets to offer you gets to be that 15 minute container. And that container creates edges for your nervous system to feel safe. The entire point is always coming back to safety. How can we show our nervous system safety? Because again, a regulated nervous system can regulate itself. So when our goal is to anchor into safety, to show our system safety, then it can do the shifting for us. We don't have to do the shifting. So yeah, anyways anyways the kind of flow that I bring you through like I said it starts with the orientation both externally and

internally then we start to allow breath to come through. It's not about taking a breath like I said it's not about breath work it's about just allowing breath and getting out of the way for breath to come in and then we do a gentle scan of the sensations in our body. You can call this a body scan if you want. It looks a little bit different each session, but the point is to just really slow down and bring attention to all the corners and crevices of our body.

Like when was the last time you gave any attention to your fingers and your toes? When was the last time you gave any attention to your ears? Ears in particular, it's so interesting. There is, I'm doing it right now, and you can do it with me. cross your arms over so that your left hand is on your right ear and your right hand is on your left ear and just begin gently like playing with and like caressing and rubbing your earlobes and playing around with bending your

ears and stretching your ears and just gently massaging them and just notice. Do you like it? I like it. I'm gonna guess that you surprisingly like it too. Again, this can be a really powerful tool and practice to lean on where the combination of crossing your arms, that bilateral, whatever it's called, and then also we have tons of nerve points on our ears and that gentle touch, that gentle stretching, just really that attention can be really soothing for our system. And yeah, I'm really enjoying this.

And I find myself, like I don't know if you've ever found yourself, I'll be like driving and I'll just be playing with an earlobe. But it's just really interesting how we're naturally already doing a lot of these tools. But again, the point isn't to just do the tool to cross off your to-do list. The point is to do the tool and use the tool as kind of a gateway into your system, into your body, right? That's how we deepen the connection, that's how we create that felt sense of safety. Safety happens in witnessing. Think about like a child-parent dynamic. You feel safe as a child when you know there's people around you taking care of you, looking after you. Think of it in like a partner dynamic, like you feel safe when you're with somebody else. We as humans are supposed to be with other humans.

We're not supposed to be in isolation. And really the entire world, the culture that we live in, really promotes isolation and independence. And so this is counter-cultural, but we also get to be kind of that witness, that relation to ourselves. Anyways. Yeah, the reset room. room simple under 15 minutes, slightly different

every session. And then yeah, so we do the scan of the body, we're allowing breath in, then we kind of do another check in of what's my experience right now. And then from there, I invite you really throughout I'm inviting you to bring in any intuitive touch, any intuitive movement, and really just begin following your body's natural urges because there's power there too. And yeah, that's it, it gets to be that simple.

So I'm leading these reset rooms almost weekly. They're free. There's no recording, you need to come live, it's a full point. You can come camera on or off, you don't even have to be completely distraction free. I think this would be really fun to play around with if you're cooking or even if you're driving. Like if it's obviously I trust you, if it's not safe to close your eyes, don't. But there's so many things we can still do while we're driving or while we're out for a walk or while we're folding laundry. So yeah, come try it out. Come feel what it's like. And then this also,

like I said, just gives you the confidence to begin practicing these tools and the reminder that it doesn't have to be so complicated. So sign up to get notifications. And then obviously, I send emails out and I usually post on my Instagram stories too but who can trust the algorithm? So I definitely recommend you make sure you're on my email list so you get those notifications. And tell a friend! It's nice to share this work with other people so bring a friend to the reset room.