REWILD + FREE - The Trees Were Laughing at Me: Lessons from the Forest About Consistency as a Colonized Fantasy (89)

Episode Date: September 5, 2025

Today’s quickie episode is basically me getting roasted by the trees on my afternoon walk. The forest had a lot to say about us “silly humans” and our obsession with consistency, predictability, and control, and let’s just say, the trees aren’t wrong. It’s colonized bullsh*t. And honestly? We deserve to be laughed at, because we’re over here over-complicating and over-efforting all damn day long.This one is equal parts truth bomb, reflection, and reminder that comparison and linear growth are manmade illusions. Nature’s calling us back to cyclical wisdom... come listen in...As always, I'd love to hear what stirs or lands for you in this conversation. Send me an unscripted voice note on IG (@nicolepasveer) and let me know! LINKS: All current offerings can be found here:  https://www.nicolepasveer.com/servicesLet's be Pen Pals! Join my email list: https://nicolepasveer.kit.com/penpals  

You're listening to ReWild and Free. This is the go-to podcast for conscious and holistic entrepreneurs who are ditching society's to-do list for intentional living, freedom, and abundance. If we haven't met yet, I'm Nicole Pasvier. I'm an ex-nurice, turn matressence guide, and business coach, leading women just like you into the new paradigm. Keep listening if you're ready to unsubscribe from patriarchal motherhood, bro-marketing, and boss-babe culture.

Because in this space, we use nature as our framework as we move towards feminine embodied business development, cyclical orientation, and slow living. Together, let's rewild and remember as we break free from survival and reconnect to what truly matters. Okay, friend, steep your tea and take the most loving breath you've given to yourself today, and let's go. Hello, you are listening to rewild and free. Obviously, the intro would have just played, so I don't need to repeat that intro again. Oh my God. The start of these things always just feel so awkward. I have like all these amazing ideas in my head and then I kind of watch myself start scripting them and I I hate scripting a podcast episode. Like I don't actually script them. I barely even have like bullet points. It's just

an inspiration in my head and then I give myself the permission to basically record and word vomit whatever is flowing from that inspiration. But yeah, before hitting me, record on this one, I found myself kind of scripting in my mind, like, oh, how am I going to start this? Where am I actually leading this to? And it's funny, as I learn more and more about my own neurodivergence and, like, the autisticness, that scripting makes a lot of sense. And I, I catch myself doing it a lot. Anyways, I wanted to come on because I just came back from a walk and the trees were talking to me, y'all. I mean, they actually weren't talking. They were were laughing at me. They were laughing at me. They were laughing at us. They kept, you know,

the message I was getting from them with their kind of like snarky chuckle. It's like you humans, you silly, silly humans. You keep striving for this idea of consistency and they're like, just look at us. Like there's no such thing as consistency. And as I was walking, I was just really struck by how different the landscape of the path that I was on was compared to the last time I was on it. And this is a local, this is like a provincial park. It's like a full fucking forest. That's five minutes from my house. I walk this area quite often.

And it really is striking to witness the seasonal changes. And I mean, we had a lot of rain in August, unseasonable amounts of rain. And you can tell that there's been erosion and there's just been a change in. the landscape because of Mother Nature. And so as I'm walking, I'm, yeah, literally just blown away by how different it looks, even though this is such a familiar path. And the path shape and formation was literally different. It's like a dirt trail. And also I'm noticing that the leaves are starting to fall and the leaves are a different color and, you know, some branches are already dead and I'm just noticing that things look different. And reflecting on how, you know, a couple months ago, like

early spring, even end of winter, things were so bare and you could see through places that like I can't see through anymore. And anyways, the trees were laughing at me. They were like, yeah, you silly humans. Like consistency isn't real. Stop trying to achieve consistency. And I just had to kind of, you know, like surrender and make peace with that truth bomb. And like, we know this, right? We keep at least, I think like if you're hanging out in the space with me, like you have already been practicing trying to unlearn the colonized version of consistency and, you know, this linear idea of growth and you've likely already been softening into a more cyclical, embodied way of being. But if you're anything like me, that that kind of like elevator hum to still have

consistency and like predictability is still always there. And I get it because there's a perceived sense of safety with it and also like it's not real like I think the sooner we can really drop that desire for consistency the sooner we will actually like see the change that we're wanting to see it's almost like we are making our own path less efficient because of this grasp for predictability and consistency. Anyways, so the trees were yelling at me to basically, like, stop idealizing this idea of consistency. And then as I continued walking, I came through a path that led me to the river. And the river was also laughing at me. Again, you silly human. You silly human, you are so resistant to change, even though you say you want change. And you are so resistant to the

discomfort of uncertainty and the discomfort of liminality and not knowing what's next and and what the river was really trying to show me is that like the one thing that is consistent is change right and like the water was reminding me that hey we didn't fear that moment upstream where there was a patch of like stagnancy in the water we knew we were going to get through it and we didn't fear when we hit like that little bout of rapid and we don't fear the waterfall and we don't fear the change in pace and like all of that and it just really struck me with how yeah like as humans like we are just making things so much harder with those like idealized versions of how to be a human and I mean the trees are always reminding me about comparison and how just again how fake and like manmade

That is. The trees aren't comparing with one another thinking like, oh, this came through again as I was still walking the path. A wind gust blew and I saw, I don't know the names of trees. It was like an alpine or something. I think it is called an aspen with like the sparkly kind of leaves. It was like fluttering in the wind and then next to it was a pine tree and like obviously its pine needles don't necessarily flutter but the branch was swaying. And again I heard like you silly human like don't compare yourself to others. We're all supposed to react. and respond in different ways. And yeah, I could go on and on, right? This can pull on so many different threads, but I just wanted to share that out loud because there were some really loud messages coming from nature today and sometimes I'm open to listen,

sometimes I'm not. And yeah, I've been in it the past couple weeks and there's been a resistance to even showing up because showing up would require vulnerability, showing up would require me to say, like, I don't know. I don't know what's next for me. I don't know what they want to be when I grow up. And that is such an uncomfortable feeling.

And again, I could kind of tell myself, okay, we'll just press pause and not even show up to this space, but that's not serving anyone. So anyways, here's my little bit of brilliance for today, from the trees, hoping to come on here soon and share more of kind of what I've been working through internally this season, fall, September. coming up to my daughter's birthday, which obviously is a huge anniversary of transformation for me because that marks giving birth to a child and giving birth to a new identity.

And so this season is very introspective for me. And yeah, the start of September this year specifically really feels like some sort of threshold. And I don't necessarily know what's on the other side. And I don't know, just really trusting the river telling me, we don't fear the waterfall coming up. Like, I'm just going to, I'm going to trust that, that fall and that shift that's coming. And yeah, yeah. So, yeah, I don't have anything else for you today. Obviously, if you're not following you on Instagram, you probably should.

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