rSlash - r/AITA Boyfriend Trashed My Pet Gecko

Episode Date: December 6, 2025

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you'll see that your vacation isn't really over until your flight is over. Fly Emirates, fly better. Welcome to R-slash Am I the Butthole, where O.P.'s boyfriend kills her pet. Am I the butthole for breaking up with my boyfriend because he killed my bathroom gecko? I'm a 25-year-old woman, and I was dating Oscar, a 28-year-old guy, almost two years now, and we were talking about moving in together, and he started staying over with me regularly. There was a little gecko I named Onion in my bathroom when I moved in three years ago, and I just gave him some space, and we coexisted just fine. He ate spiders, flies, basically

every annoying bug. When Oscar started coming over, he noticed Onion and said, Gross, do you want me to kill it? I told him that if he ever touched my little onion, that I would break up with him and to just let Onion be. Anyways, a couple of weeks ago, Oscar started to move his things because his lease was up soon, and I didn't mind. He works from home some days, so sometimes he was over at my apartment if his roommates were too loud. I came home from work on Saturday, and Oscar wasn't home. I didn't pay attention, although he was supposed to stay the weekend that I went to take a shower, and I cleaned the bathroom. When I was changing the bag, I noticed something moving, and I freaked out and opened the bag.

And I found my little onion there, without his tail, barely moving. I was so scared that I put him in a shoebox and took him to the vet. The vet said that onion was too weak, and most likely wouldn't survive. The vet gave Onion something for the pain and told me I could hold him if I wanted. Then Onion died two hours later. I was so sad. And obviously, Onion did not get inside the trash can on his own. So I called Oscar and told him not to bother contacting me again,

ever because we were over. Someone who goes out of his way to harm a little animal who's literally just chilling there can't be trusted. He knew why I dumped him and started making excuses. He said that it was an accident, that he didn't see Onion and he stepped on him. But why would Onion be on the floor? Then that Onion probably got inside the bin on his own and died because of the lack of oxygen and moralized that I don't even care about. I changed the coat of my door and put all of his stuff outside the door and blocked him everywhere. Now, people I don't care about are calling me to tell me that I'm dramatic and I can't in my relationship over a gross creature. I honestly didn't care, but my mom told me that I was exaggerating too, and although I won't get back

together with him, I want to know if I'm exaggerating or if I'm justified with breaking up with him. Secretly killing your lover's pet is super disgusting behavior. I mean, randomly killing animals anyways is kind of gross, but on top of that, a loved pet that someone you presumably love cares about, why would anyone want to do that? And the thing is, he didn't actually kill him. He gave the gecko a grievous injury and then just left it to die a slow, painful death. O.P, I'm giving you zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your ex-boyfriend 3.5 out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for asking my sister-in-law what she's doing with her degree after she implied that my university wasn't prestigious enough? Last night, my husband, our two-year-old

daughter and I, were at my in-laws. My sister-in-law, her husband, and kids were there too. The topic of one of their cousins' kids going to university came up. We talked about how going to a good university helps in networking. I mentioned how I had gotten my first business analyst job because my interviewer had also gone to the University of Texas. At this point, my sister-in-law chimed in with University of Texas, Mrs. Saga, right? So, not the actual one? My husband said politely that it's the same thing, and she just shrugged. I asked her where she went, and she said she went to University of Texas and added the St. George campus. I then asked how she's using her degree. I knew that she was a stay-at-home mom, so that's why

I'm here, because it might have been a butthole thing to say. She said that she chose to be a stay-at-home mom, and kind of stopped talking to me. My husband thinks that I was out of line. Admittedly, I didn't think it through when I said it, just said what came to mind. He says her question was tactless, but not malicious. I said that it was rude, and that's what mattered. And the premise of it was just wrong, but I've been reconsidering it. She texted him about how out of line I was. He told her that it was a misunderstanding between everyone and let it go.

Then OP posted a pretty long and dry update, which basically just said they had a phone call, they both apologized, and they cleared the bad air. Which is good because this isn't the type of thing you want to bomb a relationship over, and honestly, O.P. was just returning the same energy. In the phone call, the sister-in-law says she didn't mean it to be insulting, but honestly, I think it was intended to be insulting. So I'm giving the sister-in-law one out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for not firing the cleaning lady because my girlfriend asked me to? I'm a 42-year-old guy, and I have a cleaning lady who comes every other week. She's super hardworking, really nice, and I completely trust her. She comes while I'm at work and I get to come home to a clean house. It's the best feeling. One time, she told me she drank a can of Pepsi from my fridge and even asked if she should pay me back.

I told her that she 100% has my permission to take a break and eat or drink whatever she needs while she's there. Since then, she'll occasionally have a pop, a glass of juice, or once she said she had a piece of toast. She's never helped herself to any meals, snacks, or anything beyond that. My girlfriend, who's 38, was over the other night, and she said that she saw my cleaning lady stealing from the fridge. I told her, she wasn't stealing, lull, she has my permission, and she's definitely not sitting around being lazy, she was taking a break. My girlfriend said it's weird, unprofessional, and that it could lead to boundary crossing. I told her that I've known this woman for two years, and nothing like that has ever happened. My girlfriend thinks I should fire her before it gets worse.

Am I wrong for thinking why change something that's been working perfectly fine? Am I being weird here? Then OP posted an update. I talked to my girlfriend, and she thinks it's weird that my cleaning lady can grab something to eat or drink. She said it'd be better if she brought her own stuff. I'm like, the woman goes to multiple clients a day. She can't be carrying a whole suitcase of snacks on top of a vacuum, mop, and everything else. And it's not like she's raiding my whole fridge, so who cares?

My girlfriend said that it just makes her uncomfortable. Then she asked why I even need a cleaning lady when I live in a two-bedroom, and she told me to just be an adult and clean your own place. She said that I don't need a cleaning lady to mommy me. I was like, she's not mommying me. She's a huge help, and my place looks amazing after she leaves. Then she said that when we move in or get married, the cleaning lady has to go because she doesn't like strangers in her house.

and I need to get off my butt and do my part. I told her, I don't get her logic at all. The cleaning lady doesn't charge much, I can easily afford her, and my house looks great, so what's the issue? She kept going on about how I'm being lazy and acting like a man baby, and that I should act like an adult. I told her, I'm 42, and for my 40th birthday, I hired a cleaning lady as a gift to myself because I want my free time to relax, and I'm not changing that.

I honestly have no effing clue what your problem is. I just don't get it. And she hung up. Whatever, I'm honestly too old for this stuff. I'm going to bed. Then later, the girlfriend texted that she can't waste her time with a lazy man who would rather give full control of her house to a maid instead of getting off his butt to clean the house himself.

I told her best of luck. She told me to go F myself. I'm looking forward to spending the holidays with my son this year in my very clean house. Yeah, I see this as a very adult decision from O.P. O.P. makes adult money, and he wants to spend his adult money on something that makes his life easier. What exactly is the problem here? I think the girlfriend was actually being jealous. It was just, oh, there's a girl close to my man, and I don't like that, so I'm going to turn it

into a fight. O.P., you get zero out of five buttholes. I'm giving your ex-girlfriend one out of five buttholes. Am I the butthole for making my mother-in-law uncomfortable and embarrassed during dinner? We had Thanksgiving today. My husband and I agreed that he wasn't going to invite his mom due to conflicts in the past involving food, where she takes food before everyone, and then takes off with Tupperware or our food without even saying goodbye. And there have been multiple times there wasn't much food left to go around after this. She has food insecurities and hordes food. It's a real problem. But it is not my problem, and it shouldn't be made to be mine either. So I take issue with this, obviously,

because usually it's me going hungry because I'm always the last to eat here. Now, my husband didn't invite his mother, but she caught wind of it somehow and showed up. Neither me nor my husband said anything because we didn't want to cause issue, so no, we did not kick her out. When dinner was done, I called the kids over by saying, kids, food. My mother-in-law immediately jumps up from the couch to get to the front of the line and starts attempting to dig in. I said, I'm sorry, but are you a child? No, then go sit down and wait your turn. Her face goes bright, red, and she goes back to the couch and crosses her arms, mumbling under her breath. When I called the adults, she stayed planted on the couch and said something like, are you sure there's even

enough for me in a childish tone? I didn't react. I chose to ignore. She comes up a little while later, grabs food, wolfs it down her throat, and then goes to our cupboard for Tupperware. I asked her what she thinks she's doing and she said, well, Tom is at home. I figured I would grab him a plate. I told her that her boyfriend that none of us have met is not our problem and she's not taking our leftovers to feed him. She asked if she could take a plate for herself. So I said sure and exchange the Tupperware she grabbed and exchange it for a normal size container that would hold roughly two cans of soup. She asked if I was serious and I said, dead serious and walked off. She throws the Tupperware in my sink and walks out without saying anything. However, she did just call my husband

and gave him an earful about feeling unwelcome during the holidays and stated that I was acting both immature and high and mighty and embarrassed her in front of everyone. And she's demanded I apologize. She was on speaker, so I calmly said that I would not apologize for making her follow the same roles as everyone else, and perhaps her own entitlement to other people's food is the real issue here, that we didn't spend $1,000 for her to take $200 worth of food home, and she needs to take a step back and assess her behavior. She hung up. But now my husband is radio silent, and says he doesn't want to talk about it, and is giving me the cold shoulder. O.P., you aren't the but your husband and mother-in-law definitely are. The fact that you have to fight your mother-in-law

instead of your husband fighting the battle for you, sucks. I have a sneaking suspicion that the way that your mother-in-law caught wind of this meal is because your husband told her. O.P, you get zero out of five buttholes. Your mother-in-law and husband get two out of five buttholes. That was our slash am I the butthole. And if you like this content, be sure to follow my podcast because I put out new Reddit podcast episodes every single day.